Here's the scoop. My husband is a recovering alcoholic and is on medicine, we both work all week and on Saturdays or Sundays I want to do something (out of the house and food shopping doesn't count). He on the other hand does not. We are seeing a marriage counselor and she said it might take him a little longer to become adjusted to everything. I'm willing to wait until he is ready but what can we do in the house, I've tried puzzles (he doesn't want to do them) I've tried games (he doesn't want to play them) I've even tried sex but that only last so long. If you have any suggestions please let me know.

How is this even legal? It's 2015 and both men and women have great careers. So if I got divorce from my future wife and she is a homemaker...should she come over and clean my apartment? If that's what I was used to? I can't believe it.

Fiance' and I are both divorced. She told me out of the blue she would sign one if we ever got married. Long and short of it...I had one drawn up to protect pre-marital assets only and NO alimony. Everything we make together we share. Now she won't and says she will not get married.."its not romantic and it's planning our divorce." We haven't even planned the wedding fyi... What gives?

i am here in New Jersey on business. I went to Panera for lunch there was an open "booth" figured I'd eat & cram some studying for Grad School in. I'm sitting here with all my stuff & this lady FLIPS out saying how rude it was I was sitting there & that I should be at a "small" table because I'm 1 person. Goes as far as to get a manager over here to move me when I refused to move. I told her there's a million other seats granted, it was crowded her response NO JOKE "Where are you from you have a southern accent why don't you take your redneck a-s back where you belong." I FLIPPED OUT!!! & threatening to knock her out it did NOT go over well. I was furious Honestly, was how I reacted wrong? How would you have handled it? Everyone seemed to be giving ME dirty looks!!!

I've been married for 3yrs, my husbands mom died before we met, he isn't close to his dad and has no other family and not a lot of friends, moved around a lot his entire life didn't date a lot and when we met her was supposedly a virgin. We have two kids and he's a great dad and works hard at his job but I've noticed he's lied about some very small dumb things the past few years and feel like he isn't always truthful or forthcoming about his past, I know he used to be a major porn addict and don't understand how he could have been a 28 yr old virgin, he works at an awful company full of cheating men and I think he sometimes is leading a double life however I could never prove it because he's a great liar, an IT guy who can easily cover his tracks, and no one can validate his past or who he truly is, though he seems like a good guy most of the time I've seen him put on a show for people and man can he act, sometimes I lay awake at night thinking wow I don't actually know the man I married. He's got a good side and a dark side and I'm paranoid about what I don't know, I'm dying to hack his Facebook or email, or have a chance to snoop his phone but there is never even a second for it he's too damn good and I'm out of ideas on what to do. Any thoughts or advice on this? Is this something anyone else has gone through?

My husband has always gone out with friends when he wanted to, it was never a big deal. Starting about this time last year he said he needed more freedom. I said ok and he started going out on Saturday s. A few months later he wanted to start going to a local bar aafter work saying he wanted to be home before our young kids were asleep. I am more than okay with this. He went away for a guys weekend during the summer months. No problem. I started online school around the same time. I needed to record a presentation for a class and needed 5 adults that watched me present. I asked my husband and he was cool with it. The night came for me to record and he got mad that I was making him late for a night out with his friends. He left after the first recording without bothering to see if it Was good enough to submit. This past month he has told me he wants to go out on Wednesdays and be able to come home when he wants. I don t know if I am being unreasonable but the kids do not see him on Wednesday or Thursday night. Thursday night is his night to work late. Can you guys help me? Am I being unreasonable because I think he isn t how enough?

SO I have three children that I share custody with my husband. They are 11, 8, and 6. I have them from 5:00 p.m on Friday until 6:00 p.m on Sundays. My ex has them in between. I learned recently my ex is trying to get full custody of our children because he thinks I have a drinking problem and beats the kids whenever I get drunk. I admit I do get drunk sometimes but I never beat my children. So what do I do, I don't want my children taken away from me.

I went to a friend's wedding today and I started to feel quite sad. Because of the way my marriage has progressed in the last four years. As I watch the videos during the ceremony I could see that they really shared a lot of chemistry and they were very much like a normal young couple. And that makes me want to cry. Because I was young like them too once. I am still fairly young at 33. But in my marriage, the beginning was to ugh. My wife didn't want to do much with me and she had violent outbursts that involved hitting, slapping, smashing things and not wanting to spend much time with me. She even used to yell at me and call me stupid and dumb. Somehow over the years we forgave each other for the fighting or arguments and so I haven't left her. Our chemistry is still missing and she prefers to work hard every day than to spend any time with me. We both work hard. It's just the past is hard to forget and I feel regret. Even our marriage certificate was torn up and spat on. She has threatened me with divorce. Even went away for the day to watch soccer with another guy in our car. I suffered so much with her. Before that I had never been in a relationship so I feel like she spoiled my innocence and the chance to meet the right person and live a great life that had never experienced the pain and suffering of abuse. Fast forward four years and we are a lot better. She still gets out of control anger spells but I'm getting better at figuring out what sets her off. There are still a number of problems. She isn't anything like the idea of a wife that I had in mind. I thought a wife should protect her husbands face in public. Yet in the car today when she started snapping at me, I calmly told her to take a deep breath and settle. She told me to shut up in front of her friends. I thought that was so disrespectful. And that hurts me a lot. I feel like I missed out the chance to have a fairy tale life with a nice woman whom I share a lot of chemistry with and both get to enjoy being young and growing together to start a family. I also missed those earlier years of making more money. Now my pay is low at 50k (bottom end of average Aussie wages)... I'm going to put this question out there...if I divorced my wife because I couldn't forgive her for he way she used to treat me, am I being selfish? Will I meet another nice woman and have a chance at writing a new history together that doesn't involve abuse? I worry that the past will carry with me. Plus I look at my age and how long I have been with my wife (8 years) and I worry about how long it would take to meet and marry another woman. I honestly wish we could rewrite history and go back to before it all happened and start over. And live a nicer life. How can I erase or get past the hurt of the past?

My husband's ex-wife keeps texting him? I just recently married my husband about 6 months ago and he has a 6 year old son from a previous marriage. I completely understand that communication is necessary when it comes to the child, I come from a divorced parents background myself. But my husbands ex-wife randomly texts him letting out her frustrations and random thoughts, when she knows he has no desire to speak to her if its not concerning the child. They email each other when it concerns the child and communicate over the phone sometimes again when it concerns the child. But every now and then his ex-wife thinks its okay to text him unnecessary things, she is one of those jealous stalker type crazy ex-wife. Even though he doesn't respond to her it really bothers me that she has the ability to just text him like that about her thoughts and frustrations that have nothing to to with their kid. I have no hard feelings towards her nor do I pay her any mind it's just with this one thing I don't quite understand why she's bothering my husband when she's living with the man she cheated on him with and is about to remarry. Their marriage lasted about 5 years and she was cheating on him the last two to three years of their marriage, then she finally filed a divorce, and from what my husband explained it wasn't much of a marriage she was barely around. Is there anyway he can try and have her stop these texts and just leave him alone?

My husband does not want me to go back to school now. He said because of our 5 year old son and himself. He said he wants me to stay home and take care of our home. I am feeling deeply sad. I feel time is going so fast. I am 35 years old and in 2 months time I will be 36. I want to go to a Nursing School close to where we live. I do not trust my husband because of our past financial issues. He would not assist me financially in the past when I needed assistance (I had a difficult pregnancy). I could not depend on him, I had to work to take care of my needs. He does not want me to work either, because that means we have to share the responsibility of caring for our son, eg, who will pick our son up from school, who will take him to school, who will stay with our son at home when he is ill, holidays and so on. He said he would not want that kind of stress in his life at this time of his life. My husband is 54 years old. I want to trust my husband, but I am afraid to, because of the past. I suffered when I had no job. I suffered even more when I was pregnant. He wants me to be home and take care of our home. He said in a few more years our son will be more grown up and then I can go back to school. I am praying for understanding, patience and peace. Pls advice me.

My fiancé and I have been engaged for 2 on 3 years. He's much older than me and has never been married or had kids. I'm 20 and I told him I wanted kids early and that I'm ready to start my life , but he keeps listening to his mom who told him to wait. I've finished college already and I work , so I don't under what's the wait . He's 33 going on 34 and I didn't want to wait till he's like 40 and my kids have an old dad. Anyways I've been waiting for him to be ready and in the midst of waiting I developed problems with my ovaries and cervix and learned today that I'm infertile . Now I can't have kids and I'm really upset with him and don't want to talk to him right now. I feel if we had just had at least one earlier like I wanted, then I wouldn't be faced with this sadness . I don't want to be mad with him , but I feel it's all his fault .

I got married a month ago almost. We had been engaged for 2 years but I just feel it was a wrong decision all the way. I don t feel happy anymore. I feel low and depressed. It doesn t feel like home. I am just sinking really fast. I pretend that I m really happy when I m not I just don t know what to do anymore. I cannot end things because of families involved. and he wants to be together all the time and sometimes starts *** even whem i'm asleep and that bothers me a lot. i havent been sleeping properly anymore and he doesn't let me be away at all. it is suffocating me now

She claims shes allergic to peanuts but this is just butter so its not the real thing.

So, my wife and I are renting an apartment, but I'm the only one on the lease. Does my wife have the legal right to invite her friend)s) to stay indefinitely? I figure since I'm the only one listed on the lease and because I'm married only myself and my wife are allowed to stay in the unit. Am I correct?

It doesn't matter what, it can be sex or whatever just tell me because I'm trying to be a better person. What do you wish he did, do u wish he gave you more attention? I'm young in college not married I'm single but I need to know the ropes before that time

My husband and I haven't been married long and we've recently been discussing if children are in our future. He wants to have them within a few years, but I don't think I want them at all. I've mentioned this to him and he says too bad we're having them anyway. I don't see myself as a mother and don't think I'd be happy if I was one. I rather spend my life with my husband only and be able to travel, or worry about our health only, without stressing over a kid. We've talked about children very little before, but he had no interest in the topic because he always said why bother talking about something irrelevant right now, but now I'm scared this could cause problems between us. I'm still in a selfish stage and don't feel like putting my body through pregnancy when I'm already so delicate. I feel selfish saying that, but it's how I feel right now. Would I be the reason he's unhappy later on in life or the reason to push him to someone else?

I just recently married my husband about 6 months ago and he has a 5 year old son from a previous marriage. I completely understand that communication is necessary when it comes to the child, I come from a divorced parents background myself. But my husbands ex-wife randomly texts him letting out her frustrations and random thoughts, when she knows he has no desire to speak to her if its not concerning the child. They email each other when it concerns the child and communicate over the phone sometimes again when it concerns the child. But every now and then his ex-wife thinks its okay to text him unnecessary things, she is one of those jealous stalker type crazy ex-wife. Even though he doesn't respond to her it reallybothers me that she has the ability to just text him like that about her thoughts and frustrations that have nothing to to with their kid. Their marriage lasted about 5 years and she was cheating on him the last two to three years of their marriage, then she finally filed a divorce, and from what my husband explained it wasn't much of a marriage she was barely around. Is there anyway he can try and have her stop these texts and just leave him alone?

cause my mom has always been a feminist and she hates my dad who shes not with anymore... shes always so negative about marriage and anything related to men...makes me wonder if shes just trying to make me feel bad for not seeing anything wrong with if i end up in a traditional role. i dont see anything wrong with it i mean its not like i would marry a prison warden type of man who would treat me like a slave... lol

If your married & call the cops on your husband for abusive, will cops do something about it?

I am married and had an affair with a guy I fell in love with. it was intense and a dream come true. I got my nose pierced for him and I still have the nose ring. I keep a stuffed animal he gave me still on my desk. We are friends now. We have broken up for some time now and I am now pregnant with my husbands baby. It is our 3rd child. Is it wrong of me to still have the nose ring and the gift he gave me ? Or to accept any gift from him ? Or even to be friends with him ? We are friends on facebook Update: I have been married for ten years

I can understand abusive relationships, but others? Why even get married if you know your not going to be able to stay faithful? Marriage takes work, it's not easy, but if you truly love someone then you wouldn't cheat. It's simple as that. If you wanna screw everyone that comes along that may be more attractive to you, has a tighter vagina or a bigger cock, then you really do not deserve marriage, nor should anyone have to waste their time marrying you.

He dumped me at my family's house, took our daughter. He claimed he was coming back in 2 hours, well it's been two months. Lots of stuff going on, trying to work things out, but I haven't seen him since, only his grandmother. Police wouldn't do anything. Now, I've made a fake profile and he's added me. Should I make him fall in love again and crush him? You don't know how bad he's hurt me. Good idea? why or why not?

We were married at the time of the fling. I called her and confronted him. He called her in front of me and nastily broke it up. Now I get a FB message from her that says tell him to stop contacting her. Feel she wants me to know about it. Should I reply with "You're a big girl you can tell him" or just block her or ignore? btw, not surprised by jackass husband of 25 years.

Is your husband or wife someone you've known since school? Did you just randomly bump into them and start with small talk at a public place and it escalated from there? Has it been a lifelong friend that you finally admitted feelings for?

I know two people are second cousins to each other and are getting married. I know its legal but is it ok if they decide to have kids?

My husband and I got married but didn t pay the fee because we only wanted my family to think that we were married. The person that married us told us that it would not be valid until we paid the $100 fee and the information was submitted to the court. Since we didn t really want to be married, we agreed to that. Little did we know that he submitted the information anyway without us having made a payment. Is our marriage valid and/or legal?

I met my husbamd a yr ago. We were inseperable. We married each other after 6 months. We moved in to a new place. I started getting the hang of the married life, cooking, cleaning, etc. I forgot to mention that I have 3 children with my ex. He has 1 with his ex. Not bc it matters but I would like to throw in that I was born and raised in Ny and he was born and raised in Guanajuato Mexico. Even before we got married he would yell at me and say some hurtful things. Now we have been married 7 mnths. He works 2 full time jobs and only has 1 day off. He is very moody now. Explodes when he is angry. He hasn't hit me. But he has called me names, said I was a single mother for a reason and that reason is not good. I try my best in cooking what he likes, learning new recipes, I clean, iron his 10 uniforms. I have his 2 different lunches ready and snacks too packed every morning. His milk and bread ready when he gets home at 3 am. His pjs ready with his towel for him to shower and go to bed. I am not an angel I have lied abt stupid things to him and I was jealous at one point but not anymore. I am in love with him. I try to do everything correctly. I have never cheated on him. Alot I do gets unseen, if I moved stuff around the house, if I cut or dyed my hair or did my nails it goes un noticed. I got a tattoo behind my ear and he hasn't noticed. He has told me he doesnt love me. Idk what it is he is with me for. He says alot of hurtful things to me like that I am useless etc.

We are both 24. We have been together for a year and a half now and he's wanted to get married the whole time. I got divorced about 2 years ago and I was married for 4 years and with the guy for 5 years before that. My bf is really pushing for marriage and I keep saying no and every time I do he gets upset with me. I understand that he really wants to be married but Im sick of marriage right now. He knows how long I was married. How do I get him off my back?! Ive told him multiple times Im not ready. He just brought it up again today saying "Us getting married is less than a year away! :)" and Im like ummm says who? and he said "Us! :)" Then I had to tell him that I never said or implied that and now hes upset...any advice? Im sick of this getting brought up all the time. I told him maybe 5 years. Help! Trust me I have told him that I NEVER want to be married but he really wants to so I decided ONE day we will...one day...Ive told him that marriage is only paper and he says "Not to me its not." as if he knows..

So he was abused as a child emotionally and physically by his father and I don't know how to help him. He has nervous shakes, night terrors, and he barely ever has time to work on his job. His boss is a good friend from church and he is trying to work with him but I fear that he will lose his job soon. I was forced to explain to his boss when he fell and hit his head and got a severe concussion. He then had to go to the hospital because he was mixing pain pills with alcohol and its just been a roller coaster. He is 23 and I am 21 we've been married for two years but I just don't know what to do. I love him but he has really pushed me I've already talked to the Bishop at our ward as well as his family about it but I just can't come up with what to say to the man I married for all the pain he has caused me... He just drinks and drinks and I need to know what to tell him so that I can have the man I fell in love with back. So I packed up my bags and told him I was going to my parents for a week to reevaluate things.... As I was walking out the door he started to cry and said don't leave I don't want to be alone....he then said that he'd get help but he doesn't want to go to a rehab facility for his drug and alcoholism. While I held him I couldn't help but think how overwhelmed I am... Should he go to a group or does he need to go to a clinic?

So me and my boyfriend have known each other for close to a year now. We are long distance, we love each other very much and we're great at communicating. Once he finishes 2 more years of college, he will hopefully be able to move here. Once things get kinda established and settled we will get married. The reason for this is because my family disapproves us moving together before marriage. He doesn't want to be alone in a different country and depending on where he finds a job, we still may not be able to visit each other. We were originally planning to wait an extra year or two So we get married, I'll still be in college. I'll work maybe a part time job and he will work his. My parents will be willing to help us through tough spots. So my question.. does this plan look like it will work out? I understand that surprises happen, but we need a plan.

We got a spark . We seem to only make it stronger with kissing cuddle and hugs .. . Now every time I believe our spark is strong and I want to make it stronger leading to sex or even sexual intimacy , my husband makes plans to do stuff such as errands for himself to do such as food shopping . What Im trying to say is we have a spark but by husband is too busy to make it stronger at the moment . We haven't had sex for 2 years ! Not even on our honeymoon:(. Do you think that's why it's so hard to keep our spark strong ?

Hey all, So I m conflicted. I m married to a wonderful woman and have 2 great kids. 1 kids been throwing up, the other more violently and every 15-20 minutes for the past 4 hours. Yes - since 3am. On top of that my wife is in agony going through the same thing as my worse off child, except I m tending to him in the living room and she isn t being supported. I ve woken her up since then add it s tone to head to work to see if she could handle the kids in her state, as i am unaware how many sick days i have left - and I m concerned about getting sick myself and needing those days. As she s a stay at home wife I m the only income and my questions for you all are the following. .. Do i work, or stay home? - i feel like I m sick between 2 evils. Thanks all

So I found out couple days ago that my husband was cheating for a while with prostitutes. We are together for 10 years and have 6yo daughter It's a total shock.I've been deceived for a long time.There are so many lies, so many. It wasn't one mistake , it was continuous choice that he made. And how can I be with him knowing he'v been with so many dirty women. How can I have sex with him after this? He's wearing his masks very well, he gets what he wants , it seems he didn't care too much about hurting me..He was sure he's safe enough by doing what he's doing. I love many things about our life and I'll be sorry to loose it. However I can't lie to myself, he did really wrong. He made that constant choice and it wasn't in my favor, it wasn't one mistake.. He knew I am at home waiting for him..Couple hours of satisfaction was more important than me, than what we have.. It seems like I am paralyzed, I don't know what to do and where to start.. Any advise? Thank you all for responding. I don't know what I gonna do at this point. My mind tells me I have to move on. Once the trust is lost it's really hard to get it back.. It's hard, it hurts..I am angry. I hope to find a truth that will set me free Thank you for your opinions and advises, it means a lot !

me and my Ukraine fiance decided to get married in turkey ..i''m kurdish iraqi .from north of iraq. what are details we needs .thanks for help .its easy for us or not.

My husband is without a doubt the most thoughtful,caring and passionate man I've ever met in my life. We've been happily married for nearly 12 years and although there's no special occasion,I just wanna show how much I love him. He's always so go to me sweet,kind,caring,helpful,loving,passionate,romantic,and no matter how tired he is he always makes time to for the kids. He's always goes out of his way to make me feel so loved,appreciated,and sexy whether its with flowers and chocolate,oral sex,flirting,comforting me when I'm sad or insecure,reminding the kids to give me lots of hugs and kisses,and sometimes when i get depressed he'll (literally) get down on one knee,hold both my hands,and remind me of the vows we made to each other and to god on are wedding day. Sometimes while the kids are in school he'll come home from work on his lunch break,sweep me off my feet,take me in the bedroom,tear off my panties,and eat me till I scream. And once i get my hands on his head,well lets just say he's often a little late getting back to work. ;) ANYWAYS... He does so much for me and the kids and I have no idea what to give/do to show how I feel. He says my legs and butt are sexy,and my cooking is good. Should i wear a sexy outfit,or cook him something fancy? He says i look hot in shorts/skirts,should I just twerk? #suck at twerking -__- A romantic trip for two? Or with the kids and have some quality family time? And please no jokers,I want honest advice.

Her and, my husband has a son together so he earned my trust by me letting him spend time with his son, but unfortunately he ends up sleeping with her (having sex)..... At this point i feel like hes not completely over her! And i just want to divorce, because if it has happened once there s a possibility that it could happen again....