HELP! my MIL and I don t get along at all and she s tried a few things to just make me mad since we have been married and today she sent my husband a pic of his ex s boobs and when he asked her she said she meant to send to his sister and she was sorry but I know how she is and she did it on purpose!!!

Michelle recently gave some advice about being 'joyfully' available to relieve their husband's nutsack when he's pent up. Was she directing her comments to daughter-in-law Anna? More so, how many wives agree with this and see her point? I couldn't care less about a reality show person, but when someone in the spotlight says such horrendous things, I am just curious what wives really think. And yes, guys, I know I'm not going to get any honest answers.

If in a marriage you express to your mate that you want them to continue to grow and enhance themselves such as working on a spiritual relationship or improving their health these are just examples....is that trying to change them or simply encouraging their growth as a person

Scenario I wanted to discuss is this: Parents Joe and Cathy divorce. They had two kids together - Sam and Joe jr. . Joe remarries to Ethel, and Cathy remarries to Ezekiel. Joe and Cathy split their belongings down the middle, making their respective net worths $1million apiece. Ezekiel has two kids, Scott & Trevor, as well as a house from before his new marriage. Ethel has two kids but no real assets. Joe dies. Who gets his estate? If he defined a will before hand, but Ethel is his executor, does that give her the power to change the will and take everything? Or does she have a legal obligation to distribute his estate that he has defined within his will to the best of her ability or otherwise suffer legal repercussions?

I turned in my final paperwork for my divorce on Sept. 28th the case is proceeding by default since my spouse has not responded to any of the paperwork, how long will it take or how long did it take for you to get final judgement signed by the judge. They said it will be mailed back to me. Also I am in California.

There is not another woman, I am pretty sure of it. When he decided to do this I was thrown for a loop. I mean I gave him plenty of outs before the baby. We talked about having a baby for 5 yrs. He is 42 and I am 30. I am crushed. I asked him why and he said he can't trust me anymore among other things. Ten dollars came up missing which I did not take but I wish I did now after all this.He said he has been feeling numb for months. I asked him last month if he was okay and still loved me, he said he was stressed but loved me?? We have been getting constant eviction notices. So I decided after he ended it to call his boss. He told me he was not getting paid and getting ripped off. So His boss read off every check he gave him and it added up to 12gs in 4 month our rent is 550 a month? I called him out on it and said the boss was lying but he is not willing to show me any thing to prove that. In fact he is hateful as hell. I caught him lying the other night about another phone a friend gave him for business. This was before we even broke up. So he was lying to me so why the hell is he blaming me for everything. A friend saw him parked outside the neighborhood and I called him asking where he was. He told me he was heading home, I then asked why was he parked outside the neighborhood. He flipped out, He said he was on the phone with a friend. I said well why did you park outside the neighborhood to talk? That is very suspicious.I found out it was to hide the other phone.WHY? He was on the phone with a mutual guy friend of our and talking about renting out his basement. I guess that was why but he doesn't want me to have the number cuz he is afraid I will track it?! I mean maybe there is another woman? Where did all that money go, his boss has no motives to lie to me. I think he feels guilty as hell for something and is projecting all his guilt onto me. He won't give me the other number and says he is abandoning me not our son? Why does he have to be so cruel??

Which was apparently linked to her birth control. I said I only would if he got a vasectomy, but he refuses. If you were me, would you let him guilt you into changing your birth control, or would you push him to make the big change?

I'm a retired and disabled vet in my early 40's. I've been legally married for 14 years, and I don't have any children. In April of 2014, I found out that my husband had been having a 2 year affair with a woman in her early 30's. We've been separated since my husband moved out 2 1/2 years ago. He left me because I couldn't give him the children that he's always wanted. His mistress on the other hand has given him 2 children in the last 2 1/2 years. My husband has asked me repeatedly to give him a divorce, and I have agreed multiple times. However, my husband wants all of the marital assets for himself, and I told him NO! We bought a house, started a successful business, and we have joint investments. I only want is rightfully mine, which is half of the marital assets. I'm not going to give him an uncontested divorce, because I will fight for what is rightfully mine. I've hired a lawyer, and now we can battle it out in court.

Is it misleading to your kids if you are too friendly with their father (your ex husband)? I co parent with my ex husband and we get along great and do activities together that involve our children. He never has the kids and takes them himself place, I am always with him. He also comes over to my house to hang out with him and does not take them to his place. We also do lunches together just the four of us. My son has recently asked me if we are getting back together. For the record I do not want to get back together with him. Am I being too friendly with my ex and should I have better boundaries? Is it misleading our children and giving them false hope?

He told me I'm very beautiful and he is disappointed that I'm married. I fantasize about him making love to me. My husband is willing to share me and is turned on by the idea. Should I even?

What if you weren't raised in your gender. Here me out before you move this to gender studies. What if you weren't raised to act according to culture in your gender - could you and your spouse function as "equals" then? I understand the idea of men and women being "equal" because there's this war going on between the sexes and we needed someone to come along and declare a winner. And rather than declaring a winner, we declared a tie - "Both things men and women contribute are important, therefore, men and women are equal"..... But this assumes you are acting out your role as your culturally assigned gender role. What if you don't believe in gender roles and your parents didn't either so they didn't teach you them? Now what? Could you and your spouse now be equal when you both are now doing the same things? If both people are in the kitchen cooking, one person is going to critique the other person on how they cook because they both are educated on it and they have BELIEFS on the "right way" to do it. One might not believe in using oils and the other might not believe in using PAM spray. Now you don't have equality, you have a competition! So how does anything get done when two "equals" are arguing over their teachings or over things that (culturally) they both shouldn't be educated on? You can't be equal to a person you're competing with (due to differing beliefs). So how does anything get done in this situation?

My husband and his friends will be going to the Pink Pony in Atlanta, GA. I heard many rumors that the strippers there will do anything for the money and I would like to know if this is true? I trust my husband but knowing some females are willing to do just about anything for extra money is quite upsetting. I would like to know any previous experiences and such. Thanks :)

I remember I had been drinking heavily, and wanted to express my love for her physically. She said "No, not right now please." And then I just blacked out and I don't know what happened after that. I remember some yelling. And I think there was some slapping involved. By slapping I mean where you take a closed hand and swing it until contact is made, in this case with her face. Betsy... I'm not saying it's right, not saying it's wrong. But at this point, I have to start thinking about my own self-preservation. I can make amends and do the apologies later. Mrs. Frankenstein. I didn't touch her head, just her face. Please don't jump to conclusions. Turned out I was remembering it all wrong. Wife came home and told me that after I blacked out I just mumbled something incoherent and fell asleep. Must have just dreamed the rest.

I ve been married almost a year and I find myself signing documents with my married last name. Just wanted to know if it s ok even though I haven t legally changed it on my license yet.

Just so everyone knows, my beliefs are constantly changing. I come on here to explain my current beliefs, not to troll everyone and contradict myself; that's why people who follow my stories are often confused, because I'll say one thing one week and something the opposite (when I get more information) another week. This wouldn't happen if my life was grounded in some formal structure like a religion or a culture, but it isn't so you have to deal with me coming back with different stories and just get over it..... Anyways. So, about following... It has been my observation that all of the happy marriages that I've seen in real life all have this in common - one or both spouses are "followers" instead of "leaders". If only one spouse is follower, then that person follows the other spouse OR they follow their religion/culture. If both spouses are followers, neither person is in charge and the family is just an extension of that religion/culture. Both of those examples lead to healthy, happy marriages because either one person is the overthinking and creative leader, or neither of them are and they are just doing as they're told by their religion/culture (sports and college are cultures). I have YET to see a marriage where both people were leaders, or rather strong personalities who didn't have submissive qualities, be happy or healthy. If you are in one, how does this dynamic function if neither of you can compromise or find a win/win? Do you do quid pro quo instead? By the way, let's make something clear --- You can be a follower and still an equal. You can also both be followers (Of God or some other cult) and still be equals to each other (since you both are equally worthless in the eyes of an almighty God or fairy tale creature). But when it comes to making decisions, just because you are a follower doesn't mean you'll do what you're told; submissive does not mean subservient.

Not that he wants a divorce, but that he NEEDS a divorce. Why would he say this?

@Autumn oh no nothing like that at all.

Hi. I am married to a man whose is from Country A* and I am from Country B, we got married in Country C and our daughter was born in Country D! (we travel a lot for his job) (four countries involved, a LOT of paperwork and legal stuff surrounding our lives and our daughter) etc. I am deeply unhappy in this "marriage" but after five years and following him around the world for his job and at great cost of my own development. I feel powerless and weak. The added dreadful part is that we are from different countries and our daughter is born in another. Getting a divorce and fighting for custody will turn all our lives upside down. It will be a lot more complicated and tremendously expensive trying to fight to keep our daughter with either one of us. I have no idea what to do. Is there anyone who has been through this? I don't even know what advice to ask for :( I am sorry. Just anything something that would help. Thank you in advance.

Well , me and my wife are 41 & 42 . I realise that making sex is losing its attraction day by day . I am willingful like I was 30 , but it is not the same for my wife. Any tips & advises to wake up our bed time ?

Recently iv been told by my husband that he has a gf which he has been taking my kids to see. Iv since seen a lawyer with costs a good bit! Right after his gf comes to our home and I come out flipping out telling Her to leave which she didn't want too! Eventually she did.. My kids where inside. This is so unfair I'm a stay at home mom with no income. What can I do:( how disrespectful and degrading to me. Esp in front of my kids 2 girls!

We don't get along well, its like north and south poles. we have 2 children from our marriage and they are the best gifts to us. First son was diagnosed as mild mental retardation, which has affected our social life, Otherwise also she is doesn't want to meet anyone or invite people. She is only interested in talking or inviting her family members. With others, I can see the interest is missing. Now a days we are not talking much as every conversations ends in an argument. She has lots of mood swings on a daily basis. Our sex life is ok but not great it will only happen with my initiative and very rare when she is cooperative. But after that she behaves as nothing has happened and goes back to normal ways which is like silent mode and critical. She keeps doubting me, keeps checking my phone. Even if I look at any women in the market or mall; even a look.. she starts questioning me if am having an affair with her…I don't understand this possesiveness. While watching TV If I change any channel to watch something else she starts arguing as to why I changed. I am frustrated and its effecting my work in office. I am a success at office but very unsuccessfull at home. I want to tell her about it but she never listens. When I come home, my children are very happy. We have even reached to a stage of sepration but I don't want this to happen. I don't want my children to suffer but how can I get her to behave normally. Please help… what should I do. please be my guiding force.

My ex bf randomly invited me to a concert and a overnight stay at a hotel with another invite to join him at a football game the next day. I was apprehensive at first, well, all along really but I still cared for him so I was a little excited too. I've had feelings for him for a while still but he didn't seem to feel the same way so this was kind of odd that he invited me along in the first place. From the moment I parked my car and stepped inside his truck he started insulting me. He made fun of my hair color he made fun of the way it was styled - he made fun of my clothes. He picked me apart about my nail polish - he said I was fat- he would squint his eyes and look at me from head to toe as if scanning me .He had this horrible look on his face like he was totally disgusted. He texted other women all night at the concert and didn't even acknowledge me. When the concert was over he didn't walk along side me but ahead of me and never looked back once to make sure I was keeping up. He continued to throw up the fact that I had a free concert and ballgame coming up the next day.Once at the hotel he continued his hateful insults and I was just ready to go home. He tried to have sex with me but I refused and he turned over in bed and told me not to touch him. He made fun of me all night. I was about 2 hours from home and stuck. I found someone to come get me the next morning about 6 and they arrived at 8. I left him there but I still feel hurt and paranoid about my appearance

Not long ago, my husband lost someone he loved. Well my little sister is in college studying psychology. Yesterday, she asked me how my husband is grieving. I didn't really answer her as I felt that was too private. To be honest, my husband had a break down laying in bed the night before last. Like really cried. Broke my heart : ( Of course, I held and comforted him. But that was in the privacy of our bedroom. Am I being overprotective or too hesitant ?

when someone gets married i usually hear something along this "mr. and mrs. husband's first name smith" why??

I've been thinking about going back to school to become a chef but my husband wants me home taking care of our child. i'm ok with it but he has started talking about having an child and then after our second child goes to school I can return. is this a good idea or should I just go to school once my first child starts school and whenever I become pregnant again I can stop and return again. id like to do something with my life and taking care of my child is nice but like to do this you know? any advice thanks!

When my husband and I were dating he used to go out and I didn't mind but now that we're married he goes out not as much as he used to but he still does. He goes out with his guy friends to just chill and have a cold one. It erks me so bad because I just stay home bored out of my mind and I don't really like going out without him. Does he enjoy being/ going out alone?

Let's say me and my husband are obese and unattractive, and we live in a crappy trailer park. I win a lot of money one day. I use that money to lose 200 pounds and have plastic surgery. I look like a super model. The husband is too lazy to lose weight.. What would you say if I divorce my spouse and a hook up with a hot slim person in Hollywood? Would you do the same? In other words, once you become slim and hot, would you ditch your husband and have fun with your new body?

I am 42, from Canada, and Natalia is 37, from Kiev Ukraine. She's very beautiful, tall and slender. We met on a foreign dating site (free) and she told me that she's searching for a foreign husband and would like to get married. Foolishly I said "YEAH, SURE, LET GET MARRIED", thinking it was just a joke. But she's really serious, she wants me to come to Kiev, meet her or a few weeks so we can date and get to know each other, then get married so she can come here to Canada and live with me here. While its nice to have a friend, I'm not interested in sex at all, I'm celibate and prefer it that way, but I still like to go out with the women and have fun seeing a movie once in a while. Natalia told me that she doesn't want children and she's not seeking a sexual relationship so that makes 2 of us. But its going to cost me around $10,000 per year extra just to support someone else to live with me. If I don't get any kids or sex out of the relationship, and all I'm getting is a new friend, is it worth the huge expense? Ukrainian economy is really a mess right now, she's only earning $160 a month to live on and from that she has to pay $100 just for her flat in Kiev. Imagine living on only $60 per month; that's her life right now. Do you feel I should I go through so much trouble and expense just to give another lady a new life her in a better country, so she can get her new citizenship here and not suffer ? If you are a guy, would YOU do it? And why? I don't mind her leaving me after she gets her citizenship, I would actually PREFER it that way because then I don't have to keep supporting her financially. See, here in Canada there no 'Alimony', I only have to support her for the half the number of years as when we were married 'AFTER' she obtains her citizenship. So if she lives with me for two years after she gets her citizenship then I only support her for one year after we get divorced, then I'm free and clear. I have no assets to split. I rent a house, so she won't get the house either. In other words, I can help a lady out yet I don't have to worry about getting ruined in divorce courts. So its kind of 'cool' to help a lady in need like this, is it not?

I'm certainly not going to kill him, my freedom means too much to me. Plus, I couldn't do it. This man has caused me such trouble with my daughter from custody battles to even continuing causing trouble now that's she grown. I can't help but wish he'd just die; many other people have to die, and I know I would celebrate if he did. I know it's awful because it would hurt my daughter, but I just can't help how I feel. Pray for me if you if you are the praying type. I wish I didn't feel this way!! Sometimes someone can push you so much you see this as a way they can't hurt you anymore. He put me through a custody battle and then never saw her for years once she was with me. I never kept him from her. Looks like this was put in the wrong category. It was supposed to go into marriage and divorce. Thanks for your replies though. I will go back to counseling because I don't want to feel like this.