My question is, my marriage is pretty much at the end and I m seriously thinking divorce because the spark is just not there and many other things going on within the marriage. We have discussed it before but my significant other always tells me that he will sign over his rights so he don t have to pay child support if I don t let him keep the kids. Is this even possible bc I didn t have these kids on my own and to me it s only fair he help continue to provide for them. We have been together 13 years and have 4 kids together, 3 are his and 1 is from my previous relationship.

My boyfriend of a year is going out to a nightclub without me tonight with his friends who HATE ME SHOULD I DUMP HIM? And when I confronted him and told him how much it hurt me he told me I was beyond boring and crazy

I waited 2 years for sex and still none and one night my hubby was drunk and he got intimate with me ( no sex included) . He brought me to cloud 9!! Now I feel more in love with hubby then ever ! And more close .. I also feel i don't care about anything even my needs but hubby!

Lately, my parents have grown farther and farther apart. They have gone through this cycle many times, but they always recover. However, it's become complicated; I've just learned that my mom has breast cancer (we don't know what stage yet) and I've also found out that my dad has been going on the Seeking Arrangements website when I checked his computer history... which is a sugar daddy program... so, yeah. I was wondering what I should do about this. I don't want to tell my mom because I know she'll get really upset, and being upset won't help her with her cancer. However, I'm worried that if I tell my dad, he'll tell my mom and she'll divorce him. I feel like if I do nothing, then my dad will keep using this site (btw, idk how long he's been on it already). The worst thing for my mom at this time would be a divorce, because of all the stress that would come from it, and it would hurt me, too. I'm thinking I should just talk to my dad and tell him it's wrong, but I'm not sure how to confront him about it. Please give me advice on how to approach this situation without ending in a divorce?? tl;dr My parents kinda hate each other currently (it's cycled through many times in their marriage), and I found out my dad has been on Seeking Arrangements, which is a sugar daddy site. My mom has breast cancer and I don't want to stress her out by telling her about this. What should I do? I'm worried that a divorce may happen if I'm not careful... Btw I'm 15

So I called my ex a drunk in court. The judge orders both of us for a substance abuse 3rd party eval. I don t think anything about it (as I never drink at home with my son and rarely even in public with friends) I just broke my ankle and had a wisdom tooth pulled (with an infection and dry socket). I also have a broken back from years ago. I take pain meds. Regulated. Never doctor shopped. Never took more than prescribed. Never drink on them or drive. The evaluator dinged me for that and the muscle relaxer. The evaluation place said I need non-intensive outpatient therapy. How bad does this affect my custody chances. I live in New York. I had a DUI in my 20 s (on my bday) in FL. I m in my 40 s now without even a speeding ticket since that day. I m the one who petitioned for custody and take care of all aspects of our child s life (like every single thing inside and outside the home) Can this be used against me. Other than this all other documents show I m his primary and have been for the past 4 of our sons 7 years. His mom was never home starting her own business.

I Feel alone even if i am a married man?? I live abroad. I am in search of a job here. I live alone. I don't have anyone to talk to. I spend time in my apartment most of the time. I have no friends here. I wish at least my wife was with me. She don't even come to chat. She wana sleep early. At night she come for an hour on chat and says she is tired and goes to sleep and i don't force her to be with me. We are recently got married. Its been few months. I wanted a companion who gives emotional support to me when i need it. But i dont find any quality in her. Do you think she loves me. Do you think she is a good wife?

I know a married guy who has a female best friend and she was extremely insecure about herself so he thought that it would be okay to make her feel loved and appreciated by flirting with her. His wife doesn't know. He also feels like it's okay to tell his friend everything that's going on his marriage and his wife's business. I think that's pretty ****** up!!!!

Ok my best friends mother wants a divorce. Bottom line husband has been cheating and she s had it. They are 45 and she makes 15,000 a year and he makes probably 50,000 but gets mostly "off the books" jobs, how much he claims on his taxes I m not sure but is there anyway she can prove that he is receiving off the books jobs? They live on long island NY and she has an 19 year old son. He currently is not in school but will be in the fall. They both have their name on their current house which is in the process of foreclosure. What do you think will happen with the house and what will happen if he can t afford alimony? Can she get child support for her son? Any stories on how much you or possibly friends get with alimony and child support? Thanks!

Son that he wishes he d never agreed to get pregnant. When he gets really angry he punches doors and walls. It really scares me. He s even told me he almost hit me before. I m constantly on edge and I have trouble being able to relax (even to pee) night and day. And his job hardly ever pays all the bills. He never ever initiates sex and he has been unaffectionate for a year. What should I do?

My dad called my sister and told her he wants to divorce my mom and marry a 20 year old. My dad is 58 years old. my mom is nothing but good to him. She takes care of him and she loves him alot too. They have been married since she was 18. She is now 54. I know if I told her that he wants to divorce her that will break her heart and I don't want to hurt her. I wish I could stop him from making a stupid decision like this. It hurts me to see that he wants to hurt my mom. I really hate him for this. Btw his not cheating on her or anything but he just wants to divorce her and marry a 20 year old.

For the past 2 years I've made this commute every other Friday and Sunday, 3 hours her way, then 3 hours back, never missing 1 trip, to have my parenting time with my 6 year old just like our divorce decree says I must do. Then suddenly 2 months ago after I arrive my ex says she can't go with me and that she's not at home. And the 3 trips following that 1st my ex has refused to answer my calls or return my texts before and during my trip making it impossible for me to see or spend time with my daughter. I've called the police on the past 2 occassions to meet me at my ex's house, but they've done nothing, just telling me it's a civil matter and there's nothing they can do. So I need advice. I don't have money for an attorney so taking her to court is not a possibility.

My ex husband and I were married for 7 years and we have been divorced not even 6 months and his new fiancé (who is pregnant now) took my daughter to school this morning. After she stayed the night over there just last night. My daughters teacher tells me that she gave my daughter a note with her phone # on it in case I forgot to pick her up from school or was really late. I briefly asked my daughter and she said it was all her idea.... I also asked my exs fiancé and she told me my daughter asked for her #... ( I know that s a lie) Everyone tells me I m too nice and a doormat. This is very juvinile to me but don t want to be a door mat.. Any suggestions on what I should do? I would NEVER forgot my daughter and never have... What should I say or do?

My husband works a awesome job! He has a nice quiet office, tons of paid time off, awesome pay. I work in childcare because I hate the thought of leaving my children in the care of someone else. I don t make as much money as he does, but I get to raise my kids while I m making money. Well I work full time and just as many hours as him. When we go home, he sits there doing nothing. I have to make dinner, wash clothes, clean house, tend to the children, and everything else. I ask him constantly to help. But he says how tired he is and how hard he worked that day. I feel that since he makes more money than I do, he thinks he works harder than me. So its like I have to serve him. He will occasionally pitch in. But its rare. When he does, its almost annoying because he wants acknowledgment and he holds it over my head for a week. Now he s getting two weeks paid time off. I have to work these weeks. He is so excited about his "much needed" vacation. All he talks about is playing xbox constantly. It makes me so mad. No exaggeration, I work constantly from 5:45am-9:30pm every single day. He is so spoiled. I need a break but every time I mention taking a day off, he gets upset about my check being small. I want this to work, but I m tired. He says I shouldn t be mad about his two weeks off. But I am. Is this wrong?

I am 22 years old. I dated my wife off and on in high school (I wanted to date other girls, felt guilty). After school, I broke up with her & joined the army. She started dating/living with someone in Cali. 9 months later, he broke up with her, kicked her out, and she called me asking to get married. I paid her way to Fort Bragg, we got married. Things started off rough, and things remained rough. She wanted a high level of interdependence & control, I wanted a level of independence. I've since suppressed those feelings. We still fight a lot. I m out of the army now, and we re both in college. I m experiencing feelings that didn't occur while in the army: attraction to other girls, regret about "missing out", etc. I feel guilty for thinking about divorce. My wife isn t a bad person, but I am tired of pretending I'm happy. She gets jealous of my family/friend. We don't have kids. Should I stay married for her sake? Am I wrong to feel this way? Should I suck it up and try to "fix" things? I ve never actually been on my own (I've consistently been in serious relationships since I was 16). I feel like my life isn t my own. Please, don't offer Bible verses. Thank you.

I was suspicious because yesterday morning when I moved her phone out of the way and tried to turn off her alarm, she got angry and yelled at me because she thought I was looking in her phone at her chat messages. Actually I wasn't at all. But it raised my suspicions. This morning I checked and found out that one of her old real estate clients (the guy kept introducing new clients to her previously) had been chatting to her again. He is in his mid 20s and Chinese like my wife. A bit of history: that young bloke was the one last year telling my wife to take care of herself and he left food downstairs of her company for her to pick up. Meanwhile I was working long hours and we were not getting along too well. A lot of time spent like ships in the night and fighting. That same guy bought her a small tea set. He works now in real estate in a different company. My wife said the tea set was from an old client... he sent her messages about the tea history and at one point called her "baby". He also sent her a new potential lead/client that he knew. Her messages in response are polite but not at all flirty from what I can tell. This year we have been getting along well. Still some arguments but controlling them better. We talk about having children and our home will be at the lock up stage and completed after anothet 2 months or so. We have been married for 4 years. She used to go to dinner with male clients so there are some old wounds. Should I just ignore this? She has been talking with him for more than a year. Two years ago another older male client of hers interfered a bit with our marriage. We all went to ktv together and he started making inappropriate comments about how I should treat my wife. And she danced with him in front of me...even cried when we dropped him off home because they were both drunk and he was mistaking her for his girlfriend back in China. They had previously taken my car together to drive to another city to watch soccer games with others. Then she announced that she wanted to go interstate with him and I nearly left her at that suggestion. She had to turn it down or that was going to be the end of our relationship. Given the old wounds, it hurts a bit and makes me feel uncomfortable to see that another guy is giving her gifts and flirting with her. So my question is simple. How can I let this go and should I be suspicious? I know trust is so important for a good marriage. I haven't said or done anything that suggests I'm not happy or that I know her conversations with this guy.

I was at IKEA the other day shopping for an office table And I saw all these married couples walking hand in hand looking at furniture for their homes or new homes in the showroom some had kids . They looked happy I looked at them and felt kind of envious and lonely cause I was on my own I could have brought my gf but she was in school studying for exams so I went by myself

Or is it okay because I hit him first

my husband left me, because he claimed he "just wasn't happy" and is hiding from me with his family for months, wont even speak or talk about divorce. He lies about me and is looking for another girl even though he;s still married I made a fake facebook account and have chatting with him. He likes "her" a lot. Like a whole lot. Now that I have him in the palm of my hand, what way should I crush him?

So, on Sunday, my wife said some hurtful things to me, but we made peace the day after. Some things she said have stayed with me though. Since we have peace now, and she has a tendency to say ignorant things, should I leave it alone, or should I confront her?

Every time I do fill it out, I'm super careful and I use the accuracy checker on the website, but I'm always secretly nervous that I messed it up and will have to pay extra. It's never happened, it's just a weird anxiety that I have. I'm scared of the IRS! My husband thinks I'm nuts! Haha What about you?

she talked to me many times about having a baby, and my answer has always been the same: NO. recently she made a plan to trick me. and it worked like a charm. now, she's pregnant and there is pretty much nothing i can do about it. that scheming *****, so what now? has god forsaken me?

I can't change my spouse. I've learned to embrace that. But my spouse needs to grow from where they're at; staying here will only result in stagnation and creating a "status quo". How do I encourage my spouse to develop in areas that make them anxious, fearful, uncertain, scared, or insecure? When I said "in bedroom and out" what I meant was things that were sexual and things that weren't. The point is, she's a scaredy cat and quite literally stays to the same things that she's used to and familiar with (even if it is hurting her or others around her). Kind of like a smoker that can't quit despite knowing the risks; like her mother who now has Stage 3B lung cancer because she couldn't force herself to change even though it was for her own good! "You say you embraced you can't change her yet you are trying to change her" - No, I want to stop her from doing self harm. Imagine someone who eats cereal for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. While they are getting SOME vitamins, they are not getting all. Unless they are forced to try new foods, they could go their entire life malnutritioned. This is what I'm talking about. Forcing her to try new foods/flavors in life.

She's openly admitted that she thinks that she has hypochondria and that she tries to think of EVERY POSSIBLE (negative) outcome possible before she acts, so this has been an ongoing problem prior to my knowledge of it. I just need coping strategies so I can do my part in supporting her when I can tell she's going a little AWOL over something in her mind.

I have been with him for 7 years and have two kids. Everyone around me has noticed over time that I have been losing myself. And now I have noticed but I don t want to divorce until we get the kids back. Should I even tell him I m leaving him after we get the kids back? He has a temper. Should I just take the kids and leave until I get a court date for a divorce cause I m afraid if he knew where we lived he would take them away out of state. I feel like I am only here to please him and I feel like I m not enough anymore now its more money

A lot of times my husband frustrates me and makes me want to withdraw .He likes to dominate situations, conversations , he gets upset that I have a different view point then him, he shames me for my past, accuses me of cheating, calls me a liar and etc. I still Love him . But when I told him he made me feel like withdrawing . he told we I'm not a wife . That no wife would ever feel like they want to withdraw from their husband if it's real love . Am I wrong that I felt like that ? Is there anything that I can try explaining to him ? He's super stubborn . I also told him once(last night) , that I wasn't in the mood for sex (being the first) . I usually have sex . Last night he told me I wasn't wife like and he lost sexual attraction for me . Because a wife should always want to have sex with her husband that she loves . Especially if she's not on her period. Am I wrong that I didn't have sex with him ? Like I don't know how to make him understand . He believes I should ALWAYS be in the mood . So whenever he wants to have sex I should be there ready. Have any wives ever felt like withdrawing or felt like they just weren't in the mood at the time? Any advice .

In the privacy of his home once a week when it's only he and his wife? My wife helps me with my makeup so I look more like a woman. FYI- it's a sexual fetish of mine. It releases dopamine a I get very sexual when I do. My wife loves that aspect of it.

I am married for 3 years and am happy (except some minor hiccups, but who doesn't, right?) Anyways, recently I met with my ex who used to be my friend first, spent some nice innocent time with him, nothing happened which would be wrong. But as an after effect of that, something triggered in him that he wants to get something going between us even though we are married! Sounds stupid right, that is what I told him clearly too.But the thought is lingering my mind, it's exciting!How to get over it?

In the last month, my husband and I have been having problems. Before this, we really never fought except for minor tiffs. He said that he fell into this deep hole and he can't pull himself out. He is finding reasons to be mad at me and those reasons keep changing. In the beginning, he said he was overstressed from work and school and that I didn't help him around the house like I should. He said that I needed to step up and fix our marriage. Since then, he has good days and bad days. One day he will tell me that he doesn't want to leave me and he wanted our marriage to work, he said that his heart is where it has always been...other days he will just say "I don't know what I want". He is seriously depressed, doesn't think there is anyone he can talk to. I thought he would be better once he graduated nursing school, but I haven't noticed much of a difference. There were a few days that he actually seemed to come around and let me love him, but then a few days later he said it was too much. Now, we have been in an ongoing fight for a few days. I made the mistake of accusing him of cheating (something I know he wouldn't do) and he got very upset. He told me to leave his friends out of our issues, and that he is allowed to have female friends (it's new to me, normally his friends are all male and I did get a little jealous). He has been asking for some space to process everything so I have been staying at a friends house. I really miss him and just want my husband back.

It was a simile. Clearly this question isn't about cats. It's about a spouse. Therefore, this question belongs in marriage & divorce. Anger management issue or a mood disorder? Obviously a lack of mature coping, but how to encourage better coping strategies when they refuse to go see a doctor?

We have been together for the last 9 years in the beginning everything was fine God has blessed us with a baby boy who is now 5. Everything has change the last 5 years. Attitude,mode swings and the sex is horrible she doesn t even want to do anything. She does things when she wants to do them. But she still looks for me to prove myself. When she is around everyone else it s all smiles but when it s just me and her she has a attitude. I ve sat and talk with her and It becomes a problem she gets a attitude based off what I say and tell me I m selfish and I don t care. I m losing my mind because I don t know what else to do. I ve done the little things and I even sacrificed things to make a relationship better. And in the end I still get shot I the foot. There s a lot of sneaky things going on behind my back.I feel like just throwing in the towel and moving on what should I do?

How can i emotionally protect my wife?

My wife is from Ukraine I want to buy her a gift .cuz she will be very happy for gift .she is a gift person .she likes rose . Any other good idea I'm from Kurdistan Iraq .she will be happy to buy her more than one gift ? Or one gift is fine .

My spouse and i both have our own vehicle which is both paid for and still running good. I've been recently thinking about leaving him because he doesn't treat me good (cheating, being used as a maid instead of a wife and etc). Now he tells me we should trade in MY vehicle for something else. Does this sound right or is he up to something knowing I'm thinking about leaving? Wouldn't that place me in more debt to pay if i decide to leave? I would have to pay for rent for the place where I move to, car insurance, car payment and etc. Yes, he knows that I am thinking about leaving.

How did it happen and how was it later ? Keep :)

Can such a relationship ever exist ? is it even possible ? or does love and respect go hand in hand even if we cant really see it at times. Keep :)

My husband and I were married a year before we had a traditional wedding. We had a court room wedding; our parents then took over and paid for a religious ceremony and reception. "Our day" was set to take place on a Saturday, on the Thursday before the set date my husband decided to have a bachelor party, even though he was already married. He drunkenly confessed to one lap dance, then eventually, soberly, confessed to 3 lap dances after we had been wedd... from serval strippers. Should I still be mad about his bachelor party?

So my husband is 23 and I am 21. He'll eat maybe a piece of toast or apple for breakfast then eat something for lunch and just drink through dinner and pass out. He was beaten by his father and was homeless for a while as a teen. I do not know what has come over him when we dated he did not drink he was an honorable missionary but now he drinks continually. I find myself awakened at night from him falling which I have to help him get to the couch or the bed. I love him but I'm not sure what course of action I have. His drinking is affecting his work and school, the Bishop, my family, ,his mom, and friends and my friends are all worried about him as well as my safety. I tried to throw away his whiskey but he pushed me in a drunken rage.... He immediately began crying and begging for forgiveness. He does not want to admit that he drinks or smokes pot because it is not allowed in our church. I know I should plan an intervention, and my father can pay for his treatment but how should I go about this without disgracing his good name to get him help?

When I was 15, I met my now husband. When I was 17, we broke up because I wasn't a good girlfriend. When I was 19, my mother died and I realized how abusive, emotionally and physically, we were. So I left him, and we spent the two years apart in different states on the other side of the country. But we always find a way back together, and he's now a very different person. I find it very hard to forgive for what he said about my mother, and how I felt so alone in my biggest time of need. Today we had our first real fight, and I hid under a blanket and surrendered to feelings of hopelessness, grief, and anger. I missed my mom and my also dead best friend, and I felt overwhelming grief and depression. Although he tried to make it better many times, I couldn't seem to get out of the emotional hole I had digged myself into. He's a totally different person and trying very hard but I find it hard even saying I'm sorry because Im still so mad and hurt about the things he said about my mother. I'm now 21, and he's 25, and he wants to love me the way I deserve. But my anger and resentment is still painfully obvious. How can I forgive the person I've always loved so much, but also the person that has hurt me so much? Our marriage will be in danger if I can't forgive. But as much as I try, I'm still angry and heartbroken.

I met my husband when I was 15 and he was 19 (now 21 and 25)while in hs. Then, when I was 19, my mother died and I realized how abusive our relationship really was. We had no one outside of each other, and all we did was hurt each other, emotionally and physically. he said horrible things about my dying/dead mother, that I couldn t forgive so I moved out. In the last two years, we;ve lived in many states and have gone through many things, but somehow, we always come together again. We re now living together and married. Our relationship has been very different, and he is a very different person. I m still scared he ll turn into someone I don t recognize and hurt me again. And although he s been very sweet and loving, I know I haven t forgiven him for the things he said about my mom. So today we were in our first fight, and I got so horrible depressed I hid under a blanket for hours and wish I could die. He tried multiple times to apologize and stop the fighting, but I couldn t. It was like all I could do was surrender to the waves of grief, hurt, anger, and hopelessness. So although he has changed, and he s trying so hard, I find it hard to even say I m sorry to him. I feel so wronged by what he did when I was going through my worst moments, that I don t know how to forgive him and move on to a healthy relationship that we could have. We ve tried to move on from each other, but it just isn t possible. How can I let go of the past and love him fully again?

I HAD TO CALL THE POLICE ON MY WIFE TUESDAY BECAUSE SHE INJECTED METH AND TRIED TO KILL HERSELF, THE POLICE CAME AND PUT HER INTO THEIR CUSTODY AND THEI HAD TO CALL THE POLICE ON MY WIFE TUESDAY BECAUSE SHE INJECTED METH AND TRIED TO KILL HERSELF, THE POLICE CAME AND PUT HER INTO THEIR CUSTODY AND THEN THE AMBULANCE CAME AND THEY TOOK HER TO THE PYSCH ER AT THE LOCAL HOSPITAL. SHE LEFT THER YESTERDAY AND IS NOW AT A REAHB/MENTAL PLACE. SHE FINALLY CALLED ME TODAY AND BECAUSE I CALLED THE LAW SHE WANTS ME TO GIVE HER TRUCK, ITS IN HER NAME BUT THE INSURANCE IS IN MINE, TO HER MOM. I TOLD HER NO AND WILL GIVE IT TO HER, MY WIFE, WHEN SHE GETS OUT OF REHAB.N THE AMBULANCE CAME AND THEY TOOK HER TO THE PYSCH ER AT THE LOCAL HOSPITAL. SHE LEFT THER YESTERDAY AND IS NOW AT A REAHB/MENTAL PLACE. SHE FINALLY CALLED ME TODAY AND BECAUSE I CALLED THE LAW SHE WANTS ME TO GIVE HER TRUCK, ITS IN HER NAME BUT THE INSURANCE IS IN MINE, TO HER MOM. I TOLD HER NO AND WILL GIVE IT TO HER, MY WIFE, WHEN SHE GETS OUT OF REHAB. WE LIVE IN TEXAS.