My brother, for reasons unknown to me, selected me to be the best man at his wedding and of course I am expected to give a toast. I'm not someone who uses the word 'hate' often, but I do hate him. I can honestly say I wouldn't mind if I never saw him again. As far as I know he isn't aware of how I feel, and it would take more time than any of us have to go into all the reasons why, but suffice it to say I don't have anything good to say about him and on top of that, I don't think he will make a good husband, or father, and I think this relationship is a mistake. I've done a little digging for ideas and all I've come up with so far is basing it around saying that I'm glad they are happy together, but obviously I'm going to need more than that. Thanks in advance.

I was thinking of going black pants, shoes and shirt with white suspenders and a white tie/bow tie.

Some background here is I just turned 20, my girlfriend is turing 22 and I plan to propose to her on her birthday. We've been together for a little under 5 years now. We've gone through a lot together, her losing her mom, family issues, our own issues, ect. Currently I am dependent on my parents for the most part but I stay with my gf majority of the time. We're going to move together soon and all that and while I don't plan on us to get married in the next 2 years, with everything we've been through and our move now I want to propose so we can have that solid commitment with each other. My main thing here is that my parents will probably have issues with it along with my age and being lesbian and having me doing the proposal and all that. Regardless of what they say, I still want to propose but it just sucks having people who ruin it. I'm not sure how to move on from here or what to do in regards to them? Anyone dealt with anything similar? Blunt - By dependent I mean that I currently live under their roof. Within the next 1-2 months I no longer will. The wedding would not happen until 2-3 years from now but an engagement is a commitment, a wedding is a marriage. The point is that we have made it this long, I intend to spend forever with her and as we begin this transition in our lives after facing the death of her mother and handling all those hardships together I want to make it known that this is more than "dating" this is a true commitment to each other. Can I support her or myself 100% currently? No. Do I want a family right now? No. Am I still working through my degree and not at a settled career? Yes. And yes that would matter if we got married but thats not the case and those answers will be different once marriage happens.

My brother wishes to be married in February, and I have been a registered through Open-Ministry though never bought any of the packages. Which should I buy and what else will I need to perform ceremony?

I want to start off by saying she and my dad are not paying for my wedding. My parents divorced when I was 7, dad moved to another state for work and I saw him less. I only spent one weekend a month with him, but we managed to maintain a pretty close relationship. The same cannot be said for his wife, who I never really connected with. When I was 15, a year after they married, things went from bad to worse over the lack of a Mothers Day card and call (she has control issues). I lived with them from the age of 16 until I was 18, because my mom sadly passed away. My stepmother has no daughters, but she has three sons. I was close to one of them in the very beginning, but she turned him against me (he actually pinned me up against a wall) over the Mothers Day incident. My dad told me both of them would appreciate me including her by inviting her dress shopping and asking for her opinions or help. He wants me to make the effort to better my relationship with her. He feels it has to come from me. My future MIL agrees with him because she's a stepmother herself (my fiance has several stepsiblings) and she says stepparents make mistakes and need to be forgiven the way you'd forgive a biological parent. I also want to add, my stepmother is already furious I won't invite her son who pinned me to the wall. She feels he never did anything wrong. The whole fresh start thing might be different if she had apologized for the incident and stopped defending her son. The son who is still verbally abusive to me. So is she, if I'm honest, but I've learned to ignore her better and avoid her at all costs.

we are planning a church blessing next year for our 10th anniversary. We got married in the registry office because my father had passed away and i didn't want to walk down the aisle without him. We had always said we would get the marriage blessed but the time never felt right. I don't want a redo wedding because my day was great. I do however want to have a big party after to celebrate with friends and family but am not sure if this is tacky.