So one of my best male friends recently proposed to his girlfriend and she said yes, I am very happy for them. He is like an older brother to me and I have mostly male friends, so I was naturally assuming I'd be more likely to be a friend's groomswoman rather than a bridesmaid for a female friend. Of course if a female friend did want me as a bridesmaid I would say yes. Anyway - should I input to the groom-to-be that I'd rather stand with him? I have nothing against the bride at all, if anything she's become a good friend to me and one of my best female friends, but I've known him longer and feel closer to him. I'm also worried about his reaction. He knows I'm gay (as do the majority of my friends) but it's not very often you get women standing with grooms or men standing with brides, I think the record I've seen is two groomswomen, so would it appear standoffish and mismatched? I don't mind standing with 5 or 6 men, but would others accept it? I am trying to prove that there's no shame in a woman standing with a groom or vice versa, but I'm worried about the general reaction.

My GF keeps nagging me I've only had one guy and I love him and are marrying him, but she says I will regret it later and might start looking, so go get laid a few times before it's too late! I don't feel I need to but maybe she is right? I don't want to cheat later on him?

A close friend from high school is getting married. Of course, she's having a Bachelorette Party. We live in Arizona, they're renting a charter bus and going to Vegas for 3 nights. The thing is, I'd like to go and be a part of it, but I'm just not sure. Even though I'm 21 now, I don't drink and I don't like going to clubs or party. I don't want to go and feel awkward the whole time because that's all that basically happens at a bachelorette party. I could just not go, but at the same time I'd feel bad not being a part of it as I am a bridesmaid. I just don't know. It's still months away, but they've planned it and they're going to ask me soon if I'm going or not so they could calculate the cost. I just need advice. Is it worth going?

Planning a shower, and wondered if I could ask, do you remember any games at a shower that you really enjoyed, and what was the one you liked the best? Runners-up gratefully accepted if you remember any others, too. Thanks!