Women over 30 are only 5 percent likely to get divorced compared to 40 percent for those who marry at a younger age. According to several marriage sites

He did ask me first. I went along with it only because I would not have enjoyed myself if I said no because it seemed like he would rather go car racing (little cars around a track) with guys (he does his once a week) then celebrate my birthday with me. I would have felt like I pulled him away from something he would "rather be doing". Now, I am just depressed.

Ok so my sister who's 15 is pregnant by her bf who's 17. Their wanting to get married and if both parents on both sides agree can they get married now? And no judging or telling me they shouldn't or to stop them or anything like that! That's not what I'm asking for I'm just asking if they can by law not by what y'all think! Thanks!

I am 36 husband is 39. Married in 2001. We have been having alot of arguments and I m really not sure why. When we are aggravated with each other and i say something he constantly says I m nagging or bi¥¢hin¿. I feel that I m expressing my opinion the same as him. I constantly think he honestly doesn t care if he is married to me or not. I have been begging him tho go back to work since he has been out over a year, but he says he wants to work for himself. That s fine if he would actuality do it. So when a man sees their wife as always bashing can it ever be made right again???? Thank you for any info and blessings.

or do you wait for divorce papers to be finalized?

Two kids in grade school. Parents resided in Vincennes, IN while married. In divorce agreement it was agreed boys stay in school in Vincennes. The school the boys are in does not offer high school. The mother moved a half hour away from Vincennes and stated that is the place they will be going to high school without discussion with the father. Mother has primary physical custody but time is 50/50. My question is does the divorce agreement mean the kids will have to stay in Vincennes for high school also or does the mother get to choose to do custody status?

I've been saving money for my husbands anniversary present. He told me he wants a truck. Its probably 1500 on Craigslist he doesn't need it fancy there's an older truck that he likes. Obviously as a girly girl I wasn't going to go buy the truck myself not knowing anything about if it runs good or if its a good deal. I was just going to put the money in his card and tell him go pick out the truck he likes. He recently said he doesn't want money for a present though without knowing that's what I was going to do he just said that the other day. My plan is to still give him the money I saved up but I also want to get him something small that he can unwrap. What should I do for the small present? $100 or less for the small present. Thanks

I am very hurt actually. At first, it didn't sound so bad. But now, as I sit here alone, I am sad. He did ask me first. I went along with it only because I would not have enjoyed myself if I said no because it seemed like he would rather go car racing (little cars around a track) then celebrate my birthday with me. I would have felt like I pulled him away from something he would "rather be doing". Now, I am just depressed. He does this every Wednesday with the "guys". Car racing is just for fun, he gets together with the guys once a week to race little cars.

So first I tried online, I printed all the paperwork filled it out to my best knowledge an sent it in... Got rejected, so asked a old attorney friend for help refilled it out, and still... Rejected. Now my husband that I have been seperated from for almost three years now, keeps filling out the paperwork wrong as well. I work two jobs , and mainely mon-saturday 6am -11:30pm daily. He refuses to help in any way, (since he wants to stay married) I am only 23, we got married when I was 19.. I know stupid. But anyway I never have any time 😧, I need help I don t understand most of it as it is.. There has to be a quicker easier way for me to get this done. Please help, every year were married I get 0$ back from my taxes because he has all this debt and no job .. An I m working my *** off to survive .

It is also weird to commit to a stranger forever. But what I find very weird is that it happens in conservative cultures where the woman wouldn't be allowed to date before marriage, yet she's allowed to sleep with a stranger on the first night they meet. I mean wouldn't it just be better to go out with him and date for a while, see if they like each other?

I understand "equal" marriages as two fully developed and complete individuals, with healthy self esteems and self confidences, decide to go into a legal marriage but maintain their individual lives. This would mean that a man living his life the way he wants could then marry a woman living her life the way she wants and the end product would be two individuals who have a functional/productive marriage where both "equals" are doing their part as fully functioning members of a chosen community/culture and "complete" individuals with no dependence on the other for their emotions, needs, desires, satisfactions, discipline, or praise. They are essentially two fully functioning roommates who choose to have sex at mutual agreement and have this "equal" relationship based on respect and trust (not love and passion as that is not objective enough and can be manipulated). If I understand "equal" marriages correctly, how the he|| do you expect me to create an "equal" marriage if neither of us are "complete" individuals? I don't think you can develop INTO "complete" individuals either, I think it requires many years of being conditioned into it and then the education and the community involvement and maybe even the religion to go with it too. So how do you create a marriage based on equality when neither of you are complete people? There's a reason some people call their spouse "my better half"; some people NEED another person to be there for them to help them with their weaknesses.

Don't come here to tell me "didn't you learn anything growing up" because that's a bunch of crap. Not everyone grows up in a family, community, school district, or even culture that uses this model. My wife's parents expected perfection and punished when the bar wasn't hit; my parents had no expectations until the teachers told my mother that I wasn't doing well in school, after that my mother tried everything but I was uninspirable so she just punished me so she could tell the teachers she tried something (that didn't work - I graduated with a D but still managed to become an I.T. professional). Okay so here's the thing - I have been told that a great way to structure your marriage is to make it based on a give/take. My wife gives sometimes out of love, I take it and reward her by giving something back in return out of love, and then we keep it going. It's an everlasting exchange of rewards. This is fine and dandy, but what happens when someone doesn't reciprocate? I don't know how to fix this right now. Especially if the spouse receiving feels they were "owed" this or they were "entitled" to this. So this behavior breaks the cycle. As far as punishing, I don't think adults should punish other adults BUT if a person acts in a way that is anti-marriage then giving them a hard time seems pretty normal to me. Unless they don't believe believe in marriage then it should be a good reminder to keep them in line. But is there any suggestions on how to present this to my wife?

I see this all the time in tv and in real life. The husband does something wrong or does something the wife doesn't like and she punishes him by making him sleep on the couch. I don't understand how stuff like this still happens. Why are american husbands so weak to let their wives treat them like children? And why doesn't the husband ever kick the wife out and make her sleep on the couch? Are guys too mature to "punish" their wives like that?

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lets say my name is Joe Smith-Doe and im getting marriedin TN . would the wife have to take the full hyphenated last name or just Doe?

Before we start, can someone tell me where this belief comes from? I've heard a bunch of social norm hoopla over my years on here. Examples (which are treated like facts): *You don't tell a woman anything negative about their looks because if you do (even if she asked you) you are going to have hell to pay. *Never question a woman's cooking, if she made it then be glad and pretend it is the best meal ever, even if it tastes like dog food. *Never get between a mother and her children, if she feels threatened as the authority figure of her children then she will go into MOTHER BEAR mode and put you in your place. *Never make a girl cry (already a logical fallacy because no makes people cry) because if you make a girl cry then that doesn't speak of how weak she is, it speaks how weak you are and you should be ashamed of your behavior. Real men don't make women cry (another logical fallacy - True Scottsman). So where is all this garbage coming from? And why do people believe it to be true? Brene Brown did a book tour and she was approached by a man and the social exchange revealed that Brene's book was bias towards women's feelings of shame. But what about the shame of men? "...my wife and three daughters, the ones who you just signed the books for, they had rather see me die on top of my white horse than have to watch me fall off" So why do we care so much about women's feelings when men hurt too? Do we still believe women are fragile and weak? Why don't women believe this? WOMEN HAVE EGOS TOO. Stop saying it's about the male ego when women are known to have bigger egos than men. The truth is, we all have egos. Anyone who doesn't act altruistically or selflessly is a person acting out of ego. So this is a cop out if you said it's because of the "male ego". The male ego is just another one of those things people talk about and assume are facts but it's no more true than the rest of it! Everyone enjoys a big ego, not JUST men. By the way, the examples I used are examples that I've been told by ignorant people in various places. Some in Gender Studies, some in Religion & Spirituality, some in Polls & Surveys, and a lot of that is the bull crap that my community members share on Facebook. Honestly, people will believe anything if it agrees with what they want to believe.

I know his girlfriend will be there, and I'll also see the ex-in-laws who don't like me. However, I did know him for many, many years & was married to him once & had his children. Am I doing something wrong to want to go?

I have been married almost 9 years. I love my husband more then anything but he has had a serious drug problem for about 6 years now. He lies about everything, and to be honest has been nothing but toxic energy. I am at that point where I have giving him about 1000 chances and this last time I sent him to rehab and he left the rehab early and literally 2 days later is back on drugs. That to me was the last straw. I have asked him to sign the disollution of marriage over and over and he won't. He also says he will destroy me in court. He inherited a lot of money about 6 years ago after his mom died. I don't want anything from him. I just want to be away from him. But he wants to make my life hell because i don't want to be with someone who puts drugs before me and our dogs etc. What are my rights if he doesn't sign he paper work?? Is there anyway I can ask him to just help me get on my feet with an apartment? I work but part time and make about $400 a month so I am looking for a second job now. I just worry that he really is going to make trying to leave him hell. What do I do??? How do I go about this??? I just can't entertain the toxic behavior and lack of respect any longer. I know marriage is for better or worse and I really tried but I can't make him quit using drugs, he has to want to. Is there anyway I can have a judge MAKE HIM GO TO REHAB??? He's overdosed about 16 times in the last 6 years. Ever since his mom died he's gone off the deep end but he;s also gotten into serious accidents and have injuries to. Anyway I can make him get help??? No we both moved to FL when his mom died to take care of the estate.

I work full time and he is retired. He got mad at me yesterday because I told him he trashes the house and was expecting me to clean after I just worked 5 twelve hour shifts in a row. He says I tell him he never does anything right. He became angry and decided to disappear to drink. He was so smashed when he went to bed, he was talking in his sleep, kicking, groaning and fell of the bed into the floor. I thought he must have broken a bone, but he is up walking today, so I guess he is ok. I think I am ignoring him pretty well. I just wonder if I am normal? I just expect him to help out while I am still working and he is a total slob. He doesn't beat on me he is a good provider for the home, but I am near exhausted when I get a day off. He is a stumbling down the road drunk right now walking with my dog. Any thoughts?

I'm not going to discuss the parenting problem that we had this morning that instigated the fight because I already tried that on another question and no one is focusing on the marital problem; instead they are focusing on the parenting problem and they are shaming my wife for allowing our 13 year old to depend on us too much. Instead, I want to talk about the marital issue and how I stood up for myself. So my wife is angry at me to the point where the minute I open my mouth to talk she goes "No, you are going to listen to me because the way you acted is totally unacceptable." After a little bit she then has a long pause, probably hoping that her lecture would "sink in". I tried talking but she just talked over me... Don't get me wrong, I've done this to her too in the past, but today this is what I was dealing with. I eventually got so frustrated/angry that I couldn't get a word in that I throw stuff into the empty backseat while I'm driving and let out a scream. This intimidated her and she stopped talking, giving me a chance to CALMLY talk (now that I have her attention). But then, she busts into tears. She cares so much about winning, she pulled this emotional manipulation... We get to work and 3 hours later I get this message: "I hope you are happy now. I knew you were dying to bully and scream at me until I cried because for some sick reason that makes you feel good about yourself." ....... This has been the first argument we had like this in 6 months....

me and my wife are separated and i take care of our son (4) full time and i think i have excelled as a parent on every front, she sees him about once every 2/3 weeks on average, doesn't call or respond to my calls or texts. I left her last year due to heavy drinking and an adulterness lifestyle, i just couldn't deal with the drinking and staying out every night thing. Im currently in college and an army vet, she is just a bartender. What are some ways i can prove to the judge that she has a drinking problem?

So, today was a rough morning since there's hardly any daylight in the mornings any more and everyone is having a hard time staying awake. My son was especially having a rough morning and was 10 minutes late for school; he also left his lunch behind instead of putting it in his backpack. I inform my wife about it and the "beliefs war" begins... She's already angry he was late for school (which she thinks reflects on us and not him) and now there's this lunch... I want to leave it at home so he can be more responsible with it; my wife wants to take it to him so he doesn't "starve"... On our ride, we stopped at our daughter's school and she walked her in, then we drive to his school (again). She argues with me to take him his lunch and says it was MY responsibility to make sure he had his lunch when I took him earlier. I refuse because I would rather he learned his lesson. She angrily walks the lunch into the building; and when she returns she wants to argue about my "unacceptable behavior" and how it was MY responsibility. It's a 35 minute ride and the whole ride it's her stating her beliefs and talking over me. I get angry at her for not listening to me and express it by throwing something in the empty backseat of the car; she starts to cry and flipout. She says she's scared because I was acting psycho (I did the one thing out of anger then cooled down instantly). She says I should feel bad for MAKING her cry, but I don't because I did nothing to her. Was I in the wrong? My son is 13 and he sometimes forgets things without my wife micromanaging his every move and "making sure" he's ready for school. I've never agreed with this, but she said "if we don't do this then he'll always forget it and we'll be the bad parents who didn't make sure he had what he needed". This is her taking personal accountability for a teenager when the teenager should have authority and accountability over himself. But again, this is MY beliefs vs. HER beliefs; neither is fact or truth. Forget about my son's lunch for a moment, focus on that last part: "I threw something in the EMPTY back seat to let off steam and my wife balled into tears saying I was acting psycho and tried to make me feel bad for throwing something in a ballistic rage then quickly calming down after I had the right amount of emotion in my bottle to keep bottled up". Was I insensitive for "MAKING" her cry? Or was she having a temper tantrum and/or manipulating me through crying shame? I DO NOT WANT TO FOCUS ON THE PARENTING ASPECT OF THIS QUESTION. WHAT I WANT TO FOCUS ON IS THE EMOTIONAL PART. THE QUESTION AT THE TOP ASKS ABOUT EMOTIONS, YET ALL MY ANSWERS ARE ABOUT THE PARENTING PART. DID SHE MANIPULATE ME BY CRYING TO MAKE ME FEEL BAD (SHAME ME) OR WAS I REALLY BEING INSENSITIVE FOR "MAKING" HER CRY? I NEED TO KNOW WHAT IS REAL LIFE RIGHT NOW. DO I TRUST HER WORDS THAT IT IS MY FAULT, OR DO I TRUST WHAT I KNOW ABOUT EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION AND TELL HER TO GET OVER HERSELF?

My friend's husband is cheating with his coworker, the coworker is married and her husband works in another state. My friend has 2 kids that are going to college and without the husbands salary she wouldn't be able to pay their tuition, also they are in alot of debt from friends and relatives.. everything will fall on her. The husband goes out every night and also called his coworker wife. what should my friend do? In their country there's no protection law or government grants.

And when he first told me I was angry and then the next I was just sad. I haven't really been angry with him at all except for when he first told me. Is there something wrong with that?

Im pregnant and the father of the baby (my now ex) wants nothing to do with me or the baby. He has a 2 year old son already that he loves more than anything n still is in love with the baby mother. He always wants to be in their lives but nothing to do with us. Im 23 years old and lost my job a month ago and still can't find one. Idk what to do im so stressed out depressed and have anxiety. I also have no family to help me through this. I feel so lost and heartbroken i feel like im gonna have a breakdown. If anyone else went through this situation also especially with the baby's father what was the outcome like? @??? Im not using adoption as an opinion, if i go through the whole pregnancy I'm keeping the baby.

I've read there's a high chance you can get divorced again, I hope that's not true. I would think it could work out better by not making the same mistakes. What have you heard, know or think about it?

i shower once a month. we argue cause he says it sickens him...plus to have sex with me...does he have the right to divorce me?

When someone hides their phone from partner, deletes messages when texting to "friend",shows more concern when something is wrong with their "friend",gets angry when their partner asks a question them about the convos or says something negative,outright lies to their friend about their relationship and complains about their partner instead of talking to their partner they tell their "friend". Am I crazy or does this sound like a form of cheating and leading to physical cheating?

I'm getting married in two months we've been together for years but to add a bit of back story years ago he cheated on me and we split up for a few months in that time I'm sure he's had a couple hookups since we were broken up. I have not had any because i didnt really know how to apporach the idea of a hookup back then. I've since forgiven him and the past is the past we've never had issues since then. Years later now we're getting married our relationship is completely fine but I've never slept with anyone but him not even when we werent together. Anyways I've had this desire to have at least one more notch on my belt before we get married it has nothing to do with how many partners he's had its more so a burning curiosity ive had to have at least one no strings attached one nighter. I've been completely faitful but I don't want to get married and wonder what its like all the time in my marriage if that makes any sense. Has anyone felt this before? How did you deal with it? And this is a serious question I'm not looking to hear anything about his past cheating mistake we have dealt with that and moved on I'm talking about the present now.

Well one night i met up with my ex wifes mom at a bar after our divorce to have a few drinks to cut the long story short we got drunk and started flirting with each other i couldn't help but feel so attracted to her so i asked her if she wanted to step out the bar and chill by my truck so we're chilling smoking a ciggerate then i asked her if she wanted to hop in cause of the mosquitos she said sure we hop in and she starts to lean on me so i made a move and kissed her and.told.her how i felt she was so drunk she kept telling me she loved me and not stop kissing her i tried to undress her but she pushed me off and started to pull my belt off andunzipped my pants and pulls out my cock and begins to stroke it and slowly sucked it i couldnt believe my exwifes mom jus decided to give me a bj weve been seeing each other ever since it's more just for the sex

We don't get along well, its like north and south poles. we have 2 children from our marriage and they are the best gifts to us. First son was diagnosed as mild mental retardation, which has affected our social life, Otherwise also she is doesn't want to meet anyone or invite people. She is only interested in talking or inviting her family members. With others, I can see the interest is missing. Now a days we are not talking much as every conversations ends in an argument. She has lots of mood swings on a daily basis. Our sex life is ok but not great it will only happen with my initiative and very rare when she is cooperative. But after that she behaves as nothing has happened and goes back to normal ways which is like silent mode and critical. She keeps doubting me, keeps checking my phone. Even if I look at any women in the market or mall; even a look.. she starts questioning me if am having an affair with her…I don't understand this possesiveness. While watching TV If I change any channel to watch something else she starts arguing as to why I changed. I am frustrated and its effecting my work in office. I am a success at office but very unsuccessfull at home. I want to tell her about it but she never listens. When I come home, my children are very happy. We have even reached to a stage of sepration but I don't want this to happen. I don't want my children to suffer but how can I get her to behave normally. Please help… what should I do. please be my guiding force.

my husband is a nerd, a traveler, a carpenter, a musician, a gym rat, and a engineer. hes also really into thee gentleman/dapper thing. any suggestions on gifts for his 25th birthday, our 1 year anniversary, and Christmas all falling in a two month period? there is no budget and pintrest isn't helping me.

The idea of threesome came up months ago. My husband started asking me about my fantasies and I expressed them. Since we're now in our 40's it seems midlife crisis is settling in and we felt it is time to be adventurous. I find a worthy guy (physically appealing) to be with but he is younger and I tend to see him often. My question is should I ask a guy I know or should I go for a stranger that I may never see again? We already decided that this is going happen. So for the nay sayers, shove it. We are not planning ro break up because this is really just for fun and possibly a one time thing.

We have a 9 year old together and im pregnant, but we werent actually in eachothers lives until 1.5 years ago. My husbands mother was very mentally and emotionally abusive to him. My husband shares a lot of her abusive traits. When we argue, he calls me names (bit*h, c*nt, stupid, etc) he tells me I ruin his day/life, im a waste of his time, im crazy, he wants a divorce, nothing can help me, etc. Most of our fight start because I dont feel like hes prioritizing me. He travels for work and when hes home, he just does his own thing. He doesnt help with our daughter, doesnt help around the house, etc. Hes gone right now, for 8 days. I texted him earlier and said I wanted to talk to him and asked him to call me when he got off work. So he called and talked about his day for 2 minutes and then said he had to go shower but would call me afterwards. An hour goes by, I call him, he didnt answer but he called back talking about some fight he was watching in the hotel parking lot. I could tell he had also been drinking. The only thing I could think was, you knew I needed to talk to you and was waiting for you to call me back, but you didnt because you were too busy hanging out and drinking? So, we fought, I cried, he started calling me names, I literally begged him to stop being mean and then he tells me to move out and go to South America or wherever I want. As of right now, according to him, I can either file for a divorce or shut up, dont complain or ever talk to him.