My math instructor told our class she's married but i don't see a wedding ring

We want to have a big family. We both said we wanted to have about 3 kids but not right now. I'm in the military and I'm going to be stationed away from her for almost two years. Once my tour's over, I want to be a teacher. I have my degree. We met in college, I was on an ROTC scholarship. I'm not one of those pro-life people. I think women should be able to choose and sometimes abortion is the right choice. But this is different. She's not some girl I knocked up, she's my wife, the woman whose going to be the mother of my children. I have my military pay, she has a good marketing job. She's paid off her student loans and I didn't have any. Financially, we can do this. She called me on the phone crying saying that she doesn't want to be doing this alone. She was like I don't know anything about being a mom. We were supposed to be a team in this. We'll try to get pregnant in two years. She was raised by a single mom who died years ago. She doesn't have siblings. She doesn't know many women her age with children and the ones that do aren't working professionals. I don't know what to do. She's not taking away my decision, she's listening to what I have to say. She said she'd wait another week for us both to think more and talk about it. I feel like I can only be so convincing on the phone, especially when she's right. I can't be there for her like she wants me to be, like I would be if I could. I understand why she's scared. Any thoughts?

I like an older guy (He's 50 and I'm 39). He was married for several years but his wife left him for someone else. This was a few years ago that they divorced. He's showed several signs of being interested but hasn't asked me out - I've known him over a year now. Every time we get closer, he pulls away. He says he doesn't want her back but I'm wondering if I should just leave this alone. I really like him and don't want to get hurt.

I've had the same condition for at least 3 years. Whenever I have sex with my fiance, my vaginal discharge is so thick that the friction from sex causes it to dry and clump. Sometimes I even feel a pressure in my lower abdomen when he penetrates. I give him oral after, but my discharge tastes sour. I also have discharge that dries to a yellow color in my undies. Ive been to several gynos who look at me, take the proper tests only to tell me I'm normal and send me off with meds to treat bacterial vaginosis or a yeast infection. They never work. I'm 28 and have a healthy weight and diet. I used to be normal, and love sex. Ive tried so medications from Rx to over the counter, as well as changing the soap i use down there. Nothing has helped. I've stopped enjoying sex. I don't feel sexy. I feel like giving up. Anybody know what could be wrong with me

husbands that treat them well? are hard-working good providers? never abuse them? never cheat on them? why is it that no matter how good a husband is to his wife, she'll grow sick of him and will want to be rid of him?

What do you do when you are injured by your husband, thinks its the right thing to do, your family forbids you to file a complaint and you have no other option but to stay in that house where there are abusive mother in law n husband and no freedom or love?

I m 25. My boss stumbles over his words around me, is nervous and silent other times, he will talk and joke to everyone in the room but avoids even eye contact with me in the same room and if he does say something his voice gets all soft and soothing. Once I was sitting by the window slouching reclined on a swively chair during break and had my legs open for balance on the swively chair (I was wearing pants) and he came over to talk to someone who was 5 feet away from me and as they were talking he nonchalantly walked over and stood righhhht in between my legs to "look out the window". Another time a couple other colleagues and I were doing a project and his bare arm accidently touched my bare forearm while I was in the middle of talking to someone else and I noticed but wanted to see what he did next so I acted like I didn t notice and I just kept it there and didn t move it the whole time I was speaking. A lot of things like that. He just is so silent around me and looks at the ground or everywhere but my face. Thing is he is like 50 something and married (seems happily)... But what is all this he s doing??? What does it mean? I feel like there is a big sexual tension or is it all in my head? One day I flirted with him to see if it was all in my head or if I need to diffuse the situation (as an experiment) and ever since then he probably thinks I m a pathetic 25 year old hoe for flirting with an older married man right? What should I do...tensions, whatever kind, are high.

I lived in a bad part of town where a good amount of girls from my high school became drug addicts. Few years later most of them had a few kids and of course CPS took their children into protective custody.Not long after these people (still addicts,abusers and child neglectors) had an other or more children. Why is this allowed to happen? If you don't have any of your previous children why are you allowed to breed more? Am I the only one who sees this as an issue?

So I've been dating this guy off and on for a while and have always wondered his true intentions. He has an ex wife with whom he has a child with, that I feel he has feelings for still...for example he bought her something for Valentine's Day, invited her to dinner with his family and even offered to pay her rent if she moved back closer to him. Just the other day he said he never talks to her and yet I saw them at yogurt land and he was feeding her yogurt and then kissed her on the cheek and smacked her on the butt! She kicked him but I witnessed it. He also just got back from Vegas with her uncle whom he invited to go with him! I'm sorry but if your divorced and trying to date other people for your future you cut ties so that it's not awkward for the next person. He also recently accused her of being bitter with him and that he just has to accept that. She isn't bitter she just doesn't do his BS!!! So what do you guys think does he still have feeling for her!! I mean I get coparenting but this is a bit much

Me and my girlfriend are getting married next year and she insight that her family comes first or may I say her mother. She thinks that in marriage she puts her family before her husband like her mother father sister. I think that the wife comes first then her family. Any advice from a married couple or expert for church.

I have a 7 year old son and me and my ex husband have 50/50 custody. My boyfriend has been getting very annoyed by my son's presence lately and wants me to give up all custody rights to my son as he is starting to become a burdon on our relationship. He said we can have a new child, one that will be actually his and I can be happy with that one. What should I do?

For the first 6 years of my marriage my husband punched, kicked, and threw things all of the time. Since then we went to counseling. But, Right after counseling was over he man handled me while driving and in front of my children. He has changed since counseling as in he hasn't hit anything. But, He has thrown things at me since. He has also threatened to slam things against the wall or break my phone if I don't do what he commands. He didn't do this while we were engaged. Everything came 7 months after we got married. Needless to say I feel trapped in this marriage. While we were engaged we had a disagreement and I tried to leave and he told me if I left he would kill himself. I didn't want that hanging over my head so I stayed. How am I supposed to feel safe and content after everything he's put me through. I don't feel like he loves me. Although he says he does.

For the first 6 years of my marriage my husband punched, kicked, and threw things all of the time. Since then we went to counseling. But, Right after counseling was over he man handled me while driving and in front of my children. He has changed since counseling as in he hasn't hit anything. But, He has thrown things at me since. He has also threatened to slam things against the wall or break my phone if I don't do what he commands. Needless to say I feel trapped in this marriage. I tried to leave before we were married and he told me if I left he would kill himself. I didn't want that hanging over my head so I stayed. How am I supposed to feel safe and content after everything he's put me through. I don't feel like he loves me. Although he says he does.

Okay like I m a romantic type person who likes silly cute romantic gestures now and again....I love to please my partner. I love affection I show a lot of it. I m passionate. I love showing my love for him. He s everything to me. I love doing sweet things for him like if I some how see his favorite candy bar or something I ll grab it for him and bring it home. Or have a surprise dinner ill think of to make him. We are complete opposite and sometimes it bothers me...I m totally an adult about it though, I brush it off I know he s just not like that. I just some how want to get rid of that desired feeling though of wanting the same things back. It s really hard. He s not all into that... he has his own ways of loving I catch on too now and again. I guess sometimes I just crave too much. He loves to be at his computer a lot too when sometimes I feel it be nice if we sat together and watched a movie. He d rather me play a game I think...but that stuff is fun I agree I play sometimes with him but sometimes I desire a specific way of closeness opposed to his Lol. So sometimes it can feel lonely. But I love him and I wouldn t change that for the world. Yes we ve talked and we understand each other about it. it s just a little rough with the differences. We are in our late 20s and married and have beautiful kids. We don t have much time for each other and that s another thing...so when we get the chance to get closer it would just be nice.

My brother is a drug addict. He is delusional now. His wife has filed for divorce but my brother isn t fully there to take care of the paper work. They have kids and a business. I want to help him get a lawyer to help him with the divorce. I also want him committed for drug rehab. However, I do not want to be financially responsible for the fees associated with those things. He would have to pay it from any money he gets out of the divorce. Is there any warnings or suggestions that you can give before I talk to a lawyer or request the court to put him in rehab?

Ok so my husband was abusive for the first 6 years of my marriage. The last time he man handled me and almost left bruises. That was a year ago. I still have a horribly hard time dealing with it. I am not happy in this relationship. He still screams and threatens to punch things when he gets angry. But he's a lot better than he used to be so I don't feel like I have a right to leave him. I am so confused.

I just found out recently my husband cheated on me 7 years ago before we were married. We have been married for 5 years. I'm 27 and he's 28. I found out by snooping in his old emails. He had sex with 2 guys and 2 girls while we were dating 7 years ago. I know this was a long time ago but I'm just finding out. He hasn't done it since but I'm so hurt. I don't know how to feel about this. should I divorce him? Should I confront him or let it go? He's bisexual

what would you all suggest? He purchases food like he's still a single person. I lost my job a couple of weeks ago so I have been in a financial rut. I've been applying everywhere because not having money for food and other important things is stressing me out. I can hardly sleep at night.My husband makes close to 90K a year but he's extremely cheap. We live in a big house and have two cars ( one luxury car) but I don't think we would be able to stay in a smaller place with all these kids. We've been trying to pay off the house for about 10 years now and still have long ways to go. Anyways back to the groceries situation. I told my husband we need to start doing more grocery shopping and cooking at home because eating out every day is getting way too expensive and we're already in a lot of debt. when we go to the grocery store he will pick up only about 3 or 4 things for the household. these things happen to be the microwavable frozen dinners (the chicken nuggets and fries), he gets cookies, soda, the great value white bread,and ice cream. He will get orange juice and milk once every blue moon. Whenever he buys orange juice he complains about the cost of it.. even the generic cheap brands he complains. I have to beg him to get healthy stuff. I asked him to get spinach so I can make a sandwich and he said " you always want me to spend all my money". I'm not even asking him to cook. I will do all of the cooking Last night I told him I wanted to cook the boys chicken and spaghetti and he said " Chicken breasts cost too much money. I'm just going to get everybody subway" My sons will go over their friends houses to eat sometimes and it's embarrassing because their mothers will always ask me if I feed them because they eat as though they haven't ate in a million years

Your husband/boyfriend is currently unemployed with no source of income. You work to pay all bills and expenses in the household while he is between jobs. You check your account balance online while on lunch break at work and notice an ATM withdrawal for 300 dollars that had just occured less than an hour ago. You call husband/boyfriend to ask the reason for withdrawal, but he doesn't answer phone. You still have time on your break, so you drive home to ask him personally. Once there, you find him in bed with a hooker that he had just spent 300 dollars of your paycheck on. How would you handle situation?

My mother in law makes me feel like I'm in competition with her.. It seems like she gets annoyed when he does something for me but If it's for her or her daughters it's okay. Ive known him for 7 years. We've been married for 3 months. He's my best friend and we're both 22. ( A Little Background ) My husband is the youngest of 4. He has all sisters and their all 6 years older than us. They all have kids and none of them are married. His mother is also not married. My husband is the only one with a full time job, and is also in college. He tries his best to take care of his sisters, sisters children and his mother. What makes me upset is that my husband works a full time job, goes to college.. And their all on section 8, food stamps and they keep popping out children that they can't take of, so when their in need of something they call my Husband because none of their children father's are in their life.. We're not even financially stable to keep taking care of them. We both work and go to school. Every thing we have we've worked for together.. One paticular event that happened was my husband planned on buying me a new car because the car I have the air doesn't work and it was my first car, so he wanted to upgrade me however two of sisters were without cars so he talked to his mother and she talked him into buying his sister a car and not me.. I was kind of taken back by that..He said I was being selfish but I feel like he's my husband not theirs... they're all grown

My husband and I are married for 12 years. About 4 years ago, I joined our local gym. I was about 34 years old then. I started having crushes on this young latino guy. Luckily, he left the gym. However, I also have crush on guy number two who is married... And there's guy number 4 and I think I'm past counting with my fingers. My main crush I searched online but couldn't find him. I found a picture that looks exactly like him and I check this guy out morning, noon, and night. I don't see this guy often so the picture is the alternative. My husband knows I have crushes but doesn't know the extent of the attraction. These guys only smile at me. Some know me personally but we don't interact outside of the gym. Is this normal especially keeping a picture of a stranger that looks like the guy that I like?

I read about a practice called male chastity (Google it if you don't know what it is) along with all the benefits and I want to try with my hubby. Trouble is he is very stubborn and refuses to submit that part of himself to me, probably because he doesn't want to give up the freedom of rubbing one off to his porn collection anytime he wants. Any tips on how I can place my hubby in chastity despite his resistance. Since he already has a PA, I want to get the most secure device available.

I complained to my sister in law about never talking to us like she never tells us happy bday or happy anniversary and when she hurts our feelings we end up saying sorry and never her . Nothing has changed we still never hear from her I don't understand , how can I get her and my husbands brother to talk to my husband ?! He is always sweet , he has a handicap I always thought that was it

I found out a clip that he "meant" to record he was doing things with a woman at our place (thanks God, its just an apt, not a house). So I talked to him and he said sorry that he ****** up. And he also deleted the clip. So I said let me talk to the other woman but he said it's pointless. Can you plz tell me what ure gonna do in this case? He said he did that just for sex and bc he was so angry that I just left him every time we had arguments. Idk, we have a baby boy, maybe that's why I think for my boy than for me. But hope someone who had "experience" about this can tell me what to do bc I knew something was not right long time ago but this whole sex clip hurt me so bad.

Examples of how much time & how many days

I am facing divorce soon and have had a great relationship with my child up until last year. At first I thought she was just going through the teen embarrassment phase, but lately she has not been wanting to visit with me over the last 5 months. She is bringing up issues that involve my strict disciplining over 5 years ago as a reason to tell her mom that she is scared to be alone with me. I have never been abusive nor hurtful to my child, but I have had moments of anger where I raised my voice to the point of looking scary in the past. I have apologized for that and have changed my ways even though those events were almost non existent. She is starting to rebel against her mother as well so we are trying consulting next. This has been very depressing to me because I am very close to my child. Any suggestions appreciated.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 4 years and truly do love each other. If you are just going to give hate don't bother answering. But we want to get married but my parents will not allow it while his parents don't mind and are happy for us so I want to know which state is closes to allow this! Thank you!

If a man is considering marry a woman he has been dating for approximately four years, and his reasoning is not that he loves her, but more importantly, he just wants to "take her off the market by putting a ring on that little finger of hers", and those are the EXACT WORDS he used, is that a good enough reason for him to marry the woman, and she him?

I ve been with my husband for 10 years and until this day his family doesn t like me. I have tried bending over backwards to try and mend this broken relationships with them and they practically spit in my face each and every time. Im finally to the point that I told my husband I can t take the stress, the insults and the disrespect any longer so I would not be joining their family get together, holidays or have contact with them in any way since we can t seem to get along. He said he understood and that they only want to ruin our marriage because he was their first born and wanted to practically baby him the rest of his life. Its like I m in competition with his mother because she doesn t want him to love another woman besides her. Its very unsettling behavior. I can t help but feel as if I am hurting him by not involving myself with them. If I don t go, he says he won t go either which is his choice not mine but I don t want him to regret it when something happens to them but I cannot surround myself with such negative people. I just want peace in my life and if that means letting him go get it then so be it. I constantly think he d be happier if he found someone they did approve of. Someone that he wouldn t have to give his family up for and I could fin someone whose family will love me. I m not sure if I want to just throw away a decade but I know I can t take their mental abuse anymore.

three weeks ago I messed up my leg, and until my dr gets all the tests done, he wont do anything. my next test is tomorrow. My leg is in a brace until then, and the ortho said to stay off it and use crutches, so that's what i'm doing. So my wife (im also a girl) is taking on the entire load. usually, I'd run the house, take care of our cats, cook 3 meals a day and keep the house and laundry clean, and she works, and she had no problem with that since she works at a job she loves, but now she is doing it all. I cant stand for very long without feeling like im going to pass out, so it makes even bathing almost impossible. So to help out, ive gotten a few friends to come over and cook us dinner a few nights a week, with enough leftovers to last on off nights, and ive gotten our niece to come by once a week to sweep mop and vacuum so my wife doesnt have to. I know she's been working really hard, and I love her very much... and im trying to do what i can, but i feel so helpless. Then last weekend happened. she wanted to hang out sunday night with one of her gfs at starbucks for a bit, and I told her id be fine and to have fun. that was at 7pm. my cell doesn't work, so I cant get calls, but she didn't get home until 2am. i was already in bed. now im usually very trustworthy of my wife, and would never suspect her of cheating. EVER. so when she told me they went back to her gf house to do makeup tutorials (the gf is a makeup artist) and lost track of time, it was fine. I was even fine with her going to the big makeup convention in LA in january 2016 with her gf when she asked me the next morning. It wasnt an issue. Then saturday came up. she wanted to go back over to the same gfs house for more makeup tutorials,and I asked her if we could have a date night later on that night and asked her to pick up steaks. she got them, and left for her friends at 2pm. So around 8pm i ask her if shes going to make it home for dinner or if i should just eat a tv dinner and she says eat a tv dinner. well, you guessed it, she didn't get home that night until after 1am. when I was already in bed fast asleep. then, when she gets home, she wakes me up and wants to make love. i was upset with her all day yesterday because i felt like she blew me off to hang out with her friend, but i also feel super guilty because she's carrying all the weight around the house, and i know she wants to blow off steam. so when i finally got over it, she confesses that her gf is bi... and that they spent most of the day sharing makup tips and watching youtube videos, then she tells me that her gf videotapes herself having sex people on tinder, and she played the audio only of this one guy she was having sex with because his "dirty talk was really dumb". And all I could think was, you listened to her fu****g another person? That's really strange. Like i said before i love my wife with all my heart, and i never want to accuse her of cheating, but i don't know what is going on! and this whole 12 hours of makeup and youtube thing... plus, i dont what to do or say if my wife wants to go over there again this weekend. I already offered to have her come over to our place, but 'we don't have the makeup layout that she has'. I just need some advice here on how to handle this situation.

How is sexual life with him? I am dating a guy who is 55 years old. I am in my 21.

I just got married and the minister gave us a marriage certificate that has her signature on it as well as two witnesses and it has my husbands name on it as well as mine and the date we got married. It looks official. Can this be used to get my name changed or do I have to wait a couple months until the license comes in?

I have been married a little over a year. We have a blending family and I am with his daughter 24/7. She has serious behavior issues and I am exhausted. I also teach full-time. This weekend his kids were over and his son hit me, peed all over the house, destroyed everything. My husband has to work some weekends and next weekend my parents are taking my boys to the beach. I thought it would be fun to go too and get away. I asked my husband and he said he had to work so I said that I was going, but not bringing his daughter (i need a break, but I said it nicely). He got so upset, and so rude. He is mad at me and calling me stubborn and that it's not fair that I'm not taking his daughter and that he has to watch her. I don't know what to do.

My wife and I have been married for 5 years. This morning, completely out of the blue, she told me that she cheated on me during our honeymoon in Hawaii. Our first night there, she slept with a guy we met at the hotel bar (who I remember). Apparently when I went out to pick her up some sunscreen and hygiene products from a local store, she went over to the guys hotel room. Mind you, this happened before we did anything that night! Then, two nights later, she hooked up with an attendant on our dinner cruise, while we were on the boat! I don't remember us being a part for any length of time while on the cruise, but who knows? Needless to say, I am STUNNED! This came completely out of nowhere, and she insists she has never cheated since. She says the guilt has finally eaten away enough at her that she needed to confess. I have no idea what to do next. Do we get counseling? Should we divorce? Since she hasn't done anything since, can I trust her? I need serious help here!!

yes its a old song but these thing happen in life to some people

My husband and I split up 2 years ago and I left the matrimonial home together with my two young children. I filed for separation however husband refuses to give me financially what is legally mine. A month ago we decided to try and get together again and started couples therapy however it did not work out between us because he is imposing that if we are to continue working on the relationship he wants me to sign a paper saying that if we split up again - I will not claim for anything from him financially. This really upset me. Can you give me your views about this ?

A friend of mine's wife passed away just a few weeks ago, they had been together for about 5 years and got married about 6 months ago. They got married after they found out her cancer prognosis was very bad. Her will was old - from when she went off to college, and all of her life insurance etc is set to go to her mom. While in hospice her attorney came and she was going to change it but the mother talked her out of it. My friend does not want to profit from his wife's death but at this point he will not even have a roof over his head - they lived together in a house that she owned and they had planned on getting the deed changed to add him after the wedding but, she took a turn for the worse soon after they got married and for months they were driving down to Boston and NY for treatments and they were rarely home long. I read that if there is no will the spouse would get "an elective share", and I read that if they (the spouse) are specifically excluded they get nothing, but is there something in between?

Me and my wife are getting a divorce. In the divorce I'd like to ask the mother for visitation rights. My son's real father has no role in his life, does not pay child support and the son lives with me. The court ordered that I keep the apartment. A child that is not mine in any way cannot take up residence with me. I acted as his psychological father, and would like to file for parental access. Is this possible?

My husband works night shifts and I work until 7PM (which sucks). I usually clean the house and cook when I get home. Problem is, I still have several hours before he gets home and I don't know what to do with myself. What would you do ? (keep in mind that after a day of work energy isn't running so high)

I've always pretty much had a rocky relationship with my in-laws since before I married my husband. Shortly after we had just spent a week visiting them this spring his mom and grandmother were posting very offensive and judgmental things about gays being sinners. His mom knows I'm bisexual and his grandmother shared a picture of my husband with me and I was wearing my "some people are bi get used to it" shirt so I was very confused. His mom was also commenting on my husband's ex girlfriend's pictures saying how pretty she was and basically treating her nicer than me. The cherry on top was her deleting my best friend who is gay. I got so upset and impulsively deleted her and his grandmother. Now that time has passed I realize that probably wasn't a good idea since they most likely don't even realize what they did was hurtful. I don't really want to explain why I did it but I also know I can't leave things like this. Should I just add them back and if they want to know what happened they can ask me? It's so awkward now.

The facts: 1. We have 3 kids all young under 5 2. Married for 15 years 3. Both full time jobs 4. Both on Lexapro 5. Wife had affair 2 years into marriage when we had no kids. Went to counceling, worked it out 6. Husband not interested in sex after kids, found out he had an ashly maddison account, went on 2 "interviews". apparently nothing ever happened. 7. Husband in therapy said he just wanted to "f**k" and it didn't have anything to do with me and he didnt' want to leave the marriage. 8. Foudn out he masterbates 4 -5 times a week to porn 7. Going to sexual therapy twice a month 8. Trying to have sex 3 times a week (per the therapist suggestion) Ok, now..... Now trying to have sex 3 times a week, it's always very late at night after the kids have gone to sleep. He can sometimes get a *****, sometiems not, blames me sometimes for "leaving the dog food out" or some other trivial thing that happened that day which has caused him not to be in the mood. It's always very forced, scheduled, like a chore. Now he says he's tied and that's why. It seems he's all over the board, first its' he super horney (but not for me for some other girl), then he's too tired. But he is trying - it's very frustrating for him and me. He said if we could just have it at 10 am on saturday which is not fesable given the kids etc. What is going on here? I do not want to get a divorce. I want to work it out. So what are some constructive pieces of advice?

We got married in July this year and we're trying to wait for his mother to get out of jail but she doesn't get out until 2 to 3 years from now. The more i think about it, thw longer it seems.. It just seems like a really long time to wait for a wedding especially since we're already married. I'm just anxious to have my wedding but I don't want to seem selfish by excluding his mother by not waiting

my gfs ex husband and father of her kids has been involved in criminal activity more than once yet she sticks up for him and insists he is innocent or just need counseling and will get better. she views him as a victim rather than the criminal. she also brags about him being a great father to her kids even though she's in financial stress because of him and he did not help her financially at all with her kids for over a yr and he sees his kids twice a week for 15 minutes at her place because he can't be alone with them unsupervised. is she still emotionally involved with him

My ex and I broke up. Less than 6 months later he married a women he didn't really know. That lasted less than six months. I had full custody at the time, I recently agreed to joint. But this was done before that. We got back together. They are getting a divorce. He claims he just found out that she had a life insurance taken out on out child that he didn't know about. Because she had his last name and so does my daughter, if this is true she probably lied and said she was the mother. She has stolen child support money before but he too has a history of lying. I'm very concerned if this was possible and I cannot call and find out for a few more hours. I thought I would give this a try first. So can you just go out getting life insurance policy's on minors without the custodial parents consent? She barely saw my child so this makes me furious!! Supposedly, the insurance was through Liberty mutual. I plan to call soon to ask. I wonder if they will even tell me since I didn't start the policy?

My friend's husband died over a year ago & since then my husband & I have been going out of our way to try to help her & her 4 kids get back on their feet. At the beginning of June, my husband packed a Uhaul for them because she thought a new state would be their fresh start. In mid-July, he was in the neighboring state with another Uhaul bringing her back to stay with us for a month. It's now October & she's still here, so we have 9 people in our 3-bedroom, 1200 sq ft house, which we rent. They have outright taken over our home! The bedroom they have is completely TRASHED! They took over my living room as another bedroom. Their cats pee on everything. We have to hide our groceries in our room, but we can't hide the perishables, so they just consume them, no matter how many times we ask them not to. I asked her to clean her bathroom & she says she can't because when she tries she wants to throw up. She & her 12-yr-old fall asleep whenever, which leaves us setting bedtime boundaries for her kids because she let's her 5, 7, & 10-yr-olds stay up as late as they want, then she yells the next day when they can't get up for school. She cleans up the kitchen every day because that's what we see when we get home. She doesn't work, she just lives off her husband's SS check. We're really trying to keep a stable ground under these kids. I know I will never help a friend out again. How do I make her see she's completely mistreating the situation? And can we ever salvage this friendship?

Then bought your own house together at the age of 21&20, (not married, but engaged) then find out he's lied to you for 5 years about stuff he knew bothered you, but continued to do it anyway, and states he doesn't care if it bothers you because it makes him happy, if you don't like it, you can leave. Would you try to get over it and start fresh without lies? Or would you be damaged for good? The whole relationship there was trust issues, but I thought we worked them all out.. Until I found out the truth.