Family: Question: Should I just cut my family off after graduate school?

Question: Should I just cut my family off after graduate school?

Posted: 20 May 2017 01:46 PM PDT

I almost got into a fistfight with my younger brother because he got tired of me answering back to my mother. But I don't answer back for the heck of it. It's because I'm sick of my mother insulting me, nagging me, calling me a pain and saying that I purposely cause drama and misery because I'm insecure. I disagree because it was caused by her nagging me over (unintentionally) making noise I made walking up the straits. That's how African parents are. Irritating and they start stuff because they know children are always supposed to respect their elders. I'm not a patient person. I have anger issues which is why I can't tolerate it. I know I shouldn't have talked back and complained about putting groceries away, but I'm sick of my mother always yelling at me. She says I shouldn't argue that I contribute and brushes off my argument of how I spend over $150 a month on bills and I'm about to add $50 more. She says I'm ungrateful and I act like a ******, but she does the same thing.! I even gave up my savings money to spend on the water bills. First it started from complaining about me not paying any bills now it's comp I know you guys are gonna say "she can kick you out yadda yadda," but best believe would love to move out so this can end. I can't wait to graduate grad school and get promoted at my job because I'm tired of arguing with my mother and I want peace of mind.

Question: How do I tell my sister never to send nudes?

Posted: 20 May 2017 01:32 PM PDT

Shes younger than me, and I've never sent any, and I want to let her know to never send any because that sh!t could end up anywhere. I'm genuinely worried about her because in the society shes being raised in, it seems like the "normal" thing to send nudes. How do I talk to her about this? Should I even be the one to do it?

Question: How to see my son if the guardians filed a protective order?

Posted: 20 May 2017 01:22 PM PDT

Question: How long do you spend talking to your friends on the phone?

Posted: 20 May 2017 01:18 PM PDT

My sister literally never gets of the phone. She's so loud and talks to her friends practically all night! It's so annoying when my room is so close to hers. I just wondered does anyone else's sibling do that? Btw she's 24

Question: Are first Cousins the closets family you get accept parents and siblings?

Posted: 20 May 2017 01:15 PM PDT

Question: I wish my mom would die?!?

Posted: 20 May 2017 12:46 PM PDT

My back hurts from slouching and my mom tried to show me how to stretch the child s pose but it hurt my back because it make me curve kind of the same way when you slouch so I stretched the other way which felt a lot better but she got mad when I told her the regular pose hurt and she accused me of lying and said I should be ashamed of myself. When I tell her I wasn t lying she calls me a baby and always shouts at me for little things. This was when my brothers friend was over. Then she gets a phone call from one of her friends and goes from yelling hoarse at me to being sweet and happy. All her friends think she s the nicest and that I m a devil because she always tells stories about me twisting it so she s done nothing wrong and is the poor innocent kind mom who cries when her devil daughter makes trouble. I know she s in the stage women around 50-60 years old go through which can affect her decisions but it s kind of harsh to tell your daughter that the family would be so much better off if I wasn t there. Am I wrong for wishing she would just go away?

Question: Who is my 2nd cousin once removed and should I feel ashamed I did not know him or even attend his funeral or his kids baptisms?

Posted: 20 May 2017 12:09 PM PDT

I only met him once.

Question: Am I being a dick?

Posted: 20 May 2017 11:16 AM PDT

My sister keeps stealing my money and clothes and refuses to admit it. When I do call her out on it she starts screaming that I've invaded her privacy and to not go in her room (even though it's to retrieve my things). So today I ate like half the cookies she made.

Question: Is this weird?

Posted: 20 May 2017 11:12 AM PDT

I am 17 and I have 8 siblings,4 of them are younger (Under 8).While my parents are at work from 8-5 and my mom works until 10 I take care of them. ( I am home schooled) My older siblings work and are at college so they aren't home much so I am the oldest usually.I love them dearly but sometimes I get really exhausted.At night I day dream about meeting a "prince" A rescuing me from all of the work so I can be happy and have my own family....I'm still a kid but i'm a teenager...I just think it's kind of odd haha

Question: A child is constantly insulting or being disrespectful to me, and when I complain about it, I get blamed.?

Posted: 20 May 2017 10:58 AM PDT

This has been going on for years, and so far I ve tried to put up with it thinking she might grow out of it, but being six or seven now, that hasn t happened, and I m just getting sick of this. As soon as this child see s me she can t wait to either insult me, show me something, and then ask if I want it only to immediately say "too bad!", or when I m talking to someone repeatedly keeps making noise just to make it hard for me to concentrate, or constantly tells me to "shut up," or that her head hurts. This is nothing new...this has been going on for years, and because she lives in the same house as I do, avoiding her isn t an option, especially when as soon as she sees me the first thing she does is respond with "hello stupid," or "this is my house and not yours." I have told her to leave me alone, but I get blamed for that. I have tried ignoring her, and she would just end up insulting me non-stop, or stamping on my foot in order to get me to respond to her. When I successfully started to ignore her, I was told if I would just talk to her she would quit, so now I m right back to where I started, and yes, I am being told to just ignore her all over again. I m getting tired of this...this is like someone abusing and torturing a dog only for a second person, knowing full well what is going on, to immediately start screaming and yelling at the dog because it is making too much noise as it s being abused. I don t know what to do...is this some kind of mental abuse? The child's father (my uncle) is staying with us. They know about it because they frequently complain and say "your an adult and she's a kid." I may be an adult (32 with Asperger's syndrome...the diagnosed kind not the self-diagnosed kind...I know...I fail at life), but I'm worried about one day just loosing my temper and hurting her...I frequently find myself wanting to do that, but I hold back, or leave before it get's too late. Also, no, she's not handicapped, at least not that I know.

Question: A past one night stand says Im the father, but doesnt want me in the child's life?

Posted: 20 May 2017 10:57 AM PDT

I recently found out that one of my one night stands from a few years ago had a child and didnt tell me I was the father until a week ago. I was terrified at first, but then felt guil about not being responsible for this child that I didnt know about. I offered to be a part of his life, but the mother doesnt want me involved at all. Am I wrong for feeling this way? And is there anything I can do about this situation?

Question: I am worried about my younger sister?

Posted: 20 May 2017 10:28 AM PDT

My younger sister is 12 and she think everything has feelings and can feel pain example: If she breaks a stick she thinks she hurt it and then she gets all upset..This can't be normal?

Question: How to put an end to my younger brother's video game addiction?

Posted: 20 May 2017 09:25 AM PDT

My little brother plays video games all day and night, basically whenever he can. He always skips his homework and never does it. The Worst part about it is the fact that he stays up all night shouting in his microphone, and I share a room with him so it's even worse. I always tell my parents to tell him to turn it off, and they always say the same **** "Oh he's just a kid, let him play his games!". I can't even get anywhere near the computer because he starts to throw a fit and yell at me and calls my parents. He is the cause of my insomnia and why I can't sleep. Is there any way of putting an end to his gaming addiction? or getting my parents to do something?

Question: How do you tell your dad that you broke your phone?

Posted: 20 May 2017 09:04 AM PDT

So my dad is on a business trip for 1 week and he is coming back tomorrow. I've had my phone for about 5 months, but last night while I was using it, it slipped out of my hand and cracked. I hoped it was just the screen protector that cracked, so I took that off, just to find out my whole phone cracked, and I can't even touch the screen without it spazzing out. I told my mom right away and she says "not my problem, you tell dad". I'm afraid that my dad's gonna be pissed at me when he finds out. What is the best way to tell him that I cracked my phone without being in so much trouble?

Question: My parents are leaving me all alone while they take my siblings to a family gathering. How do I get over the heartbreak of not going?

Posted: 20 May 2017 08:37 AM PDT

They were asked not to bring me because my grandmother who has Alzheimers is scared of me due to the dementia. The whole family, aunts, uncles, and cousins will all be there for her 90th birthday tomorrow but me. For some reason she gets extremely frightened and agitated when she sees me and one nurse. The hospice says this is half way common. I feel rejected even though I know she can't help it. I wish I could go and just not get up in her face where she could become frightened. I am so upset. I have no friends as I am Aspergers. I can't really explain how I feel to my parents so I am typing this. I will be alone all day while they are having a wonderful celebration. I had to miss Christmas for the same reason last year though at Christmas my Dad's parents came to spend the evening with me while my parents and siblings went to Christmas. This time I am alone as my Dad's parents are out of town. Please advise. I feel so alienated. I am 14 BTW

Question: My mother passed away and i found my mother figure but she makes down!?

Posted: 20 May 2017 08:31 AM PDT

my mother passed away last year i feel like my ex teacher is my mother figure she s 43 y and im 22 y ,we are close friends for 5 year ,i visits her alot and we seems like sibling ,i feel better when i talk to her or even hear her voice and i really loves her but lately i feel like she is not interested about me anymore she is busy but still can find time to talk to her new friend 2 weeks ago we had a fight cos she didnt call me ,and her sister told me that she got angry and she really care about me n loves me she is always saying to others that im a good girl and she loves me , but that's not what i want i really need her ,and i feel jealous if she dont call me for 1 and more saying she is busy but can find time for the other girl ,please, help me ! My mother passed away and i found my mother figure but she makes me down!?

Question: I just found out I am pregnant and I am so glad but I want to know how do I tell my folks since I am 15 and they will be really mad?

Posted: 20 May 2017 08:10 AM PDT

I want to have a baby because it has always been a dream of mine. So I didn't use the condoms my mother gave me when she learned I was active with Jeff (my boyfriend). Jeff knows I am pregnant but haven't told my parents yet. My parents are divorced and my Mom might or might not be mad as she is cool with me having sex but cautioned about pregnancy. My Dad and step-mother aren't as cool as they are church people that thinks there is a God and that this God person doesn't like sex unless someone is married. Also how can I confirm Jeff is the father. I told him I am pretty sure he is but there is a chance it could be two other people from school I also had sex with around the same time. Do I have to wait until the baby is born to confirm? Should I tell the other two? One of them is still at school but the other one I have only met a few times at parties so don't know how to reach him other then Facebook. People who say I am a troll I am not, this is happening.

Question: My sister is a really mean person. What kinds of things do I talk about when I have to see her at family events?

Posted: 20 May 2017 08:04 AM PDT

Our parents enable her so she will not ever change. She is 23 with the demands and maturity level of a 7 year old due to our parents allowing it (our mother mainly).

Question: My brother is a bad person but he is doing better. Should I forgive him?

Posted: 20 May 2017 07:58 AM PDT

He was horrible. Raged, stole, slept with every girl on the block, did drugs, lazy, entitled, and manipulative with no soul. However, he was a teenager and young adult. I stopped associating with him unless I had to see him at a family function in which case I'd say hi and nothing else. This was 3 years ago. He was arrested and out enabling parents gave him bail and made excuses for him. Now he has completed drug rehab. My parents went to see him as he has moved and said he was doing great. He also is working hard (no longer lazy) and has a clean criminal record. He is also not raging at our folks anymore though my Dad says the brother will likely always be more rage prone (his emotional baggage). He still sleeps around I am sure and is slick. However he is far better then 3 years ago. If he was pure evil 3 years ago he is now no saint but not evil or dangerous. So should I forgive him even though he has not changed completely? By forgive I mean be close to again, not spiritual forgiveness which is for us. Or do I just consider him below average and be civil but not close?

Question: Can my older brother take away my car that I inherited from my parents?

Posted: 20 May 2017 07:58 AM PDT

Im sixteen, and I inherited my parents' old car after they died last year. I have my license, so I've been driving it. I accidentally got a speeding ticket the other day, though. My brother is 24; he's technically my legal guardian, but I feel like that's just on paper, because I'm old enough to take care of myself. He's really mad about the ticket, though, and is trying to do a power play by taking the car away. I tried telling him that he can't, that our parents left the car to me, but then he brings up that our parents left him in charge or something, as if they're just gone on vacation and he's babysitting...it doesn't really make sense to me. I'm so mad that he hid the car keys from me and I have no way to get around now. Is he really allowed to do this?

Question: I don't want to live in my house anymore?

Posted: 20 May 2017 07:43 AM PDT

Its took much for me and I am so desperate to run away. I wish I had of gone into foster care when I had the chance, I was hospitalized or put myself in the hospital and tried to stay out of the house. My uncle is recording me I heard him say "cover your face with a towel." because I am tired of being recorded with a camera when I'm coming in and out of my bedroom. He and my cousin have been blackmailing me with recording me in the house, I live in my grandparents house but I can't take this anymore, I really want to run away, I don't want anyone else to be concerned. I'm 17 and I really wish I could move on my own even into a homeless shelter. My grandmother gets mad when I tell her what my uncle does to me and she doesn't want to hear it. So I'm left depressed and crying every day. He once said to me " f u c. Sucker". My grandma treats my sibling better than me. I made mistakes in the past,but that doesn't get a right for my uncle to keep torturing me by recording everything I do and say every DAY! Is there any way I can go live somewhere else or move into fostercare. cps isn't helping, I want to live somewhere else. I can't live hear with my grandmother anymore. My uncle comes in everyday and records me and thinks its funny. They make fun of me for being a Christian and laugh at me. Does anyone know a fostercare number or anyway I can get out of the house.

Question: Because of my Mom I live in a dysfunctional family. How do I overcome the trauma of this?

Posted: 20 May 2017 07:13 AM PDT

She committed parental alienation syndrome where she got me to think my loved ones had rejected me when they had not and it was my mother rejecting them. She told me things I did not need to know and held me back from family. She was otherwise a good mother but a failed mother because of this one thing. I am an adult now and close to the family members my mother abused. However, there is still this guilt that I allowed my mother to alienate me from them and poison my mind for a few years about them. So how do I overcome the shame and guilt I feel about this? It is toxic shame my mother caused. I was being bullied more then most in school at the same time so already had that toxic shame put in me separately. My mother still is bitter towards these people but not nearly as abusive. So I am nice to my Mom but behind the scenes still very-very hurt. She was non responsive and got defensive when I tried to discuss it with her.

Question: I have a cousin who is co-habitating with girlfriend. I am seeing him tomorrow. Am I looking in the face of evil because he is doing this?

Posted: 20 May 2017 06:47 AM PDT

I have not seen this person since last summer. He began this evil lifestyle over the winter. I feel dirty I am seeing him as I cut my brother out when he did this until he changed his ways. Since this is a cousin I don't feel cutting him out is necessary and I don't want to hurt my Mom's sister (his mother) or his two sisters. So is this pure evil and when I see him will it be like looking in a serial killer's eyes? How rare is it that people do this evil act?

Question: Any job ideas for my brother?

Posted: 20 May 2017 06:36 AM PDT

I know this is going to sound impossible but i need some job ideas for my brother. he just got fired for constant no show no go and going to work late a lot. He is impatient especially in the morning and cant handle pain in the slightest. ex. he had cut his foot on metal last week and acted like he had cut his little toe off. I think a job that he needs is something that wont have him needing to wake up 6 in the morning ( maybe 10 would be ok) , easy to do but consistent, labor work no paper work at all, i don't think he can handle customers so there would have to be little to no customer interaction, and he cant be always rushed he comes home pissed off/complaining when hes being rushed to do something and starts yelling about how hes not going to go back to work. We cant have him in the house 24/7 hes the kind that if he has nothing to do then he is nothing but trouble. He is 21 btw.

Question: I hate sports?

Posted: 20 May 2017 06:32 AM PDT

I suck at them, and I'll never b3 good at them. My mom is signing me up for soccer, and I'm afraid I'll humiliate my self. She wants me to fit in, I think. How do I cope with playing sports?

Question: I am a victim of incest. Is it normal I blame myself as I gave in?

Posted: 20 May 2017 06:08 AM PDT

I am 41 and still blame myself to this day as I let him do it. He stopped when I was 12 and said something and he went to jail. I have never seen him since and wish he'd come back to me now that he is out but he won't. Yet I also hate him for what he did. I enjoyed the attention though not the rape. So I miss him and love him and yet I hate him so much at the same time. It is my fault I feel even though I tell people I know it was him. In reality I feel the majority of it was his fault but some of it was my fault. I feel guilty for the 25 percent that was my fault for not telling someone sooner and not resisting. It went on for 4 years and I spoke up when he started doing it to my sister. He was actually my step-father but he was the only father I'd known (real father didn't want me). My mother was an incest victim also so she has downplayed it I guess as how she handled hers. She says it happens to most girls at some point and I just need to get over it. She died last year so I am opening up now about it more.

Question: Will I be shamed forever if I miss the funeral of my Dad's 2nd cousin who only met me once?

Posted: 20 May 2017 06:00 AM PDT

Only one member of my Dad's family is going and my Dad is not as he had never met the person except as a kid. I met him once.

Question: My Dad is an alcoholic. How do I make sure the world knows so he will get help?

Posted: 20 May 2017 05:37 AM PDT

My Mom says that if more and more people know then he will get help because he will be embarrassed. Should I announce it on Facebook or take out a newspaper ad?

Question: My mother is messing with my money, What do I do?

Posted: 20 May 2017 05:25 AM PDT

I am a 19 year old male who is brought in a lower class family. I have been working every since the age of 16 because my mom would never give me any money so I decided to make my own. Every summer she always ends up getting laid off on her job or its just some other stupid reason that won't allow her to work and it affects my finances because I can't buy the things i need to get further in life. When I graduated HS last year I spent the entire summer to jan 31 helping her catch up on the rent because she stopped working so she could get her degree without telling me until we got foreclosure letters. I couldnt do anything I wanted to that entire ******* year but her help and I all had was a pair of work shoes and my ***. She didnt pay the lightbill last month and is 2months behind on rent again and wants me to pay it. I want to get into the music industry but that takes alot of money so I saved and bought $900 worth of home studio equipment. I also give her $240 a month by default along with my other 2 siblings. I only make $546 a check and at my job from last year I made like $400 at the most from working at McDonalds. I'm just sick of her being comfortable throwing late bills on us when we all work and help out every month. I can't even save for a car like I want because of how of irresponsible she is...

Question: Should I feel like a bad dad for this?

Posted: 20 May 2017 05:22 AM PDT

I've got the day to spend with my son. He's six. I made him leftover spaghetti and meatballs for lunch that I made last night. Then we spent half an hour doing math together. Today we're memorizing addition so he can just know the answer without counting. He knows how to add and subtract numbers into the hundreds on paper but he sometimes has to count but he understands carrying the one etc. This is what I feel bad about. I could be spending time with him right now but I'm letting him play video games (Sly Cooper) for half an hour. This is time I could be spending with him and will never get back. I'm in the same room but not really interacting and I feel like I'm wasting precious time I could be with him.

Question: What's your funniest story about getting in a nanny or babysitter?

Posted: 20 May 2017 03:51 AM PDT

e.g. she rang me at the restaurant at 10pm to ask when I was going to be home as her boyfriend had arrived to pick her up...

Question: Help me please i really don t know what to do !!?

Posted: 20 May 2017 03:42 AM PDT

I m in a fight with my parents and they re so upset with me. They never understand me and they judge me a lot but i can t really blame them. I never tell them what s going on in my life but i tried and they just never listened so I stopped. Yesterday, i said something I didn t mean because i was very angry at my dad for what he said to me and now both my parents are saying how i was very disrespectful and comparing me to my brother and sister. They re both better than me at everything and my parents have this perception in their head that I m jealous and i hate them which i swear i don t. My sister and brother are nice to me. I m now the only one who lives with my parents so obviously i m very annoyed that they always talk about only my sister and my brother and never about me. I just feel left out and unimportant. It just hurts a lot. As i said, they re very mad at me since yesterday. They told me off last night and i did apologise to them. They ignored me when i did and now they act like i don t exist. I haven t eaten anything and i m scared to go out of my room. The way they look at me is so terrifying. I don t want to think they hate me, they claimed otherwise, but that s just how they make me feel for the past few years. I hate my life and i just want to disappear. i can t talk to anyone and i can t do anything. I m so tired of this it s not the first time they make me feel like a ghost in this house. What should i do??? I have been crying so much the whole night :(

Question: Am I right not to tell my ex that I'm pregnant?

Posted: 20 May 2017 02:35 AM PDT

I really hate him.. He has been such a douche.. I wish I never saw him or heard from him again... I can't believe I'll have to keep in contact with him for 18 years! My child doesn't need his money to grow up. It's none of his business anymore.. (he would be a bad influence anyway for my kid) He chose his new friend I'll keep it a secret 4vr

Question: My step brother slapped my butt ?

Posted: 20 May 2017 01:52 AM PDT

I'm a girl. My mom got married again. We moved into a new house with my step brother. Since then, he became really flirty. He even slapped my butt once... I kind of like him, but he's really open and I'm shy. All I have done to him was a hug, when he complimented me.. What should I do ? I wont tell my parents. I like him and don't want him to hate me.. I'm a little older than him, but he's way taller me. I'm 15, he's 14, but has his birthday coming up.(I'm 7 months older than him) I'm not trolling...

Question: Soundproof Bedroom / Parents Able to Hear Everything?

Posted: 20 May 2017 01:46 AM PDT

My room is opposite my parents room and in the weekends I stay up late talking to my friends. They don't mind that but they get annoyed that they can hear me talking. Also, I don't want my parents being able to hear everything I talk about with my friends, because who wants their parents listening in on their conversation? Anyways, is there any way that I can make my room a little more soundproof? Just some quick way so my parents can't hear and get annoyed by being able ot hear me.

Question: Is this normal with parents?

Posted: 20 May 2017 01:26 AM PDT

I don't know if this is normal or not, I just wanted to ask and maybe talk about how to deal with things. I'm almost 18 now, but my mother wont let me, nor ever has let me work a job, or even leave the house alone. I've never really been allowed to have friends unless they were hand selected, and never until I got online did I ever get along with anyone. She also constantly reads through my phone, checks through the computer after i've used it (I dropped out of school to take care of the house so I'm doing GEDs) and honestly I don't trust her. "gifts" are also never gifts, ever. even holiday or birthday gifts have to be worked for, it's been this way all my life. She;s also unemployed and refuses to work a job and we're having a hard time affording things (hence why I'd like to work) though I don't know if I could work a job anyways since I've been doing all the cooking, cleaning, housework and everything on top of school and caretaking for mother since I was 10. is this a normal thing? To not be allowed outside without supervision at all ages and not allowed to work a job? or to not have privacy and take care of a household at that age?

Question: Is my dad physically and mentall abusing me!?

Posted: 20 May 2017 01:02 AM PDT

My dad and i were fine until my school called him for me not being in school cause i ditched. Which yes was dumb but i was stressing too hard and me and my friends went to the pool which was retarded. And he started yelling at me calling me a druggy and a addict even tho i only smoked weed and he found my pipe last year. I even quit smoking. I kept telling him that it was stupid but that triggered him even more and punched me in my ribs and slapped me in my face. And then he threw a chair at me and told me get out of the house. He said im a disgrace and that i am not his son and that he hates me and wishes that i could just disapear. Then after about an hour he cooled off and then told me if i ever go to school late even 5 minutes he would kick me out the house and he doesnt care if i sleep on the streets. Then the next day i was late to one of my classes and the school called again saying i was absent and he punched me twice in my ribs and slapped me in the face telling me to gtfo of the house now. but i stayed and tried to tell him that i wasnt absent but i was only a meer 5 mintutes late be he didnt care and now im banned for the whole summer break. he even threw my heavy school bag with alot of textbooks on my head full force and it hurt real bad. And as i packed my stuff to leave and be homeless he said why are you leaving to be with your druggy friends and said you either stay or leave. And if you leave and come back to the house you will be a dead body.so i stayd

Question: I'm skinny, weak and can't defend myself from my own sister that beats me.I kick and scream but I'm too weak. No one is helping me? Help me?

Posted: 20 May 2017 12:47 AM PDT

Question: My sister beats me when i say no. Once she got a knife out to stab me. The police knows this but they don't do anything about it. Help me?

Posted: 20 May 2017 12:43 AM PDT

Question: Does anyone else have a hard time hiding their sex toys from children?

Posted: 20 May 2017 12:23 AM PDT

i dont want my kids wandering in my room to find my husbands cockrings or my dildo.

Question: Is it normal to hate sleeping over my parent's house?

Posted: 20 May 2017 12:16 AM PDT

I feel like they nitpick everything and like I can't do anything or I'll feel like I'm intruding.

Question: What should i do about my lack of family or famIly problems?

Posted: 19 May 2017 11:55 PM PDT

I lack family due to family members passing away, I don'the get along with most of my family so I choose not to speak to them,and some of them I do care about but ignore my phone calls Text messages.I don't really have any family to see for the holidays or visit! This has made me consider Suicide becuase there is no cure for this! I don't think I wanna have kids because I have to pay for them! I don't think this problem is because of GOD because I don'the believe in that! I'm in college! I feel like no matter what I do it isn't going to make my life better becuase i'll always have the lack of family! The government will own me becuase i'll always have to pay taxes for the people who do have a great life! I want family to travel with and do fun things with! I wish I had family to go see,visit,and Stay with in different states or counties so I wouldn't have to pay to stay anywhere! What is the point in living if i'll always see people have a better life than me because they have a good family when I get nothing in return for the hard work I do all my life? I feel like I don't deserve this because I work hard, Payou Taxes, and Contribute to society!

Question: At what age can I refuse to see my dad in Texas?

Posted: 19 May 2017 10:33 PM PDT

I am 16yrs old and turning 17 in august. I don t like my dad. He is constantly shoving religion down my throat and bad mouthing my aunts (the two wonderful ladies who became our guardians and saved us from our **** show/druggie parents). I don t like him and I want him removed from my life asap. How much longer do I have to wait!???

Question: My brother and I got into a stupid argument and he says i'm at fault. Really though?

Posted: 19 May 2017 10:16 PM PDT

It's really frustrating me. Basically he was looking through the fridge for food while I was making myself a drink. So I asked him to move so I could grab some ice from the freezer. Then he slams the deli door shut. I open the freezer and a bunch of stuff falls out. So then I got a bit mad but I just said look man why'd you do that? You're going to wake up our mother. Like even last night he woke her up and I had to deal with her mood in the morning and he has a habit of waking her up. So then he said it was my fault that everything fell out of the freezer because I opened the door. Everything fell out of my side not the fridge. I told him that happened because he slammed the deli door but he just completely denied he had anything to do with the mistake and put the blame on me. He really believed that I caused everything to fall out by opening the door. Even as i'm reading this over this is SO STUPID. But family relationships are important and it bothers me. I want to be able to resolve these issues with my brother in a better way. I feel very frustrated still because it's difficult to have a good relationship with my brother when we get heated over stupid **** like this but I get really frustrated when i'm left cleaning up a mess by myself while he's in the room denying any responsibility telling me "I need to pick up the ice too" like WHAT?!

Question: My family is against on a lot of things i do?

Posted: 19 May 2017 10:03 PM PDT

Such as wanting to learn how to drive a motorcycle, get my ear pierce, dye my hair and shooting a gun in shooting range. etc She would like freak out if i talk or mention about it which is really annoying. I'm 20 and all i want to do is try these things in life. I want try a little bit of everything. (nothing illegal) Should i do it and not tell her about it until later on. I'm asking this because i do feel kinda bad for hiding things behind her back but my mind is like #### it. I am using my own money and not her. Yes i still live with my parents but i can move out anytime i want because i do have a job that pay me $16 and hour. So far i had save up around 65k and i don't need to pay rent which is why i was able to save so much over the past 2 years. I'm fed up with her freaking out all the time but at the same time i do feel bad about it. After all she did raise me for all these years. What do you guys think? My mom is the one that freaking out...

Question: My dad gave my room to his girlfriends daughter?

Posted: 19 May 2017 09:35 PM PDT

Okay, so, my parents are divorced, and my dad has a girlfriend, and i live with my mom. I was visiting my dad over spring break, and when i was going to my bedroom to put my stuff away, he told me im in the other room, which is literally more than half the size smaller than my old room. I think its unfair becuase A. It was mine first B. She doesn't even live their, she's in college visiting! Plus, my new room is crowded with my dads girlfriends stuff! The room is so crowded, it can only fit a bed, and that's it. And they even redid the other room and even got couches in it and bigger Tv than mine!

Question: My mom pisses me off so much?

Posted: 19 May 2017 09:23 PM PDT

I m 15 years old and earlier she asked me if I wanted some food. I politely answered with no thank you. And then she started cursing at me loudly saying "WHAT THE **** IS WRONG WITH YOU YOU RE A ******* IDIOT". She has just successfully pissed me off. what should I do?

Question: How do I stop a parent from smoking as a teenager?

Posted: 19 May 2017 09:12 PM PDT

My dad had been smoking since he was 14, but he quit when my brother and I were born. His father passed away last year, and it really hit him hard. Lately, I've been sensing that he started smoking again, but I wasn't sure. Today I caught him with a cigarette. I told him he needed to stop and he said he would, but it was hard for me not to get emotional. We agreed not to tell my mom, but I don't really know what to do besides be there for him. I'm a teenager and I can't really seek professional help or buy him nicotine gum or something. I love him a lot and I don't want him to die. Please help.

Question: Widows /Survivors Pension Question?

Posted: 19 May 2017 09:00 PM PDT

My mother I'd on social security. My father passed 12 years ago. My father was married twice. He was 1st married to my mother and then to my stepmom who passed over 30 years ago. Can she get benefits of any kind? I'm not sure what it is called, but my ex's mom gets money for the same situation. Does any know anything about this or possibly the name. Any help or links would be helpful

Question: Does " hook up " relationship at parties last?

Posted: 19 May 2017 08:31 PM PDT

Hey guys, I like this girl but I saw her hook up with a guy at a party and they started talking. Does that relationship last? They drink a lot together doe. I dont drink or party. I rather focus on school so I could get my degree and make money. We are both 17.

Question: Was I being an Irresponsible parent?

Posted: 19 May 2017 08:31 PM PDT

my sister was having her baby and something happened and there were some issues (she got scared) called cry so being the older sister I went up there. (I myself have three kids two school age) I took my youngest with me and had my mother in law pick up the other two when school let out (in order to be there for my sister) my husband feels that because I choose to be there for my sister and not be the one to pick them up I was being irresponsible. I just want to know if someone can maybe help him explain to me how that is

Question: Why are some parents so irresponsible?

Posted: 19 May 2017 08:28 PM PDT

So hey guys, im a 17 years old guy. I saw this girl at my age but she party a lot and drink a lot too. She got parents but why dont they do something about it? I just dont know

Question: Which route should I take?

Posted: 19 May 2017 08:00 PM PDT

Don't judge me but I recently finished my 2nd year of college and I still have no clue what I want to do. I never wanted to go in the first place but since everyone keeps getting angry about me wanting to leave, I have to continue. But I feel and know I won't perform well because I truly don't want to be there. I already look at life as you're born, school, work, die. I don't care about school so why not just work now, stop adding debt to my name, and retire then die. I've been wanting to die since I was 12 anyway.

Question: Did my older female cousin and sister molest me?

Posted: 19 May 2017 07:41 PM PDT

When I was 9/10 my older female cousin and sister (12/13) they said they wanted to "play a game" with me. So I went into the bedroom with them and they shut the door. After that they said that we were going to play house. They kissed me and put their tongues in my mouth. They put their hands under my shirts and shorts and rubbed my breasts and vagina. I don't remember very clearly but I think my cousin may have put her finger in my vagina at one point because I had some spotting of blood after the last time it happened. This happened 3 times, 2 times at my grandmothers house and 1 time just my cousin at my house. It started out not so bad but each time it got progressively worse. I did not say no to them and I went along with out fighting them even though I knew it was wrong, I was just so excited they let me hang with them. I did know what sex was at the time because I had found my fathers hidden porn stash in his car and on the computer. Because of this I acted out the same actions with a female friend when we stayed the night together. I feel so disgusted about myself every time I think about this. I went along with it so I agreed to it right?? So, it is my fault? I just don't know what to make of this?

Question: Why does our dog follow my daughter?

Posted: 19 May 2017 07:38 PM PDT

Our 3 year old dog doesn't follow anyone else around the same way. It will purposely bump into my daughter playfully. She is 15 and I have a 12 year old son as well, but the dog pays less attention to him. She does not have an "interesting smell" (purfume or shampoo) that's strong. I equally give both children chores that involve the pet. However, my daughter was the first one that the dog met when it was still a puppy. My daughter was trying to figure out the same thing too. In Canada, people are usually pretty friendly towards animals. This dog has been living with us for years and she's had a healthy environment with a happy family. There was never anything traumatizing that makes her stick with a particular person for protection. She does not follow my daughter around all the time, but only occasionally.

Question: I feel so sad that my Mom doesn't let me see her family. How do I feel better?

Posted: 19 May 2017 07:36 PM PDT

She doesn't want me to see them because she is mad at them. However, they are so nice the three times I've met them. All my cousins are family with each other and I don't get to be. I don't like my Mom because she punishes me for what her sister and father do. How do I stop being so sad? I have no Dad so I don't know his family. My Granny is the only person I am related to that I see and she offers to take me to see her family but Mom won't let me. I am only 6th grade so I have to do what my Mom says. My brothers don't care but I do. How do I stop feeling so sad and start liking my Mom again as I don't now because she punishes me because her sister is mean and her Dad was bad. Her bad Dad is dead anyway so he won't hurt me.

Question: ADVICE?SUGGESTIONS?YOUR STORY?WHAT SHOULD I NAME THE PLATFORM?

Posted: 19 May 2017 07:33 PM PDT

Recently i have joined the pageant world. As some of you may know, you create a platform raising awareness something close to the heart. I would greatly appreciate feed back or advice! My platform deals with kids and teenagers feeling as if they have no one to talk to. This hits close to the heart for me because this past year has been rough. My parents are divorced, and My mother had made some bad decisions. My younger brother left to live with my grandpa for the rest of the school year, until he moved in with my father. my older brother had left home a few years ago.My mother and i were not as close as we used to be and i felt alone and abandoned by my brothers. i felt as if i couldnt talk to anyone because nobody knew how i was feelings. Kids and teenagers go through this at some point in their life. Whether it has to do with Bullying, Divorced parents, a death, or something going on at home. kids may not have anybody to talk to, they may not want to talk about, or maybe talking about it does not help. This can lead to suicidal thoughts. I want kids to have something they can do to let out their feelings out. For myself it was painting, i sat and listen to music, painting. I would like to go to middle schools and tell kids my story Give them a notebook and a pencil and tell these kids when you feel like you don't have anyone or don't want to talk to anyone, let your feelings out in this notebook or find something that takes your mind off of a time where things are rough.

Question: Is my dad a bad person?

Posted: 19 May 2017 05:42 PM PDT

Just some examples: He insults me constantly, saying how I have his fat chin and head and he feels sorry for me whilst laughing about it, telling me that I would get a boyfriend if I grew out my hair instead of having it so short, laughing at me when I go through hardships and making fun of me, etc. He has stopped paying for me to get anything (I'm not an adult) he won't buy me food after eating some himself, his only excuse is he wants to save money. I've also been having trouble in school with bullying so I was transferred to a new school and I'm doing really good, but he got mad at me and told me I need to just get my GED because he's sick of paying tuition for my school. My birthday passed and he bought me new furniture (he let me have drooping ripped up furniture for over a year, not even fit for the streets) and all he could do was complain that he had to pay for it as if it was my fault. He is an alcoholic, he lied to my mom for 17 years that he wasn't drinking anymore and confessed a few months ago that he goes to the bar every day. He cusses my brother and I out and even threatens to hit and punch my brother who is an adult, he told me he didn't care about me anymore just because I denied his hugs after he would scream at me, but do you blame me? He even said he would stop drinking because my mom threatened divorce, but he convinced her to drink wine and margaritas with him because supposedly they're not as bad as beer, but doesn't a sober alcoholic drink nothing? These are just some examples of what he does. He has also told my mom to just leave and buy her own house during a petty little fight, why my mom hasn't divorced him yet is beyond me.

Question: What should I (would you) do in a situation like this?

Posted: 19 May 2017 05:18 PM PDT

So basically, I thought I wanted to learn how to play piano, so I told my parents I wanted a keyboard for Christmas. My mom got me one and let me know the same day that she paid a lot for it and didn't even get my other two siblings a gift b/c mine was so expensive. (Let it be known that I never wanted her to spend that much money; a cheap $20 keyboard would have been fine, but anyways.) Now it's been a while since then, but I've found I don't have the desire (or patience) to learn piano anymore; it was one of those short-lived things. I still have the keyboard, but I don't use it at all. I'm thinking about just selling it. I don't even think I can get a refund for it now; I doubt she still has the receipt and the packaging is long gone. Should I tell my mom I'm sorry she spent that money and give her the money back or something? I'm not sure. What would you do?

Question: How to comfort my shy sister?

Posted: 19 May 2017 05:10 PM PDT