I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to cut costs on a wedding. Our budget is 10k. The honey moon is about 1800. Venue, which includes catering, alcohol, security and bar services, take down and set up, tables and chairs, and dinner is 4870 for 8 hours. The wedding dress I already bought for 372. We're getting our flowers at Costco for about 200. And we're using pallets from work. I work in a bakery so the cake won't be an issue. So that leaves about 3100 for everything else. Any suggestions on where to find an affordable photographer and dj too would be fantastic! There will be about 40 people attending. Pallets are for deco. We're also using balls of moss for wall deco as well. So total deco with candles and so forth will be around 200

I've never heard of a cash bar before? I'm not saying I'm planning on doing so. Just curious.

We have been together for almost five years and we got engaged this past NYE. His mother is mentally ill and has major PTSD from her time during the war. She hasn't liked me since high school when I broke up with my s/o for three months during my parents divorce. We agreed she will not be in our lives or our children's lives following his graduation. He is receiving money from a prepaid VA529 and her GI bill. She, before we even talked about marriage, threatened to pull this funding if she found out we were engaged. While it seems like a simple answer she abused him as a child and continues to emotionally abuse him. She is controlling and will not allow me to step foot in his childhood home. She refuses to be in the same room with me and threatens to pull her money away whenever he doesn't follow her demands to a t. I told him I would help with his debt if he wanted to be independent prior to graduation but he thinks it is necessary because he will use what money he saves from no debt to put a downpayment on a home for us. I get why this makes financial sense but I'm having a hard time with this. We have told everyone besides her, my future father-in-law even knows!

Why are you so afraid to answer this question?