My husband and I are currently long distance, about 600 miles apart. I visit him about once a month and we talk on the phone every day. The relationship is great and I can honestly say that he is my best friend. However, if he calls and I don't answer, he gets suspicious. 99 times out of 100 it's because I'm taking a nap and the phone doesn't wake me up. The other 1 time out of 100 it's because I forget to turn my phone off of silent after work. I have tried switching ring tones with the vibrate on and everything, but the phone just isn't loud enough to wake me up. I'm a very deep sleeper. My question is, how do I assure him that I'm not doing anything bad during those times when I don't answer the phone?

I assume they got married because they loved each other, and share many things in common/like many similar things? Is love something that wear off after time? And most people don't get marry right away, many wait a good 3-5 years, so isn't that enough time to know about each other? Why are marriages so difficult? Is it the same for all or the great majority of couples?

I am more hurt he never told me he was abusing them, rather than the fact that he's using them if that makes sense. He has been a power lifter for as long as I've known him and his long gym hours never lead me to believe his body was unnatural or from more than just hard training. I only found out about this since we've been struggling to get pregnant for a year and a half now and both got thorough exams to find any underlying problems. It came back that his sperm count is minimal and it's due to PED use. How can I help him overcome his abuse? How can I learn to trust him again? How can I forgive him for deceiving me all this time?

My husband and I have been married for 15 years. we are both in our early 40`s. We have two kids (12 and 9) and dated 3 years before marrying. I noticed that lately hes been getting easily irritated with me, he hasnt been acting like his normal self. He used to shower me with attention, and now he only acts like a dad. This has been going on for past 5 months. I ask him if he needs to tell em anything and he snaps saying "oh so now you want to ask about me?" or something else insinuating that i have been ignoring him. i thought that maybe it was because we hadnt had sex in a while (my sex drive hasn't been the same since my mid 30`s), we havent done the deed since January. I thought everything was fine since he never asked and still cuddled and kissed me. last night i sat him down to talk and asked him if something was wrong and he said nothing was wrong. i pointed out the fact that hes been easily irritable and he said "well do i really have a reason to be happy?" i told him to just let it all out and he did, he talked about how im lazy and havent been putting in any effort into the marriage, how even when he treats me like a queen i dont give him simple affection, how he feels like a roommate instead of a husband, how he envies his friends who get sex regularly while he has to be my "slave.", he also said that hes been miserable for the past 6 months but i only noticed it now and that pisses him off, he also said that im lucky that he didnt cheat because he had opportunities to cheat, he also said that he has been resenting me a lot lately and wishes he never married me. what do i do?

Hello, I m going to give the main details then get to the question. Married with a kid, after I gave birth he had an affair the weekend we came back from the hospital. During our time of being together, he has choked me ,slapped me and been very disrespectful. The last time he s puthis hands on me, I finally called the police. He s back now, and its like his words to me have gotten worst. Tells me he s just riding the marriage until I give up, that he isn t interested in my sex so he prefers to jack off. I m only useful for sex etc. I want to make our marriage work on one hand but the other, I know I cànt deal with this. Just some advice

So me and my wife has been together for 3 years and been married for 1 year. We had a baby boy about 6 month old. Our relationship start having problem even before we got married. We basically got married because of the baby and I don't want to leave her when she's having a baby. Her family is too poor to support neither her nor the baby. Now I can't stand being with her anymore. I don't love her and I don't want to be with her but I still love my son and want to be able to see my son. My permanent residency is still in process. probably going to be approved in 1 month or so. So how do I divorce her and still be able to see my baby? or still be able to stay in the country?

So my idiot friend hank can't make up his mind if he is going to be supportive of me or not. He flip flops from being supportive to being such a total prick. He was talking about how some people are bad influences and he blocked my friend matt last night because matt is going abroad just like I am. Hank just can't seem to make up his mind and is always hurting me. He blocked me today on facebook. He thinks that all guys who can't find a girl in america and who are going abroad are losers and bad influences. He thinks that I am a bad influence because I told him that he can go abroad to find someone since he was getting rejected left and right by girls. He rather listens to bobby who is a 17 year old who has no life experiences over me who is 26 years old and has went through the same stuff that he did. I think I am smarter than him because I am not gonna sit around in america and waste years of my life trying to get a date with a woman when it goes no where. That is why I got my family to set me up with a girl in vietnam. Why is he such a jerk to me ? Why does he think that I am a bad influence when I am just trying to help him ?

For purpose of context and provided you have the time. I'm researching elements for a story and am wanting to be as accurate as possible. Here's the situation. A long time friend of the MC's wife visits their home. Technical issues at her friend's left her friend without a room. She offers their home as a place for him to stay. The two were involved in a serious relationship but parted ways amicably. While the MC is down stairs the old flame ignites and the two make love. The MC comes out of the basement and see's them in the guest room. At first sadness, and then anger but as the anger builds a devastating and painful cataclysmic event occurs. MC feels excruciating pain and tumbles to the bottom of the stairs were silence accompanies him. About an hour later the Reaper Squad arrives. This is where I'm hung up on the how the wife would react. Should she shrug it off and move on why should she care? Should she be hysterical and feel shame, remorse? I don't know. I don't know how to accurately go about this. I think before I do I need to understand that element about adultery. I've read that women cheat for excitement, escape, or because they feel unloved. Or if it's emotional in which case she wouldn't care about her husband because by then the marriage is basically over. But that element is the element I can't figure out. How might an individual in her case feel? Would a wife who cheats on a faithful husband, with an old flame, care if something horrible happened to him? The husband is not abusive, a drunk, etc. He loves his wife, supports her and treats her with respect.

a second person when he is already married?

When I'm involved with a man I give my all. I'm a support system, I give my love, my time, I like to cook for him. Actually I do things thing for anyone its my personality I'm a very giving, helpful person. In fact ironically my middle name means "to serve" I inadvertently live up to my name. Am I already giving my all, If I were to marry him what more could I give as a wife as oppose to being a girlfriend. Yes we have sex

I am finally divorcing after 21 years of marriage and 30 years together. However, throughout our relationship, my STBXH would use outings as a kind of reward for behavior – even simple shopping or going out to eat. If my behavior was not up to what he thought it should be beforehand (sex, nagging, looking at him the wrong way), he would suddenly say that he was no longer going to participate in whatever we had planned for the day. I often did things with our children on my own or did not tell them plans until the last minute because this happened so often that I didn't want them to get their hopes up to be disappointed. It should have been a red flag when we were dating - we were supposed to go to my coworker's wedding and he refused to go last minute for no reason. Has anyone had experience with this?

Imagine this. Two identical twin brothers marry a pair of identical twin sisters. Both couples have kids. So the kids are cousins. And worldwide people marry their cousins. Would it be wrong if the married because of how close genetically they are?

I have been Schizophrenic since last 15 years, married once and got divorced due to lack of adjustments. I think I need a Doctor wife to look after my problems. Is it possible to persuade a Doctor woman for a new marriage?

No stupid answers please!

We have only dated for a year, he is military so a lot of our relationship was long distance. We have been married for 2 months now. I had to leave my family behind and move away. He just got the dog 2 days ago(10 months old). I cried all day yesterday, I'm sick now, I feel nausea all day long, & I just feel upset. We can't be alone, I just don't know what to do. I just want all the time with my husband that I can have being alone. Any recommendations on what to do?

my husband and i are newly weds and my husband is now being sent off for 8 months of training in the marines. i am devastated. i have no friends or anything. i feel so alone. i dont know how to deal with this heart ake for 8 months. please help.

Do you think getting marriage will be work out with the partner who is same nationality, religion, education, and similar family background?

I ll start from the beginning, my husband is a christian and waited on having sex until he was married. Now, we are married and have great sex, but he wants way more than I feel comfortable with. Now he wants a "hall pass" to try stuff with some other woman to get that "stuck" feeling out of his system. It s to the point where I feel like I m not enough. I don t really know what to do. I love him so much but I also want him to be happy. And, I want him to realize the sex that he s seen in porn and that he fantasizes about isn t technically realistic. Sex can be awkward and there are moments when you just want to laugh because of a noise or something said. He says I d be a really strong woman for allowing him to do that and still stick around. I think I d just be ******* dumb. If my husband doesn t want only me, then what the hell am I doing? He wants to be like a swinger couple I think...no freaking way... I m so confused. Now we are on total different levels of understanding and wants and this has never happened to us before. I m really fearful of a divorce in our future.

My husband and I are currently separated. I am committed to making our marriage work and have tried to give him plenty of space, but he has intentionally driven a wedge between us. He has officially stopped speaking to me unless it has to do with our daughter. I tried having a conversation with him this evening, but he told me the reason he won't talk to me is that I don't accept his decision of wanting to get a divorce. I don't try to change his mind, I don't nag, I don't whine or cry, but I do tell him that I'm not on the same page as him. What can I do?

My partner and I split up and now we are getting divorced. My partner left the home but then came back. The apartment is mine but my partner wants to take things from the household that I purchased. We will be representing ourselves in court. I don't want my partner to have the things that are mine. How can I fight for that?

My husband has been hiding away his income figure and our marriage has been unconsumated since 2 years ago. The marriage outlook seems fine with harmony. Now, I have feelings for someone else. Is it a sin?

My husband wants me quit work and be a stay at mom. He makes $ 400,000k a year. He says, he makes enough money to provide for the family, so I don't have to work. We have two little kids and another one on the way! He wants me to raise our kids because he doesn't trust the nannies and babysitters! He says, I will also enjoy being home with the kids more than going to work everyday! He also says, that the kids are too young so they need my attention and care more than anything!

Why can't a man who claims to love his wife be truthful to her? Why do men run and sleep around and hurt their wives? Do men not know how much their wived hurting inside, do they not care about her no longer? Why does he stay with her and the kids if he wants to mess around, so he can keep on sticking the knife further and further into her heart? Why lie about it? Why lie about it? The husband stopped loving her when he took a hooker to bed. Did he think of his wife, or he didn't care about her feelings only his? Why can't married men be happy? They are the ones who begged and pleaded to be with the wife and when things get boring for him he has to cheat. Why can't he say, look I hate you, you are too boring, so it's a hooker for me tonight. He is big enough to cheat and lie behind the wife's back but can not look her in the face and say he is a no good low life *** for cheating on his wife who was there for him when his daughter died and help him in every way she could, help him with everything and stayed faithful when he couldn't get it up and had to buy special pills to get it up. Why lie to the wife who married him after begging for days and months to be his wife, was this a plan of his to marry her and rip her heart right out of her chest and watch her lay there in pain while he walks away.

My wife and i been together for 3 years She never wants sex from me. Im super attractive most girls i ever met face to face wanted to go to bed with me first day. My wife asks for sex 1 time a month. I beg for sex every other day and i always get told no. There are many times where she says wait tell tonight and then she changes her mind saying she is tired and to sleepy. I think she is bipolor. Instead of whispering to me she yells out loud no im not having sex with you leave me alone all you want is sex. When she does give up sex she gets mad and says hurry up and finnish. I feel degraded embarressed un loved and un worthy as her husband. Any suggestions

graduates high school. I feel pressured into having another child even though I feel like I'm too old to raise another child that is 20+ years of having to support another child and I am now a middle aged man. Do I have the right to ask her to stay on birth control? I would certainly never demand she has an abortion or anything but I think I would rather she stayed on birth control. I am even open to a vasectomy, but I also feel like a dick saying she can't have a child of her own when we planned to have one when we got married but that neigh on 10 years ago and 41 is a lot older than 31 so I'm not so sure these days if I am up for it.

I have been with my husband for 3 years(but I've know him since we were little and we have only been married a 2 months) and 2 years go something life changing happened. I don't really want to go in to it but it left us both with depression and PTSD. he has gotten rid of PTSD and takes meds for depression, but I cant ditch the PTSD and I cant take meds because i just had a baby. hence I'm really emotional. I'm really worried he will get sick of it and leave. what do I do.

Ive been married since 2010 and i have a handsome baby boy that i love with all my heart, i have no one to talk to that really cares, i feel like i married my husband to soon bfor i got to know the real him witch is a love less man that only cares for him self, i have always put his happiness above mine but ive came to realise that no ones trying to make me happy, my husband cant holda job for 6 months at a time then for whatever reason he quits we have been living with my parents since we dont have alot of money and cant afford to have a place of our own, it kills me to be my age still living at home with my husband, im lossing every thing ihave bbecause i cant make my husband get a job cause he says hes looking for a good job that he wants witch im fine with but since he lost this recent job 2months ago he has not applyed at any jobs, im so ready to pack up my things and my son and go far away, PLEASE someone give me a lil advice