Our 5 year old boy came home with a present for my wife he made in kindergarten. It was...a painting of some desert island and ocean. Who knows, but kiddo was really proud of it and gave it to my wife for her birthday. She pinned it on the wall, but when he wasn't around she plucked it off, tore it up, and chucked it in the garbage. I was like WTF? My wife was all she didn't want crap seen around the house. Later our kid found out and asked what happened to his art. What do I tell him? Is this normal for a woman to do?

Money. I don t work, not because I refuse to or don t want to, but because he doesn t want me to and we only have one vehicle. He is not making very much however, and no matter what I do or say he spends money on things we don t need. He has always had this problem. He eats arbys every night for lunch at work, buys beer all the time, etc. Anyways, everytime I bring it up, regardless of when or how, he starts yelling. He said "I get mad when you bring up things we can t help", like our spending habits are out of our control. The other thing is our living situation. We live in a trailer that is not up to code, has electricity in two rooms and no running water. It s on his parents property. We had a place, but he wanted to move home, and he took six months to get a job so here we are. He s supposed to be fixing it up, but no matter what it isn t going to be legal, and we will be on his parents property. I m so done. He refuses to even talk about renting because "it s throwing money down the drain", however we are not even close to being able to buy. I want to tell him arbys and beer is throwing money down the drain, housing is not. I m concerned because once lo is here, that is a serious cps issue, and if I have to I will move home and get a job on my own rather than lose my kid. I love my husband, and that would seriously hurt our marriage, but it s not worth losing my child over. Sorry for the length, but I need advice. How to I approach a subject he refused to talk about?

After work my husband likes stripping down to his tighty whities, wrapping a towel around his head, and meditating in the backyard lotus style under a tree. He likes offering sound advice the neighbors, reads tea leaves, palms, Taro Cards, and crystal balls, and reciting philosophy. He's been reading a lot of Gandhi books. Really it's just creepy.

Lately I suspected my husband has been seeing someone else. Cheating. He came home late smelling horrible. He looked liked a total slob. Plus he always had a beer in hand and condoms! It was obvious what my husband was up too, but something was a bit off. I did some digging and it turns out that certain someone my husband is seeing...is my brother! So after work my husband would visit my brother at his house and they'd both have sex. I am devastated and disgusted. What should I do? What should I tell my parents? Gay husband and gay brother. How did this happen?

Mostly about me wanting a divorce. I confide in my family because I want their support and it hurts me so bad that no one understands how un happy Iam married and how I really want out of this relationship even though they've all been divorced and remarried and it's frustrating no one wants to listen to me or even be there for me during this very hard time. I really feel like they don't want to hear my problems and try to ignore when I try and talk out my problems and feelings (I have depression also) and they think I need to tough it out...alone. I'm just trying to figure out how to deal with such an unsupportive family.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for over 2 years now. He truely is my best friend. He's 21, and an Army infantryman stationed in Texas. I'm a senior in high school in GA. He wants me to marry him after I graduate high school (June 2016). I'm so nervous about what other people are gonna think of me. I'm scared they're not gonna take me serious because of my age. It's so overwhelming trying to plan a senior year and wedding all at the same time. should I just wait to marry him?

Okay so, my boyfriend and i have basically done everything backwards. The first day we met I ended up in his bed and I havent left his side since. We basically were together as soon as we met. We have already had major fights and come to blows a few times- we also already share finances and are getting an apartment together when he comes back from Germany. Yes he is in the military, and yes we have managed this distance just fine. Here's the thing though. We have only known eachother for 3 months. I know his darkest secrets and his annoying habits. That boy litterally argues against everything xD But I love him. We have been buzzing about getting engaged, and I get the feeling that it will probably happen shortly after 6 months. My biggest concern about the entire situation is I am terrified that my parents and family will leave again. Its an odd scenario, but long story short, we just started talking again. Needless to say they aren't very supportive.. Of anything. So I am torn between waiting and hopefully making my family happy (might not be possible anyways) OR going through with what my boyfriend and I already know is a sure thing. This is one of those times when my heart and head are battling... But both of them are kind of pointing to the latter. I want this with every fiber of my being. So my question for you guys is any opinions you may have. No reservations, lay it on me. Thanks.

s it wrong of me to watch pornographic videos for pleasurment an not always use my girlfriend for those deeds an arousement ? I don't like going to her ALL the time because I feel that shouldn't be what she's hear for , that shouldn't be the reason I have her as my girffriend , any thoughts ? I just sometimes think she shouldn't be there for my visual stimulation all the time an be used for that . Am I thinking wrongly

I just wanna know, if there is anyway that I can go to jail by using my wife's name. Explain, please! Important fact: we still married.

I ve been married to my husband for 5 years. We both have kids from previous relationships and none between us. He s been controlling and abusive for the entire marriage. At this point, I m tired of him, I m afraid of him, I just want out! Due to the fact that I have 4 evictions on my credit (these happened when we weren t financially stable, we re doing well, now) it s been so hard for me to find a place for my kids and I. I ve tried to reach out to the battered women shelters. No help. Second chance properties. No help. Family. No help. I just don t know what to do anymore. A few days ago, he held me, my 6 year old son and 8 year old daughter hostage. He tried to make me do something I didn t want to do, then got upset when I didn t do it. I m afraid of him. My kids are too. I m stuck, and don t know what to do, or where to start!

My husband's children from his previous marriage has continued to disrespect me over the years. They have posted profanity-laced messages on social media, texted ugly messages to me, and recently posted a video online degrading me (even after allowing his younger child to move in with us). When I confronted him about these incidents he has always said, "I'll take care of it." I too have (now adult) children from a previous marriage and have never, ever allowed them to disrespect him nor have they ever did so. I recently lost one parent and I am now taking care of the other, along with my medical issues, and I'm about to give up on this marriage. I have tried everything and it just doesn't seem like he truly understands how hurt I am. What advice can you give me?

My husband is so much better with our kids. It makes me feel like a terrible mother. I will have the hardest time handling the kids when he is out of the house but when he comes home he can settle them down, get them to pick up their toys, put them to sleep, get them to play noce. He can do anything. It's chaos when he's gone. Luckily he gives me days off where it's just him and the kiss all day. I don't know how he does it. They just do everything he says and he always is smiling with them. By the end of the day I'm shouting. How can I be more like him. I feel like I just don't have the mother gene and he does.

I m married to a wonderful guy. But he s an electrician and that takes up the majority of his time and conversation. We do get to talk about other things, and I don t want to be selfish. His work is important to him and I want to be supportive. But every time he starts talking about work I either zone out or immediately forget what he said. How can I work on listening to something I have absolutely no interest in to renew my husbands confidence that I actually care about him? Because that has very recently been called into question.

Hey guys, so I need some insight and advice on how to go about this situation. I will keep it as short and private as possible. So currently my husband and I are not doing so great, unfortunately. We both got married very quickly into our relationship and well never really developed a friendship; and due to that I realize how much baggage I carry and some that he may carry still. Causing me to realize that the love had not developed or existed. Now here is my question: I did not answer or text my husband back yesterday due to some emotions I am dealing with. And after not hearing from him today. I began to worry since he is unemotionally stable. I asked a gf of mine to text him(he doesn't know her number). He began a conversation with her and I have asked her to continue it. Now he is asking her what does she work as, where, and if she would like to go to the movies. I honestly can say I have no desire to be with this guy, it is like my heart completely harden. I was having a difficult time yesterday, and this was like the last straw to any love or interest I may have had.

So I am not on speaking terms with my mother in law and she isn't talking to me either and at first she wasn't talking to my husband either but now she is. And she when she comes over she doesn't come inside but she will come in if I am at work. Should I be upset for my husband talking to her even though she is this way towards me? And the whole started when she was living with us she brought a stranger to stay with a us after she asked and we said no.

I've been married for about 2 years and it seems like my husband and I are always fighting. We get into a huge fight at least once a week and I just end up crying and feeling lost and confused. Most of the time I look back at the fight and I can't see anyway I could have prevented it from happening. If I make even the smallest mistake or if I get even a little upset over anything at all or if I have to ask him to explain something he freaks out at me and he tells me how inconsiderate and selfish I am. He tells me that I only care about myself. If the house isn't clean when he gets into a bad mood then he calls me lazy and pathetic. And if I ask him to explain something he tells me that I am just stupid and worthless. He's told me that I have ruined his life and that I make him want to kill him self. He's told me several times that I'm an inconsiderate ***** and to go **** myself. I've told him that the things he calls me are not acceptable no matter how angry he is, he just says that he knows how horrible it is but he just dosent care. Is there anything I can do to stop these episodes from happening. When he's not angry he's super sweet and funny and caring and he always goes out of the way to try and make me happy and to try and help me in anyway he can. But I just always feel so stressed trying to be perfect so that I don't make any mistakes and make him angry. I don't want to just leave him but I can't keep living like this either what else can i do to prevent this??

my husband and I have been married for over 6 years. we have a three year old child. The reason I feel like I should leave him is because during these 6 years i and him have been not so good. he is emotionally abusive. the thing he does is when we are arguing he would use the things that I have in trust told him about myself in the past and he will bring it back up like for example I told him that I was abused as a child and also he knows that I did not grow up with a father. well he uses this against me when we're arguing about anything if it escalates he uses it against me by saying oh you act this way cause you didn't have a nice childhood was so bad. you didn't grow up with a father that's why you're like this or he would say you're like this because you were raped. I had a beautiful childhood.. etc the last thing he said when we were arguing today was that the other men that were looking at me in our church they saw me as a fool because I was so easy because I fell in love with him in and then we had sex but that was after a year or more of knowing him and we were girlfriend and boyfriend.when I confronted him about something he said that I'm always with my mother like a child which is untrue and that I sleep with her like a baby because i was living with her when he met me and it was like as if she had sex with me. I'm tired of this. I have been trying deal with this relationship and trying to make it work. I love him but i cant take anymore lack of love and hurt words

Throughout our 4 yr relationship (3 yrs marriage), we've had issues off and on with him name calling, using put downs, yelling, breaking and throwing things out of anger, driving recklessly when angry, etc. Basically he just has an anger problem that he is currently on medication for. He's grabbed me by the throat and pushed me, but that was over a year ago & we've been to counseling about it. He's said he's sorry and he's "working on" the anger issue bit, but I shouldn't expect perfect results. Today I brought him lunch at work. I was telling him about finances, chores for his son, etc. He claimed I was "dumping on him", to which I replied I felt like he was almost never there for me emotionally, when he gets mad at me when I express my feelings. He said I'm just a weak person who needs a full time partner to take care of them. He proceeded to drive erratically, slamming on the brakes, throwing me into the dash (then he told me I should have put on my seatbelt), scream at me in his work parking lot (mostly about how I was causing a scene at his work), take off his wedding ring and throw it (not the first time he's thrown his ring in anger), purposely smash & throw his sunglasses, throw the car keys, slam the car door & stomp off. Apparently, 4 hours later, he's still livid. He's also now managed to get written up at work for yelling at an employee. He says it's my fault because I KNEW he was at work and should never have "provoked" him by venting to him.

Example. She was putting dishes away so I approached her to hug and kiss her from behind to thank her for cooking, and she spun around like a ninja and swatted me away, telling me not to scare her like that. And I can never kiss her while she's sleeping or nodding off because she will jolt awake and again tell me not to startle her like that

I am a vietnamese american man and I am engaged to a vietnamese woman in vietnam. A lot of people think that us vietnamese men are controlling and abusive. I got told that I am abusive because I won't allow my wife to be friends with other vietnamese american guys when she gets here. I just don't want anyone else to ruin my marriage by stealing her from me. I am also planning on opening a sewing shop with her when she gets here and she agreed and actually want to open a sewing shop with me. People think that I am planning on abusing her and tried to report me to the FBI. I don't get what I am doing between me and her is abusive when she consented to it. I couldn't find a woman here in america so I asked my relatives in vietnam to find me a woman in vietnam who I can marry. They then searched around and finally found one for me who is now my fiancee. I don't get why people think that we are controlling and abusive when we are actually loving and caring and we would do anything for our wives. I would even take a bullet for her because of how much I love her. I am planning on staying faithful to her by being married to her for the rest of my life. Why do people think that I am abusive and controlling ???

My husband says to expect him.before 11pm every night including Saturdays and Sundays. I have no idea what he is doing where he is at nothing. Any time I do call him and he happens very rarely to answer the phone when he feels like he says he is taking care of business. I don't know how to stomach the fact that he might be cheating on me. If he is how do I process that and handle it. Because my husband isn't the type where you can teach him anything. Teach him a lesson nothing. It's like if it makes him happy he doesn't regret what he does at all. No matter who he hurts down the road

My husband recently took a job in Illinois and wants me and the kids to move there to be with him. I would love to be with my husband every day, however, he works 20 days on for 12 hours a day, and then 10 days off, and his company flies him home every month. We have two teenage daughters, and just moved to Virginia from Florida a year ago. They have finally settled in, and are happy. Am I wrong for not wanting to uproot the kids again?

Me and my husband have been into it since we met. Well that's because we were living with his momma in the beginning and its been downhill ever since. Feels like we both hate each other but we are still together. We have literally caught, screamed, cursed, kicked and hollered. Homelessness because of our marriage. House to house car to car. Struggle to struggle. What do I do as a woman to get us back on track. And at the same time not be taking advantage of. I hate to be the only spouse to get us going. How do I get him to participate? We have our own place now lol and we have two beautiful toddler princesses that work my nerve lol.

What do you do when your husband has a wall against you and him? He does not trust me and he keeps every thing from me. I don't know how to deal with this. I wasn't really taught how to be in a relationship or what to expect.

Kids: 11 y/o boy, 7 y/o girl Divorce reason: Infidelity on his part Custody agreement: Shared custody Time since divorce was finalized: 13 months The newest twist to the story is that my children are now coming home from time with him, claiming that he is speaking negatively about me. Examples: "Dad says you don't want us seeing him" "Dad says you called him a (fill in the blank with a swear)" "Dad says you won't let us see grandma (his mother)" "Dad says you're a liar and not to listen to you" And we have had discipline issues especially with my son at school. At home when he's fresh from his father's house, he won't listen to me and is very hyper for the first day back. It's wearing me down. How can you successfully coparent with someone who apparently gets a kick out of trashing you to your kids? Well Jay, do you have any other input?

Our baby is just 3 weeks as of yesterday. Today is our 2nd anniversary and my husband just called saying surprise! he got baseball tickets for tonight. We do not live near any family so his plan was for me to bring the baby. Is it terrible I'm sitting here on the verge of tears? He knows I said let's just stay in since I'm still recovering and we are both sleep deprived. The last place I want to bring a baby is a freaking red sox game that will be loud. I know people will say oh shut up your husband is thoughtful and at least he got you a gift, but he is the one who likes baseball and I am in no mood for a night out. Advice on how to handle this so it doesn't turn our anniversary into an argument??

Husband kep hiding alcohol, then when he drinks it without interruption he suddenly get drunk and mean. 9 yewrs of h3ll.

My husband & I have a son together, I will have my son but we'll be flexible with my husband seeing our son & we also don't want anything from eachother at all & child support will not happen since he's volunteering to pay everything for our son. Oh & we're separating first & then getting divorced because we are a low income family. Any advice or suggestions?

The father of my baby and I are going through family court and we have a temporary visitation visitationsr daughter just had her 1 year check up and I addressed some concerns regarding trying to introduce her to organic whole milk since 11months she will have a few sips but doesn't care for it. I have no problem to continue breastfeeding but I am concerned since she refuses to drink from a bottle now. She only drank from a bottle for the first 3 months, we where also trying to do the combination of formula and breastfeeding.. She could not tolerate any kind of formula so I discontinued the formula and stuck to breastfeeding knowing it is the best option for her. My baby's father also my ex fiance has always had an issue regarding me breastfeeding but was happy only because It saved him money from buying formula. Otherwise all I hear is how our baby just wants to be soothed through the night and doesn't drink breastmilk but she indeed does drink before going to sleep and also through the night. How would he know? If he slept though the night! My main concern is that he was requesting overnight visitations from Friday 6pm-Sun 6pm I said that was insane since I have been primary caregiver to her since birth and after the break up he hadn't seen her for 2 months. So then my attorney offered every other weekend sat 12-6 sun 12-6 and Wed 6-9 I continued to express that he should have shorter visits and more consistency, gradually increase and with time go to overnight visitation.

What if I told you the couple is 25?

My wife has a lot of anger issues. She blows up on me for almost anything. Screaming, throwing things at me, putting me down, and saying more and more hurtful things until she gets a rise out of me is typical behavior when she s upset. When she s hurting she shows it by lashing out in anger: and I know this, I try to be patient but she cuts deeper until I explode. She spent the entire day angry at me: calling me while she was at work to yell at me. Night came and I finally got my son to sleep, and the fight continued. It escalated and as usual she began with the name calling, and the personal attacks. I was so at the end of my rope I made myself a drink and sat on the couch to cool off, halfway through it she swiped her hand to knock it all over me, so I made another. We tried to talk it out, both of us cried and yelled, and it seemed like we made some progress. Then it escalated again--she took a candle out of a long metal holder and threw it at me, then came at me with the candle holder. That s when I lost it. I wrenched it from her hands and pushed her down in a rage. We wrestled a bit, I pushed her away from me a few more times to get her to leave and she started screaming in my face and I slapped her. Things have gotten physical before where we were both violent with each other but this time was different. After I slapped her I had clarity and instant regret. I don t deserve her and she should leave but she can t afford to, so I need to be a better man for her.

Hello. I'm a 16 year old boy, and here's my problem. I'm obsessed with stories of female infidelity. I don't know why, but I always seem to gravitate towards stories of women who are cheating on their husbands and boyfriends. It sickens me. I'm depressed for hours. I lose my appetite, and I'll skip meals, but I can't stop. I actually made myself go through an Internet ban starting Saturday for one week because I needed to stop, but I'm right back in it. I went on to Yahoo, and I saw a Huffington Post article on a woman cheating. I read it. Then I Googled the Ashley Madison hack, and I've read a few articles about testimonials from women about why they're on the site. My dad had an affair when I was a child. I learned about it. I feel like I'm reading these stories to try to understand why people stray. Because it makes no logical sense to me. And it seems SO common. In the Ashley Madison article, I read about women who are on the site because it is their "release"(and she was positive her husband was loyal because he has not time to cheat), because their marriages lacked "passion", because their sex life was "vanilla", and so on. But a lot of them stayed because they were secure. Their husbands were great dads, had a job, helped pay the mortgage. All that. Not one of them had an abusive husband or anything. They were doing it to get their kicks. They were using their husbands and betraying their trust whenever they wanted. It's so, so depressing. I NEVER want to get married, have kids, or stay with a girl for too long because I know what's going to happen. It doesn't matter if I'm incredibly good looking, have a six-pack, I'm amazing in bed, I'm rich, or if I'm a great dad. I'm going to get cheated on. It seems like a certainty. I want to personally shoot everyone that's cheated. I don't see why people don't have the guts to just tell their husband that he needs to pay more attention. Do they realize that it takes two to tango? If they're not fulfilled, I bet their husband isn't either, right? Especially since they're putting a lot of effort into finding someone else on the side. What's wrong with people? It seems like adulthood is an excuse to legally be a small-brained child. How should I get over this issue? I really need to find some peace.

Is just that we love each other and we have kissed before, but nothing more than that. . Sometimes I feel like I'm a horrible person even though I haven't really done anything wrong.

Do any of you do this? Sounds dumb. We have a pretty strong relationship I think, but she has decided she thinks we need to do a nightly positive affirmation or thank you, and also check in about our marriage in general? As in what is good lately and what is bad. Nightly seems excessive right?

She never really did like sex ?

We are both 22 and we just got married 2 weeks ago. My wife and I are still virgins. We want to have sex in the near future but both of us don't know how. How do you have sex?

My husband and I ran into a big hurdle in our marriage. I want to continue and work through it, he doesn't. Isn't it kind of early to give up?

I believe that people should acquire CONSENT when it comes to marriage. ((Feel free to speak out if you disagree, sometimes I forget things that need to be considered.)) Heck, you don't even need to be in love to get married. I believe that marriage should be regardless of race, sex or gender etc. To those people who compare the legalization of same-sex marriage to pedophilia and bestiality, guess what? Animals and underage people do not have the ability to sign a marriage contract. I'm an open person so when it comes to incest, well...I'd say yes but the problem is about reproduction. I guess this benefits same-sex incestuous couples. And if you want to marry more than one person, as long as you have consents, you should. ((See, I need open minds to answer this question XP)) My point is, why hasn't these been approved? Is it because they think it perverses the sanctity of marriage? What is even the sanctity of marriage if there is a divorce? Is marriage only essential so that each other is given rights to own another's property or is there more? ((I'm sorry, If some got offended. I never meant to put down people who are into marriages. I'm not yet married so I'm asking this to help me have better decisions in life.))

A week ago this past Thursday my husband and I got into an argument (we've been arguing for the past two months) and he screamed at me that he was leaving. He was out of town and coming back the next day, the same day I was leaving with my daughter's for a girl scout weekend. I tried texting him on Friday to see if he was leaving for good or a separation to try to make it work. He refused to text me back. I saw him Friday and he apologized for how he handled it. Whe started texting me some and he would have small text conversations occasionally but we didn't see each other again until this past Thursday because I wanted us to hash out our problems with each other to have something to think about during our separation. He was sweet and kept saying that he misses me and kissing me. I saw him the next day before he brought our daughters out of town. Saturday I tried reaching him by text. He completely ignored them all until he finally said he doesn't want to talk anymore and to leave him alone. I asked for an explanation as to why he changed into an asshole so quickly and he wouldn't answer me. I'm tired of his ups and downs and will be ignoring his texts if he tries to text again. Is this the right thing to do? Or should we have a little contact? Btw, we have set up a way to get our daughters without having to see each other.

ive been married to my husband 4yrs.i was not able to concieve.i already have 2children .from a previous relationship.hes a muslim youroba from nigerian.and iam a american christian woman.now his famaily wants him to marry someone else cause i cant concieve and his father wants him to have a child.so he wants to divorce me.he told me its his culture back home.i dont no if its true or not. he met a a girl in the u.s planning to marry her back in nigeria after he divorces me ..Please help...

My husband and I are buying a new house but we will be needing a place to stay for about a month while the new house is finished being built. He assumes that we are staying at his parents since it is closer to our jobs (although not by much) . Problem is, my in laws have a really bad roach problem in their house, year-round. I would rather stay at my parents house where there is no roach problem. how can I explain this to my husband without being offensive or embarrassing him. I had never acknowledged to him that I'm aware of the roach problem For the record we are not leaving our home until December.

His friend always flirted with me, but very subtle. Then out of no where things sky rocketed. To the point where he finalky openly admitted to liking me. He said if ivwas available he would try to be first in line. Im very conflicted. I dont want to tell my husband and ruin their 20 year friendship over a silly attraction. But I am upset that this friend put me in this situation in the first place. Now i have a secret to keep. And im choosing to do so because this guy is pretty much my husbands only friend right now. I cant let this end. My problem is .. This friend comes around alot. He doesnt say or do anything around my husband, but i feel guilty when ges around because hes a visual reminder of this secret. How can i end this without ending their ft iendship?

My husband and I have had a very hard and complicated relationship. At the beginning of the relationship I took my problems out on him and abused him but i realised what i was doing and went to couselling and ive never hurt him since. He wasn't working and we were both in the same house together all the time and we argued constantly he would get angry because I wouldn't leave him alone with arguments he soon started trashing the bedroom in a fit of rage and then slowly small very small violence happened a few hits on the leg and a pin to the wall I found out I was pregnant and left the relationship he has realised what he's done and vowing to do couselling and get help with his anger. However my sister still doesn't care my mum and sister hate him and if I try again with him I lose them I don't know what to do because I want to try again with my husband but I don't want to lose my family I feel like I won't be happy if I don't try again but I need them both in my life. I'm really stuck and need some advice can anyone help me?

I been in a marriage for 15 years and my husband is an alcoholic . He started 1 day a week to 2 to 3 days and not wanting to spend time with us. He always think of himself. When we together he annoys me . I have to beg for sex . Is it over or should i continue to be unhappy.

My husband won't ever tell me how he feels. He holds everything in and then later he explodes and we always end up in a huge argument. I feel like I talk to a wall, I don't know why he feels he can't tell me things or when things bother him. I tell him all the time that he can always be free with me and say whatever's on his mind. He always says yes to everything I say or ask or say its whatever. Why is it so hard for men to express their feelings?