Family: Question: Should I end contact with my mother?

Question: Should I end contact with my mother?

Posted: 16 May 2017 01:46 PM PDT

I just met my biological mom in December, and have spent the last few months getting to know her. I am in college but we still visited and talked often. Well, something that I have noticed is that we have a lot of things in common and a lot of things not in common. It is the differences that I have been thinking about. She is a horrible influence, always getting drunk and not really having stable relationships. She is loud, bossy, selfish, and she always feels the need to give me advice, even though she barely knows me. She also pressures me into getting involved with someone, even though I've explained that I'm not ready for a relationship of that kind. She herself is only hooking up with guys and not actually in a relationship. My biggest issue comes to this: I was severely sexually abused as a child and I have only shared a little about it with her. It was a huge part of my life and yet she doesn't want to hear it. She only wants to talk about herself. How am I supposed to talk to her? It's to the point where I am considering breaking off contact even though I do want to keep our relationship. In theory it is great to have her, but whenever I do see her, I end up feeling upset. What should I do?

Question: My parents get my sister everything?

Posted: 16 May 2017 01:03 PM PDT

Im so jealous of her! She has three phones. The only reason she has more than 1 is because she claims the other two dont work, but I use it when shes out of the house and they work just fine. She has a computer, and an iPad. I also have an iPad. I asked them if I could have a phone because Im always outside of school, waiting alone... so what if I needed to call them? I couldn't. Also, I can't really bring my iPad anywhere. I feel so limited having an iPad... I mean she is nice and lets me use her computer sometimes but still.. they always say they just dont have money. They have enough money to buy her a computer, an iPad, and 3 phones and cant even get me a working iPad? I had the iPad for 5 years, and the volume doesn't work too well either. I have to click it a few times for it to actually raise/lower the volume. Its not that I don't like her either, we get along super well and she is my best friend! Im just jealous that she seems to get alot... how do I ask my parents to get me a phone? Or atleast a new, working iPad?

Question: I don't know if I should go? Help.?

Posted: 16 May 2017 12:55 PM PDT

I'm about to graduate high school and desire to leave my parent's. I just want to leave so badly and live my own life and not be stuck and tied down by my parent's. I've always been that quite girl in the back- the one who once opened up got real crazy and was just full of energy. People tell me to slow down all the time- and the thing is, I just can't. I love being fast paced, working, and just going places. But my father - he hate's going anywhere. He doesn't like me going out, I can't go out with friends . I can't have any friends, he tells me there's no point in wasting time with them. But yet, he wastes his with his own friends. See my dad's a hypocrite, hot headed, and a waterfall of bullshit that all comes from his mouth. My mom, she's just stopped caring about him all together and just focuses on work or either us. My mom's a busy bee, and my dad's lazy so he gets angry when he see's her doing a mans job; fixing the house (He's a construction worker). And he just get's angrier and they just keep fighting and it's gone over board- she even told me one time, that she knows he want's a divorce. I'm just waiting for things to blow- It won't affect me, but my sibling's. And I can't really do anything- this is their problem, not mine. I just feel like- I could be working, doing more- if only the chains were released. But I don't want to destroy my family- because every things on the edge with my parents. And if I leave- it'll be blamed for pushing

Question: Child support?

Posted: 16 May 2017 12:54 PM PDT

My father left my mother when she told him that she was pregnant, ever since then he left and never came back, he has never once paided child support, if I reconnect with him, can I get him to pay for all the lost time?

Question: I'm a Muslim and my mom is so very religious?

Posted: 16 May 2017 12:31 PM PDT

so i know i shouldn't complain and be a kind daughter but my mom being so religious really bothers me and makes me think how would someone even think that way? but in a way or another i can't disobey her, she's my mother. i just want her to understand that her being religious has nothing to do with me, she can't prohibit me from basic things girls my age do (I'm 17 btw): 1- I can't go to the cinema because obviously music~some scenes aren't appropriate to be watched by a Muslim. 2- no makeup, like literately i be just woken up and my face looks like a drug dealer i can't go out like this. she thinks i be wearing makeup to attract men lmao i can't ever remember when was the last time i talked to my male cousins. 3- no shaking hands with men like???? its just a handshake chill???? it's a form of showing respect??? 4- this bothers me so ******* much. she doesn't allow my sister who's 10 to wear shorts or sleeveless shirts because they show much skin?? like she's a ******* child she's not even 10 you can't do this to her specially at summer. I really can't deal with her she thinks that I don't know god and i don't respect Islam and I'm just like how can she know what i believe in and what i don't when all what we argue about is what Appears and not what's inside of me? i can't go on a day without arguing with her about religion I'm so tired of this

Question: Demon sister driving me crazy and ruining everything?

Posted: 16 May 2017 12:19 PM PDT

So I have a little 7 year old sister. I'm not old enough to move out.. Not only is she annoying, but when mom or dad isn't around she starts clawing me and attacking me til I push her back lightly and she runs off screaming. She is autistic but what is with this demonic attitude? Help me, mom doesn't wanna do anything like get rid of her or put her in a mental institution. Also if you think this is little, try seeing what she's like. And ik she is autistic but I'm depressed (making life worse!!) and I can't do anything about it. She screams and has fits. She is a contrare to very obvious things. Imagine her as a teenager. No we don't abuse her unless Dad has been doing something behind our back. She is a brat... no, not a brat. SHE IS A DEMON. Also when I talk to my mom about it, she doesn't do anything... What do I do?

Question: Is it normal for siblings to tease each other?

Posted: 16 May 2017 11:45 AM PDT

I have a teenage son John and a teenage daughter Lisa. They are good kids and get along good well with each other. They just like to have fun especially with each other. One night at the dinner table Lisa ask me if she could get some balloons like John had. John said "What are you talking about? I don't have any balloons." Lisa said "I saw them in your desk drawer". "They are Trojan brand balloons". OH MY GOD, am I going to have to have the "talk" with Lisa again. But what she said next told me the "talk" was not necessary. She said "John, do you have to special order the balloons to get the size extra extra small". John thought what she ask him was REALLY funny and said, you misread the label. The are extra extra large. Should me daughter be teasing her brother like that even when he thinks it is funny?

Question: My mother likes to tell me secrets about other family members. Is this okay to do? (I am 14)?

Posted: 16 May 2017 11:40 AM PDT

Especially details about my aunt-uncle's marriage and an affair the uncle had. My mother is estranged from her sister and her husband so we seldom see them. She also likes to tell me things like how her cousin had an affair or how niece was expelled from school for bringing in ecstasy.

Question: How can I improve/fix my relationship with my mom?

Posted: 16 May 2017 11:36 AM PDT

I'm 21. My relationship with my mother has always been slightly complex, and it's getting worse. We cannot have normal conversations. If I make a simple statement, my words get twisted to an exaggerated degree. When she's upset with me, she will stop talking to me completely for weeks. To the point of where she'll leave notes around the house or text me if she needs to say something. When we're around friends, if she perceives that someone has given her a dirty look, she'll insist it's because I've been "trash-talking" her to them and now they hate her because of me. We have tried sitting down and talking about how we can improve our communication/relationship, but last time we attempted, she became so angry, she declared so was "no longer my mother" and didn't speak to me for months." I am nowhere near a perfect daughter. I hide things from my parents, I can be spoiled, moody, and won't think before I speak. My parents are kind enough to put me through college, so I know I need to put more effort into fixing this. Any advice is appreciated.

Question: Is my daughter taking advantage of my mother?

Posted: 16 May 2017 11:30 AM PDT

I have 2 children in college and my daughter is in high school. As you can see, money is tight at my house because of college expenses. My daughter Lisa wants to be like all her high school friends and have nice clothes and other nice things. I just do not have the money to buy her all the things she wants. When I tell her I can not afford the things she wants, she will call my mom and ask her to go shopping with. When she finds something she wants, she will tell my mom and my mom will buy it for her. With what mom is buying her, she is living WAY above our means. She thinks she has the greatest grandma in the world. Please give me some advice on how I should feel about this. Mom can easily afford to buy her these things but should she? Is Lisa taking advantage of my mom? Mom did not buy me these nice things when I was Lisa's age. Parents and others, please give me your thoughts on this.

Question: Why are we poor?

Posted: 16 May 2017 11:27 AM PDT

I grew up in a family of 5 brothers all high school drop outs and my parents also have no education. My mother made us split a sandwich because she said we don't have enough money for food but how come the fridge is filled up with beer? She also tells me we are poor because no one gives me father a chance? Than why doesn't he stop disrespecting people and get along with others? They also cry a lot about how life is hard? Why don't my parents stop having sex if they know they can't afford it. My families personalities are so strange they always talk over other people never value an opinion of another person they think they know it all. Why are we poor? Because from what I have seen it is not impossible to change your life around.

Question: Should I be upset?

Posted: 16 May 2017 11:19 AM PDT

I noticed some days my friend texts me "Proud of you" Then some days she puts "so very proud of you!!!!!" I just noticed, is it bad? Or should I be upset about it? he's a very short worded person but still

Question: Is this bad?

Posted: 16 May 2017 11:12 AM PDT

I noticed some days my mom texts me "Proud of you" Then some days she puts "so very proud of you!!!!!" I just noticed, is it bad?

Question: What is the middle ground between calling my MIL a whore to her face vs. pretending I like her?

Posted: 16 May 2017 10:56 AM PDT

Apparently I'm weird because I only see those two extremes. So, what are the alternatives? I'm not going to call her a whore behind her back, if that's what you're suggesting, unless it's anonymously on an internet forum. I do have ethical standards. And by "pretending I like her" I mean more like pretending I don't *dislike* her.

Question: Poll: should I tell my MIL she's whore?

Posted: 16 May 2017 10:54 AM PDT

Whatever the final count is that's what I'm doing.

Question: Has any good ever come out of calling your MIL a whore to her face?

Posted: 16 May 2017 10:48 AM PDT

The anons think I'm a coward for not owning my convictions. I think pretending I like her is the best plan. What do u guys think?

Question: My step sister and my little brother flirt with each other... He told me that they have made out before?

Posted: 16 May 2017 10:29 AM PDT

I'm 16 and my little brother is 14. We moved into a new house with 2 other kids(one is a girl, 14. Other one is a 7yr old) So... My step sister(14yr old girl) flirts with my 14 year old brother, he flirts back. He spends hours in my step sister's room(with doors locked) when our parents aren't home. She also wears revealing clothes around him. He always glances at t her chest or butt. My brother is not very secretive. He told me that they had made out a couple of times, but didn't tell me anything else. What should I do ? Let them or tell my parents ? He will hate me for the rest of his life, if I tell. So... I guess, I have to let them do whatever they're doing :/ I once found an empty pack of condoms in the trash, but I don't know if it's his. They act normal around our parents. They flirt only when they're not home. Step sister is also a little slutty herself...

Question: My dad doesn't care that he makes me late to school?

Posted: 16 May 2017 10:21 AM PDT

I'm in college and I don't think he cares that he makes me late to school all the time. I rely on him to drive me and he's late on picking me up. He'll say he will pick me up at a certain time and he'll change the time or show up late because he thinks he has more time to get me to school which he doesn't. And when I'm late, he doesn't think its a big deal because I'm not that late. But on the syllabus even if I'm one minute late it doesn't matter. I try explaining this to him everyday but he doesn't listen. I work hard on all my assignments and I don't want to fail because of my father. What can I do? He He thinks I'm overacting but its not primary school where I can be late and get away with it or blame it on my parents. Everything that happens, its on me. He always tells me to calm down which makes me so angry with him.

Question: I am so-so scared that my Mom is not going to let me see my Dad anymore since they are divorcing. What do I do?

Posted: 16 May 2017 09:58 AM PDT

She says if he leaves her then he leaves us and he has left her. We haven't seen him since January.

Question: MY aunt and her daughter have hatred for each other. Do I have to take sides?

Posted: 16 May 2017 09:56 AM PDT

The aunt is a narcissist and the daughter is a liar though the daughter has made improvements.

Question: Why do parents divorce when they know it will cause lifelong trauma to the children?

Posted: 16 May 2017 09:52 AM PDT

My parents abused me this way

Question: I have no respect for my MIL, how can I best fake it to keep the peace? I don't want her to know I don't respect her?

Posted: 16 May 2017 09:38 AM PDT

She's a total pushover, codependent, is conducting multiple affairs with married men, she's unemployed, passive-aggressive, and a kleptomaniac/serial shoplifter (even steals from her own blood family). She acts super-innocent tho which fools most people (including me in the past). I used to just feel bad for her but I'm starting to lose my patience with her and I'll be honest it's mostly because she's finally started stealing from me, too. (I guess it means I'm accepted into the family now right). Aside from being more watchful of my belongings (prevention) what can I do to deal with this? My husband is very close to her and worships her despite her flaws. He sees her almost every day. She is a pleasant person to hang out with, I actually used to enjoy her company. *Pleasant as long as she's not stealing, etc. ... Anon r u saying it's cowardly not to say what you feel and own what u say. That contextually confuses me, Anon. I would love to let her know what I think of her but will calling her a whore really help the situation? Honestly?

Question: My dad has brown eyes my mom has blue eyes why do I have green eyes? My siblings both have blue.both sides of the family have brown and blue?

Posted: 16 May 2017 09:38 AM PDT

Question: Sister's White millennial BF taking advantage of my nice hard working immigrant parents! Now asking my father to be put on his car insurance?

Posted: 16 May 2017 09:37 AM PDT

My younger sister (22) started dating a white guy (32), he looks younger and bummy, is a college drop out (w a go fund me to pay off college debt). He has been inserting himself into my family. My sis has been encouraging this. Recently he moved to a house share be closer to her. He works as a waiter despite studying advanced Spanish and formerly pursuing a degree in education. My parents give him guidance constantly. My sister doesn't have her license yet, so he drives her car around. So much so, he today asked my dad to put him on his insurance! I'm the older sister and my parents are in their 50s, they share their home with us. We all work and help out. My parents immigrated from latin america over 30 yrs ago. Even with my sister and I's help we sometimes struggle to pay the bills. So this is no drop in the bucket. My dad drives for uber, his work DEPENDS on his insurance being spotless. And he can't afford for his rates to go up. This guy had the nerve to call him pop before asking for a free pass. He refused to pay the insurance my dad asked him to pay for being a liability $140. To be further disrespectful, guy had a e cig in his mouth, and put money and change! in front of my dad on the table before leaving to drive with my sister. This same guy has the audacity to have sex in our home we all share, so I had to eventually talk to my SISTER about how inappropriate that was....my parents were home! I worried this guy is some kind of grifter, what can I do? I ran out of space... He lives near us by a few minutes walk, however he rarely has my sister over, she never even talks about where he lives other than telling my mom his meals are covered there, does his laundry at our house sometimes, was on the phone with EBT at our house once, and said his waiter job was perfect since he can surf during the day....

Question: If your son is retarded, do you HAVE to love him and call him son, or can you just leave him at the nearest firestation?

Posted: 16 May 2017 09:33 AM PDT

Question: My mother likes to gossip and my Dad joined her this week. Should I consider them bad people for doing this?

Posted: 16 May 2017 09:27 AM PDT

What I am doing is NOT gossip because I am posting anonymous so you all don't know who I am.

Question: How do I get my Mom and aunt to unite and become friends again (they are enemies since 2002)?

Posted: 16 May 2017 09:26 AM PDT

Question: Help! My daughter has refused the one and only Christ!?

Posted: 16 May 2017 09:07 AM PDT

We've been working hard and raised our well, but despite that she has been unreasonable and came home one day, refusing to pray during meals. She only became more disrespectful, and she refused her first communion! We tried everything to make her see the error of her ways. When the trouble started we took away her computer, the TV, and we stopped her sneaky little friends from seeing her and putting this sick ideas in her head! Then, she was upset that we didn't get her anything for Christmas? Why are teenagers so manipulative! First they reject the idea of our Savior's holiday but they want all the goods! She's so ungrateful! Me and my wife are at our wits end! What do we do with her to bring her back?

Question: Since my Dad is an alcoholic would I be able to go to Al-Anon without telling my Mom as she does not want me to go (I am 17)?

Posted: 16 May 2017 08:48 AM PDT

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Question: Is it wrong for my dad and his girlfriend to be super controlling even though I'm 18?

Posted: 16 May 2017 08:46 AM PDT

I'm going to be in school in the fall full time, I have a part time job, and will take care of whatever expenses I have (Ex: Phone bill, rent, etc) and they are controlling with me. I can't even visit with my cousin who is being deployed out of the country for the navy and I'd just be with him and my uncle. I feel small with no voice in the household to be honest and I try very hard to be understanding that it is their house, but at the same time I feel like I should be able to spread my wings a little bit. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

Question: My mom gets mad over little things?

Posted: 16 May 2017 08:32 AM PDT

A few days ago we had this big argument because I left a water bottle on the floor. She started screaming and stuff because she says water bottles aren't for the floor. I'm going to be honest I didn't stay shut and started to argue that they are portable and blah blah. Now today I had a bible on my desktop/desk. I'm currently in college and I was going to live in campus (get a loan), but she said that would be a bad idea and so I could stay with her and my father at home and just drive to campus. I thought about it and sure why not. I'll be saving money and living home. Anyways I had my bible on the desktop and my brother left my laptop uncovered on the desktop. She went up to me and started shouting at my ear as to why it's there! I told her that's where I read books and everyone else does too. She got mad and said not in my house! And I told her what about the laptop? It's uncovered/not protected. She said I don't care about that. I don't care how much it cost either. I told you to move the ******* book!!! I'm employed but not winning enough to move out and summer is here. What do I do? :( I want to leave home...

Question: I have trouble expressing my thoughts and feeling to my parents!?

Posted: 16 May 2017 08:28 AM PDT

They probably think I'm not grateful for anything that they do for me, but honestly just thinking about all the things they have done make me tear up. I'm beyond grateful and blessed that have the most amazing selfless parents ever. I'm so trapped in my thoughts she find it difficult to express my love, gratitude, and personality to them. Yes I know this sounds weird but I don't know what to do

Question: When my step-Dad gets drunk (he is an alcoholic) I want to go to my Dad's but my Dad doesn't want to see me. How do I get someone to want me?

Posted: 16 May 2017 07:58 AM PDT

My Dad doesn't want me because his new wife says I am too many people (she doesn't want one extra even to visit). My mother leaves to stay at her parents but says I can't come because her father (who has Alzheimers) doesn't like me being there. So I am stuck with my step-father who is drunk and gets mad if I say anything so I am alone in my room all day when not at school. I have no one who wants me or loves me and I feel all alone. I can't talk to anyone at school about it because my Mom says I cannot say my step-father is an alcoholic. As a result I am all alone there also. I am 15 and have no one.

Question: Do I have the right to be annoyed?

Posted: 16 May 2017 07:40 AM PDT

My mom is fat and lazy and plays on her phone 24/7 (literally). I work during the day but the days I don't I go shopping with my sister or friends. At night I like having the tv to myself and my mom doesn't go to sleep right away and comes downstairs and watches tv until really late. It annoys me because I want the tv to myself at night but she stays up late when she does the same thing over and over again every day. She's constantly on her phone and watching tv 24/7

Question: Did I ruin my mom s life?

Posted: 16 May 2017 07:37 AM PDT

I know that I m not the only reason why her life is bad. Her family was abusive, She was abused in the military, and then she met my abusive dad in the military, as well. My mom was pregnant with two other kids because of my dad, and she never liked him the whole time they knew each other. She finally worked up the courage and strength to leave my dad with my brother. She was going to go to college at Berkeley and pursue her dream has an architect. But then, she was pregnant with me...and her life has sorta been downhill from there. Now, I know that I didn t exactly ruin her life, because I didn t really have a choice to be born, but I KNOW that her life would have been SO much better if I wasn t born. No one can really change my mind on that, but I am looking for ways to try to feel better about this. I just feel so bad about this. Please help!

Question: To constantly be worried I will mess up and not be allowed to see grandkids or I will get them in huge trouble with their mom all the time?

Posted: 16 May 2017 06:55 AM PDT

my daughter has a million rules I have to follow and the kids have to follow and she texted me at thirty times this morning with new things I have to remember for four kids and I forgot the little kids folder. and I forgot to put sock on the other kid. The school didn't notice and he is probably going to be grounded now because she goes crazy and so does her husband over every little thing. My daughter has a problem with me being gay and liberal and didn't let me the kids for a long time. Because she doesn't agree with it sorry for the poor posting quality , my school attendance was kind of touch and go. I am just really worried that I messed up. I try so hard to help out ,but never seem to measure up. My son in law will feel bad and say something to her. But I don't want him to be put in the middle. Because then she gets mad at her. I can't type today . I am so upset and sick of being put on a rollercoaster.

Question: Is it normal for a teenager to act like a child.?

Posted: 16 May 2017 06:44 AM PDT

He plays with toys, he burps and farts loudly when we are at home, he makes fun of people why is he doing this BTW he is 16

Question: My parents don't buy me anything?

Posted: 16 May 2017 05:48 AM PDT

I don't want to sound spoiled at all, but my parents never get me anything. The only money I get per week is like $10 for food money (I live overseas) and that can barely cover food costs- I have to eat nutrient poor things such as noodles from small restaurants to get by every day. I don't have many clothes, and the clothes that I do have are mostly 3-4 years old, many clothes being too tight so I have to keep wearing a couple t shirts or a couple pairs of jeans over and over. We are not poor at all, but they always yell at me if I go to buy clothes like "STOP WASTING MONEY!" when they go and buy clothes and other things for themselves and all. I'm currently at home preparing for a course and I got yelled at today by my dad who said "WHY SHOULD I GIVE MY DAUGHTER WHO STAYS AT HOME EVERY DAY AND DOES **** ANY MONEY AT ALL". So yeah. I have a cheap phone like $200 and I've had it for the last 3 years and it's hardly working. I'm typing on a 7 year old laptop. It's so embarrassing wearing the same clothes for up to 4 or 5 days in a row but my parents don't get it. They're also EXTREMELY controlling in the clothes I wear (no shorts above the knee, leggings, skinny jeans, ripped skinny jeans, boots, tank tops, crop tops, tops that show your shoulders/arms, and many things look "stupid" to them such as a top that has a logo or a word on it. I just had a huge fight with them over this and I ended up being beaten up pretty badly (strangled too). I need advice.. PLEASE HELP ME! I CANT GET A JOB AS I LIVE OVERSEAS AND CANT SPEAK THE LANGUAGE PLUS YOU NEED TO BE 18 HERE TO GET A JOB SO STOP ATTACKING ME, DUMB F*CKS

Question: Tengo una Husky, donde puedo poner su casita y de qué material, es necesario cepillarla? Cada cuando? Y marcas del cepillo. Muchas gracias?

Posted: 16 May 2017 05:41 AM PDT

Está muy triste por que vive a fuera y casi no la sacamos. Sólo para que coma y darle agua y eso yo a veces la saco a pasear pero creo que no la llena además ella vive sola a fuera no tiene compañía, recomendaciones:(

Question: How do I react if my uncle does not know my aunt asked me over to a party Saturday and he savagely beats me thinking I am uninvited?

Posted: 16 May 2017 05:36 AM PDT

This happened once 11 years ago. It is my mom's family and she died and my aunt tries to keep in touch with me but her brother I don't see much of and this used to be how they handle an uninvited guest. Not sure if this is still the tradition or not but I've been invited by my aunt so I plan to come (it is her house but uncle is her guard).

Question: My brother wants to be entertained when visiting with his wife and two kids. How do you handle guests like this?

Posted: 16 May 2017 05:31 AM PDT

My mother doesn't like his wife and two kids because she has to entertain them instead of them taking care of themselves. Sort of like having kids over. By entertained I don't mean feed them dinner which naturally you would do for a guest but entertained like babysat and kept entertained 24 hours for two weeks. He and his wife are like really came. My mother cannot stand it and hates Christmas because they come. So I'm asking this for my mom's sake and not for mine as I can go home at night. My brother was like this a little when single but he's become especially bad since getting married nine years ago.

Question: My soul has been ripped from me by my mother she has ruined my life and destroyed me. How do I get my life back?

Posted: 16 May 2017 05:27 AM PDT

She destroys me in order to destroy others.

Question: How can I make his family like me?

Posted: 16 May 2017 04:48 AM PDT

I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. Literally nobody in his large family (mom&dad separated and have since remarried) likes me - in fact, when I was going through a depression, he took it upon himself to tell everybody about it, and they all convinced him to break up with me (although we got back together a week later), and to think about marrying into that kind of environment, or having children in that kind of environment makes me shudder. I am always kind and respectful around his family, but I'm not much of a talker. I think that's the problem. I'm the type of person who needs someone else to initiate the conversation (due to social anxiety - and I've tried explaining this to them) Earlier in the month, we almost broke up (again, with the urging of his family) and he changed his mind a day before I was to move out - he called his mother to tell her the change in plans, and she was FUMING. I could hear her screaming at him, and she basically disowned him (although has since apologized) What should I do?

Question: What should I tell my boyfriend's parents about moving in together?

Posted: 16 May 2017 02:38 AM PDT

My boyfriend and I are both 23 and have been together for 5 years. We live in Hawaii, but he is going to optometry school in California during the fall. His parents refuse to let us live together. I began writing a letter for them about how much I love him, cited research papers about depression rates in graduate school, said I will be there for support, to cook and clean for him so he has less stress and worries in his life. They won't allow him to have a car either, so I can ship mine to us. I can help pay rent too since there are a few job openings nearby. I'm currently trying to get into veterinary school as well, so animal experience will be broader on the mainland. Utimately, both of us would be benefiting in the end. What else should I include to help our case and convince his parents? We are adults for goodness sake!!

Question: Bestfriend in Basic Training, should I mail him a letter saying that I like him?

Posted: 15 May 2017 11:58 PM PDT

My best guy friend is in Basic Military attaining, were very close, he would always take me out places and to his family get togethers. I really like him and I'm sure it's vise versa. Would it but dumb if I sent him a letter telling him I like him? I don't expect much out of it, I know he will be stationed everywhere and we might distant at the worst. But what do you think?

Question: Should it be illegal to allow children dressing provocatively?

Posted: 15 May 2017 11:24 PM PDT

I know many children who say they are "confident" with their bodies and that's why they're showing it off, but there's lots of controversy to this topic. I've seen a few little girls as young as 5 years old belly dancing and twerking on social media. Kids already grow up a lot faster than before because of technology. People should not sexuality any child based on clothes, but sadly there's some sick pedophiles out there with disgusting, immoral intentions. This popular app called Musical.ly is considered a "jackpot" for sexual predators because there's tons of young girls dancing provocatively. Sometimes with just a bra on, and other times they wear clothes that are super revealing for their ages. That sounds like something a pedophile might want to watch, especially if other kids write sexual comments on these childrens' videos. Lots of parents either allow their kids to expose themselves this way or they don't even know. Should there be a rule that bans kids (I mean kids as young as toddlers to preteens) from dressing like they're in their twenty-somethings and going to a nightclub? And should these music videos that the kids are making be considered as child porn? (it's usually belly dancing in a training bra or shaking their butts in front of the camera). Also, most of the songs that these girls choose have swear words and sexual meanings in them and they dance to the music provocatively

Question: How to stop my mother from lowering my self esteem eveb more?

Posted: 15 May 2017 10:35 PM PDT

I am 14 years old, and me and my mother never have nor will get along. I am used to comments about how im a fat **** or whatever, but today she told me my "nasty titties are saggy and sored" (i have scars on them). My mom also makes comments about how guys who like me must like stink pussy, and it all makes me cringe. Not even kids say things as vile as that, and hearing my mother say those things, let alone about me, is awful. I'm not sure what to do about it. She even bought me a bunch of clothes, one being a shirt that you knot at the bottom to make it a crop top, and i was going to go to a concert, and she wouldnt let me wear it knotted as high up as i had it. She also wont buy me shorts. I know i have a belly, but honestly the only probably I have is that i curve at my belly, which is good, but it goes out and then back it, because my thighs are smaller. But she says if she wouldnt show it then i cant. And no, it isnt about sex appeal, because she lets me show a bunch of cleavage. She thinks about my body how i think of it, everybody thinks im pretty but i think im ugly, and shes not helping

Question: Am I horrible for not taking my mom in?

Posted: 15 May 2017 10:25 PM PDT

My mom is 42 years old and had brain surgery. Her drug addiction caused this. She is doing very well in the hospital, but she will have nowhere to go after being discharged. She can't stay with me because my landlord will do a background check. I just don't trust her. She lied when she said she wasn't using. My aunt called me and told me that it is my responsibility to take everything on. My mom has some serious issues and I can't fix her. My aunt will no longer talk to me. She told me that if she ends up homeless or dead, it would be my fault. I love my mom, but she has never acted like one. My siblings agree with me, but I feel horrible. She has never been very responsible and she can't keep a job. I thought it was time to do something for myself for once. I work full-time and I am enrolled in college. I just can't handle this! The pressure from my mom's family is really taking a toll on me.

Question: What can we do to discourage interracial dating?

Posted: 15 May 2017 09:57 PM PDT

Interracial dating is a bad and selfish thing to do since you're supposed to ensure the continuation of your race and deep down your parents will be sad since their kids will look nothing like them. How can

Question: Why does my mom keep telling me to stand up straight?

Posted: 15 May 2017 09:53 PM PDT

My mom hates it when I bend myself down. I can't really help it and my mom says that I'm like that on a daily basis. She thinks that it makes me look tired and old at 15 years old. Also that it may effect my jobs when I grow up (if I ever want to join the military or become a fashion model, etc) because they require people to be able to stand up straight. My parents were worried that my bed is the cause of my habit so they bought a harder bed instead (apparently that one was "too soft"). I mean, I won't look like a shrimp for the rest of my life just cause I have that habit now?

Question: Is this too much work for an 11yr old?

Posted: 15 May 2017 09:23 PM PDT

An 11yr old I know has to take care of 8 autistic younger siblings (they're spoiled and VERY messy, hard to take care of) and make her mom's breakfast. She isn't allowed to go to school (her parents say they "homeschool" her) and she can't go to bed until 11:00. She says she's tired and thinking about running away from home. Please answer soon, I saw her packing survival stuff in her backpack and I would kinda like to deal with this BEFORE she leaves.

Question: My family has fallen on hard times, and everyday they fight about something and I feel like we're being torn apart, I don't know what to do?

Posted: 15 May 2017 09:10 PM PDT

Question: Is it wrong that I'm very mad at my dad for not getting me a birthday present? (Nothing big all I need is a card)?

Posted: 15 May 2017 09:00 PM PDT

My dad and mom have been divorced since I was 7, I live full time with my mom but see my dad every other week for diner. It was my 16th birthday and I saw him the week before and he told me happy birthday and stuff then a week after my birthday expecting a present or even a card for my 16th birthday from him he didn t have anything for me. I m not trying to be like a stuck up American teenage girl I don t need anything big I just want something showing he cares and recognizes it was (now a month ago) my birthday. Now my mom said she s fed up and texting him saying he needs to get me something which makes me feel worse because that means he didn t care enough to get me anything even a card, my mom has to guilt trip him into it (which she also has to do for my brother and I to go to dinner with him)

Question: What can I do to help my mom?!?

Posted: 15 May 2017 08:40 PM PDT

My mother has been saying that she's tired of dealing with us (her kids) and that she just can't take it. She says she wants to die. She says she's been a failure since day one, my mother's actual mom gave her up for adoption, and her adopted mother loved her but her mother then died when my mother was 14. She then stayed with her "brother" and his wife and was treated less all the time. Even at school they were never there for her. Now she's 36 and she's not working because she couldn't handle the stress at her work. My sister has been really rebellious, she just never learns from any of her mistakes and her behavior is driving my mom crazy. My brother has been picking up an adittude when he doesn't get what he wants or when he's out to do something. And me I havnt been the best son either. It's my vacation from school but I've been waking up late, and I do chores but not enough to have it clean 24/7. I'm really worried for my mom, but Ik asking for a Psychiatrist or for help is only going to piss off my mom because she doesn't like getting help. I just hope this is just a phase, sometimes my mom just forgets or ignores these kind of things.

Question: Do people who get married out of college or in college still get money from their parents?

Posted: 15 May 2017 08:37 PM PDT

Meaning what is generally expected? Are they financially independent from their parents or are their parents still paying for lots even though they are married?

Question: Grounded at 26?

Posted: 15 May 2017 08:30 PM PDT

im 26 i live in a trailer at my friends house with his mom and dad. they left to go camping and left me and their kids here by our selfs they told their kids not to have anyone over they didnt tell me so they grounded me can they do that.

Question: Where to meet unconventional young adults?

Posted: 15 May 2017 08:26 PM PDT

By unconventional, I mean not partying, smoking, drinking, etc. Let's face it- anyone 16 through 26 are usually into smoking and going to clubs. That's not me- I'm nineteen and would rather just go for a drive and explore or maybe go to the movies. Honestly, I'm not religious either so I don't mesh well with the super-devoted. Where or how can I meet some like-minded people my age? It's proving to be super difficult. Some of my interests include: - video games - fishing - concerts - hiking - urban exploration - animals - reading Idk, I'm just at a loss here.

Question: How come you have a twin brother from another mum and dad. ....?

Posted: 15 May 2017 08:01 PM PDT

Question: Is my sister being a brat?

Posted: 15 May 2017 08:00 PM PDT

My younger sister just tuned 23 and my parents are upgrading her car, she says she wants a 2017 GT Mustang but my parents want to get her a regular v6 that's is good on gas. She said if she's not getting the GT then that she doesn't want anything at all. What do I say without sounding nosy, or should I just stay out of it and let my parents deal with it? Thanks!

Question: My parents threaten to hit me, and forcefully grab me trying to hit me.?

Posted: 15 May 2017 07:29 PM PDT

The most recent time they tried to hit me was a few minutes ago. I was doing my math homework, and then my mom walks up to me and said that two of the numbers are too far apart. But, they were less than a centimeter away from each other. I told her it was fine, but she said that my teacher would not appreciate it. I told her again its fine, then she called my dad over. She told my dad to hit me, and he agreed, and he grabbed the closest thing, a pizza server, and was about to hit me. I told him to "STOP!" and so he did, and I continued with my homework. But, he watched me like a HAWK and held the Pizza Server in his hand as if he was going to hit it with me soon. Then, my mom started being annoying. She said to finish my homework faster, quicker and I "better not get any wrong because you are taking so dang long!" and I told her to please stop. Then she flipped out. She told my dad to hit me, and then my dad started grabbing me, and tried to legit DRAG ME TO THE GROUND. Luckily, I got away and ran to my room. This isn't the first time this happened. The very first time this happened was when I was 3. I was at my school friend's birthday party, and the ice cream truck drove by and I tried to run over to it with the other kids, but my dad grabbed me by the arm and told he'd hit me in front of everyone if I try to get ice cream with them. I WAS THREE. Any help? (I don't have a school counselor.)