(Sorry to ask this here. Singles & Dating has 12 year olds giving advice.) If you kiss a guy on the cheek after the first date and on the second date you lean in for a real kiss and he only gives you a tiny peck on the lips, does that mean he likes you and wants to take it slow or doesn't like you and didn't want to actually touch your lips?

dont even gimme half da check its worth cuz it goes to there and not here

Or would you go for it. What would you do?

hi,i've been having this issue in my family from 2 years,my dad got married to another woman in 2013 he hid this from us,but now we know,he spends time with her and her little daughter too much,he never even gave us a damn even before his second marriage and he keeps on telling other women he only has one little daughter,yet he has 5 children from his real wife and the smallest daughter is not even his from the other wife,he doesn't spend time with us,he is at his other wife's house which is next door,he spends a lot of time there more then he does her our parents aren't divorced or anything because we cannot live on without our father,it's like he denies he has 4 daughters and one son from his first wife which is my mother,my mother never abused him he should be thankful he has my mom,but he keeps on teasing her and smiling at her,when something bad happens to her,but everyone keep on telling me he loves us,but i don't think so..

My girlfriend's father was unfaithful. That was several years ago, but her parents are still together. I recently discovered that my girlfriend cheated on me, and I'm wondering if there have been studies on how infidelity can affect a child's future love life. Specifically, studies where the parents did NOT separate. I've only been able to find studies where the parents separated/divorced.

He says that, but I still love my husband. At one point we tried to work it out, I got tired of him not showing me any attention and wanting to get drunk all the time and not seeking help. Saying he would get help and not do it, that was the story of my life for the last 3 years. What should I do? Honest answers

I recently got in a car accident and have been driving my wife car. My wife and my 5 year old daughters mother don't get along. My daughter mother to blame. My bm/ex would constantly harasses my wife while she was pregnant with our son. The harassment is under control and thing have calm down. But recently my wife blew up on me bc my ex opened the car door to get my 5yr old daughter. I was dropping off my daughter to her mother and she came to the car and open the door to get my daughter out. My wife was on the phone and heard this- pocket dialed her. She became very upset. My wife blew up on me she even thinking of leaving w our son. I'm so confused by what I did wrong?my wife said I didn't set any boundaries for my ex. She said my ex shouldn't feel comfortable enough to walk up to her car and open her car door. She believes I should of got my daughter out the car. She also said she been through alot of abuse with my ex and I'm not setting limits to show her (my wife) the respect she deserves. Did I really do something wrong. Is my wife being unreasonable. I'm more interested in women responses.

I m currently turning 15 going on 16 and I absolutely hate my mother she always tells me how I m an accident and how I should have never been born as well as telling me she did crazy drugs such as cocaine when she was pregnant with me. Not to mention she is with her ex husband who she has cheated on multiple times when they where married as he held a gun up to her head for doing so. He also beats me continuously just because I m not his kid... I really need help with this or a way to get out of here

I am confused on what to do. For the past year I have been involved with my boss who is older then me and a different race. I am currently married but separated but my husband doesn t want to divorce and I do. Well to complicate things I just found out I m pregnant my boss and I this would be our first child for both he s told me he s wished he had kids I m still scared I m 34. I do also come from a very southern family where you don t just do stuff like this I never planned on getting pregnant much less while still married but I do love him.

I m sorry this may be long. I don t have friends around here and I just need advice. My husband started his own job and we have a one year old son. He started his own business right after our son was born. He works long hours and is hardly home. I ve dealt with it for the most part. Over the past year he pays him self every Monday...Christmas came and I put money in my own separate account a separate account so I could afford Christmas. I was able to buy it all on my own without pulling it out of our joint account. But I started noticing our account just kept getting smaller and smaller. I printed out our yearly bank report made sure our pay days were all there. Mine were since I work for a company but my husbands was not. He missed 9 over the year which does not sound like a ton but it would add up to almost 7,000. I knew of 2x he didn t pay himself but not that much. We are now to the point that we have hit our overdraft max our credit card max and our saving maybe has 100 in it. I ve worried myself sick I m at a loss. My husband now wants to rent a larger building saying it will help make more money. But he is hardly able to pay himself and his employee. This is making my family fall apart I m scared to loose our house and vehicles. My son is at a sitter all day it s not fair for me to put him there all day to work two jobs. HELP what do I do!? I m at a loss

I have lived in the same house for 5 years and in the same area for 30. Out of the 11 years we have been married my wife's family may have come by around 12 times. They always visit each other just not us. We decided we would like to move to Colorado and now they are all angry with us especially the much older crowd. They keep guilt tripping us stating they will never see us again but they do not bother to see us now. My family moved away to the east coast 5 years ago and we stayed behind to be around my wifes family and in those 5 years like I said they did not want to have anything to do with us until I told them we are moving. Now my wife is second guessing moving even though it is the perfect time our lease is up in March, tax time is coming and we will have money. We hate it here all it is is fields and fields. There are no jobs or interesting places to go. What should I do?

My ex husband and I has a 9year old daughter. We got married when she was 6 months. Unfortunately our marriage didn't continue my ex husband suffered an accident which he diagnosed with subdural hematoma and suffered a stroke. With the help of therapy he walks but with difficulties using a cane, speaks with a little slur but he is definitely not what he use to be. He is a total different person. When we divorcedthe judge granted me full custody of my daughter since he didn't show up to court. Is it possible to annul this marriage in rhode island?

@Luke so you're pathetic loser self cheated on her first and thought that was okay? she should've threw you're sorry pathetic a$$ out first, I'm glad she cheated on you back, loser.

She says she should get part of my paycheck..like an allowance...and start a joint account. I disagree. From the start of our relationship we always paid our own way..even on dates, and she owes me money from the loan. When I gave he rthe loan to start her company she said she would make it work no matter wha things she had to go without. That was the way it was when I was building my company before I met her. I said no, but what should I do if she keeps arguing over it? we dont have children yet and im thinking of leaving her.. she says she wants children and that maybe this whole failed business thing was just a good learning experince for her..to be a better wife or something. Shes totoally different and void of ambition like she was before marriage. Like a freeloader She took the loan out against a house that belongs to her but her grandmother lives in. If I wanted to I could take ownership of it...i wouldnt kick the grandmother out, Either that i could take control of the bar i loaned her money to start..which is failing. become the general partner in that llc and push her out. what do you think? if she doesnt start contributing i think I should divorce her. She wouldnt be able to take any of my property or companies income. it used to be a loving relationship..but now its all about her trying to become a trophy wife or something. Shes my age. She wants to live off me all of a sudden bc im wealthy, but before we married and in the beginning it was not like that. She contributed equally and was very ambitous. SHe claimed she didnt want any part of that. I feel like she was just telling me what she though I wanted to hear. She has gotten very snobby too, and talks about..well more like brags about my wealth like its hers and she helped build it. I started and built my company..took those risks long before i met her. She probably doesnt even know how to get to my office. Never been there. trust me w..im weel aware of what my rights are. Ive made thousands of deals and created over 100 corporations. Technically i am the general partner..10% and sh eis the limited partner. She has my proxy to do most things except try to borrow against. She owns the house and her 90% stake came from it in collateral. that was put at hazard. I could cut my losses with the deal and move on anytime i wanted to. Its just such a small thing i really dont have the inclination. i am going to take jays advice. She wont like it. I dont want to be married to a women who just spends my money. She said the last time i mentioned it that none of my firends wives, or women i grew up with have 9-5 jobs, but thats because they were born into upper class families. I dont want a socialite wife..which i think she wants to be. Il give her a few dollars till march 1st, and then shes gotta support herself and pay some of the bills. utilities at least. And talk to a divorce attorney thanks frank..i was asking advice on how to handle my wife and her sense of entitlement...her suddenly becoming a mooch

He has to go pick his mom up at his cousins in another state. He also decided to sign up for an ultra marathon there unbeknownst to me. I am pissed bc he is doing another race just 2 weeks later. In the meantime I got an invite for a for a friends bday..limo and everything. This means he wont be back in time for it. I am of course pissed and thinks he should just skip the race and get back here in time. Who is right?

She is getting remarried and I am happy for her but she is telling our two sons that her new husband will be their new Dad. She says "well you Dad likes you but he (the new husband) will love you" and "he loves me so he loves you, Dad doesn't love me so he can't love you all". This is all according to my sons (12 and 9). The 9 year old is learning disabled and believes anything he hears. My new wife was the one to divorce me two years ago as she was in love with someone else. I forgive her for that but since then she has done all she can to get the kids to like her more. What do I do? Do I tell the kids she is wrong? Do I tell them she lies sometimes but still is a good person? So far I have not said anything negative about their mother and have just said we both have to learn from our divorce (she and I). Is this parental alienation or is that just if she were barring them from seeing me (she does not keep them from me). So any advise would be appreciated. I never see her as she insists on not seeing me but I can communicate via email (she doesn't return calls). Her sister is the one who brings the kids over when they see me.

Her husband died today

I caught my husband with a couple email accounts that he has been hiding from for 3 years. And goes on them every time I leave the house. I suspected that he was hiding something and up to something for the past 4 months because his behavior has changed completely and is always angry and had an attitude about everything and yelling a lot at our kids. Never trying to spend time with me or kids as a family. Barely spoke to me unless it was about the kids. But he would always say what an I talking about and nothing is wrong. But you can just see it all the time. I confronted him about his email accounts and he exploded right away with yelling at me and putting me down and I am pathetic. I told him I'm moving out. He has made me so miserable the past few months and had me depressed knowing how I felt abandoned by him. Never tried to make me feel better not once or spend time together. Ignored my feelings. Today he's walking around the house with headphones on listening to music. Has not showed any remorse for hurting me so bad. It's like he really doesn't care that he was caught or even acknowledged the situation. Acting like he doesn't care what he did to me. Does he really not care? I think he met someone else and uses the accounts to talk to the woman and loves her or something

I've been married for three years and have a beautiful 3 year old son with her. She is very ambitious and career oriented just like I am. She's got a fellowship in France and wants to pursue her research there. I am having a very good career here and wouldn't find anything in France. She says it is better we part now. I've tried to convince her but it didn't work well. I'm scared if she will take our baby with her. I love my wife but she has changed so much. I love my son more than anything. What do I do?

Basically, I ve had severe depression for about the past year. I got fired from my job leaving my husband to support us financially on his own, even though we are in a tremendous amount of debt. I did a whole lot of nothing, day after day, and had several panic attacks that resulted in me kicking and screaming. I feel so guilty. He still loves me so much and I have no idea why. How can I get over this guilt and make it up to him?

Myself and Edward been together for 2 years and 4 months . We been married for 1 year 6 months . Our relationship is on rock bottom : no sex life for 2 years . I marry him because we had a sex life then . Everything was perfect ! I found the relationship I want forever but it got worse .. We don't even do naked activities together. All we do is kiss cuddle and hug . I'm also very sad about the relationship. I been sad for a month .. Nothing change . I sometimes wonder if I'm wasting my time . We both want to make it work and we got nice spark going on ... It's like we're close friends but that's it . I'm not being treated like a wife ether . Te spark is what's stopping me from moving on to divorce .

My husband's brother (and best friend) passed away in April 2015 from cancer. They shared a love for sports like football and basketball. Fast forward months later, and now my husband is constantly texting his late brother's wife about football and basketball games, scores, fantasy leagues, you name it. I get that they both connect about sports, but it makes me feel awkward. Sports on TV aren't my favorite, but I'm trying to be a more supportive partner by watching stuff with him. So now when I'm sitting right next to my husband, asking him a question about whatever game we're watching, he's sometimes distracted by texting back and forth. It drives me INSANE when I'm sitting RIGHT THERE! I did look at his phone one day because I was thinking, "Okay, Anita, you have nothing to be jealous of." And to my surprise, the texts were really tame--from him. She texts him a lot and instigates a lot of the conversations. The other thing: we were talking about going to a Laker's game all together in February, but I wasn't sure if I was able to go. I made a comment that it'd be weird if just he and my sis-in-law would still go if it was just the two of them. He gave me the strangest look and said, "It's weird that you think it's weird." Umm, excuse me? I think it's weird that you're defending your relationship with HER to your WIFE! Is this a healthy bond? Shouldn't he try to connect with me instead? Is this just the grief talking?

I know all men look at porn and at least it reduces the chances of them cheating but I was unaware of the whole webcam girl thing until the other night. I came home early and heard my husband engaged in a conversation. Intrigued I eavesdropped and he was talking to a Russian girl who was thanking him for the presents he had gave her. He then went on to make a series of crude demands on her (I wont list them heer) and from what I could tell she obeyed. I feel rather shell-shocked and want to bring it up with my husband but I dont know if it would be silly. Is it a normal thing?

2 years ago we divorced after we started to argue about raising a family. We'd been trying for years and I was considering IVF until in one blazing row he confessed to having a vasectomy. He went on to say that he believed children do a terrible violence to a mans life and he wanted to be an artist. Since then he has moved to Penzance and has started to have work hanging in galleries. Friends say he is making quite a bit of money now. I know its wrong but I would want him one day to know abject loneliness and die a sad, dejected old man. Is having a family the only way to be happy?

My husband is a charming guy and can be very loving. But when we argue or if he doesn't get his way, he starts calling me stupid, mentally crazy, spoiled, and "you don't do nothing!" Then he'll humiliate me and argue with me in front of the kids. Then tell me its my fault when he reacts that way and if I was better he wouldn't do that. He has even dragged me and choked me while 15 weeks pregnant. I can't take the verbal abuse anymore. When he's angry is the only time. What should I do?

My husband is an amazing man. But he told me after I asked the stupid question that he has before thought of what it would be like to cheat (hes been in very few sexual relationships) and he is curious about other types of women, different cultures, and the thrill of it. He actually did slip up and say that one night he was really upset with me over an argument, and if offered he would have cheated. Of course after seeing how upset I got over that he reassured he would never do such a thing and they were just thoughts. Our sex life has always been consistent but I feel as I am always the one who initiates it. He makes me feel loved but not wanted sexually. I've never felt this before, I'm a pretty attractive female. And it eats at me, I've tried everything to spice things up. We're still Newley weds too. I just want to know if this is natural.. Something all marriages go through?

Recently my wife has become really insecure about someone I work with after meeting them at an office party. The person in question is undoubtedly 'the main event' in the eyes of any man who is in proximity to her but my wife is also bothered by the body language she witnessed between us both. Exacerbating my wife's fears is the fact that she met me while working for me and I left my then wife to be with her. I cant talk away her concerns-should I just fire the girl in question for the sake of a happy marriage?

Is it just me or does it seem like it is so hard to live as a single person off of one income now-a-days? Like unless you have a very well paying job it is very difficult. I know many people who make less than me but due to being married and having two incomes they live more comfortably than me. What do you think?

Me and my husband are in a rut. It's cold outside so we can't do anything outside, most of the stuff we do is done outside, like gardening and just enjoying the weather. In the winter it seems like all we do is watch TV. Obviously sex is on the table but lets just say we have had our fill of sex and we are back to watching TV. What else do you do as a couple? I guess I should clarify that we don't like to go out to bars or hang out with friends. I'm asking about things to do at home with each other. We have pets, we have 5 dogs and we do play with them. Just would like to do something other than Watch TV. We go out to dinner and movies and do things like that, we have low money at the moment so must stay home.

I fell in love with this beautiful woman I met a few years back, now we've been seeing each other on the down low, I usually tell my wife I'm going on a hiking trip with my friends and then I would meet my girlfriend and we would spend time together, I've never felt as happy as I do when I'm with her. But what's holding me back is my kids, I don't know if this would be easier if the kids were never involved but it does make things a lot harder for me. Please do not insult the woman I love by calling her a whore or whatever name you can assume of her because she is none of those things, she's beautiful and innocent in every aspect, and I love that about her, she is an exotic dancer but I look beyond that of her, she's amazing and for the first time in my life, I am very much in love. But how can I end things with my wife on light terms, I still want to be in my kids life, just not in hers. Any helpful advice would be appreciated, thank you :) I did not come here to get insulted either, can you respect the fact that I am no longer happy in my marriage and met someone who makes me feel alive, she is also aware that I am married and we talk about how to end things with my wife, she knows I still have a wife and is not bothered by it, so who do you think you are to insult me? Although I do not agree with the first sentence of who I chose best answer too, I do agree it is time for me to come clean to my wife and I will, I'm at a point in my life where I refuse to take anyone's advice on not leaving my wife, I will do what makes me happy regardless of how anyone feels about this, my question was to get advice on how to end things with my wife, not to stay with her; so again I am without doubt choosing my own happiness. @Liz I assure you, you disgusting vile piece of walking sh*t, my girlfriend is beautiful and innocent and beyond, you are neither and you are the lowlife dirty skank that's a human dirty toilet, there's one thing I will not stand for and that's insulting my innocent girlfriend when she has done NOTHING wrong, you ugly b*tch, you people are testing my patience, and I'm sick of it. I've just spoken with my two daughters and two sons about it, and they seem more understanding than I thought, so I know my kids will be okay with it, now my wife is another story...I'll worry about that later this weekend, when the kids wouldn't have a head ache going to school tomorrow if she starts to make a scene in front them, which she probably will, which is why I am having my kids stay over my sister's house when I break the news to her this weekend.

My wife and i seperated about 4 weeks ago. We have been seeing eachother almost everyday and still having sex. We began attending counseling as well about 2 weeks ago. The thing is, last sunday she cane over crying saying that she wants to come back. She left and are several hrs at her parents house they did an intervention to keep her at home. So ever since then she had literally been sneaking over too see me. She can't tell her parents that she is even seeing me. But she tells me her not coming back ifrom the seperation is her decision. We also have a 4 month old baby and a dog that she took With her. Everytime i try to get her back she just says for me to move on. But if i don't she seems to want to keep working on the marriage. So she says she's in the middle but.... it's not line they have her tied up or something. So idk

In my family, its a male tradition that expectant fathers are down the pub awaiting to hear that that have a son/daughter. However my wife says that is unacceptable (partly because she does not want people to think she is a single mother). I dont think this is fair. I love her, hate the idea of her suffering and if I could then I would go through this horrible ordeal myself. But I cant and would much not rather see her suffering and all the gore and blood. As if that is not enough she is also insisting that I am stone cold sober. Does she have a right to do this?

I have friends who have wife who are relaxed about such things and some even watch it together. Also, how can my wife realistically believe she can stop me?

Hello, we got got married last FEB 2015 and my wife is carrying my baby now... but things were not going well and she is not ready to come to me.... I have tried by best to make her understand but all vain.......When i emailed she is blocked my email and when i called her she said there is no relationship between us and cut the call now i have no other way to reach her and talk to settle my relationship with her so i filed a case , it will be processed in march because she is going to get the kid next month so i don't want to give any strees to her now.... Is there any way that i can come out of this please, she is not understanding and talking to me to resolve this issue ? i have filed a case to get visitation of baby after born and divorce , will it be any other issues on this ?? please help me with good suggestions .. its big stress

My ex wife and I divorced around 15 years ago and before that point, it had been a failed marriage for at least 7 years. During proceedings, to limit hostility, I didn't let my wife know I had fathered twins with another woman. After the divorce finalisation, I became a much more conventional 'family man' with the other woman although I still remained in close contact with my daughters who were born in wedlock. Now however, my twin daughters say they would like to meet their half sisters. I understand their curiosity, but if I let this happen then I fear it might hurt my ex wife- even though any betrayal happened years ago. What should I do?

I am just about over feeling like s***. I tried some different ideas and all of them failed miserably. We have a massive disconnection. It's so obvious to me and I don't understand why it doesn't bother her. Is it a Chinese thing? Is it my fault? Why can't she just be a wife to me? Why can't I get her in the mood? When we went away, I expressed my desire for her. She ignored my feelings. I have tried to foster a better feeling but I feel crap now because she agreed we should have sex but once again it didn't happen. Basically I came home from work and started to watch a video on the ipad while eating dinner (at 11pm). She got upset and I quickly realised what was happening. So I went to shower and come back. At this point she said she no longer had the mood etc. So I eventually convinced her that I would do all the work for her. Well she proceeded to say she had no mood and grabbed the ipad to watch some porn while I worked. She got frustrated when I apparently blocked her with my nose. Anyway, after that she proceeded to call me ugly and sure enough, after what she said earlier about no sex until I lose weight, she ince again denied me. That's three days in a row that she has turned me down (we had sex 2 weeks ago). In fact, last year we averaged once every 2 months. I thought this year could be easier but there is still a disconnect. She just never really shows much emotion for me in a sexual way. She rolled over to hug me and kiss my neck to say thankyou for trying. Leaving is harsh. But I am fed up wiyh being denoed sex and told she has no mood. Using sex as a bargaining tool. All she has done is stress me out to the max with frustration over the lack of sex. I feel like throwing in the towel before we have kids. In fact I seriously doubt we will have any. I thought this year would get easier and that she woukd be supportive, encouraging and mentally willing to try to get the mood with me. But it isn't working. After four years, I can't see anything happening. She promised to love me but has repeatedly broken our marriage vows. I don't know what to do in order for her to realise the damage. She talks about me loving her even when she gets old but I do not believe it. The blocking sex with me is so abnormal when she atill wants to hug up to me. After seven years of her going hot and cold, I'm starting to realise that she is never going to just relax and let us be emotionally vilnerable and connected. Why should I play this gane anymore? I am not a selfish person. Is it too much to ask for her to show more love and appreciation for the marriage? I told her she is punishing me and she said she isn't. But she isn't being fair to constantly put us in a disconnected marriage. All I want is a better connection. Something that feels natural and not forced. I feel like she just doesn't understand that. That I just want everything to feel at ease and natural. Not uncomfortable, put down, denied and feeling incompetent. A few hugs are not enough. It feels like a kind of toletance and purposeful denial of a proper comnection. I see other couples not behaving like she does and I long to have a girlfriend or wife that loves me and appreciates me. Not speaks and acts so rudely. It is so bad that I thought about not coming home tomorrow night. I don't know how to approach this to find out if she is getting it elsewhere or if she has some mental blocks. Her sitting there saying she has no feeling doesn't exactly do anything for the atmosphere. Why can't she just stop playing games and just be happy when I find her attractive enough to want sex with her? Also it isn't fair to deny me sex and a release (and the connection that happens between a happy couple). I'm not a beta. Just because I have cried in private to myself over feeling like I'm being treated so poorly doesn't make me weak or whatever. She thinks she us so good that she can bargain basic intimacy? Isn't that serious spousal abuse? I don't think she is cheating. I think we have never really ever had chemistry from the sex. It's a bit more routine and not really emotionally connected. She says that I am handsome etc...so it's not finding me unattractive. There just seems to be a block with sexual intimacy :(

I'm looking to buy my wife a gift for our one year anniversary. The thing is I'm currently deployed at the moment and I don't know any websites where I can buy gifts except for Amazon. Does anyone know of any great websites that might do engravings or anything like that?

Hello, I am seeking marital advice, ideas, insights, and suggestions during my trial separation period with my husband. I am 50 and have been married for 25 plus years, with two college age sons. My husband and I are going through a difficult period, and it was his idea to have a 6 month trial separation that includes each of us possibly dating others. My husband and I are both white, I am 5'6" blonde, educated with a good career. I am currently dating two black men, while to my surprise my husband has yet to find a date. Prior to this separation I have not dated since college, yet I am enjoying my new found freedom and the dating lifestyle. Now only partially through the trial six month separation my husband wants to call off the separation and focus on getting back together. Long term I want to get back together with my husband, but I am just not ready to give up dating, and go back to my husband. Yet, I am nervous if I don't try to resolve my marriage with my husband now, the window for this opportunity might close. In the meantime, I have agreed to date my husband platonically and continue to date my two male friends. So please, I am looking for marital advice, ideas, insights, and suggestions and not date offers. Please, tell me about yourself and what do you suggestion how to handle my situation

It's our fifth anniversary, and i bought my husband a new messenger bag for work (he's been using plain canvas totes lately). However he just surprised me with a diamond eternity band and a trip to Florida and j feel terrible like my gift is peanuts compared to his. I am a stay at home mom and don't have an income so my gifts are budgeted. I know my husband would rather me save his money and not get him anything big and expensive. Despite this I still feel so pathetic next to his gifts. I feel like I shouldn't even bother getting anything for him.

So I need help settling a disagreement. We've had this conversation several times and it always gets heated. We've been married 13 years and have a 5 and 2 year old. He says that he loves us, proud of our family, and gladly supports us. He's an involved, devoted, and protective father. He treats me better than I deserve sometime and he knows I'm a good loving mother. But without hesitation, my husband says that if he could choose, he would not have children. I don't think you can have it both ways. I don't think you can love the life you have and wish it didn't happen. My argument is that if you could go back in time and choose not to have children, it's because you think life would be better without children. He says it wouldn't be better, it would be different. I'm calling BS. I think when your faced with choices, even if neither is good, you ALWAYS choose what you think is best. For him not to choose the life we have is saying it could be better had he made a different choice. What I hear is him saying life would be better without child. I'm not arguing with that but he says that's not what he's saying. What do you think?

I drive my wife and her mother an hour to downtown LA for New Year's eve countdown and fireworks. To get into the park there were security lines, about 8 lines for men and 8 separate lines for women. So I leave my wife and go to the men's line. When I got through the line and stood by all the other people waiting for their friends and/or loved ones to come through the lines so they can go as a group down to where the fireworks and countdown are. Well I waited and waited and waited (PS my wife's cell phone died to make matters worst). At 11:45pm I realized there is a chance she did not wait for me. At 11:55pm I knew she did not wait for me, but how am I now supposed to find her. The LA Times said 200,000 people go to this park every year for the countdown and fireworks. So at 12am on New Year's eve I sat on the curb by the security lines alone, as thousands of people were happy and having a great time. Around 12:20am I see her and her mother walking back. I didn't even cry when my dad die, but my eyes had welled up from the whole thought of her not waiting for me and being alone during the New Year's countdown. Of course when I asked her about it she played innocent like she did nothing wrong. Even a week later she still yells back saying that it was somehow my fault.