My husband has aspergers. And I am pretty certain he has developed a mental illness in the past while. He has become so hostile and out of control. He's done crazy things and he even threw me and bruised me badly. On Wednesday in a heated argument he said "id kill you in a heartbeat if there were no consequences". At that, I called police. Now, my husband has a warrant out for his arrest and has charges of assault against him. His family said we are not allowed to communicate. But I told them everything that's happened with him and about how he needs help. His one uncle told me since he's not related, that I can talk to him as a go between. Everyone else has stopped talking to me. I just want to hug my husband. I want things to be okay. I don't even know if he still wants to try at our relationship again or not. Would it be okay to contact his uncle again and ask him how my husband is and if it seems like well have a relationship after this? I can't tske this. I feel like I'm dying

We are both 19 and we know we will get married eventually anyway. We just think it would be fun if we got married now by the justice of the peace, finished college, moved in together and didn't tell anyone until we're older. And if worse comes to worse and we break up, we just divorce and we can either act like it never happened or laugh about it when we're thirty and married to someone else (although I really don't see that happening). The only thing is keeping it from our friends and families. Would it be hard to keep a secret? Also does this just sound like a ridiculous thing to to regardless of keeping it a secret? Neither of us are impulsive people at all, we just really feel like this is something older versions of ourselves will love us for.

My wife is having our first child in April. We're both excited about it. I don't know how well she'll handle about giving birth. She hates being in the hospital she's scared to death of needles especially IVS. She was sick in the hospital a few years ago all she did was cry and scream every time they put a needle in her. She wouldn't even let them take the IV out of her when she was better. She about fainted every time she saw blood. She can't even handle getting an allergy test. She got one too a few years ago when they put those needles or sticks or whatever it is in her back she would do the same thing she'd cry and scream and act like a kid. She can't even stand getting her finger poked for a needle or a shot. I don't see how she's gonna handle this if she's terrified of all that. She doesn't seem to be worried but I'm worried about her. How can I help her when she's in labor ?

Is there anyone else out there that is codependent? I'm so depressed and unhappy. I don't know what to do. I researched the symptoms of codependency and its pretty right on with how I feel. I'm married with a seven month old, I don't believe my husband and I have a good marriage. It just gives me constant anxiety. I'm going to find a psychologist in my area to work out my problems. In the mean time like this weekend (husband and I have been fighting) I've just been trying to survive. I just need some support right now.

Recently my wife posted a picture of the husband of the couple whom she babysits for. It concerned me enough that I went into her journal. In it I found numerous listing of time spent with him with his name with a heart next to it. She never told me about spending time alone with him. When I confronted her I caught her lying about a couple of the nights in question, but she says that it was just an infatuation she has with him but that nothing ever happened. I just can't accept it, am I being unreasonable.

We are getting married on sept 12 and I am turning 15 on sept 4 and he is turning 17 nov 27

She hears them and just HAS TO go find them. And why does yahoo assume this is a marriage vs. divorce situation?

I go back and forth between wanting to be very sexual with my wife to not wanting to touch her and thinking of her as just a good friend or a maternal figure to thinking about her as very hot. Our relationship goes back and forth between no sex for months on end, to having sex every single night. One of our good friends recently divorced her husband after having an affair, because she saw her husband as a brother and another of our good friends (female) refuses to have sex with her husband for years now, because she feels like she is his mother. However she will not split with him because she feels too responsible for his well benign ( he has severe ADHD & depression). I feel that our relationship is going down the road to sexless, because we love each other too much. I have recently read "Mating in Captivity" and "Heart of Desire". These books both hit a never with me. My wife has a tendency to go off the deep end when I stumble my way through talking about sex, and I know she will have issues with some of the things these books suggest. Has anyone out there read these books? If so, does anyone have any ideas about how I can bring up listening to them, one chapter at a time wife my wife and truly discussing what the chapters say (sorta like a mini therapy session). Thanks, Raphael

I'm heart broken. I recently found out my husband has been having a two month affair with a woman on his work lane (he works for a gas company). Long story short, I confronted him and spoke with our pastor. He removed my husband from a authoritative position and has told my husband if he does not stop, they will remove him from the church. During one of our marriage counseling sessions, my pastor told my husband and I that I had no obligation to have sex with my husband until he stopped the affair and our relationship has time to heal. But I'm afraid if I don't have sex, he will completely leave me. All of our children are grown (thank goodness, not that it hurts less), but we have one son who is mentally handicapped. I have family and friends who are very supportive and my church leaders have been very encouraging. But...I want my marriage to be saved. At least I want to do everything I can on my part to make it work. Is my pastor right to say I have a right to refuse relations with my husband? Okay, I see I need to clear somethings up. I am willing to give my husband another chance. I believe in second chances. I want to make this work. I know that there is a possibility that it might not, but that doesn't mean I'm not going to try my hardest. Second, I know I can refuse my husband sex. Please give me me some credit. My main question was "is this a good idea to do in this situation?" Or will it add gas to the fire? I'm not an idiot. I'm a woman trying to save her marriage if she can.

Say Joe who has no kids got married to Aileen who has 1 daughter with no father. Would Joe have any ties to aileens daughter legally after the marriage?

My wife's best friend has been making serious moves on me for the last few weeks. My wife and I, and her and her husband hang out for dinners, drinks, and so forth. Personally, I really only socialize with them because my wife likes her friend so much. I think her friend's husband is a bit of a pompous douche-bag. Anyway, a few weeks back, her friend starts getting super flirty with me at a BBQ at our house. She kept rubbing my shoulders at the grill, and awkwardly hugging me when no one else was around. I chalked it up to her drinking one too many glasses of wine. She does drink a lot socially, and I have seen her pretty wasted more than once. We saw them again the following weekend, and it started up again. This time she was getting way too close to signal anything other than "I am coming on to you". I actually asked her what she was doing, and she responded back with something silly like "awww, don't be cranky". And then to top it off, she called me in the middle of the week this past week. I didn't answer the phone, or return her call, but she left a pretty suggestive message about wanting to just hang out sometime for drinks. She knew my wife was away for work for a couple of nights. So, what do I do? I know there is no good ending to this no matter what I do. If I tell my wife, she gets devastated, and if I don't tell her, this situation just continues to get more awkward and uncomfortable. Has anyone here dealt with anything like this in their lives?

I'm really not trying to be insensitive but let me explain. Our sons first birthday was last week and my wife has not lost her last 20+ pounds of pregnancy weight. She's 5'9 so it doesn't really standout but it still feels weird. It wouldn't bother me if she was at least trying but she hasn't made any changes since she had the baby. She works from home most of the time and I hired my mom as a full time nanny when our son turned 6 months so she has the time and the equipment at home. What can I do to address this? I really love her but I at least want her to try to be healthier but I don't was to come off ungrateful.

I have been married almost 10 years and 3 kids. He has had some mental issues and the last 5 years have been difficult. I am no longer mad or blaming him. He is not abusive but he is selfish and always sick. We struggled financially and continues to take care of his needs first. He can be rude and only wants to socialize on his terms. He is a good person but struggles being a parent and I know he doesn't love me. I am afraid of what will happen to him if I do. As much as I am not in love with him I do still care for him and want to known that he is okay. I don't know how to tell him and I am scared to leave.

Do you married people still love that person who you trusted completely like family , felt like family but got separated due to circumstances but both were still in love but young.

I'm getting divorced with my husband, and I do not want my 12 year old daughter, and neither does my husband. I barely have enough money to even support myself, and that's the case for him as well. What would happen to my 12 year old?

it has now been 2 months since my wife left. she said that i hurt her and did alot of wrong things and that she was going to file for divorce, well she hasnt yet? she told a friend of mine that she and her family do not believe in divorce and she doesnt know if thats what she wants, and then a few days later says that she is trying to pay off all the bills i left her with, which there arent any because ive already paid them, before she files. any ideas of what may be going on in her head? ladies answer to please!!! thanks

I am married and have been with my wife for about 6 years. I have never had kids but have wanted to 'someday' have kids but have always been in a career or transitioning phase where I would not be able to settle down and be a dad. Now, I am 39 and have only been hinting to the wife that I would like to have kids. Her tubes are tied, which is reversible, but she does not agree anymore to getting the reversal procedure. When I approach her about it, her canned response is now "you should find another wife if you want kids." She has 3 of her own that we both raise and she loves kids. I am having a very difficult time dealing with the reality of this situation because I am feeling the need to be a father and not grow old with no kids. Instead of divorce, I would like to change my perspective but am having a mental block in doing so. How can I change my perspective and not want to have kids anymore?

What is more difficult to repair, a wife who spends $30k on a CC (and has taken a 2nd job to pay it off)? Or a husband who is an alcoholic and has committed adultery 4 times in 9 years?

I have a girlfriend who I met some half a year ago. She is 21 and I'm 22 and we met online and have talked face to face a few times before. She is a student who study abroad and she is in a very tough situation now. She told me that her result from her college we're so bad that she can't follow her study anymore and so she's forced to go back to her country. But she told me that there is a way to stay in college. She'll have to find a husband to marry in order to stay and follow her education. She don't want to go back because her parents paid alot of money for her education and she don't want to dissappoint them. Therefore I have to sign a marriage contract if I want to help her. The problem for me is that I still live with my parents and they don't know the situation I am in right now. If I sign this marriage contract then I know that I will be in trouble with my parents if they ever find out. But I also know that I can save her education. Right now I can't decide what to do. Please help me out!

If you could only pick one...that would be be in a happy loving marriage but with no children. Or be a mother/parent but be single (single as is not married). Which one would you rather give up or which one could you live without?

My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years and we have a 7 month old son. I stay at home and take care of him while my husband works. He just found an awesome job with good pay so out financial burdens are lifting from our shoulders. I consider myself to be a pretty good mom, not perfect but then again who is? As a wife I try to do my best. My spouse is a great father, very loving and pretty hands on. So the problem is with our marriage. He's so focused on taking care of the baby and what's the baby needs (which I already take care of, he criticizes me a lot) and he tends to neglect our marriage. To be fair we're both perfectionists so we can be hard on each other especially ourselves (my husband especially.) His father sucked at parenthood and my husband is afraid of being like him and determined to do things "the right way." I try to convince him that date nights are healthy for us and that our marriage is very important. I've told him that once our son is grown up we're going to be left with each other. I feel like he doesn't understand that and he tells me I'm too focused on us (it is right now because of son is healthy and happy and our marriage isn't.) We've been fighting every weekend lately including today. It's hard for me to see a future for us. I've tried talking to him and he doesn't understand and to make things worse he belittles me about my feelings.

Non custodial parent doesnt hve a stable environment. Admitted to custodial that he doesnt hve any furniture in his hme. The address he has given the court.he has stated that he doesnt live there but with his gf who lives in a different county but doesnt want to release his address. Custodial parent feels its important to know the address if he has visitation. Custodial has tried to give him other options like seeing the kids at different locations. He continues to argue and wants to take off with the kids. Is mother consider to be withhold if she is allowing him to see the kids but she wont let him take off with them because of his unknown address.

Respected sir, I kalletla raj and I love one girl kalletla avanti, we love together from 5years onwards,help me sir urgently, in our cast and our parents not accepting our love, because our surnames are same, their putting restrictions....we cant break up now....sir we have to marry....legally...actually we don't have any blood relation up to 6 genaration, sir what is the way to marry? In Arya samaj accept our love....we r both majors...we r belonging to hindhu....urgent replay sir Pl....we have to marry....in which act we have to go to marry

My wife and I have been separated now for a month! We were married six months ago and have been together for 21/2 yrs. since the separation things have gotten ugly! We never fought before this and now she is saying she's done and is just happier by herself! She has two kids, I none, that I care for deeply! This is my first marriage and I have tried to do everything I possibly could to keep her happy as she has been going through a tough custody battle! We've been intimate only twice in a year and she says it's because of the stress yet contraindicates herself by saying something just changed and there are no romantic feelings left! She has thrown out every letter and card I have given her and every flower she kept as keepsakes! She says she's happier now and can breathe and wants me to wait until September for divorce so that it won't affect her custody case and show instability! I was mad and told her "she is dead in my eyes" and that's where we left it! Is there any hope and should I wait that long to file? This has been so tough as I feel I list my family and am all alone!

My wife is the typical stereotype of a woman. You better not tell her she is wrong about something. She is right and it doesn't matter what crap comes out of her mouth. Today she said something bad wrong. She is gonna end up hurt. It is a safety issue. I've already tried to tell her and she already mad at me now for calling her wrong. How do I get her to see?

Me and my bf of almost 12 yrs. was having a conversation. i want to get married and he don't see the point of marriage. He says its really no difference besides its on paper and my last name changes. But everything else stays the same. I just want someone else in put on it.

He says it's too expensive for a hotel , we haven't met yet but I accept his past , but she's blocked me from FB from seeing what she posts mainly photos of them spending time together as a family . Before I move my life for this man is it worth it it's his only child with her and they live out of state

I am interested on your thoughts of your mail order bride wife. I know someone thats going to do this and fear for their life.

My daughter (she's a lesbian) got a new girlfriend and they are definitely in love. She brings her on picnics and takes her to movies and concerts, she gets gets her really nice clothes and everything. And I know this is bad, but I'm actually jealous. Her girlfriend is charming, talented, kind, smart, and fit. My husband has let himself go and we barely go anywhere. She takes her to these really fancy parties and she's always having a good time, her girlfriend calls her princess and goddess and she's pampered. I overheard hear talking on the phone and she was telling her friend about how great her sex life is and how amazing her girlfriend is in bed. My husband and I haven't had sex in a while. I've just become a bit bitter and jealous when I see them on Facebook and other things having an amazing time. What can I do to get my husband to treat me like that?

My husband and I hadn't gone on a date in over a year. The reason being we have no family help and we have two special needs children. So babysitters are out of the question, my mother who lives right next door refuses to babysit. She says she's done with kids basically but I'm due to have another baby soon and she decided that she would let us go out just this once but she's never doing it again. So basically the pressures on this is our last date ever probably for a very long time. My husband and I were having relationship problems and some of them were pretty serious and we have been trying to work them out we have been on decent terms where we have conversations and we finally have a regular sex life again. I mean we were having sex before enough to get me pregnant it would happen a couple times a month (lucky shot I guess) but now we have it multiple times weekly so that's an improvement. But they chose the restaurant, prepaid for us to go. It wasn't exactly where I would have chosen to go but I couldn't exactly complain at risk of anyone changing their minds. When we got there we sat down and the first few minutes were great he surprised me with a gift. Had been a really long time since he did that I was probably blushing and I was trying not to tear up. After that things just dimmed down and he didn't say much I spent most of the evening watching him chew his food. First I told myself it was because he was tired, than I said well maybe he's enjoying no kids? He and I are both dedicated parents and our every move is for the kids so maybe he was basking in the quiet that's what he said when I mentioned he was being really quiet. It just felt weird and maybe it's the pregnancy hormones but I'm actually terrified somethings wrong, like what if our marriage is going back to the way it used to be.. not good and all these mixed feelings right at the end of my pregnancy are not good feelings. Any advice I did try communication because I believe in communication but it ended up just seeming like I wasn't happy with the date at all. I mentioned it to him and he said "I'm sorry you were not happy with your date, I guess I'm a bad date" and so on just added discouragement to the mix And as for strangers as sitters my husband and I are both against it we won't risk the children's safety for another persons mistake.

You just feel empty inside. You have no real friends ot relatives. My son, an only child lives in a far off country. My wife and I live alone and we are old. I am sure there are many who feel this way.

During a conversation, I showed my wife some pictures of an actress she liked doing in a lesbian sex photo shoot. Her reaction surprised me in that she seemed wowed and excited and was keen to see the whole series of pics. It made me wonder if she(not a fan of guy girl porn) would get turned on seeing two women pleasure each other. I honestly don't think shes ever seen any before as she was pretty sheltered growing up.

Myself and my partner have been together for 10 years and have never had issues with each other going out with friends away for weekends with friends etc. When I got pregnant last year I began to fret at night time when he went out with friends, I initially thought it was down to hormones but now with the baby here I still have anxiety, it usually manifests itself when I go to bed, I begin imagining horrible things happening the longer her stays out, and I have on occasion called his phone in a panic if he isn't home This is beginning to take its toll on our relationship and I have never been clingy at all and I know the worrying is useless and won't achieve anything, can anyone help as I don't want it to be an issue if my husband goes out with his friends, he has no issue with me going out at all

Im getting married within 3 months. Weve been together 5 years and i love him more than anything. I would never cheat on him. But during these 5 years, i have grown to develop a crush on his best friend, who is now also one of my very good friends. He has always innocently flirted with me - in front of my fiance, who didnt care about it at all. But the last... Idk maybe month or so, our flirting has intensified and i actually find myself getting all giddy when he texts me, or tags me on something on social media. I let my mind run wild and imagine that we will get together which i know we wont. These are all just fantasies that do seem to help me stay in a good mood lately but i know i will eventually crash from all these hopeless feelings. And he is both our friend so its not like we could cut him out of our lives. He has been great to me and my fiance. And i just want to stress again that yes, ny fiance knows this is all happening. He is not upset and doesnt mind the banter between me and our friend. But if it goes even one step closer he might. I dont want to hurt him, and i dont want to keep giving myself hope for something that would never happen. The logical thing to do is stop hanging around him, but again thats not possible. He is coming over my house today just to hang out and watch movies and i already pictured myself cuddling on the couch with him. What can i do to stop this WITHOUT cutting him from our lives??

I live in a bad neighborhood with my husband and two young daughters. My husband also takes care of his 17 year old brother. He used to take care of his sister and her baby but they moved out. We can t afford to move into a better location till my husband is promoted they already said he would be but just waiting on the location they are going to send him to. Just this month there has been more then 20 drive bys. There is a rumor they are out to kill women and children. Just today a boy was shot and is in stable condition. My dad offered before to move back home and we pay $500 a month which is almost nothing. I would just feel horrible to bother my dad. But I do want to keep my girls and husband safe. Should I move back and offer to pay more?

Ok, so my husband and I have been married for about 10 years. Things have been rocky from the beginning. About 7 years ago my husband cheated on me. I forgave him, we worked through it and stayed together. However, a lot of things were said then and have been said since that, even though forgiven, have left emotional scars. My husband has had a hard time respecting my wishes and often tells his single friends what kind of woman to marry so they don't make the same mistake he did. Anyway the real problem is in the bedroom. I have a really hard time relaxing or letting him see my body. He gets really mad that I won't be on top or get into it at all; I just close my eyes. I want to I just can't do it. After a lot of self evaluation I have come to the conclusion that I just don't feel emotionally safe. He's made many comparisons to me over the years especially in bed but I don't think that's all of it. I think I'm subconsciously afraid to become vulnerable because I'm afraid he'll hurt me again either with words or actions. I know he's not cheating and he's trying really hard to make things better. He compliments me all the time even though I just had our 3rd child and still can't lose this baby weight. He does nice things for me and tells me he loves me constantly. I still can't fix this bedroom thing. I need some suggestions on how to fix this. I feel like I'm the one hurting him now and it's not fair but even though I try I can't even force myself to do it.....

My husband has been abusive, and the other day he threatened to kill me. Because of that comment I called police and he fled. The police pressed charges without me really having a choice. My husband has serious mental issues. He turned up and his family is protecting him. They turned conpletely against me. Because of this, I have finally told myself im moving on. But the pain is unbearable. I regret calling the police, because if I didn't id still see his face. I miss his face. I miss the smell of him. I miss the warmth of his hugs. I can't take it. I feel like puking. How do you get through a bad separation? I know he's physically abusive so it's good that I left but it's still horribly painful. I miss him so much and love him so much. Someone please help me

I have been married almost 10 years and 3 kids. He has had some mental issues and the last 5 years have been difficult. I am no longer mad or blaming him. He is not abusive but he is selfish and always sick. We struggled financially and continues to take care of his needs first. He can be rude and only wants to socialize on his terms. He is a good person but struggles being a parent and I know he doesn't love me. I am afraid of what will happen to him if I do. As much as I am not in love with him I do still care for him and want to known that he is okay. I don't know how to tell him and I am scared to leave.

So Im a highschool girl and a man of age 33 wanted to marry me. He proposed to my parents. He is financially secure, mature, good looking, respectful... We are not Americans, we are Arabs. I admit, I do like him and I am physcially attracted to him, he seems nice, but why does he want a 16 year old girl?

I read an article about women who asked their boyfriends to marry them . The men involved felt like their chance to propose marriage was a rite of passage, and their girlfriends "took away their big moment" . I'd love it if the right woman asked me to marry her . If she proposed to me, I could tell everybody for the rest of our lives "When it was time to get married, SHE asked ME ! There's no room in OUR marriage for sexism !" . If I have to propose marriage to her, how will people know there's no room in our marriage for sexism ? Thank you in advance for your answers .