Or husband. Even if you aren't married, what would you do? You've only been married less than 6 months & she slept with her ex, she wasn't crazy about it but he talked her into it. What would you do? What if her ex is the one to tell her husband?

We have been married 30 years. Over the course he has always ran out and then want to come back. I would call him and check on him and often times beg him to come home. We'll he's done it again. He gave me the silent treatment for a week. I tried apologizing for whatever I may have said or done. He didn't respond, so I let a day go by, fixed him a nice meal and he was very hateful and said, "nope I don't want it".. I left him alone. He'd been trying to goad me into a fight but I ignored him. Today I came home from work and he's gone. He packed all his stuff and he's gone. My 16 year old got a hold of him and he said that he will continue to pay the bills and for my car but wants my 16 year old to keep the place up. What should I do? I'm so tired of this. He's done this many many times over 30 years. I'm 52. I so weary and tired.

Saw this link and was wondering, do some women simply get married to have children and use husbands as a resource for survival? . LINK: https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/30l3xh/perspective_from_a_ll_f/ Best answer: https://np.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/30l3xh/perspective_from_a_ll_f/cptgtej?context=3 i.e. neglect intimacy after marriage. I am not asking for, "some men will marry for..." Husbands as resources? Thats not a hard question to answer and I am sure everyone knows what that is. "I also wouldn't use Reddit as a source for this sort of thing." Reddit has more mature users and better answers than yahoo. On yahoo answers, there's always some teenage girl posting questions about husband cheating, abusing, they're all on here. And EVERY DAY this happens. "One does not have to be married to have children." THIS is what I wanted to know, why bother with marriage? Why the husband? Why not just adopt a child and raise it yourself? Some of these men are out there and stuck in an unhappy marriage. ... **Thanks Kingsfan, I already knew the obvious answer. The real reason why I asked this question is because I've been trying to catch a troll on marriage and divorce. Apparently, the troll is a female user with multiple accounts. (IZZY and Finwie). I am sorry if this offended anyone as this was not my intent. I am sure this is WERBIE from gender studies.

Ever since i've lived with this guy he wants to make a whole room his play room, game room whatever the hell you call them and now we have children and hes still trying to pull this crap. How do I keep him from setting up a play room in the extra room of our house?! He abuses his privileges and stays in there all the time. When I say extra room I do not mean an EXTRA room thats used for nothing. I mean the room that our third child will be going into, we need that room for our children not his space.

If he did not know about the kid because his ex kept it a secret... Thanks for answering.

Ok so this is a long one. My hubby and I just got married back at Christmas. He is 5 years younger than I am, and we dated for about 2 years long distance. In September he moved in with me because he couldn't deal with living at home anymore and we eloped at Christmas. I am working full time and paying all the bills. He also got a job but because he hasn't lived outside his family home until now he doesn't have a car or know how to drive. He has never paid bills and is working at his first job ever. All those things I'm dealing with and don't mind because his parents kept him sequestered in his room for about 21 years of his life and never taught him life skills. The main problem is since living with me he has become extremely needy. On my days off I will go into the family room to read or watch TV and he will follow me. I go back to the bedroom and he follows me. I go out to run or grocery shop and he has to tag along. I love spending time with him but sometimes I want a little space. I have told him this and he says he doesn't like to be in the house without being next to me. Its driving me nuts and I feel like I'm a single mum and not in a relationship at all. Help I don't know what to do.

We had an ugly divorce 2 years ago, I found him in bed with another woman. He was (and still is) best friends with my brother. I have ignored my husband at all costs since I found them. My brother was having a family dinner and selfishly invited my ex. I ran out to my car, and he followed me. He begged my forgivness and told me he would do anything to take back what he did. I told him I wasn't inrested in discussing it right now. But he kissed me and I kissed him back! What do I do?

My husband has gotten used to the routine in our sex life, I have told him many times that I am unhappy with how things are and would like him to put in more effort. It's gotten to the point where I say No to sex a lot of the time because it just feels like a chore. I do all of the work and I basically use a toy to get myself off. It feels almost mechanical instead of loving. I'm not asking for a lot. But when asking for more fails what are you suppose to do? I dress up for him sometimes and the most wooing I get is "will you suck my dick". Or he will pull it out and wiggle it at me, like that is suppose to get the juices flowing. I enjoy sex, but not when it's the same thing, over and over and over again. To be clear I have changed things up myself, given him great sex and he does the same thing, but it requires even more effort from me, and even less effort from him and it finishes as it always does. I have no desire to cheat on him or leave him, I would just like this to be fixed. We used to have a happy and kinky sex life, it has gone to hell and handbag. We have been together for 10 years. I use a liberator toy during sex, so I usually come before he does anyways. Doesn't mean the sex is satisfying, I want love and touch, like it used to be. exiting? Do you mean exciting? My point is, it is not making love anymore. There is no passion, there is no touch or love in our sex. I need a connection of some sort, we used to have that connection but he has gotten lazy. I dress up for him because it is sexy and he likes it. My point was that I am putting effort into it.

Many of you know my step-son flunked out of college last year cause his girlfriend's parents would take her to his school and let here stay a week or more with him in his dorm. His mom didn't see the problem with that and when I tried to say anything about it I'd get the brush off. Well, he flunked out and is now home with us taking classes at a local college to get certified in graphic design. No where near like an actual college degree. Well, he and his girlfriend made the announcement that they felt they were ready for a baby and actually are now pregnant. Yes, they planned it. He's 19 and she's 20. Neither of this have transportation and they're both still living at home. I told my wife that he needs to get ready to start paying child support and this was her reply. "He doesn't have to pay child support as long as he is already helping out. Child support doesn't have to be an automatic thing just because they aren't married. As long as he is in the baby's life he will be there to support anyway." Can my wife really be this clueless? I told her he needs to document every dime he gives her even if it means having her sign a piece of paper before money changes hands. Am I that so out of touch to where these two are going to make it in the world against all odd and just like most young, unmarried couples. I told her I give the relationship a year after the baby is born and they will no longer be a couple. Could I be wrong or are they going to be the couple that makes it work? She feels that as long as he keeps his receipts he'll be fine. I told her the courts could care less about receipts. They want to know how much actual money he's giving her.

My daughter (from a previous relationship) is in college and was short on her financial aid to purchase her books for this semester. She spoke to the school's financial aid office and they advised we go online to fill out an application for a parent plus loan. You have to log into the government's financial aid site and process it. Not knowing what my daughter's login or password was I sent my wife a text this morning asking if she knew what it was. She usually remembers stuff like this. I guess she sent my daughter a text asking for it. Well, so did I. I texted my daughter. A little while goes by and I just picked up the phone and called my daughter who gave me the info so I could log in. I guess my daughter replied to my wife telling her that I already had the info and my wife got upset with me saying I wasted her time by asking her then asking my daughter. It's not like she stopped her entire morning waiting on my daughter to reply. How long did it take her to send a text, maybe a minute, two tops? She's one of those people that when you ask her you shouldn't ask anyone else cause you only want the answer from her. Is she just blowing this out of proportion? She wants to be the only one to find out the answer to your question. If you ask her then ask someone else her response is typically, "well, if you wanted them to answer the question why'd you ask me first?" If you can't give me the answer when I ask you then of course I'm going to ask someone else. What's wrong with that? Did I waste my wife's time this morning by also asking my daughter for her login info?

I met my husband on fcbuk. I added him at first we started talking as friends. Confessed his luv for me after three months. However he talks to other girls online and told me that one of them was so cute and he talks to her also and likes almost all her pics as he does with me and wanted to meet with her just to see her. At the same time he wants to get engaged to me. However he always tells me that all the girls he knows r so pretty. After months we did get engaged. One day I left for holiday and a girl started to talk to him often and I read their convo he was telling her that he hopes to c her. After marriage he told me again there are prettier girls just cuz I said I was pretty. I was also an option for him as part of other girls for him but he chose me for marriage saying he loves me can't live without me BTW. I love him and I always make him block girls I think r flirty or he is flirty too. Is this love..

Okay run down of hw this played out. Me and my then boyfriend had went on our first vacation ever. While there we had went to a get together with a few friends. Several people was there male and females. There was this one guy there and honestly I couldn't pick him out of a line up now but I did glace at him (like I did everyone) apparently my husband now said I just followed him with my eyes all night long. I want to go ahead and tell you no I didn't did I think he was good looking "yeah he was cute" but nothing like my husband now has made this out to be. My husband never said anything about this until MONTHS later. HE asked me one night laying in bed about this when he first brought this up I was like what are you talking about then after about 30-45 mins of the conversation escalating - I just agreed with him. It has been 5 years now we are married moved on with our life and for the most part very happy - He like once a year or twice a year brings it up. He said it hurts him and if I would do that in front of him what do I do behind his back. I feel like I didn't do anything wrong but lie to him and agree since he is one of those men that thinks he is always right. I am so set in my ways I love my husband he is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. I am to the point were I am like seriously ... I through we was done with this. Look did I look at the guy yes (but not it the degree he was saying) ... How can I get him to move on?

I've been married to the man I love for 6 years now , we have a 3 year old child . We've been through many struggles but we manged to stay together . But I feel that I'm the one who always intiates , and On my free days or vacation I'm either with my son or by my self as my husband is on his video games all day long .. He comes and sets with us for few minutes to maximum an hour and then goes back to his games. Honestly , I feel lonely and that I'm in charge of many things in the house , cleaning , taking care of my child , laundry, cooking , scheduling doctor appointments and in many cases planning .In addtion to being a full time student. I spoke to him so many times and it just doesn't seem to work anymore. What do I do? Is it normal?

My husband and I have been married for two years we have a wonderful daughter who is one every day after he gets home he doesn't talk to me he won't look at me we're expecting it was planned but why is he ignoring me? When I look back I haven't done anything wrong... So why is he being distant?

My husband and I have been together for five years. We separated last April. He immediately had a girlfriend within a couple months, and got her pregnant. Now, he tells me he loves me and wants to be with me, but he loves her and wants to be with her. He doesn t know who he is anymore or what he wants. I don t know if I should give up, or give him time. We have always been madly in love with each other, and always come back to one another, but I fear our relationship is toxic. I ve never felt this way about anyone else.

My husband and I haven't completely said no to having kids, but we still aren't acting on the idea either and are getting into our 30s so it is looking like we won't have any. We are just very undecided on whether we want to have any. I feel like such an outcast everywhere I go, though. I am in a class of couples and we are the only ones that don't have kids. Some of the couples have like 3 kids already. I get asked sometimes when we will have any, but I just give a vague answer. I work in a place where the majority of people are older women with kids in school, people with grown kids having kids, or younger girls just starting to have kids, so people are constantly talking about it. I feel like a weirdo because I can't relate. There aren't really any little kids in my family either to be an aunt to. I also fear that I will be old and alone if something happens to my husband. I know it would be selfish to have kids for that reason or to fit into a social circle, but how can I get past feeling like this?

My husband just lost his uncle. His uncle was stabbed to death. At first I felt really bad for him but I now I don't and he is moping around I just want to slap him so bad. He wants to go to the funeral of course which will leave us in a financial burden. He is going anyway. I am going to just to visit my family and I probably want go to the funeral with his hateful family who all hates me with no reason. His family has put so much burden on this marriage because of their hate for me. Married since 08. I am now 27. My marriage has been hell with abuse cheating, lies, deceit. We have just recently work this marriage out over the past two years. I know when he goes around his hateful family it will be nothing but issues again. I hate his mother with a passion. I now have no compassion for my husband to the point I am avoiding him and feel trapped to feel obligated to feel pain for him which I don't. Am I wrong?

My husband and I are separated. We don't live in the same state and haven't seen each other each mid last year. But before that we have been growing apart. We have finally come to terms to get a divorce. When i start dating again, do I say I'm married, single or separated?

Me and my siblings only have each other. My sister is violent sometimes because she is special needs, so my husband doesn t want to my kids around her , and does not like her at all. He doesn t let me do anything for her. It stresses me out because I feel torn. My younger brother does not help the situation he is resentful towards me because I don t help enough according to him but when I try to do more his attitude makes me not want to be around them . I don t know what to do.

Maybe I have it all wrong. Since there's a 9 women to 1 man ratio in this section, and since most of you are advocates for women rights and not men's rights, maybe you can educate me how this affects marriage since I seem to be misguided according to your opinions... I thought women rights and feminism ONLY had to do with government rights and employment rights. What would you call then women trying to get better/special treatment in the home if not feminism or liberalism? I'm willing to listen if you just educate me without using me and my wife as your example. As a matter of fact, don't mention me or my wife ever again, it is none of your business any more. I am only here for entertainment and to do my part in helping men in their troubled marriages (I think you women have the women under control since you all hate men). I didn't just ask this question. This question was reported/removed and I appealed it due to cyber-bullying from the women who hate me on here; Yahoo! just approved of this question to be returned. I am seriously done with Yahoo! Answers since the section I enjoyed to frequent is full of strongly-opinionated, victim-minded, and misandristic, emotionally-distrubed women. But since this question is back, feel free to answer it so I can fully understand how women rights affect (your) marriage.

My anaconda is black and small. I have bad experiences in a past. All girls run away from bed once they saw mine. I lost confidence. After married, my wife is unhappy to make love with me. Is it because of my ugly anaconda or my way of playing is something wrong? Tell me your suggestions or contact me directly. Contact: darshankmistry@yahoo.com