My wife is leaving me and we have a child I do not want a divorce but she has made up her mind she has never had a job in her life and she told me she plans on getting child support from me and daycare cost so she can go to collage I work in the oil field and my job is on the rocks big time with the oil glut they told us we may have a few weeks of work left and to start looking for a new job if I get laid off what would happen to me in court as far as child support goes

There something going on with me . My heart say make this marriage work but my brain says get anulled. Because I feel like I have to force myself to be a good wife . I have to forced myself to cook for hubby when I don't want to and do stuff for him . Sometimes I feel like I should be alone and move out .. Can you try to help me figure this out? I really want to help hubby out with stuff like make his breakfast but only when it's a good time for me yet u do it anyway . Example: hubby needs breakfast but I'm sleeping.. I wake myself up so I can make him breakfast even though he can make it himself. Then when that's done , I can't go back to sleep since it woke me up . Is this what marriage is all about ?? Taking care of spouse We only been married for a year . We are in our 20s.

He's actually kind in general, but sometimes we fight, and the cause is always the same. When he's playing video games, he's so distracted, so when I ask him something, he actually doesn't listen, but to avoid detection, he "pretends" to answer confidently, but the answer is "off". For example, I was looking for the floss after we returned from holiday, and he keeps repeating he put it in suitcase A (he was in the bedroom, playing, and I was in the living room). I told him I saw no floss in suitcase A, but he kept repeating "it's absolutely in suitcase A." I rummaged for a long time until I finally scream for him to come. When he came out, he directly went to suitcase B to retrieve the floss. When I rebuked him why he kept saying suitcase A, he said he forgot he actually put it in suitcase B (if he really forgot, why he directly came to suitcase B?). He came up with 1000 excuses without finally confessing he was distracted when answering. Ystd. I asked him to cut tomatoes with knife A. He (playing) said, "ok, give me knife B." I said, "knife A is more suitable for cutting tomatoes." He (still playing) said, "no, knife B." I looked for knife B, and when I turned to give him knife B, he was already cutting tomatoes with knife A. He even said, "Knife A is more suitable for cutting tomatoes." I kept telling him, "That's what I said!" But instead he kept preaching me why knife A is more suitable. I'm so frustrated at times and then we fight. Are men often like this? BAM, Thanks for the answer. However, he plays quite a lot (can be hours in the evening in weekdays), and sometimes I need to ask him something.

My ex boyfriend who I have two kids by and I are back together and we have been together for about a month now. We were together for 4 years before and we broke up about 3 months after our youngest child was born which was 4 years ago but before we even officially got back together we were connecting again so I knew it was going to happen before it did. But now he's saying he wants to get married and possibly do it this summer. We were engaged before when I got pregnant the first time but we just never got married but is it too soon for us to get married now since we've only been back together for such a short time?

My husband spends more time on his phone than anything. I talk to him and he ignores me. I understand during the week when he works. But on the weekend he hides upstairs and plays on his phone. He ignores our daughter and only gives attention when he yells. He also could care less about sex. We only have sex for procreation purposes. We haven't been married long and were in our mif 20s. And I know he's not cheating because he he has never been able to get girls. I'm the only one he has been with. So my question is...does anyone else deal with this or have any advice?

Ok my husbands ex girlfriend is friends with my mother in law and sister in law and they don't talk but they still like each other's stuff but they won't like my stuff and my sister in law won't talk to me on fb ? Shouldn't the girlfriend move on ??

So my husband is 23 and I am 21. He'll eat maybe a piece of toast or apple for breakfast then eat something for lunch and just drink through dinner and pass out. He was beaten by his father and was homeless for a while as a teen. I do not know what has come over him when we dated he did not drink he was an honorable missionary but now he drinks continually. I find myself awakened at night from him falling which I have to help him get to the couch or the bed. I love him but I'm not sure what course of action I have. His drinking is affecting his work and school, the Bishop, my family, ,his mom, and friends and my friends are all worried about him as well as my safety. I tried to throw away his whiskey but he pushed me in a drunken rage.... He immediately began crying and begging for forgiveness. He does not want to admit that he drinks or smokes pot because it is not allowed in our church. I know I should plan an intervention, and my father can pay for his treatment but how should I go about this without disgracing his good name to get him help?

Recently my gf got a text from her ex husband that was a link to a YouTube video or a very dorky cartoon character on tv that had the same name as me. I asked her if he was mocking me and she got mad at me and said he wasn't and she can't discuss things with me about him because I always think something bad. She also lied and said she doesn't talk to her ex anymore unless it's about the kids which was obviously a lie. He had also been brining her over dinner which she never told me about either. Do you think he was making fun of me?

We have a blended family and next weekend my husband's 2 kids are spending the weekend with us. One of the children has serious special needs. He has to be at an arm's length otherwise he will destroy the house....think 18 month old in a 10 year old body. His other daughter is having a dance competition on Saturday. He said that he was going to take her and go, and that his son was going to stay home with me. I felt like I have been the "babysitter" for a while now. I told him that he will have to hire a sitter because I would like to go to the dance competition as well. I have no problem helping out, but I do have a problem with helping out ALL THE TIME. I work full-time, I am in charge of everything in the house...including watching the kids. And he is going to go to the dance competition with his ex-wife and I'm supposed to be at home watching his son? I'm really frustrated.

My ex husband and I have two children together. He cannot be around them unsupervised because of illegal things he's been investigated for regarding children however his parents and mine will often be with him when he is with the kids. My ex husband and my youngest son have told me they want me to spend Sunday's with them going to lunch and going to the park then hanging out together. I have recently started dating again and this is the only day my boyfriend of over six months gets off work. My boyfriend has been my rock and very supportive financially and emotionally and I miss seeing him. My ex husband is very ally abusive and controlling. Should I give in and spend Sunday's with my ex husband and or kids or have my parents spend time with him and the kids since we are no longer a couple I don't want to mislead our kids anyways.

My husband has cheated on me 3 times since we ve gotten married 2 years ago. His most recent affair has really taken a toll on our relationship. I love him and I definitely don t want a divorce. I can t picture my life without him as my husband. I caught them together at his mom s house butt naked. I attacked her and my husband called the police. When the police got there, she pressed charges against me and my husband wrote a statement against me as well but he did it only to show off in front of her and to keep up the lie he told her about us not being together, etc. I made him come back home and text her telling her that he wanted nothing to do with her. A few weeks later, I discovered her number in his call log. He d been calling her everyday and texting her. I called her and cussed her out, asking for answers. She told me to go ask him and hung up in my face. I made the mistake of calling her multiple times after (out of anger) and she went to the police again. I ended up getting arrested at my job because of this and got fired shortly after. but it s like my husband doesn t have any remorse cause he s still trying to get in contact with her even after I made him change his number and she changed hers. He went to her job looking for her and I ve found messages he d sent to other people to have delivered to her. This has been ongoing for 8 months and i don t want to lose my family. I feel like this girl has ruined my life.

How will it affect my SSI in the case that my fiance or "husband" is an undocumented immigrant. He is a legal Maryland resident, but he does not have a social security number.

So I want to get married to this 42 year old man, he promised me he would provide me everything .. do you think im ready for marriage? I know him for 3 years and we've spent 3 years every day - talking to each other..

I know a guy who just came back from living in Japan and he described dinners where the married man invites his single friend, the married woman invites hers... and it s linked to trying to get single people married before 30, esp. women. Does it have a name?

When he gets upset he uses my maiden name. Is this some sort of behavior that s common??? Or just a way to make me angry?? Any thoughts on this issue??

We have a permissive household. I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, and she will not hold me accountable for my responsibilities except by whining/moaning/complaining. She expects the same in return. She wants to do whatever she wants, whenever she wants to, and not be held accountable for any of her responsibilities. When I try to hold her accountable, she deflects and fights me. When she tries to hold me accountable (which is hypocritical since this is HER belief to be permissive in the first place), I am expected to accept accountability and fix whatever it is that she wants fixed (normally man chore related like taking trash out or cleaning up cat or dog puke). While I can respect her "Libertarian" and "no one is the boss of me" atmosphere, it isn't helping our children. The children are getting D's and E's in school, the teacher says that are acting inappropriately in class, and at home they don't do any chores (they don't have to, they can do whatever they want, when they want to, and not be held accountable for their responsibilities except by whining/moaning/complaining).... I've tried to think of bribes and punishments to correct this, but my wife sabotages these efforts because ultimately she's a "rebel" and wants our children to not feel "held back" by an "oppressor"... Since my wife does not value rules, policies, regulations, norms, gender-ism, authority, and vows; if do you think if I ignored her and pretended she had NO value she would change her mind? I've been wanting to create an authoritative (high control but high love) family for a long time now. She hates ALL forms of control and refuses to be a controller or to be the controlled... Me on the other hand, I'm fine with both as long as it was agreed upon that I was the controller or the controlled so I can be used as a role model or an example... This permissive lifestyle is only going to raise children who flip burgers. This is not a joke or a riddle. This is truly what it's like in my household. And I understand that ignoring her to teach her a lesson sounds like I'm treating my wife like a child, but I don't know what other way to treat her since compromising isn't an option since anything I try to do she "rebels" against. And she doesn't have any ideas of her own except maintain the status quo.

Yes, he is younger and he's my husband. Big deal, right? Well, my peers feel I made a huge mistake. Who are they to question my marriage? They, my friends, feel they are looking out for my best interest but they are accusing my husband of using me. Thoughts?

I'm about to file legal separation. My husband is very controlling. He fired our babysitter without pay and hired his sister. I don't want her to babysit. She has a mobile business as a phone sex worker, has low morals and narcissistic personality disorder. I asked him of we can choose a babysitter we both like together. He said no, his sister is going to babysit. And if I don't let her in in the morning, he's going to let her in himself or give her a key. Is this legal if I disagree with it? What do I do?? Can I call the police and kick her out?

Tf so, are you mostly okay with it? If not, how do you "know" you're married to the "right" person?

My husband is incredibly controlling. I'm about to file legal separation. I try to reason with him, but it's his way or the highway. My husband recently fired our babysitter without paying her and hired his sister as a babysitter in our home. I told him I disagree and am uncomfortable with it. His sister has a mobile business as a phone sex worker, has low morals and has narcissistic personality disorder. I do not want our son around that. I have asked him if we can choose a babysitter together that we both like. He said no, his sister is doing it. Can he legally do this? What do I do??

And then, what's good for the goose ...

I'm a military member serving over in Europe right now. Been in 6 years and married to my wife of 6 years as well. She decided to stay back in AZ to teach at the community college outside the post. I'm living in Germany now When she visited recently she revealed after an argument that she had an emotional affair with one of her lab aides. Some 22 year old kid with an arrest record. When I demanded to know who he was she had refused to tell me who. Apparently, back in November she spent a month talking to him either in person or on the phone and actually admitted to ignoring some of my messages because she didn't want to hear me vent about crap at my job. After putting me down to this college kid he eventually started convincing her that I was a bad choice and that's when she realized what she did was wrong and cut contact with him. She claims she deleted hus texts to move forward with me but I can't shake the breach of trust or dishonesty. To make matters worse. I found out after trying to grab something for her out of her bag that she bought a brand new 2016 mustang for $25,000 and she never told me. In fact she was at a loss for words when I inquired about the key. She says it's due to me not doing enough chores over the years. Questions... Did I have a right to know who this kid was? She says no. Does all this account for a newfound distrust in my wife? If so how does one react to this? Is men not doing enough chores in the house a proper cause to cheat in some form

2 years ago I remarried and my husband has 3 children (I have 2). 2 of his children have special needs. His ex-wife suffers from munchausen by proxy and she really is literally...crazy. Since we have married I have noticed that I am doing almost all of the parenting and housecleaning. I also work full-time. I have expressed my frustration numerous times and things start to get better for a while and then they go back to how they were. My husband has really bad anxiety and will get angry and yell all the time. Most of the time it seems that it is directed at me. He started taking medication which has helped, but again....it's going back to how things were. I explained that we need a vacation and yesterday he said instead of going on vacation maybe we should have his kids come over since it's their break. I have to mention that his kids come over every week and I am a kindergarten teacher so when we have a break that's when I have to take my vacation. I was really upset by this because we had plans and if his kids came over he would be going to work and I would be the one watching them. Maybe I'm a sucker because as soon as he says he loves me and hold me...I cave in and feel like he loves me. One of his children lives with us full-time and she goes to school with me, I watch her when he is not home, and I am with her 24/7. She has special needs as well and I am really feeling burnt out. I must stress that he was not like this when we were not married. Should I leave my husband? Should I leave my husband?? I feel stuck. There is always "drama" with his ex-wife and I know that is nothing new for most people, but she is a bully, manipulative, and rude. I have stopped talking with her at all unless it is regarding the kids. When my husband's kids come over they destroy the house...literally. My stepson stayed awake all night last time and took apart all the electronics in the house. I don't know how things got so bad, but I don't know if I can take it anymore.

So we finalized everything a little over a year ago. We both share 50-50 custody with me as the residential parent. Recently I got a job that has me working the same hours, but I leave later in the day. Since my son's daycare closes when I leave his grandma picks him up and I go get him. I've noticed has been showing some separation anxiety since then and my ex has proposed to pick him up on my days instead of his grandma and I go get him after work. She said she would also be willing to sign something stating this is an agreed arrangement between us. However, this still has me a little worried as I would be concerned this could be something she would try to use against me at some day. Any thoughtful advice would be appreciated

If one would prefer that area to look a little neater or smoother, without hurting feelings how would one ask his wife to shave or trim it? Is it even worth asking at all?

Is telling people / hubby that I keep begging to do romantic stuff with hubby but he won't do them with me abusive???

Because there was some confusion in the first question, I'll try asking again. My apologies. Even though I have nothing to do with my husband's child support or the place in which he works, his general manager keeps talking to me about my husband's child support. I've asked her multiple times not to do this as I don't think it's right to discuss child support with someone other than the parent, especially in the workplace. It comes out of his check, so there's no reason to bring it up to me at all. And she's really nasty about it sometimes. Just the other day she even said "Your effing welcome for paying your husband's child support. " He works for that. So, my question is, can this general manager get in trouble for talking about my husband's child support with someone other than my husband?

My 36 year old ex-husband and I have been divorced for almost five months now. He has already found himself a young girl, she's 22, and she works at a hair salon.They have been dating for four months (I have suspicion that he was getting close to her prior to our divorce). I found her on Facebook- she's stunning, and seems to be extremely girly. First of all, for the life of me I can't figure out what they have in common. Of course, the age difference is weird. Also, my husband loves golf, mountain bikes, football, beer, and the outdoors- and I am far from girly and enjoy that stuff so that's why he fell in love with me. Second of all, I doubt she has good intentions, he's a wealthy business man and I bet she wants his money. He asked me if it would be okay to have her meet our kids. We have two boys, 11 and 6. I said no, and he's upset with me. I told him I don't want every young girl he has in his bed to meet our kids, and to wait until they've been dating at least a year. I also want to go out for lunch with her a couple of times until I deem her okay enough to be around my children. He says that I'm being controlling and asking for too much. How do I make him understand that I am their mother, and he should respect my wishes?

Our husband, Kale, equally loves us and equally divides his time so that we all feel appreciated and loved. He has a schedule that he makes every month so he doesn't get confused about which wife he's spending time with. Pamantha, one of my sister-wives, is very needy. She always wants to be loved just a bit more than all of us. She changed the schedule while our husband was at work so that he would spend the most time with her. I was the only one who saw it, and I felt it was unfair so I told him, and he changed it back to the original schedule. Now, she is very upset with me and won't talk to me. Pamantha and I have always been very close so this really upsets me. How do I fix this?

We broke up in September after 12 years together. She contacted me 3 weeks after we broke up and we met for dinner followed by many text messages. During our follow up date we argued and it just died there. We did sent some nasty texts back and fourth but she said its over, I am seeing someone else and don't love you, sorry. We have been speaking in the phone at least twice a week and for hours but she said she is NEVER going back as she will not allow her heart to ever break again. We are meeting for dinner & drinks tonight but she said its just dinner and that's it. I know I can make it work BUT she said she's in a different place and when she contacted me in late September it was based on emotions at that time. She wanted back then but she said she will never go back. She has been checking me out on social media but seems closed minded on us. Thoughts? Txs..

I don't have good marriage life. I experienced at least 6times of verbal and physical violence from husband. Be chocked, pushed enough to fly on tile. He act like sorry and changed but it seems like he is not. Recently am pregnant and we fight he call baby... Stupid... He can't let go anger right away again. Actually he doesn't look like interesting about this baby..He went to hospital one time.. He just talk about I took a nap and too much sleep in to doctor. He never bring me out to eat something I want to eat. He doesn't curious about how the baby is growing now.. I can handle he abuse me verbally.. But I can't hold it when he do to my baby.. As a mother... I might be do right decision for baby.. If I wanna divorce, can I have full custody and don't let him see us ever...? Do I need a lawyer?I don't have enough money to hire the lawyer..please give me advise....

My fiancé and I are having a baby. He said if we have w boy he wants to name him Ryan.. After a guy who's his bestfriend and who was like a father figure he never really had.. I hate the name Ryan. My dad died when I was 9, so I wanted to name my first son after him.. Michael. I tried to compromise as Michael Ryan.. he says "no Ryan Michael" Ryan Michael is also his bestfriend whole name.. I hate this and we actually just got into a heated argument over naming our child Ryan. What am I supposed to do in this situation? I hope to god we have a baby girl.

Married 10 years but have fallen in love with another woman. Before you think I''m a jerk, let me say that I'd never cheat on my wife, and this other woman told me she'd have nothing to do with me while I was married. My wife and I have a great partnership and I love her as a person but there's no attraction there anymore. I guess falling for this other woman has brought a lot of problems with my marriage to light. I feel like if I stayed, it'd be only out of principle, at the expense of my happiness. And it wouldn't be fair to my wife because I'm always thinking about this other woman. I want to do the right thing. I'd like to hear from others who have been in this situation. Thanks.

Would you forgive them & stay or leave?

My husband who is 25 wants to move back to his hometown Chicago. I'm from Atlanta and lived here my whole life. All my family is in Chicago. Me and my husband have a 3 year old daughter and a baby on the way (28 weeks). I love my husband to death but I'm not really sure if I wanna move.

Help I mate this man his Muslim very good Muslim I was divorced for three years and I have three years old daughter. Now my family is blocking from marrying him just because his African American they tolled me I have to go to back home to get married to same race in worried now I love him he loves me. Just because my past husband was African American help me advice me?

I m so depressed at home. I d rather be at work. I love my kids but I don t have the energy to play. My wife is the battery drainer. I can no longer live with her style and way of life. I m sure you all are saying divorce but there are cost with that. Sometimes I just feel like leaving the house to another country but I want my kids with me.

I was literally sucked up through my roof into an EF4 tornado and when I landed I crushed my spine, broke my heck, both arms and legs and many lacerations. I was in hospital for 18 months and 23 surgeries. While recovering in hospital my wife of 29 years left me and now I can't find her to divorce her. It has been 4 years now and still no luck. I am disabled and in a wheelchair so it is hard for me to get around. I have exhausted every option I can think of. I want to put this behind me and get on with my life but I don't know how to do it. Any ideas out there?