my best friend told me she was cutting. I bad feel cause I cant do anything about it. I'm so worried too. she told me if she keeps it up she has to go into one. I don't know what to do. I don't want her family see anymore on her. I don't want her to go. this has been upsetting me

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Im 15 and Ive been kissed twice but I never kissed them back. So some people say the first one was my first kiss. Is that how it works? Because I used to think that its only the first kiss when you both kiss each other and its wanted, because the ones I've experienced weren't wanted, they were forced. Does it come down to opinions of individuals on this topic?

I'm 19 and I turn 20 in a month. I feel really upset and depressed about it. I was also hoping to gender swap from a guy into a girl before I turned 20 but I know that won't happen since I still didn't talk to the doctor yet. But back to the question I mean I really don't wanna turn 20 I feel like I'm 12 or 13 years old even though I'm 19 right now. Anyone else feel they are a certain age?

Hey guys,i dont know what to think about this and i'm really confused,i hope you can help me.. So here's the story: we've been together for like 4 years and we had difficult times and good times too during this 4 years,we endured many things and we have really good relationship..two months ago my gf went abroad for practicing the languge she was learning and been there for about one month.. She met and made many new friends Including many boys...after she returned she seems kinda changed towards me,it's kind of a emotional change,here's what i mean: sometimes she feels really needy about sexy time and sometimes she hates that,sometimes when i touch her in some areas of her body she is about to start crying and i'm gettimg really nervous,she also has quick mood changings and everytime i ask her politely about this things she gets really really angry..i tried to talk about this with her but it's pointless.. I don't know what to think,it's like she's "happy" and "angry","horny" and "calm" at the same about what she experienced (if she really experienced something like rape or forced sex, i have no idea). And i noticed that her buttocks are changed in shape,i don't know if this has something to do with that or not.. Guys please give me an advice,i'm very confused and nervous at the same time and i dont know what to think.. I'm 20 and she's 17,and we never had sex nor she with anyone yet.. thanks.

So I get done with work and a work friend (he is black) comes up and talks to me about school and universities. All of a sudden this black girl who works in the same place I do, comes between my friend and I and starts yelling at him about he she is going to slap the hell out of me and drop me to the ground. When ever I see her at work she is so nice but today is was very weird. Can anyone tell me what just happened and should I report this to my managers?

This is what I found: "Well played, planned and articualted. 3 questions for u , You don't have to answer, I got them. 1. Was Janhavi at the training ? 2. Was she staying at the same hotel ? 3. Was it the training mandate to share the room. I asked twice if there is somone whom u know but you lied /hid and worse compared with Albany which was so pure and divine for me. This is no different than a year back where u came on the prtext to see me (when anjali texted me) but only had motive to meet A. I was a naïve to think by heart and trust you. I thought if my love is strong I can win your heart and fight the whole world for u. It was just you and only you on my mind, whether be here, NYC , NC or CR. All I want is to find ways to see u, hear you and meet you – somehow, anyhow and however time it was. I have forgotten myself, kids, him and everything else in this entire yeae ; while becoming cheerleader for you but now I have fallen off to floor and who will support me ? May be I deserve this for what I have done to him Sorry this has to be like this bcos I am too emotional to talk. I don't want to listen to you either bcos again I will trust my heart to take wrong decision." I'm seventeen...but I've never really seen any signs of an affair so this is seriously confusing me. I don't want to ruin any of my familial relationships. I've had a fairly open relationship with my mom, especially. I could tell her everything...But after reading this, I really really don't know what to do...

There was a guy in highschool who had strong feelings for me but i didnt have them back. I considered him my best friend then and really didnt want to hurt him with. He knew i didnt feel the same way back though. Well i skipped a lot and one day suddenly stopped going and started going to online school due to bad anxiety and i never really got to say goodbye to them but he would never hang out because he was uncomfortable with smoking i guess but we texted all the time. Its been some time since then, about a year and a half maybe. I still texted him afte but we lost touch. Then a couple months later he texts me again. It lasted less than an hour. Maybe 2 more months go by now and were at yesterday. He texts me again picking up from where we last ended in the text. This guy was pretty special to me and made me feel special about certain things but i never led him on. Now im engaged and dont want to be texting him anymore just because that time is sort of past now but he still tries which makes me think he still has feelings. I want to let him know im engaged though so that he stops trying and if or if not we can still talk as friends. But i just dont know what to say and id rather not be straight out blunt about it. He last texted me in summer when i was swimming, now its fall and hes making sure i didnt drown...what do i sayyyy.

Ally relationships has been bad but one. I pushed j away though because he was super sweet to me and ironically I thought he would hurt me but he was very nice to me. We are now back talking again and I haven t talked to any exes at all but I think about them sometimes because I m so used to being treated badly. I feel like he can make me a better person, and he cares about my bell being. He actually cares and that s a first. It s a great feeling I just don t want to mess this up because this is my second chance. Any advice? I wish I could block my exes number but my phone doesn t allow it, however I am not in contact with them right now I m just so used to always going back to them or leaving the good guy for one who treats me like crap. I don t want to repeat the cycle however I have been doing this my whole life. I am 20 and been dating since I was 14. I probably should give it a break but I like the feeling of being needed, water, and most of all loved. Self love is great and all but I never really felt love from anyone else unless it s from a guy. My family is pretty blunt and mean, so I always wanted love from guys.

Ok so a friend of mine was at a liquor store with a friend. He was sitting in his car when he sees my dad pull up to a parking spot in front of the liquor store. My friend gets out of his car and starts walking towards my dads car when he all of a sudden sees a women (who looked slightly homeless, was wearing a very revealing dress, looked trashy, looked like a prostitute from his assumptions) get in his car. She sits there for about 5-10 min I believe. She then gets out and leaves. My friend then runs back to his car and calls me that same minute. According to my mom this is what I know of my dads History: He reconnected with an ex girlfriend over Facebook. she tried to meet up with my dad but he said that it wasn't possible. HOWEVER, he did say that you never know what can happen in the future and he didn't mention my mom at all. He personally then said that he had been caught with porn and he had called a hotline phone sex thing and my mom had caught him. OTHER then that he said he hasn't cheated His response. Yes that was me. I had gone to the liquor store. She asked me for money and I ignored and left. As I drove away I felt bad (he hardly ever gives money to homeless people). He then says I know I hardly give money to homeless people but for some reason I was really curious about her situation. So I go back. She gets in the car. Tells me her story. So I give her $30. She asks for more and I said that was it. So what?

Of course, you are the person's "direct" descendant. It's not possible to be an "indirect" descendant. You either ARE the person's descendant, or you are NOT. So, what does it mean when people say, "direct" descendant? Does that mean that you are the person's biological descendant, as opposed to being the person's step-child? So, the "biological" child is the person's "direct" descendant, whereas, the "step-child" is not a "direct" descendant? Is that what it means?

There's a guy in my school named Christopher (i like him pretty much). I was close to him sometimes and i was doing walks near his class, and one time i told my friend to look for him and tell me where is he. And he was in front of us! I didn't saw him. And then my friend told me that he understood that something "happening". The other day was raining, and i was with a male friend, just walking, and then i saw Christopher right on me to STARING at me! Not with the way i just saw a girl, with an other way...i can't explain. And we looked each other. The other day i was with two male friends and they told me a joke for fun, that joke supposed to pissed me off (just for fun, we're friends) and then i beat one of them (for fun) and Christopher was with his friend and was staring at me...

Here's the thing- I hate my sister. This has gone far beyond the point of "sibling rivalry". Here's a list of what she does: -calls me a sexuality I'm not (for some reason, she thinks calling me bisexual is funny/amusing, when I'm straight. I support LGBTQ+ rights, and she supposedly ships "larry" from one direction but she acts repeatedly homophobic) -calls me names (*****, asshole, etc. - you name it, she has called me it). It's seriously done a toll on my self esteem ever since I was younger (about like eight years old?) She regards me as "lower than a human" and she "doesn't even consider me human" (actual quotes from my sister) -makes fun of my face (I have some acne and she always has to comment on that despite her having more than me) and my weight (I'm about 120 pounds and I'm a bit insecure about that since the girls at my school constantly brag about being about half of my weight- they're 60 to 100 pounds) -is only nice to me when she wants something (mind you- although I may seem like a mean person outward, I'm actually fairly nice and fall for it. She gives me a thing or two, acts docile for at most a couple of hours and then acts excessively mean again after she has reached her goal) -thrown some of my possessions out the window (toothbrush, clothes, etc.) -makes fun of me for my interests and social life (she claims I do "nothing" so I should do chores like doing the dishes or cleaning up after our two dogs, says I have "no social life" and makes fun of me for liking anime- while she loves one direction. Apparently, anime is stupid because they're "fictional" but One Direction is not. -tells me to commit suicide on a daily basis. I wish I was kidding. "People will be happier when you're gone" "No one would care if you died" -yells at me for "wasting our parents money" when she buys clothes she never wears, asks for money from our parents every day, but I can't buy a single book without her yelling at me. It's gotten to the point where I've actually had thoughts about suicide. My parents know that she is "mean" to me and the extend but just yell at her but most of the time ignore it. At most they take away her phone.. She's to stubborn to get a psychologist or something like that and my parents will say no.. She's 14.

My best friend has been there for me for around 2 years now and we're really close. Lately we've been having a few situations that I don't know how to respond to. We made plans to hang out 7 or 8 weeks ago and he had to cancel on me so I happily rescheduled it to the week after.. After 3 weeks of rescheduling I started to think he was making up excuses... "I'm bringing my cousin to the movies... I have to help my nana... Sorry turns out I'm busy" I decided to talk to him about it and he said he's sorry... So I forgave him and we scheduled it for that upcoming weekend. He did it again came up with excuses, and it went on every weekend until yesterday. We made plans for yesterday, and I made sure that they were still on after we finished school. Later that night at 5:30 I assumed his phone died he stopped answering so I tried to call just to make sure... I went over there at 7:30 anyway because I had to give him back his usb and when I got there he let me in.. When I went downstairs to give it to him I saw my ex boyfriend and his friend Gen.... So I gave it to him and left.. What do I do I don't know if I can trust him? What if my best friend didn't know my ex would be over or what if he turned off his phone for a reason? How do I find out the truth? What should I say?

After ten years my child s father is still not present in her life. I thought he needed some time to grow mentally and financially. He stays 8 hours away and has never been able to make it to a birthday or just to come see her because he misses her. Very early on he had another kid with someone who he is still with today its been 10 years and they have four kids. I do not understand how someone can have another family but not understand the importance of being in his child s life. He says its because he does not have the money to travel(he also has no car and uses his wife s car for everything). Now he is moving away further for a job. He says its to provide better for his children, but I don t think that includes my child. It only make it harder for him to see her. I am to the point that I feel like she does not matter to him like his kids he sees everyday.

There's this housewife I know who herself admits that she's incredibly lazy. Her children are all at university now. They live out. Her husband works full time to support them financially. They have a maid who comes in a few times each week to do deep cleaning, cooking, and majority of the housework. This woman just does 1 or 2 hours of work around the house each day and then spends the rest of her time with her feet up on the sofa watching soap operas (which she herself has admitted) Her husband is paying for the house, paying for their living, paying for the maid, and she does nothing but watch TV. I dont understand why some men are ok with their women being so lazy. If I was married and my partner just sat infront of the TV all day whilst I slogged through ridiculous hours in the workplace to support the two of us, I would NOT put up with that. I'd either tell them to take charge of the housework, get a job, or divorce them if nothing else worked. I know this couple. That's what Im basing my judgements on. She didn't do much when the kids were younger either.

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Well only guys I don't like, seem to be interested in me. I only attract the scientist, computer, intellectual and shy/low profile type of guy-that i DON'T like, wouldn't date but never a higher profile guy (you know the business type of guys who dress well and have a decently/ high income). What's wrong with me? Should i change sth in myself? Do i need to pay more attention in my looks (makeup, diet, confidence etc)? Cause usually high profile guys have higher standards right?

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should i keep continue living a life that i cannot talk to anyone, cant go outside. has to stay at home 24/7, having money only enough to buy foods to keep myself alive. it,s like i'm in a prison. i've been living like this for almost a year. and at this point i don't think i can't take it any longer. i can't explain all the details or why i have to suffer this cause it would be too long.every say is the same. plain ,boring, horrible . i wish i can do something to make a diffirent but i can't.

I obtained a part-time office assistant job recently that took a yr to find (I have a disability). I have some signs I might not get to stay in position, be let go. I find out more Mon. morning. What are some ways to not let it wreck my weekend? I do have a small source of other income. Thank you.

I met a guy on a dating site and we have been on one date that went great and I like him a lot. He asked out for a second date which I said yes to but told him I have to work overtime next week (I really do) so I can't give an exact date but I'll let him know ASAP. The next morning, he added a sentence at the end of his dating site profile that said: "Every Friday night, I am thinking about you while going on dates with lesser girls. Brutal, I know. but admit it - you like it". I'm pretty sure he was lying about going on dates with other girls since he admitted he's home alone most friday/saturday nights. He admitted he wrote that because of me. He's been super nice except for that. Why would a guy write something like that?

So I'm at my breaking point. I've been known as the shy loser girl all through my school years. I'm 20 years old now. Anyways, at work, I got called "weird" today. And some co workers were making fun of me. I mean, I know it's just this but honestly it hurts. A lot. I thought I've actually done better and I'm not shy anymore! But no, I guess people think I'm weird now? It might be bc I'm so tiny and my voice is really soft and I have social anxiety? But anyways, it really does hurt to be called weird and to be made fun of. And the guy I like and I'm friends with was actually rude to me today. Idk if it's me today, I might've been a little off, but I hated everyone at work today and my life. I cried for like 15 minutes in the shower and I did listen to some uplifting music and exercised and stuff, which did bring up my mood, but those thoughts are still in the back of my head. So sorry for the long rant!! But how do I just FOrget the world and just think of myself?? How do I love who I am??? Please help! Thanks!

So I'm asexual and I've been talking with this one guy online, but I think I may make him horny sometimes, but it's too awkward to just ask, but I want to set up some boundaries and tell him what I'm comfortable with. My only problem is asking him if I make him horny in the first place.... Help?

I recently found out that my boyfriend used to re blog pictures of naked women on his tumblr while we were in a relationship. Should i blow it off cause hes a guy or is this as problematic as much as my heart hurts. Idk what to do. Id really like a males and females side opinions.

hace un año un chico me empezó a hablar hasta que me confío toda su vida y sus secretos y así nos hicimos muy buenos amigos.Luego el me empezó a coquetear (lo hace con la mayoría) aunque conmigo cambiaba pues decía que era perfecta e incluso me llego a decir que era mejor que su novia.Después el me empezó a celar pues conocí a un chico en una fiesta y cuando el se entero se puso serio, me empezó a hacer varias preguntas y después me dijo que el era mejor que ese tipo y que lo iba a golpear lo cual me saco mucho de onda pues el tenía novia, Luego el corto con su novia y entonces nos empezamos a juntar muchísimo más al grado que todos pensaban que eramos novios pues siempre andábamos juntos del brazo, riéndonos, abrazándonos,jugando a las cosquillas, el siempre me da besitos en mí frente, se acuesta en mis piernas, nos hacemos piojito, etc. Sin embargo él siempre me habla de sus "próximas novias" en especial de una chava que le gusta mucho. Pero cuando yo le dije que me gustaba un chavo el se enojo y cuando el chavo y yo hablamos el trata de separarnos y quiere que le de la mano enfrente de el para que parezcamos novios y ya no se me acerque y me regaña por que me junto con el O.o pero cuando cualquiera incluso yo le pregunta si son celos el lo niega y sólo dice que es que yo soy demasiado para ellos, que yo soy perfecta y que aparte a él no le parece que salga con nadie. a parte dice que soy casi su mejor amiga pero no completamente, y la otra vez se le salió decirme mi amor.

I turn 20 next month and I feel upset that I'm turning 20. I feel like I'm 12 or 13 years old actually even though I'm 19 years old. I still had plans on trying to get a MTF gender swap before I turned 21 but I don't know if I can get it done that fast now. I would wish I was 12 or 13 years old again. Anyone else feel this way? I mean about not wanting to turn 20 or feeling like they are a younger age. Not about the MTF gender swap thing I mentioned. I'm also feeling stressed like I have anxiety or something but I'll feel really upset when I turn 20. Any words of advice? Not enough answers so I'm gonna repost this question later today.

This kid keeps talking ----- and making me look bad infront of everyone, ive told my parents, I told the teacher he said he write him up, and hes still doing it, if starts talking ---- at luch should I flip the table and show him how crazy I really I am.

Me and my bf (let us call him Austin) have been together for 3 yrs, however our relationship has been long distance since we met on xbox live. We ve skyped, seen photos of one another but that isnt the issue (just a quick background) and you see Austin is 2 yrs younger than I am. he s 18 and i m 21. We ve been fine but I feel as of now my feelings (or what i can assume it to be) have changed. I think it may be due to the fact that I want a mature man at my side rather than a child. i find myself annoyed at how much time he spends playing video games (which i enjoy as well) and purchasing new games. He doesn t have a job b/c he states that he doesn t have a car and that every job he could get is too far to get to. And with all of this i find myself not wanting to talk to him, and that my feelings for him may no longer be the same. I m very confused on the matter b/c I don t want to make a rash decision without some guidance from those that have gone thru something similar. I d really appreciate all input but no bashing, please this is serious and I d hope you d respect it as such.

I have not ever been able to smile unless I hear something extraordinarily funny. I once received a lump sum of cash in the mail, and I sill couldn't smile, all I could was kind of snicker. Even when I was younger after I got laid by a girl, I still couldn't smile. I cannot figure out how to do it. How does someone smile? Every time I try to smile it looks fake, and uncomfortable. I cannot figure out what emotion precipitates a smile. @Fekelfufoolfu or what ever you call yourself: Ha! you almost made me break a smile on that one man.

she is dating some guy but is going and making out with her EX and this is the 5th time that she has cheated on someone with him and every single time he goes and breaks her heart and she gets more depressed how can i convince her to help herself and stop doing this

I have people in my life that label themselves as friends of mine. Some are closer than others but I still feel a disconnect from all of them. I'm really not a judgemental person (don't care what people wear, what their nationality or sexuality is, how smart they are, if they have tattoos or piercings, etc.) I care about their personality. But I cannot find even a single person that is there for me. I'm not as shy as I used to be, in fact I talk to anyone now and I'm not afraid to start a random conversation with someone in my class. A lot of people say how nice I am and I really try to help everyone with their issues and go out of my way to keep everyone happy. I'm not homophobic, racist, judgemental (although our minds are programmed to I know I'm definitely not saying I'm perfect), etc. I really don't have anyone I "hate" but I dislike the majority of people I meet. My best friend of 10 years just now tells me she doesn't like gay/bi/transgender people, basically anyone who's not straight and blames it on the bible. My second closest friend became probably one of the most judgemental people I've ever met. I definitely cannot tell anyone how horrible I feel everyday (for multiple reasons) and no one really cares. My family cannot accept that my mind is deranged and say that I'm fine. I get straight a's, I'm in all honors classes, I'm in three clubs, and play basketball. Nothing helps. I pace constantly dreaming of my future being all these wonderful things but there's like

This man came in last week and was saying all this stuff about helping me open a buisness and he asked for my phone number and I gave him a fake one I thought he would realize that I didn't want to speak to him after he called and it wasn't actually my phone number. Nope. He showed up today and now he was asking me to meet up with him and crap and I didn't know what to say, I said I was too busy and idk I want him to leave me alone but I'm to scared to actually tell him and there's no way I can avoid him cause obviously I'm stuck at work while he follows me around the store...help?

For those of you who enjoy stories about roommate drama, here's a good one for you! I'm a freshman in college, and I have 2 roommates (who i love) and two suite mates (one of which I don't love). We have a guest policy that after 10:00 pm on school nights, no visitors are allowed (and if there must be visitors, they have to be quiet). My suite mate who we'll call C invited 3-4 people over around 12:30 am to socialize. They were all either tipsy or drunk... My roommates and I (one of which we'll call A and the other B) were all getting ready to go to sleep and going through our nightly rituals (shower etc.) One by one we took our showers, and left 10 minute gaps in between for these people to use the toilet, but they instead knocked on the door rudely when each of us were in there. By the time I was in the bathroom at 1 AM, dead tired and ready to go to bed, someone rudely banged on the door saying "3 of us need to pee can we go," Pissed off I say I am undressed to please give me a minute and someone rudely says to me "Ummmmmm...okay then that's um...okay then," and goes back into C's room. Irritated, I have to re-dress because I'd rather them go then have to take a rushed shower. As I'm redressing they start banging again asking to use the bathroom. When I go back into my room i tell my roommates and B gets so pissed off and storms in C's room demanding to speak with her in the hallway. She yells at the person in the bathroom to get out so I could shower and screams at C Reached the limit -.- B is yelling at C in the hallway for speaking to me that way and for inviting loud guests who were rude and disruptive. (By the way these guests live in the same dorm as us and could have gone to their own room to pee all this time. I was listening to the argument through the wall and C repeatedly denied being rude even though she and her guests spoke to me in a terrible way and forced me out the bathroom. She really yelled at her and I believe she deserves it, do u?

Okay, so I find this really weird and it's really not bothering me, but it's still bullying. People tease me for liking wolves, a lot. I draw wolves, most of my clothes have wolves on them, most of my online profiles have something wolf in the username, I draw wolves, and I have four fish that I've named Wolf, Pawz, Werewolf, and Howl, then I have two birds named Moon and Eclipse, and I have a bunny that I called Fang. People at my school call me Wolfie and often call me Wolf Girl and wild child and wolf freak. When I'm at my desk drawing sometime people come up and snatch my drawing away and tear it in half before throwing it away. Sometimes when people walk by me in the hall they'll howl and mock me. I find notes in my locker all the time too,sometimes pictures. One time someone printed out a picture of him and his dad, they had gone up north and went wolf hunting. There were four dead wolves in front of them and they were smiling. I just tore it and threw the picture away, I do hunt too, but I hunt deer and turkey, not much else. It doesn't really bother me, because I don't argue with them about anything and when they do tear up a drawing, I just get out a new paper and draw another wolf, when I get notes, half the time I don't even read them. But It's just getting annoying. I want it to stop.

Attempts to talk fail. She will either walk away while i talk. Or say " go away"