more competently using mediated communication?

After all, whoever that is in control of the narrative ultimately controls the relationship, so why did these men (and myself at one point) allow this to happen? Were we prone to believing the woman was a victim so we could play the role of hero and save her from her doomed fate as a woman who was in some way disadvantaged for having been born this way? Is this really just a narrative to encourage beta men who believe women are damsels in distress to be manipulated by women who want to control men through always needing to be saved? The truth is, women are not in any danger, and they are not being mistreated in 9 out of ever 10 situations, so why have many husbands allowed themselves to believe this lie that women need "our support" to be leveraged over the disadvantages and adversity they faced growing up? Do I need to remind you that more women than men graduate college? Do I need to remind you that women get in free to clubs/bars and normally don't pay for drinks? Do I need to remind you that they can get grant money to start a business just for "being a minority" even though women make up 48 percent of the USA population? Do I need to remind you there's breast cancer research promotion but not prostate cancer? Do I need to remind you that women win more custody battles than men do, despite men having stable income and the woman having a mental illness? Lastly, do I need to remind you that men still get left behind on national emergencies? Where's the mistreat now? Not even money is an issue any more. In 22 states, women make more than men. The tables have turned, feminism has officially created the oppressed male in parts of our country. http://www.syracuse.com/news/index.ssf/2015/04/gender_wage_gap_women_more_than_men_cities.html I don't understand how you regulars keep trying to connect my questions to my relationship with my wife. My last 4 questions have been promoting masculinity and promoting male innocence, yet here you are trying to connect my behavior/attitude to my marriage with my wife. It just isn't what's going on. Seriously, stop. I have reached an understanding about what is really going on in the social world, and why I received bad advice for so long on here. And now I'm doing my part to promote men.

Months ago I drunkly kissed my sister's boyfriend Ed, so she broke up with him. I asked Ed's friend Andy (he's my friend too) to hang out with me. Andy said he talked to Ed, and he found out what happened, and he said he wouldn't feel comfortable meeting me. 1st, it's non of Andy's business. 2. Why is he uncomfortable with meeting me?

I was 24 and he was 34. Thanks for answering :)

I've been married twice and for all but one year since I was like 23. My first wife cheated because I supposedly worked to much and she was to delicate to get a job. Lol my second wife whom I have 2 awesome kids with verbaly abused me and treated me like a piece of dirt because she thought if she didn't do it to me I'd do it to her. She has admitted she did and apologized and we get along just fine. My problem is every time I date I feel a mortal fear of doom and dread. I've been single for 3 years and still get these feelings. Is this normal? Will it go away?

My boyfriend says he wants to keep me chained up like his slave. Is he obsessed, or just making a joke?

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I heard if you catch someone staring at you and they look away means they like you . But what about if they held their eye contact (lingering ) for few seconds longer and return a smirk? Does that have any meaning when you locked eyes with them longer than normal without breaking ? And I m referring to someone you see in public place. Not conversation. Duration 5 sec I suppose .

why do men always break their woman's heart? they always end the relationship. men always play games.

My husband has been harassing me and been visiting my house when I tell him not to, been hacking my email, social networks and put me in $11,000 in debt, I just had a baby and he hasn't been helping, he isn't working, making excuses and he is not a citizen of the United states, he just has a work permit to work here, his mother is also hiring people to hack into my accounts and I have all the proof in emails and screenshots, statements and even witnesses of everything I am accusing him of, I don't know who to go to, but I have already decided to divorce him but before that, I want to know what should I do to make him pay for all the stress he has put me through, I had my child premature because of the stress and also because he didn't want to work and help me with the bills that he got me into, what do I do? where do I start??? who do I ask??? please help!!! I'm from nebraska. I need help! I dont know what to do!!!

DEAN AND ERIN BRUTCHER HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 25 YEARS THIS JUNE

I swear my husband thinks I'm retarded. I've caught porn on his computer SO many times and each time he tells me he "accidentally" clicked on all of those hentai links on different days at different times. Who the HELL believes that?

2 nights ago, we both were not having a successful time getting to sleep. By 1am I can say that I was out. Part of my sleeping issue is related to the fact that he can t sleep without the tv on, which is a little bothersome to me because I like the room quiet. Nevertheless, I Was out when he elbows me in the back-- hard and calls my name 2x in a very stern if not pissed off voice to turn OFF the baby monitor. I barked don t hit me! Rolled over and turned the monitor down. After all this I mumbled go to the sofa if u can t sleep . How is it he can sleep with the tv on but not with a monitor? Nevertheless, for 2 days he is angry at me and doesn t want to see my face. He took off his wedding band too. Sundays are the busiest work day for him, I get it, but there are nicer ways to approach someone during their most vulnerable period at night. Agree or no? We haven t spoken for nearly 48hrs by ignoring all my calls/texts. Our child is 5mo, in case u were wondering. Am I at fault here for sleep talking aggressively? What do I do?

I'm not just talking sexually but everything else in your lives together.

So we recently moved to Portland OR. My wife struggled to find a new job and good friends back where we were. I had a few options to move to for work and chose Portland OR because of the area and one of my best friends since High school has also moved down here too! I moved down there first for 2 months away from my kids, and family looking for a place for us to move into while staying with my friends. Now 6 months later in an apartment of our own we are enjoying the new change. Recently she has a new job where she wanted to be in part time, so she can spend more time with our little ones, she has been meeting new friends at meetup's and we've met some cool people. all is good until she started giving me some red flags that kinda scare me. I usually take care of her and the kids after work and finding ways to entertain them on my days off. First off On my birthday of all days she comes to me and says... I don't think I want to have any more kids... I'm like "WHAT?" and she says she wants to be more independent and hold a full time job and make more money. On top of that she is wanting me to make more friends too instead of just the one friend I have now. today she asked me if I wanted to hang out with my friend after work while she goes out to another meet up... usually hosted at a local bar. To me it seams kinda odd that the sudden change of the situation... I might just be paranoid but it worries me with all that is going on. Do I have to be worried? is this normal?

My husband and I are going through a separation. I'm currently homeless. I have no backup plan other than a shelter. I've had a few people offer me to stay at their place.I have no source of income or anything right now. What can I do?

I don't even drink that much. I'm in control of how much I drink and can stop whenever I want. I'm not an alcoholic guy. He cites how I lost my job recently, but it wasn't related to alcohol. Is he just being a p*ssy?

Long, long story- short version. Married 15 years, have a 15 year old with husband. 8 years ago, he cheated, we separated, he eventually came home. he was physically abusive years ago in the emotional wake of his infidelity. I cannot stop thinking that he is dirty bc of all this and have no sexual desire toward him. i actually cry during the little sex we have. we have talked divorce. he has spent several days telling me to get out, but then suddenly apologized and said he was offering himself to me on a platter and wanted to make it work, that we owed it to our child. any advice?

To the person who keeps putting this question in the "Personal Finance" category, obviously I'm asking about MARRIAGE, and so, it goes in the MARRIAGE category.

I love my husband. I love my son. But my husband & son do not get along. My son, age 13, is a very sensitive intellectual. He feels deep and irrationally at times, but is a good kid. My husband is a Conservative guy's guy. He's tried to bond w/ son over sports, teaching him to grill, etc. Son would rather talk sci-fi concepts & his issues w/ organized religion (seriously). My husband I have been married for a couple years - part of the problem is that our marriage was long distance. Prior to now, I spent time with hubby when my son was at his Dad's. And son only met hubby a few times before we got married (I know, bad). I had no idea how bad they would clash. My son gets upset bc he wants more alone time with me (I give him a LOT of solo time). This irritates my husband bc we already have limited time bc of work schedules. I've talked with my ex about it bc he's married too. Ex said son says the same thing to him. So ex makes a point to do organized solo stuff w/ son at least one day a week. The difference is...ex's wife is cool w/ that. She stays home w/their 2 kids while ex & son go out. My husband is not ok w/staying home w/ the baby (we have 1 together) & he feels it encourages son's whiny behavior. Both husband & son are so unhappy that I recently spoke to my ex about it. He offered to take son full time temporarily. We've never been to court - so it would be between us. We do 50/50 now. I didn't give ex an answer. This is awful. Any advice is appreciated. My husband is very traditional - church on Sunday, dad calls the shots, let's go camping, let's have guys time, etc. My son is very liberal - is exploring alternative beliefs systems, feminist, wears eyeliner, draws comic books, etc. He's like his Dad. Dad is a passive website designer who found Buddhism. Ex was too "wimpy" for me. But I've learned to appreciate his good qualities. So I understand how my husband feels, but I wish he could learn to appreciate son's good qualities too. Husband does try to talk to son about his interests, but it doesn't go well. For example, they were taking about the Star Wars movie and my husband mentioned that it was good that minorities had lead roles (meaning a woman and African American). My husband was trying to be on his level. But son got angry and said that only old white men point things like that out. Then they go back to avoiding each other until I can encourage my husband to try again. And maybe I'm the problem because I don't do anything. I don't discipline my son when he's disrespectful. And I don't tell my husband to back off when he throws a fit about son getting more time than he does. I do nothing because I'm not sure what the right thing to do it. My son's father has already offered to take him full time. I know he's sincere about it. Right now we split the time 50/50. I have Sunday night-Wed night or Thurs morning. Ex has Wednesday night or Thurs after school to Sunday night. So it wouldn't be a total shock to our son - he does spend a lot of time with his Dad already. But I don't feel right about this. I know my ex is a good father, but I don't want my son to hate me later for saying ok to that. I also don't want to get divorced.

When we're in public I see him watch white pretty girls in the eyes, that makes me feel unconfortable, I hate being in public with him for this

The "go to" response for all these women I'm interacting with is nagging, whining, arguing, controlling, and manipulating so they can get their way; which is a lot of wasted effort since men have this special ability to ignore all that since we got it from our Mother or from past girlfriends, so this tactic only creates anger/resentment with us men. So when a wife has a problem with her husband, why is there no effort for her to change HERSELF to get different results? Why are these women creating a power struggle in their marriage when men want nothing more than peace and harmony? Is the purpose of Yahoo! Answers to get women to gang up on men and reinforce the feminist narrative that men are scum and women are oppressed? Because I'm honestly getting tired of hearing all these women whine about things that if they just wouldn't of put themselves before their husband then they wouldn't be in these stupid situations!!!! Seriously, why do these wives complain and try to get "support" instead of solve their problems and get on with life? Are they not good critical thinkers? Is "winning the fight" more important so they can prove their sex is the dominate sex in this battle of sexes world we live in now? AGAIN, LIKE MY OTHER RECENT QUESTIONS, THIS ISN'T ABOUT MY WIFE AT ALL. I AM JUST JUDGING THE WOMEN ON THIS WEBSITE AND THEIR INABILITY TO SOLVE PROBLEMS BECAUSE THEY REFUSE TO PUT ANY EFFORT INTO CHANGING THEMSELVES AND THEY WOULD RATHER BLAME THEIR HUSBAND FOR THE PROBLEM!

I am currently 205 lbs (5'5" tall) and in the process of losing weight and going down to 120 lbs that I have always been before I gained weight due to severe depression. My start weight was 240 lbs in the summer, so ai have already lost a lot but my husband still does not notice the change and does not want to make love to me. I feel neglected, hurt and ugly. It is still gonna take long long months till I reach my goal weight and become attractive again but I feel like if he truly loved me he would accept me the way I am and still have sexual relations with me. What am I doing wrong? I wear make up, dress nicely, it is just that I still got weight to lose. My husband watches porn all day and turns me down when I approach him.

About 2 years ago my husband of 7 years has gone back to his childhood religion of Jehovah s Witness. At first I was a little hesitant about attending a few Sundays but started getting interested in how they study the bible. Only recently I have told my husband that I feel like I should stop attending for a little so I can figure out what I really want to do. Since then he has given me the cold shoulder and has been treating me like a room mate rather than a wife. That alone is pushing me farther away in the relationship. That only if I follow his religion is when everything will be peachy. Feeling very alone right now. No family or friends. All I have is my husband and now I feel like he is not happy with me because of my decision. I have asked if he wants to talk about the situation and he says there is nothing to talk about but there is an obvious difference. He hasn t even touched me since :(

"Treat your partner how you want to be treated". That is thrown around a lot, and at one point in time I believed it. But, I no longer do. I lived by that phrase, I've treated my husband like a king. I cook for him, wash his clothes, kiss him when I get home from work (he gets home before me), ask his opinion on everything, include him in everything, make special trips just for him (if he wants ice cream or something certain for dinner). Basically, I cater to him and treat him as well as I know how. The problem is, I takes all of that, and barely gives me anything in return. He expects me to initiate sex, and half the time he pretends to fall asleep within a matter of minutes and so we barely have sex. He never kisses me when he gets home (He works Saturdays, I don't). Never tells me he loves me or does anything special for me. I feel completely unwanted and basically used. When I try to talk to him about how I'm feeling, he gets mad and tells me to stop b....ching. When I tell him I want to have more sex, he tells me I need to stop trying when he's going to sleep....try earlier. Sigh...I just don't know what to do anymore. I am so very miserable. I did not get married to live like this. Any tips on how I can better communicate my feelings to him without him getting mad and defensive? And though I'd love for him to join me for marriage counseling, he will not, so that option is off the table. @UnderValued, I am NOT going to be giving him any bj's. I did state he gets home from work before I do, meaning I do work, too. And my point about sex is, he NEVER initiates. I shouldn't (and will not) be the only one initiating sex. I will stop trying to communicate with him, though, and slack off on what I do for him. He doesn't deserve any of it, anyways. LOL, you are a sexist pig, aren't you? I haven't gained one pound since we have gotten married. It is not narcissistic to want your husband to appreciate you and show you they love and care for you. Again, we BOTH work, and that is ALL that he does. I do everything at home, I do all of the "domestic" chores. I'm not a feminist. You do portray yourself as being sexist, though, you're basically telling me to reward my husband to get him to treat me right. LOL, that's a crock. And I don't want him to revolve around me. I don't want to be the center of anyone's universe, I just want to feel valued and appreciated in my marriage. That is NOT narcissism. And I am NOT being selfish. And I do not do everything that I do as a way to manipulate him to treat me well. I do it because that is who I am, but if someone isn't being appreciated for all that they do, they tend to get fed up with it. @UnderValued, you're a moron. You have no idea what you are talking about and should probably stop answering questions here. I am not, nor have I ever been (or wanted to be) a pampered princess. smh @Beatrice, of course he wasn't like this before we got married...you think I would have married him if he had been? I have tried to talk to him about this, repeatedly, and all I get is I don't knows, or I don't want anything, or nothing is wrong. Either that or he gets angry and defensive. lol, not surprised you would see trying to talk as nagging/whining. It was originally posted in M&D. You people know Level 7 idiots move questions around!! No, I do all that I do because I have ALWAYS been a doing/giving person. It is in my nature to do it, and I don't expect anything from him because of what I do for him....except appreciation. And I don't see anything wrong with that. You want to compare all that I do to what he does? He goes to work every day. I do appreciate that. He will help me clean the kitchen once a week. I appreciate that. He'll clean off HIS OWN night stand every now and then. Once he cleaned the kitchen.. ..on his own. And I thanked him and showed him I appreciated it. Once he cleaned my night stand and I thanked him and showed him my appreciation. I don't expect him to do anything, I don't expect him to show appreciation like I do. I just need SOMETHING from him, aside from the occasional good jesture. You guys have no idea. He may have said 5 words to me all weekend. Thumped my boob a few times.....that was the extent of the attention he gave me ALL WEEKEND. I can't help that I feel lonly and neglected and unwanted. IF I try to have sex with him, 9 times out of 10 he won't even kiss me back and will just lay there. I feel like I'm trying to rape him. And that's no fun. Typical day, he comes home from work gets on the PS4. Plays that, drinks some beers, then puts on his headset and listens to music for a while. Then eats, watches tv for an hour or so, then goes to sleep. Meanwhile, I'm cooking and cleaning and taking care of my daughter... ...and dog, and cat, and everything else that needs to get done. Then he tells me if I wanted sex I should have tried earlier????? smh, Maybe I didn't word my original question correctly, because I don't think any of you really get the extent of my problem. And if I ask him what he needs, or how can I make him feel appreciated, or if he needs anything from me.....all I get is idk's, or no's. I get no real answer from him. Ever. @Under....just give it up already. WE BOTH WORK. His entire paycheck does not go to bills, and everything I have said is true. Our marriage is very unbalanced and I can't stand it any longer. That's the jist of it all. @John, did you even read the updates? Several are to one idiot answerer, the others are attempts to better explain my situation. I'm not trying to argue or excuse anything. Just trying to give better info because I didn't seem to articulate myself well enough in the original posting. Blow jobs will not make my husband suddenly love me....so there's no point in it. Think I just need a divorce.

Is this a common fantasy, any thoughts?

She has continued going behind my back to make luxury purchases for the kids and we are trying desperately to get out of debt. Funny thing is she only buys for the kids but her shopping is so impulsive that our house is filled with toys. We ve had this conversation over and over and all I get is lip service. She did cut up her cards but I will have to take over paying them off since I can t be sure she doesn t have them saved for online shopping. I don t know why she won t be accountable? Advice? she does not work

I am asking this question because I feel like I am being denied a healthy sexual.experience in my marriage. I have only been in one relationship (my current marriage). I asked a question about something else not long ago and one of the responses suggested that a married man should rately have to masturbate. I was a bit taken aback by that. Because I have been relying on masturbation and porn for the last coupke of years because my wife is only in the mood once a month or so. Sometimes that entails her giving me a hand job instead. The reality is that a random girl contacted me on Facebook and she skyped me requesting that I go to the bathroom on my work break and she started to show herself. She wanted to muck around on the cam. I freaked out and told her I am a married man and blocked her. But it plays on my mind. I tried to add her again. But I worry if it is a scam and my images will end up online It points to a larger problem where I have been wondering if I would need to frequent a prostitute just to have the feeling of sex because it is hard to keep living in a situation where I get the feeling around 10 times a year if I'm lucky. I went away with my wife and her friends. Got drunk but slept some if it off. Unfortunately she turned down my moves saying she will give me a hand job. I am confused because a google search turned up that the average is twice a week. So how much have I been tricked into? The thing is that everything is getting more serious now. We move into our new home very soon and we talk about having a baby. I am ready to start trying for a baby and this year I want to fix everything in our marriage. Including the sex part. I am tired of fighting or just helping myself. I want to know what it feels like to give a woman an orgasm during sex. The best I've ever done is orgasm through oral... For the past four years of our marriage we have averaged once every 6 to 8 weeks. Usually I get to the point where it drives me crazy after 6 weeks. But I noticed that just in this past month that my drive has gone through the roof. And I think a lot of our fighting and my badly depressed mood has come from the lack of intimacy. I feel like I'm being used and my life is a waste when she denies me sex.

I mean no holding hands, no kissing at all, no google eyes, and he may even move away from you most times when you come too close to him. To others, you appear to be only good acquaintances. Yet at home he is affectionate only when the two of you are completely alone. Would you be okay with that?

My ex husband and I have 2 children together. We are of course divorced. I ve met someone new and have been with this person over a year. About 7 months ago my chicken were introduced to this man and they really love him. Only problem is my ex is telling me that my kids can t be alone with him without his permission, they can t ride in the car with him, he has told me that if this man is in the car with me when I go to pick up my children from him (the ex) that he won t give my kids back. There s nothing in my divorce papers song I can t move in with anyone or I can t have anyone around my children. Isthere anything he can do to me if I move in with my boyfriend? I m tired of him still trying to control me. Hateful texts threading calls and messages. I just want to move on with my life...

my friends, family, and church family is saying that this is so. If it's true, why? in a relationship, is the man supposed to love the woman more than she loves him?

Women are awesome. They are. I love women to pieces. But women can be incredibly stupid because they believe they are entitled things just because they got married. I'm sorry, but women are no more entitled to romance than men are entitled to sex. If you don't give the sex, we aren't going to give the romance. That's just how it works. We don't want it this way, you're the one that wants some artificial and superficial relationship based on flowers, netflix, and expensive dinners/travelling. Sex is the most primal thing that all species do to connect with each other; your Hallmark holidays aren't celebrated by any other species, are they? So why do some wives get angry when a man withholds romantic gestures when she didn't do anything to EARN this? A man can value his wife for her as a person without giving her romance. The fact that the woman has to receive romance in order to feel like she has any worth or any value is her own problem, not her husbands. If she feels her worth isn't being shown in his gestures, maybe she should start showing him his worth through her gestures so he knows how she wants to be treated!!!! You only get what you give, women. But seriously, why do women get angry? You don't get a paycheck without doing work, so why do you expect a cash advance when you did NOTHING to earn it? THIS IS NOT ABOUT MY MARRIAGE. PLEASE, STOP ASSUMING IT IS. THIS IS ABOUT ALL OF YOUR MARRIAGES AND THE DUMB QUESTIONS I'M ANSWERING SO I CAN BE BUSY WHILE AT WORK.

My husband never makes me feel like a priority. Whether he's working RIDICULOUS hrs & still mismanaging his money or not caring when Im sad. The latest issue is Facebook which we agreed nvr to really use. Last wk his ex posted a message about the amt of child sup she recvd. He was upset bcuz funds are deducted from his paycheck /no control over the paymt schedule.His distant family saw it. At first I told him not to even care.Then after I saw how it was upsetting him I told him 2create a FB pg, address her NICELY w receipts & be done.He did. Problem solved. THEN he recvd a RIDICULOUS amt of friend request & this whole FB thing got out of control. He began to reconnect w friends & family from his hometown 600 mls away & I found out that he was on this dam thing all hrs! Participating in little games, commenting on photos, providing updates about his day...This was upsetting, considering we go days w out talking, as our work schedules run opposite. When hes gettn home, Im leaving w the kids 2go 2 school & work So it really hurt to find out that he was spending so much time "sharing" with the world, & I can barely get him 2 respond 2my texts. I feel like he is not my husband but the WORLDS! We fought about it, shut the acct down but haven't spoke. Theres a lot of underlying resentment on both parts, but I feel like this will never get bttr. Why can't he see that Im always being made 2 feel like my feeling do not matter. If u love some1 don't u accommodate them first?

Even though yall would not sleep together, it would only be to live in the same household together.

So my husband and I have 4 kids in total. Biologically 2 are mine and 2 are his (my daughter 9, my son 13 his daughter 5 and his daughter 3) . We share custody with his ex-wife. She is a great mom and is always doing so much things with her daughters when its her time. I work a lot and when I'm not working I'm home with all 4 kids ( my husbands hours are crazy). My husband gave me 2 tickets to see Demi Lovato in concert, he doesn't want to go with me obviously and told me I can take anyone. I decided to take my daughter because she is a fan. He got upset because he said if I cant take all of them I shouldn't take any of them. I think he is being unfair because his daughter which I adore are smaller and to be honest I don't think I should have to take them. I love having them around but I cant take experiences away from my daughter because I cant take the other girls. Like I told him their mom doesn't stop doing things with them because my daughter is not there. Am I right in this one because its a picky subject?

10 years after the divorce. If the venue is left open to interpretation, who interprets it? In what court would you challenge the venue? If the venue is decided against you, can you appeal it?

The biggest battle I'm fighting with my wife right now is "when she should let her sons grow up and stand on their own two feet. My wife has done nothing more than coddle her boys (from her first marriage) to no end. Every time they get into some trouble she's there to bail them out. They are 19 and 20 years old. The youngest, who still lives with us, was driving his cousin's car while she's away at college and I kept telling him to at least keep up the maintenance on it. That went into one ear and out the other. As many of you know from past questions, he's broken the windshield by throwing a cell phone at it and he's been driving around with his bright lights on because he didn't want to spend the money to replace the regular bulbs. For months I told him " change the oil, change the oil, change the oil." I even showed him 3 times how to do it. Granted, changing the oil is not something that takes 3 times to figure out but he just wasn't interested in learning. Well, this last time instead of changing the oil, every time the oil light came on he'd just put another quart in it thus overfilling the oil. Long story short, his cousin was home for winter break this past Dec and she took her car back. The day she left going back to school he went and picked up the car. The oil still hadn't been changed and later in the day the engine finally died. He's blaming his cousin for it saying, "she had it so she could have changed the oil." When I told him that it was his job to do the little maintenance on it he didn't want to hear it. Momma jumped to his defense saying, "well, we can't worry about that now, we need to figure out how he's going to get to and from school and work." Instead of holding him accountable she wants to just defend him. Her parents are saying they aren't going to invest the money to get the car fixed so now he doesn't have transportation and now neither does his cousin. My wife asked me yesterday if my dad wouldn't mind picking him up every morning and taking him to school. My dad is almost 80 and health and vision is not the best. I looked at her and said, "no, I'm not going to ask him cause that's not his responsibility. She then asks me if my mom would let him use here car for a while. Both my parents have cars and when one of my brothers and sister's cars have to go to the shop for a day or so my mom loans out her car, but these are her kids. Again, I told my wife, no, I'm not asking my mom that either. Both her parents have cars but she wants my parents to loan out their cars so her son can get back and for to school and work. I told her he's been irresponsible for months with this car and the more I tried to tell him the more flack she gave me. The most I'm willing to do it drop him off at the bus stop on my way to work and let him get there the best way he can. Today my wife took a day off work saying "she was sick." I promise you my wife will let him use her car for the day so now she's missing a day of work for her irresponsible son. Granted, the check engine light came on in her car this weekend but I've told her, "no one drives your car like you." Meaning, You take care of what you've invested in. Since that's not her son's "investment" he's not going to take care of it. The proof if in the pudding. At what point do you cut the apron strings and let them stand on their own two feet? Again, this is the same son who got his 20 year old girlfriend pregnant because "they" felt they were ready for a baby. She's not in school, doesn't drive, and still lives at home with her parents too. My step-son is 19, failed out of college his first year, is now back home with us taking graphic design classes, and now has no transportation, and wants to start a business in a year once he finishes these classes. Mommy thinks that's a great plan.

Please save all the negativity. Unless you live the life you can't understand the stress. Our 19 yo son has become, mentally more than my wife and I can handle. He suffers from brain injury at birth and ASD on top of that. He can not take care of himself still being in diapers. He can not prepare meals or adequately shower on his own. He receives full SSI and is currently on the med waiver here in Florida. He is so mentally abusive to my wife with his relentless talking it has actually put her in the hospital twice. We DO NOT want to put him in a group home as we have heard the horror stories. He needs more one on one care than that will provide. We need an alternative like a state facility/hospital?? We do not know where to turn or who to turn to??? We need help with direction desperately!!!

If you had to choose to marry one guy would you choose the tall handsome guy or the guy that slept in his car for a year to save up enough money for you to achieve your dream?

Recently met a married man at work I could talk to for hours. I have a boyfriend and I am not interested in him in that way. He is married with a newborn baby that he tells me all about. Both of our partners know about our friendship. He asked me to hang out and I'm not sure what the boundaries are on that/ if it is okay? There was talk of our S/Os joining but not necessarily. Is is appropriate to hang out with him? Or should I just abandon the friendship. I left my job the week I met him so we wont be working together anymore. he asked to hang out as a way of keeping in touch. Thank you all for the feedback! We are all in our 20s so I have never been in this situation before. I have been completely loyal to my boyfriend and have never been "the other woman" (although I have had men try to make me that but I have too much respect for myself and other peoples relationship for that). I am friends with a lot of males and have no trouble not having feelings for them so I didn't know the boundaries on married men, especially if we are transparent to our partners about it.

She is 19 and I am a handsome 52 year old jewish man. I look good for my age aside from my balding head and look about 15 years younger. She always closes her eyes during sex and refuses to kiss me and acts repulsed. She always talks about her infatuation with male celebrities like Justin Bieber and Shane Maleek. Should I dress more like them? By the way before anyone says she is just a gold digger- that is not true. I am not a rich man. She acted attracted to be when I was visiting her in the Philippines but then as soon as I brought her to the US and she discovered young hollywood heartthrobs like Justin Bieber, she lost attraction to me.

Just askin'. They say,that the best part of fighting, is the make-up sex. So, if there is no make-up sex, then the marriage is over, right ?