Im a female and i will be 23 in May. I feel my dad doesn't want anything to do with me. He doesnt like to take me dirtbiking anymore and going tubing with me either. It seems like he doesnt want anything to do with me. His sister my aunt wont really talk to me anymore. She uses the excuse that she is too busy all the time. My dad had me at a late age and it is not really that fair either. He is 64. I don't like that cos seems too old for me. I just feel like killing myself!!! Should I? He basically told me that he wont come over to my house anymore cos my mom comes gets me twice a week and that he knows those are the days me and my mom do things together.

So I'm 20 years old. And I'm female. I go to college and live at home. I have a 17 year old sister. My mom is very strict with me. I have no idea why, because honestly I never do anything. I'm not the type to go to parties and get drunk or anything like that. But with my sister, she lets her do whatever she wants. It's annoying because I'm an adult now and feel like I should have more freedom than my teenage sister. Is this normal ? What's your opinion?

i'm 15, a girl. i live with brother, he's 23 and parents.In my country sexism is a normal thing, but i'm a feminist, my family can't understand that. dishes, housework,washing, everything, what i 'CAN' do, i do, couse i'm forced. I don't say children mustn't help parents, crap no, but he is a child of a family to, why do i do everything? Once i said no, why me, and not him? but the answer, is you're a girl. and that's all. Also, my brother doesn't work, he does nothing but watching movies and hanging out with friends, i would understand if he's busy and tired, but i'm much, much more tired than him so :/ How can i fix the situation?

My mother when I was 10 got sick and my father had just joined the military so I constantly had to take care of my mom and be there for my younger sister while my dad was often on duty. My sister became old enough to manage herself and I grew to be very independent and look out for my success as an adult. I'm 17 now and have been trying for years to devlelop my own life get a job and a car and whatever else. My mom just now has started to be there for me and she's treating my sister and I like children and often setting really strange rules and disrespecting our points of view and at first we were like whatever but now she is becoming aggressive and very narcissistic and any transgressions is met with very severe and patronizing hostility. This is the very reason why my father wants to leave her. Its come to a point where nearly everything becomes a VIOLENT argument making the people involved who are typically docile, do things that are extremely out of character. I figured it would be best for my sanity and to keep me from hurting someone I don't mean to by accident that I should emancipate myself. I already have money and a plan on what to do but I just wanted to make sure it was a good idea first. If you would like more background I can provide if necessary.

My sister has mistreated me largely for a long time, on and off. She is a bit less than 6 1/2 years younger. She was the youngest and always got preferential treatment. My mother was very abusive towards me, and sometimes to my other (middle) sister. We have all grown up but the pattern still continues. You see, my mother singles me out as the one to abuseI was better looking and smarter/open-minded than the rest and for most of my life she had environment advised me very harshly. I sometimes felt like I was actually Cinderella, (because fairy tales tell imitate real life). I have hardly some anything wrong towards my youngest sister, but yet she acts as if she has something against me many times. I have a heart of gold, and have helped raised her. I have done so much for her when I was merely just a child of 6/7. My mother has taught her to somehow hate me, and was jealous of the bond that we had when we were younger. My mother would tell lies and twisted stories about how I was supposedly mistreating her when really she (Mom) was the abuser and control freak/ Narcissist... To this day my younger sister doesn't not see how much harm and abuse my mother has caused me and always sided with her lies and sick deception. What is your advice! Would you still try to have a relationship with the youngest sister (I have two). Even my middle sister had complained to me about her treatment. The youngest sister thinks that she is a good person but seems closed minded and unaware.

They buy take outs every Friday and Saturday. They come home with shopping bags every Sunday. The woman drives an expensive car. Their house is small but they have work done to it a lot. I spoke to the man and he said hes a security guard. How does a security guard afford a wife, 3 teenage sons and a young daughter on his one salary, in addition to all these luxuries? Do I need to call the cops? The man looks like a criminal. I believe he works as a security guard because I see him leave the house every morning but I think he's doing something else also.

For the past couple years my mom and dad have both been yelling at me causing me to cry a lot. I don t know if this is normal ? They yell things such as " I m tired of you!" And "I ll yell at you if I want to" and such things as that when I m just siting there playing on my phone I don t know what to do I m tired of crying everyday

My 14 year old sister will not stop smoking no matter what. She is addicted and she wants to quit, but can't.,How can she quit this?

My moms pissed off that I dont want them there in the room. I just dont want them looking at my girls privete parts and really it should onle be for me to see..right??? And my brothers only 16.

Before I start I just want to say I love my mom, I really do. We've had fights and our arguments but I mean we do push through. I've noticed that every time I talk to her, she already seems annoyed or that she doesn't wanna talk. When I try to continue or say something, she just blows up, like the simplest things can set her off. I'll admit I do get scared, when I do something really "bad" in here pov she often hits me as punishment. She never lets me hang out with friends and when I ask why, she says a simple "no" before turning away or just yells at me and tells me to get out of her room. They're moments where she is nice and we have our heart to hearts but it's not very often. I really wanted to hang out with my freinds this weekend since my friend is actually leaving to go back to Europe, and my mom wouldn't let me go to her going away party. My mom never let's me go to concerts, and when I stay after school she often interrogates me. I stay after school bc school is probably the only way I can actually hang out with my friends, I guess I'm kind of sick of it. She always nags at me and calls me lazy for never going out but she is the reason why, she asks me if I have friends and when I do say yes she only laughs and goes "no u don't, u never hang out with them" it makes me angry. Whatever my dad says he sides with my mom, so I mean no point there.

OK I was home. She is older than me. I am 14 and she's 20. I passed by her room and saw her. She was naked on the cam and masturbating. I saw her fully naked. I feel really awkward. She's really fit. Got any ideas??

I'm 15yo and I am so sick of them. It's literally because of them that I have cut and tried to commit suicide. Legit all of my self-esteem problems are because of them. My mom gets drunk almost every night and then she yells at me and says horrible things about me about how I'm so awful and a ***** and selfish. My dad is usually okay but occasionally goes into these rages and the same thing happens. Whenever I try to do something nice for them, it's treated with hostility, anger, and more yelling, saying I'm trying to "guilt" them into giving them stuff. In public they act like the "Cool" parents and they want everyone to like them, but at home they're monsters. If I try to sit down and talk to them about it, I am always either greeted with scorn, anger, or a cold shoulder. I am so sick of it and I really don't think I'm going to make it out of high school with my life/sanity in tact if things don't improve. Please help. I just want to be happy :( Oh and I just can't bring myself to open up to any of my friends. They all think I have the perfect life, the perfect parents, and they all come to me for comfort and support, but I just can't make myself open up to them no matter how hard I try and none of them ever seem to even think that maybe I might have problems in my life. Idk what to do. Whenever I try to leave the house when they yell at me, even if it's just to go sit on the curb RIGHT OUTSIDE OUR HOUSE, they call the police. So no. Can't move out. Oh yeah, and about the exaggeration... I will tell you word for word what my mother said to me the other night. "God, you're such a wh*re b*tch, I don't know how your dad and I had such an ugly good-for-nothing sl*t like you, you should just go kill yourself so I don't have to look at you." Exaggeration? I think not. Yeah, you're right, I tend not to listen to people who are a) biased and b) completely ignorant of all the evidence. Please give me one situation where it is appropriate to tell a teenage girl with self esteem issues that she should go kill herself because she's so ugly. Maybe then I'll listen to you.

My mom is having people over tonight; however, she was really busy running errands and stuff this morning/early afternoon and so she was complaining the other day about how she wasn t going to have time to make a dessert or anything. Well I was home alone because my mom and dad were both out and I decided to make brownies for her and her guests because I love baking and I thought that it would be a nice thing to do for her so she could have a dessert. My dad got home just as I was taking them out of the oven. I had just started cleaning up the counters and all the baking stuff I d used before I had to take the brownies out, but my dad came home and said "What are you doing?" I said, really happily, "Making brownies for Mom s party tonight." And my dad flipped out at me and started yelling at me for trashing the kitchen (even though I was literally in the process of cleaning it) and being selfish and all this other crap. It really hurt, because I was just trying to be nice and I WAS cleaning up after myself. Anyway I went up to my room to be alone and cry and cool down. My mom came home a few minutes later and took my dad s side without even talking to me about it and then said that I was being such a coward and rude for hiding up in my room and all this crap. Oh, and to top it all off, yes, she is using the goddamn brownies for her party.

We dated for 3 years in college, then started long distance when I went to veterinary school. One time while I was visiting him, I went through his text messages and found out he "took another girl home". When I confronted him and was about to break up with him, he claimed it was just a kiss. He begged for me back, saying I was his only love, the most serious relationship he's ever had, etc, and I took him back. Then later I got randomly jealous of some girl I saw he added on facebook. That triggered him to say he "can't do long distance for 4 years and put his life on hold anymore, it's too hard being away from me." He was crying the whole time. I begged for him to take me back, and he did. Then a couple weeks later, the girl I was suspicious of messaged me that she had been on several dates with him and they had had an hour long hook up/grinding session. As soon as she discovered he had a girlfriend, she ended it. I contacted him angrily and called him an *** hole. He said he was so sorry, he knew i could never forgive him, and I deserve someone better. He would always love me and care about me, but he can't do long distance anymore. Throughout the 3 years we dated he wanted to be with me constantly, texted/called me 24/7, told me I was his one and only,etc. Now, he barely responds when I text him. I stopped trying, and he didn't speak to me for weeks. Then he texted me "I miss you so much." I said I did too and wanted to be his girlfriend again, but he didn't respond. Why? P.S. now we havent talked for 3 weeks

He told me to go get a haircut today (even though I didn't want one) and then started complaining that it wasn't short enough when I got back. "Sorry I don't have your personal preference for MY hair" I said and then he started getting mad and called me ungrateful and that I looked like a punk with my old hair, even though it was only 3 inches long. He's never apologized for being wrong. At my baseball games he used to always cuss at me on the field and come to the dugout and get mad at me if I messed up. And when from the age of 14 he would sometimes force me to go to his friends house during football games just so I could drive him home when he was drunk. He's also kind of racist and hates that I smoke weed, even though he comes home drunk like 3 days a week, and it doesn't affect my grades or sports. And I only smoke when I'm with friends and don't come home til I'm sober. He says that "those f*cking n*ggers" messed me up, even though most of the people I hang out with are white, but I hangout with anyone who I like as a person, regardless their race. One day he came home so drunk after I missed a baseball game since I arrived late and tried getting physical with me. I started pushing him back and since I'm much stronger than him I pushed him to the ground. He started threatening to disown and kill me and started arguing with my mom. I could give more instances but you get the idea. Why is he like this? Im not a bad kid but he gets mad and can't accept when he's wrong.

I'm not gay. It happened after I got drunk in a party. I cant even remember how that guy ended up in bed. He said he saw me barfing on the sidewalk. I was really drunk that night and he helped me get home. I woke up in the morning naked with him in my bed. He said he took my clothes off because they were covered with vomit. Now, my dad thinks Im gay. My dad said the guy had his arms around me. How do i fix this? I havent thanked the guy yet. He left his number before he went home.

So I m a second year in college and last year when I came back home for summer break I found that over $900 dollars was missing from some money I kept hidden in my room. It was dumb of me to just leave money at home but I honestly never though my 17 year old sister would take it. I first asked my parents if maybe they had taken emergency money (which I doubted since we re upper middle class) but of course they didn t. They revealed she was acting out a lot and stealing money from them since I d left for college. She had taken a lot of things from my room (although not things I would consider super valuable) before I left for college. When we confronted her she denied it several times before she finally admitted to taking my money. She promised to never do it again and my parents made her agree to find a job and start paying me back, which she never did. Like a complete idiot I still had money hidden in a different place in my room that she hadn t stolen and didn t put it in the bank. I just checked my money yesterday and another $500 is gone and she left $2. I feel so stupid and upset even though it was my fault for trusting her. I m going to have to confront her again but at this point I don t even know what to say. I m so pissed off. She has a therapist and says she s depressed but I don t think that s an excuse for her behavior. My parents are considering sending her to rehab for the stealing addiction (she has other substance abuse problems). Any advice would be amazing.

ok my brother is 21 he is mentally slow..when my mom an dad divorced he brainwashed my brother an got him to move with him. well my dad ended up engaged. my dad he just recently passed last thursday..my brother still wants nothing to do with us much an is still living with her..no they they never got married..what rights does my mom have or even me being his older sister? we want him to move back home here with us but i know he wont willingly least for awhile an we think my dad fiance is just going to use him now for his disability..what can we do? anything?

My 2 year old father is an active alcoholic. He left us to start his own life when I told him he needed help or to leave. It was absolutely miserable the life we lived. He was verbally and physically abusive towards me when drinking. He doesn't want to stop and doesn't see himself having a problem with it. Since the day she has been born, he has never been able to fully be present for her. Always choosing the drink. He cant take care of himself, let alone a child. I can't let her stay with him for the fear of neglect that I seen over and over. He drinks with her around and doesn't care about my concerns.

Why is it that my mom and my brother want my other moms son to get less jail time for his crime? Her son has dealt drugs all his life, he never listened to my mom was always very disrespectful. My mom got very angry with him first then gave up after a while since he never listened to her. Now for about the 5th time he got arrested again for dealing drugs and having a gun possession. He is a grown man. Yet my especially my mom and brother seems as if they want him to get away with it and get him less time. My mom cries and pleads for him to have less jail time when he is clearly guilty. I am relieved he is in jail and will stay there for a while. You may think that i sound cruel, but he is a not nice person, he has abused me most of his life and i was so scared to be in my own house because of him.He put us all in danger because of his habit. He needs this. And my mom still wants him out! she thinks i am the bad one not him for thinking this. He will never stop his crime, every time he gets out of jail, he goes back to selling drugs, this time won't be any different. He is trying to act all innocent with my mom saying to her he knows its his fault and he won't do it again, but he is going to pick off where he left when he leaves. It makes me sick they are supporting his sick behavior, and i think he seems okay with going to jail since he knows he has mommy to support him always. Or he has some sort of a mental problem. Does this sound sick/disturbing to you? Why would you be frustrated if your were in this situation?

They forced me to come to the mall. Well its more a series of stores on several streets but I'll call it a mall for simplification. Anyways we werent there to buy stuff. Just look around and eat some place. Like pathetic family time. I saw a suede jacket i liked and they wouldn't buy it They said I don't need it (lies) All the kids in my school wear nice jackets and have nice bags and good stuff. I look like sh-t. I look like a kid with my stupid waterproof coat. Theres a kid in my school who has a driver. A fcking driver! While I get the bus or train or parents car in my waterproof coat. And I said all this to my dad and he don't care. Just said make your own money and get a driver. What's the point?? I won't be at school then! They act so poor. When they aren't even cuz they buy themselves nice things. They just hate me. They make me look bad and poor can I get them arrested I wish I didn't have parents I don't want to go to a thrift store. People died in those clothes. My parents are really evil to me. My dad even made me pay for my own salsa dip at the restruant cuz he said its my own fault for not answering the waitress properly when he asked the first time and so I had to go to the desk. And he act like I was some terrible person spoiling my moms time away from my baby sisters. Why did she even have babies? And I wasn't the only one spoiling it. My sister spoiled it too by tearing menus

Because my mother was saying that now he's going to see everything I do on my New phone. Is that automatically going to happen once he ships it to me since I live with my mother in Chicago and he lives in Arizona. Or is that something he has a choice over?

Me and my sister are 9 years appart...im 25 and she is 16...thats a big difference in terms of maturity i know. However im still living at home since im attending medical school and i guess you can say im not really "grown up" meaning my parents shelter us a lot . However i feel like when i was 16 i was already doing more ( i had a job, i washed my clothes, did some chores) and my sister is the "baby" she doesn t have to do any of this because she is little! when ever we have arguments my mom always takes her side because she is younger and that is really affecting our relationship because im starting to resent her for it. i dont know what to do anymore...have you guys been in a situation like this before...what did you do?

Her daughter is 28 years old. Her boyfriend is 40 years old. The mother is not facebook friends with her daughter's boyfriend. But she is facebook friends with daughter and her other children.

I live in an indian household and grades are the only thing my parents even talk to me about in about 6 years i come home they ask grades and like i have anxiety and **** cuz my doctors asian too and so like my mom will say he has b and not 4.0 and she won't help at all she prob even makes it worse and for spanish my teacher ****** up and lost my two tests and ow I'm at a d and have to make them uo but my mom literally won't talk to me and she's downstairs ranting bout how my relatives gonna react and it makes me ender y am i alive if grades are going to be a mark of how much value i hold and now I'm being threatened of deportation and I'm done with life rn

I'm 13 and my 10 year old sister whom I share a room with is at her friends house for the weekend. Even though my older brother is still home (as well as my parents) they both have their own rooms. I have no friends but I do have pizza rolls, 40 bucks, and a room to myself. My mom said she would take me shopping but 40 isn't enough if you ask me. This is such a rare occasion to have a weekend to myself, how should I spend it?

My mom took me to school in the morning and we were getting in the car she had the AC on (mind you it was freezing) so I asked her "why do you have the AC on ?!" She starts yelling at me telling me " I can't stand you you're just like your father!" I was like " idk why you're mad it was just a question" we were backing up and then apparently she didn't see that there was a car in the back and she hit it. Now she keeps on saying it is my fault ? As if I was the one driving or blocking her from seeing it. I don't see how this is fair. It's not my fault she didn't see it ?

I am a 19 year old guy with a 15 year old female cousin. She is a very nice person but is very shy. Her parents will not let her date until she is 16 which is a few months from now. She is very much looking forward to that time. She told me she has never kissed a boy and she wants to do it right. She wants me to give her kissing lessons. I told her there ABSOLUTELY CAN NOT BE ANY ROMANTIC RELATIONS BETWEEN US. She said she understands that and is cool with it. She said she just wants to learn how to be a great kisser. Should I do what she wants? It seems kind of kinky to me.

So my dad has a pool company that I've worked for, for about 10 years now. I just turned twenty and I know I work hard. Anyways, my sister started dating my brother-in-law about 6 years ago and he started working for my dad. He became my boss a few years later and then when I was about 17 we got into a fight and my dad was pissed at me and made me apologize to him when we were both to blame. Him and I got over it but now it seems like he tries to one-up me and believes I cant do the same work he does all the time. We just started building pools last year and he's been on the bob cat we use to dig maybe 5 times total and Ive been on it about 2 times but he just taught himself how to do it but says I can start doing it more when I have more experience on it. Im pretty good at it and he learn the same way I would be learning but underestimates me. Yesterday, I thought of a good idea on how to fix a problem we had at the time. A comment he made was "this was a good idea that you get every once in awhile" instead of just saying it was a good idea he had to throw that ending on there for some reason to try to belittle me. Also on the same idea i had he also said "Wow this was a good idea I came up with!" then laughed and waited for me to laugh but I didn't and he said "Dylan didn't think that was that funny" Why is he trying to make himself seem better than everyone else and like he's the best and only one that knows or to figure out what to do? Thank you

My grandmother is currently in the hospital with pneumonia. My family speculates she doesn t have a lot of time left. She s 88. But instead of grieving like anyone else, I kind of feel at peace. She s been suffering for a long time, and she s 88. I feel like it s just her time to go. Has anyone else ever felt this way?

I have 3 older brothers. They were watching TV upstairs and one of them ask me "Would you come up and measure to see which one of us has the biggest one". I told them NEVER IN A MILLION YEARS would I do that. They said "Sis, all we want you to do is measure our head to see what size cap we should get". Oh My God, that was not what I thought they wanted me to measure. Should I tell them what I thought they wanted me to measure. I am sure you can figure out what I thought. Will they think it is funny what I thought?

My boyfriend Bill came to my house and I introduced him to my mom. He immediately said "You are so lucky to have a gorgeous mom". Then he said to mom "You look very familiar. Have we met before"? Mom said "no, I don't think so". Bill went home and searched for mom's name on the internet trying to find out if there was some event he was at that mom was at also. He didn't find any but he found several of mom's pictures on the Internet. He found out she was a model and had her picture in several magazines when she was younger. Bill printed out these pictures and gave them to me. I had no idea mom was ever a model or that she had appeared in national magazines. She had never told me anything about this. Was I ever surprised. I want to put these pictures on the wall in my room with a banner that says "My wonderful and beautiful mom". Bill told me to please check with mom before I do that. He said there is some reason she did not tell you she was a model. Can anyone think of a reason mom did not tell her daughter she was a model? I think the pictures of her when she was young are of the most beautiful woman I have ever seen in my life.

I am a guy in high school who has a older female cousin who is a joy to be with. She has a great sense of humor and we have a lot of fun together. I arranged for her to take me to the airport for a flight. I was running late and she asked me how much more time I needed to get ready before we left. I told her "It wouldn't be long now". She said "how many inches is it when it is long"? Oh my God, she is talking about my d***. I think I am entitled to brag a little don't you so I said 12 inches. She said "In your dreams "Shorty". Do you think she was just having fun at my expense?

last year in 8th grade I use to go skipping she found out and she has hit me . few monhs ago she also found out I cut myself but she didn't knew the reason and she thought I was in a group where we cut ourself to see who feels less pain but I wasent in the group and a few days ago the teacher called her ssaying I was on the phone but that was a lie . so today my dad asked to see my grades I have 3 f but the consulr told me I can get an f on p.1 so I did and the rest its hard classes but for them they think am the worst and that I think is a game . she even screams at me that am the worst mistake she ever did I feel left out cause when my brother does something bad she dosent do nothing to him so yeah and I feel like thy hate me I don't know what to do !

They keep telling me that if I don't date or marry that I'll live a sad boring miserable life but I've decided for myself to never date or marry. Yet they still kinda hope I will even though I have made up my mind to be permanently single. What should I say to them if they try to bring this up again?

Please state your age and gender if speaking from personal experience.

My finances sister gave my son a bed when we moved close to them and now that we are moving she wants it back. We never asked for the bed. She called and said I have a bed for him, he's 3, the bed is really cool and he loves it. She sat him down and told him she was giving him the bed. She never once said borrow or that she'd want it back later. Now we are moving and texted saying she was going to pick it up before we move.I'm conflicted because my son knows the difference between have and borrow and to him and to us the bed is his. What do I do. Do I offer to buy it or just give it back or say no that it was a gift? How do I explain this to my son.

We drove 7 hours to our mountain house for the long weekend. This was last night. I have exams next week, so I was studying for maybe an hour then I read and slept the rest of the time. This morning, my mom woke me up and said we would go out to eat, then ski. I like skiing, I just don't want to go today. I said I didn't want to go, and that I had to study. Anyway, my mom sat the whole family down and ranted at us for half an hour about how we (the kids) are ruining her life, how we need to study more and get our grades up (because if I was that worried about exams in the car, why didn't I study the whole time?), how she always listened to her parents and we don't and we're little brats, etc. Then she and my dad fought because my dad was going to go to the store and not go out to breakfast, and she came downstairs and started yelling at me, telling me that it's all my fault that we're not going to breakfast. Is it really my fault? Am I going to break my family apart?

I have 2 sons they are 9 & 11. They both do great in school. My 9 year old has already got terrific kid twice this year and my 11 year old has made the national beta club the past 2 years, but when my 9 year old gets home his attitude automatically changes. He always has an attitude with me, always back talks me.nothing makes him happy. He complains about everything. You cld hand him a $100 bill and he wld find a reason to complain abt it. Nothing I do to discipline him works.it hurts my feelings so bad bc I try to be tha best mom I can be but I don't understand why he's so good at school and so nasty when he gets home. His dad died in 2011 so we live at home with my dad who he loves very much. My dad is pretty young (47) and has completely stepped up to be tha father figure my sons need, so he sees no fussing at home. My sons sometimes acts tht way to my dad but not nearly as bad as he does it to me. Can anyone give me,some advice please.

By nurtured, I mean the ones were people have been changed from what nature had intended for them since these people will have religious indoctrination and hardwiring in school that allows them to excel academically (common core). I'm having this problem since society is acting like a royal prick by denying me the right to he educated with the common core since my school had for some reason tried using the traditional method on me while others for common core. I also missed out on my religious process late last year when parents took my teen siblings and 27-year-old brother where the church now denes such process and instead refers me to RCIA (Bible studies and rituals), even though I was baptized Catholic as an infant. It's discrimination, and its disgusting for nurtured people to treat them like garbage by denying them what these nurtured people.got that others missed out on. Feel good about yourselves?

Husbands don't have the same problems with their father in laws. Why do women and their mother in laws always fight all the time. Guess it's not always the case, but it seems to be the case about 80% of the time.

I was aged 2 when he was arrested and my mother never let us visit him understandably. He is out now but did not make parole the two times it was offered and he will have to register as a sex offender I think for life. I am now 27 and do inmates rehabilitate or most likely is the the same threat he was 25 years ago?

My parents were strict enough and encouraged me to do well in school. The house was clean. When I was 13 my sister was born and mom turned into a different person. The house is always a disaster and she "homeschools" my sister. I am not against homeschooling if it is actually done correctly. I got married, finished my degree, and am now a teacher. My mom and sister are on a downward spiral. My sister is 13 and her boyfriend is allowed to sleep over. She isn't enrolled in school because my mom says they "homeschool". I was not allowed to have a boyfriend at this age and was made to go to school daily. This spiral started about the time I left home. The house is a disaster, my mom sleeps all day, and so does my sister. My dad works his butt off and makes a very good living for them. He tries to say something qnd enforce rules but they ignore him. My sister makes all the decisions and tells my mom exactly what to do. Quite frankly I am a little embarrassed. I worked so hard to get away from this and make something of myself once things started going downhill. They say I think I'm better than them because I keep my home very clean and get up early. This is not true. I do not think any of this is in the best interest for any of them. This is coming from a place of genuine concern for them, and to be honest a tad bid of disappointment and embarrassment. Is it my place to discuss this with my family or do I just sit back and watch them just go down the drain?

My mother is a narcissist and I am one of three kids. My older sister is the princess and the great saint. My mother worships her and gives her everything and speaks highly of her like every hour. My younger brother is the black sheep hid. She hates him and has even said when arguing with him "you'd better be glad I love you because I sure as hell don't like you". I fall in the middle in age but also in favoritism. She just doesn't speak of me (nothing good or bad). I am 23 now and out on my own. My older sister is 27 and my younger brother is 19 and lives with our Dad. He has learning disabilities and some anxiety issues so she degrades him for that and is embarrassed of him while my older sister was a scholar. I have nothing against my older sister as she is a wonderful person, but so is my younger brother and hopefully me. Yesterday she told me my younger brother was a retard for not working and I was shocked she said this (he is unemployed because he was in a hospital for anxiety until early December after a possible suicide attempt). So my question is how do I handle this? I am jealous of my sister and feel sorry for my brother while feeling alone myself.

He always picks on me and just tells me to do things that had stayed the same way for a long time and if I don't do so he tell me to give my phone away and I know from the past that if I wouldn't do what he says he would hurt me (physically) and even some times if me and my bro get into a fight he can sometimes hit us both ... Any one give advice please btw I'm writing this after my dad sent me out of the house (please just don't send this to someone that would take me away from my mum I love her so much and without my dad we would be poor and broken because only my dad works)

Our father committed suicide 4 years ago and my brother, always an angry kid, has gotten much worse. He is now 16 and horrible. I am 22 and there is a younger sister 14. I am a girl so I can't be a role model really but I want him to quit it. He also steals things of hers when mad, tells her our Dad killed himself because of her, threatened her with a knife once and the police were called (that was back when he was 13). My mother screams at him but never enforces the rules because she can't, he breaks them anyway. What can I do? He is in therapy but after a while he refused to go back though my mother still goes. He's even stolen two phones of hers since just Christmas (one on Christmas Day because he didn't get what my 14 year old sister got).

Daily she cuts down her brother and his wife and often others she will. I get sick of it but am 15 and have to be at home. She won't even see her brother and got mad when I saw him over the holidays.

Today is my birthday and my parents suck. That is the intro to this question. So my friend sold my iPod touch on Craigslist yesterday that I got as a gift like 2 years ago for birthday. That was the birthday I got a real gift on. My parents got super angry and started saying like everything is mine and you own nothing and you shouldn't have sold that without telling me first. (They would have never said yes.) Please keep in mind that I'm not a rebellious teen that never a does as he's told, I am a very responsible and mature child. All that drives me anymore is my school because I just want to do well and leave for college. I was selling the iPod so I could upgrade to the next gen so I could get a camera on it so I could take pictures of my school notes and store them on Evernote. They said they won't even spend 70 dollars on my 15th birthday. And all I got for Christmas was markers. I'm not allowed to accept any money from relatives and I'm not allowed to get a job either. And if I do get money from relatives, they take and spend it on themselves. All they care about is themselves and I truly dislike them. They are also very inconsistent. One minute they say something and the next minute they something that contradicts that, and if you call them out on it, all *ell breaks loose. Is it a sin to just try to avoid them until I get to college and just try to get good grades right now. Just like become a quiet person and just stay out of everyone's way? I'm also not allowed to hang out with any friends because I "should do it on your own time on not on mine" as my dad says. IM ALWAYS ON THIER TIME! I'm homeschooled along with the rest of the family AND my mom works from home. So I'm stuck in a house with absolute *hits of siblings and a mother who works all the time and gets all this pent up anger that she takes out on all of us, ALL THE TIME. I can't go anywhere, hang out with anyone, do anything I want, buy anything, sell anything even if it's mine, I don't get birthday gifts and were stopping giving Christmas gifts, and I constantly do chores and work around the house. I also have to split the smallest room in the entire house with my little bro and I asked if I could move downstairs and they told me to shut the *uck up were done talking about this if I hear to talk about it I'm gonna wear the living *hit out of you... I asked once They never apologize even when there wrong and it's always there way or the highway. And my dad is always talking about he hates having us kids and that he'd be so much happier without us. Maybe he should though about before having 6 kids. I love them as parents and I know they provide a bed and food and education, but sometimes I wish I just a bit more than bare minimum. Especially when thy are constantly buying stuff for themselves... Constantly.

I've recently gone into foster care as a result of abuse by my mother. After the horrendous things that were done to me while I was in her care, I now no longer want to have anything to do with her. Does it make me a horrible person to say deny her all contact and can I be justified in telling her not to contact me aver again. I have tried to rebuild bridges and have been pushed away. "You think I'm abusing you or something?" "You think you're going to get put into foster care over this, do you?" Lengthy answers appreciated.

Just wondering how other people, particularly other male parents would deal with this situation. They seemed to pick on my son only and he was quite frightened by it all. Unfortunately I was not there to witness. The coach said that he did not hear it as at the time he was the other side of the pitch. This is only his second time to go there to play football and its in quite a posh area. My first instinct was to go there next week guns blazing and give them a piece of my mind but I am afraid that I will hit someone if they decide to be too confrontational so a couple of drinks might be needed to cool before I do. Any suggestions well appreciated

No joke, my dad just told me he was my brother. I googled it and it said if your dad is your brother you have aids. Is it right?

My sister-in-law is a good person but sometimes hard to understand. She is very sensitive and doesn't let my brother and their kids do anytime with our side of the family. Holidays and all are with her family and she is one of 6 kids so it is a large family.In her defense my other brother's wife said some critical things to this sister-in-law about parenting their Autistic so she was offended understandably. But, I would like to be able to see both brothers and their families and the one I am referring to here seldom comes because of the one slight by the other brothers wife. I am the only daughter in a family of three brothers (two married) and so I would enjoy seeing all. My mother is down about never getting to see her one son on holidays also. What should I do without adding to the conflict? I know my brother who isn't coming around says his wife's family is very rigid so I guess she may be afraid to say no to them. She is 42 though so I think that may just be an excuse as I've met her family and they seem normal.

I am in shock as my mother woke me up at about 5:30 this morning to tell me her nephew (her sister's son) was killed in an accident around midnight. Now I am seeing a clip on the news and balling my eyes out. My mother left to go to her sister's house and my father will be here to get me soon (parents are divorced but I texted him). Should I tell people? I want to talk but I don't want to be invasive. My mother asked me not to post anything on Facebook as my aunt needs time to absorb all this. I closed my account down just now so people won't be writing about it on my wall. So how should I go about the day? Should I go by my aunt's house or am I going to be in the way? This is the second of her five kids she's lost (an infant son died 18 years ago before I was born). Any advise? By close my facebook account I just mean for a few days, I will reopen it after the funeral.

Over Christmas I saw my uncle whom my mother will not speak to. I was glad to see him and said hi to him and his two kids who were with him (a third kid of his wasn't there). I also saw his wife who was there and spoke to her. My mother is mad I spoke to them because she stopped speaking to them 3 years ago since his wife (the uncle's wife) doesn't like my mother and her brother doesn't stand up top his wife. She also is mad that the uncle criticized her parenting 4 years ago when my older sister was abusing drugs (she has since stopped the drugs). So my question is how do I handle this. I like my uncle and his wife and their kids. I am sad that I have been barred from seeing them for three years. They live 15 minutes away and are nice to me even if they dislike my mother. I feel bad at the holidays that my other cousins get to go over to my uncle's Christmas Eve and we cannot because of my mother's feelings. How do I handle this? When I saw him it was at my grandmother's house. It is like my mother insults him once or twice a day. Second time I've asked this one but just looking for answers from various users so thought I'd ask one more time.

I'm a 17 year old girl. I spend EOWE at my dads house and the rest of the time I'm at my moms. My dad has been married for the last 5 years and his wife has kids with her ex-husband who died. Last week, his middle stepdaughter turned 10. They had a birthday party for her and I didn't go. Neither did my brother, but he doesn't talk to my dad anymore anyway. My dad was furious and he called me the next day and cursed me out and said I'd hurt my stepsiblings feelings by not turning up. I've never really wanted anything to do with the other kids and only ever cared about a relationship with my dad, but that hasn't been great since he married again. They already knew I wasn't going. I texted my dad after I got the invitation.