I'm the mother of a 13-year-old going into the 8th grade, and he refuses to make friends. The thing that worries me is that he's not an introvert at all-in fact, when he was younger, he had lots of friends and loved talking to them. The thing is, as he became older, he started becoming more critical of others. By that, I mean he told me that he considers most people 'trivial, unimportant, and stupid'. The problem is that the things he enjoys talking about-science, philosophy, math, and kinetic sculptures-don't interest most people his age. His routine after coming home from school is eating, doing his homework, doing extracurricular activities, eating dinner, reading, and sleeping. Except for extracurricular activities and dinner, he does this all shut in his room. I can tell he really wants friends, as I've seen him try to strike up conversations many times, only for the other person to get bored by the subjects my son is interested in. Because of this, he has no friends. He says he doesn't want friends, saying that friends are a waste of time that would be better spent on extracurricular activities that'll help him him get into good colleges and subjects he's interested in-he's bored with his classes, even though they're the most advanced his school offers. He doesn't admit it, but I can clearly tell he's miserable. He wants friends, but I don't know anyone, kid or adult, who likes to talk about the subjects he does. How can I get him some friends?

My ex-wife wired me some money. My bank called her parents to check (if she is living with them, if she made the wire). She is 36yo, independant and live in another state. Is this a normal thing to do? She is displeased as she did not want her parents to know about that, she did not want them disturbed as they get older, she do not understand how they found her parents number. The parents were displeased and told my bank nothing. I am displeased because of that and also because the wire took for ever to clear. What about privacy? How did they get her parents phone number? My bank wont tell me anything else than security reasons. Thanks for any help. Edit/ wow most of you think someone is lying and I do not believe so. My ex is honnest and we are still friend. I am not trolling. Her parents could not invent this. My bank never confirmed but said if we called them it is for security reasons. Anyway thanks for your quick answers.

I'm 22 and my deadbeat father was on drugs my whole life I struggled with depression and anger over it most of my life but eventually just decided that no piece of trash was worth me crying over and just decided to give up on hope of a relationship with him crossing him out of my life for good but now he has come back claiming I have a little sister who wants to meet me I don't want to hurt a child's feelings but I decided years ago to be done with him If I have another sibling I do want her to have what he never gave me but I feel like I'm being asked too much of

My parents are strict and we get into a lot of fights since I don't like being heavily controlled. My dad thinks he's the boss of the house and he can dictate everything and my mom acts like he's the king of the world which annoys me so much. If she does something normal like go out and drive on the freeway, my dad will yell at her. However, my parents do love me but whenever they show me the slightest bit of affection, I immediately get uncomfortable. I ask them not to touch me because it gives me the creeps and then they get mad at that which starts off another fight. This started ever since I was a child when they would say I love you and I would never say it back because I didn't like saying it back to them. I love my friends and cousins and I hug them & tell them I love them all the time though. I feel as if I met my parents if we were strangers, I wouldn't like them. Every time I try to make an effort, it just falls through. I really would like an indifferent relationship with my parents but that won't happen. I'm hoping for some good advice!!

I'm 19, and I live at home with my dad and my 26-year old brother. My mam died 7 years ago. Ever since last week my dad has been giving out more to me when my brother is out of the house. To be honest, I always say it's because he's tired and I know my dad is being busy for work. Last night he made me cry. I cried quietly to myself when I was going to bed. He calls me lazy and gives out to me for no entire reason. Yet when my brother is here, it's all a big happy family. I feel like leaving the house for a few days and going to live with family because I can't take it anymore. I do loads to help my dad. I help him with his college work, I clean up after myself and clean the house, I even do the shopping on my own most weeks so he can read. I just suddenly feel like I'm not good enough. I want my dad back but I can't take it anymore.

My mother is very sick! She has diabetes,lupus and stage 4 kidney failure. She's 57 and won't let me have power over attorney. She's really sick and weak and can barely walk anymore. My brother has been taking her to the bank and has been stealing tons of money out. He does it because she is scared of him. He yells at her all the time and now she's like used to it. When I try to tell him to stop he wants to argue for hours then the next day he will apologize. We think he has bipolar. But what do I do about him taking money!

She hates lots of people and wants me to avoid her hated ones. However, at other times she might be trying to protect me from getting hurt. Hate flows in my mother's family as a institutionalized immaturity passed down from ancestor to descendant. Hate is the strongest emotion in the family and it is a poison my mother passed down to me as a child when she tried to get me to hate my Dad after they divorced. I broke the chains of her hate however. So my question is how do I know when my Mom says "sweaty, be very careful around my brother and I advise you not to go" when she is being protective as is the case sometimes and when it is her hate flowing out of her? I am just using her brother as an example, there are many she hates.

I don t even know where to start... I feel so alone. My mom won t listen to me and is easily pissed off from anything. My dad is far away and I m really confused. My mom and aunt treat me like a babysitter because they force me to spend time with my young cousin. She s really annoying and follows me around everywhere. I feel like I have no life or personal space left at this point. My mom, brother, cousin, and me are going to my grandmas house for a month. Little cousin has no relations with my grandma. Her parents have to work so they just left her with us. Whenever she gets bored she goes to me or my mom and my mom just says, " go to your cousin" so she always comes over to me 24/7 it s so annoying. I feel like some sort of entertainment source for her. I m having the absolute worst summer, how do I deal with this? :(

I feel kind of bad for her with her being the hated one. At the same time she does have kind of an attitude and is very fat.

I really hate my dad so much to the point where I don't want him around anymore. My father doesn't fail to make me angry I hate living with a person who is controlling and who is an annoyance. I wish I can move out and get on with my life. The worst thing my dad has done was threaten to kill me. I was scared that day and tried my best to stop him from doing so. Before you ask, yes I've spoken with my mother but she tries to shut me out and ignore me. I tell her the problem once again and she responds with a yell and claims that I am looking for trouble. We've tried counselors to, but all my dad does is give them false evidence and tries to make a fool out of me in front of them. My dad also says that I will regret everything I've done now and it will haunt me later on in my adult years. Just seeing him or hearing him or just his presence alone makes me sick. I can't stand him anymore.

I love my image but im starting to become more insecure im 5'7 and Medium overall im more voluptous but people always call me big ? like wtf. Social media and men who wants dominance glorifies short girls and make it a big deal about being my size. Im not fat but ALL MY LIFE ive been called fat. Im 18

My mom has been very abusive since I was 6 when my father died because she started drinking. When she drinks, she would randomly say stuff like she doesn't want me for no apparent reason and she would also beat me and hurt me even if I did nothing wrong. Today, it got very extreme and she tried to kill me. She came at me with a knife and tried to stab me. I was lucky because she didn't. My grandfather thinks I should leave my country to go to Moldova where he is from because it would be safe there. But I feel really selfish to leave my mom despite what she had done to me but I nearly lost my life because of her. Wha should I do?

They now live together as well though I don't know if they have sex. My grandmothers both say how sweet it is. My Dad finds it creepy when I talk about it though he and my Mom are divorced so never speak. My uncle hated my Dad as much as she did after the divorce so that is a part of how they fell in love. Also my uncle was getting divorced at the same time. They gossip together everytime I am with them and people at school (I am out of school now) used to ask if he was my step-Dad and his kids my step-siblings. I noticed last time I visited them which was 4th of July (I live with my Dad) that they kissed on the lips. They did not go into the same room to sleep when I slept overnight at Thanksgiving last year but that is the only time I have slept there. They are in their 50's so not likely to conceive a child together. So is there anything wrong with this or is it sweet and just not normal and that is all? I think their united hatred of my Dad is what brought them together but they are in love in otherways now as well. When I was little they were not particularly close as the uncle was moody and drank too much and my Mom didn't like his wife that much though she was tolerant of her. We only saw this uncle at holidays and funerals or weddings back then. His son I did things with at my grandmothers though. Both have two daughters and a son. Any thoughts? I doubt it is anything sexual, as they are not sleezy or anything and both Christian about sex before marriage things like that.

To begin with I would like to state that I'm really close to my family. If I'm being honest though, I don't remember a time when we've all sincerely been happy. I understand that after all that we've been through there's bound to be breakdowns, and you know occasional backlash. But at this point in my life, after pushing it under the rug all this time I need to understand a little bit more about what I've been pushing under the rug. So one of my parents has always had very occasional meltdowns where they can't handle what they say, they'll be very rough meltdowns screaming as if possessed (not possessed) but you can imagine like those screams in the movies , their always threatening their own lives and its most often to my sibling, although this person has bettered because they used to be a whole lot worse, I'm moving out after I graduate Highschool (in 2 years) & I would like to at least have an idea of what this person who I love so dearly, suffers from, why do they need so much attention, why these meltdowns occur, why so many times they act so insane, but much more often they're outwardly fine. I believe I've put this off bc I've always dealt with it, I'm like this persons shoulder, but even for me I can often get terrified, feeling like I'm in a horror movie.

My dad is a real G, when i was growing up he was always in and out of jail but he always showed up unexpected even when my mom said hes not allowed to see me. On my 10th birthday he gave me 5k all cash in a shoe box, and he said enjoy yourself and make sure mom doesn't take it. now that im 15 i feel like my mom cant stop me seeing my dad cause im not a kid anymore. she says hes just a worthless criminal and dangerous guy, but he always found a way to see me on my bday, gave me the best presents, always took care off me even when he was in and out of prison. I know my dad is a criminal and so on, but his lifestyle is so amazing, he has a brand new BMW M4 and he even let me drive it once, when my dad comes out of jail next month im going to stay with him for a few weeks. Legally can my mom stop me? My dad is not a bad guy he loves me a lot but why is my mom so worried about me seeing him? hes never done anything bad to me once, and i love spending time with him? i just wish my mom would let me see him :((((((

For example she is celebrating that one of her three kids has issues with their Dad (her ex-husband) because it means she will hate her Dad like my aunt hates him (her ex). She also tried to get me to hate my Mom like she did when I was college age and they had a fight. How should I respond if one day she tries to get me to hate someone I like for her? I don't care about her ex-husband as he is long gone from the family so I hate him for her. If it were family though I would never dream of hating someone in the family for her. My Mom is a little like this also though not to the extreme of my aunt.

It hurts his kids though they are now late teens and early twenties. He also was not good to his wife at all though they divorced 10 years ago. He is an alcoholic though his kids say he never admits to it. He has five kids and one doesn't even speak to him (the only daughter). She however, makes the mistake of banning her son from knowing him which I think is wrong as that is using the son to get at him. Obviously visits would have to be when he is sober or within supervised boundaries. So how should people act when around this angry drunk? He is not dangerous, just a grouch.

Last week my house burnt down from lightning. It was a complete loss, there is absolutely no remains whatsoever of anything. My new dog died. Not to mention I am still grounded for a year from my old dog getting run over. This definitely calls for some BIG BIG BIG BIG BIG BIG BIG BIG BIG BIG BIG BIG punishment. The terms are the same as before. Note that 10 years is the BARE minimum. I'm lucky if I only get 20-30 years, it will most likely be in the 40-60 year range. It could possibly be longer as well, maybe even for life. Am I being too harsh on myself? Rules: No electronics, no books, no leaving bedroom, nothing in room except clothes and bed, nutraloaf for every meal, no music, no pop, no snacks, early bedtime 8 PM. Forgot to mention also no friends or phone allowed. Nothing special for any holidays or birthday either. I am allowed to read the newspaper but that's it.

I know it's not really a question I'm just here to vent but I recently became a vegetarian again since last time I felt better my mom kept giving me meat but I'm not letting her get in the way this time now that will probably become a issue because I remember once she made food she got really mad I didn't take it and threw a fit and acted like a child I still eat fine being a vegetarian if that's her concern, when i recently talked about it to the next day she was thinking about buying chicken, I was never like this with her when she went on a gluten free diet but if she goes to that diet again I might just to show her how it feels. I get horrible acid reflux on certain foods especially meat which is a big reason why I'm stop eating meat, I took medicine for it but it only helped for a little bit but then came back. If I eat meat I spit it back out same for bananas so it's not just from meat.

A few years ago my parents got divorced. My mom won but soon became addicted to crystal meth and chaos. First we lost the wifi the the cable then the electricity and finally the water. My siblings, my grandma and myself lived like that for a year. My mom threw me out of my home and either sold or gave away what she didn't want to keep of my belongings. About another year later I'm living with my amazing aunts and my mom is broke, homeless, and has none of her kids. I forgave her for everything but she should be feeding me giving me a place to live not the other way around. I've worked my *** off all summer vacation as a waiter to save for a car and now I'm supposed to say **** whatever I want to be her parent HOW IS THAT FAIR? She likes to insult people who work at Walmart but AT LEAST THEY HAVE A JOB!!! If i can do it she can do it right? Or am I being selfish

My sister really loves scary movies she watched a show last night about Manson she loves him anyway she watched anything about him it doesn't bother her even though it really happened she knows that movies are just movies. She even watched one last night before she went to bed. I couldn't do that. I couldn't watch anything about him even though sometimes I have to. I end up either crying or hiding behind the couch when the murder part comes on. My sister loves stuff like that she's only 14. She's not scared of him at all. She knows all the famous lines that they said she knows every person in his family she knows about the murders. She said she wishes she would have been around at that time she would have joined him. I wouldn't go anywhere near them. This guy is crazy and stupid. She said she wants to be like the girls when she grows up but not so mean and crazy. She thinks she looks like one of them I don't know which one but she kind of does. We're from Ohio where Charlie is from I hope we're not related if we are I'll never look at him the same way again. My sister thinks it would be cool. She even wants to go to one of their parole hearing one day if she can get over her fear of air planes so she can fly out there. She's been obsessed with him for almost a year she watched every movie or documentary about him she knows all about it. She said she wants to marry Tex Watson she has a crush on him. Do you think she's brave for liking these people ?

My Dad has 30 years in jail for child abuse. My Mom has only wanted drugs and last I heard she is homeless. Haven't seen either of them in 6 years. I have a sister but she overdosed 2 years ago and died. She didn't want a relationship with me when she learned we had different Dads. Neither of my parents have contact with their families and those I have contacted don't want contact with me. I don't have close friends and won't due to my learning disabilities. I have some contact with them but they won't love me like family. People like me but I have never been loved. How do I find my way in life having no one. I have no one really. Future---I am 22.

So, he wants to charge me half for a router he purchased and is going to keep. He also wants me to pay half on the 100 eggs he's bought, I've eaten like 10 and bought 18 He braught a microwave and some silverware. I braught stuff from my old place, a ultra HD 55 inch TV, an Xbox he uses for Netflix, a couch, some chairs, a fair amount of cookware, a table, vacuum. We ended up buying some things together at Costco like a floor mat, bathroom mat, hand towels, and some other things I'm probably not going to take with me. He also said that he needed the slightly larger room because he was going to buy a king size bed about a month ago when we moved in, but he still has not done so and is sleeping on the floor in his room. Hes always in the kitchen and while he does clean his dishes, he does so when he gets home the next day more often than not. The fridge is kind of messed with his food, of which I think some is beggining to go bad. I don't know because he's from India and it's all quite odd to me. The ******* apartment always smells like Indian food. I don't want to kick him off the TV when he's watching Netflix(I work graveyard so I wake up a while after he gets home) and since I have a computer in my room. So basically he has the entire place to himself. -.- Mostly I just wanted to rant a little bit, I need to confront him on these things. I am wondering if I should try wagering for a lower rent than him as I've mostly furnished the place.

Hello, my name is Shyanne. I just discovered yesterday that I have a Half-sister that maybe be a year younger than me... (I m 15) So apparently.. her mother (who goes by the name Essence ) got pregnant from my father...(Deceased). No offense to Essence.. but she apparently slept around a lot so when she got pregnant ... he didn t want to say the baby was his. But my godmother says she seen the baby herself and she looked like my father. Fast forward a bit.. Essence gave birth and she wasn t the best of moms ... she would leave the baby in the house alone ... so CPS ended up taking the baby away from her. (This all took place in Queens, NY btw) I really want to find out where she is and I want to get in contact with her... I know we are both fairly young but I know for sure she is my sister... of course there are more details that I didn t list just out of respect for everyone... but I want to find her ... The only thing I know about her is that she was very light skinned like me.. she s most likely adopted or in foster care... and her name ended with a nel or L

Hi everyone, I'm a 57 year old White man with a 25 year old daughter and recently I started a business relationship with one of her associates/friends who she's known since college and is part of her industry network (She's 26 and Korean). I met her at a business event with my daughter and as I manage a website design company and she was starting an online business, she decided to hire me to design her website. To cut a long story short we spent countless days, nights, and dinners together while working on her start up and eventually we started having sex. My daughter found out and went ballistic and is absolutely furious. She is bombarding us with extremely hostile messages. I have been divorced for many years and the Korean woman is very attractive and intelligent, I haven't had this much fun in ages and the sex is incredible. Should there really be any problem? Am I wrong here?

So over the past month, my one cousin came to my house for the whole month. We got to know eachother better and get a grasp of eachother personalities. Though during her stay, the things she did raised up red flags among my family. I don't like physical touch, but she consistently wants to cuddle and touch all over me. And if I pull away, she cries about it. She cries very easily, and almost too often whenever something goes wrong. She's very unsanitary, and coughs with her mouth open and drinks from the same plastic cup as long as she can. She said herself that she's self conscious and sensitive. She's homeschooled, so she's never had any experience with people and I'm her first friend. So based on what we experienced, we thought that we could share our thoughts to help her manage out in the world of she goes out. I told her that she needs go cut back on the cuddling and physical touch because people need personal space, and instead of crying that she should learn how to solve the problem or just wait it out. And I told her that she should be more mindful of her health, because she can't take medicine or get vaccines, so if she gets sick then there's a huge risk for her and others around herself. She's not taking it well and keeps thinking I'm trying to belittle and child her, and that I'm not an adult over her and If I want to be mature then I should've spoke to her over the phone. How do I talk to her when my purpose was to help and give advice?

My son took a summer job at Burger King. He gets along great with everyone with one notable exception. This one kid makes fun of my son's accent relentlessly. Now my son said that he thought he saw this kid buying drugs in the restroom one day. And lately this tormentor hasn't been coming to work and he heard a female manager say "she hop no one shot up his house because he was involved with a gang". I have to say that with the way he treated my son, I don't much care if he did die. But why do people like this treat my son like dirt whereas the other people there treat him well?

Every year my husband's family goes out of town for Labor Day weekend. They'll rent a big house either at the beach or mountains and just go hang out for a few days. They're the type of family where they poke fun at everyone. One minute they're talking about this sibling then they'll switch and laugh at the dad for a while or the mom will do something funny and they rib her for a while. No one is immune. Yes, even me. I've been the but of the jokes on a number of occasions. I'm not sure if I can take that another vacation. My husband said that if you can't take it then don't laugh at anyone else. He said that if you can't take it then don't dish it. I know it's all it fun and relaxation to just get away from everyone's hectic lives but I don't like my flaws or mistakes made fun of. Should I just not go or do I go and not laugh at anyone for fear that it's going to turn around to me at some point during the weekend getaway? My husband said that I need to learn to laugh at myself sometimes and not to take everything so serious. Now my husband is telling me that since I don't want to go on the family vacation then I can count him out of going to my company's picnic this coming Sunday.

To add insult to injury this is pretty much the only way they keep in contact with me... The other is when they get mad at each other and need a shoulder to cry on (I live out of state and aside from being sympathetic I refuse to get involved in their drama). I feel anyone should know that that's a pretty passive aggressive way to treat someone, even if your intentions are genuinely "helpful". How do I get them to chill on the "suggestions"?

Obviously I live on my own though I am single but I have a giant fear of my mother holding me back from people. She and my Dad are divorced and all through my childhood she attempted to hold me back especially when he remarried. She would cut him down daily to me. Now as an adult I have a toxic fear of her controlling me or her mother (my grandmother) controlling me. For example, this weekend it was suggested since my mother does not like her daughter-in-law (my brother's wife) that we all go to Utah for Christmas this year so she doesn't have to host my brother and his wife and their 3 kids but can have them at a resort. I am terrified she is going to make me go by getting my airline ticket without checking with me first and I will be stuck going when I do not want to. She is not as bad as I am making her sound but she does do some of these things partly out of spite for my Dad (who died 3 years ago but she resents I see his family). There are many other examples. I went to a family reunion two weeks ago in my Dad's family and I was worried she'd force me to stay home if my grandmother was ill by getting my grandmother to give the "I am not going to be here much longer" guilt trip. So how do I get over this and become a confident and obedient adult? I am in therapy for anxiety disorders so that is part of all this and a lot of my anxiety came from my mother and her handling of the divorce from my Dad when I was little.

The nieces mother is not nice to the daughter either as she is the black sheep child in a family of four children. The niece is not the best about fitness and eating right but I consider that personal. My mother makes comments like "she has an extra 80 pounds so she should walk over".

My step-mother divorced him and he loved her. It hurts more then when he and my mother divorced because he said while my mother did leave him it was a bad marriage and he was not in love with her anymore. Also my parents were only married 5 years but my Dad and step-mother were for 13 years. My Dad says women are like politicians. There are a few good ones but most are bullies. He also says menopause is like addiction, the person is sick but they destroy all those around them in the process. He compares it to my mother's brother who died from cocaine in 1983 (before I was born). So how do I get him out of this or are these generally good assessments about women? I am 21 but innocent and child-like everyone says due to my learning disabilities. I am a guy so with my Dad a lot more then my mother who I see twice a year only. My step-mother was pretty cruel to him and I haven't spoken to her since the separation though I tell my siblings to tell her hi when I talk to the older one on Facebook (my Dad had two kids with her who are 11 and 14).

I don't know what is wrong with my cousins but they are acting crazy and they are only two, on is 10 and the other is 13 ok so sometime we stay at their house for a 2-7 days and we sometimes have to go outside to do some stuff, the problem is me and my brother (me13 and bro 11) have to go with them and my cousins are public enemies #1 and I mean it, they started a fight with everyone in the neighborhood even us and they aren't satisfied with that, sometime they point at someone and make fun of him/her just when we are with them, or maybe even push us in trouble like telling people we did something we didn't or wanting us to join them in a fight, or mess around they even vandalized a car or two, and me and my brother get the blame, they would go into the backyard, break stuff, dig holes and mess around, then they start hitting us or wanting us to play rough or wanting us to do something restricted, or even wanting us to steal, they even point weapons at us threatening to shoot us if we did not do what they want, then they go cry to their mother and we get the blame, apparently their mother now claim "that we are two spoiled brothers doing crazy stuff". Look, I am not complaining, I just want to stay away from trouble and it is not me who is deciding where to go it is my parents (I still love them), one day I might be in deep trouble. So plz help.

Okay so to give a little background my mom has always been a control freak. Was in a bad relationship and got pregnant with me at nineteen and she already took care of her brothers and sisters and saw her mom in a shitty relationship so she really had no childhood. And i do feel bad for her about that but she has been trying to run my life well after i was old enough to make my own decisions and now its gotten so bad that she doesnt follow instructions about how to care for my daughter when she does have her which she rarely does. She fed her four onces of cereal milk and babyfood which they told us at wic not to put the babyfood in the bottle bc its bad for her teeth that way. She is 8 months old six days away from turning 9. And normally eats six tsps of oatmeal and two baby spoons of fruit and TWO ounces of milk not four. We are trying to get her used to eating her food and not relying as much on the bottle and she sleeps just fine without her binky and my mom didnt listen to us and took it anyways. Her dad and i are still together by the way thats what i mean by us and i basically had to tell her lastnight to cut it out and we're gonna plan her birthday party bc we are tired of her disrespecting our rules when it comes to our child. And my mom rarely watches her we always have her so what makes her think she can run my child's life i dont know but its not gonna happen. My mom also tries to make me feel guilty if i stand up for myself. Does anyone else have this problem?

she appears to have a fairly child-like attitude, and always seeks my approval of almost anything she does, and then if i don't show enough emotion about it, then she gets upset and worries if I hate (or something ridiculous). And when I am honest about something (usually always) she doesn't like it. she said I spend my whole time in my room and she thinks I don't like her. - parents are divorced. - she has many responsibilities and is very stressed - I am 16 and she treats me like an adult but expects me to have the behavior of a small child - like hugging (and stuff like that) - which she gets upset if i don't do and I just find annoying. - I show affection as much as i can but i get fed up of it, and especially when she doesn't remember when I have been nice to her, and only thinks about the times when I haven't been very affectionate - she takes everything i say to heart. HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS PLEASE HELP ME!

My brother wash all his clothes together and keeps in a basket, unfolded, straight from dryer in his room...picks from it. Often wears same thing three days in a row. He will wash clothes with grease on them, not pre-treat, stuff washer so they don't get clean and will wear them like that, out to go places. He wears his tie too short, and wrinkled pants when dressing up. Never polishes shoes. He cannot keep a girlfriend, I tried to help him. Should I go thru all his things and re-wash them? Hang in his closet? He has a walk in closet and dresser..but they are full of old clothes that don't fit. Why can't he help himself? Should I help him?

So i have a cousin who is 23 and he lives next door. He's been unemployed for the longest but he relies on school college money in the mail every month for his small expenses. Lately he's been asking me to let him borrow money here and there and he goes and wastes it on alcohol and weed. Today i told him off i told him i will no longer help him support his addiction. I told him if he wants to keep doing that he can a job all on his own and the he was a big boy now. Was i being mean?????

My mom just going to grounded me all because i go to the bathroom at 2 in the morning. I just woke up and had to ******* pee that all. It piss me off because she because she always grounded me for the stupidest thing. What should i do? Im 14 btw.

So like I'm 16 and I'm a weeaboo, and I want to let my mom and family know im one, but I'm afraid they may not accept me because I have a family full of rednecks, now a few years ago my mom accepted me as a brony, she bought me an mlp plushie even though im a guy, but that was years ago, idk if she will accept me as a weeaboo or not *update* i guess my family arent rednecks but they are a little bit country, but my mom isnt, my mom is kind of laid back but can be strict i guess

I'm a 17 year old girl living in Africa. I have a sister who is disabled, she just lies on the sofa the whole day, she can't speak and she has Down Syndrome. In 2010 we had taken her to U.K in hopes that they would have a solution for her. She was given free education and we received family allowance from the government. Unfortunately, we had to return because there had been a lot of family problems. Financially we were well off however, my father passed away recently and whatever he left behind is being shared by 8 (4 step siblings, plus three of us and my mother) and the amount we get is not enough for us to survive on considering we have to pay rent as our house was taken away and the amount of medical bills we get for my little sister leaves us with almost nothing to survive. I was supposed to do my O'levels this year but I couldn't go to school anymore because I don't have the money to pay school fees and when I try to look for a job I'm always rejected as I have no qualifications. We tried going back to U.K but they're declining our visa applications. Everyone in my family has just turned their backs against us and we really don't know what to do. If anyone knows of a country where we can get help for my little sister as well as jobs please, please advise us.

Hi I m wondering how to submit something to the playhouse mailbag. I need advice here. My son will be 4mo old next week. I just quit my job to be a stay at home mom. I tell my fiance he doesn t help out with our son enough, he doesn t get up at night with him, he hands me baby most times when his diaper is poopy, he won t learn how to make his formula, things like that. I m getting frustrated. I try telling him it s mentally exhausting for me sometimes and I need breaks but my fiance says it s the mother s job to take care of our son and that because he works anywhere from 9-12 hours/day he can use that as an excuse to not help with baby. Our relationship is basically non existent now and I don t know what to do. :(

Its been about a month and a half and she has not done much chores around the house, its dusty and needs to be cleaned and she doesnt care to do it unless begged or told to. Unappreciative.. forsure. We made a pack when i got her an iPhone, that she would listen and obey all rules, instead she stays up all night and when i ask her to get up she fights with me and my mom, even yells at us at the top of lungs, so this morning my grandpa got her from out of town and she refused to get out of bed I threatened to take her phone and she was like "i dont care" take it"... whatever, so i got the phone.. after she threw it across the room because she saw i was serious. threw a total fit. now im using the phone in my name and shes using another phone.. is this right? I mean i sacrifice having an iphone so she can have one only to be disrespected and unappreciated. I take care of my sister and my mom, pay all bills. She needs to understand that its not easy. She got really mad and told me she hated me and that she was texting her dad and shes going to go back to texas, I sent for her from LA to be with me and my mom her only real family since the beginning, its so hurtful but I will deal with it for her, after she said sorry and stuff and wanted the phone back of course, then she got over it and told me she was just mad but for her to say all this. has she not seem what i have created for the family? does she not get it? how do i show her and make her understand that this was not all given to me, i worked for it for her and my mom, and i worked hard. im only 21 and shes 13, and i support her and my 40 year old mom, we live a decent life, and have nice things When she told me that, I told her put her dad on the phone, and my grandma who she thinks is going to take her so i guess thats why she thinks she can do whatever she wants? I want them to tell her that they arent going to take her she needs to know the truth. she cant be coming and disrespecting me or anyone else in this household. thank you all for your quick responses, dont know what id do without you guys. its very hard. but I will get through this, and I will be a strong man because of it She thinks she "doesnt have to clean up" but she did it for me, and im trying to instill in her that she DOES have to do it for HER and for the family. is this wrong?! this is HER home too. and she should cherish it, we were homeless at one point. and for us to have all that we have now she needs to see that all of it can be taken at any moment so she needs to appreciate all we have.

Good day everyone. I have a disease which symptoms come and go. My mom is the only one I'd consider supporting me but sometimes I don't feel like I'm really getting support.. It's the start of the problem when she is all concern but after no more than a week it's like she forgets about it. She doesn't ask how I'm doing now or anything. For instance, I just started this strong medication and at the beginning she made sure I was taking it on time but after 3 days that was it with her concerning me on the drug. You know. no follow up questions checking if I'm alright. I don't know if I'm overreacting. I know she gets busy but sometimes it feels as if I have no support at all. When there is a medical concern most times I don't tell her thinking she is too busy but when she finds out she gets upset asking why I never told her.

I have terrible social skills and very awkward around people. I m 21 and have never been in a relationship. I inherited $13 million, sold my parent s house for an additional $4 mil, and live alone after my dad passed away. I have a civil engineering degree but I see no point in taking any jobs since the dividends from my investments are more than sufficient to fund my lifestyle. I spend the majority of time on my computer and I feel it is negatively impacting my mental health. Living alone also doesn t help.

I have not had a family that loves me and I want to know how to get a family now. I'm 17 and going to be 18 soon and I only live in a foster home. I know for sure that once I turn 18 I'm going to be kicked out . Is it possible to have a family ( like a father or mother) even after I become adult? I want someone to call as my mom and dad... aunt and uncle etc. I want a real family I don't want to get married or have kids though till I'm older Is there a way to get a family ?

i get so angry with her. she constantly tells "white" lies and i catch her lying and she denies it. its so frustrating. she recently had a blood clot on her brain and had surgery. the clot caused a mild stroke. the doctor says she's fine now and she is almost back to normal but she constantly talks about how her hand isn't right, she can't write good, she had trouble walking...etc. well she has no problem going shopping for an entire day!, doing laundry, washing her kitchen floor and so on. she acts all old an weak when she is with me. it drives me crazy because of her chronic lying I don't know whether to believe her or not. before this happened she was so independent and game to do anything. now its like she aged 20 years over night. she even gave up her car so i'm her taxi now. i got so angry i told her i didn't like being with her anymore, i rented her for moving near me, etc. i feel so so bad. i did apologize but there is something deep rooted here that i just can't put my finger on. i love my mom dearly. why am i so angry??? i think i'm a horrible daughter

My entire family basically disowned me when I was 17 years old and that was way back in 2011.I felt so bad and just wanted to die but I m lucky I did not die.Me and my family didnt talk for 5 years. They weren t there for me when I graduated from high school in 2011 and they weren t there for me when I graduated from college in 2016. The problem was that I decided to come out to them in 2011 and tell them that i was gay and had a boyfriend and they went completely psycho and threw me and my stuff out the house and called me a pervert and child molester. They recently decided to come back into my life in 2017 but the issue is that my nieces and nephews call me "uncle jay the gay" I never been so embarrassed in my life. I feel like they came back into my life to come back at me for what I am. My family truly hates gay people. When they heard of the pulse night club attack on the news my dad replied "God s just doing his job" I can t with these people.... I just can t.

Ok im 23 and ive never lived away from home due to my parents being super religious and bascially kept telling me that living on my own would be too hard for me and i could live in their house till i was married and i didnt have to struggle on my own like most early 20 somethings anyways ive been with my boyfriend whos 32 and divorced he's been divorced for 6 years now were talking about me moving in his house to see if we would be compatible for marriage his last marriage ended cause his wife cheated and he felt like he married "a stranger" and refuse to let that happen again and has emotional hang ups cant say he loves me cause he claims "i dont see you day in and out i dont know how i would be able to fall in love if you dont live with me" so i told my parents this and they went CRAZY telling me if i would fall for that crap they will never take me back they'll sell my car and they wont help me out at all (my mom takes me to work every day cause i have panic attacks while driving due to a bad wreck i had) anyways im torn i would love to have a chance to actually GROW UP and possibly have a REAL FUTURE with my boyfriend but at the same time my parents are my parents and i would be even more mentally messed up if they disowned me WTF SHOULD I DO?? i dont want my boyfriend thinking im too young & immature for him me and him have been together a year and I feel like things need to move forward

For the past 18 yrs I always thought my birth dad wanted nothing to do with me but since May we have been talking over facebook & we are best friends now. He lives in another country.. there are people who are saying i'm too close but i don't understand how when I just love my dad so much.. some are saying he's probably not even my dad bc I call him "dady", (since that word has been s*xualized.. but for 18 years i thought he didn't want me.. am I too close? I call him dady still, tell him i love and love him, cry to him on the phone.

My brother has a big house and for some reason it has gotten to become the epicenter for meetings and gathering among my family and our friends. Especially now over the summer they have had bbq:s, gatherings, parties, guys night, something almost every weekend. My parents go there often and they have their own room and they play with the kids. I just feel like I am not in that position. When my parents or my brother comes to visit me and my wife they usually stay an hour or two and then go home. I wanted to know what was going on, why I am not a part of it all like he is, why he is not inviting me to his guys nights and things like that. He said: "First off I need you to know that you are my brother and I will always be there for you when you need me. Thick or thin. But the matter at hand is why you don't have friends and why our parents don't like to hang out with you as much as me. I will be brutally honest. The fact is that you and your wife are cold, distant,uninviting and kind of boring. Whenever people go there, be it our friends or our family, they feel unwelcome. I don't invite you any longer because I get the sense you don't want to be there. Me and guys joke around, complain about our wives and you look like you can't wait to go home. There you have it". At the moment it was harsh. I know that I will never be the life off the party but my own parents dread coming to me by the looks of it. I don't know what to do?

I don't know what to do anymore I am currently 17 years old I live with my mom I have an older brother who has a 8 year old son he comes over mostly everyday and so does his sons baby mama which he's not together with anymore him and her are always coming over to my house and bringing problems to my house they are always arguing and calling each other names they argue like everyday and I am tired of hearing so much violence he has threatened her before and called her ***** and has told her she's worthless in front of there kid they are both really aggressive towards each other and they always forget about there son they don't have time for him anymore they don't feed him good he's really skinny for his age he even has white spots on his face from not eating good he has became really aggressive lately and has been threatening me as well telling me to die and that he's gonna hurt me And has even tried hitting me with a hammer I am super scared of him I try to tell his parents they don't listen instead they just argue in front of him what can I do about this...?? My brother is super aggressive he has also mentally abused me how can I get the help for them how can I get them to stop arguing

I'm 14 and years old and an only child so my mom likes me to talk to my grandparents and aunts as much as possible since they are my only family. I've never felt comfortable around them, not around my aunts, grandparents, or even my cousins my same age. They always look down at me, and always criticize me about my weight and hair. Every conversation always turns into a conversation about my weight. My entire family is insanely skinny, eating disorders as drugs are a big role for a lot of my family members weight, and they don't like that im the odd one out. I'm not afraid to say that I'm over weight, but they expect me to just stop eating when they all stare at me at family gatherings (thanksgiving is actually a nightmare). Like I said, I KNOW I'm big, but I would rather have a few pounds and being happy than skinny with a drug addiction and failures in life. I don't know how to deal with it, I've begged my mom to let me stay away from them but then again they are my family. Anyone have familiar experiences or advice?

Usually being left out and stuff like that I don't mind and I rarely feel hurt but recently my family from Germany came to visit at my house and they all have this big trip planned out including my other side of the family in another state. But it kind of hurts me that about all of my family will be there, they invited me, then they kind of uninvited me by saying there's not really space (which there was already a solution for that but they disregard it) but it's a bothersome when I'm like "the chosen one" out of 15 people to be kicked out probably because my older sisters/cousins don't favoritize me as highly as their others

So my boyfriend is 26 years old and has a 12 year old niece. I think the niece has a little crush on him because when we went on a family trip recently she was always all over him! Whenever we were outside she d tried to steal his hat, or ask him to carry her, or tried to sit on his lap, or laid on top of him when he was trying to sleep and started bouncing on top of him, or asking him when they will have their next sleepover. It was my first time meeting her and I felt like she had no interest in talking with me or even her other family members, just him! I had no vibes that my boyfriend was doing anything inappropriate with her. It has nothing to do with jealousy but I just get this gut feeling of being extremely uncomfortable with the relationship... I approached my boyfriend about it but he was in disbelief that there were no boundaries crossed. He s determined on taking her to a weekend trip to Disney world alone to spend quality time with her and inviting her over for sleepovers at his house to watch movies. I don t know if it is just me but I ve never had this kind of relationship with uncles or cousins. I work in an environment where I work with girls and women who were sexually abused or molested and 9 times out of ten they were always family members. Rarely ever strangers. It is extremely heart breaking and something that they carry for the rest of their lives. What do you guys think?

I'm really young and I just found out I was pregnant almost a month ago I was devastated when I found out because it was not planned at all I told my family and some of them were disappointed but my mom is extremely supportive of me but my boyfriend lately has been making me stress out over my pregnancy.. he's trying to get me to marry him but I don't want to because our relationship isn't the best and I feel like it's just getting worse ever since I found out I was pregnant.. he says if I ever leave him he's taking the kid away from me and he will get all of his family that lives in a different country to come over here and help make that happen.. he's threatened to kidnap the kid away from me and take it back to the county he was born in.. he has extreme anger issues and gets mad at anything I do and has accused me of cheating on him which I would never do .. also during a heated argument he told me to abort the baby.. I just feel like it was a mistake getting pregnant not like it was planned but still.. he also drinks and does drugs he's telling me he's stopped ever since I got pregnant but I know he's doing it behind my back. I just don't know what to do I feel so miserable I don't want him taking my unborn baby away from me I feel like I made a huge mistake .. I'm 18 Btw ill be 19 when I have the baby I feel like I'm in a big ugly situation and I'm almost 3 months pregnant.. what do I do ?? I wish I could keep calm and stop stressing out but I don't know what to do :'(

He just turned 18, Its like he's never happy never smiles in pictures I want help to know what's wrong with him. I can't ask him cause he won't tell me what's been going on I need help before he kills him self or worse.

I am having a hard time coming up for the term for when a certain place brings back memories of grief from the past. He died in the restroom months ago after a heart attack in the morning and she does not feel comfertable in the house anymore. He build the house hisself when he was alive and it malkes me sad to give up a home built by him now that he is gone. But, i feel like seeing the place where he passed away is causing this uncomfort. Me and my sister are in college and my 2 younger siblings are left at home while we head back to school this fall.