If u wanna talk about marriage all you see are divorce q's (damn is this going to work out after all) and if u wanna talk about divorce all you see are marriage q's (damn why is everyone else's marriage working out but I've busy getting a divorce). Or is there something about the fundamental nature of marriage/divorce that I'm not understanding?

I caught my husband texting a situation to another female coworker . Her text said something like she will miss you when you leave her and he texted thank you. It really was about nothing major. she is an older woman like grandma age.

We have done so much together my husband is not Christian and is not involved in the ministry. after some heavy petting I think I have feelings for him but more like a protector. He asked me to relieve him because of the holy order sacrament and being lonely, I have many times it's such a privelage to be the one woman to be asked but now he wants me to take him fully. Is this too far? I want to!

My husband cheated and literally broke my heart, I passed thru sadness and got angry My GF egged me on and I let a guy pick me up Nervous as hell at first but he took me to amazing heights in bed and a part of it was his thick long penis, never had one and my husband was quite small It felt so good I had never realized it. Is it me or do they feel better? Mine did and I know many YA answers say not, but it did

I mean there are things we should know .. but why do we need to know how many bones an aligator have ?? Why are we killing them in order to learn not so useful information

emails. I had no pic on my profile on that dating site, yet he wants to have a serious relationship with me. He wants to meet my family etc. We are from different countries. He says his daughter needs a mom. Does all this sound scam to you? Am I being fooled? He has photos on his profile.I hesitate to send him my own photo, he asked for it. We are both over 40. He is from a much developed country whereas I am not. So, he cant use me for citizenship.

This has put our son between a rock and hard place. Any suggestions? We cant change anything on our end.

I am trying to open up CDs and bonds in my daughters name so she will be financially set when she gets older. My ex will not give me my daughters ssn. She told me you don't need it and gift the cds and bonds to my daughter. What does this sound like? What can I do to get it? Take legal action?

Can anything be done about this?

But I give her present every year. She always says she's too tired to do anything. I give up trying to make it fun of her to do anything after she has turned down every attempt. Oh, seeing a shrink for 10 years once a month doesn't do sh1t. ? - SCREW YOU! @Amz: We've tried EVERYTHING. EVERYTHING. 10 years of EVERYTHING. That's why I give up.

This is all I want is there something wrong with this so what I'm way more mature for my age but that is all i want and I've wanted that since I was 16 years old I don't care about partying and friends and going out I just want a family and a husband that will keep Christ first

In india children live with their parents till they are like 40 some live with them forever but i was raised in the uk and im getting married to an indian girl it was an arranged marriage and i want this to turn into love but i feel like its gonna be hard with my parents around so how can i convince them to let me move out

My husband rarely has any lengthy conversations with me. When I try to make him laugh, he doesn't. He doesn't really care to know much about my life and pretty much stays out of my children's lives even though we have been together for 11 years and they grew up with him as a stepdad (not involved unless they were taking attention away from him. He never takes responsibility for the wrong things he's said or done. He can literally watch me cry and never reach out to hug me, never. . Yet when I want to leave he says I am the only person he has ever loved this much and he doesn't want to be with anyone else ever again. We talk about getting divorced but neither one of us has the guts to follow through, yet his apathy and disrespect has mad me a very angry and lonely person. The biggest reason I have stayed is my commitment I made to God and him, yet I just want out desperately.

I thought I'd ask/share this here since it seems like forums are too "judgey". My husband and I have been married for just over a year and together for over 5 years. In that time he has cheated on me and we just haven't had a picture perfect relationship. Well 6 months ago out of the blue I got a message to join one of those messaging apps and when I did it was my ex boyfriend that wanted to talk to me. We were together many many years ago and he was my first love, but we just didn't work out. I was too young and at that time wanted to have fun and neglected that relationship. Anyway, I figured he didn't just flat out text my phone because he knows I'm married so an app I guess is a little more sneaky. At first I was blowing him off and just giving him one word responses when he would ask how I've been and such. But now we've been talking back and forth for 6 months. I know I shouldn't communicate with him because I am married but I just think of everything my husband has done to me. My main problem is, I thought all of the feelings I had for my ex were gone, but the more and more we talk the more those old feelings are coming back. Should I just end all communication and not say one word to him ever again? I honestly think his ulterior motive is to have sex with me since that is the only reason I can think of him even wanting to talk to me again. Let me just clarify, I do NOT want to be with my ex. I am just curious on how I should end all communication before it goes any further.

How do you react when your wife tries to make you jealous of other men?

To their friends, family etc? Why do some women do this? They claim it is venting but it is hurtful to the husband and a betrayal.

I have been married for 4 years. My husband is abusive and selfish, tough, hard, disrespects me, never cares if I'm sad or crying, blames my tears on me saying I'm "too sensitive" whereas he would have been a total asshole to me. He has already asked for divorce 3 or 4 times, on separate occasions. The first 2 times were devastating for me. Then he would come back and say he loves me and we'd give ourselves another chance. I find myself always worried and anxious when he tells me he's coming home for vacation (he works abroad); and I'm extremely relieved when he leaves. Lately, his impoliteness and his rudeness have been ascending: he says I'm a loser, not smart. He told me he didnt love me anymore and that it was all my fault The last time he has asked for divorce,I said OK. I'm just too tired to go on with this and I finally learned to love myself and have found PEACE being alone! A few weeks ago, he starts textin saying he loves me and that he never meant to leave me (as usual), but that the stress at work was driving him mad. He said that he got an offer for a new job and things seem promising and he's coming to see me soon to try to fix things. Today, I just learned that he was actually fired from his job and the "new job" is not secured My gut feeling tells me he wants to reconcile because he doesn't want to go with the fees of divorce; plus,if he doesn't get a job, he can count on me coz Im financially stable Ur inputs please? What would u do if u were me?

I'm really suspicious because she doesn't want sex and said she wants to wait a week before we try again. I'm worried she cheated. I can't understand it because most women would want to sleep with their husband. Why she wants to wait is really making me think she cheated. Should I take drastic action and assume the worst here? She won't tell me what's bothering her or why she wants to wait. I questioned her if she cheated and she got angry and asked why I think of her in a bad way. I really think she might have slept with someone behind my back.

I confronted by fiance about secret nude photos he took of me and his constant staring at women in front of me when we go out in public together and his flirting with a coworker. Now he is contrite and remorseful and has wiped his flashd drives clean and is getting rid of porn magazines. Says he wants to be the man I dream of. That this is the ugly side of him. Not sure if I can trust him on what he is doing and telling me since he has lied in the past. Old habits die hard. I am seeing a counselor as it has driven me to depression and I am currently on anti-depressants. i recommended a counselor for him (my counselor gave me a name of someone) as I see some of habits may be a form of addiction. Only a counselor can determine that. He says he always respects me, but I don't see any of that as a sign of respect when he secretly takes nude photos of me and blatantly stares at women to the point of it being very obvious to me. I am tired of putting up with these behaviors. I am just not there on forgiving him, at least not yet.

usually i am a calm person till a fight starts with my husband may be i have done something wrong i try to apologize and cry slowly but he keeps saying that these are not sincere apologies ...... at this point i burst into tears screaming and yelling he refuses calming me down and keeps pushing me away and shout at me and get aggressive as he is mad at my crying -thinking i am crying because i think i am mistreated not the one wrong -then i would sometime throw some stuff and may keep crying for too long with very loud voice ps : he is treating me good and what goes in my mind in these time that i am sad because he is sad at me and i cannot make it up plus that he is not caring for me being sad and crying that way i do not want to get into this mood :(( :(( it made everything worse and i do not know why i act this way may be affection seeker i do not know I am most of the time a calm person and never would cry for anyone in my life it is so confusing ... i have tried to walk away so he may get calm and come calm me down he would never come thinking i am acting childish

Okay I asked this in singles and dating and ppl gave me a lot of **** for supposedly being too judgmental. So let me ask over here where the more longterm implications are better understood (tbc) I could describe but it would take a novel - it's basically just the biggest most dysfunctional, infidelity- and homewrecking- filled nest of pathological liars I've ever seen. And they ALL play the VICTIM. Even though they're the ones ******* up OTHER peoples' lives. Idk if I can look at my bf the same anymore. He doesn't even defend ME when they try to scam ME; he just tries to look the other way and play it off like they're so cute and harmless (we're talking about ADULTS in the 50s-60s). Like wtf I feel like I'm in the twilight zone right now. SO, Marriage and Divorce section, do you have any wisdom to share as to whether this individual is marriage material? And how bad is it for me to be having serious reservations about that question, just based on the fact that now I've met his family? Stop moving this out of the Marriage and Divorce section; it's in here for a reason. With all the time you guys spend moving this back to S&D you could have just answered the damn question already. It's not what they did in specific it's who they are as people. How can I chronicle two lifetimes of homewrecking and infidelity (respectively)? I don't even know where to start. And then there's the stealing/shoplifting and the lying about the stealing/shoplifting (on his mother's part). She even steals from family. Money, belongings, whatever and then she'll get angry and try to convince you you gave it all to her as a gift. It's not just one instance, she does this constantly and compulsively Is there REALLY a type of adultery, compulsive theft, or repetitive lying that you guys would look upon as acceptable if at least one of those things are present in BOTH of your spouse's parents? Maybe I'm an idealist but I don't see any of those as acceptable UNLESS the spouse acknowledges it as a serious problem, and offers to help me take steps to protect myself (and my property) from theft or harm. I'll give an example: I spent a weekend at my boyfriend's mother's house a few months ago, with him. She was super-friendly and cheerful. However, on my stay, three different clothing items went missing. Including reasonably expensive a pair of shoes. Well that's weird I think to myself but I'm a little spacey and there were a lot ofppl here so who knows maybe they got lost or someone took them home by accident. The next time I run into my bf's mom, she's WEARING MY CLOTHES. Like wtf? I ask my bf to investigate several times and he puts it off. My bf and I finally go over to her house to say to hang out on a different weekend. She lets us in. I notice my mysteriously missing shoes are sitting right next to her shoes in the hallway. She notices me looking and says nothing. When they're eating lunch, I go to use the bathroom and I go in her room (wrong I know but necessary) and she has not two but FOUR of my shirts hanging up in her closet. No idea how/when she got the other 2 I tell my bf about this and he's says fine he'll do something and plays it off like I never asked him about it before. He admits tho that she does constantly "borrow" stuff - from everyone. And that she then keeps it long enough and starts believing it's hers. He says the family is just used to it and it's just who she is. That weekend, MY clothes are back in MY closet. Next time we go over to visit his mother, she's not talking to me. She's spilling drinks on me "by accident".

When I see her putting on her wedges or high heels I get a little intimidated. I am 5'11" and she is 5'7" She has high heels that are 4-6 inches high and becomes taller than me. I don't mind it, she looks really hot. But I don't want to lose my masculine image in her eyes when she has to look slightly down into my eyes and bend down to kiss me. Any advice would be appreciated.

She said they have been friends for years and she trusts that he's not trying to do anything but i just don't feel comfortable with that. She sometimes invites him into the dressing room with her to try on things I really don't feel comfortable with this. Should i ask if he's gay? She said the entire time they have been friends they have not talked about his sexuality or he hasn't bought a date to events etc. So i really don't know. Update: I also addressed the issue with her and she said she shouldn't change her lifestyle for me and that I'm being insecure

In your own opinion, is it mostly up to time together, bond, or convenience?

My husband and I have been together for over 5 years and for the past year I have started to lose interest in him. We both work a lot, but in the past when we have free time and I try to talk to him about anything he's too busy playing video games, watching tv, surfing the web, etc to even notice that I am talking. So over time I've just started to really question if I even want to be with him anymore. I don't care about doing anything sexual with him as he doesn't turn me on anymore, but whenever he wants to "do it" I just act like I'm interested so as to not hurt his feelings. Am I wrong for not being able to stand being around him even though sometimes he acts as if I don't exist unless it's convenient for him? I just want to feel excitement again and even though we do have lots of fun together and do spontaneous things when we can, I just don't feel much for him emotionally or sexually anymore.

She said they have been friends for years and she trusts that he's not trying to do anything but i just don't feel comfortable with that. She sometimes invites him into the dressing room with her to try on things I really don't feel comfortable with this. Should i ask if he's gay? She said the entire time they have been friends they have not talked about his sexuality or he hasn't bought a date to events etc. So i really don't know. I also addressed the issue with her and she said she shouldn't change her lifestyle for me and that I'm being insecure

My husband tells me he desires and loves me yet hardly ever wants sex. My boyfriend tells me he loves and desires me and can't keep his hands off me we are at it like teenagers. How can men be so different in their needs?

How dare he refuse me when any other man would kill to make love to me or as you might say "boink" me maybe my husbands really a ****** and I know I look good so don't give me any **** about being fat or ugly because you have a small penis