Do you prefer oral or intercourse? If you could choose between two guys, and one guy could go down on you and give you oral and manual stimulation for as long as it takes and the other guy just gave you intercourse but also had stamina, which would you choose? I'm just curious.

I know you have to pay to get the marriage license, but I was told you could get a discount by taking a premarital class. If so, do the classes cost? Either way I ll be taking the class to better assist our marriage. Also, I want to know if the certificate will be signed in front of a judge and will cost? Or is it just the license that costs??? I ve done so much research but cannot seem to find these answers

ok last night my boyfriend claimed that some fake profile on Facebook found his Skype information and started calling him non stop and begging him to show her his d!ck 30 times and he didnt know how to block the b!sh so he played with his d!ck on camera for her for 30 seconds to shut her up then she started threatening to hack his bank account and send his recorded video to all his family members on Facebook then he deleted his Facebook and he claims he felt really bad so thats why he told me he said I'm his first love and that he's only in love with me and he's sorry he'll never show his d!ck to another girl I'm trying to forget about it but i find it so stupid and disgusting he basically virtually cheated on me and we've been dating for almost a year WTF SHOULD I DO? he says its no different than watching porn which i don't think it is since it was A LIVE GIRL HE CLAIMS HE WANTS TO MARRY ME BE WITH ME FOREVER AND WANTS TO HAVE HIS KIDS SHOULD I JUST FORGET ABOUT THIS OR NAH???

I been separated for 3 years now, I began another relationship with another man a year ago. I had my children , he had his children and I ended up pregnant again, things din't work out and just a couple of weeks after I gave birth to my new born he sent me the custody papers of 50/50 to avoid child support( which I do not care by the way) we got into a fight over this and he ended up sending me to jail with a no victim contact on a domestic violence charge(which he hit me too) either way, he ended up throwing my childrens and my clothing to the street and keeping my new born. when i got out of jail I went and picked her up from him. My husband of 12 years is now giving us a chance and supporting me thru this. This other guy signed the birth certificate while i was on heavy drugs at the hospital. He works from 4 am to 6 pm and i work from home, I've offered him to visit as many times as he wants and I've offered him to keep his child support just to let me take care of my new born because im still breast feeding and she is very small still, i don't want her on a day care for the whole day just because he wants out of child support. Me and my husband are working things out again and i wonder who is the legal father, im in florida, can this other guy just request custody by court over my husband?

My husband and I have separated, and we will be divorcing eventually. He's military, and for reasons relating to that, as well as the cost an time involved with divorcing, we are just legally separating at this point. The marriage was brutal on me, as he was abusive, first physically, then emotionally/verbally for years. Eventually I learned he was cheating on me, too. Now that we live apart, and I'm putting my life back together, I'd rather use my maiden name than my married one. I know when I got married (in Connecticut) I just had to go to Social Security with my birth certificate and marriage license. I actually need to go get a new Social Security card because I lost mine (obviously it'll have my married name on it.) Currently I live in California. I know I could just start going publicly by my maiden last name, but it's aggravating. I also don't know what would happen in terms of my military ID. I know wives who never changed their names, so they have maiden names on their ID's, but it would be weird working it back in reverse. If there isn't a way to change it I'll just deal until we go through the divorce process, but as I'm starting over I'm finding that it bothers me more and more to have his last name. (Please no judgmental, "she's just staying married to him for the benefits," comments. Divorce in general is complicated. He's a narcissistic sex addict who truly thinks I'll come back eventually, but I'm not. Right now legal separation makes sense.)

I as married for 10 years, before I filed for a divorce. Shortly before the divorce was final, my ex-husband quit his high paying job, so that he wouldn't have to pay child support. After the divorce he moved out state. He hasn't seen or communicated with my kids in almost 4 years. In my state that constitutes abandonment. My former in-laws are deceased, so they can't give me any information. I'm seriously thinking about having my ex-husband's parental rights terminated. How long does my ex have to be absent before I can terminate his parental rights?

I want to get married now. Not In a rush. But we have literally no family to support us. I say eff them all. So we are going to get married somewhere else without anyone there ..Where should we go?? By the way , i am 21 and he's 24

Before the wedding (2014), I had drunken sex with his male cousin, but I told him about it. Days ago, he found blonde hair in one of my underwears (I am a brunette). His best friend is a blonde. My husband thinks there is something going on between his friend and me. I'm not sure how it got there :P Maybe his friend is a weirdo who likes to try on women's underwear when they are gone, I don't know.

Not only her but her 2 daughters too. Man just thinking about those 2 angels is giving me chills. Every moring I wake up they are In my mind. I tried everything. Rubber band effects , joined booot camp got a nice body but still she is on my mind every min . I know she won't come back to be coz once she makes a decision she never changes. I even tried no contact rule and didn't talk to her for 40 days but still she is always on my mind. I swear I feel life my life have became a joke and I can't do anything about it. I started hating everyone which I know is not good. Each and every. Person I know loved me. But since the breakup I have changed a lot I try to avoid everyone and just think about her. Which Is drving me crazy. YesI. Will be honest I be holding it in not sharing my feeliing with anyone. I also made a dating site but I get tired talking to same person after couple days. And I start ignoring them thinking one day I will just be back with my ex ( which I know is impossible). I need help. I know she doesnt love me anymore and don't even wanna talk to me. She is on dating sites . My sister is getting married this month and I should be really happy about it. But instead I m just being mean to my sis and my dad as well. I dont know y and I know it's my fault. I have turned into a mean selfish person. I m really hating it.I can't live without my ex and her kids ( from her husband yes she was divorced her husband cheated on her and married someone else.

Ok, so my old coworker who is 34 and married and I, a 22 year old single woman, have been chit chatting the last few days. Nothing serious, just mainly talk on the phone for a few minutes out of the day. Saturday, we went out to eat. It was suppose to be as friends. But we talked for an hour before we ever ordered and then we ate off each others plate and he paid for my dinner. After I asked him not to. We never ran out of things to talk about and the only reason we left each other was because his wife called. So, here's the deal with his wife, she was 6 months pregnant when they got married..so I wonder if he married her, only because she got pregnant. But since Saturday, we've talked on the phone ever other day, if not every day, only if for a few minutes. I just needed a friend, as I lost my job Friday. And he was one of the only ones who knew. But I am starting to really like him, and I feel so guilty, because he's married. Why does a 34 year old man want to talk to me?!

My ex just got a raise. I want more of that money for my kids. The ex says that I'm being greedy. I don't think that I'm greedy. I'm only receiving $1800 a month for child support for 4 kids. That's not nearly enough money in my opinion. Some say that I should be happy with what I get. But I say my kids aren't getting enough. Am I wrong?

I don't know what to do I'm 15 years old and I was at a Mexican restaurant with my mom and an old man was escorting his wife out to there car from what I could tell she had lots of trouble seeing so he was helping her out into her car and my mom said she hoped I treated her that well when she was that old the man and his wife didn't here this I replied to her as a joke saying "no I will be waiting it the car yelling at you hurry up you old hag" the man and his wife both heard..... He walked over to the drivers side of the car and opened the door then said to me "that was cheep" realizing he heard I started to stand up to try and explane myself but e got it and drove away I don't know what I can do at this point but I feel awful...I'm posting this for any advice or maybe the slightest chance he sees this I'm sorry

My husband and I are at the beginning of a divorce. He refuses to file himself and I don't have the money to file right now. We filed taxes jointly so when I went to file chapter 9 bankruptcy my case was dismissed because of his income. If I now file chapter 11 bankruptcy will he be responsible? Can a judge say I am back to being reponsible for it during divorce proceedings? Should I go forward with this quickly? What are the chances I'll get alimony since I am destitute and how can I increase my chances of getting alimony? I don't need a bunch of judgemental people calling me a b***h for doing what I plan on doing. My reasons are my own, I'm looking for real advice.

in order to be legally married in the usa?

I am 18 and he is 19. I ve always seen myself getting married young, and I know in my heart I have found the one my soul truly loves. There is no other person or thing that makes me feel the way I do with him. Recently we have found an apartment, rent free, but you have to be married. So in my head, I m like "wow! Awesome perfect timing!" We have discussed marriage and he is not ready and is extremely hesitant. He suggests we wait until we both have decent income and move in together, then propose. But what about in the mean time? We both go to community college, so there is no escape from our parents homes. How long can I wait? I need to start my life on my own, and break free from my family. Create my own identity, create OUR identity. I want to start this new journey WITH HIM. Any advice or just input?

We are having problems and he somehow blames me for all the problems. He doesn't take responsibility for his actions and puts it all on me. He has a anger problem and takes some of the things i say the wrong way. I feel like i have to watch what i say around him and that is a problem for me. I am a person who likes to joke around SOMETIMES and him, not so much. Don't get me wrong, i know when to be serious. I will say that he does eventually apologize when we talk it out. When he calms down, he apologizes and we forgive one another. He also lies to me and that makes it hard for me to trust him. I understand that no one is perfect and some people need more help than others in order to get better. I'm not perfect myself. But, I love him so much and i don't think that there's anyone else in this world for me. He's what I've been waiting for. I've never felt so loved and so important until i found him. He encourages me and wants me to do good in life. I can talk to him about anything. Those are some of the good things i love about him. I told him that i want our relationship to work and that we should at least get some couples counselling before we even think about getting married... What do you all think? Should i even be getting married to him? Can he change? thanks for reading.

We've been together 8 years. I'm 23, an RN but I want to take my career a little further so I do have awhile left in school. My fiancé is 25 and he owns part of his families construction business. They're pretty well known around this area they have more money than they know what to do with. He's an only child so when his dad retires my fiancé will take over the family business completely. My fiancé is the co-owner but he still works out on the job with all the other employees his dad just sits behind a desk doing who knows what. His parents are very, I don't know how to explain it but they're very judgmental. I know I'm not their favorite person just because of my families background. I don't think they hate me as a person they just don't want me "hurting their reputation." He says he doesn't care about a prenup and he doesn't want me to think he's going into our marriage preparing for the worst. He says his parents want it for the business and doesn't care if I agree to sign it or not but it would make things a lot easier. Then I asked him again and he said he really didn't care so I dropped it. Then he kept pressing it up and "casually" bringing it up and it makes me feel like he actually wants it and I don't know how I feel about that. Not only does he think we won't work out but he thinks id try to take everything from him? If that's true he clearly has no idea what kind of person I am or how much I care about him. Maybe I'm just nervous and it's making me paranoid idk. I have no problem signing of it because his parents want it, because I'm not marrying him for his money and I would never try to take that from his family. When I finish college I'll hopefully make more than enough money and right now, I already make more than enough to live on. My problem is if he wants it that means he believes there's a chance we could get a divorce and I'm not going into a marriage if he has any doubt in it. He's very straightforward and if he's upset he'll tell me and I like that and I think that's why we've worked so well together. I will sign it regardless of the reasoning I do think a lot of it is my own insecurities, my parents divorced and I know that's a very real possibility and I have to say it's my biggest fear. I don't think he intended it the way I took it, I think it really was brought up by his parents and he agreed and I would rather get over myself and sign it than risk losing him.

what did you do after they told you that?

I am not religious but I believe in the laws of a sacred marriage! IT'S A SIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! STOP MESSING AROUND WITH MY CATEGORIES! THIS QUESTION BELONGS IN THE M & D SECTION AND NO WHERE ELSE SPHINCTER BREATH BASTARDS!

Before you jump into this question calling me controlling, please understand that I have VERY GOOD REASON to ask this question. If you really want to discuss this with me, answer the question and stick around for comments. My wife believes that justice needs to be served EVERY time her morals and beliefs are violated. When this pertains to state/federal law I totally agree with enforcing "order". But when it comes to personal moral code and beliefs, no one is required to adhere to her beliefs except HER. You're only supposed to control yourself, not control your spouse, your kids, and your friends. But my wife feels otherwise. When we were younger, if you "crossed" her, she would just cry and be upset and you could apologize, do a good deed, and things would be better; but now she has "self respect" and makes sure that you are punished for your bad deeds against her (no matter how small). This behavior isn't justifiable, it is abusive and vindictive (let alone childish). And she's hyper-vigilant too, she makes mountains out of molehills. Her behavior changed after her parents drive 2 hours from home to see her in the hospital when she was near death with a blocked gallbladder. After that, my wife decided that she wasn't going to put up with anyone's crap any more - life's too short. She went from having 20 friends to 1 acquaintance, from crying to raging, from cooperating to dominating, and she grudges easily when you don't obey her authority. What do I do? I never considered this being the turning point, but the more I think about it, the more I am realizing this is what started it all... Just a few weeks prior to her gallbladder being blocked she delivered our daughter. And not that long before that I was flirting with an ex-girlfriend because my marriage was dead between me and my wife due to stress/anxiety. It's been 9 years, but those 9 years have been long and confusing for me; everything changed and I think I just found out what caused it. That was supposed to read "Her behavior changed after her parents DIDN'T drive 2 hours from home to see her int he hospital" --- She already hated her parents prior to this because of alcoholism, abuse, manipulation, neglect, intimidation, and not allowing her to be herself; so this was the icing on the cake. She was dying, and her parents didn't come. I couldn't come either because I couldn't leave my job (I was stuck there). She had to do it all alone.... I've regretted not leaving since... By the way, I've repented for flirting (only over the internet) with my ex. 9 years of repenting, self loathing, self hating, self shaming, and self abusing. You don't need to do it to me too. 9 years is a long time to be dragged through the murky waters of guilt and shame....

Flashback: My daughter is 3 years old and my wife is teaching my daughter the art of emotional manipulation. When I don't give in to her ways, she taught my daughter to say "Please, daddy, daddy, daddy PLEASE" with boo-boo lips. And me, being the guilty, self hating man I am, I fell for it every time, no matter what my daughter wanted. This lead to 4 cavities in molars when she turned 6, and my wife blames ME and not herself for this unfortunate circumstances. Present day: My daughter doesn't really do this much any more so luckily I don't have to deal with the guilt and self hating any more. Not with her anyways. But my wife, that's a whole different situation. Any time she doesn't get her way, she goes through the list of manipulations that worked in the past and finds one to jerk on my emotions or mess up my head to get what she wants anyways.... Calling me a beta male would be unfair because I didn't learn emotional warfare as a kid. I had honest, fair, and loving parents that took care of me WITHOUT needing to manipulate them. So I don't know how this game is played, but every time she plays it I am mentally, emotionally, and psychologically abused just so she can get what she wants. And as a passionate and headstrong woman, my wife asks for a LOT. I haven't watched enough TV to figure out the proper response to this; when she starts to manipulate, how do I not fall into that trap? How do I triumph over it and put my foot down when I need to (like financial issues)?

So I know this will make me look like a fool but I need help. I have been in a committed relationship for the past 8 years. And have 2 children. So my husband decided to tell me that about 3 months ago he cheated. His story is I was drunk and lonley. He works a job where he s never home. And never before this has ever done anything like that. But know I don t know and I don t know what to do.and the worse part is I love him. That s all I ve ever done. This was my life.

My Dad became very ill in June with no reason, doctors were not able to figure it out. He's been in the hospital for two months now, and is starting to feel better. We know his wife is a gold digger and her children are helping! We my siblings and I want to protect my Dad for he is to weak to fight them off. We have suspicion that they are poisioning him. They have also taken over his home of 60 years.

My husband and I both LOVE kids. He wants 3 or 4, he loves them so much. He was with his ex-girlfriend from high school for 5 and 1/2 years. When they were 20 and 21, they had a baby. They broke up about a month after their daughter turned one. Later on, he and I met and pursued a relationship. His baby momma was jealous and kept their daughter from him the whole time we were together, and, with my help, he finally got a court date 12 days before our wedding. He's been seeing his daughter ever since. Before everything was worked it out, he'd cry every single day over not seeing her. He was so depressed from it, and it broke my heart seeing him like that. I love his daughter, and she loves me! I love seeing him with his daughter. He's so good with her! I want our own baby so bad, but he says he's scared because he can't go through everything that he went through before. But he and I are married, doing things in the "right" order. They were never anything more than boyfriend-girlfriend and had broken up MANY times before they got pregnant. Then he told me that they were actually trying for a baby when they got pregnant... That really hurt me. I mean, he was trying for a baby unmarried with a girl who he'd broken up with many times before. Of course there would be custody issues with his ex. Now with me, he's scared of the same thing. I cried all day yesterday. He told me I'll be a great mom, cause all kids love me. He said I'll be a better mom than his ex. Any advice? :( No, he's not a criminal. He's never even had a speeding ticket. He doesn't drink, smoke, do drugs, anything. He needed my help because he works ALL the time. I had to get everything ready for him, where all he had to do was walk in and file it himself. We had to write up our own paperwork to have a hearing. I helped him get a lawyer. That's why he needed my help. He couldn't get off work to do any of it. It was a long process. We live in a tiny town and everyone gives you the runaround. We went to the courthouse to get the paper to fill out, but there was no paper to fill out. You had to type it up yourself, in the right format and all this. I took it in to see if it was right 3 different times before it was and he could file. Then, when he filed, they set him up with a judge that didn't even do child visitation cases! So we had to go back again before a different judge. You'd have to live in my town to understand how stupid these people are. No one is any help. At all.

We were together 34 years for the last dozen she has developed a horribly destructive alcohol problem denying any responsibility blaming everything on me she chose divorce over treatment her family has denied and lied along with her am I a fool for having these thoughts we also have two boys 13 and nine who we adopted they didn t sign up for this please help

Please please help

I think my husband is addicted to porn.. I have confronted him about his usage and also the content he watches, he got defensive and tried to deflect it back to me saying it's only fair because I have pics of chicks complying on my computer. Correct me if I'm wrong, women who are clothed and posing is way different than women having sex and other things, right? Then he says it's not my fault or that he's just not in the mood. But how can he not be in the mood if he's watching porn and jerking it 2x a day. And whenever I look over or walk into the room he's watching it in he has to hide it, he said he hides it only cause he doesn't want to talk about it and because he just wants something for himself. And complains that I worry about things that don't matter. So I'm tired of just sitting back and taking this BS from him. But i don't know how to go about this in a positive way. I really think this is going to hurt our marriage and I've expressed that, he doesn't think there seems to be a problem and I'm worried over nothing Help please

My ex-husband and I were married for 11 years, and we have 4 kids together. We've been divorced for 3 years. I divorced him because of infidelity. Through out the whole divorcing process I was civil and cordial, for the sake of my our kids. For the past year or so, my ex-husband and I have become friends again. We are getting along much better, and we are able to communicate better. Now my ex seems to think that because were on friendlier terms, that there might be a chance of us getting back together. I've already told him that it won't happen, but he seems to think otherwise. I just wish he would understand that were much better off this way.

I used to believe this were made up stories but I now have seen it happen.

I'm 36 and if I met a woman of my own age and married her, I'd also be marrying her former life, her past. It might be OK for some people - I don't want to judge it or anything - but it's not for me. It would destroy my creativity.

Why? She messages periodically too?

Well, the weird part is we're both in love with each other. She's 21 and i am 26. We've been doing stuff that married couples do but we're not in a relationship though. What is really my exact relationship to her? Cousin? Aunt? Help me please.

Thank you for your responses. I gather I left out a few important details. I am 60, my hubby is 56. My son is 25 and his girlfriend is 23. For those reading this for the first time, I have suspicions that my husband is either in love or merely flirting with my son's girlfriend. He says to her, "your presence makes everywhere we go better" or "if you weren't at this lunch it would have been so dull. Your presence never makes it dull." He says his to her in front of me and my son. When he says things such as this I always respond with, "no, it wouldn't have been that dull?" and so on. He always asks my son how she's doing. He always compliments her, non-stop, to the point where she goes red even though it's clear she enjoys it. He HAS to hug her hello and HAS to hug her goodbye. HAS TO! Godforbid he doesn't get a hug hello or goodbye!!! He looks into her blue eyes any chance he gets.... I know he wouldn't do anything with her because he's too shy and insecure (he used to suffer from being overweight, however, not anymore) but if she made a move on him, I honestly don't know what he would do and this is what is worrying me. I think he would most likely kiss her back or whatever else might happen. Any thoughts? Is it normal for him to be attracted to her? Is it because we never had a daughter ourselves? I honestly don't know what to think and we have been married for 27 years, and only now is he acting like this. I have never seen him like this before.

2 weeks ago my husband upgraded his phone from iPhone 3 to iPhone 6 plus . (Iphone 3 was no password ) 2 days ago I asked him to use camera to photograph stuff I m selling online, I don t have a cell and his new phone takes better pics than my old tablet . .. he told me what the new code was, yesterday I used it again for pics and he had changed the code again. Today he had changed the code again. And told my that was his cell phone and that I should use my tablet. It pissed me off. 1. The stuff I m selling is HIS stuff from his old house that were selling before we tear down and rebuild. 2. I feel like he s hiding something or being sneaky. Now all the sudden I don t trust him. I trusted him before I found out he changed his codes so much. It s not like we have little kids in the house either...

They basically are saying that young women should not have sex until marriage so men will be forced to marry them. That is faulty logic for several reasons. First of all, even if you are married, that doesn't guarantee you will get sex. A man is not "entitled" to sex with his wife. He has no more right have to sex with his wife than the checkout girl at the supermarket. There is a thing called marital rape. So even if he does marry some cow, a man isn't guaranteed sex. Secondly, believe or not, men expect more from a wife than sex. She should be supportive, appreciative, fun and witty, have a sense of humor etc. I am not going to get married just because I am horny. So overall I think it is a dumb saying Plus Mish it also infers that all a man needs is sex and he is happy. Yeah we need sex. But also respect. And a woman that is supportive, fun, exciting, interesting, warm, passionate etc. A pretty face and sex is not enough anymore for a man to marry.

We are doing deli. Everyone can have 5 slices of meat, 2 pieces of bread, 1 pickle, 1 side (potato salad, cole slaw, etc) and as for cake, I will have to set a limit on the cake so the stingy little greedy kids dont take more than one slice. It is rediculous how at my brothers wedding some people's kids were taking second helpings of cake. I hired someone from the catering company to monitor the people taking food. Anyone caught stealing extra cake will be kicked out.

Friends, We got married recently and my wife become pregnant now..... and she is working women so she is not willing to stay together and she just running behind her career when i ask her she says her career i first priority and family is 5th priority .... but this is the time we both should stay together and enjoy this moment.... we both are staying in different state now.... any good advise please ....i cannot change my job and go- there because i am permanent employee of my client......

Nothing is ever written in stone with me, I'm just getting ideas and I may implement none of them or all of them depending on how receptive she is to the idea and how brave I am in taking the dominant role. So, there's this bizarre 2 millionth angle of what's going on in my marriage and that's this: SHE'S BORED OUT OF HER MIND. Pardon the dog reference I'm about to make, but if you've ever seen Turner and Hooch you'll know where I'm going with this; if she has an over-active mind (and she does) then what she needs is something that will distract her from her thoughts and keep her from ever returning to them, otherwise she's going to rip furniture and break things.... This idea actually isn't too far fetched or too far reaching, when my wife comes home from her boring job she typically looks for something extremely stimulating to do like drink coffee/tea, argue with me, play on her phone, or watching a movie as a family. So there's a really good chance that if I want to help my wife stop overthinking things (which in turn makes ME overthink things) then maybe she's just bored out of her mind and she needs to be put where she belongs (under control). So I thought about some things I could do like locking heels and give her more non-chore things to do, but what else can I do to give her that mentality of lost autonomy (like she had when she lived with her parents)? This might be what she needs, it would give her something new to think about and busy her anxious/rapid mind... You'd have to know my 6 years of asking questions on here to answer this question, there's seriously not enough details for you to critical think this question and make me look like the bad person or to say it's a logical fallacy. Just stay inside the box I gave you and give me ideas.