Family: Question: My mother dislikes her daughter-in-law and only sees the worse in her. She dreads visits from my brother and his wife. Why would one do this?

Question: My mother dislikes her daughter-in-law and only sees the worse in her. She dreads visits from my brother and his wife. Why would one do this?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 02:02 PM PDT

Why would a mother do this to her son's wife? My brother's wife is fine. She has little etiquette quirks but that is just how she was raised. My mother only sees the negative in her. Why would a mother do this to her son's love? Also how do I get my Mom to see this when I am the daughter and thus should be respecting my Mom and not criticizing her? She likes her sons in law, but not her sons wife. She has two sons and one is married (the other has disabilities and likely will not marry). Any thoughts? She'd be furious if my in-laws treated me the way she treats her daughter-in-law.

Question: MY aunt has lost her mind. How do I act when I see her next week?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 01:59 PM PDT

She is jumping up and down with joy that my Mom's brother who she hates more then a human can describe finally has some dirt on him. She is coming to town to spread the hatred. My Mom warned me how deranged her sister is going to act. The woman lives and breathes on her hatred of her brother. She won't let her two kids be a part of our extended family because of her hatred for her brother. I feel I should see this aunt when she is in town even though she has lost her mind. She is still family. How do I act around this crazy woman? Her hatred of her brother is because he does not always respect her. He doesn't have her babysit his kids or ask her to every social event he has. He is a good guy and he failed to file his taxes for 5 years and misled his wife. She forgives him but this aunt found out and is super excited because she finally has dirt on him. I say it is none of any of our business. My mother has two sisters and two brothers. This one aunt is the only one with hatred for this uncle. He and my aunt were one year apart in age so they had teen sibling competition. My uncle long ago grew up but this crazy aunt did not. She divorced her husband and has been cited for parental alienation of affection by the ex. So that is the kind of person she is.

Question: Should I tell my parents that my older sister (16) drinks alcohol secretly?

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Question: My aunt and her daughter are in a world war with each other. Whose side do I take?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 01:52 PM PDT

Question: My mother is embarrassed I came to her cousin's funeral today. How do I get her to stop being embarrassed of me?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 01:52 PM PDT

Question: My brother is a cross dresser. What do I tell my friends about this?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 01:51 PM PDT

Question: How do I get my Mom not to hurt me for seeing her enemy (my Dad)?

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Question: I'm hungry?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 01:18 PM PDT

My parents went ma Donald's with my brother and never brought me anything back because apparently I had to come to get something they were gone for around 7 hours and I'm hungry

Question: How to explain to my step kids about their mom?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 01:05 PM PDT

My step kids have been in my life about 2 years now, and their mother is bad news...she barely was a mom the few years she had them (wouldn't feed them, slept till 3 in the afternoon, fooled around a lot and left them in their rooms just was honestly a horrible person, wouldn't change their diapers my fiancé would do the work after working all day, she didn't take them places would throw actual hissy fits if she had to bring the kids...so when I got with my fiancé I pretty much took roll of mommy which meant lots of spoiling and love from me because those babies needed it and now mom only comes around when it's convenient for her which is about an hour once a month or a birthday party and she doesn't even buy them presents...they have started calling me mommy which I'm fine with of course but they don't understand the mom part they call her by her actual name and My fiancé wants me to explain she won't be coming around anymore sense it's been months of her no contact and she recently told a relative she doesn't want to see them I just don't know how to tell someone so young that :/ but I also don't want them to grow up and resent me for not telling them

Question: My mom is an alcoholic...?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 12:14 PM PDT

So first of all, hello. Okay, so my mom is an alcoholic, she drinks EVERY day, only she stops/is sober on Sunday, she doesn't go to work on that day... Whenever she gets back from work, she goes to the bathroom or in the bedroom, where she hides the bottles of brandy.beer and she hides them from us and drinks when we are not at home, or she locks there and drinks all day... Me and my dad every day, telling her to stop, it's bad for her health, but whenever we say something, she starts to swear at us, telling anything she can think of, bad things... I'm too angry, i feel like my head would explode, we are telling to stop, but she won't listen, its like you are talking to a stone... We can't take this anymore, as everyday we argue around the same thing. I know im not the only one here with this problem, so i would like to hear any help, tip or anything else from anyone facing/was facing this problem, thanks for reading this :/... Also, forgot to mention i'm 22, i've dropped out of university just because of this, its a big problem, also she smokes 2-3 packs of cigarettes a day... no one is doing this in my family relatives, and i know that this is not a place to seek for help, but i would like to hear anything...

Question: Can a 17 year old choose to not see their dad?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 12:03 PM PDT

I'm 17 and I'm court ordered to see my dad. He's abusive and so is his dog. (He sends the huge dog to attack me) I've told my mom sooooo many times that he is abusive and I can't go there anymore. She doesn't care and tells me "one more year.." I don't have a year. If I have to keep seeing this disgusting person and being bullied & abused then I'm thinking about offing myself. He's narcissistic and manipulative. I've ran away so many times. I told my dad he makes me want to die but he won't let me go. He calls me names (fag, dyke, tranny, ******* *****, whore) so I stay shut up in my room until the weekend is over and I go home. But he comes in and starts fights saying I need to be in the living room with everyone so I go and he sets his mutt after me!!! I have so many cuts from the damn thing. I've told my mom I'll seriously kill myself and she doesn't care. This is my last hope. I'm going there today and I'm so terrified every time.. Every time he calls me things and hits/kicks me, he buys me something and when I don't react "properly" to it, he says "I spent alllll this money, you ungrateful brat!" When I never asked for him to buy anything. I want to die. I have panic attacks and I had one recently so I couldn't go to his house.i ran into him in a store and he made a scene...I hugged him and said I had a PA so I couldn't go and all he said was "you look fine to me" and pushed me off. Please tell me there's a way I don't have to see him ever again.

Question: I can't stand my mom even as an adult. Is it ok to avoid her?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 11:57 AM PDT

Like her intentions are good but she's always telling me how to live my life or judging me telling other what she doesn't like about me I'm due in October my daughters bithday is in December I said I'm going to have a small celebration for my daughter since all the attention has been on the baby and I feel it isn't fair and she's been so helpful I think she deserves it she went along with it and said yeah I can bring something and of course I understand etc etc.. 10 minutes later my dad calls me yelling how I can forget a birthday for one year since I'm having a baby and I need to rest and he doesn't understand why I'm going on and on about a birthday when I'll have a new baby. It was the last straw I know for a fact that's what my mom was thinking the whole time but made my dad call me and tell me. I have had it with her she doesn't help at all we only see her holidays. I want to cut her out of my life I feel nothing but negativity from her is that bad ?

Question: What would you do if this way your dad?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 11:54 AM PDT

So I'm 14, my parents split up when I was born and my mum had to choose between aborting me or divorcing him (She divorced him), he abused my mum, my two brothers and sister, cheated on my mum, took my siblings (when they were babies) to his girlfriends house, forced my mum into having abortions and made her try kill herself. When my parents split up my dad stalked my mum but then married the woman he was dating, soon after they split up because he was cheating and abusing her again. He has found a new girlfriend (Who is married and has kids who I met and was friends with) and would make me have sleepovers with the kids so he could meet the Mum in secret, I went to Egypt and France with them (Which was nice but I was forced into going otherwise my mothers money from him would be cut of) and after that because I refused to spend x-mas day at the girlfriends he has shunned me and hasn't talked to me for a few months, I recently found out he's going to Disney in America with the girlfriend and her family while leaving me and my sister (Who will be giving birth to his first grand kid while he's away) in England. I don't even know what to feel about him, when I'm with him and his girlfriend he acts nice but when we were in France he went to hit me because I didn't want to go on a ride and has done stuff like that multiple times, he uses his kids to make woman like him and then forgets about them.

Question: Excuse to be off my moms bank account?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 11:08 AM PDT

She signed up for a bank with me when i was 16 but now im 18 and i really dont like the fact she can see how much money i have and what i spend it on, whats a good excuse to have my own account? I dont want to hurt her feelings or anything or start an argument ! Thnks!

Question: My 10 year old son got suspended for saying the "N" word in school, while a girl who called him cracker and hockey didn't get in any trouble?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 10:40 AM PDT

My 10 year old son last school year was having a problem with a young girl in his class. She would tease him constantly and belittle him. My son mostly igored her. At the end of the year when she called him cracker and hockey as she normally did he told her that it's not nice and how would she liked if he called her n**ger . He got suspended for this and the black girl didn't get in any trouble. My son isn't racist and has black friends. He's a straight A student who has never been in trouble while the young girl is a known bully who is a poor student

Question: Tired of my mother stressing me out?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 10:31 AM PDT

Yes, every since I had my son in April she has been stressing me out. Threatening me and my sister out her house. The problem my sister and I are paying the rent. Have been paying the rent together the last 2 years. When there's an altercation with me and her or my sister and her she is ready to.out everyone out. I pay $200 and my sister pays $300. This covers the rent which is $420. Water is included and the only thing separate is the light bill which we pay $80 towards. I have 3 kids and we are cooped up in one bedroom room now. My mom has been threatening me every month since April. I am trying to find housing, but it's hard when we had a major flood here in Louisiana last year that destroyed everything and most of the shelters, houses, and apartments are full. My income is limited and I can't go back to work right now because I'm dealing with my 2 year old who is special needs. She has therapy once a week for one hour. I have applied for her disability. In the mean time my mental health is being tormunted monthly when my mom threatens me. It's really stressful trying to find housing less than a month when she does this. I thought about leaving the state where there is better job and housing opportunities since the flood in Louisiana. I will be 29 next week and want to get into my own home for me and my family. Helena: The flood we had in Louisiana destroyed everything here. Lot of families are with out homes. Shelters are full and housing is limited here. I am afraid I will have to move out of state to survive.

Question: I just started high school and I still have to share a bed and bedroom with my brother. My sister shares the room to but that's not a issue.?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 09:33 AM PDT

What do I do or where do I go for studying and privacy? It's rlly hard bc my brother is always screaming and making weird noises. There's no other place to study and concentrate except the bed, but I can't sit up straight under the bed because I'm too tall (bunk-bed). So I mean... what do I do?

Question: Is my boyfriend a jerk for breaking up with me because my Mom has cancer?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 09:14 AM PDT

It's been rough for me my Mom has just got cancer then my boyfriend of over 1.5 years breaks up with me. We were in love and talking about marriage. Turns out that he wants to break up with me since Cancer runs in my family. My grandmother, Aunt and now my Mom got it. He said he doesn't want to go through that if we're married or have it passed down to the kids

Question: Should my son get fired from his job?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 09:10 AM PDT

My son is 20 and was hired this summer as a security guard in a tourist city. He had to drive other female employees to transport them to another part of the city. While entering the van, he accidentally let his foot off the brake, and as a result the van rolled over the female employee's foot. She didn't break anything thankfully but is on crutches. The female employee indicates that my son drove away too soon the week before. My son indicates that is not the case, he went to pick up the employees and couldn't see them, so he drove away, but they ended up calling his cell phone and he returned to pick them up. My son is suspended while the main boss "John" makes a decision whether or not he will be fired. My son's supervisor, "Mike", has other information that the big boss "John" doesn't know: my son was warned by other employees on several occasions about dress code rules (no rolling up sleeves), my son was talking to restaurant waitresses and the restaurant manager called Mike to let him know. My son told a female employee "I'm ******* busy" when she called for a ride, my son was 20 min. late one time getting out of the dressing room. My son's boss, "Mike" has never once talked to my son about all of these incidents until now. I am disgusted with my son's behavior. I feel he is cocky who doesn't like to always follow rules. However, I feel like he needs to learn a lesson to follow rules. Should he be fired, or should he be given another chance to straighten up?

Question: My friend did something that really upset me. What should I do?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 09:07 AM PDT

My fiancé and I recently moved in to his grandmother s house. She is very particular and wants everything in her house a certain way. Because of this everything my be cleaned and organized. My fiancé s little sister, Kat, loves baking and never has a chance to do it and my friend, Mandy, said she was very good and it so I suggested that we have a girls baking day. Grandma said it was okay so we did it at her house. Mandy didn t let us do anything, she just started to boss us around and told us to hand her things that she needed. It got to the point where Kat was just standing there and I left the room altogether (I didn t even Make anything) So Mandy made a HUGE mess. Got Macaroon batter all over the sink, counters, got sugar everywhere, spilled sprinkles all over the floor, started eating the cupcakes before "we" even made frosting. It s was a GIANT mess. Every surface in that kitchen was sticky. After we finished we all talked for a bit, then she LEFT! She is an adult, made a giant mess in Grandma s kitchen and did not help clean at all!! While I was in the process of cleaning it by myself Grandma came in and saw what a disaster her kitchen was and cleaned it for over an hour (once she starts, she won t let anyone help her). I found this very disrespectful to Grandma and Myself. I m very upset by this, I don t want to start problems with her, but her behavior yesterday was so unbelievably rude and she is now banned from coming over again. How should I handle this?

Question: Can someone PM me here?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 09:06 AM PDT

I need to talk privately to someone only my age. I'm a 24 yr old female. I need to ask something I can't say it here I will get flagged for it.

Question: Father threatens to cut off money. How am I suppost to survive?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 08:36 AM PDT

I'm art student in college, not graduated yet cause I had to change my major a few times, but I know i'm going to make a lot of money for my work when I get out, but hes telling me I need to get a job now cause i'm 26 , but there's nothing suited for my talents. He's saying just get a job at fast food or something! That's dangerous work an you can hurt yourself! An someone with my skills and abilitys would be a WASTE to do drudgery in a kitchen of some place where lowlifes work. I told him I would already have a job in art if it wasn't for DONALD TRUMP not giving enough support to the arts, an that just made him mad cause he supports trump. My mother is the only one I can talk to, cause shes the only one who understands. An she don't like Trump either. But he controls the money, cause that's all he cares about. He says that cause he works an pays the bills, that gives him the right to just take away the money if he feels like it! What I'm I suppost to do???

Question: How could a teenager earn money at home with a computer?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 07:51 AM PDT

So a year ago my mom lost her job. A full year she was unemployed. Gladly, she found a new job, but it isn't a very good one, the salary is only enough to help take care of the hole family and pay rent (she is a single mother). But being a teenager, I want to try out different things. For example, I'd like to attend Robotics and Programming classes. Those are expensive and I don't want my mom to starve just because I want to do something. I want to TRY to pay for my own classes. To do this I could learn new skills or just do something simple. I am from Europe BTW so surveys don't really work in here.

Question: How can i be successful if im not very smart or have a degree?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 07:38 AM PDT

In all honesty im not very smart at all. I barely squeaked by in highschool with mediocre grades. Not because i slacked off, but im really not that bright. Im sure i could have learned everything i needed, but i really didnt have enough time to master my education. I just struggled through each week and onto a new subject.... I never fully learned algebra and i cannot write a college worthy essay. I just dont know how. I had planned to go to the military because i am very good at following directions. It seemed perfect for me, they give me a place to live, told me what to do and gave me a job. I really wanted to do something serious that had value to me and be apart of the real deal. However there is no possibility of ever getting in because i am asthmatic and currently using medication...now i have no plan B. I honestly dont think i can handle college, it will run me over like a train. I cant handle these crappy jobs anymore! I make pennies, i hate doing the work and i have nothing to show for it. Im afraid ill end up this way for the rest of my life.

Question: What should I do?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 07:13 AM PDT

about a week a go I lost one of my panties.yesterday I found it in my cousin's room! should I play it cool?

Question: My brother keeps eating my food?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 07:09 AM PDT

This is just a vent but he always eats my food when I get it from somewhere and it's in a container I normally don't care but since I have a strep throats nothing really sounds good I saved the rest of my rice and vegetables from yesterday even wrote my name on it big so no one eats it but this morning I wanted it, it was gone! He's not awake yet but I am getting impatient to yell at him I am about to wake him up because I'm so mad I'm going to make him buy me more only because that's all what sounds good that or cheese pizza but we don't have any I'm going to snap at him when he gets up! Maybe pull his hair I don't know.

Question: Should I go ahead with the FISH test? Should I give up, and accept there is no help for us?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 06:57 AM PDT

Question: Where do I go for help after a fire?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 06:23 AM PDT

So my children and Ihave recently been in a fire and we've lost everything we are hoping tobe rehoused soon but I'm coming to the realisation that even when we are rehoused we have nothing no beds no furniture toys school supplies even simple things for hygiene so my question is I guess where can I go to receive some type of help I live in Massachusetts.

Question: Foster Parents?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 05:15 AM PDT

These foster parents I know just did some pretty horrible things to their biological son over a money issue and I m wanting to report them for it. Dad sat in the dining room yelling terrible things in his son while his mother sat in front of him and basically told him that he was a lying piece of garbage. I really don t think these people are fit to be foster parents if they jump to conclusions like that. What can I do? Kids don t deserve to be treated like that. And to add on, yes, I was there, and secondly, what could I have even done to prevent such a thing? I'm the same age as their son, not their older friend. I did say something but got told to "shut your whore mouth, this doesn't concern you!"

Question: How do I stay Switzerland in a family in a World War?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 04:38 AM PDT

My mother's family is at war. Her brother who has always hated his sister has joined his sister's side in hatred of the sister's son and ex-husband. The ex is no longer family so happy to hate him but my aunt's son is a cousin. My mother meanwhile has aligned with her sister to launch attacks against the uncle and other sister. They are asking me to align with them. I am closer to them then to the aunt and uncle. The uncle has always been an alcoholic so we don't see him as often as his kids live with their mother (he is divorced due to the alcoholism). My grandmother leans on the side of the aunt who hates her son but she is not close to the uncle (her son). He resents that she is nice to his ex-wife. So both sides are trying to get me to join their allegiance. My aunt who hates her son texts me daily to find dirt on the son and my mother texts me daily to tell me not to dare respond to the aunt's texts. My grandfather is not alive anymore but both sides swear he is on their side. It is a World War among the family. I don't know whose side to take so I want to be Switzerland but both sides will reject me and I will die naked and alone with no family. What do I do? I am scared !!!!

Question: Is it okay to lie to my parents?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 04:35 AM PDT

So, my friend told me we are going to the park to introduce her boyfriend to me. While that doesn't seem like a big deal, my mom is strict about boys. If she sees me with a boy she immediately grounds me and not lets me do anything for months. Once I asked to go to a party and I told her there was gonna be 1 guy Friend among like 5 girls. She didn't let me go to that party because of that one girl.

Question: If you lend someone money would you get angry that they went on vacation with that money?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 03:41 AM PDT

My brother in law called and needed some money. He asked for $1000. I'm getting married in 3 weeks and I couldn't spare $1000 but we gave him $500. I didn't ask what the money was for. I assumed that he needed help because he is starting school in September and he has two kids and what not. For that cause I would have no problem even giving him the money. So imagine my surprise when I hear that he is going on vacation for 10 days. My fiancée stopped me from calling him and demanding the money back right away. I understand that this puts her in a difficult position. But this to me is not ok. He knows that we have a wedding, a honey moon and all the things around that to pay for. But that doesn't concern him and he doesn't care, obviously. How would you react? Would you be angry in my position?

Question: I am so bored I live in a two bedroom flat my mum looks after my cousins 24/7 and I have no time with her.feel alone.?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 03:35 AM PDT

Female 13 7 year old brother Not that much money Live in a rough area in a two bedroom flat All my friends are on holiday which we can't afford to go on Looks after cousins all the time as her job

Question: Should i take matters into my own hands?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 02:56 AM PDT

My fiance has a older brother (evan) he doesn't know. He tried to send him a message on Facebook. I guess he ignored it? Idk. I think evan feels hurt maybe with there dad because he was in mike an marks life, and not evans. NOT BY CHOICE! His dad wanted to be in evan life but his mother didn't want that (it was a one night stand) i kinda feel like she has been feeding bullshit to him his whole life about his dad side of the family. I know they would really love a relationship with evan. It would mean the world if i can get them together. An start a relationship with his brother. Life is short to hold grudges. Family is huge in our lifes. I just don't know how to go about it. How do i get them all together? What to do i say to evan? He doesn't know me. Should i directly message him or maybe his girlfriend to talk to him about metting up? I feel like it's going to be awkward reguardless lol which is fine i just hope it brings them together. They last seen each other when they we're kid's. They are now mid 20s. Serious answer please!

Question: Is it rude to pretend to be asleep to avoid helping your mum over and over again within a short amount of time?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 02:45 AM PDT

Little things like sending emails and fixing the internet for her within the space of an hour. Does it make me rude to pretend to be asleep to avoid having to help her over and over? What about if we reverse the roles. If a mother pretends to be asleep to get some personal time for her young child when they are constantly nagging for attention, is that classified as rude?

Question: I told my brother that he is no longer one of my best men for my wedding. Was that too much?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 01:26 AM PDT

The other night my parents and I had a big talk with my little brother. It got heated and we told him something that needed to be said. He has this girlfriend of almost 2 years. Since they met he has completely isolated himself from friends and family. He has become cold, distant and unwelcoming. The thing that tipped it over board was this thing with the wedding. My brothers gf is having an exam on Saturday the 26th, same day as the wedding. So Friday she desperately needs a good nights sleep. She can not stay at her parents place because her father is having his 50th birthday party. I mean it would be inhuman for her to stay there, right? We have some 35 guests that are coming from abroad. I was hoping that my brother could help with all that but apparently he has to go to the 50th birthday party. We had planned to put my fiancée and her bridesmaids in his apartment but princess needs a good nights sleep. Since he was so bothered with it we rented another apartment. When my father heard about this he genuinely cried. His gf made a comment last we saw that every time I end a visit afterwards they have to go shopping for clothes. I asked him to name the things I have taken from him. He said: "You have taken my underwear, a t-shirt and every time you come you take several socks". I told him to best stop talking and go home. I also said he was no longer my best man for the wedding. Afterwards it seemed harsh but I was so disappointed. Did I overreact?

Question: Why is my sister such a difficult bich?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 12:54 AM PDT

So when we were little she would never listen to me and it annoyed me so much. I am two years older then her and she wouldn't help clean our room. She kept playing with her doll saying I had to wait until she was done. So I took the doll and threw it down the stairs and she cried over everything. She lost all of my Nintendo games I still remember this because she lost the whole box and when I told her to find them she said "they're not my games?" She has this tone in her voice and she still does. She sounds like a godamn bich. We are teens now and she will do you no favors not even get you something from the kitchen if she's headed there. If you ask her to do something she just says no over and over and keeps walking away. If my mom asks her to clean or cook she says no. If you ask her to turn off a fking light switch that shes right next to she says no. She thinks she deserves to do nothing. My dad never hit her but he would beat the sht out of me if I said no. I just wanted to keep watching spongebob and he lifted me up by the hair and threw me in my room to clean it while they stayed downstairs watching tv. Of course I cried she does nothing to help. I hope she gets a boyfriend that will beat the sht out of her when she says "no". My bf hits me even if I do listen.

Question: Do I have an unhealthy bond/love for my sister?

Posted: 03 Aug 2017 12:14 AM PDT

She's 4 years old and I moved away to my dads last year because my moms boyfriend treats me like ****. And now I miss her so much that I'm depressed inside. I mean I don't cry or anything, after going through crap I can't feel any emotion anymore. I have no body, she was the only one who made me happy. She's literally the baby version of me, she was my best friend. I miss her so much and I'm so lonely. Soon she's g

Question: I don't want to switch rooms?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 11:59 PM PDT

I'm starting my sophomore year of college in a week and my sister thought this was the perfect time to beg me to switch rooms with her. School is less than an hour away from my house, so I have opportunities to come home when need be, but she makes it out to be that I don't live there anymore. I almost told my parents that if we switched rooms I'd never come home, but I didn't because the last thing I want is to make them sad or act like a spoiled brat. I just don't want to give up my safe place. I'm honestly out of options...what should I do?

Question: I told my brother that he is no longer one of my best men for my wedding. Was that too much?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 11:19 PM PDT

The other night my parents and I had a big talk with my little brother. It got heated and we told him something that needed to be said. He has this girlfriend of almost 2 years. Since they met he has completely isolated himself from friends and family. He has become cold, distant and unwelcoming. The thing that tipped it over board was this thing with the wedding. My brothers gf is having an exam on Saturday the 26th, same day as the wedding. So Friday she desperately needs a good nights sleep. She can not stay at her parents place because her father is having his 50th birthday party. I mean it would be inhuman for her to stay there, right? We have some 35 guests that are coming from abroad. I was hoping that my brother could help with all that but apparently he has to go to the 50th birthday party. We had planned to put my fiancée and her bridesmaids in his apartment but princess needs a good nights sleep. Since he was so bothered with it we rented another apartment. When my father heard about this he genuinely cried. His gf made a comment last we saw that every time I end a visit afterwards they have to go shopping for clothes. I asked him to name the things I have taken from him. He said: "You have taken my underwear, a t-shirt and every time you come you take several socks". I told him to best stop talking and go home. I also said he was no longer my best man for the wedding. Afterwards it seemed harsh but I was so disappointed. Did I overreact?

Question: Im 14 years old and my father does not allow me to ride a bike (i dont own one). Btw I know how to ride a bike?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 09:52 PM PDT

Question: My dad's brother just died?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 09:45 PM PDT

My dad's twin brother just died and he drowned and my dad said he was okay but I'm really worried for his daughter because she was extremely close to him and I honestly don't know what to say because I'm in so much shock and denial and her mom asked me if I could say something to her because she really needs friends in a situation like this..... I wasn't even that close to him and I cried for like an hour. Please, if someone can help me.. my mind is so clouded right now

Question: How to stop crying over my crush?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 09:33 PM PDT

I finnaly talked to my crush I invited him over I give him my address the day I knew my parents wouldn't be home. I wore lingerie and hells and had my moms wine bottles out. When he came over I wanted to surprise him and expected sex. But when I opened to the door in sexy lingerie and hells he walked out. He looked shocked and walked out I been texting him but he has not been answering..I feel so dumb I really regret what I did..I been in bed crying all week..I feel so ashamed..help? Btw he always flirted with me but I finnaly responded that's why I'm shocked he's not into that..help?

Question: Older sister's boyfriend is trying to correct me on purpose?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 09:27 PM PDT

Before me and my sister's mom passed on, our mom thought something was off with him. As if he couldn't be trusted or something along those lines. My older brother has a disability but he can do things for himself like cook, clean and hygiene properly. So he brings me to the side and says that our sister's bf is trying to act like his father boss him around and correct him harshly when something is off. Come on! He has a disability, you can't just yell at him because you want something corrected. Jeez.... So yesterday, he tried to correct me twice. 1st time when I was reading a word from the tv screen and he says "no, it doesn't say that- it says this." Um what? Why you being my ankle bracelet? Second time I was in the bathroom while my sister was getting ready to buy some chinese. He comes next to the bathroom door and asks what I want. I told him the usual with no vegetables. He says what I want again. I told him the usual (he already knows what the usual is.) His voice gotten a little louder after the second time. Asking me for the third time what I want and hurry. I'm not sure if he's angry at me and my brother or what. My oldest sister's ex's did not correct us now this fool wants to do it? I don't trust him like that anyways.

Question: Does anyone feel like they never want to grow up?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 08:35 PM PDT

I am 15, I hate the fact that some day I will move out, start my own life, and leave my parents behind. I want to stay where I am right now. If there is an anti-aging button for me and my family I just want to press it. It makes me sad that some day my four little siblings will grow up and leave my mother behind. It pains my soul to that one day my mother will sit alone knowing she will never have little kids running around. I am sad, I don't want to grow up. I am not ready for my grandparents to die let alone my parents. I am not ready to grow up. I am not ready see my baby siblings grow up. I just want to press pause. Sorry if i sound like an idiot.

Question: My mom wants to go to my homecoming with me?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 08:31 PM PDT

Since I started high school my mom has wanted to chaperone all school events so she can go to it. Its been so embarrassing honestly cause she'd follow me around and always watch where i was, especially at school dances. Last year was so embarrassing because y friends kept asking about her and people kept looking and everything i did my mom would keep an eye on me. No one else's parents are like this. And I tried to get her to stop coming but she'd still insist on coming. She says she goes to the events because "she likes the music" but I know it's not that. She goes so she can make sure I don't have a date or do things behind her back. Im a really honest and drug-free person and i don't have a boyfriend nor have ever drank alcohol or done drugs before. This year, I wanted to spend time with my friends without the embarrassment of my mom watching my every move and getting me stared at, yet she insisted on coming. So i said "if you're coming to the dance then i won't go" and she was like "ok fine i'll have more fun without you anyways" and I feel like she doesnt trust me. I've literally never done anything wrong or illegal in my life yet she still doesnt trust me. what can i tell her to get her to not come?

Question: How can I get my brother to stop turning off my window fan.?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 08:27 PM PDT

We live where its hot and, we have no air conditioning, A window-fan is all I have to make things tolerable in our shared room. I turn it on, he turns it off. I turn it on again, he turns it off the second I leave the room. Its a constant fight over something stupid. I want no part of this stupid back and forth argument. I'm sick of sweating my balls off, because he's intentionally trying to irritate me. What can I do to make my infantile brother act NORMAL.

Question: I don't know what to do anymore about my parents.?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 08:16 PM PDT

I'm a guy and 17. My dad is an alcoholic, has BAD communication skills, and BAD anger issues. EVERY little thing is a big deal. He gets mad with my mom about something dayly. He literally can't debate civilly without yelling, insulting, pointing, and plain slandering. He's also sexist so he leaves almost all of the housework to my mom, even though they both work. Everything is a big excuse. I needed glasses for 3 years and they didn't do a thing about. Now I have advanced miopía. . But she feels depressed about the big things like, our driveway, tub, painting, etc. since she can't do anything about those things cause lot of her $ goes to her old SUV cause of constant repairs and gas. and making sure me and my older brother have clothes. As you guessed we're also on a strict budget so he makes a big deal about $29, yet he waists a LOT more on booze. Thanks to basically 17 years of emotional and verbal abuse, I now have severe anxiety, paranoia, I can't make long lasting friends or goals. I can drive, but I don't have any friends and no money. Most of my family either has moved or already have problems of their own. My brother is always out either at, college, at work, with his band, or friends. And my parents don't let me go out with him cause they think they're a bad croud (they are pretty good people) I feel abandoned, abused, lost, hopeless. My mom often makes me feel like a burden to her. I often feel like trash. I wonder if I do society a favor and just end my life.

Question: My daughter just moved back home, she's 26, college graduate & has been here for almost 3 months. Should I give her a time to be out?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 08:11 PM PDT

She gets up every morning & goes to work which is a 2 hour commute, she's not that much of a bother but I would like my space back. She has given me rent since being here & takes my husband & I out to eat almost every weekend. Sometimes I feel as though I'm being too hard on her. She's single no kids but she's in quite a bit of debt. Your thoughts?

Question: Is it bad that my boyfriend doesn't have a car?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 08:06 PM PDT

So my boyfriend's car engine went out some months ago and I've been driving to his house to see him like twice a week and my mom is making a big deal about it and saying that it's bad and that I shouldn't be going to see him. We are both college students who don't have money at all. His parents aren't made of money and cannot afford to fix his car. He's working for his dad for the summer but he still will not make enough to buy a new engine. I feel like my mom is being judgmental and that there's absolutely nothing wrong with driving 15 minutes to see my boyfriend. Am I wrong or is she wrong?

Question: As an adult, have you ever cried in front of your parents and what was their reaction?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 07:32 PM PDT

Mine just laughed and told me to grow up

Question: What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 06:54 PM PDT

Ok so it was raining outside today and my mom was about to go to work. Then she came home to do her makeup and she said that she needs to take her umbrella because she is going to be more than me if she gets wet( she said it in a way that meant I'm ugly) and I asked her why and she said because she's wet. This made me feel bad about myself. I'm 17 years old. What do you think of this situation and what should I do?

Question: Can I have my son arrested for stealing from me?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 06:45 PM PDT

My son currently lives with at home with me and he does help pay bills. He also has access to my bank account because I put him on the account. Anyways, he has made withdrawals from my bank account recently. I confronted him about this and he responded that the withdrawals were for the value of stuff that my other son has stolen and because I allow his other brother to live in my house, then I am responsible for his actions. I have told my son to take that up with his brother and not me. I also allow my other son to live in my house because he is my son. He also does have troubles of his own as he has been in and out of jail several times. However, if my other son is going to take money out of my bank account, I can no longer trust him as well. Can I have my son arrested for stealing from me under these circumstances.

Question: Places to go to get away from home for a day?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 06:39 PM PDT

My mom keeps leaving to take "business trips" and its just my dad and I at home. He s such an ill mannered person with a terrible temper and the last place i wanna be is stuck at home with him yelling at me all day. I can t really go over to a friends house because they have other friends that they make plans with. where can i go to get away from home for a day while my dad thinks i m at work? i was thinking of going to a library and maybe reading a book/ going to a small cafe to read? but that wont last all day. i just want to avoid his yelling.

Question: Is a 17 year old girl too old to be shy?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 06:38 PM PDT

Question: How do I have fun on Labor Day Weekend despite the sadness of my mother's death anniversary Sept. 3rd?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 06:35 PM PDT

Question: How do you repay somebody who has been there for you through the thick and thin of your problems?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 05:59 PM PDT

My mom and step dad have done wonders for me. I am at a very problematic point in my life.I have a pending divorce. My soon to be ex literally kicked me out and my mom and step dad have gracious taken me in. I haven't worked in 6 years due to a mental disability. I have applied for SSI I have no income and no vehicle. I am also working with DARS with help finding people with disabilities mental or physical employment. I want to repay my mom and step dad back and move out and get a place of my own. The sad fact is my step dad has been more of a dad then my own father. My step dad has hired a divorce lawyer doesn't want me to get steam rolled by me ex My real dad fussed over paying my psychologist 15 dollars. When I know for a fact he has the money. My step mom has alimony from her first two husbands. One owns a very well know lumber company. how or what can I do to show them gratitude and praise and thankfulness for all they have done for me

Question: My methadone addict mother is coming to visit this wekend and she likes to steal my money and other material things. What should I do?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 05:53 PM PDT

Should I hide everything?

Question: How to respectfully respond when discussing someone's will (before they have passed)?

Posted: 02 Aug 2017 05:48 PM PDT

I have recently been told I am a beneficiary on a will and this person is describing where/when/how to get what is left to me when they pass. I want to respond with something like "thank you, but I hope I don't need this information soon" sort of thing, but I don't want to sound too casual/money-grubbing or making it sound like I hope they pass away soon or something terrible... if that makes sense. Any etiquette suggestions on how to have these discussions?