I have a male co worker who has been abused and going through seperation with his wife. A few weeks lately since after my birthday April 30th...he asked me to lunch for my birthday and I agree. We went to lunch and the whole time I held it from my husband. We work the night shifts together and we text and call about his issues with his wife. The whole time my husband at home doesn t know. Will he catch on? When I am suppose to be sleeping I stay up texting my co worker when my husband assumes I am sleeping after a shift. Is this cheating if its not intimacy? Me and the co worker have been getting closerand it seem like I would rather ignore my husband and find excitment listening, talking to my co worker.

She Is mad at me and suspect I go strip club very often. I do go there but no "very often" like she quoted. I am hard working man and Somedays after long tiring days I go there, no very often but like 10-13 times a month.

I was diagnosed with disorders that makes me go to multiple doctors to get myself checked out. I am under high risk for 5 different type of Cancer. I was already diagnosed with one at late 20's. I am beginning to think this is unhealthy relationship i am in. I asked him about this. He says it's not that bad, and I am overreacting. Am i really overreacting? This is not that much of a concern?

My wife is 5 1/2 months pregnant with our daughter. She cries every time we kiss or make love. Why does she do this ? How can I comfort her ?

I hope to be engaged in 5 years. I would rather disappear without a trace than to not be engaged then and hopefully I will be pregnant too. For those who are pregnant is a 22 yr old virgin considered a loser?

Been with him 2 years, we live three hours away from each other so it's harder to see each other weekly I found his phone had odd 5 digit numbers that would text him, no responses from him, but the texts were flirty in nature. He always talks about how women that sleep around are nasty, he says this without me bringing it up. He thinks only younger women are good because they haven't had the time to rank up as many sexual partners as the older women have. Now , besides the odd texts on the phone that he gets ( they aren't many and seem to be from months ago and he never replied back but still...) He goes online to specifically look for young teenage hookers, girls 18-22. He goes as far as actually looking up things about them that he can find to gauge what they are like, but he says he hasn't met up with any of them, he just looks out of curiosity, but if it' curiosity why does he look them up on a regular basis every couple of days ? He has send out texts to the two numbers he says but it was to tell them how nasty they are for doing their job, not to meet up he says. Am torn, should I just stop talking to him ? I'm suppose to drive out to see him this weekend but am having second thoughts

1. Do I have to tell my spouse I want a divorce or can I just fill out the papers and serve him? (I'm afraid to tell him) 2. If he gets the papers and does nothing about them or doesn't go to court am I automatically granted the divorce? We have been married less than 2 years, have no kids or property together and live in Minnesota if that helps.

My wife is insecure.i call her beautiful everyday and reassure her that she's beautiful.when I want to take selfies with her or take a picture of her she looks away and i can't take a pic.I want to show the world my beautiful wife.but then when I'm gone and she gets ready with make up and her hair done she will take a selfie and post it on social media.is there a reason for that? Is she searching attention? Wants an ego boost? What is it?

The fifth year is making me have flashbacks for some reason like a death anniversary.

What is going on here with this dude? We text back and forth for days. He calls me hun, babe so many things. Invites me to go do stuff. Then after a couple days .... BOOM.... nothin..... then after a day or so I will text him asking him what's up and he will be like "Hey hun, how are you!" And sometimes he is irritated by me also!! Im confused. Its like he is around, then he isn't. What gives

Long story short here, but my husband had an ex who he dumped right before we got married. We loved each other , but we sped up to marriage because i was pregant. Fast forward to a year after our marriage, i found out they had been communicating for about 2 months before he broke it off. She was pressuring him to leave me for her. I was infuriates but we smoothed things over and we continued our life together. Three children later, and 7 years , i found out they were talking again, through phones and this time planning to meet up for a one night stand. My husband said he turned her down. A day or two later she broke it off As she now had her own husband and child.i am not going to take blame away from my husband here, but does anyone know why this girl keeps contacting him? I dont think she really loves him... do you think shes like this with other guys. She apparently was contacting him because she was depressed. Do you think shes like that crazy girl in close encounter or swim fan lol. Im wondering if she is psycho... is my husband just as crazy?

I previously had a wage assignment against my employment income for a higher amount. With the new divorce judgement, the support I owe is lower but my current wage assignment is still in effect, so my employer continues to deduct/withhold the previous amount. I want a new wage assignment issues to my employer for the new, court ordered support amount. How do I go about getting it done? Thanks!

He left the wife to be with me Feels guilty about leaving family Kids are not around me at all and we live together He talks to ex every day and they go out together as a family all the time without me Should I stay????

And answer accordingly? I think there's lots of older people who want to do what we liberated young uns get up to and are just plain jealous and in their hearts wish they had!

He said he was working late. Until 10 pm. I just found out he left work at 5! Do you think he's up to something?

Never, ever marry and live with my cousins for life? I wasn't lucky in love and after a certain age, dating wouldn't do me any good. I don't want to be a charity case for a 50+ man with kids from a previous wife and a ton of baggage. Am I weird?

like is it okay for a 31 year old white guy to marry a 20 year old Black woman and if they have kids together what color would the babies be? I'm just wondering that's all so please no hate Thanks :)

A spouse come in between you and your siblings? I say true. Many people have spouses who try to prevent them from seeing their brothers and sisters and that's wrong. A sibling must not let his/her wife/husband come in between his/her siblings.

Me: 24, super sexy, mba and job as a financial analyst Him: 36, relatively unknown fashion designer, 2 children

Why would ur bf sister not like you if you haven't done her anything wrong? Bf sister doesn't like me, talks behind my back to other people. I'm nothing but good to her brother and me and him are in love, which I know our relationship shouldn't and is not about anyone else, but it just makes it uncomfortable when she is around bc I feel the guilt that she knows she is 2 faced bc she can't even look me in the face.

My husband has often joked about liking my lifelong GF and she says she fancied him. We have a good marriage love each other and the sex is amazing When she stays over for the weekend their is s chemistry between the two similar to my husband I And I don't mind at all it all feels so nice. Nothing said but they both want to have sex and I am fine with that Should I broach the subject and tell them to go ahead ?

I'm a janitor and this woman I'm seeing is a teacher. She is married and have no kids yet. The results show she is pregnant and we know it's not her husband because they haven't had sex. He has been ignoring her so she came to me. I'll take care of our kid if it turns out to be mine but I can't lose my job.

Hi I'm a 32 yr old woman who is married and desperately wants kids. My husband and I have always talked about having kids for years but things got hard the past 3 yrs. My mother became bedridden. I've become so busy taking care of everyone but myself. I work 60 hrs a week and I feel so depressed I just want to start my own life. My husband now says no to having kids because I'm not up to his standards now. I can't tell any of my family members or friends. I feel so down all alone with what is going on in my marriage. When ever we talk about having kids we end up arguing. I feel like I'm getting too old. All of my friends have kids and keep asking when I will. I can't help but blame my mother for not taking care of herself and me running from one house to the next daily. My husband is a very affection man but when it comes to kids he becomes the most cold hearted. I feel like I'm coming to an end. I sometimes wish I could just die. I'm not suicidal but I feel like I have no future. What's the point. Please I need a friend I need advice. I need a smile.

i know it sounds really stupid and i am not the type to get mad about porn because to be honest everyone does it and it's a healthy thing. But my husband constantly watches it like every time i leave the house every time i am not there next to him he even does it when i am in the next room and our sx life is lacking big time i don't even remember the last time we did and i've told him countless upon countless times how bad it bothers me and it's destroying our marriage and i don't know what to do at this point. He won't get help.

In front of the friends circle n neighbours after they found out too. The wife accepted that she videotaped some sex videos with her exes who might have uploaded it and she did'nt share about it due to her own reasons. Now whose is the loser here, her past became thier present now and is haunting the husband' n his family's reputation. Its possible that the ppl might be viewing it together and enjoying it and making fun of thier families. So what the reaction?

We have been married for 14 years. Every year he tells me it is going to get better. What I mean by that is his daughter, her and her mom are constantly interfering in our marriage and causing problems by spread lies about things to members of his family. Mostly about me, because they think it is fun. My husband never stands up to his daughter who is now taking her mom to family functions (mom uninvited) and making it very uncomfortable for me at baby showers etc. This woman has hated me since my husband told her I was the woman he was going to marry. We have a a family event this weekend and his daughter may or may not show up with the ex there. My husband said he would flip his lid if she showed up on that day. Never did he ever say he would straighten things out for events that I attend...only and this is a maybe - when he is at one. I feel that this is never going to resolve itself, it is getting worse. (The first two years of our relationship was worse with the ex calling my work, family and friends to try to start trouble to the point of restraining orders) I don't know what to do. I feel like a number at times...it isn't funny and I am not a wimp. Maybe he is, but I need help about how to talk about this stiff to him and get things fixed.

I'm about to marry this man but I don't love. I'm assuming and hoping that I love him after we get married. Also no sex.

My true love who I fell so in love with is cheating on me. I just found out that my wife has been cheating on me. I've seen a long paper trail of her lies and many men for the last 6 years. I have become so depressed I am now drinking every night and doing drugs to cope with her lies. She has tried to set me up to have sex with her best friend to see if I would cheat on her. I told her I was going to divorce her and she told me she would keep the kids and I would get nothing because she makes more money and the courts favor the moms over the dads. My life is unstable due to her lies and whoring around. She hates me as she has told me more than once, but she will not let me go or want to be divorced. What she wants is to make me look bad as she will look good. She never stand up for me when it comes to her parents. Her parents will tell my wife what a loser I am and she deserves to have a better husband. When we have sex and after she has an orgasm she is done wanting sex as she gets up and pulls up her pants because she never gets undress. My wife never lets me get off and she doesn't care if I have an orgasm and she tells me how sorry she is and explains that after she has an orgasm she can no longer perform in bed. My wife turns the kids on me and doesn't work as she stays home playing FarmVille. She will spend my money and excepts me to give her money. My wife never tells me that she loves me,

Ok my husband works 6 days 8 to 5 and is off for three days ,he has trouble sleeping and on his days off he acts board at the house watching tv so i ask to go swimming or fish or to the movies and he always says he jhst wants to go to his or my parents or go out to eat or to church so what should i do or just do what he wants to do ???

I am thinking a life in comfort is not a bad deal either, no?

For some time now my husband and I haven't been on the best of terms. We'll go days of good weather then hit a storm and things get rocky for a while. This has been going on for years. It seems like this last storm has been over us for a while now. We just can't seem to get along longer than a few days. it all started when I found out a few years ago that he cheated on me with a girl he met online. We went to counseling about 4 years ago but I just seem to keep my guard up about anything he does. He's apologized to me countless times but I just don't believe he's sincere. He said that he's not going to keep living his life like her was having a 2 or 3 year affair with a woman when it was only a one time thing. Several counselors have even told me to move on past it but I just can't. Well, several months ago his family wanted to do family pictures and he discussed the idea with me to have our own pictures made. Him, me, my sons, his daughters, and our 4 new grandkids. The idea with his family has stalled but this morning he sent me an email asking if we were still planning on taking pics. This was my reply. "We have been at each other's throats for months/years now. It's a tug of war and I can't smile at a family photo right now knowing that I am not happy. Let's be real here. I'm seriously not feeling family photos right now until I know that we are in this for the long haul AND are happy, truly happy being together. Finding a happy place with yourself is one thing, but finding a happy place with one another is another." This was his reply. "So maybe we need to stop do a lot of things as a family until we're in a better place then." My aunt passed this past Sunday and we're suppose to go out of town tomorrow for her funeral. He's taking a day off work without pay to drive me to the funeral so now I'm thinking that he's threatening me with the photos and the funeral. Since I don't want to take family photos then why should he go be around my family during the funeral. Should I take that as a threat?

I'm beyond frustrated. My husband will not listen to me. He constantly tunes me out. It can be as little as me telling him "I'll be at the gym at this time tonight" or me talking about something that bothers me he won't listen I've told him that it bothers me and he knows it but he still ignores me. He will either be glued to his phone or online and chatting with his friends. He will listen to other people but when it comes to me it's like I might as well not say anything. It used to bother me a little bit but now it's gotten out of hand. I don't know what to do at this point. I don't feel like I'm worth listening to. I don't complain to him, it will be as little as talking about the weather, I've tried talking to him about it. He only says sorry. It bothers me because he'll listen to his female friends. Whether it's about typical things like( fashion, t.v shows, music) stuff I knows he doesn't like or them complaining abt their bfs. He even stayed on the phone with some girl late at night until 2hrs before he had to go to work b/c she had a problem. I even got into sports to talk to him but didn't work Do something for myself? I do a lot of things for myself. I don't nag him about anything. IF something needs to be done I do it or we get a professional to take care of things. I try not to bother him when he does play video games because I feel it is something he likes to do to relax after work and stuff. Texting is probably the only way he'll remember something like me going to the gym or having a class later in the evening. And even then I'll have to remind him that we text about it. Bottom line is I wish my husband would listen/respond to me like he does his female friends. It's very hurtful that I cannot communicate with him.

I have been after my 24yr old son to enroll back in school or get a full time job.He works part time at target,He skipped the last semester lying to us,He thinks he can sleep as long as he wants,and I have to argue to have him do things here.My husband and I have been married 45yrs,my husband had a sexual harrassment charge against him 2yrs ago ,gambled our $40,000 401k,7yrs ago bought himself a $15,000 boat,,,,,,,,,,I raised our 3 kids now adults,he sat back and said not a thing so he's the good guy.Yesterday I was taking my son's video game system so he pushed me very hard while my husband watched,did nothing,,said it was my fault.Now with my son my husband is going to a lawyer claiming mental abuse and I will get nothing and my son said and I will support dad.My heart is broken,I was the parent raising my kids,lots of arguments with my sons for 6yrs from 18-24 because they thought they could do what they want,so because I fought called names with no help from their father they are against me.What do I do???

I have gotten attached to so many guys in the past who ended up leaving my life altogether. Yet I'm stuck with memories of them. I hate those memories. In not me anymore, I'm me. + all those guys. I just want some tips on staying unattahed to a man until he actually becomes my husband. Thanks

He constantly lectures me on how the girl I'm dating is going to trap me and steal my money and marriage is evil and a waste of time. He thinks that all women are out to destroy men and use men

Married to my wife for almost 1 year now. 3 weeks before our first date, her ex of 4 years died in a accident. After 2 years she seemed to be completely over it, thought she was in love with me as I was with her so here we are married for a year. Last weekend we went to a wedding, had a misunderstanding, she stormed off with her friends and left me at the wedding. Got to the hotel n found out what room she was in, walked into the room and there she was balling her eyes out hugging the friend who caused her ex's death. They were all crying. She looked at me as I asked what was wrong, no answer. I walked out to my hotel room highly confused that she was so tore up from our argument. Wrong.. the details I got were, she was crying because she brought up her ex, she was hugging the friend because he was crying after she started crying, said that she told him not to do the thing that killed him that night(Standing in the back of a truck bed, fell out hit his head).she didnt follow me back to our room to resolve OUR issues, she stayed in her friends room crying about her ex who died 4 years ago with her friends that were his friends too.Is my wife still in love with her ex? Its driving me crazy.She completely ignored me while she was missing him, im not sure all she said about it.I know she was thanking all her friends for being there for her and how hard it was. I feel very hurt about all this.I was there for her when i didnt have to be. What does this all mean?

You mourn the old dog for a while. Then get a new one and bond with it. And as time passes you eventually forget about the old one. With the hustle and bustle of life, you rarely talk about the old spouse or dog.

What if he was a really nice guy? Would you marry him?

We and nearly out of money for rent. I'm all I think that Angels has room for another dancer and weekends and like Tuesdays. Then she gets kissed and says she means me. She like all you do is sit around and we need rent money. I can't pay all the bills. So I can't be dealing with this . I'm like I have PlayStation and internet people to argue with I can't be going somewhere everyday to like do sh1t . So we have an argument and you I just tell her that there are too few people who know about the moon landing hoax and I have a job explains this to other people in the internet. Now I'm thinking that I should meet that girl I met on tinder who wouldn't be all serious and stressed about me getting a job or something's