Could you do it everyday ?

Ill get to the point. Im 31 and never had a date with any woman because of a deep fear of rejection along with lots of other self esteem and body image issues.  Im a 3 on the looks scale (out of 10) but only want a woman who's a 7+, and I'm prepared to kill myself if i don't meet a woman that meets that criteria by the time I'm 35, after which point the women all turn into ugly prunes and the sex is bad, (i imagine)This is not a threat, i DO NOT  feel owed a hot woman, its just a line in the sand I've drawn for my self. If i cant find the woman i want who accepts me as who i am ( although i am trying to work out and eat better), then id rather kill myself than be alone for ever or lower my standards and settle. Settling is not fair to the woman and not fair to me, and its insulting. I DO NOT HATE HOT/SKINNY WOMEN for not wanting to date me- i understand that no one wants to be with fat and ugly people, not even OTHER fat and ugly people.  Im a beggar who wants to be a chooser, but i do t hold it against anyone.That being said is it wrong that i feel this way? Is it wrong that im willing to kill myself as a fck you to the universe for making me unable to lower my standards? I have never been able to wrap my head around how "personality" can make up for obesity- any real relationship depends greatly on good sex, and you cant have good sex with some one who isn't attractive- i don't understand how personality makes up DO NOT ANSWER if spewing religious bs - i dont believe in gOD

We both come from poor families and truly have limited knowledge of financial literacy. We are college educated and recently married. Prior to marriage, we lived together for a year and had separate accounts and paid bills out of these accounts. Now, I'm seeing how my husband is working a lot because he doesn't have enough money on his own to cover the bills that he agreed on. With my income, I believe he wouldn't have to work as hard. However, he is very firm on wanting to cover his bills with the income he is earning but he sometimes ask me for money when he can't cover a bill. We talked about having an account that we will put money in for bills. He often tells me that he feels ashamed to ask for money from a woman and that he wants me to treat him like a man and let him hustle.  What to do? 

⁉️I just want to get honest opinions from honest Muslims what's do you guys thinks about this:⁉️ So last night my husband came home asking me if I needed help that he wants to hire a nanny to help me at home with the kids and stuff. We did spoke about maybe hiring one for when I am due since am pregnant but am not due until late April. He said maybe you need one starting from now. Then he mention he found a page on Facebook where people post stuff about jobs and needs and stuff and the he will inquire there, but he didn't mention no one in specific.  I mention that the person should know how to drive since the kids have to be drop off at school and cook since when I give birth I won't be able to cook and that it should be someone mature. Since we are still young and I don't want bring any unnecessary issues into my marriage having a young woman in our house.   He also asked me it's $20 per hour too much.  I said yes I can find someone for less than that. I also said maybe for early April for before am due, I told him that now was too soon. We still had a long time to find someone, to forget that.  READ MORE DETAILS...  The next day he comes home telling me he will give her my number. Well apparently he already found one. I said don't give her my number I don't know who's this person is I asked her to let me see the conversation.  Firstly I see it's a young girl, probably in her early 20's. That modern hijabi with the whole makeup and tight jeans package that he criticize yet he did admitted going through her photos " to see who she was"  I wonder if she was in her 50-60 if he was gonna go through her photos Anyhow... Happens to be that he already had message her on Facebook that's same day he told me about her but before he even asked me about it and her rates where $20, as I can see for that conversation.  I also saw that the next day he messaged her again to let her know the details about what I wanted dropping kids off and so on... but did not mention the cooking and cleaning lol...  After I already have told him that $20 was way too much and that I wanted someone older.  He also said maybe we will be needing her starting next month. I said April- it's January so am confused.... He claims he forgot and he was only trying to help that Allah knows his intention was good. I was very clear so I don't know why he don't seem to remember the details from one day to the next.  He had all this conversations with her knowing she wasn't fit for the position.  And without even talking to me first he started conversation with her first.  I feel the right thing to do was, "Look baby I saw this post on Facebook this girl posted she does nanny jobs, contact her and see if she is fit for the position"  Like why go and message another woman behind my back.  He claims he was only trying to help me... please let me know what you guys think... thanks

I've been in a relationship where we argue every single day. Everything is a debate. My boyfriend finds a problem with everything I said. Just the other day we were arguing because I said you're supposed to wash your fruit and he had to debate against on me saying you're not. I'm sick of his ignorance.. I love him but I'm tired of arguing. However my mom and dad are physically and emotionally abusive and I can't go to them for support, advice or a place to stay. I have only a few friends and the friends I do have all live in separate states.. I feel so alone and cry myself to sleep every night. Part of me wants to leave the other part of me still wants to fight for our love and try to see if we can go to a therapist and make it work and the other part of me feels like I'll be even more broken when he leaves.. I grew up in an abusive household and I guess that made me cling to men more than I should have. I craved love so separately. Idk what to do. I feel depressed lonely and like I don't wanna go on anymore... advice

I'm a 34 for soon to be 35-year-old woman in May. I have no male suitors in sight. I don't have any children but I want them. There's no guarantee that I'm going to be married or ever find the one. If I miss out on my opportunity to have children it may devastate me and push me over the edge.

My wife is 6 months pregnant with our first baby she's been feeling sick today. She's had a stuffy nose and coughing with a sore throat. She's taken her medicine she feels a little better. What else can I do to make her feel better ? 

My wife is sick she wants to lay in bed and cuddle all night. Why ?

I want the experience of a big marriage but I also don't want to have a big event with a bunch people who don't support us. I don't want something that's suppose to be a special day ruined by other people's problems.

I have always had an Idea that my husband watches porn. never affected us before. I have told him if he really wants to please ask me to join because it hurts/feels like cheating when he does alone. He used to get super defensive until he saw that this topic was causing me grave depression--Not eating, cant feel happy For a few months my husband went on about other woman more than me. He even put me down a few times. Then I found out he was watching and that his friend at work is a guy who regularly pulls up women. I felt this was related to how he was treating me and it hurt even more. I finally confronted him and he lashed out for a while until seeing me lose a ton of weight and not eat my dinner because I was too depressed. His use has gone down, I think (He says he didn't use it much to begin with) He stopped talking about other women and started raising me up, our sex life returned. He has been great to me since. But I just caught him watching again without me and when I asked about it he lied even though I said "Its okay, i just want to know so I can learn you." BUT I genuinely believe watching other nude people for sexual pleasure without your partner is emotionally unfaithful. Would it be unreasonable to ask him to tell me so I can know him better? Why would he lie if I told him i wouldn't get upset this time and just want to know about him? How do I handle this? Girls? How did you overcome your problem against porn? LOOK! I only posted for help from real women about how to overcome these feelings without ruining my marriage.  DO NOT answer just to judge I also Mentioned it never Bothered me until he started being rude to me and praising others. So I used to be okay with it until he hurt me. I have recently told him I am working on it not bothering me and would like to watch together to help satisfy him. Why was this not enough for him to ask me to watch with him this time? He has SO many pictures of me, Videos of me and us. Why does he need to watch someone else alone? If he refuses to stop how do I not let this affect us? Also when answering please keep in mind that I am a Naturalist, I completely understand his personal needs and urges and in no way want to deny him, I am simply asking for advice on how to work on myself and to opening keep my husband updated on how I am doing without also hurting him.

My husband rarely kisses me on lips during sex. He will start out kissing my neck and then my breasts and stomach. Then, he will want me go down on him. No kissing on lips. Does this mean anything? He does hug me a lot, says he loves me and we kiss goodnight. There have been times where we have kissed during sex, but not these past couple of times. Should I ask him about it? I don't want to seem harsh.  

What should I do? We are both in our late 20's. We know what we have is so rare and special even though we've only been talking for a couple of weeks i feel like I've known her forever because through these last couple of weeks we have talked until like 3 am 4 am. I have never talked to anyone that long ever. I'm not the friendly type that talks to everyone. But I've been talking to her and we've been making each other laugh giving each other new insight I've been helping her see her worth because she's so insecure. Her boyfriend has dragged her through the mud and I believe he doesn't want her to really be anything better or be independent. When shes with him she always records their conversations and sends me the videos and he is extremely toxic and disrespectful to her. He devalues her. Something is seriously wrong with the dude She said she is miserable but can't leave because she doesn't know how to drive and he drives everywhere. She said she's hoping in 8-9 months she will lean how to drive. We talked about how we both really like each other but I told her I don't know if I can wait 8-9 months I might meet someone that I vibe with. Plus I alresdy haven't had sex in 6 months. She got upset and blocked me. I went to her house and brought her flowers and said I was sorry I didn't mean to say that but it's just really hard to wait on something that's uncertain. She doesn't even know for sure if she will be able to drive by then she's probably just guessing. She was like " please don't say stuff like that. I'm already in so much pain, just please wait on me. I don't think I'll be able to handle seeing you with another woman" I was like " I wish I could drive you everywhere but I'm a truck driver so I'm always on the road" and she said " that's why I'm trying to be the best possible person for you and  starts with getting my license.. I don't want you to have to drive me anywhere"

If your married in the Philippines, will the marriage licence work the same as being married in the USA? For instance, applying for insurance through work in USA and so forth?

Me and my new husband live in the states. He is working on a TN permit here. I have a TD status which allows me to live with him in the states but I legally cannot work in the states. I do not have any income.  I pay child support for the past year to my ex. He is taking me to court to up my support and he is wanting all my bank accounts I have joint with my husband. His kids are older and no longer pays support. My husband makes a lot of money. Over $150,000 a year. I've heard many different things, but does anyone know if the judge can look into what my husband makes and base a higher child support on his income? He does support me because I am not working, but I don't feel he is responsible to pay anything to my children I have with someone else. Does anyone know the law? I am not hiring a lawyer and I am self represented. Again I know the judge cannot make my husband pay support, but I'm wondering if the judge can look into what he makes and base his income and say it's mine too and up the support.  Thank you in advance for any help. No rude comments please. 

Apparently, if you're married, there are subjects that you aren't even allowed to think about, let alone talk out loud about. From a few questions I've asked, I received a decent verbal lashing. That being said, here are my thoughts: 1.  Virginity doesn't matter anymore and should be thrown away especially before marriage. 2.  There is no such thing as being tainted. To question this line of thinking means you are a horrible person and should seek professional help. Am I right?

-Will there be any cost for the divorcee? -Can we do it without a lawyer? -Can we go to any court or does it have to be our county? -Can this all be done with one court session? -Will there be any repercussions (like I can't marry someone else for 5 years and what not)? -How long will the process take? -Can we date again if we end up liking each other again in the future? -Will we need proof of the reason for divorce? If so, how can we proof that we simply don't want each other anymore? ----------------------------Thank you------------------------- Background details:  it'll be a mutual decision with no contesting and neither will be asking for any financial assistance or share of property from the other. We don't really have a solid reason. We're just getting bored of each other. We just got married in May 2019. We had a rollercoaster relationship for 5 years. We have a baby that we plan to co-parent on our own terms, but she will be the primary caregiver. Will our child become a bastard child? Or will that not apply since he was born while we were married?

My husband rarely kisses me on lips during sex. He will start out kissing my neck and then my breasts and stomach. Then, he will want me go down on him. No kissing on lips. Does this mean anything? He does hug me a lot and we kiss goodnight, just not during sex. There have been times where we have kissed during sex, but not these past couple of times. 

My wife just told me she won't be home tonight. She's going to a local hotel. She needs space from home. I know I've been neglecting time with her due to work, but is this right? She doesn't call me anymore when I'm at work, doesn't want to be intimate, stopped cooking, doing laundry, etc. I noticed that she doesn't wear her wedding ring anymore. It's like she doesn't care about me anymore. what would you do? I feel like my new marriage is in shambles. 

My SO and I have been together for 18 years. 18 months ago I was siagnosed with a chronic condition and shut him and. I apologized to him a few weeks back and told him I wanted to try to make things right with us again. He told me he wasn t sure if he as still in love with me and he didn t know how we could fix this. We are still ACTING like we are fine. We go out with friends , talk , have sex , etc. But what can I do to help fix things. He is the only thing in my life that is keeping my grounded and I cannot lose him. Any advice would be appreciated, I mean if he didn t love me at all wouldn t he just tell me and move on instead of staying around? Please any advice of any kind of what I can do would be appreciated.

I never wanted my son to ever get married I wanted my son all for myself he got married I hate his new wife I hate that he gets all of her attention I tell my son to divorce her but he won't I want my son all for myself what do I do?

So I don't want any answers from people who are guessing. I want someone who actually knows or knows the law. I pay child support to my ex. I am now married and my ex is trying to adjust child support to get more money based on my husband who makes a lot. I know it's not his responsibility to pay someone else's support, but can a judge look at my husbands income and base my support to go up based on my husbands income? He makes a lot and this wouldn't be fair if that's the case.  I am in Ontario Canada! So don't give me answers for state laws 

My husband rarely kisses me on lips during sex. He will start out kissing my neck and then my breasts and stomach. Then, he will want me go down on him. No kissing on lips. Does this mean anything? He does hug me a lot and we kiss goodnight, just not during sex. There have been times where we have kissed during sex, but not these past couple of times. 

Especially if the wife has a past she's not proud of

Last night before bed my husband had a bottle of mango / strawberry juice that he had bought, again, for himself. He likes to have something on his nightstand just in case he wakes up thirsty or a dry throat. Plus, he takes sleep medication so he needed to take a pill. When he walked into the bedroom and took his meds I asked what he was drinking and he told me. I asked for a sip and he looked at me and said, "can I not have anything for myself without you always wanting some." I had never had that brand of juice and wanted to try it. He handed me the bottle and said, "here, you can have it." At that point I didn't want it. I just wanted a sip, not the whole bottle. I really do think he has a problem sharing with me. Is he really that selfish? Married couples are supposed to share, right?

I love to cooking it's my passion. It's also how I show my love. Every time I tell my boyfriend I have food for him he goes " don't make my plate big". I showed my friend the screenshots of our messages and he was like " does he realize how many men would kill for a home killed meal. He doesn't admire or appreciate you. All he can say is don't make his plate so small. I would tear that food up if I was him. Especially if i know I only have cereal at home.""" My boyfriend doesn't know how to cook. So normally me or his mom will make his meals. We are in our 30's

My husband rarely kisses me on lips during sex. He will start out kissing my neck and then my breasts and stomach and go down. Then, he will want me to kiss his neck and go down on him. No kissing on lips. Does this mean anything?

I switched my bank account because he had blew over 4,000 dollars in five months on cars, gas station food, lottery tickets and I was fed up so I said I wanted separate bank accounts. All the money in our savings was everything I had made working because he didn't work for 18 months. Now he's saying he's not helping pay for anything and I can pay everything since I switched my bank account. What can I do about this? Thanks!

My fiancé's union is having a "dinner, dance", and he does not want me to come. When I asked him why, he said he's going to "network", and only older people bring their wives. I checked the Facebook, and union magazine, and pretty much everyone brings their wives, girlfriends etc. In reference to networking, he doesn't need to because he is in a union and not in business, and also is able to uphold any position due to his families involvement with the union. I am so upset by this. We haven't spoke to each other in a day, and we live together. Any advice?

Why do people automatically assume there is more to the question than what is asked? I asked a simple either or question. Stop reading into it! I'm not saying anyone is going into a marriage with the thought of divorce. No one does. The fact is divorce happens. Doesn't matter how much you promise each other. Good reasons for divorce are abuse and unfaithfulness. But again, this was a simple either or question. Thank you to those of you who answered and didn't read past the lines.

She gets fake pursued by bad boys and weirdos who act romantic upon first meeting. And they leave 2 seconds later. Makes it feel like she is worthless which she isn't