Family: Question: Can a mom hit her adult child?

Question: Can a mom hit her adult child?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 01:23 PM PDT

My mom is very violent towards me, my father, and my pet turtle. She has rage issues and she doesn't want to get help. Let me explain my mother went nuts because my father cheated on her for a year and now so she has lots of anger and paranoia of where is he why does he take a long time to get home from work and some days ago i locked her outside of the home so she could talk it out with my dad. And since she threatned me saying if i didnt open up she will kill my turtle. So i opened the door and she got my clets shoes and began betting me all over with the shoe. So i beat the crap out of her in self defense which i think is legal. And she got upset and beat me with a directv remote across the eye and inwear glasses and she left me with blood and a scar on my right side of my eyelid. She told me i have to abide her rules even get hit or move out is this is even legal. Just because she mad at my dad doesnt mean she has to take it out on me. I have no car and no money and no job so i cant move out and i have no family who wants me. Im 18 years old. Look at my scar .

Question: Is it weird that im 15 and i still call my dad, daddy?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 01:15 PM PDT

My dad left my mom when i was only 8, i went years with out seeing him. My dad is now becoming a bigger part of my life and i spend quite a bit of time with him. He still calls me his baby girl and i still call him daddy. My mom says that im to old to be calling him daddy and its inappropriate. I kinda agree with her but i have it drilled into my head that daddy is his name even tho i know its not. My dads friends laugh when i call my dad, daddy, but i think its because there just a bunch of perverted a$$holes. But honestly do yall think its weird that i still call my dad, daddy?

Question: Is my father a douchebag?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 12:39 PM PDT

a bit of my father, he's a book worm. He did nothing but reading books and he never really had a business before. And now I have my own business and he said "you are not making any progress with your business" huh! what kind of father would talk down to a son? Only a douchebag like him who knows nothing but sleeping all day now (he is doing nothing now) and he never had any business before and he's being a smart ***! My shop is still in business after 7 years. How am I not making any progress? I can still pay for the bills and order new items after 7 years!!!

Question: Does this sound like forced masculinity?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 12:11 PM PDT

A father now becomes even more inclined at bossing, scolding and blaming me for everything around the home where he would also try to make me eat foods high in protein during such treatment. He may also be easily agitated towards me while he is generally more softer towards my teen siblings and violent macho 27-year-old brother. He has also blacklisted me from events that inform people about the latest trends, hairstyles and events ever since he took my siblings and violent macho brother to such event. I was always more of the self-conscious, non-violent, introverted type of guy. I feel very conflicted.

Question: Is it wrong to feel hurt?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 12:06 PM PDT

My sister is having her 7th child, despite having no money 40k a year. When she bought a house my parents bought her a new stainless refrigerator and helped with the down payment. They are constantly doing things for her. Buying the kids things, fixing appliances and cars her husband can t fix. They even gave her husband an electric car. And purchased my grandmother a house. They have never come to see my son. We moved closer to them a 2,000 mile move because my mom promised she would visit. My family is the only reason we moved. She never came to visit in this last year despite (2 hour plane ride). We don't like where we moved, but we re stuck because of the job. I asked if they would let us borrow $5,000 to purchase a home, as that what we were missing, they said no and made fun of it being a townhome. For 4 years of my marriage my mom called everyday to see if we were going to move closer. Once I asked if she wanted us to move closer than perhaps she could let us live in Grandma s house fot nominal rent, she said. I took care of my mom because of her chronic fatigue and different surgeries all through college. We are now buying a house and are using ALL our money (lost a lot from moving here) but we only need help with a washer and dryer and it would be nice for a computer so my husband can work from home. They know we need money but never offered, and I know to never ask. Is it wrong to feel hurt? All the promises? No one will even visit my son who is now 2.

Question: How do I tell my Muslim parents that I'm an Atheist?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 11:55 AM PDT

I'm only 14 now but when I'm older I'm moving to California to live a new life. I don't want to hide the fact that I don't have a religion when I'm older so that I don't act fake in front of my family. I have to tell them eventually, but I don't know how. I know that they'll be disappointed. It'll be easier when I'm an adult and living without them because they have less control over me.

Question: Please help this is urgent?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 11:49 AM PDT

So me and this girl have had a thing for about a month now and neither of our parents know about it. My parents are divorced and I m at my moms house this week. However, my dad is out of town all week, and because of this I was going to take her to my dads house later today so we could hang out just by ourselves for a little while. Unfortunately, my mom has the find my iPHONE apps and can track my location (which she does all the time). Basically what I m asking is for one of you lovely people out there to help me formulate an excuse to tell my mom as to why I was just hanging out at my dads for no reason for a few hours. My dad has asked me to feed the cats but that doesn t give me an excuse to stay there for that long of a time. Any and all help is appreciated, thanks.

Question: Parents, do you allow your teen's significant others in their rooms? Teens, do your parents allow significant others in your rooms?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 11:48 AM PDT

Hi, I'm 17 years old and I have quite the unusual dilemma. There's a camera in my living room that goes straight to an app on my dad's cellphone. He claims that it's only for the event that an intruder or burglar comes into our house, but that's not a common issue in our neighborhood. The camera not only makes me uncomfortable, it makes my friends uncomfortable. It feels like we're constantly watched. This is completely abnormal and is also a violation of my privacy. What if I'm running late and I'm changing clothes as I run down the stairs or what if I got out the shower and went down to get something, only for my towel to accidentally come off? Another dilemma is that I'm almost a legal adult and my father still doesn't allow my significant other in my room even with the door open. My significant and I have been together a while and my dad knows that we have sex and doesn't mind as long as it's not in the house. I don't get that? He brings over random women all the time and sleeps with them while I'm home so why can't I have someone that I've been committed to for a while to just sit in my room? It's not even a matter of my significant other and I having sex, I just hate feeling like I'm being watched all the time.

Question: How do I tell my dad I don t care about him?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 11:41 AM PDT

My dad is a very kind and loving person, but he doesn t seem to grasp the concept that I don t care about him. I don t want him to waste time on me, but I feel like if I could he d be able to move on. So how do I do it? Be to the point or ease into it?

Question: I HATE MY FATHER!! And I'm starting to hate all men?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 11:28 AM PDT

I'm a 19 year old girl and my father used to always curse my mom out for the smallest things and would force her to pick up heavy things knowing she had severe pain and muscle spasms. He always called her names and used to beat her. He also beat and abused my little sister as a baby. My mother would constantly get away but somehow my dad would always find his way back into her life. Now she has heart disease, diabetes, and depression and he's in wonderful perfect health. My mother is always living in fear and now my dad acts less abusive but on the inside he knows he caused all the things wrong with my mom. He never let her eat anything healthy. Any time she would he would curse at her or throw healthy food on the ground or eat it himself. It is almosts sickening. I hate my dad so much and I feel like I would never love a man because I would get treated the same way OR WILL END UP WITH THE SAME TYPE OF GUY. I feel like no one my age or any of my friends feels depressed all the time the way I do. Can someone give me advice or something. Also why do people like my dad so such things. Why can't they let other peopple be happy? Why must they treat others like dirt. There is an endless list of things that my dad has done to my mother and my siblings. He used to beat my mom so her dad would give him money. When that wouldnt happen he would beat her more. He turned her into a living corpse.

Question: Is it a good idea to travel to desired world locations before having children?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 11:17 AM PDT

children are known to "tie down" their parents from doing things they always wanted to do. However, maybe some of you could shed light on the the contrary.

Question: Hey, I need suggestions for gifts to buy my little brother and sister. Brother: 6yrs Sister: 12?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 11:08 AM PDT

Question: The women on my birth certificate is not the same person as my mother, should i be worried or dig into this?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 10:59 AM PDT

So a few hours ago my mom sent me to her room so that I can get something out of her purse, and while digging through it I found a folded up piece of paper . Since I was bored, and was in no rush I checked it out. While reading it to pass the time I found it strange that my moms name is missing on it, and than looking at it more closely I found a different persons name as my mother who is a few years younger than my mom(54-56), the women(49-50). I checked if it really was my birth certificate, and after confirming it was right now i don t know what i should do and why i never heard of this. I never knew my father and figured I will look into it later in life, but now this info about how my mom might not be my biological mother is confusing me and also making me afraid that asking her would hurt her feelings/plus embarrass myself in the process if i m wrong (could be she changed her name or something). Side note: I love my mom and wouldn t think less of her, but i would want to know who this other women really is and why she is signed as my mother.

Question: Parents, do you see any reason why my parents are forcing masculinity in me like this?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 10:49 AM PDT

Parents took my teen siblings and violent macho brother (aged 27) to an event that makes males metrosexual while also informing them of the latest trends, hairstyles and dance moves. But now my parents have decided to have me excluded from such things since the violent macho brother has changed and where they want to force me to being macho as a result of him changing. I noticed my dad now being more inclined at bossing scolding and blaming me for things around the home while also trying to make me eat foods high in protein in the hopes I would become some agitated bulky person. And to make things worse, my mum says things like "you don't need to attend", "you're so vain" and "you can never get that idea out of your head" Here's the thing, I was always more of the self-conscious type person that had acceptance and adherence as part of my personality well before my siblings attended such event.

Question: How to sleep train a baby that will just suck on fingers if we take paci away?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 10:45 AM PDT

Question: My much older "cousin" tried to hit on me last night. Help!?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 10:41 AM PDT

He isn't really my cousin but he's a close friend of the family and has always been like a cousin to me and a nephew to my mom. He's in his early 40's and I'm 22. Last night he commented on one of my Facebook pictures that I look sexy in it. Then he told me that it was a good thing we weren't truly related. I didn't know what to say so I didn't say anything at all. I'm very uncomfortable now and the respect that I had for him is gone. How do I handle this? Thanks!

Question: I slapped my mom because she wont let me achieve my dream?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 10:32 AM PDT

Hi everyone, I need help. This is my story: I m 13 years old and I ve been always dreaming to fly like Superman. I believe theres a way to fly, not like most people tell us we can t. I think nothing, nothing is impossible. I think every thing can be achieved by having FAITH. So I decided to train myself really hardd. These are signs that prove i was right! After 1month training, I notice that my feet are lighter, my body moves faster, and I can make a double jump very easily. I feel I m like a bird right now. At this rate I believe it will take me one more year to be able to fly. I m thinking about droping out of school and focus just on this. But here s the problem: my parents don t let me do that! They really don t understand anything no matter how hard I explain to them. It s been about 4 months we re arguing about this stuff and I couldn t stand anymore. Yesterday my mother and I were arguing very intensively and I slapped her in the face because she kept saying I m crazy! then I immidiately left home after that. Right now Im a friend s house. I tried to convince my friend to do the same but he refused and told me I need a therapist. In this moment, I really wanna go home but I cant if they dont allow me to do what I want to do. WHAT SHOULD I DO TO CONVINCE THEM? Please help

Question: How to last long as possible in bed?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 10:14 AM PDT

I'm an 18 year old boy who hasen't had a lot of sexual experience what so ever. I have had sex once with two different partners but I would hardly call it sex, when I put the condom on I immidietly went soft and it wasn't pleasurable at all, so I haven't really went all the way legitimately. And normally when I masturbate, I climax within minutes. I just want to be prepared next time but I'm afraid the same thing will happen like last time and I'm also afraid that I will climax within minutes, not satisfying her what so ever. So I m wondering, are there any tips to try so I can last longer in bed? I just don't want to feel embarrassed or make a fool out of myself...

Question: My brother is my best friend. Is that normal among siblings?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 10:03 AM PDT

I'm at college and still living with my mum, and although I have a lot of friends, I just think it's slightly different. They don't know me or care about me as much as my brother - he helped me through bad times and has always been there for me. Everything in my life is great, and I have him to thank for so much of that. We're really close and he understands me better than anyone. My friends claim to love me but they are always busy and only ever talk about themselves or their boyfriends. I have a close relationship with my mum but she doesn't like my make up, hair or how I dress... it feels like I can't do anything right. I'd have liked a sister but my brother kind of fills that void.

Question: I live with hogs, they just went through 48 snack cakes in 2 days and always go through 12 pack dr peppers in one day, what would you do?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 09:59 AM PDT

Its my husband and 2 sons ages 22 and 23 who are doing it. We can't invite people over for thanksgiving because the 3 of them eat up all the food so there is nothing left to share.

Question: Anyone else pissed about their childhood?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 09:27 AM PDT

my parents never took us on trips, my dad promised me 100's of times to take my to baseball games/races/football games, never did. they would blame it on money, but the thing is, I work with TONS of poor people who leave on the weekends to disneyland or hell, even a camping trip, but my folks never did anything like that for us. My girlfriend grew up poor, but her family went EVERYWHERE, so I think my parents didnt like to be around us. We went to disneyland when I was 20, and I thought "wish I came here as a kid" im using the disneyland as an example, my dad never played catch with me, or talked to me.. my mom was the same way, I was basically an adult at 5.

Question: HELP ME PLEASE?!!!!?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 09:11 AM PDT

Okay I am having trouble focusing on my work. It's just that are have been things on my mind that keep me from paying attention to school work. I have family in Utah and mean all of my whole family is down there and I'm in New Mexico. I miss dearly and I have been worrying for them for so long, I have been able to them on the weekends and that's it, I miss them so much that some times I cry for them. I have no family members to talk to. I need someone to help me with my problems, I don't want to talk to my friend about it because then she would start to worry for me. I'm depress for no reason, I try to find a reason, but nothing. My family means so much to me, I have been able to talk to them some times on the phone, but in person. I need help to get this off my mind, it's driving me crazy. Please Help. Please help me. I'm literally about to cry and I don't to cry in class. Can anybody give me any advice, it's driving me insane. I really need to get this stuff off my chest, but every time I try, it comes back and I feel depress even more. I can't understand why this is happening to me and only me. None this ever happens to my other siblings, it's like it does;t bother them or something else. I tried very hard to try to not worry about them, but I get depress, more and more and more, when I even try to forget about for just ten seconds. I REALLY need help please. I'm literally about to cry. I lost both of my grandfathers and it's getting to me. It feels like my heart is empty. help me please. I try to focus on my work. Today is the day that I lost one of my grandfathers. He passed away when I was a baby. It's hard for me focus when today was the day he passed away.

Question: My life is over. Help me?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 09:11 AM PDT

Alright, please read this and tell me what to do, thanks. Im 14, female. First of all, I got caught smoking cigs. My dad called the police on me, and had a court date arranged. He's trying to put me juveniel detention, or just trying to get me in trouble with the popo. He also looked through my phone and found out that I snuck out with these guys in their car. So now, he sold my phone. He won't let me even step foot out of my house, unless I'm going to school. And I can't have friends over, or go anywhere. So basically, I'm stuck here in my room for the next 3 months when all of this passes over. I also reported my dad for abuse at my school. If he's trying to get me in jail, then **** it, I'm going to get him in trouble too. And its true, he does hit me occasionally. Anyway, Halloween is coming up, and I'm a HUGE halloween fan. Like, Halloween is the most best day of the entire year, and I've been counting down the days to halloween for so long. And now, I don't think he'll let me go trick or treating with my friends this year. What do i do??? He doesn't even let me talk to him, he said he's completely given up on me and that I'm not his daughter anymore. So, what do i do? I can't spend the next 3 months of my life sitting in my room.

Question: I live in a small town and I hate it, what can I do?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 08:42 AM PDT

I live in a small town where there is only 5,000 people. At least half, if not more, of the population is elders. The only thing to do to meet friends is school and church. I'm homeschooled and even if I did go to school here they have such bad ratings. I'm also an atheist. So, church is out. I have one person, and one person only, that is an acquaintance. She is always busy with school, church, family, vacations and friends so we never get to know each other or be friends. I have no way to meet friends or have a social life. I want something to do so badly, for months I stay I'm the house and do nothing, only go outside. We don't have a lot of money so vacations aren't an option right now and they rarely happen. What to do??

Question: Im 16 i have a brother that goes in a different school can his dad put me a restraint order to not visit my brother at his school?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 08:24 AM PDT

Question: What do you do when you realize that your marriage (and family) is based on low hanging fruits (things that don't take much effort)?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 08:22 AM PDT

Besides my realization that I'm no longer a kid this morning, there's this other "issue" I'm still trying to tackle - Motivation. I'm going to be completely honest with all of you, I am the least motivated person in the family. I take the easy meal, the easy job, the easy work, the easy everything. I'm not lazy, I just don't have very high skills or talents other than my computer skills. My parents didn't care about building skills, they were people who took the easy meal, the easy job, the easy work, the easy everything too. We didn't have a culture of "good things only come to those who work for them" in our house; we had a culture of "do good to others and others will do good to you" in our house and we believed that we would have good things coming our way just because we weren't "bad". I realize now (33 years later) that this is not how the world works... So when you realize that everyone in your family are people who take the easy route and not the meaningful, challenging, and enriching route, how do you motivate them to make a change when they have resistance to challenges? Example: I want to learn how to love my wife, but it requires a skill level of 100 and I have a skill level of 20. How do I motivate myself to level up if I can't visualize that the means justify the extremes? (Look inside question for comments on your answers) Mind you, I'm not BLAMING MY PARENTS for my faults. I'm explaining that I haven't rebelled against them because I didn't see a reason to. Why would I rebel when it was working just fine their way? So I thought taking on their culture would result in my own happiness; but I think this low hanging fruit thing is a serious problem. And I don't have ANY role models to model after to fix this... NONE.

Question: Girls, my dad and I are the biggest idiots ever! We let this girl talk us into doing something dumb! Now we need your help. Please!?!?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 07:51 AM PDT

Hey girls whats up. I'm Chris and I'm 23 and my dad is 55. We were over at our neighbor Elizabeth's (she's 36) just hanging out. Elizabeth is soo hot, gorgeous, and pretty. Well she was saying she was bored and before we knew it she was able to talk my dad and I both into trying on a pair of her skinny jeans. Elizabeth is pretty skinny so once we put them on they were super tight on my dad and I. After we put them on she had us pose together for a picture. That's when she said she was going to put it on Facebook. My dad and I panicked and we pleaded with her not to. She said she wouldn't on one condition. My dad and I had to keep the skinny jeans on for her for the next hour and make her laugh none stop but if we didn't make her laugh the pics were going on Facebook. We had no choice but to agree. Here's where we need your girls help. We need you to help us by giving us ideas of things to do that would make you laugh if you saw a guy doing them. So please answer our questions for you below.. 1) What are thing we could do while wearing her skinny jeans that you think may make her laugh?? Remember, we need to cover an entire hour 2) My dad and I want your opinion on a couple of ideas we've already thought of to see if you'd think they would work. Do you think doing ballet or slow dancing together would work?? Please help us out girls. I'm so mad that we even put ourselves in this position :(

Question: How to deal with my mom disowning me?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 07:43 AM PDT

So I live with my mom or I did. I was so depressed, just because I felt so alone. She kept me so isolated from anyone. I couldn t make her proud. & ecspecially with my new stepdad, but I won t go into detail. My friends. Family. My Dad. For the past two years, I ve wanted to get out. To start over & get a job. I ve ran away countless times. I just turned 18, so I went to my Dad s. I live here now. In a couple days of being here, I enrolled in a new school & filled out several job applications. I m doing good so far, & I m slowly making friends. My mom hasn t talked to me.. Didn t even tell me happy birthday.. I ve been so upset lately. Idk whether to talk to her or not. I want her in my life & I never did this intentionally. I just wanted to feel wanted & loved. If anyone could give me some advice here, I d appreciate it so much.

Question: Advice on how to move out at 18?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 07:40 AM PDT

Alright so I'm currently 18 years old and a Senior in High School, I'm turning 19 this November. I've realized over time that I absolutely cannot live with my mother, I've tried countless times to change for her but every time I do it's never enough. My 26 year old sister and I have come to the conclusion that she is a narcissist. Which if any of you guys have experienced living with it's terrible, even my father wants to divorce her once he's more stable. I love her but I need to do my own thing, living with her gives me anxiety. I live in NY and I've realized the job market is competitive and to top it off rent and an overall lifestyle here is expensive. I was wondering if anyone knew any good paying jobs? My plan is to work monday-friday after school and even past 12pm if I have to. Save up and hopefully (god willingly) move out by next summer. If I can find a roommate that would be amazing and way more cheaper for me, so that's on my plans too. Thank you so much guys!

Question: Issues with manager..need advice!!!?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 07:22 AM PDT

I am chosen for a US project and ia required to travel on October 31st However after reaching there I am supposed to share room with a female. She is very sweet but I need some privacy due to my health issues l which will certainly be a problem for my room mate.I have OCD for cleanliness and hyperallergic to unclean toilet seats..I succumbed to urinary infection thrice this year due to my travels. Keeping this in mind I asked my manager for a single room .At first he said yes but later resented telling he can't be lenient to one person alone. I talked to my team mates and all are fine with me having a single room. I asked my manager again telling that my projectmates have given me the consent for single occupancy.He again resented and shouted at me.I asked him very politely if is possible to cancel my travel plan as tickets are yet to be booked. So he started shouting and yelling at me if I am threatening him. Ifelt so bad and asked him politely to reconsider his plans.He told he had input so much money on me.for which I told,I already had a visa before coming to the project. He again shouted at me and yelled telling he may have to reconsider everything and there is so much approvals involved for a single occupancy..and angrily left.Am I to blame or is he overreacting despite having good funds in the project? How can I face him with confidence tomorrow as I am basically an amicable person and hates quarrels and chaos. I am hurt and diffident...Can someone advice me?

Question: Can I get some needed encouragement and advice please?? I'm under pressure and stressed the hell out.?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 06:58 AM PDT

Question: I was betrayed?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 06:16 AM PDT

my mum helped get a gift for dad's birthday and i gave it to him but when they were in their room alone she told him she bought it so i need to get him another present and i am only a student my budget is limited i have like 8 dollars so what do i get him please help me we agreed that i'll be giving him the gift but then she breaks the deal ?

Question: How can I stop blaming myself for my parents divorcing when I was a kid?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 06:06 AM PDT

My parents divorced when I was 9 and they say it was to protect my two siblings and I from their dysfunctional marriage. I took this to mean it was my fault and my siblings since they would have stayed married otherwise. My mother's family objected to the divorce (my mother was the one who called it quits as my father wanted to keep trying) and so I figure they all must look down on me as the one who caused the divorce. It is now 16 years later, how can I get over this as a party of me sees it is my mother's doing (and maybe father also) but another part of me feels shame that my existence caused it.

Question: How do I get my step dad to shut up about me moving out?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 05:22 AM PDT

I am moving out in a few weeks and my step dad keeps muttering under his breath comments about me moving. He keeps influencing my mom that its a bad idea. If I try talking to him about it or ask him to stop nicely he flips out and continues to talk about me only on how I wont get a job if I talk back to people. I have a job now and ready same with my new apt but he will not shut up and will get mad at me easy. any devise?

Question: How do I keep my Dad from getting intoxicated this weekend when my sister is home from college?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 04:56 AM PDT

I don't mind so much when he drinks but my sister does. My mother told me she'd be angry if I let him get drunk this weekend so I wondered what I can do to stop him from it. He has been an alcoholic most my life and it worsened a lot after my brother died 6 years ago. So what can I do to fulfill my mother's demand that I keep him from drinking this weekend? I got in trouble last time because I wasn't able to and it wrecked my sister's birthday. Any ideas?

Question: How to explain sickness to parents?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 04:47 AM PDT

Yesterday I took the PSAT, and just a few minites ago my brother left for school without me (he drives). My mom works late hours, and immediately after getting home from school (brother had to make up a Calculus test so we left at 3:30 instead of 2:30) I fell asleep and didn t wake up until after my mom got home, so then I snuck downstairs and got some food, but I m positive she noticed me. Right now I feel like I have a headache (but it could be because I m hiding over my blankets), but I m not really sick. I have faked sick before qnd gotten away with it, but I don t known how lenient my mom will be because I have a history of lying about it. My dad left for work before my brother left for school, but he s kind of a jerk and won t cover for me... I think the school will send a pre recorded message about my absence later in the morning. I m asian, if that makes much of a difference. Do you think my mom will call my bluff and make me go to school? Should I even leave my room and let her know I m there, with the chance she ll get notified by the school? She s been very angry at me in the past when I ve stayed home, from mild sickness and lack of sleep... Any advice?

Question: Parents open marriage 10 points?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 04:44 AM PDT

okay so like ive been watching south park episodes and like theres these characters that like are parents and like they have an open marriage as in like they don't mind sleeping with other people and doing that kind of stuff now in reality i did research and it's actually a thing and how do parents that have kids who are at a young age decide to have an open marriage and do that kind of stuff with strangers or other people and like what i find gross about it is how the heck do people that do that kind of stuff touch the food and feed it to your family or kiss your family members on the cheek with that type of mouth personally i thought marriage was supposed to be monogamous and sanitary but i just don't see how people can do that what do you people think and also i believe it's a bad influence too 10 points for the most best detailed answer and opinion ever. @pick this i actually did use the period once but whatever i can tell you're not afraid at being a dead beat person .

Question: How to lie to my mom?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 04:12 AM PDT

It's now 13am and I didn't go to school today because of a 'big test'. I'm now in my bedroom and i really don't know how to go downstairs and say to my mom why I didn't go today. If i tell her that we had a big test today, she would yell at me and say some bad words(swore) What should i do? Please help me!!

Question: I want to go on a trip abroad but my parents will disapprove. What excuses can I use?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 03:45 AM PDT

So, I'm an adult and I'm studying computer engineering away from my hometown. My parents send me money every month, I'm in a long distance relationship and I have saved up enough to visit my girlfriend who lives in another country. I know that being an adult and having money I can go without my parents permission but I know they'll disapprove heavily which will only throw me deeper into my terrible mental state. I really need to see my girlfriend but I can't tell them that because I am a girl myself and they're extremely homophobic. I need ideas on good excuses for what reason I could have to go abroad for a few days, or even better, is there any way to completely hide this trip from them? Note that they call me on the phone many times every day and if I go on a trip abroad I won't be able to pick up the phone as it is really expensive this way. Any ideas? Ι literally can't tell them the truth. I have reasons to be worried about my physical health if my parents find out now. Yes I plan to take my relationship to the next level once I'm done with university, I'll move in with my girlfriend abroad and I'll tell them from there. If they are as negative and threatening as I expect, I'll cut all contact with them.

Question: How to get my mobile back and how to deal with one more problem? part 4?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 03:41 AM PDT

My mother is strictly denying my father to return me my phone because of that boy. Please I want my phone back. (For more details, please she part 1,2 and 3 of these question).Without these 3 parts you will not get to know that what exactly happened.

Question: I used my dad's debit card?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 03:34 AM PDT

It's not technically stealing, my dad lets me use it of course. But a few months ago my parents opened up a bank account for me and got me my own. I somehow lost my own debit card, and for some reason I felt like whatever I needed to buy on the Internet that day was so important that it couldn't wait until after I found the card, so I used my dad's. Yeah that wasn't the best idea. It asked for the billing address so would they like send a bill home saying I bought something? I know I said I'm allowed to use his card but I have my own so if they get a bill saying it, my parents are obviously gonna find out and they're going to question why I used his instead of mine. And then they'll start lecturing me about how I should keep better care of my debit card and so on. I think that all his payments go on a bill at the end of the month? My dad usually overlooks the bill so yeah. I didn't spend that much just like $30 worth...and on a day where he bought a lot of things himself. Do you think he'll notice?

Question: What should I do. Just need an outsiders opinion.?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 03:32 AM PDT

Hello, I am in a situation where I just need some input from an outsiders perspective. I currently live in Michigan with my fiance of 5 years. We live with my mother, dad, and grandfather. My fiance and I have been offered the option to move back to New York (where we are both from) because her mom recently passed away. So we have the option to take over her mother's house, which I have been very much on board with thus far. We currently live with my parents because I was in school. I have finished school and have gotten a good job in my field of work and have a great reputation in the area that I am currently in (michigan). My grandfather's health has recently taken a turn for the worse, with his health and mental state rapidly deteroriating. My mother is his sole caregiver and the rest of us in the home help when we are not working. You can tell this is taking a tole on my mother. Now please don't just say put him in a home because we are the type of family that wants to keep my grandfather at home. He is also a very independent man, even tho he is having trouble with this now, and wants to do things on his own. He can no longer get around as well as he used to, he is unable to drive now he is falling alot and it is a chore to get him to eat or take his medications. I am beginning to question whether the move to new York is a good idea for me or if I should stay here to help my mother as much as I can. I am fearful that I may lose my relationship if I choose not to move.

Question: Jack off to sister's Shoes?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 02:49 AM PDT

i wanna say my big sister and i are best friends and are very close but this is my secret and i want to know if i am wrong/pervert or even normal okay i am a 15 year old male and my sister is 17 and in collage meaning she doesn't have school uniform and the last few months i have started to use my Sister's pair of T-Bar school shoes because i have a foot fetish and she hasn't used the shoes in about 10 months to fap my d*** by simulating a Foot job or sniffing the shoes, and sometimes even worship the shoe by sniffing and licking the top area where the toes are, and i got aroused because the shoe's smell would of gotten the smell of my sister's feet. the last few weeks i have been dreaming about her wearing the shoes and waking up fantasizing about her feet and being turned on and i wake up with wood and turned on by the dream... i have also started to take the shoes with me to school which they are hidden in my pencil case 24/7 WITH A LOCK and take them so school in my bag. and in the night i kinda like to wear them when i am alone in my room :/

Question: Tons of stress and pressure while being in the same room as my father. Or while being in a different room as my father is in the same house?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 02:47 AM PDT

I am a 20 year old male who lives with my father, and sometimes my mother (my mother and father got divorced several years ago. My father's personality is generally pretty aloof, a good father, not very intimate, pretty cold in how he communicates, incredibly strict (but also very lenient, and understanding), although he analyzes every single thing he notices that I do around him, and it drains the hell out of me. He over analyzes every possible thing in the same area he is in. He is 49 years old now, and was a cop for over 20 years. (He's now retired and lives home on a pension while taking care of everything in the house). Everytime I decide to have a conversation with him- I always walk away feeling uneasy after the conversation we had because of how crudely pessimistic he acts all the time. I can't even walk in the same room as him without feeling drained or full of worry, because of how scrutinizing he is. He judges how I do things, and judges pretty much everything I do, and how I do them, then when I complain about him judging, he says "I'm just trying to teach you how to do things the "right" way", in a stern tone as if I did something wrong by complaining how scrutinizing he constantly is. He generally acts very pessimistic and judge-mental with everything, and everyone. I hate it. I wish my father's "personality" or whatever it is changes for the better. Might I also add that it's not easy being me, since I suffer from pretty bad social anxiety & agoraphobia, and aspergers with a history of depression, along with pretty bad OCD and A.D.D, of which I will overcome on my own, no matter how much I may suffer in the process of doing so. (So before someone thinks about responding to this by saying "Grow up, you're 20"- understand that I have more of a burden to deal with right now, until I get it all under control. As much as I hate to use it as a 'crutch'- it's still a load of things that make my life that much more difficult. I also know that I will overcome it all with time. But for now, I can take advantage of is living with my parent(s) no matter how old I am while I get my own obstacles under control. right now, while I voice out to yahoo about how my father and I work together.

Question: How can I stop being so annoying?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 12:34 AM PDT

I talk too much to my dad since I'm home alone all day and he's the only human I see everyday. I call my grandma like twice a week and text my mom three times a week or so. I'm always asking my cousin if I can talk to her on the phone even though she's busy with school. How can I stop being so annoying and bothering everyone? I'd like to just be able to stay in my room, do my homeschool, then watch TV all day. But I get bored easily so I go and bother everyone even though I don't try to.

Question: Need help with little brother after trauma he went through?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 12:31 AM PDT

This is not a long term help question. We're gonna send him to talk to someone. I just need help now because he can't sleep and he's visibly shaken and I want to help calm him a little. There are some bullies in school that are picking on him and today they hit him a few times and then duct taped his hands behind him to a pole in the locker room and left him there for hours until my friends found him after school. I've talked with the principle and the police, so things are gonna be handled with the boys who hurt him. It's almost one in the morning and he can't sleep. Right now my other brother is with him and is trying to calm him, but we're not sure what to do. I just need something for right now to at least help ease some of his anxiety. This poor kid has been through so much and just needs a break. Do you have any suggestions on how my brother and I can help him right now? Our parents are coming back from a business trip, so they're not home yet to help.

Question: Im 23 living with my parents?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 12:29 AM PDT

like i said im 23 living with my parents the idea of me moving out just really annoys my mother i just think its a bit unhealthy she says if i attempt to move in with my boyfriend or live alone she will hunt me down she has these negative things she does whenever i would bring any friend home she would either compare me to them or tell them to put some sence into my stupid head for having these bad choises in college she didnt even let me try for what classes or college i wanted to try for she is the one who makes every decision for me i cried soo much she emotionally blackmails me recently my bf gave me hickie on my neck she saw it and went mad she said we are christians and she looks at me in a way i cant even describe it scares me i just want to move out if i dont move out im probably going to be emotionally and phyically drained and in pain

Question: Tons of stress and pressure while being in the same room as my father. Or while being in a different room as my father is in the same house.?

Posted: 15 Oct 2015 12:11 AM PDT

I am a 20 year old male who lives with my father, and sometimes my mother (my mother and father got divorced several years ago. My father's personality is generally pretty aloof, a good father, not very intimate, pretty cold in how he communicates, incredibly strict (but also very lenient, and understanding), although he analyzes every single thing he notices that I do around him, and it drains the hell out of me. He over analyzes every possible thing in the same area he is in. He is 49 years old now, and was a cop for over 20 years. (He's now retired and lives home on a pension while taking care of everything in the house). Everytime I decide to have a conversation with him- I always walk away feeling uneasy after the conversation we had because of how crudely pessimistic he acts all the time. I can't even walk in the same room as him without feeling drained or full of worry, because of how scrutinizing he is. He judges how I do things, and judges pretty much everything I do, and how I do them, then when I complain about him judging, he says "I'm just trying to teach you how to do things the "right" way", in a stern tone as if I did something wrong by complaining how scrutinizing he constantly is. He generally acts very pessimistic and judge-mental with everything, and everyone. I hate it. I wish my father's "personality" or whatever it is changes for the better

Question: I feel no love for my mom and dad ?

Posted: 14 Oct 2015 11:53 PM PDT

Hi, I'm in a dilemma. For years, I have dealt with this problem and I really don't know how to work on it. I'm currently 18, and have the traditional, conservative Chinese parents. They owork hard for me, cook for me, and more. And I truly am grateful for everything, it's been a long journey to get to where we are today. The thing is.. I don't feel an emotional connection with my parents It doesn't feel like family. There are good times, but most of it is bad. My parents both have anger issues and favor my sister, who is younger. She's more "obedient," stays at home to study, and gets solid grades. I have a 3.92, and I'm not home as often, and sometimes I will speak "back" to them when I correct them in an argument. I've stopped doing hah I always am the one blamed and put down in the family. It's rarely my sister. She is able to hangout and stuff, but if it's me, it's SATs and more. And my sis is a year younger and my parents favor her. I've always felt like this, they'd often compare me to her and growing up, I never felt good enough. Speaking of which, there's the verbal abuse. Ever since I was a kid, my parents have had a pretty unhealthy relationship. My dad will blame me even when he trips over something, and my mom will yell (culture thing) if she doesn't get her way. They're extremely rude and judge mental about others. They say mean th ings about my friends if her parents are divorced, or why I'm not using her to get my math grade from an A- to an A.

Question: I'm grounded for a stupid reason?!?

Posted: 14 Oct 2015 11:42 PM PDT

Okay so I just turned 17 last week (figured I would get that out of the way since I am sure people are going to ask how old I was XD). But anyways I am grounded because I cheated on my girlfriend. Last week me and my friend Kelly went to the movies just as friends We didn't bang or anything but we did make out. I told my girlfriend and that was that. She got pissed and ended it. Ad then my parents happened to read mine and Kelly's messages. It was just a conversation me and her were having about when we made out. And so my parents get pissed and say "Are you serious? You cheated on Rachel? Wow. That's sorry." and I get chewed out and then I end up getting grounded for 3 months. Now first off I wanna say something. I am aware that it was a ******** move by me to cheat. But I just personally don't think that's something a parent should ground their kid for. And again I am quite aware that it was wrong of me too cheat but is that really a parents business to ground me for it? And that is my question right there. If the majority of you agree with my parents I will change my opinion on this. Thanks for your time everyone!!

Question: Will I get taken away from my parents?

Posted: 14 Oct 2015 11:31 PM PDT

So I'm homeschooled and it's been years since we've actually done schoolwork. We used to get taught every day until I turned like 9, it kinda just stopped and I'm 15 now.. my dad is really religious so he decided that him and mom we're just gonna homeschool us. They never let me leave and I can't see the two friends I'm really close to and it gives me awful panic attacks:/ my parents just kinda blow it off when I talk to the about it. I wanna call child protective services because I wanna have real education and grow up to get a good job. My dad is really emotionally abusive and I'm never happy unless I'm not home:c all I do is sit in my room most of the day. I'm so different from my family and I want out of here.

Question: Will I get taken away from my Parents?

Posted: 14 Oct 2015 11:24 PM PDT

Question: Am I in the wrong?

Posted: 14 Oct 2015 11:11 PM PDT

My sister wants me to watch her kids Sat, Sun, Tues & Wed next week which wouldn't be a problem if she didn't live 90 miles away. I asked if she thought her fiance's mom or dad could watch them Sunday so I could have somewhat of a break since I also have to drive Monday for school. She said she didn't feel comfortable asking and I said, "Well, that's your fault. Ask (fiance) to do it then." So after a bit she got really mad and freaked out and said I was trying to get out of my one obligation in life (even though the issue is my vehicle is old and I don't have money to keep going to her house and I have been doing this at least 2x a week for 4 mos now) so I was like fine I'm not coming at all, you can find someone else to take care of my obligations. She got more mad and said stuff about how I was a horrible person and that her kids would never see me again and all this other crap. It cooled down & she basically explained that she thought I was being snarky with my "that's your fault" comment. When she said she wasn't comfortable with asking his parents, I thought she meant she was too shy to when in reality she just doesn't feel comfortable with his parents watching them. I understand why she was hurt but I feel like the things she said to me were completely unwarranted and I'm just upset that she would say that. This is the second time in about a month she's flipped out. I feel like I need to distance myself from her a little but I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or what.

Question: Should I move in with my Dad? Please help?

Posted: 14 Oct 2015 10:33 PM PDT

I am 13 years old and my parents got divorced 2 years ago. I have always been close with my mom, but I still love my dad a lot. When I was in 4th grade we moved from Arizona to Seattle, Washington and then a year after that we moved back to Arizona and now that my parents are divorced, my mom got custody and moved me and my 2 brothers BACK to Seattle while my dad stayed with his girlfriend in Arizona. I really hated all the moving around and I am also REALLY shy. I have been living with my mom and her new boyfriend and his 2 kids now in Seattle for 4 months now and I hate it. I miss my dad and all of my friends in Arizona that I have known forever. But every time I ask my mom about living in with my dad, she gets really sad and angry at me. She tells me I am selfish and that I would be leaving her. I love her, but I really hate my school and her new boyfriend. But I also love my 2 brothers (one is 4 and one is 11). What should I do??? Please help because my mom is very mad now.

Question: What can I do??? Please Help!!!?

Posted: 14 Oct 2015 10:18 PM PDT

I don t understand it. My mother went from getting to know my boyfriend turned fiancé to welcoming and inviting to be a part of our lives to now always saying hurtful things to my boyfriend when I m not around now that I had our first baby together which came by total surprise. Everything seemed good until after I had the baby. Then it s like she changed. He saids she keeps telling him to just go on and get out of our lives that her and I are doing fine on our own raising the baby and that I could do better and find someone else instead of him. :( Very extremely hurtful comments to say the least. I feel like I m in a tug of war between the two. My future husband has the patience of a Saint obviously and always talks to and treats her like gold. We ve been together going on 9 years. I can t believe he s stayed around This long bc my Mom is terrible. Very controlling , miserable, manipulative and negative person.

Question: I don't feel I belong with my family anymore?

Posted: 14 Oct 2015 10:03 PM PDT

I'm 21-years-old and I am living with my dad and step-mom while I attend college. My parents got divorced when I was 5 and up until I graduated high school, I lived with my mom and visited my father on the weekends. I was the only kid in the family for 12 years and use to be quite beloved. But, time goes on and more babies came along. No big deal. Then my mother married my stepfather. He has since passed away, but he was a verbally abuse man who belittled me constantly. My mom didn't protect me from this. And her continuance of a relationship sort of ostracized us from the family a bit. Now thing are back to "normal", but I feel like a stranger when I go back to visit. I feel like a guest at gatherings and not a family member. What happened?

Question: Was my sister right?

Posted: 14 Oct 2015 09:59 PM PDT

so me an my sister got into an arguement in public and i called her an asshole she immediately started screaming at me and made a huge scene. worse than that she told all my friends and even made a facebook post about it and she ruined my reputation over this. was this rational for her to do? my boss found out and i got a reduced wage

Question: Runaway from home now?

Posted: 14 Oct 2015 09:46 PM PDT

Question: My mom thinks I'm going to get kidnapped if I walk outside?

Posted: 14 Oct 2015 09:43 PM PDT

I live in the safest community in Texas, there hasn't been any kidnappings here. My parents won't let me walk/jog/bicycle alone outside EVEN IN BROAD DAYLIGHT! I'm 17, and I feel like they are being completely unreasonable. I'm very paranoid anyways, and I do believe everyone is a possible kidnapper, to a point where I'm anxious every time I go outside. How I am going to ever be Independant if my parents keep treating me this way? I just want to exercise..

Question: Was this counted as a fight? Can this be a fight scene?

Posted: 14 Oct 2015 09:41 PM PDT

I remember this one time, I believe I was like 10 or 11 years old, I once got into a massive arguement with my older sister, Jasmine. It was something about a computer. We were yelling and insulting each other and getting in each other's throats. Then Jasmine tried to ignore me by listening to her iPod. I kept insulting her in her face while she was trying to ignore me. Once I left, out of nowhere she punched me on the back of my head. Then we started fighting in the kitchen. My younger brother saw, but wss too scared to do/say anything. I kept scratching her and pulling her hair (back then I didnt know much about fighting). I can't remember the rest of it, but we both got cut on our finger. We eventually apologized cause I was crying after the fight. So was this counted as a battle between me and Jasmine?? BQ-CAN THIS BE A FIGHT SCENE??