how much?

on the weekends & the mother has custody of the children for the the rest of the week

I think it's disrespectful and wrong because that married person already belongs to someone else.Just because it's 2015 doesn't make more okay for a married person to have opposite gender friends.If it wasn't okay in 1815 for a married person to have opposite gender friends,why is it okay now?I am a married 47 year old man and while me and my wife separated,I would never become friends with a woman while married because it's wrong.Married people should be keep distance from non family members of the opposite gender.It has little to do with possibly developing feelings but it's more about having respect.I would never talk to a woman about anything that isn't about business stuff.I keep things strictly professional with woman that isn't family members because it's called having respect for my marriage(tho me and my wife have separated).It might be okay for a married person to have mere acquaintances of the opposite gender but even then acquaintances could become friends unless contact is extremely limited and distant(like once or twice per year).Limiting friends to strictly the same gender after marriage is the right thing to do because there's much less stress,much less jealously and much less of a chance of a spouse cheating on their husband/wife.I do believe in trust but I don't believe in blind trust.Do you think it's disrespectful for a married person to have friends of the opposite gender?

I am 23 now but I wonder when I was a kid and heard "we divorced for you all's better" does that mean we are partially at fault like I sometimes feel?

Unfortunately my daughter was killed in a car crash last month, only 3 days after her 16th birthday. My husband thinks it's time to clean out her room, but honestly i'm not ready. Every time I go in her room I am reminded of what I've lost. I can't even go in her room for 5 seconds without wanting to throw up & break into tears. We were inseparable & I feel like if I were get rid of her things I'm erasing a part of her that I can never get back. My husband has volunteered to clean it out by himself, but I feel like he has no right to go through her things considering he isn't her biological father. I feel like a horrible person for saying that but i'm just not ready to let go...how do I let go?

My boyfriend and I have been talking about marriage. Long story short my feelings about marriage have been a roller coaster. I get EXTREME anxiety over thinking about marriage sometimes, and other times I love the idea. My anxiety is too much to handle, and when I have it I avoid it at ALL costs... even if it's lashing out at my boyfriend and begging him to not ask me. I have NO idea how I got this way, but this is just how it is for me. I'm just not the marriage type, I guess. The only reason I can think of is I HATE HATE HATE change! Growing up I had REALLY BAD emotional break downs when I changed from going to elementary to middle school and middle school to high school. I just can't handle change well. I avoid it if at all possible. Marriage would change EVERYTHING, and I can't handle the thought of it. I love him so much, but I just can't make that commitment. HELP!? What should I do!? I don't believe in "my other half." I'm a full person on my own. I AM ready for marriage, it's just I need this anxiety to go away. I see no point in convulsing. It doesn't work for me. *counseling sorry can't type today Wow you are ignorant Mary! I reported you. Counseling doesn't work for me! Can someone PLEASE give me a GOOD answer!? **** you Marry! Stop being such a troll! Fake accounts! I can post whatever the **** I want. Now stop bitching at me slut! LOL! All of you people fell for this! I'm a troll.... damn you guys are naive! I was bored and wanted to see who I could trick. Now here's your treat! Happy Halloween! Please stop changing my category! It's getting really annoying! I keep getting notifications over it! STOP CHANGING MY CATEGORY!!! Your literally making my phone glitch!!! YOU BASTARDS!!! ******* STOP CHANGING MY CATEGORY YOU SLUT PROSTITUTES!!!! You know eventually my question WILL get reported and taken down.... LOL and you SUCKERS will still see me around!!!! Who's the mother ****** now bitches!?!?!?! Keep entertaining me... this is quite funny! You mother ******* bitches!!! Go **** your gay mom!!! LOL! You do realize you are playing MY GAME, right!!? Keep reinforcing my behavior! Go ahead, keep changing my category. I'm sure you are entertained too. This is fun, isn't it!? Watching you assholes squirm and *** all over me! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA YOU WILL NEVER CATCH ME!!!!! What??? You don't want to play anymore. Alright, don't play my little game. I don't need you to keep myself busy. I've got your mom for that. She's a little dry today, just letting you know. You must have ****** her before I did. LOL so you're playing again? Alright. Bitches bring it on!!! Well this has been fun... thanks for a good laugh! I bet I'm the best mother ******* troll on this *****!!! I get around, you know. Peace out bastards! Watch me go **** your gay mom while I'm sleeping!! NIGHT!

My husband and I are separated, he is living with another women, we are not ready to divorce because we have been married for 35 yrs and don t want to spilt up our financial situation, and we have a business. Our daughter is very upset with us and says he s cheating on me and will not speak to us because because of our situation. I love her and miss her , but this is our business , she is married and 31. Help

I'm thinking about saying this to her: "Either stop letting go, or I'll let YOU go (divorce)!" Will this scare her into dropping some pounds?

Let him go through cell,texts,calls .. Does that sound like a cheater

please rate these women from 1-10 in this order (the curly blonde, the dark haired and the blonde with the black shirt). I will answer your question if you leave a link as well. Thanks http://s1082.photobucket.com/user/kfccruelty/media/pics%20w%20bill/qa4nj4itpz_147258977-2_zps1ed51bc5.jpg.html it is actually 3 different women. can you please rate them all. thanks

With all due respect to women, but it's obvious that men are in general better at being head o f the family, because when men are in charge, they use logic and reason to make decisions, which leads to more successful outcomes. Women, however, are more prone to using emotions and feelings, which can be misleading which can cause a lot of troubles and more drama. This is my opinion honestly... PS: This applies to "marriage" only though, different circumstances might necessitate different requirements.

Is it true that a couple should NOT get married prior to becoming 100% comfortable with each other's bodily functions? Bodily functions such as farting long and loudly, urinating, defecating on the toilet in front of one's significant other... Should you let your partner hear you fart, smell your fart or see you going number two with an open bathroom door BEFORE you get married or should you wait until you are already married?

I ve been having a LOT of vaginal discharge pretty much since I ve gotten my first period, which was around 3 years ago. I started on birth control pills to help regulate my period about 7 months ago. My gynecologist said that this should also help with my discharge problem but it didn t. I never get a period due to the pills so the discharge isn t heavier during any particular part of the month. I am sexually active but I don t think this has anything to do with my problem since I ve been having a ton of discharge wayyyy before I even thought about having sex. My discharge is usually really yellow but it doesn t really have much of a smell unless you make an effort to smell it. When you do that, it smells a little bit fishy. I don t generally itch down there and it s not red or swollen. Keep in mind, this has been going on for 3 years so I doubt I have any type of infection. What s wrong with me and is there anything I can do about it??? Please help!

who drives a very nice truck...to turn heads is wrong? What about when he flirts with women subtly...like follows them around or pretends he is something he is not...and keeps talking to them and following them around...like when they go in the house, he follows, they sit on the other side and he goes...everytime he says a joke, he stares at them to see if they are watching...ect...this guy is always checking out other women when he is married, even in the rear view mirrors of his truck when they pass by....cheater or not? He watches porn when his wife is not around and lies about it...when she doesnt care if he watches porn. She watches it, too. He doesnt buy his lovely wife birthday presents or christmas presents or anything...he tells her to pick herself up something. He quit his job and wants his wife to pay for his truck and the bills because he is looking for the perfect job....when he makes more money than her.

To my haters: I promised myself I would quit Yahoo! Answers when my points fell below my birth year. I plan on reaching that low score before I leave work today so I don't have to deal with the abuse any more and I can let go of ANOTHER community that rejected me. After today, you will not see a question from UnderValued any more. I feel like a black person at a KKK meeting... But about my question: If me and my equally egotistical wife gave up power/control, do you think this marriage could figure out a way to work WITHOUT religion and WITHOUT counseling? Why or why not? Just hit under 1982 points. I'd say it's been fun Yahoo! Answers Community, but it hasn't. I have never associated with a more hateful group of people than all of you in Marriage & Divorce section. Enjoy telling everyone their life sucks, their beliefs suck, their dreams suck, their goals suck, and them as a person sucks. But at the end of the day - you're the only person who sucks. I'm not just going because you all are jerks, I'm going because I realize that majority rules; and since I'm a minority, it only makes sense I'd be chased out of here. Take care everyone.

I get crazy amount of discharge that is white, liquidy like water sometimes. This happened to me today a lot, and i'm wonder if it's because i'm ovulating because based on my period calendar (which i just started keeping from last month), i'm supposed to be ovulating right now. Have you had this happen to you? This happened to me many times, and another time i can remember was when i was ovulating as well. But this could also be bacterial vaginosis right? How can i tell the difference? I don't have any other symptoms, except for slight cramps and slight breast tenderness which i read could also be due to ovulation. I'm going to see a doctor soon but I don't want to be prescribed antibiotics "just in case" you know, which i have a couple times before with that reasoning.

Didn t complete the profile, no pic posted but has a username and password. This was found out by searching the history on his phone. When I followed the link the username and password popped up so all I had to do was push send and I was inside his profile. Like I said not completed, no pic or anything but has done enough to have a username and password. He swears it was just pop ups but I know better. I am hurt, heartbroken and rethinking out marriage of 13 years. (Been together for 18) Don t know what to make of this. I m only 37. It s like a slap in the face but at the same time nothing was done.

I have been with my husband for 5 years. He had his life in order when we were dating and right after we got married he "quit working normal everyday jobs to chase his dreams in music and composition". I had dreams too but had to put them on hold and be the rational one with balance. He refused to work normal 9-5 jobs because they were "below him, due to his education". I then find out later that his family had been sending him money and support until age 30? I tried to get him into marriage counseling and he declined. Eventually, my love for him just faded and I look at him as a younger brother, The reason why I am afraid to leave is due to the fact he tried to kill himself in college when his g/f left him. I am afraid he will do the same when I leave. I want kids and a normal life that includes a man that wants to be responsible. Right now he is working temp jobs so he can constantly go on UC benefits and "work on his music". Sometimes I feel used and trapped. PS I think he knows I'm want out. He is acting like he has his sh** together all the sudden and is being super nice. (while waiting to go on Unemployment) I cant imagine raising a kid on our income and due to the way we live) I just don't care for him that way anymore. His parents also expect me to support him and look at him like is God. What should I do? Btw I forgot to mention that one of the many fights weve had was over having a baby. I really want a family and now he states he wants one. He fought me over for years and dislikes children. I highly doubt it he has really changed. He isn't looking for permanent work and only working jobs 90 days at a time. Sometimes I feel he wants to be Mr Mom and stay at home so "he can watch youtube and work on his music".

I've only been married 2 weeks and she already wants a divorce. She said I'm to small and can't satisfy her in bed. What can I do to save my marriage?

Well I am gay and I am 36, well I am quite attractive and there is many girls liking me, but of course I never slept with a girl or had a gf before. I have told people I will never marry a women and have a wife and I don't want kids. What do you think is the age people should stop having kids even if you don't have kids. I have read online that for guys after 35 years old, they should not have kids. Then why is it some 70 years old guy would have kids? I presume they are rich and when the guy dies, the money is passed on to the women who have kids? I even saw some 40-50 years old guy marry and have kids. So do you think guys should not have kids after a certain age. For myself, I am gay and told people I would never marry a girl and have kids and I have told people I may marry a guy one day. planner: though I am gay, it is indeed nice to hear some true love story, good for you, sorry about your husband's death. Happy-2: I don't find anything wrong about gay people to understand relationships between male and female. Happy-2 : I personally have given relationship advice to people in relationship that is between man and women and they say my advice is good. Just because I am gay doesn't means I should not know how male and female relationship works.

We were married for 9 years until I had an emotional affair with a younger guy. My husband and I divorced but we got back together several months later. The other guy is completely out of the picture. However, he's telling me that if I want to hook up with anyone, he is okay with it. He's telling me this because he wants me to be happy. Hooking up is not my thing because I have to have a strong feelings in order to have sex with anyone. Why is my husband saying these things? I have been remorsefulof my past mistake and I love him dearly. But why would he even bring this up? We have been remarried for 3 years now and have two children.

about me, I am 23 and my wife is 25. I am convinced something in my sex life is wrong.. It could be because of a number of reasons, but a few situations in my early childhood could have effected me. For starters... I can not last long during sex at all. I am not sure if its super satisfying for my wife. I can only last less than 5 minutes. After that, after I am finished I get a sense of guilt- especially if I was masturbating. Maybe even a hint of anxiety. Sex and a naked woman is not longer interesting to me. Even if I wanted to try to go a second round, I wouldnt be turned on. and to sum it up, last thing that gives me stress about sex is I am not ready for a child and even though we do a lot to prevent a pregnancy, I get nervous during sex about that. What type of person would I look into to talk to if i wanted to

My husband is taking lexapro and can t have an orgasm with me, only if he masterbastes to porn. I told him maybe it s the lexapro but he doesn t think it is becase he can have one while masterbating. Should I be offended by this? It hurts my feelings. No but he insists it's not the lexapro becase he can have one while he masterbates, implying that its something i'm doing.

it's been 3months since we got married and he already wantts a babie.. he says "let's make a babie" almost 5 times a day -_- and it's really pissing me off he used to say it when we were dating but i thought he was joking because i refused to have sex with him till w get married and i did... i also told him before we get married that i won't have a kid till i at least finish my 3 years in collage or till i have a stable job and he said ok ....his the only one who's working and having a babie will make the life financially hard for us and the for the babie ...i don't want him to suffer because his dad is in a hurry... i understand that my husband didn't really have a normal family life (it was a hot mess) so he want his own ...but god i'm 21 and his 23 i feel like i'm too young and stupid for a kid i'm not ready to be a mom... i still want to live my life with him young and free and it will also give us the chance to know each other even more because u know dating is not like marriage some stuff change ..... i really really love him to death but i don't feel like giving him his dream son is something i can't do right now what should i do to convince him i can't stand this anymore!! P.S: i'm sorry for my bad english english is not my first language i live in france

I'm appalled they have Chloe Kardashian making the final decision for Lamar. This is scary a spouse who is separated can make a decision like this. Most separated couples are no longer in love, and many times hate each other. I'm sure there have been cases where the one spouse says just pull the plug because of their hatred.

I keep the house really clean and my husband was gone for a month. The house stayed so clean, it was awesome. Then he came back and he leaves dishes in the sink, in the bathroom, in the living room. He leaves papers everywhere. It's like the house hasn't been cleaned in a year. I clean it up and the next day it's back to looking horrible. I ask him to clean it up and he says "i'll get to it" but getting to it means three days later and by then it's even worse. It drives me nuts and it has gotten worse and worse. I do not like coming home from work and having to clean the house. He literally will spill something and leave it there. Recently I stopped cleaning up after him. I just was tired of it, so I'd let it go. But it's now been about one week and the house looks so bad that I want to cry. I'm embarrassed to have people over. He wasn't a slob when I met him but now he's a slob. How to get this behavior to stop!

My husband and I share our income- we put it all in a box and divided as the month goes by on necessities and such. Problem is, my husband is a spender and we have not managed to set aside anything in 2 years. I just got a little promotion. Should I set up a secret savings account with the extra money, or should I tell him about it and risk having it all spent? Advice?

What's your opinion of marriages ages 23 and under? Is your view different if it is a military relationship? Were you married young/how old were you when you got married?

I found out my spouse looked up side chick and now I'm worried that he will get one? What am I possibly doing wrong for him to even be looking up side chick? :(

Mine hates when I go to the gym. She always makes comments well at least one of us has abs. I would think women would love their man in shape. Am I wrong?

.Because I'm wrong he is a role player.I blindly trust him,love him but he play game with me,he knew it I'm very religious ,emotional girl he can fool me anytime.Now I fund he has affairs with a married woman.That women is our relative.they used talking on Facebook one day I saw few massages and I didn't like that all. I asked him why u both exchanging sneaky messages.He said to me uhh she is my college friend....!!!! I told him I'm so jealous that u talking to her please stop talking to her,and also I heard form ur sister she says that women is not good at all she is drinking alcohol and smoke weed which is haram in our religion.He said ok I will stop talking to her but couldn't.than they don't talking anymore on face book they using whatsapp and enjoy suddenly her husband noticed that she is chatting with somebody her husband following her and he fund all the sexual messages.He immediately informed her family ,and her family contact with my husband.They were blackmailing him if your not stop taking to her we will contact with your wife.Than he was stop talking to her but she keep contacting him.Again her husband see it,than he diractly contact me and explain me what is going on between my husband and his wife I was shocked.I was telling him I didn't believe at all,he send me some snaps short when I see the images I was peace-off. Than I was asked my husband why they pointing there finger of u?

This is a follow up to my other post...because my husband has a secret bank account I just found out, and in May I found out that he was lying to me and having an affair. I tried to forgive...but now this. But how do I approach him? How do u tell your husband you know, and your leaving with my daughter? TIA! No mean comments please, I've been thru enough!

He'll say that I'm not smart enough for a conversation, that I don't have a good looking body, that I don't have a hobby & he also treats me like I'm stupid. We have a 3 year old son btw.

I found a bank receipt that shows that he's been depositing money in. He's lying to me saying we are broke, and we- myself, my daughter, and him, are scraping for food!! In May I found out that he was lying to me every time he went somewhere saying he was going to his buddy's house or to home depot, etc.....when he was really going to meet another girl! She's about 15 yrs younger than him and I, and I saw texts from her and she sent him pics too! They were just friends he said...she was going thru a rough time. But I think more happened. I am trying to forgive him for that, but now he's doing this??? I think I need to leave him, but I love him! Just wanted some opinions and/or advice! Please no mean comments....I'm going thru enough right now!! Thanks in advance!

My name is happy Im a muslim girl and also married woman.my husband cheated on me ,he was in affairs with married women.when i heard thay had relationships since long,I asked my husband why her family pointing finger on u.what u did and what is going on between you and her.He was nothing more than friendship and i belive that.Few days later i found that they had relationships and i found some deep taxt messages from his whatsap.Slowly slowly i got lot of evidence that showing me my husband was a role player and a big lair,now i realy dont trust him but i love him a lot... I wanted to lie test on him if they had physical relationships.need suggestions that will be work or good to do??

Me and my wife have been together for 8 years. When I met her she had a really short pixie haircut and had her hair that way until we started dating. Once we started dating she didn't cut her hair anymore, and it grew down to her knees. Today she came home from spending time with her friend, and her head was completely shaved! She smiled and said she just needed a change in hairstyle. We never discussed it beforehand at all and she didn't warn me. What should I do?

Just to know more about him. I observe his every move when he is around so I can find out more about his habits. I know where he parks and I am thinking about following him so I can find out where he works. I know I shouldn't go that far but this is borderline insanity. I'm afraid to tell my husband. He'll find out I really need mental help. I've stalked ex boyfriends in the past and I'm worried this man might become might next victim. Should I just seek mental help? I am not an ugly person so I don't think he'll shut me down... But my behavior bothers me and I can't help it.

I'll give him spending money, he goes to Atm withdrawal some of this cash and says I have no right to ask him what he is doing with it, since I gave it to him. Is that right?

I had an 11 hour day at school with 1 exam, 2 quizzes, 4 classes one of which is a 3 hour lab. I'm tired. I'm hungry and I'm trying to finish up some homework due at midnight (2 hours away). My husband asked if I wanted him to heat up some dinner for me but I declined since I didn't know when I'd be done working. I finished my work and go out to heat food. Usually he's already eaten dinner, but he comes out and starts whining for me to heat him up some food for him (like, "plleeeease, can you pleeease make some for me?"). I tell him no (I always make food for him so I think he can handle it on his own one time since he knows how tired I am). Then he proceeds to try to pick at the chicken I heated for myself telling me I should share when there is plenty of it left over. He tells me I should share my piece because it's a good piece of chicken (there are other pieces just like it) and he didn't have any before (neither did I). I'm frustratingly trying to tell him how he was being selfish and he tells me to "calm down" and I get "too emotional". This obviously makes me more angry because.. really? Really? I wasn't even yelling and had only a frustrated (not even fully angry) tone, but according to him I'm "berating" him. What the hell. Someone please tell me if I'm going insane or if he is acting ridiculous?