Family: Question: I farted in my grandma face while she slept. Will she be ok?

Question: I farted in my grandma face while she slept. Will she be ok?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 01:37 PM PST

My grandma got on my nerves today, so I snuck in her room and let out a huge long monster fart in her face while she was asleep. Now she's complaining about a headache. Did I go too far?

Question: Is excommunicating my sister from the family a good choice?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 12:33 PM PST

Question: My mother slapped me on New Year's day in front of guests for breaking a vase. I don't think it's my fault, am I right?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 12:31 PM PST

I'm almost 18. I was bored and kicking a football around in the house, like any guy might. She told me a couple of times to go outside, but it was cold so I didn't. She was in the other room with some of our guests when I knocked over an expensive vase with the ball, which to my horror fell and broke. She came into the room, saw what happened.  I began to say that I was sorry but without listening she slapped me across my face so hard I instantly began to tear up. Some of the guests saw exactly what happened, but she grabbed me by the shirt and locked me in my room for two hours. I sat there and genuinely cried because it hurt and I felt humiliated. Getting struck on the face by someone you love like your mother feels so awful and I felt very resentful towards her. Is this acceptable behaviour from her? If not what should I do?

Question: How do you get a dear aunt with mental health issues to open her heart to you? We all loved her, but she is distant and abusive towards us.?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 11:53 AM PST

Question: My sister thinks I’m totally wrong?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 10:34 AM PST

I just got engaged to my beautiful woman and we have been in our new apartment for 6 months. We live close to my moms house where my younger brother and sister are still located. My fiancée gets along with my family fine. Major ups and downs in the beginning with my little sister but time passed and we squashed issues.  My sister (who lives with my mom) texted me yesterday asking if she could come stay for a night or 2. I told her she had to ask my fiancée. She replied with- "Why would I have to ask your fiancée?? Lol, you're my brother can't you speak for yourself with your family? And isn't it your place too?" My fiancée and I agreed to make all decisions together when it comes to home as all should, but in this case their history has made my fiancée and not care about her so much, and maybe my sister does too. But, my wife to me, should make the decision if she's the one that's going to be affected by her coming over if anything. Yet my sister is all offended she's not getting what she wants.

Question: When is my father coming back home?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 09:20 AM PST

He went to get some milk 16 years ago but he didn't tell us where. I'm trying to find every store that sells milk but there are too many of them and it's hard. I've been thinking, if he's been in the queue for so long, the milk must be excellent, do you know where my dad could be? I miss him a bit. (He promised he was gonna give me money when he's back).

Question: My cousin and aunt don't speak. How do I dismiss the subject when one tries to get dirt about the other out of me since I talk to both?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 08:19 AM PST

Cousin and aunt are mother-daughter. It is a mother and daughter estrangement. The daughter holds grudges and does not forgive and the mother is very strict and plays favorites. Both have a lot of strengths but these are the weaknesses that led to their estrangement. The cousin also does not speak to her sister or brother.

Question: When my uncle gets drunk he is a grouch. Should I just ignore him when he is like this at parties I see him at?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 08:18 AM PST

His own wife left him cause of it. He is not as bad as he used to be but still is a drunk. He's an alcoholic obviously though my Mom covers for him. 

Question: When my sister lies about me to friends and family how do I get them to see her accusations are lies or old labels from the past?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 08:15 AM PST

Question: Two poor girls went for a walk in the park at night and they are well dressed. What do they work for?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 08:10 AM PST

Guess what.

Question: How do I determine who gets a plus one?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 07:55 AM PST

My daughter's baptism will be this summer and I am having difficulty determining who will receive a plus one to the reception. Is there an appropriate age (as in, should my 17 year old niece receive a plus one since she has been dating her boyfriend for over one year) or length of relationship?  I don't want to offend anyone but having just had a baby, we don't exactly have an unlimited budget for this event.  

Question: Is it OK to joke around with my step mother?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 07:47 AM PST

My step mother who I really like is just a few years older than I am. Dad must like young beautiful women as she is both. She has a great personality and is just a lot of fun to be around. She loves to joke around with me. Jokingly one day she told me "The batteries in my dildo are dead. Would you go to the store and get me some more?" Should I have had the balls to say "They don't make batteries for dildos any more but I have something that you can use in it's place"

Question: My brother was murdered in Atlanta yesterday morning, we’ve been estranged for years but should I go be with his family who I’ve never met?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 07:03 AM PST

We are half siblings and we grew up with different moms so we're not that close. I plan to attend the funeral but outside of that should I go be with his family or just treat it like a cousin right go to the funeral but nothing else. When my cousin was murdered in April I just did the funeral I did not go see the family separately. Whereas when my stepsister was killed in DUI in 2014 I was close to her and so helped the family with the arrangements.

Question: My dad who raped me is getting out of jail, what do I do if he wants to reconnect, do I have a duty him?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 07:00 AM PST

Question: Half my family was murdered in Sarajevo in 1992. Should I ever go back there to visit now that the war is ended?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 06:59 AM PST

We don't know where they were buried because they were Serbs. America took us in which was great but we still miss our native land.

Question: What do I do if my mom sister grabs me and put me in the corner to badmouth the family to me?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 06:58 AM PST

Question: What do you do if you know you are bound to end up on your own?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 06:55 AM PST

i know and realize my elderly mum and dad will not be around forever and they are my only support network, i'm a man in my forties who has dealt with long term mental health problems and i never found any relationships.....ive lived on my own for 15 years in a council flat....and i'm frightened of a time when my mum and dad will not be here and i end up on my own? it would be a nightmare for me to end up on my own, i dearly love my mum and dad and would be lost without them...my flat is a very lonely isolated secluded dark place.....and when my mum and dad visit me they bring light and warmth to my place......my mum and dad have been divorced over 26 years and i'm closer to my mum...but still close to my dad too. the only times i leave my flat is to go to the gym to swim, to keep up my fitness, and the other time is to do grocery shopping...so i live as a shut in sort of....i am getting older, so are my parents....and im starting to feel scared for the future. who wants to end up alone? without love or support? no one does and it would destroy me.

Question: How to get rid of crusn on mom ?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 06:42 AM PST

She had me at 21 so she was a young mim. Sge goes to the gym 3 times a week and is really fit. She is pretty that I once got a ***** to her in the sauna. I know that it's a problem but idk what to do. I'm only 14.

Question: Why don't more adults in the United States live with their parents until at least age 40?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 05:44 AM PST

Question: My toxic sister is impossible to even be in the room with. How do I calm my nerves when I have to see the woman next?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 05:16 AM PST

It will likely be a wedding in June that I see her next. I do not invite her to the family celebration since she would wreck it. She is my enemy and an enemy to the family.

Question: I hate my daughter in law please answer?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 05:13 AM PST

Why did she have to exist? Why did my son have to get married a few days ago? It's not like I want him too? I just want my son all to my serif :( and I hate seeing her face her voice is soft and mousy like her families i told my son to leave her so I can have my son all to myself but he won't what do I do? I mean self 

Question: Was my mom a young mom for having me at 22?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 05:06 AM PST

Pregnant at 21 and gave birth at 22

Question: What should I do in this family drama situation? ?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 04:40 AM PST

So my mom is going through a separation.this man has been a loser since she met him, they've been together 5Yrs He Can't keep a job, lazy Does drugs lets my mom pay 4 everythingShe didn't seem to mind those things until recently, she kicked him out. He's been out of the house for a month. And she has asked me to help her out with his normal portion of the rent, which I have no problem with as I've always paid her some money every month while I go to school It's just a lot more money that she's asking for now. Since It would now be her me and my younger sister, I told her he wasn't allowed over at the house anymore, they are very toxic he gets upset breaks things..on one occasion he told my mom while drunk that he would kill us. She seems to think it was an empty threat but I've never forgot and it weighs heavy on my mind. Now after establishing boundaries, she agreed that he wouldn't be coming over anymore, well I work nights and I received a phone call from my sister at midnight saying my mom brought him over and that he was spending the night,irefuse to be taken advantage of and letting him just bum off me and my mom.The rental is in my moms and his name, but he signed a new lease elsewhere already ,and I've thought about just taking my sister and getting our own place,  just feel bad because there's know way my mom can afford that house on her own.I'd hate to see her Lose itbut I cannot deal with this from them, am I wrong for not giving her the money for the rent ? 

Question: Is it awkward when you don't want to take a picture with someone?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 03:19 AM PST

So my cousin told me i was awkward because i don't like being in photos is it really that bad to not want to take pictures with others?

Question: Was I necessarily an accident?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 01:12 AM PST

My mom had me at 21 and she had my sister at 36. My sister was born a whopping 15y after me. Do you think my mom got accidentally pregnant?

Question: I don’t wanna live here anymore?

Posted: 04 Jan 2020 12:39 AM PST

I live with my parents, my siblings live in another city. We went through a trauma in 2019 after which we're not the same anymore. It was my dad's fault. It changed all of us. I don't think I know my dad anymore. I've lost trust in my parents. And I want to live with my siblings because I want to be surrounded with someone I feel safe with. living with my parents only makes me feel lonelier. My parents keep screwing up things for us. And we're the ones suffering. I don't like them anymore, (even though I love them I mean they're my parents) but I hope u get my point. I can't escape I can't move in with my siblings. I don't know what to do. I just don't wanna live this way anymore and there's nothing I can do about it. that makes me feel weak.

Question: How would you react if your wife chose not to have sex with you but remains faithful to you and allows you to have sex with other women?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 10:21 PM PST

Question: Are moms still able to carry their sons when they're 10?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 10:19 PM PST

I've seen in movies and TV shows moms carrying their sons who are 10. and when I was 10 and 11 my mom would carry me to bed whenever I fell asleep. how can they do it?

Question: Is Iran going to bomb us!!? Worried?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 10:00 PM PST

I'm a 13 year old girl and heard on the news that president trump killed a general in Iran and that Iran is planning on retaliating and attacking us. I live in Maryland and i'm worried we might get nuked or bombed or something i'm scared they might bomb where i am 

Question: Do you think my friend is a sociopath?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 09:28 PM PST

She came from a family with an abusive dad and her relatives like and treat and always compare her to her older cousin. She listens to my problem and I listen to hers and always clings to me. But I find that I sometimes pay for her food but she never pays for mine, nor she never helps me with my work. But when she asks, I try to help. But she laughs at my effort. Everytime I buy her a gift, she expects that my gift be the same price. If it isn't, she complains to me that my gift is cheaper and that I shouldn't do that. I told her how my friends always treat me differently (meaner) around other people, and she does the same after I told her I dislike it. she also expects everyone to help her because she came from a broken family. She asks everyone to help her find a job, and asks me for my resume when her dad passed away, she shed a few tears and wasn't crying at all at his funeral.

Question: As a parent, is having your kid become a drug addict one of the worst thing you could imagine?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 07:43 PM PST

I grew up in a good family and screwed up my life by getting involved with drugs. I did a lot of horrible things to sustain my addiction over the years. When my parents found out I relapsed a week ago, the feeling of disappointment was very strong. I will never forget telling my parents that I was in the hospital again for a drug overdose....so I wouldn't be able to make my flight to see them over the Christmas holidays. The disappointment was overwhelming. I think I'm the worst thing a parent could ask for.... I've compromised my ethics to live a life that has been a lie.... Despite the consequences, I keep getting back pulled in. I want so badly to stay clean, but I don't think I can. As a parent, I would hate to have a kid end up like me. Isn't this the worst thing a parent could hope for their kid? I feel like the biggest disappointment in the world To the Anonymous poster, I'm sorry. I didn't mean to sound like that. I was just upset.  I would delete this question if I could....I didn't mean to make anyone upset

Question: Why are my parents so rude?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 07:11 PM PST

anything i do isnt good enough for them. i cant just have a chill day, my parents yell at me all ******* day. you wanna lay down? no. go do chores. you wanna go out with friends? you're funny. all they think im doing is bad stuff. then they say i dont do ****. my mom and dad sit around the house and eat all day while im cleaning. they call me an ungreatful ***** for not feeling appreciated and i had to make a fake account because they would kill me if they saw this. i have to hide my feelings away. im not allowed to cry or i will get yelled at. i cant have any electronics upstairs and i cant have any apps they dont approve of. i have tried killing myself and running away, but nothing works because they always stop me. the law wont stop me. how the hell do i get out of this. i just want to die. but they dont care. i think they would rather me live in saddness over anything.

Question: What do I do about my reputation in the family, read below?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 07:07 PM PST

So I am known to be stalkish when younger. I don't stalk now and when I did it was not malicious stalking but rather just trying to connect with people. I did not know social rules as well as most as growing up I had learning disabilities and unable to make friends in regular school. Plus my mother held me back from family in many situations. As a result at age 20 I was connecting with family on my own as my first social relationship outside of my mother and her social circle. Thus, I had not yet learned social rules like call before visiting or wait to be invited. Now I am almost 40, much better socially, my Mom has died. Yet, I still am a little different. I for a time was looking up people on-line treating Google Search and Facebook as an open alumni directory. Thus, I likely again crossed a social line. This was a while back also. However, yesterday I was at a party and saw my aunt and someone else when the other person made a comment about me finding her address on-line 15 years ago. My aunt said "you are so nosy" in a half kidding and half serious way. So my question below. When people bring these old social flaws up how do I show I am long past that and how do I explain? I am 40 so don't want to be asking my father to cover for me. Yet, from time to time they come up. My sister for example loves to insult me with them. How do I get my name forgiven from obvious cases in the past of me stalking unintentionally?

Question: My sister is an enemy to mankind. How do I keep my friends safe from her abusive insults and wrath?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 06:52 PM PST

She is the devil.

Question: Help: my sister seldom texts me (her brother) red heart emojis?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 06:42 PM PST

She often sends me blue heart emojis. Onetime she sent me a purple (heart) emoji. Is she afraid of giving me the wrong impression if she were to send a red heart? I saw a post on her Facebook wall recently. She sent our cousin's wife a red heart emoji.

Question: Moving back in with my parents...?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 06:07 PM PST

Hi! I was hoping to have some opinions/insight from you all regarding my situation... I am 26, single, currently living with roommates in NYC, recently graduated law school and have a decent job as a public interest attorney. I am originally from LA and that's where my parents and two other older siblings live. My parents are not financially stable at all, don't have retirement, and still live in our 2-bedroom apartment from before I left. They both also suffer from serious medical conditions (dad has heart failure, mom had cancer) and both have depression. I really want to move back to LA later this year, and I am seriously considering moving back home, mainly to help my parents pay rent and spend time with them. I have a good relation with my parents, and they've communicated that they would love to have me back... I do enjoy my alone time/privacy/independence and know this will entail some sacrifice on my end... I want to make new friends coming back to the city. I enjoy being single and do not foresee wanting to settle down and get married anytime soon (I also don't want kids).  My fear is that moving back home after having my own independence might make me depressed and make it harder to meet new people. Thoughts? Thank you!

Question: How to deal with my horrible grandma for my birthday?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 05:57 PM PST

My mom, myself and my two grandmas are going to get our nails done for my birthday tomorrow. I only wanted to bring one of them because honestly I can't stand the other. She's rude, horrible and no one can stand to be around her. Sadly she's had a lot of health issues we've had to help her with so now my parents feel required to include her in everything. I'm already not doing much for my birthday so this is kinda a blow. How do I keep her shut up during the process? The place I like speaks limited English and she's pretty racist and generally unpleasent. I don't want her there but I have to so how can I make it not miserable?

Question: How do you deal with toxic family members who doesn't believe in you, or support you?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 05:22 PM PST

Hi, Long time, No see! This topic/question is very touchy to me, because this is currently my situation. My family members always supports my cousins and sister, but when it comes to me succeeding in life, they don't do the same for me,  and I always say I'm better without them, but in reality I need them as the backbone so i can believe in myself. So my question is, what do I do, I have so many toxic/negative family members who "say" they support you, but they don't? **SN: please no negative comments, this situation is very emotional, and touchy for me.  BTW I am currently in college to become a Pharmacy Technician, and I graduate May 2020.

Question: What's the matter with cheating on your girlfriend or wife?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 05:07 PM PST

In men we get sick fast even if the woman is very beautiful but we need to vary.

Question: Contacting new family members?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 03:34 PM PST

I've known all my life that my step dad was not my biological father I never called him step dad though I couldn't ask for a better father but My aunt from my biological father side and my mother found each other on Fb, my aunt she would like to get to know me and I also now have an older brother wich I never knew about, They haven't messaged me I haven't messaged them and I found out I have an older brother, how do I break the ice? What do I say? I know my aunt would like to know me but my now older brother wich I'm used to being the oldest, would he accept me or be like why haven't you tried looking for us your dad etc... I dk how to go about this Sorry I typed up twice about having an older brother

Question: Why is my family treating me like this?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 03:17 PM PST

I haven't left the house in 9 years. I barely shower, do my hair, or change clothes. I sit in the room all day on my phone. I talk and laugh to myself. I spend hours using the bathroom and taking a shower. I barely talk to them. Even before all this they still treated me horrible.

Question: Why won't my family leave me alone?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 03:14 PM PST

They all have been bullying and harassing me for years. They just won't stop. If I tell anyone about it they lie and turn it around on me and make it worse. I never did anything to them. Standing up to them only makes it worse.

Question: What would you do if your family treated you like this?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 03:04 PM PST

Harass you all day. Bother you about every little thing you do. Verbally, physically, and sexually abuse you. Threaten to call the police on you when you've done nothing wrong. Won't let you eat. Take your things from you. Bully you. Gang up on you. Yell at you if you do something but don't yell at anyone else if they do something. If you tell anyone about it they lie and make it worse.

Question: My sister is quiet around me (her brother) when her husband is nearby?

Posted: 03 Jan 2020 02:50 PM PST

Why is that? When her husband is around, she avoids eye contact with me at times too. Is that bad? Otherwise, she seems happy to text me when I text her.