And when I ask why he says "I don t like you snooping" does that sound suspicious?

Me and my husband have been married for 2 years. He is active duty air force. My husband deployed to afghanistan for 6 months in 2014. Our relationship has been suffering wver since then. He used to be the absolute most loving, caring, romantic man, even his family told me he used to be the kindest person, and now he is just incredibly cold, hurtful, and uncaring towards everyone. His entire family constantly tells him hes rude and mean to me, even when hes joking, and that they feel sorry for me. He says horribly mean, mean, mean things when we fight and never seems to feel sorry. Im actually afraid to tell him things because i dont want him to blow up and start yelling. I am even more afraid to cry in front of him because so many times ive done it and it just enrages him so much to see me cry that he yells at me even more. Our therapist has said that he thinks my husband might be suffering from some mild pstd from his deployment which is terrifying to me. It hurts me so much to think that he might be suffering that way and i want to help him with it, but hes stubborn and i dont even know where to begin, i dont even think he'd accept any help for it because he seems to think hes fine and will get over whatever it is by himself. Id be able to handle things a lot better if i knew what to do to keep me going through those hard times when i just want to give up. I dont want my marriage to end, but sometimes i almost feel like i dont have a choice. What can i do to keep going?

My husband of 18 years had an affair which my daughter first found out about then told me about 3 years ago. Last year we finally got divorced after me trying to work things out for a long time. The woman he had an affair with was my cousin. And he continued to see her. After they ended things, he saw this girl on and off for a week or two and now he's with this other girl whom he met three weeks ago and she is now living in his house. He is bringing my youngest son (5) around this woman and as a MOTHER speaking (not as an ex-wife) I would like to know who my son is around. When we went to court, i did not request for child support because my ex husband promised he would do his best to support for his kids which he hasn't been doing. So i don't like the fact that my child is being brought around a stranger. Is it possible i can go back to court and request child support? And custody? He is the one who cheated on me. Made me move out of the house we had bought TOGETHER and forced me to start a new life for me and my children as if i was the one who did something wrong. I understand I cannot dictate who he brings to his house but AS A MOTHER, I would like to know who is around my children. My 4 kids stay with me most of the time, they only go to their dads house twice a week at most. Every other day they're with me. My oldest daughter (16) chooses to live with me, she doesn't stay with her dad at all. Our agreement that we made as the parents of our children was that if i were to bring a man that my ex husband doesn't know around our kids, he would need to meet my ex husband first because he is the FATHER of my children. Just like I do not care who he brings into his home but if they're around my kids, I would like to at least be introduced to this woman he is seeing. Our agreement that we made as the parents of our children was that if i were to bring a man that my ex husband doesn't know around our kids, he would need to meet my ex husband first because he is the FATHER of my children. Just like I do not care who he brings into his home but if they're around my kids, I would like to at least be introduced to this woman he is seeing.

Hello sooooo I got married 2 months ago, and well idk how to come out and say it but umm my husband rarely wants to have sex! Only when he really wants to!(which is rare because we are newlyweds)I'm really frustrated because I want to have sex with him I love our sex!!! so when ever he asks I'm sooo down to do it!!! And that's like once a week if that... Idk what to think I feel like maybe im not attractive to him? Maybe he's disappointed with me maybe I'm not what he expected??? It just makes me so sad...

My husband and i have an almost 2 year old together. I usednto weigh about 185 (im 5"10) and now i weigh about 220. Its the heaviest ive been in my entire life. My husband isnt really thin himself, hes always been a chubby kid. We seriously just dont have sex anymore. We tried for the first time in like 2 or 3 weeks and it just didnt work out. Neither of us were in to it. I seriously just have no sexual drive whatsoever and no desire to have sex with him. Obviously i assumed there are other reasons for this, we have issues in oud marriage and have been attending counseling to help. It wasnt until the other night that i started thinking maybe he hasnt been persuing sex anymore because hes not attracted to me. I had said something along the lines of "he thinks im fat and gross" joking around really, to his brother. After his brother was gone he said "i cant believe you think that i think that about you" and the conversation went on, he never at any point said "thats not true" or "i am attracted to you". It almost felt like he was avoiding it......someone help me. Is it possible that he doesnt try to have sex with me anymore and cant really get into it because he doesnt find me physically attractive enough anymore?

ever since i was 8 or 9 i knew my dad was cheating on my mom. when they got divorced my dad still wanted to see me and spend time with me. i never gave him **** about cheating because i didn't understand... i don't know I'm just confused because you would think because he cheated he would not want to see me ( because he broke up the family and **** ) it made me think well if he really cared about me he wouldn't cheat.. he seems like he cares but i don't really know how i should view him..

I just found a contract on my fiance's computer that goes: " In the event of a baby, I, Lucy, claim no alimony from Dan. We have agreed to both care for the baby without alimony. " Lucy is my fiance. Dan is someone she has been hiding from me by lying. They were married for sure, which she never told me about unfortunately, but based on this, can we tell if they are still married or divorced?

My dad, who's married to my mom for 28 years, has a girlfriend. She comes over when my mom is at work but I am home, and they don't try very hard to be quiet. I am 25 and I am not stupid. I know whats happening and its happened for months, its hurtful. Why doesn't my dad care about hiding this???

I've been with these people (family) and fighting on and off for 6 years. Each time, I trust them something dark ( secret) comes out. Earlier I just found out more things how they are manipulating me. I want to leave now and don't come back.

My husband left me for another woman a year ago. Long story short we got back together and have been going to counseling ever since. I just noticed my MIL is now friends with the other woman recently. I am extremely hurt. I asked my husband to talk to her about it and he said he will but he said whatever his mom wants to do is her business. How do I handle this? Shouldn't my husband set boundaries?

Why would he invite my brother but not me? I'm afraid of asking him about it because he'll just label me as jealous like he always does. I also know nothing about his soon-to-be wife, which is why I am very unhappy about his engagement.

My mother seems to want me to be on her side and tell me all the reasons she divorced my father but I always thought I didn't have to show loyalty. She says "I am your mother so you need to know what he did to me". My father's flaw was working too much and my mother's flaw was being bitter. Also my father didn't believe in counseling which my mother keeps throwing out if he loved us (including me) he would have gotten marriage counseling. I don't know what this means he doesn't love me but my mother seems to think it does. So am I supposed to take sides and be better to whoever's side I take? I am 15 and they've been separated since October.

I was forced to leave (with a teen-age son) my 32 years of marriage last year. It has been 8 months. I rented an apartment. He lives in the house. The house is big for one person. It is almost 3,000 square feet. He was neither able to pay tax, nor he is able to continue mortgage. The tax is sitting there unpaid with accumulated interest. The house is both under our names. The possibility of foreclosure will ruin my reputation of credit history as well. He agreed to sell initially. Now he is declining the showing. The agent wants me to take over. What is the suggestion? Divorce first? Get a court order to show? Eviction??!! I don't know. My brain does not work anymore. Look forward to your expertise.

Now this is the third time i've posted this and I still haven't gotten a straight answer. (not complaining) From what my wife tells me she comes from a long line of tall women(which i kinda guessed already)most of the women on her moms side are over 6 ft 2,her mother is also 6 ft 4 and her (little sister) is about 6 ft 3. My sister in-law told me that in high school my wife got (constantly) teased,taunted,picked on,tormented,and alienated due to her size. After marriage Ive seen this happen countless times the worst was an incident with 2 drunken idiots outside a mall. I always do what I can to comfort her,boost her confidence,and make her feel beautiful,loved and appreciated. She's a strong woman and I know she'll work through it in her own time,but as her husband I almost feel like I'm not good enough to make her feel safe,secure,and happy. Now i admit her height does have draw backs,and her longer legs can make certin sex postions akward,but personally I think her long legs,semi thick thighs,nice size butt,and tight waist are so sexy and i let her know that constantly. In private she's much more confident with her body,often wearing mini/micro skirts or shorts to show off her lower half to me. But in public she's always so shy/quiet and wears pants due to insecurity,and hates going to the beach or in public pools alone. But she's still my wife and I'll stand by her until death and I wont push her to do anything she's not fully comfortable with first.

I just noticed a contract that goes: " In the event of a baby, I, XYZ, claim no alimony from ABC. We have agreed to both care for the baby without alimony. " Based on this, how are XYZ and ABC related? XYZ is my fiance and I don't know who ABC is and I feel I'm being tricked here. :( The had an IVF together.

I am 25 yrs old, same as her, dating for 2.5 years, 2 kids, one that's biological mine with her and the other who is from her previous relationship, but I see her as my own. She has a friend that's a guy, whom I have felt uncomfortable with because of certain situations etc over the last 6 months. It's bothered me but I havn't flat out told her to not talk to him anymore because I am not opposed to friends of the opposite sex, but I recently came across an email from him to her. He basically declared his love for her and he's aware that my GF and I have been at a low point in our relationship, and he has capitalized on it by texting constantly making play dates with his god daughter and my oldest etc. He flat out said in the email that he loves her, and all the time he gets to spend with her etc, and made mention that later down the line he hopes his relationship evolves with her and my kids on their terms..... I'm not afraid my GF is cheating or anything like that, I am just worried to bring it up, because Im afraid she will be defensive because I looked at her email cause of a suspicion I had based of some course of events this week with this guy, along with the fact that this is what he said he was feeling, and not necessarily her... What do I do?

Im not stealing her. I just wana take her coz I know she belongs to me. When God created her, he thought of me, and when he created me, he thought of her. But sadly we met after she made this commitment. So please provide advice Thanks They are not married yet. Only engaged She's getting married in June. I need to act fast. Please stop holding me back. Just give me advice on how to do this. Thats all i need from you.

I'm 25 and I don't want to leave my husband. He's 26. I don't want to live with my in laws but hubby wants to stay . My family doesn't believe I can live on my own ether . Hubby is 26..

I would be the one paying alimony because I earn more but it kills me to think that I would be supporting my cheating husband & this lady. Can infidelity void spousal support? We live in California & we've been married 20+ years

Was there something grand, or the small things mattered the most? :33

I know women reach their sexual peak at 33-35 years old but I am turning 40 on January 20,2016 and just cannot get enough of my husband lately especially the last 5 1/2 months. I want have sex all the time!!!! But I don't want him to feel as if he is not enough for me Bc I have about 3-5 orgasms before he even does but I still want more after he is finished!! Is this bad?

This scenario plays out in different ways but always results in my husband blowing up as soon as I walk in the front door... Me: Honey, I need to pick up some things from the store. Him: What do you need to get? Me: (explain list of items) Him: Ok, that's fine. But how long will it take, when will you be back? Me: Shouldn't take more than an hour. Him: Ok. Love you. (45 minutes later, I walk through the front door) Him: HEY! Where were you?? Where did you go? Why did it take you so long?? Me: (Instantly confused and getting upset) I went to the store like I said! What's wrong? It was only an hour. Him: You said you were going to Walmart, you have Target bags in your hand. Why didn't you call and tell me you were going to Target? Me: Because Target is less than one block over from Walmart? Because that's silly, why should I do that?? Him: Because 'normal' wives would do that! Normal wives who want to be considerate would CALL before they divert from their original plan... and let their husband know they're plans changed. Then he gets more irate trying to push his point onto me, the more I defend my actions and tell him he's over reacting, the more irate he gets until we have a huge arguement and the day is ruined. Can someone tell me other than what I think it is (control freakism), then wtf is it?? He says I basically am a selfish person who doesn't do the considerate thing a wife should do, that most women out there are not like me. Am I nuts?

essentially siblings or significant other if u don't have one of them, pretend u have a significant other and siblings

For starters he was just diagnosed with epilepsy he s only had two seizures in a years time so it s not that severe, he lost his job and can t drive which has made me the bread winner, house cleaner, errand runner, and the go to for money I do the best I can to work my butt off and make sure we have what we need and make it possible to do fun things together.

Im worried if i leave my husband i wont find anyone again. Im 22 and fat we already have a child and my previous q i clearly dont want to leave but i have to and i want another baby but cant bc of my husband. Im worried if i leave i wont ever find anyone bc i found my husband on a chatline and dont really wanna go tht route again but no man has ever asked me out or flirted with me so im worried no one will ever want me again or itll b to late.

I don t even remember it. Apparently I told him I hated him and want a divorce. I am so devastated and embarrassed for saying these things... They don t reflect my feelings toward him at all. He s my best friend and the love of my life. How do I make it up to him? Sorry doesn t feel like enough. To be clear, I'm more upset about this than he is. He said he knows I didn't mean it and that I'm acting crazy by being so upset. I just can't get over it... Also, I'm only 26 and while I have blacked out before, I don't have a lot of experience drinking.

My husband and I have been married for almost 15 years, and we have 4 children together. About a year ago, my husband found out that he was the father of a 16 year old girl, that's been in foster care for 12 years. The girl has a very strong history of drug, alcohol, and mental abuse. The girl is bi-polar, and often refuses to take her medication. The state wants us to take custody of his 16 year old daughter, but I am NOT interested in taking on another special needs child. We already have a 12 year old special needs child (autism), and taking on another one would be too much for us. My husband wants her to come live with us, and I don't want her here. We've had her visit a few times, and she's been rude, disrespectful, and she has hit my children. If she was stable, on medication and in counseling, than I would welcome her with open arms. But the fact is that she is out of control, and that's not something that I'm prepared to take on. I told my husband how I feel. He's listened to our children feelings, and he still wants her here. It's causing some tension between us, and I'm not sure what I would do if she did come to live here. I know that neither me nor my children feel safe around her. How can I make him understand that I'm NOT interested in raising his child from a previous relationship? She is BI-POLAR, and she often refuses to take her medication. IF she took her medication, and she was in counseling, I would welcome her with open arms. But the fact is that she PUNCHED my 12 year old autistic son in the face for "talking back to her". I don't call that innocent! I call her an unmedicated 16 year old girl, that is out of control. I don't want her here, unless she's under control, and is in counseling. My husband won't listen to me.

I always make him diy things which he loves. But I feel like I always make the same things in a different way lol. What are you ladies getting your husbands? He literally has everything so that's why I usually turn to the diy.

My wife and her bff went to a convention this past weekend, and I couldn't go because I had to work. Her bff booked the motel, and asked if to save $$$ they could share a room. That was fine. But then she only got a room with one bed. When I asked my wife about it (her bff and I don't get along) she said she was sure it was an accident or to save money, and told me she slept in the chair while bff slept in the bed. I don't like her bff because she openly mocks me in my own home, and admitted to me she's bi, and wants someone like my wife. I tried telling my wife she's trouble... She only makes friends with married couples... But my wife thinks she's innocent and calls her the like sister. We've been married for a couple years, and they've been friends for 6 months, and off this is how she's acting now, I'm terrified to see how it's going to be in another 6 months. Please help! I'm in tears. I don't know what to do or say. I trust my wife, but this friend is making me crazy, insecure, and constantly second guessing myself. My wife found out it was one bed When they arrived. Her bff booked the room 2 months ago, so they wouldn't be running around last minute. And my wife told me she slept in the chair AFTERWARD. I did not FORCE her to.

It's only been about a month since my husband passed away. I just received a vicious letter from his ex-girlfriend telling me my husband & her were having an affair when I was working. I don't know if it's true or not, and it's very upsetting. Is there anything I can do?

Hi, my wife and I are both in our late 20's, and married for 2 years. Our marriage is going great, but recently my wife was out of the house for a week and for some reason I really enjoyed it. Me and my wife were both supposed to go out of state to visit her mother but I got the flu so I ended up staying home. My wife still went and I started feeling better like the day afterwards. Since we got married we've never been apart for more than a day and I have to admit I enjoyed myself. Like I said I love my wife and we get along fine but to have the whole house to myself, no wife to nag about stuff was pretty awesome. I played Xbox, went out by myself, hung out with friends, watched porn( something my wife banned me from) and just relaxed. The only problem is i feel like a real jerk now because the whole time my wife was constantly texting me saying how much she misses me and wished I was there and can't wait to get back home. Now I'm wondering if a husband is supposed to like his wife being gone for a while or not. Basically I feel bad for enjoying my wife not being here. I mean I didn't do anything wrong like cheat or anything, but I really enjoyed myself and I look forward to the next time she's gone for a while. Is this Normal? Do other husbands feel this way when their wife is gone? She's home now and saying how much she missed me and I just feel so bad.

I say this because ever since we've been married, he has been so verbally and emotionally abusive. I dealt with it and said things back to shield my heart and esteem. After months of being told I'm ugly, bald, crazy, possessed, Satan and good for nothing but complaining then criticized day in and day out I lost it and started hitting him withbaby anger hits. Well i felt bad and told him I wouldn't do it again. 7 months later I still didn't but he has become physical with me multiple times. He has grabbed me andslammed me amd choked me while pregnant In his anger. He has put bruises on my legs and arms, and he has scratched up my face and he just flips out of nowhere now he blames me aand tells me I'm an abuser too and that he wouldn't do those things if I didn't tempt or nag him then he takes my phone and hides my keysthen aapologizes and says hes sorry. Am I wrong? He makes me feel like its my fault

Here's why she wants to get married so we can have kids I tell her were already living together we are practically having sex every week why do we need to tie the knot so when things don't work out you can take the kids take the house take my money and take away my freedom no thank you I'm OK with dating but marriage is not my thing please respect that. She got upset and but you can't call me a commitment phobe I told her I am committed to the relationship however I'm not taking it to the next level because practically we are on the next level just not on the legal standards of like marriage. I told her baby it's called civil union gays been doing that for many years before marriage for them became legal. I told her if gays could do it we can to is not gender bias or sexual preference bias. Then she began to cry and then she went to our room and closed the door what did I do wrong honestly if any men will stumble upon this question and has the same type of feelings about like marriage and the outcome of screwing up your life after tying the knot. And she doesn't want to stop she reminds me every week that she wants us to get married and wants me to get an engagement ring for her. I told her with what money am I going to use to buy your engagement ring. I get disability checks every month for being disabled mentally and I don't think it's legal for me to use that money to buy an expensive piece of jewelry. So she went to her mothers for the week what can I do?

My husband is 26 he has been a truck driver for 3 yrs now. We have a 6 yr old. My husband has had abt 30 jobs no lie he quits them all hince y i have to leave. I have no job never had a job just been a stay at home mom. I have had 3 interviews my entire life one recently which i did not get. I dont want to leave bc i love him so this is why its so hard. Today he cut his license in half so that he wont have to drive and now has shut himself in the bedroom and refuses to talk to me. I need to leave but my love is stopping me plus i dont know how i have plans to live at my dads which i definitely do not want to do but i have no other option. I have no money either. So how do i actually leave this heartache hurts bad its stopping me plus the financial issue. Tell me how to leave how to make my heart no longer care.

It hurts like rotting in hell. She is my first love - a classy and beautiful girl. I loved her --so much that I was ready to take my life. She was deeply interested in me at the beginning. Now she feels that she wants to get settled and that my salary is too low for her. I tried convincing her that I'd earn more and now that I am only 24 years old. She is dating a rich 30 year old guy now and wants to get settled with him. I feel so suicidal folks. The only thing which is stopping me is my parents who love and care about me a lot. They lost my brother when he was very young and they do not want to lose me too. They have fulfilled all my wishes and have never denied me anything that I have asked for. On the other hand, I am not able to give her up and forget about everything. I tried to get busy but she comes to my mind every so often.

I have been with my husband for 29 yrs, we have been separated before and during the separation we have had other relationships... I love him I want to be here with him but some of his habits are well a huge turn off...He doesn't seem to pay any attention to me except when he wants me to do something for him, or for sex, which is always about what he wants, sex isn't about us it is about him..... He says he loves me and wants to be with me but I think he is keeping secrets and lying to me.. We seem to fight more and he just dismisses me and goes about his business, I don't go around him when he is with his friends because on more than one occasion when ever I walk up everyone shuts up! I am not a bitchie wife and I am nice to everyone...

Never had kids together, never opened joint account, and never did anything more together; after getting the marriage certificate signed. Therefore there was never a name change I kept the name of my first husband because I did have kids by him. I was remarried for 5 years before he left me and I haven't seen him in 15 years. Eventhough, we never put on names on the same form or anything that would connect us besides the actual Marriage license we never filed a divorce either. I dont even know what state he lives in. I had his phone number a few years ago and we talked very politely and he told me that he's never coming back to Texas where I am and I would have to handle it on my own if I want because he already tried and wasn't willing to do it. Then he changed his number and I cant find him sheesh its already been 15 years. I have also been with my new fiance for 5 years and I want to get married again. Please if you can shed any light on what I should do and what not to worry about I will greatly appreciate you. I was told that by a lawyer once and he took me for 3 thousand. Anyways, since we have no ties ( except for the actual marriage certificate) is there anyway for this to come back and haunt me ?

Every time I get a pelvic exam at my annual physical, my doctor always says it looks like I have a yeast infection due to excess and "yeasty" discharge near my cervix. She always asks me if I itch or have irritation and the answer is always no. I asked her what would cause me to have no symptoms of a yeast infection besides the discharge and she told me my birth control could be throwing off my sugar levels, thus causing the yeast to thrive and overgrow. So I had a couple questions. What can I do to lower the yeast levels and discharge? Could this high number of yeast cause my vagina to taste kind of sour or tangy(I've been experiencing this and I thought it was strange)? The type of underwear I wear is mostly lacy thongs with a cotton crotch. The pants I wear are not skintight. I use Summer's Eve PH Balance wash and then the same brand wipes if I'm on my period(this isn't causing the overgrowth problem, I started using this because I was experiencing chronic yeast infections with the actual symptoms and it has helped that calm down quite a bit). I don't sweat excessively and I wash down there everyday. So is this an issue I'll just have to deal with until I'm off birth control or is it something that can be fixed? Again, it's not an AWFUL problem. I don't ever itch, burn, or have a bad odor down there.. so I can deal with it but I would like to get rid of that weird tangy taste. Any help would be appreciated! Thank you!

My husband tells me he just needs men company because he hangs with my family all the time which are all women. He as invited to go watch star wars with some young guys 10 years younger than him im worried because I'm scared he's gonna cheat he's never cheated that j know if but we took a break before and he slept with someone else 2 weeks into our break up.

my period is 2 weeks late and I've had 5 negative pregnancy tests. but for the past 6 weeks I've had discharge that I've never had before. a lot of thick, sticky, off whitish globs ??

But he promised her he would pay half but when the day came he sold her out, didn't show up, didn't call. Then when she asked for the money, he used her family as an excuse as to why he wouldn't pay that they never treated him right. But the reason they badgered him was because he sold out for the abortion and because he sold her out in many other ways before that for example, never bought her anything, took her for granted, and flaked many times to hang out with friends mostly. Is this man a selfish coward or did he have a legimate reason to not pay half for his responsibility?

I'm not proud of this but yes I've dated a few married men. Most of them seem lonely despite living with their wives and hassles me. It's annoying because I have a life outside of them and I'm not interested in them other than what we do. But what I've noticed is that they cheat because the sex isn't good and because they want to look at someone new. No matter what the wive does she can never be another woman. But anyway just curious as to why they hassle the mistress? Shouldn't they focus more on their.. wives?

What do married couples want to know? what couples want to learn how to do? What problems do married couples have? how can couples grow closer?

My husband and I have been married 2 years and for our anniversary we are going on a week long vacation(our first one ever) were going to a casino. I want some sexy and romantic gift ideas to do for him while were at the hotel.