When my brother and I were younger, we used to be good friends! Now that we are older, we don't communicate with each other. We can't even make eye contact. Mostly, I have a bad habit of talking down and insulting him when he's around the house. Insults mainly are "Geez! Are you angry?! You keep on slamming the fridge. Haven't you heard of a door handle?! Haha!" (something like that). Another thing that my brother and I do was we try not to be in the same room together. Especially in the kitchen. When we are about to approach the room, I wait for him to leave & get his food. After he comes out, then I do the same. Or when I see him approach the kitchen, I look the other way & wait. Sometimes I run away from him. I don't know if this behavior is common for most siblings. I'm 22 and my brother is 2 years old than me.

I moved out of my parent's when I was 16, I'm now 24. I've never asked for anything since being gone since we haven't been on the best of terms the whole time. I left for good reason and I don't regret it. Recently, they've apologized and kind of tried mending old wounds, I'm trying too since it doesn't do much good to be bitter your whole life. I have two younger brothers, one is 18 and doing a lot with his life, the other is 20 and is a burn out that expects everything to be handed to him. The 20 year old lost his license and my parents gave my bf the car he was using to help me out because his had just been totaled. The 20 year old recently popped back up and is living with my parents again who are now asking for the car back. I have put money into that car because my brother destroyed it. How is my bf going to get to work? We need both incomes. I'm actually taking car of myself, my brother never has. This seems really unfair and I have no idea what to do. Are they stupid? Do they not see that they're screwing me over? Same as always.

Like she thinks I'm this cold hearted mofo who never cares, never feels. Actually I'm very sensitive but I don't show it infront of other people. When my parents were about to get divorced I told her that she's not the only one hurting (implying i was sad too) and she didn't even notice. She thinks she knows me when I'm lying to her. She tells me all the time: Don't think I'm not aware. You've started lying a bit but I can understand you...like what the hell does she think she's a superhero with super abilities and a lie detector attached to her brain or what?! I'm seriously sick of this. I've lied to her. Yes I know I shouldn't have but I did. And mostly because I wanted to prove her wrong. She also has this thing where she tells everybody: I told you so. Like okay we get it, you know everything! -.- I don't know if I can put up with this any longer. She wants to be my friend but hell no, she can dream it. Because no matter how much I try to be her friend she always does these kind of stuff. I just want her to know I'm not the kind of person she thinks I am. How do i make her realize that I've lied to her and she never understood it.*

well, going to dinner at nice casual restaurant does feel good. BUT MANY FAMILIES just dont go out to eat often. even if just sisters or brothers could out once a week, a nice meal about 30 bucks each, talk, nicely dressed, and talkative, its really fun. WE JUST DONT SEE family eating out together as much as should. they are loved ones. why not twice a week. take turns paying the bills for food and drink. IT CAN BE TOUGH TO GET EVERYBODY to come. but get the close ones and treat them well not having enough money, TOO BUSY, TOO TIRED, KIDS, OR WORK IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH. if you cant go out to eat with family, who else could you. family members close and distant need to talk about many things

alright, so i am 14 a girl. recently not so recent but i from past year my life has been a mess. like a total mess!. me and my parents constantly bicker and do not talk with each other for days. my grades are falling like anything. i am so unfocused and out of the way. i feel like ****!. i am in 10th standard last year of junior high school and i have my pre-boards or modals or pre exam after one wekk and the first exam i have is social, i just can not concentrate whenever i look at the book the overwhelming feeling to get away from it bubbles in me. i just hate it. i really want to score good and do well in my exam but the thing that effort and desire isn't there. i should be studying like my batch mates are but here i am asking questions on yahoo on how to study. it's like all the pros and cons are infront of me but i don't want to believe it. someone please what can i do in this situation more specifically what can i do with me. ps: we don't have councellors, i don't want to go to a councellor. i have already apologized to my parents p.s.s: i son't have much friends so group study is a no-no. there is no gym or open place around so i can go for a walk basically almost all my options are closed

My mom was never married (I am adopted). She was never able to have kids, either. She drove my oldest home from the hospital and my youngest due to my spouse having to work. Now- my husband has the ability to take off for my scheduled induction next week. My mom watches the 2 kids and was going to take them to school. She is now saying that unless we let her drive the new baby home from the hospital and take charge of that, she will not come to the hospital to see "it" (she calls the baby) and will not watch my kids and will leave them home alone by themselves or I will have to cancel my induction (which my dr has deemed medically necessary). She said my husband has no business driving the baby or me home and its her job, not his. Who is right here? my husband is prepared to cuss her out and cut off all ties with her and has given me a "its her or me" ultimatum. She is already FURIOUS because we denied her access to be in the delivery room and she says that because she worked at that hospital, she is entitled to be in there and will tell the dr's and nurses that she has to be there. We got her off that kick and she agreed to take the kids to school, but now since I told her she does not need the car seat in her car (she wanted to take our car seat and put it in HER car instead of giving it to us). She thinks its HER carseat- she is angry.

I'm moving into another life stage right now, and I have no idea what's in store. I've been dependent on my mother financially my whole life. She discourages me and my siblings from getting jobs because we'll no longer be dependents on her insurance, and she'll get less money back from taxes (at least that's what she said). She's also really cruel, draining to be around, dismissive, and has made it clear that she'll erase any disobedient child from her life permanently. I think my financial dependence on her, plus my fear of being rejected by her, is a big part of why I haven't left yet. An even larger issue is the fact that I loooove our dog soooo much, and like I said, my mom doesn't forgive disobedience...I'll never be able to see my dog if I run off. But I refuse to let my relationship with a dog control my whole life and keep me in an unhealthy situation. I'm 20 years old and I can't do anything for myself, I have no independence, no income, and I can't drive. All I have is my high school diploma, some college (I get my A.S. this year), and $160 in my bank account (I got that from selling some of my old things). I have huge goals, and my mom has been standing in my way...but I'm over 18 now and have the legal freedom to leave, so now the only person in my way is ME. I'm making the decision to not hold myself back any more. I have my things packed, and I'm leaving this Thursday or Friday. Problem: I'm broke and I have no car. Uber and Lyft are my only options. If you were in the exact situation as me, what would you do? What steps would you take? By the way, my older siblings are 25 and 29, and we have just as much freedom as our 15-year-old sister (no freedom whatsoever...). I look at my older siblings, and they are not where I want to be at their age (they are also jobless and submissive to our mother). I don't aspire to be like my mother, either (always broke, miserable, struggling). I NEED to break away from the loser mentality my mother is trying to infect us with. My mom doesn't allow people to be great, she's extremely envious.

This mother does drugs with her 17 year old and his friends on the front porch and buys alcohol for them. She has a two year old in the house as well who is around this.The havent had hot water in 4 years.The mother(40) share a bed with her 17 year old son and 2 year old daughter. Her mother(60) has her own room ..The great grandmother (82) sleeps on recliner. 17 year old female friend of 17 year old son sleeps on sofa.House is so dirty and gross.the mother just got her first job in 5 years and no one else works or goes to school.They live off the system.I called because i found out that her son that doesnt live with her who is 14 when he goes there he witnesses this and its making him upset.dyfs went to the house and had wrong address called the mother asked for right address and told her they where coming.why would you do that ? I feel like they just ruined a lot of lives

My aunt has been having problems with her son. He kept getting arrested and he wasn't listening to her. He started trying to physically fight her and she couldn't do it anymore. My parents said they would take him in for some time and see if they could help. Dad's a cop so he is used to people trying to fight him lol. He came to live with us a week ago and things have been hard for me. He pushes me around all the time, manipulates me into doing things like his chores, and he treats me like I'm garbage. I was thinking of asking if I can stay at my aunt's house sometimes since he isn't there and Id rather be with her than anywhere near him. I don't know what to do. I'm not going to let him manipulate me into doing his chores again. He just made me believe that he was actually trying and that he actually needed help. My aunt said I'm welcome to come to her house any time. I just have to ask my parents.

My sister was dumped my her husband of 10 years for a woman much younger than she was. The house sold and she had to move but her apartment would not be ready for 2 weeks so she is temporally staying with my husband and me. As expected she is depressed and has a very low self esteem. Trying to help her I asked my husband to tell her she is still beautiful and appealing to men. He did not want to do it but I insisted and that was what he told her. BIG MISTAKE. She thought he was flirting with her and she has been flirting with him ever since. He has been trying to avoid her but it is hard when she is living here. He wants me to tell her to back off. His is not interested in her in any way. I think he should tell her so I will remain good friends with her. Please give me your opinion. Who should tell her? My husband says the faster she leaves our house the better.

My dad doesnt love me anymore. My stepmom got pregnant with 2 kids that replace my brother and i . Im in 12th grade, cand my brother is in college, all my step mom does is call him a failure to this world, so since she is saying it my dad says it too. Is it because she pleasures him sexually? Thats why he loves her more. I dont even know him anymore. Her child has the same bday as mine, i dont think it was a conicdence, she did this intentionally to get rid of of me. I feel like my life is going to get wasted for their destiny. Myreal mom is tellin me to move with her, but she lives in california, and i would have tp run away. My dad is also. Not an easy guy to talk too. I dont know anymore, im depressed my head has been pounding everyday. I need help before my its too late. My step mom is intentionally trying to ruin my life for her children. I dont want to hurt any one though, im that kind of person. But my hate and anger is about overwhelming me.

I live with only my mom and living with only her is getting tiring. I also have no siblings so being with only my mom everywhere and having no siblings gets very lonley. I do have friends but there are many moments where I can't communicate with them. Being an only child makes car trips and being home alone a lonley pain. Then I see kids on tv like in Bob's Burgers and Modern Family with tons of siblings to do things and fight with. Same thing with all of ny friends and other kids at school who like to talk about their siblings. I can't live like this, how to cope with being an only child?

a 9yr old should know not to throw a baseball in the house

OK, I'm a male and I turned 18 in September last year. I was hopeful that I would finally have my freedom but no. I'm not allowed to parties. I'm not allowed to go out with friends (although she did let me go out with friends 3 times over the past two years, astonishingly). I'm not allowed to go to school social events. She treats me like I'm 10 and it's ridiculous. She worries that I'll get lost. She worries that I'm going to get attacked my a paedophile. She worries that I'll be bullied. She worries that I'll be forced to do stuff I don't want to do by others, e.g. drink and all that. OK I don't really care that I've never drank, and I don't want to drink anyway, but I find it amazing that some parents are OK with their children getting absolutely p*ssed at places they haven't been to before, yet I'm not allowed 10 metres out of the house. She allows me to drive to school sometimes (how she allows it i don't know, considering it's a 22 mile drive). I passed in August. She still makes me have P plates (I get the p*ss taken out of me for this - no one at school has them, even people that only JUST passed). I have to have them for another 2 years -.- I have to call her when I arrive and leave school. If I'm slightly late, she will call me a million times, and if I don't answer she will start panicking and crying. I'm not allowed to drive to friends houses obviously, as I'll "get lost" and that "it's too dangerous". Night driving is obviously off the cards. Also I'm going to a london uni next year. I was hoping this would be a chance for me to gain some independence. NOPE. I have to live at home and will have to walk to the uni every day with my father. This if f**king outrageous. Social life at uni is going to be great. Please, what can I do? Also, regarding moving out, I was hoping to for uni, but as mentioned above I'm not allowed to. Also I did secretly have a girlfriend when I was 16 for about a year, and she did awkwardly find out when she asked who I was texting, she saw the girl's name, lovehearts on the screen (the standard stuff), and she ranged for weeks without any end in sight. We unfortunately broke up because of this, as she threatened to go and have a word with my gf's parents and apologise on my behalf for my "childish and embarrassing behaviour" (whatever this means). Literally moving out is not an option. She will tie me to my bloody bed even if I tried lol. + I've got offers from kings college and imperial college in london and need to focus on getting good grades right now. But I would take out a loan and move into accommodation for uni. But apparently, again this is too "dangerous" I feel so restrained, and it's annoying, i'm not sure if there's anything i can even do :( *If I turned off my phone I wouldn't be allowed to drive at all, even though I bought the car and insured it MYSELF WITH MY OWN MONEY (it's not as impressive as it sounds, it's a 90's vauxhall nova that cost £300 lol). i appreciate you guys answering though!!!

The other day I went with my family to a house showing, because we were looking into buying a certain house. When we were in the car, everyone else wore sneakers with socks but I was wearing flip-flops without socks. On the way to the house showing, when my mom was telling us different tasks to notice different aspects about the house, she told me that she wants me to tell her how the floors/carpets feel since I will be the only one barefoot instead of wearing socks (since people are typically asked to remove their shoes at house showings). Does anyone else think it is weird that my mom assigned me that task?

She is 15 so she more than likely does it. But whenever I listen at night I can never hear anything. It's hot, why else You still make some noises. I don't watch porn simply because it is fake. I prefer fantasizing over real people

As far as I can tell, we both still love each other a lot. He broke up with me after three years of dating because we had been doing long distance for a year and would have 3 and a half more to go because I just started medical school. He is very needy and needed someone physically there for him, and he said he couldn't do long distance for this long. He was crying the whole time. I don't know if he's seeing anyone else or not, but we have been broken up for three months and had been "no contact" for one month. He claimed he wanted to still be friends, but he would be very inconsistent and would only respond sometimes. Most of the time, he would just stop talking to me. I recently tried talking to him again after no contact, and at first he didn't respond but I kept pressing him about why he wasn't responding. He said he "felt like we were picking at a scab and neither one of us could heal" and "it just brings back a lot of feelings." He said, "it just hurts still for him as he knows it does for me too." But, he said he was "sorry he hadn't been responding, he just didn't know what to say, but he wanted to be friends." If I bring up getting back together, he won't respond. He's been responding more and more when its just friendly talk, but sometimes he'll just stop. Says he doesn't want to cut off communication forever but is not ready for more frequent communication. Will he ever want to get back together? EDIT: He just got laid off. Is it insensitive to ask him to look for a job near me? He says he's going to look around for more jobs in the area where he is for now since he just got settled and there are opportunities in the industry there. Says he has a lot to figure out.

I'm an adult and live with parents. He have told me he would kill me despite that i told him i feel he doesn't care about me. My sister doesn't inconsiderate and doesn't speak though i have done things for her. The family is dysfunctional and it doesn't help my anxiety.

This Spring break/summer my family and i are looking for organizations to help the reguees, but we are having trouble fiding some. Does anyone have any suggestions. (and if you are islamiphobic/racist stfu and dont comment :) and also thank you in advance)

Can I have some opinions please? So, here's what's going on in a nutshell. I am 21, about to be 22 in one week. I am living at home. My parents and I moved to Texas about two years ago, and during that time period, I met my boyfriend. He lives about 20 minutes away and it is not unusual for me to stay up late at his house watching Netflix or reading books with him. I work 9:00-5:00 full time as a business office assistant, sometimes working overtime because my boss has left the company. I am also going to college part time and I am responsible for multiple bills of my own including, but not limited to car, insurance, student loans, credit card, etc. I do not pay for rent or utilities because I am in college. (That was the agreement with my folks) I am always responsible, even after staying up late. I always make it to work on time no matter how tired I am and I stay out of trouble. No parting, no drinking, no permiscuality, no drugs, etc. My parents have become upset with me coming home late in the evening. 1:00 is not unusual for me (I try to be home before 2:00 at the LATEST because that's when the bars let out). My parents are trying to enforce a strict midnight curfew. We JUST applied to a new apartment last week and are due to move in April. I was the primary applicant because my credit score was the best of the three of us! So moving out is not an option for me anymore. Advice, please?

So I am 20, 21 in May. This sounds horrible but I hate my mother. I have basically come to terms with the fact that until the day she dies I am never going to be treated respectfully by her. Its not even a matter of she is strict, but she is overbearing. She is emotionally abusive and says some pretty messed up things. She charges me 300 rent every month, and that's fine and everything, but I am not given freedom. I have a 10 o clock curfew (not even), I can't leave my house, and she still talks down to me and treats me like property rather than a person with thoughts and feelings. I am in college full time so I don't really make a whole lot. I want to move out but here's the problem... She has about 6 years worth of my savings and says she won't give it back until after I finish grad school. That is a chunk of money I can use for rent. She says its so it doesn't impact the financial aid my sister and I get for college. In reality I think its a means to control me further. I mean I lived in a dorm my first semester of college and all my mom did was whine about it for months. Oh yeah. And she started charging rent the second I opened up my own checking account in July. This all looks like she wants to make sure I don't have enough money to leave

A couple months ago, my brother (13) and I (11) had just got out of the pool. At the time my Mom, brother, and me lived in an apartment and my brother and I had to share a room. We had decided that I was changing first. But before he left he took his I pad and proper it up against a pillow and his towel on his bed. I did not feel comfortable with this so I looked out the i pad screen and the back camera was recording me changing! I then looked at the camera and covered it up with the towel. HELP My 13 year old brother tried filming me, his 11 year old sister with his I pad while I was changing! What should I do?

Me and my daughter have a good relationship, but she has had problems in the past. She was caught sneaking out at 15. She also seems to keep her life a secret from me at times. We don't let her go out unless we know the people. We moved to Missouri and my daughter has done nothing but sit in her room since. Can you move out? Can she leave and me not be able to get her back? She does have a job and has worked for the company over a year

Today, I found out that I was adopted from far away mountain in ASIA village. Now I am in USA. And my father and mother loves me so much. They said they went to traval world and found me in trash. And now I just turned 18 last night. I Am feeling power like strange. I can do whatever I want. Meaning, I can just imagine it and it will come right infront of me. Example i wish for a phone, in a sec, phone will be just infront of my eyes. Its like I have power. I was exited! but i am scared. Coz I dream of scrary looking women in white dress begging for something and chessing me. I started seeing spirit since morning and they want something. i m scared. i go to highschool. My sister knows about it and she asks me to wish things she wants and i give her. I do it right infront of her. But i am scared. everybody i ask doesn't believe it until i show them.

My mum and my father have been in bad terms since my mum's business grew a lot, leading to her financial situation being much better than my father ( My mum earns $1.5m/year while my father $50/year) They had been through many fights because in case of a divorce, my father would have advantage to take me with him rather than my mum according to the law, if they can't take a decision, which is the most likely to happen (I've heard them fight many times and he's told her that many times). Being the only child, and being very close to my mum, she doesn't want him to take me away (Noting that he's very greedy, and my lifestyle would completely change if that happened. He said clearly many times that he'd put me in a pubic school and sell all of my jewellery/luxury items) My father is always angry and seeking problems and fights, he has a huge hate towards me for no specific reason, since I'm was kid. If I talk, he gets mad, If I don't,he gets mad too, making it impossible to avoid tension and arguments in the house. Whatever I do, he'll argue and complain, How can I calm down the tension between us?

I am a 15 year old girl who has many medical issues. I have to go to the doctor every week or so and am on a lot of medications. On top of that my pop doesn't currently have a job and I know I am costing them a lot of money. Plus my mum and 3 little siblings were in a car accident last week and their car was totaled. Everyone in my family is injured and I am currently going off my meds so I am passing out 3 to 4 times a day. Meaning my parents have to constantly watch over me. Are my parents going to start resenting me? Do they hate me already? The only reason I am going off my meds because I have testing next week and the medicines would make the test give me false answers. Sorry, forgot to clarify that point.

I am 13, turning 14 in August, and I just want to know if I can pick if I want to live with my mom or dad and get to live there or would I have to say who I would rather live with and give reason to the judge and let him decide???

Scenario: Husband (step father) has a son, age 19, who's currently incarcerated (for the next 8 years) due to multiple felonies. His wife has a son, age 20, who's an academic scholar and has earned his Bachelor's degree due to dual enrollment in high school. Incident: During a terrible argument at a picnic, the step father called his wife's son many vulgar names. Also, he expressed that the son was a "conceited brat" and that he needs to be "knocked down a peg or two" or humbled. The son countered by stating that he was tired of his step father's constant abuse and bullying. He told his step father that he was angry because his own son was a "felon with no future". Also, he stated to his step father that his personal and academic success was a painful reminder of his own son's failures. Result: The step father told his wife's son that he was no longer welcome in their home especially during semester breaks and holidays. The son who's currently in graduate school to earn his master's degree has been living with his Dad since the fallout. The wife (son's mother) feels torn between loyalty for her husband and son and has been trying to help reconcile their broken relationship. 1.) Is the step father justified on his feelings towards his wife's son? 2.) If you were the position of the mother, then what actions would you take? Thanks for your response.

I have an uncle that I've only met once in person(he was in the military). however, I do occasionally FaceTime with him and his wife. My uncle and my mother are very close, so he can't be a horrible person. I was actually supposed to move in with him 2 years ago with my grandmother, unfortunately, she passed before we could move. since I started college, my grandma has been trying to get me to move over there. The only thing is that I never lived with anyone else besides my mother(I'm 21) and I'll be moving to another state (which is 4 hours away). I flunked out of community college(twice), I'm completely lost in life and I don't know what I'm doing, and maybe a change in scenery might help. My uncle was in the army and he graduated college so maybe his discipline and college experience can help me more than my mother(she never went to college). he also said that he would try to help me pay for college. sometimes my mother tries to discourage me to move with him because he very strict about cleanliness (I'm not dirty but who doesn't forget to take out the trash). My uncle lives in a small town (the city I live isn't that big, but it's bigger than this town) which is almost 2 hours from Houston, Tx. I have at least 20 relatives that live in Houston. My uncle also is bipolar or schizophrenia (I can't remember which one) he got it from car side bombing in the military. should I move with my uncle? any tips or advice is welcome. thanks

Growing up in middle school, I was made fun of and tortured. Which led to me hating myself in a way. I started my Highschool year as the odd one out with not many friends. I try my best to stay happy everyday no matter who I am around. But my family are the only people who bring me down. My mother has always called me a loser, a low life and that I will soon end up pregnant. She has also said many times that when I end up pregnant I'll be crawling back knocking on her door begging for help and she will not help me. My father is another story. He is just to overprotective. I am 18 years old. Will be graduating may 2016. I've had 3 jobs. Now I am working at McDonald's. I am The only worker who never complains. I am going to AACC after HIGHSCHOOL to major in education and side major in art. I have not had the time to finish driving school but my heart on set goal is to find a car and move out as soon as possible. I have a boyfriend who I've been with for 1 year so far. I don't see myself as a bad child at all. I may do things that any teen would do but that doesn't mean that I don't regret my mistakes. I want to be an art teacher. My biggest dream is writing and acting. Will someone please tell me...... Why does my mother call me a loser, a low life and say that I will soon be pregnant.

I have two younger cousins but to me they are like brothers and my aunt is like a second mother to me is that good? Sometimes I feel I might be coming off a little weird when I tell them that,but maybe I'm just paranoid. Just wanna know

my mother in law found out a few months ago that her home was going into foreclosure and was given the date the house would be auctioned off about 6 months ago. she is just a few days away from being evicted, and she is determined to live out of her car. she says she doesn't know how to look for an apartment, so she just sits back and does nothing. she has a computer with internet access, but instead of looking at available homes, she looked at camping equipment she could buy to live out of her car. I even helped her look for places that met her exact specifications, but she didn't know how to fill out the application (basic info about herself) so she just didn't. it's the same with any help we try to find her. we got her appointments with credit counselors, housing authority, social security, disability, food stamps, tanf, basically any govt program she qualified for, we set up appointments and got her the applications. she wouldn't fill out any of the information because "I don't understand all the questions" (name, age, income, all stuff she knows off the top of her head when asked). now she is about to be homeless, excited to live out of her car with her dog and 2 cats, and wont even consider looking at apartments because, well, I have no idea, she just refuses. she has the money to pay for one already saved and her disability check would more than cover rent and utilities since the housing authority stepped in and agreed to pay for a portion. she is becoming increasingly reliant on other people and has become pretty much helpless. to fill out forms I had to sit down with her and ask her every detail and write it for her because otherwise "it's just too confusing!". if someone doesn't do it for her, it doesn't get done. I'm just very concerned that she is deteriorating mentally since she is more excited about living in her car ("it's an adventure!") than in a safe apartment the church found for her to live in. what should I do? the hubs is just as concerned as I am and we are trying to figure out if we need to call senior services to check in on her or give her an evaluation. I'm very concerned since this is not typical behavior for her. does this sound like mental illness? Alzheimer's? any answers will be appreciated! thanks!

I have two sons aged 24 and 7. The older one is away in the army and the younger one was made aware of it since he was 3 and I think I made a mistake of telling my young one in simple detalied words of what its like to be in the army and now he is scared to death when his older brother is away. They are the bestest friends. My little one keeps on asking me "when will (brother name) come home ?". When he gets distressed at times he sits and cries and when I ask him what happened he goes, "I need (brother name) to come home". When his brother is home they do a lot of stuff together and he keeps telling him to not leave and when the day actually comes for him to go, the little one clings to him cries his eyes out begging him not to go and my older son tries to control himself from crying. I get very disturbed when my child says "what if the bad guys kill him ?" I tell him to have positive thoughts and pray. So, I keep him occupied with other things, take him out and try to keep him as happy as possible, but he is having a lot of anxiety over his brother. This is making me very depressed, I too miss my older son a lot and my husband as well, the man I've been in love with since highschool, who passed away, and seeing this little boy suffer emotionally so much is breaking my heart. What better can I do to help my little one ? He lacks a father figure as I lost my husband when the child was 2 so the obvious closeness between the boys. I don't intent on getting married again....

Strick dad vs no rules? All of my friends have dad's that have NO rules. It's not Fair. They have the opportunity to dye their hair and get piercings. While, my dad doesn't give me no opportunity. It sucks. I lost my mom when I was 4 I'm 13 I'm a girl My dad has a lot of rules; Like I have to be at home by 8:30! He checks my phone every night! He has to approve of what I'm wearing! He checks all my homework! When an adult is speaking I had to say yes sir no sir yes ma'am no ma'am No talking back (can get me into real big trouble) Only A&B Have to do my chores right after school Can't go out with my friends unless he knows the friends How do I make him stop? I seriously thinking of running away! I tried talking to him but he says that he is the authority of the house and what he says goes

She is moving overseas to live with her twin sister. I think a dog would make their lives infinitely better but she's not sure. Ideas?

I moved out after I graduated high school because I couldn't get along with my stepmother and my dad worked all of the time so I wanted to move out as soon as I could. Now my sister is there with her and our stepbrother and sister all alone and they are hard on her. I was wondering if it was possible for her to move into my apartment with me. I go to college but I also have a job and she has a part time job as well. If my father gave permission will she be able to move into my apartment?

What is the emotional damage on a child when a mother goes out to the three times a week partying leaving her female eight-year-old Grandmother. And takes vacations leaving her partying with her friends

This is going to be rather long, please bear with me. Alcoholism and depression run in my family. Ever since I was young, my mother was incredibly emotionally abusive towards my sister and I. She'd get into awful fights with my dad (she's even abuse him- punching him and kicking him), and my sister and I of course would be upset by this. We'd want to leave (keep in mind we were /young/, between 6-10), to go with our dad (they were divorced and he lived in a separate house), and my mother would lock us in our rooms, hide or smash the phones, threaten to beat us if we tried to leave, threaten to drive us out into the middle of no where and leave us, etc. As the years went on she got better, she was hospitalized several times for suicide attempts, and she began drinking- a lot. Things got to the point that she was actually relying on me for emotional support (I myself suffer from severe depression, anxiety, and issues with psychosis), and would bad mouth my dad constantly. I guess you could say crap hit the fan about 2 years ago. My mom, drunk, after fighting with my dad about something, attempted to burn our house down and kill herself. Thank god she didn't and we called the fire department before it got bad. My dad, sister, and I are still scarred from it. (This question [more like story] is getting too long to fit up here, I'll add more in the "updated" section) I haven't seen my mother in 2 years, nor am I allowed to have any communication with her, other than letters that are read by my dad. Apparently there's an order of protection in place. The thing is, her and I have broken that rule. I have always been attached to my mother (not so much anymore) as I suffered horrible separation anxiety as a child. Her and I communicate through Facebook and I feel awful for lying about it, as I know she (and I too) can get in serious trouble. We talk, she tells me about her new job, her boyfriend, and how she's desperately trying to meet with her therapist so we can work something out to see each other. But she still bad mouths my dad which she knows upsets me. She pays child support, and makes comments like "He's probably spending it all on himself", "I dont want to hear sh*t about him", etc. She told me that she was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, so in a way I know she can't help it. She is incredibly manipulative as well. If I don't send her a letter, she says things like "I don't even get letters from my own kids", "Im going to stop checking the mail box, you never send me anything", and when I don't respond to her messages she says stuff like "So you're ignoring me too now?", "Great to see my own kid doesnt love me", etc. Before the house fire, I told her how I felt, I didn't like having to take care of her, I was 14 and struggling with MAJOR depression issues, she said she was killing herself, so I feel as if what happened was/is my fault. What she is saying is really upsetting me. I know, know, KNOW that I shouldnt talk to her, but I feel like if I don't, she'll try to hurt herself and it'll be my fault. I can't tell my therapist any of this because she's obligated to tell my dad. What should I do....? (tl;dr I've lived with an emotionally abusive, manipulative Borderline Mother all of my life, she tried to burn our house down, now I can't talk to her, but I still do, and she's saying really upsetting things). I realize (and apologize) that this is really, awfully long, and sounds like a sob story, but I just felt background information was needed, so people could know how long this has been going on for. I'm 17 now, and the house fire/suicide attempt happened when I was about 14-15.

It been going on for years but my aunt is Hot and she always dress like a hooker and she is the town slut she has been with numbers of married men and couple times she had sex for money she puts pictures on Facebook of herself in Lingerie ..... She is my mom sister and she only 8yrs older then me I am 30 she's 38

I see my brother s friend as a brother? Hmmm i just want to know other people s thoughts on this. So my brother Eric, 14 has a friend named Luis, 14, and well I ve been knowing Luis for a long time , since he was 10 but earlier last year around August is when we started getting closer. The reason i sort of started getting close was because i guess i sort of projected myself into him. Also he has no older brother and his parents don t really pay much attention to him. I sort of felt like i could guide him, i really do see him as my younger brother. I want to keep him in the right track, i want him to avoid drugs and weed and all that bad stuff. I want him to grow up and go to college and be happy i guess. We re to the point where were always together. I pick him up from school almost every day. We talk everyday, We go out to eat, whenever we re not physically together we re online in our gaming systems. Pretty much we re always together. I don t know if I m wrong for doing this or what sort of effect im going to have in his life, I just hope he doesn t end up forgetting me as he gets older :/ that s probably my biggest fear i guess, losing him. I m sort of wondering what sort of psychological effect i am going to have on him, i remember i asked him once what he saw me as and he told me he thought an older brother, which brought a tear to my eye, but that he didn t quite now what it was like to have one. Thank you guys for your feedback.

I know it's common for parents to hit their kids but I don't know if this is normal. I guess you could say I deserved it, since I back talked. My mom took an iPhone charger with the big square block that you plug into the wall, facing me & whacked me in the face with it with full force. My face started dripping down blood, all the way down my neck. She walked away like she was proud of herself. My sisters came in to look at it because they heard me crying but they blamed me & left while laughing. Then my mom came in & Said "ok I'm sorry for hitting you, don't tell anyone please, I don't feel like getting arrested". I don't know what to think. I can't stop crying. Was this my fault?

Honestly, she can do whatever she wants to. She loves, I mean loves, to get me in trouble. What's worse is that my parents normally side with her! Just because of a 2 year age gap, she thinks she's better than me! Sometimes, I confide secrets with her, and the next day suddenly everyone knows. It's like she purposely told absolutely everyone. To make matters worse, my parents like her wayyy more than me. You can tell the difference between just by looking in OUR rooms. Being a little brother Sucks. Sometimes, I want to punch her smirk right off her face.

my boyfriends family seem to be all about themselves or about their own family… they don't really ask me anything about me or my family. and when we have a conversation and i jump in and say "oh yeah my dad use…." it becomes silence. they doesnt go any further. they don't ask me where i was born. the only thing they've asked is where do i live? and what my family does for a living and myself. thats it. and when theres a family gathering. nobody really speaks to me. they just talk amongst themselves. i try to be social but i get a short silent awkward talk. its really uncomfortable. they supposedly like me. they tell me oh you're so good for my son. but its still feels weird.

There's this guy I think I like. We'll call him J. We were friends in class and we always sat together. We would kinda flirt and stuff and I would always ask him if he wanted to hangout, and he did, but I never made definite plans. I ran into him the other night and he seemed surprised to see me and also kind of awkward, but my friends said it seemed like he liked me. One of my friends ran into him the other day and they started talking. My friend said he should really text me but J said "eh maybe. I'll think about it." I some how came up again and J ended up saying I had "big boobs and a really nice butt." So my friend asked him if he liked me and he said "I half do and I half don't" J later said "This girl just confuses the hell out of me" I know I've been kind of giving him mixed signals, like I'll see him and I'll look at him and look away or I pretend like I don't see him. Or sometimes he'll send me snapchats and I ignore them, but then again, he ignores mine too. Tonight he texted me starting up a conversation about class (we have the same teacher, but at a different time) and we talked for a little bit but he never responded to my last text, but it wasn't a question. I was just trying to keep the convo going. Is he into me?

My friend's uncle recently lost his life in a farming accident when he was working on a tractor - a rotary blade came off and hit in him the neck killing him instantly. My friends younger brother (they are the sons of the man's sister) has always been weird. Once he put a hamster in the microwave when he was 12 and when he was 13 he burned down the family shed. He has issues and they put him on medication. We just had his funeral the other day and when it was his turn at the coffin he pulled his uncle's head up by the hair and held it for everyone to see. People were shielding their eyes and crying and the funeral director had to rush in and take care of everything. I wasn't there, thank goodness. This kid just turned 15 years old. He is homeschooled and all he does is stay in his room all the time. What in the world is wrong with someone like this? And the worst part? The family aren't going to send away to anywhere. They are just going to bring it up with his psychiatrist. This creeped me out big time. I liked the man who died and when I heard it I couldn't even believe it. But it's true. This really happened. The family is in tatters. That little bastard better not come around me, that's for sure. Is something wrong with the family? I think he should be sent to an institution or something cause he obviously isn't right in the head.

my dad died on saturday and i dont feel anything, is this normal? it doesnt feel like he died. am i in shock? it was a sudden death, he drowned in the surf....... before that he was fine. very fit and healthy

My parents have high expectations for me and expect me to be a doctor or a lawyer. I don't want to be either of those. First of all, I wouldn't enjoy doing those kinds of jobs. Second, they're not for me. Third, I don't care if those jobs get me rich, I never really wanted to be rich anyways. And last, I don't even have the grades for it. I don't have bad grades but I'm not a straight A student and I'm procrastinator sometimes so that thing is only for hardworking people. My mom is single and poor and she makes that as an excuse for me to be rich and be a doctor because it runs in her family but she wasn't able to be one. I want to make her proud but whenever I think about it something just doesn't feel right ): Here's something I want to be. I love drawing more than anything. I want to go to an art school when I'm older and hopefully be an animator. I love drawing cartoon/manga characters and I've been wanting this since I was 7. I'm 15 now and I still feel the same way. You might think drawing for a job is "stupid" and isn't going to pay bills, etc, but if you feel that way please don't answer. What do I do to let my parents do what I want for a job? Any tips?

A few years ago I was molested by my mothers boyfriend I told her and she said it was a dream and I told cys that because my mother could get in trouble because I was drinking that night and I was a minor. I don t live with her I haven t ever since. Now my mother is still with him and I don t talk to her. But I feel the need to tell my therapist because I need help my mother has me feeling like I m nothing.. But I m concerned my therapist will tell the police and the case will be opened back up and my mom will go to jail and I don t want that... But I need help... What should I do

I feel so much anger and resentment towards my mother for allowing this to go on. I know it is unreasonable to be more mad at her. I can rationalize it, but can't help how I feel. Could it be because I perceive my mom as weak and dad as strong? like maybe subconsciously I know I couldn't stand up to my dad or something??

I honestly do. Do I need help? Is it normal to stare at ones sister?

My mom controls me, manipulates me, and makes me feel guilty ALL THE TIME. She is paranoid, constantly needs reassurance, thinks everyone is making fun of her, wants me to drop everything if she "needs" me. She also makes me feel very bad for being independent, and gets angry when I say "no" to her. Its to the point where I think it is affecting me emotionally. I feel anxious and depressed. I need some distance, but don't want to upset her. How to approach this?

Got a real brain twister for y'all. I am going to a family dinner to meet the grandchild of my grandmother's first cousin. 1. What relation is my grandmother to her first cousins grandchild? I believe it's 3rd, but I could be wrong. 2. What relation would I be to this grandchild I have to meet? **The 'grandchild' is an adult who''s moving away. I believe they have kids... so, 3. What relation am I to my grandmother's first cousin's great-grandchild?

My little bro is one year younger than me, he is stronger and faster than me. He also has a higher IQ score and he is better than me at almost all video games.

I feel very mistreated by my mom and grandmother. My mom touches my arm and when she does I move because no matter who it is, I don t like being touched at all. When she feels that I move the squeezes my arm roughly and demands me to relax my arm when I can t because she is squeezing my muscle! Recently, we were in the car when she did this and out of anger pushed my head into where the seat belt comes out and gave me a slight headache. As for my grandmother, her and her husband (who isn t really my grandfather) tell me I m going to be fat, nothing, a whore, and pregnant when I grow up. She hasn t directly said whore and pregnant but what else could she possibly mean when she says "You keep messin with them boys and you gon be big and fat." It s inplicit what she means but still obvious. I m not dumb. And she thinks I m dumb and not going to pass my grade because I have B s in facilities classes and stuff. I feel that I am being emotionally and physically mistreated by these things. If I were to call child services, they d beat my a-- more in the case that "We do everything for you" which is true, but they also cause me a lot of pain. Im not 16 or over so emancipation won t work... Overall, I m looking for a solution, what can I do?

Admittedly, there are a lot of times when my parents are right but, as I'm growing older and my sister (who is seven years younger than me) is a position where she is becoming more emotionally dependent on my parents for advice about puberty and such, I'm noticing very unsettling treads. There are times when they give extremely obscure advice, sometimes advice that goes against a doctor's words. My parents have respect for me so they would listen to me quietly but then lead my sister in the wrong direction behind my back. I noticed these trend since I was a teenager, especially when I had severe cystic acne (they told me to do nothing, led to severe scarring and self-esteem problems) and I had bullying issues (told me to ignore it, you can imagine the mess). This is especially clear in my father who would asserts he is always right and we should listen to him because he is the "dominant male/father figure of the family" and he has a PhD. Even so, that does not qualify his misled statements about dermatology and problems in school. This is becoming quite rambly but I don't want my parents to make the same mistakes on my sister that they have done with me. Does anyone have any advice on how to talk some sense into them?

Well,,,the voice in my house kept saying I go in to adult site while all these adult link is the Internet company send it to me and honestly I don't feel guilty about it because there's is these incidents happened in my first college make me go on adult chat room. And I keen it's the police need me to go on to the chat room since then I had been received a whole bunch of adult nude picture My father kept blaming me for click on to the adult link while he eventually always go on to the adult website using my computer before I switch to another computer. And now my parents think I should feel guilty and shame about that. But I am not. I can tell I know it's the network police done it to me. And they eventually spread aroma about me being porn. And you know it's the police playing some trick to the parents that want to make you feel guilty. But I am proud to said I am not guilty and shame. Cause I had been used by the police.

I get grounded alot because my sister makes me mad and I yell. It s usually nighttime so things that are loud won t work. Can anyone help me?

Recently we having an argue quite often. I feel that s we have no more romance anymore, since we never care each other health. He only care about kids. He blame me not being a good mother. One night when we join the wedding, my girl want me to stand and accompany her playing . I stand there for a while I felt so sick as I have morning sickness and my food start getting pain cus I wear high heel. I came back to sit and she cry . So he come and ask why I made her cry are you a mother or not. I explain that I can t stand anymore I show him my food is getting Hurt and red. He show irrespective act to me . He push me to stand up and go with the girl. I said I can t and he keep pushing me . I was in anger I suddenly bring my kids home alone and he continue drinking and enjoy the party. I went home put kids to sleep and start texting him how I felt . I ask him if he ever care about my health. He delete my text and act just nothing happen. Days to days I start talking less to him. He know I m angry but he never say sorry. He still can shout and say rude word to me. I now want to leave but the problem is I m having another baby now . I m not sure if I leave and the kids will lace of parent love I m not sure if I can give full support to the kids alone or not