Photo explains it all... please help. (Last part says: but my mom doesn't let me hang out with them. Sooner or later I'm just gonna do it, if something doesn't change. So what do I do?

My mom is 47 years old and she has no relatives whatsoever except for my grandmother and honestly she's never been good with people but now she doesn't know anyone at all . And I'm 20 years old in college and i think I'm also not very good with people because i only have 2 friends. Anyway, i really feel sorry for her . She also has no friends. I think part of the reason that I feel really sorry for her is that I'm afraid of ending up like her one day . I've been planning to study abroad but now I'm scared of leaving her alone . Because she has nobody else . It really pains me to see her like this . And because of it she's always so easily irritated and i tbh don't have a good relationship with her but I'm working on it and I'll try to invite her along with my friends but that can't be possible most of the time. I can't sleep some nights just thinking about this . My dad is with her but he works and tries his best to make her happy but I don't think it's something HE can do . Please I want to help her so bad what can I do? She won't join any club or community organizations of any sort and please understand that it's hard for her and she basically has 0 self esteem. Thanks

me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 years and suddenly we want kids even though we thought we never would? It's a really strange feeling but we want to try for a baby (probably more than one, honestly) and start a family. Why is this happening?

Somebody in my family did something really bad, and I've been told not to tell anyone. I might not even be able to tell my future spouse. (I asked if I can tell my future spouse when I get married and the answer was "probably.") But I think this is incredibly unfair! This person already caused problems for me by doing what they did, and now I can never have a best friend because there will always be something important that actually affects my life that I can't tell them about! Isn't this just incredibly unfair?! I'm pretty sure I can judge whether or not telling someone would actually be harmful, so I'm thinking about just telling a close friend of mine anyway. Also, yes, this person broke the law, and yes, they got caught. They're not in jail. They're just on probation. And they won't be doing what they did again. And telling EVERYONE would negatively impact innocent people in my family as well.

I have been hospitalized twice with salmonella, and am 11 weeks pregnant. We've had our iguana for 10 years and it is more of our family than anything right now. I don't know whether we should abort our child (Which will probably be horribly disfigured anyway because of the effects of salmonella on fetus developmental), or just get rid of our iguana, who has been helping counsel our marriage and recover from the death of our beloved daughter who has passed away recently. Our initial reaction was to immediately get ready to replace her with a new spawn, but having our lovely iguana has been hindering this ability to reproduce. I really love my iguana, but it's one or the other. Pros of keeping iguana: I went under psychiatric evaluation and they said all I needed was some love and care. The iguana will be able to offer that for another good 15 years or so. Getting rid of my unborn baby will also save me the heartache of possibly losing another child if something were to happen. I don't know whether I'm ready to be a mother again, or if I'm meant to just be a pet owner. Cons of keeping iguana: I could get salmonella and die. I could lose my fetus. (Which I might lose already anyway) There's no financial burden for keeping an iguana as opposed to keeping a child. So it's the kid or the iguana. This is really hard. Why lose a friend I've had so long for a fetus I've never met?

my granda's mom was alpha but he married a pleaser woman. My mom is a naggy annoying woman, very unlike my dad's mother. I'm definetely not going to marry someone like my mother. Unless she likes to be beaten so dont tell me we are pre determined to marry someone just like our mother or become just like our retarded parents

Need advice and justification for my feelings. My sister is 40, has had few jobs over the years and fired from a couple. She currently has been doing part time in-home childcare but the children are school age so they are not home during the day and the parents are home by a certain time. She doesn't watch them on weekends so has time to work another job, yet does not. She lives with one family so part of her pay is that. Her pay is minuscule. She has a master's degree (received it 15 years ago) but because of that, she sets her standards high. Meaning instead of taking anything so she can pay bills and live, she doesn't. She does some volunteering, mostly to look good on her resume and to make connections, but it has not gotten her a job in the last few years and now her car has just been re-poed. She had a relative co-sign on it and now both of their credit's are screwed and the car company is coming after them. Why I considered her a deadbeat is because she's 40, healthy, has no kids, isn't married, and had a car. She could have worked whenever and wherever, but would rather spend all her time on social media (which is constant, even while driving and visiting with us) or sleeping, so she can't pay her bills, can't afford to live anywhere, and now has lost her car. I myself am many years younger than her, am a parent, have limited car access, and still work and make more money than her. Our family is stressed and frustrated and it's tearing us apart. It's my business because like I already said, my family is falling apart over this. And it all is falling on me because I feel like I have to pick up the slack and help support them all. How is my family not my business??

I have been working for my dad since I was 17 ( I am currently 24) and my brother has been working with us for 2 years now, maybe a little more and he is 21. Ever since I've worked for my dad, It has been nothing but work day in and day out. It hasn't been easy. And a lot of work problems have spilled over into our personal family life. We have never taken a vacation, other than staying a night or two during the weekend in san diego. But sometimes as an employee you need to get away from that work enviormnent for awhile. My brother does work more hours than I do, since his work involves physical labor and I just do clerical work. He recently asked my dad (for the first time since he started working) for 2 days off in June to go to some convention he's wanted to attend for a long time. But he was denied the two days because another employee is taking 2 weeks off during that same time . While I understand this, It is not fair that other employees are granted up to 2 weeks off, and my brother and I are expected to work no matter what. My dad says our days off are the weekends. But even then my brother sometimes has to work weekends. What do can I do in this situation? We are far too young to just be kept working. I am planning on leaving for a week in August to visit San Francisco, no matter what my dad says. Because I have never traveled much because of work. What can we do? How do we ask my dad for vacation days?

I was court ordered to give her bi-weekly phone calls/skype. 2 weekend visitations and 2 weekend visitations with the family as a whole unit. She has 2 other kids that were taken by biological fathers. The major problem is that the child misses her mom and im not sure how to approach her feelings. She is 4 and doesnt understand that her mom is a heroin addict and cant take care of her. When her mom does call, she makes promises that she cant keep and then blames me in front of the kid. Ive hung up on her before and the judge has threatened to hold me in contempt. Whats best for the kid is definitely not what seems to be a priority. A little advice from anyone who has been here might be helpful.

Lately I have seriously been considering suicide and have even arranged to buy cyanide pills online from another country. It's mostly due to my circumstances( newly disabled and lost everything I loved and worked for because of a stroke. However, another big reason is because of my insufferable Mother. I've been stuck living with Her and we often get into arguments. She even punishes me like a child when She gets mad which is easily and often. Because right now I have no way to just leave and She knows it. Therefore, I just want this hell on Earth to end.

I'm 18 and just graduated high school. For some reason, I feel this massive pressure that it's time for me to become an adult and move out, get a job, pay taxes, make my own money, etc. but I don't feel ready yet. I mean, I'm starting my job soon but I don't even have my driver's license yet. Embarrassing, I know. I'm starting college in the fall and it's literally five minutes from my home. Would it be embarrassing if I lived at home or should I move out into a dorm? I feel like I'd be looked at as immature and unable to take care of myself if I live at home, and I feel as though I'd be treated as a child and not taken seriously. What should I do? Is it really that bad?

I was at a club with my friends. I was having a conversation with one of my male friends and this woman that he is supposedly seeing walked over and started to talking to us. I barely know her but I speak when I see her around. I shook it off and didn't take it personal at the time. The next day after talking to a friend about it she agreed with me when i said it was a little rude. I put a status on fb saying that I didn't like it when people interrupted my conversations that them and the person that allowed them to do it is likely to get cussed out. I was talking about that situation but was just venting on fb. About a week later at another party I noticed that she was avoiding me. I went to speak to her and she just walked away. At the end of the night I walked up and was just standing next to. She turned to me and said hey, so what's up with that message you put on fb about interrupting your conversation. I was caught off guard but I got a little loud and said that it was rude. She said why are you so loud. My guy friend came over and said what's going on and pulled me away. He walked me to my car and said he was going to keep his distance from me because I was starting mess but I told him that it was her who started it. Was I the one in the wrong here? She started it by bringing it up.

I suppose I should not complain; I hear endless stories of kids committing crimes and doing drugs and our son is not one of them. He is finishing his junior year in high school. He works hard and has good grades. He has a job and is very responsible with his money. He has some friends and he is involved in some school activities. So what do I have to worry about? This seems to be his whole life. He has never gone on a date. He does not want a cell phone. He has never gone to a party or a school dance. He has a driver s license (we forced him to get one) but he has no interest in driving or getting a car. We don t drive him anywhere, he rides his bicycle or the bus to work even when he doesn t get off till after 11 at night. I see photos of friend s kids and while his is in the photo he always looks so serious, he never acts silly. He never violates any rules (or he is supremely good at not getting caught). I know that he has called the police when kids were TP-ing a neighbors house. I just worry that he will always be a gray, lifeless person who never tries to enjoy life, that he really sees his future as consisting of nothing but going to work and paying bills. Is there anything we can do or is his path in life set?

Yesterday i was on my computer when my dad opened an envelope and it said he was charged for an xbox gold membership. So i turned off auto renewal but he kept on arguing that i cancelled the membership and wasted $11 but i actually only turned off auto renewing. He stated i am dumb and don't understand when it misunderstood. Then he started talking about things that have nothing to do with this like talking how bad i am at math so he can get an advantage on a argument. There was also a time when he got mad just because i scraped my knees. What can i do? I'm depressed

I am a man of 50, who blocked out for 30yrs the abuse my sister did to me after she was raped. Mostly cruel and hateful things she said. I was 13 when she was raped, and since then she would treat me like a child molester/rapist. Saying very hateful things. I finally told someone when I was 45, when she said I was a rapist because while taking care of our mom I had to see her naked, when she went to the bathroom or shower. With short term counseling, because shortly after that our mom died, I lost my job of 20yrs, and my insurance. I knew enough to see the abuse, and end contact with my sister until I am back on solid ground. I have another sister who is mentally ill, bipolar sued me for money we put into our mom's home, and lost. But she wanted her money back. I won 2 court cases, then with the help of the abusive sister who both lied, I lost, $5000. but it cost me $12,000 in legal fees. Because of this I had to work 60-70hrs a week to make ends meet until I had a heart attack. I did not find out my abusive sister lied, and was helping my bipolar sister until her letter was read in court. With losing my $80,000 job, my savings, and half of my retirement and the $100,000 in hospital bills, I filled for bankruptcy. My abusive sister calls texts and emails me telling be how much she loves me. But insists she has done nothing wrong. I have asked her to stop contacting me, but she won't. She recently sent me a check for $50 3 months after my birthday. What to do?

When I was a little kid my dad hit me a lot but my mom exposed him and got issues with the social. I'm fifteen now and my mom is gone, I live with my dad again and he dosen't hit me but is instead very passively aggressive. Today I was 5 minutes late for school, so he says that as soon as he comes home he will take away my keys for a month, that means that after every school day I'll have to sit crying outside our house until he feels like letting me in.. to "learn me a lesson". He really doesn't care about me, and shows no parental warmth.. is there anything I can do about this? Im not sure but this a normal way of parenting or is it abusive, either way I feel very broken by it

So i am 23 and my boyfriend is 24. We have been together 5 years and we have a decent relationship with my parents. Last night at their home i was chatting with my mom about the birthday gifts my boyfriend had bought me. My dad chimes in with "what the hell did he win the damn lottery?" "Doesnt he have bills to pay? How much do those cost?" I simply told him we are adults and its not his business and that i dont ask him about his finances. He got in my face and told me to go **** myself. How would you handle this?

I'm 15 but I'm graduating next year so I'll be 16 and by then I can get a job and start saving. I love my mom so much but I am sick of living with her I want to leave. I'm going to leave right after I graduate because I don't want to deal with her. It's either her way or the highway and I'm pretty much done. She acts like she's the only one entitled to get mad or cry and if I'm mad or crying she s like why are you mad I'm the one who should be mad I have to work go to school and pay all the bills and do household chores so tell me again why are mad. And I'm completely over it. If I could move out now I sure in the hell would

No phone calls please, I think that goes too far

He's filthy rich in over a million dollar home. calls me a bastard all the time htaes me cos he has a german combover and I have jata Locks blessed by Bholenath didn't arrange my marriage when I had a job in my 20s(roman calendar years). I'm now 30 roman calendar years. He knows I'm poor and gives me $420 a month and works with white scum against me cos he hates my body n hair Should I Wood I even visit him or his bitjch wife's funeral on their death beds? Wat is so funny bout 420!? Thas no fuqn Joke for us Indians...do ju know wat Chaar Sau Bees is!?!?

My girlfriend comes from a disfunctional family ,I feel her parents don't want me to be with her bc they tell me a bout her past and feel they are trying to keep her from her full potential ,I really want to work with her and love her ,everybody else says she's wrong on things she does ?her family keeps taking her money and she is treated like a child ?the family says it won't work ??and seem they don't want us to be together why would a family be so mean to her ?

I live at home with my mom and dad and on weekends I like to go spend the nights with my boyfriend, But I feel super guilty for leaving my parents, My mom and dad was telling me today how they are making a special dinner and I had to tell them that I was staying at my boyfriends, My mom text me back (because i'm at work) putting sad faces and asking when she will see my next (even though I live at home and only stay out weekends) I feel so guilty and sad and I feel like a horrible daughter, I feel like I might just cancel on my boyfriend and stay in

I'm 20 amd i love to just go out at night and listening to the frogs and the crickets. Its peaceful to me. But my six year old cousin just talked the entire time when I brought him fishing one night and he complained he was bored so I brought him home.

Ive been married to my husband for almost 6 years now. We have a 4 year old little girl together. My husbands mom is crazy. I'm not just saying that because shes my mother in law. Shes a junkie and is a complete nut. In the past shes talked to my husband almost daily and told him how much she loved him. She lost her job a couple months ago and we helped with money for food and such and we only make $12 an hour BUT we helped as much as we could. She was also in the hospital a couple months ago as well and we were the ONLY people to stay and help her. I risked my final exam ( a whole semester of class for this lady) come to find out she only went because she was freaking out from doing too much crack and thought there were bugs in her. Well just recently she inherited alot of money. Well she promised my daughter a swing set and my husband help with a car. We DID NOT ask for money this was her offering before she got the money. Well, she has this boyfriend and shes spendig all her money on stupid stuff and on her BF. Shes been ignoring us and im not sure how to handle it. I just think its messed up shes spending all this money on a BF shes had for a couple months but not even taking my husband and daughter to eat out or even getting them anything. She invited us over to have dinner for mothers day. Well after work We all went over there and she was sleeping. We go in the house there are pills EVERYwhere . She cancels and promises everyone that we will hang out Tuesday. Well she cancels that too. My daughter was so excited to spend time with her mamaw and shes completely forgotten about her son and granddaughter. Im at the point where I dont even know if I want my daughter around such a junkie. Shes asked to borrow my hubands gun (who asks for that). She helped me take my daughter to a doc appt. and on the way i noticed a gun iin the back seat pocket. I asked about it and they denied it? They both have criminal backgrounds so I know the gun wasnt legit. Im just so pissed off at her at this point and I dont know if I even want my child around her. Both my husband and I do not let her be around her mamaw byherslf since shes been born but now I dont want the woman even coming to my house and Im sure as hell not letting my daughter go to her house will pills everwhere laying around. How should I deal with her? Should I just cut her off competly? To those of you who asked why I risked my final is because the doc said she could die anytime from liver problems. I would never hold my husband back from his moms final moments. As far as helping her with food, we didnt realize how much of a victim she was playing us for. She just got out of a bad relationship and needed food. I didn't realize how much of a junkie she was until now. I thought she just drank alot which is why my daughter never stayed with her by herself.

He watches porn A LOT right in front of me and never washes his hands after getting out of the bathroom which sometimes results in him getting sick. He used to beat me up but I called the police on him and he still sometimes verbally abuse me. When I argue with him, he mocks me like a child. I m 24 years old, I m tired of him and his disgusting unhygienic ways and planning to move out soon. What do I do for now? Why couldn't I have a normal father?

Hello guys, I'm 14 and living now in my grandmas house, my family pays his grandson's tuition fee, he's service fee and food fees and they have a dept on us like 50k but still I don't know why they treat us different. My parents usually not with us and I have the responsible to take care of my little sister. I have full blown anxiety and OCD, I got really depressed here and traumatized because they abuse me physically and emotionally here, in home, I feel alone and sad. I told what happened to us here, and my parents say they will consult me in a psychiatrist next month and sometime I hurt my sister because of my anger issues we have no choice we need to stay here for 1 more year. It sucks but I have no choice, and they act that they are innocent when I said them to my parents and I have no right to answer them back. My half-sister's son and that sister was adopted by my grandma, bullies us and mock us, etc. They tolerate him and when he bullies us, they just ignore us. And now, because of my full blown anger, I choke him and punch him, he said it too thwm, and latwr I'm sure I will get scolded. I wanna punch the crap out of them, and my mom is not in here, she will be in here tomorrow. What should I do to defend myself? I am pretty neevouse right now because I got ptsd.

She's my half sister but I have the same exact love for her as my mom

My mom said it's like the Brady Bunch in here (for our household), then my dad said I believe either "we have half" or "it's half" or "we need half" then my mom did a laugh (I believe) and said yeah in a remark matter There's me plus my two sisters and my parents plus my grandfather

Im 17 next mounth i wii be flying to my father we planned it for me to stay there the whole summer and maymbe work somthing but its my last summer vacantion since next year i go to school.I dont realy want to go anymore but my mom says i havent seen my father in 3 years and i feel bad...I dont want to waste my summer vacantion but i dont want to make my father feel bad of me not going.what should i do?

Is there any way I could not have to see my parents anymore legally? I'm 17 and have siblings who are 14 and 15. I've pretty much lived with my grandma since may and on and off my whole life. In October my parents split up and i had a good relationship w/ my mom for a while, but my dad has always been abusive and he got psychotic after my mom left him. A couple of weeks ago my mom decided to go back to my dad after telling me for months there was no way she would. I want nothing to do with my dad and now that my mom is with him I want nothing to do with her. She went to court and had her restraining order dropped, but me and my siblings have bond conditions in place where my dad was arrested for stalking. Tuesday the bond conditions may be dropped in court. Now my moms threatening to make us go home with her and none of us feel safe going with her. Is there anything I could do?

My mom have this habit of pretending to be me (i'm a 23 year old girl) to get to know young men..it started when my dad passed away and it has been going on for years now..she got caught for many times by our family members and got busted for so many times by the men that she lied but she will find another man to lie to..she will use a fake name using my face..she made so many fake accounts on socmed using my pics..it usually will involves money and sexting..we dont have any idea how to control her anymore..we have lost our respect towards her..but we still take her as a mother thats why we still live with her and pretending to not notice her activity..what should we do in this case??

I'm 16, I have lived with my stepsister -16 also- since my mother's husband, her father and my stepfather moved in with us. We have always been like "friends" but we're really horny on each other. So one night I sneaked to her room and we had sex. We enjoyed it and we are still horny on each other so we want to do it again but I don't know how others -exclude our parents- would view this if they found out. It's a little awkward that my sex partner is my stepsister with whom I live in the same house but it's not that serious because we are not blood relatives, right?. What do you think?

Look, my mother's sister is actually planning to set up a business with my mom but some time goes and will start, my mother's sister knows about me being bully in social media. This is a criminal to me and is famous for such a thing is a disgrace that defiles the honor of the family. Actually they know I'm a good person but my mother's sister keeps stopping the business plan with my mother. I saw my mother's condition, she cried to see me without saying anything. I just kept quiet. I know no one wants to get anything like this and I can not do anything either

I'm sure a select few have read my other question but I'll try to make this understandable out of context as well. Long story short I made a promise with my mother on the joining the military after college but I recently saw a video of ISIS members "having there way" if you will with a younger lady on a website known as BestGore (DO NOT go onto website unless you are mentally ****** up. A friend thought'd it'd be funny to recommend it to me and it's nothing good I promise). This pisses me off to no end and the goning into the comments hoping for the same reaction from others only brought to my attention how ****** in the head people can be. I've always wanted to join the military but now I'm furious and wanting to do something to stop it is this a legitimate enough excuse to break a promise and join earlier than what she wanted or am I still a crooked asshole? Please no gov conspiracy or any of that sort just a simple yes or no for the question and an explanation as to why you think yes or no. P.S. I am not trying my hardest with grammar so please don't pick my paragraph clean for mistakes.

I currently stay with my sister and I feel so uncomfortable staying here because her boyfriend is being rude and they cooked and didn't offer me any food I don't want to starve I guess but the good news I got hired at this security job just waiting for them to call me back for orientation I only planned on staying in the shelter until I go back to college in august and u can stay up to 90 days there

My 15 year old daughter stopped by at the grocery store and bought a few items with her money (she uses it to help around with the family sometimes). She was looking through the ice cream section, curious about what new flavors were there. Apparently they released wine flavored ice cream, vodka flavor, beer flavor, etc. They probably don't have enough alcohol in there for her to get drunk and I wouldn't let her eat a whole can of ice cream anyways. Will it effect her body in any way? She probably wants to try out new flavors or is curious about what it tastes like since no child under 19 is allowed to drink alcoholic beverages here in Canada. She still has 4 years to go. She suggested on getting very tiny cups to see what it tastes like - if she doesn't like it, she won't get it next time. Should I let her? There's either actual alcohol in it, or there's some kind of imitation of alcohol. I have tried it, and I think there may be a bit of real alcohol because you feel very warm after eating it.

My daughter is 24 and moved back in with me and my husband after she got kicked out of her apartment. Since she is working full time and has very little student loan debt I told her that I expect 400 bucks every month and to contribute around the house. Examples would be doing dishes, laundry, cleaning and treating us to dinner once in awhile. However, she has lived with us now for 7 months and only paid us rent for the first two months. She does nothing around the house except eat all the food. When she's not working or out with her boyfriend she is home doing nothing but watching TV. Her room is a pigsty even though I always hound her to clean it. My husband and I are both at out wits end and are seriously considering kicking her out, but we are afraid she won't talk to us again. What should we do?

This is pretty much just me venting, so Ima ignore all Trump supporting comments. Anyway, my dad's a huge Trump loving, Fox brainwashed dope. He literally does nothing but watch Fox News, and won't ever believe a negative thing about Trump or Fox. We've fought about this before, but it's never gotten so bad until tonight, with the Russian thing going on. My mom thinks he's in a bad mood cause there's really no way to defend Trump at this point. I guess my biggest issue with my dad's stance is his complete hypocrisy and his uncaring attitude about the human rights Trump and his cohorts continue to try and undermine and effect. His only defensive statements are "the stock market", "but the Dems", "but Hillary", and "but Obama". Sorry, but if that's all you can justify your support on, it makes you seem really childish. Trump's "in charge" now, so he should start acting like it instead of constantly talking about himself and how everyone's "so unfair to him. Not once did Obama ever complain about his popularity. Okay, rant over. Never said I watched MSNBC. Prooved my point, thanks.

My sister is 23 and she got married 4 months ago, and Im 16 , and i have been depressed ever since she got married, its like she doesn t even care about me anymore. We went from talking everyday to barely speaking once a week , I don t hate my sister s husband it just feels like he s taking my sister away , she s my best friend and it feels like day by day were slowly fading away from each other and it feels like my sister doesn t really care. i just want to ignore my sister so she can feel the pain I m feeling.

I would go to Al-Anon or AlaTeen but my mother flips whenever I tell someone we know. I know Al-Anon is anonymous but you don't know if a member is going to blab and my Mom's family is famous. Please help, I feel so anxious by it all and especially my Mom expecting me to fix it. I am only 21. She says I need to fix it because I am the only man in the house when he is drunk (I don't even live at home anymore). My siblings are all sisters. My Dad has always been somewhat of an alcoholic but the last 5 years he has become a binge drinker (severe alcoholic).

In high school, I was living with my dad and my older brother. My mom and my younger brother moved in (my younger brother stays part of the time). So now we all five live together because before my mom was living with her boyfriend (things didn't work out). She currently does not work. She doesn't have enough money to move out on her own (she is a substitute teacher). My mom really wants to find a new boyfriend but she lives with her ex and her adult kids, I'm her 24-year-old daughter, brother is 22. She feels like she has too much baggage to have a relationship because she thinks guys expect older kids to be moved and would never understand her living with her ex husband. She doesnt know how to hide her ex husband living situation. What can she do to get a relationship?

so me and my mother have been having problems for years. were constantly arguing and yelling and we never resolve it. i finally told her i wanted to live with my dad, now i can hear her crying from my bedroom to hers. she thinks its because of what my step dad has been doing to her but its not. she asked me if my step dad moved out, if i would still wanna move out. what do i do? I want to move out. she is the reason behind it. im sick and tired of being manipulated and having my words changed to make me look like a liar.

I'm getting some strange behavior from someone I barely talk to and I think it has to do with me not calling this year on this mother's day. I don't have kids yet so I don't know.

Someone told me this earlier today when I told them that I was worried that they'd want to leave me in the long run, then they said " I'm always going to be here, and you're stuck with me :) ".

She committed parental alienation syndrome where she got me to think my loved ones had rejected me when they had not and it was my mother rejecting them. She told me things I did not need to know and held me back from family. She was otherwise a good mother but a failed mother because of this one thing. I am an adult now and close to the family members my mother abused. However, there is still this guilt that I allowed my mother to alienate me from them and poison my mind for a few years about them. So how do I overcome the shame and guilt I feel about this? It is toxic shame my mother caused. I was being bullied more then most in school at the same time so already had that toxic shame put in me separately. My mother still is bitter towards these people but not nearly as abusive. So I am nice to my Mom but behind the scenes still very-very hurt. She was non responsive and got defensive when I tried to discuss it with her.

My Mom does this and likes it so I want to cut my sister out and insult her forever. But some say I will regret it later. If Mommy does it why can't I? So should I? My sister is the worst person you would know who is not on the news. She is not like Hitler or Trump or one of those evil people who kills others. She is like the really bad people on a TV show Mommy watches called Dr. Phil. She is like the ones he'd yell at. So Mom has 6 family members she never speaks to other then saying hello at a wedding or funeral. So can I do the same with my evil sister? My name is Amy but I have to mark anonymous since I am not out of school yet. Mom says it is a safety thing.

My uncle is getting married in my grandparents house. The house is kind of huge and it's going to be a small wedding. Mom was complaining that he wasn't going to have it at church. She thinks since marriage is God working in two people's lives they should get married in the church. My uncle is super religious too and I asked if that's the way it is supposed to be why didn't he want to get married at church? Mom said, "He's just wrong about the whole wedding." Then she made me promise not to say anything to him or my aunt. Yeah, he's marrying my aunt. He is my Mom's brother and he's marrying my Dad's sister.

I just read someone's post about an alcoholic father so I thought I can share this and PLEASE give non-critical advise as I already blame myself enough. I only feel safe sharing on here because it is anonymous. My Dad was an alcoholic and died from it. I don't want people to judge him which is why I am marking this anonymous. I tell them he had stomach cancer when he actually died of a self inflicted gun shot wound when a family intervention was staged. He did it in front of all of us including me, I was only 14. Now I am an alcoholic and it helps to share anonymously. I tell people I am not an alcoholic since I am not as severe as he was. I am 52 and my mother never spoke of it again, removed my Dad's photos, and got mad whenever I tried to discuss it. I had terrible anxiety and still do and was never allowed to talk to someone as it happened in the summer (early July) and I was told to tell everyone he got cancer at the end of the school year and died quickly. So I did. My mother was the queen of gossip when it came to other people's business but she wouldn't let me talk about my own Dad where I needed to discuss it. I didn't need to discuss how our neighbor Tim was an alcoholic and how his wife had an affair with a colored man (my mother's racist terms). I needed to talk about witnessing my father blow his brains out in front of me and the guilt I felt. My mother never let me. She only talked about the things about others and those weren't my business. To this day I wish I had died 3 months earlier when I was hit by a car on my bike. Had I died my Mom wouldn't have felt compelled to stage the intervention as I was the one complaining about his drinking and mood swings. It was all my fault and I will carry that secret to my grave. Worse part is later, my mother became an alcoholic. My brother cut her out of his life because she wouldn't get help and resented me for continuing to be good to her. She died of liver cancer and I was one of the only ones at her funeral (my brother did come as did his wife and one of his kids). Now, I am a drunk. But there is nothing I can do because rehab will make me discuss the secret. I have little to do with my brother and my sister doesn't want her kids around me. I will die like my mother, with no one at my funeral but immediate family. I am glad I can share, thank you for letting me. I have to post anonymous because it is a secret and my alcoholism I deny.

me and my girlfriend suddenly want kids even though we thought we never would? It's a really strange feeling but we want to try for a baby (maybe more than one?) and start a family. Why is this happening?

my dad came home the other day from the docs about his bloodwork he did a wk before his followup appt, the results were not good. See my dad has always had problems with his weight and eating habits thru out his whole life, probably little after my mom and dad got married, that was when he started putting on the pounds. Now his problems are alot worse than mine becuase 1. He's 54, 2. he's done abuse to his body long enough that is hard for him to lose weight. He was a skinny back in high school and now he's this big dude that he's been most of his life. His doc gave him an ultimatum about him being a pre-diabetic, yes a PREDIABETIC, TYPE 2. The doc said to him that he should be on the 'drug' NOW, but the doc was right, my dad needs to do something about his weight. I think dad is better off losing the weight w/o having the trouble of taking this 'drug' for his pre diabetic issue, instead of getting his medical pulled by his employer. Better than losing a limb, losing your job, or dying b/c you had diabetes. My dad could lose his job if they pull his physical. Plus diabetes runs in my family, that's not good either. His A1C was not good, it was too high, for a normal it should be no more than 6, when he brought home the test results, the A1C was most concerning, but my dad did lose a bunch of weight at one point using HCG but he put back on the lbs! Wow what good did that do him. Plus i do better with keeping my weight down and eating right than he does. I try to be an example for him but he doesn't follow thru, and he just eats whatever he wants. Honestly I don't think he's real that serious about losing weight, but his life could be in danger, he could go into diabetic shock, anything could happen to him. He's on BP medications and the doc told him to lose weight w/in 3 months, but if my dad doesn't lose the weight w/in those 3 months he will have to be put on the 'drug'.

It is an international marriage as she met the guy on-line. He is getting money from her and I fear it is a scam. She is blinded by love for the guy and she has met him twice a year ago. They are getting married July 2nd. I should add that my sister is only 19 but legally no one can stop her now. The guy is in his 40's or early 50's. I learned he had been married three times before but my sister hasn't told me (my aunt found out). The man only told her he'd been married once. He later convinced her the other two marriages didn't count (BS to me).