I don't know what to do ???!!! I want to be with hubby because of our strong intimacy and I love him unconditionally but I need to move out of his parents house and learn to be and live like an adult . We are in our 20s. His parents make life too easy and I need challenge. Should I just wait until hubby ready to move out ? Which will be probably ether in 6 years or he stay forever so he can take care of his parents . There getting old . There in there 50s now . I never had the experience of living on my own . And I need it :( what to do !!

First off he is mild autistic. He will poke me and I will ask him to stop and he has to be sarcastic and say ooo what are you gonna do about it ? Or I will just ask him to turn the tv down and he can't just turn the tv down without saying a sarcastic remark like it's alright or no what are you gonna do about it . I wish he would stop but am I taking it to personally , is it his autisum ? I will tell him he is being weird and he will say thank you and that he is proud .i think he is just messing with me and I take it to personal

I used to think it was kind of a joke...any time my husband was injured or sick he would act hyper/excited to take narcotic pain killers, cough syrup, etc. But lately, he has been going to the doctor more frequently. Requesting hycodan cough syrup for cough, vicodin for pain in his foot, etc. I had bronchitis and he asked the doctor for cough syrup for me, and then proceeded to take most of it. I don't feel like he has had enough or had meds frequently enough to be "addicted", but I am still concerned. Tonight I found Percocet in our apartment. To my knowledge, he has no prescription for this medication. He has also been acting more angry, even violent (which is out of character for him). I am afraid to confront him about it, but I don't want to let it go if he needs help.

So i met a man at work, he is new at my facility, and we instantly clicked. Ater talking and getting to know eachother we decided to try things. Well he is married and going through a divorce. I seen the papers and made sure she knew that i was in his life before we even tried to date. Long story short, 2 months in i find out he never filed the papers. His lawyer told him to wait until she got a job so she couldnt try to claim alimony. A couple weeks after, i found out he had been texting her telling her he wants to working things out and be back down there with her. He made so many plans with me, thats why im so confused. He made us so public, and he was even flying my back home to meet his family. Ive talked to them on the phone, so its not like i was a secret. About 3 days before he was supposed to fly back home we broke things off because he couldnt belive he hurt me so bad.. we continued talking and working on things, and then he flew back home and we were fine the first day, then everything fell apart. I found out he was with her and then his phone got disconnected. He has to go court because of her, the last time he was down there he yelled at her for calling me bunches of names and other stuff, so she pressed domestic violence charges on him. Im scared that he wont follow through when he said he was going to go through court then file his papers, and im terrified that even though he said it, he isnt going to come back to me.. and i think im pregnant..

I've been with my husband since 2008. We are both early 30s and have no kids..he's my best friend. The problem is a few years ago after I found some suspicious things, he admitted he's bisexual. I was really shocked and also had to deal with the fact that he admitted to being with guys when we were together before we married. I've managed to deal with all this although it's hard but I wanted to stay married. The issue is that I think my husband is gay. We only have sex maybe once or twice every few months, and when we do it's usually VERY quick, and he's only able to finish when it's from behind. (So sorry for the tmi). He's also not affectionate with me, and we honestly live more like roommates than spouses...the only difference is we share a bed. Also one night about a week ago I had to use his phone to order pizza because mine died, and he was sleeping at the time. Well when I went to the menu to look up the number to the pizza place, I saw he'd downloaded an app for men searching for sex encounters with other men. There have been other things too, like finding a hotel receipt that he offered some lame excuse for. So now my dilemma is I really really want to stay because I love him, but i'm unhappy. I want him to be free to live his life and not have to hide who he is, but I also am terrified of ending it...plus he tells me that i'm who he wants. I hate to say it but I also feel angry because this is not what I wanted for us. Any insight please?

I disagree. I loaned my wife money to start a business and its doing ok..enough to support herslef and contribute a decent share to our shared expenses but she still owes me from the loan. Her parents used to be wealthy when she was very young but bc of high living and poor choices are not anymore. They live in a small rental house in a not so great neighborhood in a different state then I do. I am not close with them and so i feel i have no distinct loyyalty or responsibility to help them. i help out lots of people through charity and aside form that personally to friends ad family who have proven their loyalty to me over time. She is starting to get upset and called me a "chump" because i wouldnt. Since that horrible display of self entitlement I have my wife sleeping in the guest house away from us and im not sure how to handle it. she wont even apologize..after everything i have done for her. do i have to end it and make her leave you are wrong sparkle. are finances are firmly seerate. my wealth, and my familys wealth is securely in trust and only for people born into my family. been that way for 300+ years. I loaned her money from one of my trusts which meant i had to take a loan against something I owned..that will be my sons one day..for her. she is struggling to pay it back and meet her financial responsibilities to our household. I have a large family of my own..nieces nephews and cousins....this wealth is for their futures, and their well being. right now all the members of my family..my house are looked after and their futures are secured. That is my responsibility. Those futures will in turn benefit my family overall. That is my responsibility as head of my family. Not to keep 2 people who are not part of it, and are irresponsible in luxury.People who would never help members of my extended family secure a good life for them and their descendants. im really wondering how much longer should I wait for her take proper amends to me, or whether you think I should end the marriage. the loan is secured and I could get back most of my investment. I would also nof lose any property or income in the event of divorce. I still love her but i cant allow her to abuse me or my generosity, or allow this discord in my home. its not playing on my conscience kizza. it would not be spent wisely which is why i dismissed it when she first brought it up. They are not homeless..they have a house and are able to get by. they also have 3 kids who..other than my wife bc of her marriage to me..are utter failures and broke as well. they started out very well off but her parents never worked..inherited money and just spent..and invested in ridiculous glamour business's like vineyards to add to their prestige..i would never support that mentality or lifestyle..especially at the expense of my family who have mde good choices to stay on top for many generations. even with my wife its hard sometimes bc of the way she was raised to get that through to her. she doesnt think about the future and future generations nearly enough..instead she tends to lean more towards pleasure and instant gratification. for example when her mothers sister died the whole family inherited a large piece of land in upstate ny. I met with venture capitalist who i know and investors to help them turn a profit. One group was prepared to do a koint venture on a home for the elderly there which could have been profitable but they instead decided to take out loans on it and start a brewery themselves..which failed miserably I would never risk one of my grandchildren or great grand children not being able to buy a well appointed home so that my wifes parents could. That is not the legacy my father left the family with and i would be ashamed to not live up to. I also cant have an unruly ungrateful wife who exhibits poor values to my children living in my home. should i just make her leave..im starting to get frustrated and soon i am going to demand satisfaction for her insult which will mean financial ruin for her Its been 2 days since the incident...i was expecting her to calm down and make amends in the morning..she hasnt, and has not left the guest cottage..should I just get rid of her or what? the kids are at school and wont be back for 2 weeks at least but i cant have them come home to this. Im going away for a few days but i dont feel comftorable having her on my property after she abused my hospitality by insulting me. Should I have her leave and proceed with a divorce

I got married last year and moved to America with my husband. My mom and I are best friends and she spent most of her time in my company. Now that I left her house, I noticed she is sad because my brother is having relationship issues and there is no one else to give her good company. What should I do? I go back to her every summer and she comes in the winters, should I go more?

Want to do something a little different, but still something to show her I care. We do not have a sitter for night so it would have to be afternoon. Most likely will have a spa day and massage for a couple hours with some dinner. Wanted to get thoughts.

We fight more and complain more. Sometimes I don't even want to come home. She's more like a roommate to me now.

If you came here to judge go elsewhere. Currently I have custody of my daughter. Her father walked out for 6 months. Came back has visitations used me. Taking vacations to visit a girl out of state. Then I gotta see his big face again and again. His in and out, I'm tired of it. No money for a lawyer. I don't think it's healthy for my daughter to be back and fourth between homes and him in and out vacationing. I'm tired of this sh*t and need a break. I wanna be gone for months to clear my head I'm streased. But if I leave my daughter with him for months I'm thinking he can take her away and get custody. I'm confused and tired. I'm so sick of him I wish he could take our daughter and I don't have to be in this life. I love her but can't stand to be caught up with him. Seems my only option is to sadly leave my daughter with him. She will be in good hands and since he's seeing a new girl, I'm sure clearly she could do better. I have always been there for my daughter but too tired and exhausted to fight with him about being in and out. It's unhealthy. In my eyes one of us has to leave. Yup I feel bad for my child but this is not my fault. I don't want to go crazy. Don't want to take it out on my little girl. I rather be out.

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We have both been married for 6 years both have two boys his are 3 and 2 mine are 4 and 1, he is 35 I am 25. We met through our job and we were both automatically attracted to each other from the beginning we started going to lunch Just as coworkers and talking and started realizing we had more in common than we thought.. that grew into a deep friendship and eventually we started being together but it's not just sex, that happened once and we both settled that it couldn't happen again unless we are both out of our marriage. We are both still married because our kids are young and we don't want to hurt them. He doesn't sleep in the same room as her and I know they're not intimate because I've heard them talk, seen their conversations, and he removed her from All of our work accounts, she is no longer his beneficiary.. and they don't sleep in the same room. My husband and I are good friends BUT got married due to some insurance issues. He is a great guy and I love him, but I am not In love and he knows it.. What should we do? what should I do? Help.

I have no intention of ever getting married, but even just seeing it on TV freaks me out. My heart starts racing and my palms get sweaty. I get very uneasy. I don't have full on anxiety or panic attacks, but I can tell it's more than anxiety. I feel like I have a fear of marriage. I'm terrified of getting hurt or wasting my time just to have it end... like everything else. I do not want to fix this, I like being afraid of marriage. That means I will never get one. I'm only posting this to confirm that I have a fear of marriage, because I know this is something that can't really be diagnosed. I want someone else's opinion. I've gone through hell with my parents divorce and my dad almost murdering my mom. Tell me again how you know me so well??? Go to hell bastard!

2 months and then they married a year and half ago. It took me about two year to finally work past it..we stayed in contact every few months..for the last 3 months he has been calling me every weekend saying we're soul mates and he's inlove with me I'm the one he wants..I say very little back other than you are married. I never fell out of love with him but I'm not a home wrecker and respect his marriage. I've asked him to not contact me if he's gonna do this every time but he still does. I know the normal answer is to block him but I just can't. I feel like I should say something to his wife but that's not my character. How would you handle it?

I like sex spicy but not BDSM I like like guy that's pushing me out it hurts. I like how the position of the rear tugging my hair I like how he is sharp and dominant I like to be confined to bed I like to get a spanking by hand I like how he throws me on the bed I like strong touch I do not want whips, beatings, to be humiliated, collars and other fun bdsm. Do most women and men like this ? or you prefer gently?

My husband is really into football & is a big New England Patriots fan. Every time they loose he takes his anger out on myself & our children. He will degrade me, call me names like I'm a fat a-s in front of our children. He will go after the kids & say things like they don't do s-it & on a few occasions he will threaten me with divorce! I'm serious when I say his behavior ONLY occurs while he's watching football! The rest of the time, he's very calm, collective, good with the kids etc. But when he watches football my kids & myself are actually afraid of him. Today, New England lost & he flipped out. Degrading me, insulting our oldest daughter who is 28 & again threatening a divorce. He even went as far as to tell our oldest daughter that if he left me he'd start his whole life over & wouldn't want anything to do with them either (Our 3 kids) My oldest has come to me & told me to leave him. I don't think it's her place but I'm really not sure what to do!!! Any Advice? Please help me I have no way to "talk to him" about the issue as it makes him more out of control

hello, young married could been together 4 years and we have a 1 year old and we have been married just about 3 monthes. my husband doesn't really have sex with me and he doesn't wanna take me anywhere like on a date, he works holidays and majority of the time I sleep alone and I put the baby to bed alone. we don't live together yet we playing on moving in my parents basement to save money. he doesn't seem to be saving any more for the renovation. he barely calls and texts me he works all the time and on holidays every week he puts off counseling. When we first met he was super attentive we had sex all the time.now I have to beg him for oral sex he doesn't cuddle me when we sleep together. I miss having a manly presence and having someone to laugh and talk to and bring flowers or someone whos sexually attracted to me. idk if maybe hes cheating or what I haven't seen him in over a week. we recently just went threw a snow storm instead of him wanting to be snowed in with his wife and child he stayed at his parents house. he sleep with his phone in his sleeping pants I haven't met his friends. and I talk to him about these things and he says he will change but nothing does. I don't know what to do I'm married and I sleep alone every night I parent our child alone a lot of times and when I say babe lets see a movie he gets an attitude he acts like he has something agianst me........ also she does nothing financially for me he always doesn't have money but he works all the time.. I told him I expect something special our first vday as a married couple a month in advance he says he cant take off work an he wont have money but he has no car pays no rent barely any bills and makes more than me and works so much

A few years ago my husband and I agreed that he would pay the larger bills like the house notes, car notes, etc. He was fine with this. The first reason being that I am only part time at work and secondly he makes much more money than I do. I do pay other bills, just not our large ones. The problem is, lately he's been telling me that I need to return to full time work and he's been griping that he is having to pay so much for the bills. Going full time at work is not a possibility for me and when I told him that, he told me that I may need to start looking for another job. I love my job and don't want to leave. He's not making any less, in fact he's making more, and he gets raises yearly in addition to a lot of overtime. When I have asked why the changes, he told me that he's tired of having to pay for everything. The thing is when I first told him that my hours at work were being cut to part time, he was FINE with me staying there until things picked up. Is it fair for him to ask me to give up my job that I love, when he is the one that agreed to pay those bills, and agreed to me working part time? How to handle this?

I am newly married, it's just being 7-8 months. I see that my wife has the following habits - 1. She gets up very late -- around 11:00 Am everyday. When I say her get up early -she says that I am not a morning person. Thus, we can't go anywhere to explore the scenic places. 2. She eats a lot of junk food. However, she is under weight. When I say not to eat junk food and eat good food - she says that she is fit - not overweight. 3. When I tell her to take care of her self by applying some cream; she doesn't listen. She says that I don't get time.

We have an infant that is under 1 year old (soon to be 1 in a few months). I have depression, we often argue and fight over the same things. I'm currently a stay at home mom. I have an education and work experience but feel I need a better direction to go in for work and career. We live out of state far from family. We haven't been intimate for close to a year soon. I would like to stay in the same city/state but considering temporarily relocating to my hometown near family to separate. IDK Sorry. The lease will be up in the end of July. I don't think we should move to another place together. He's ignoring the fact. I want to separate now or at least declare separation to gain back my independence, but he seems wishy washy about wanting to separate.

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I have a friend who s wife passed away from breast cancer. I never met her/his family. I have seen pics. Recently we have been a little flirtatious with each other. I know he s not quite ready but an odd thing happened the other day. I asked his deceased wife to send me a sign that it would be ok to pursue the relationship. As I m walking through a grocery store I almost run into her/his son and the wife and kids cart. I was stunned for a minute but was thinking she was giving me a good sign. Anyone have any thoughts they can share on this would be greatly appreciated! !!

Please don't criticize me for not getting to know my wife before marrying. It was an arranged marriage. This past month I've noticed her mood swings. I guess since the honeymoon period is over. Rather than explain every tiny incident, I'll just give you the biggest thing that happened recently and which is making me worry that she has something wrong in her brain. Our vacation. She was happy on the drive to the airport. Then the flight out was delayed for a couple hours. She sulked, she cried, she yelled at me to get our cases back and drive her home. She didn't want to go anymore because "the vacation was ruined!". I ignored her and went and got food. When I went back to where I left her, she was happy again. On arriving, we struggled to find the hotel. She screamed about how unhelpful French people were while we were surrounded by French people. She said we were wasting all our vacation time looking for the hotel (an hour Max.) At the hotel she lay on the bed crying for at least an hour and saying her family was cursed and this was all evidence of it. She said her family need to stop reproducing. Finally we went to see some sights and eat and she was laughing, happy & fun for the next couple hours. Then she went miserable and crazy again because she said a store person was rude to her. She wanted to go home... And you get the picture. It's exhausting to even list all these things. She was up and down the whole time. This is our life now. Does she have mental problems?

Can humans walk on the sun beacuse it has to be possible beacuse surely theres a public toilet on the sun as I really need the toilet NOW

My Dad doesn't do anything about it and says not to worry he is done fighting her. They divorced in 2009 and ever since then my mother gossips to me and tries to manipulate visitations. It is not that I am literally barred from seeing him but just that ever single event is about her hate for him. As you see in another question on here she held me back from seeing him over Christmas this year (and three other years has). I feel like I am being punished for their mistakes in their marriage. Talking to my mother does no good as she says "you can't tell your mother how to feel, don't be like Alex". Alex is someone she knows son that turned on his mother post-divorce.

I am a 25 year old handsome male earning a decent salary and living an extravagant and hedonistic life. I am not interested I marriage but my family and relatives are constantly forcing me to. I have expressed myself of my intentions but they are tenacious about finding a bride for me. This is the problem of being born in India, I guess. People tend to presume that unmarried men tend to be single out of choice and not will. They also think that you are a loser and that is why you are unable to find a bride. How do I deal with this. I wanna travel around the world, explore new things, go for further studies...., but my parents and relatives are constantly asking as to when I am planning to marry despite telling them every time that I am uninterested

I need someone to listen. I'm pregnant... I'm so happy to be. My husband is to he says but doesn't show it. Today I read a text in his phone saying " I want to leave my ***** *** wife" because he got upset that I messed up on instructions to put our baby swing together. Simple mistake but I feel heart broken that's all I have to do for him to say something like that to one of his friends. I feel so emotionally drained. I'm trying not to cry for my baby. I don't want anything to happen to my son or I don't want him to feel my sadness. Every time I'm sad or cry my baby kicks his mommys belly. It makes me sad I'm putting my son through anything ( if anything ) I just don't know where to go. I don't feel like I deserve to be mistreated.

My girlfriends ex husband texted her a link to a youtube video of a cartoon character who had the same name as me who was a complete dork/weirdo. Was he mocking me and why? He was mad that I went on a vacation with her family before all of this but not sure why he's never met me and they've been divorced awhile now.

I am going through an emotional crisis. My wife of 7 years had left me the two just announced their relationship to all their friends... yet they are still friends they know me as the husband but they know the two people too both are friends in to one another. They all are shocked at the situation yet they do nothing... they go to my wife s birthday party and act like nothing special. They are still friends with her and the guy she ran off with. Why?! I can t figure out why they would support that, why would anyone who knows the situation still be involved in any way in either one of their lives. They wish the two good luck and go about their days its sickening and wrong and no one is saying a damn thing about the situation. please someone explain this to me.

i have decided that when i get married that inwould sleep on the sofa or floor and my wife gets the bed (as a sighn of respect to her.) but everyone on this app ifunny keeps posting degradeiimg material that doesnt phase me. if anything iits degradeing towards girls. so i would comment this is degradeing to girls all you men ever care about is degradeing girls. so like i said i get the sofa or floor nd the wife gets the bed

So I was supposed to be marrying this vietnamese girl from vietnam this year and I was going to fly over there this summer. She told me recently that she wants to wait another three years meaning delaying the wedding for three more years so that she can get things taken care of for her mother since she is going to be leaving vietnam after she marries to come to america. I am 26 and I am dying to get married and even though I am not happy with her making me wait a few more years I still want to marry her. What does it sound like by what she told me ? Does it sound like she's telling the truth ?

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California, Bay Area I got married 25 days ago, and we had Muslim religious ceremony 5 days ago, now due to some personal reasons I want to cancel my marriage, I am not sure about the bride what she wants but I really want to cancel it. What do I need to do? By the way I was on J-1 Visa, what would be the consequences after that? And how long it takes to cancel the marriage license? I have decided even before one month, is there any way that I can cancel the marriage license without divorce? And if I need to give her divorce? what do I need to do for that? What things should I consider since I am on J-1 which is going to expire in 3 weeks. I was about to apply for change of status application but now I stopped it. Thanks you very much, best David

I've never even had a first kiss at all. I will be 22 on June 17. Should I just give up? It's obvious that maybe I should become a nun even though I'm not religious or adopt two yorkies. I live in the biblical south. One old man was surprised that I wasn't married yet and according to him his wife had 3 kids by my age.

My husband always says he wants to sit with other people and be friendly when we go out and see people we know (acquaintances). Yet whenever people are around us or we sit with them, he says nothing. He never shows any interest or enthusiasm or tries to join the conversation. He barely even smiles. Last night Larry came over to chat and I had to carry the whole conversation. When he left, I said "Why didn't you say anything???" He says "Larry never asked me anything." I'm like, FFS you have to at least be pleasant and ask him "how's life" or something!!! He does this all the time. He whines about not wanting to sit alone (though I prefer it). So I seek out acquaintances and we join them. Then he sits there looking grumpy and unsmiling, not engaging. I have to spend the whole evening making small talk with people (which I don't like). And he never says a word. His resting face looks angry and stern so that doesn't help. What can I do? I can be sociable and very pleasant because that's what I have to do at my job, so off-hours, I want to be quiet.

He and his son are both alcoholics, and I knew he was lying when he called his son in law, and asked him if he wanted to go. I have to work tomorrow, and he lied to me. Im really mad. Should I just forget about this and go on to work like its no big deal or what would you do? His whole family are so dysfunctional. I already sleep in another room upstairs, and we do nothing in the sex dept any more. He is 63yrs old, so its not that great anyway. He is such a hot mess, hoarder and making me very unhappy.

Im a mom of 6 year old daughter.married for yrs.husband works abroad n bern wit him thr for slmost 2 yrs till bby was 1 yr.then came bk to my country for a holiday n he never took us bk.so literary im here with my daughter for almost 5yrs.he comes on holiday to see us twice a yr.he cheated once while im pregnant in our first year of marraige.it was online chatting to his ex n all dating sites.i forgave him.last few yrs he nvr called us much or came to see us much. But financialy provided all.i was stressed n went thru so much.last year he cheated with my friend visited some counties together.i confronted him and he cried begged n said not to leave n he needs us.he called my friend n said he lied to her n he stil loves me.next day he tried to suicide by taking poison n I took him to hospital.i forgave him again.then he went back abroad. This yr on he has been on adult dating sites..he admitted n said he needs help from a phycatrist tht he addicted to porn. Then when I said ok.after few days he says he is normal n wouldnt do anythg like that again n never came to a phychiatrist.i cant trust him anymore.i hv filed for divorce.also under medication from a phycatrist cuz of depression a anxiety all throughout the 6 years.i still feel sorry for him but need courage to face life with my daugter.feel am I been caught up in his dramas or should I really leave..need to knw will people like this ever change Can anyone help me with some adivice or words.please im so feeling down.

You people are missing the point. I don't care so much that she turned me down, but to go with a married man instead? That's just wrong. Married men are not even available and she finds one to fvck anyway.