My fiancé found himself in trouble with the law. We've had to move quite a few times. After the situation was over, I agreed to stay with him because I knew he wasn't himself when he was getting in trouble. He is now on probation and has already violated it. Last time that happened I lost my job due to cutbacks 3 days after he was arrested. While he was in jail I was left unable to pay rent. I had to move alone with only my truck. I also had nowhere to go. We live with our parents, but I start a temp job very soon. I know from experience that you can't build a life of a temp job. I've done that and saved money but the next job didn't come until after I depleted my savings. He started a videography business and business is ok. It's not reliable income because it's just starting off. Unfortunately he's wanted again due to a financial misunderstanding with his p.o. He ran his name and nothing came up so he thinks it's a sign from God that I should have the baby. I believe the law is the law and you never know what can happen. I plan to continue school this fall, I have 1 1/2 years left. I agreed to stay with him knowing that I was in pursuit of a career, because I know that you can only really depend on yourself. Subjecting my child to the life i agreed to isn't fair. I think we should wait until we both are stable and ready to have a child. I need to finish school in order for that to happen. We've been together 7 years this month and have never had a slip up until now.

Me and my wife have been married for 2 months. Next month we were going on vacation for a our 3 month anniversary she said after our vacation she'll want to have a baby. I don't have a problem with that. But I'm only 17 she's 22. We've been best friends since we were kids. I feel like I'm not ready for a kid. I don't know how to tell her. Should we have a baby ?

for my wedding , im having a beauty and the beast themed wedding . and yes i know . "sounds more like a big birthday party" . i honestly don t care . the movie has help me through a lot ever since i was little little . besides the point . im reserving a library and a ballroom . what to do with them , i don t know . i thought about walking down the big staircase to my soon to be husband . but i also kind of want to walk down it with my husband after the i dos and go straight into our first dance .. i just need some advice .. decisions decisions

Had a second date set up for this Friday, we already slept together, haven't spoken to her since last Saturday, just told her if you're busy after work we can also hang out Tuesday or Wednesday but a definite date was set for Friday....So I haven't spoken to her and I thought maybe she may think I lost interest in her, this morning I sent "hey, was just thinking about you and hope your week is going well". 20 min later she said "Hope your week is going well, too" and that was all. I believe this was a huge mistake on my part to text her. Thoughts? I think I should have layed low and see if she wanted to see me again before Friday....I think this was a big mistake....Cause we left it at "I'll keep you posted" about seeing me tuesday or Wednesday cause she was going to see what was going to happen with work.

What should I do, I talked it over with my wife and she's very sorry and says she won't do it again. I asked about everything though and apparently he has a huge penis and is great at sex which is partly why she hooked up with him in the first place. Should I confront him about it or just leave it?

First of all, I'm married. I've been married for 30 years. My husband and I split up for about a year and during that time I reconnected with my high school sweetheart. We dated from the 8th grade on into my senior year. We split then, because he was controlling and mean at times. This time around, as time went on he became controlling, drank alot.. I decided to opt out of that situation. It was a bad break-up. Eventually, my husband and I got back together. We are happy now, but when I found out that my ex bf got married it rocked my foundation. He used to drive by my house and one day he saw me in the grocery store and then noticed that I was with my husband and left suddenly.Then before I know it, he's got a girlfriend and now he's married. I know he was not the man for me, but I'm feeling very down over this. And there's a part of me that feels, "wow, he was a jerk to me, but he's good to her".. Please give me some insight on this?

her father leaves out of state for 10-14 days and sometimes longer to work. He never knows the exact days he leaves but whn he does hes gone for 10-14 days. he says he wont pay child support since he will ask to have her the time hes i back which is about half the month. i dont want to take away any of his rights but i dibnt agree with my 1 year old being away for 2 wks straight. id much prefer alternating every 3 days but ofcourse this isnt possible with his work. also, he says he won't help to cover babysitter costs either as he wont be the one needing one since he wont be working. I, however, will be working all month long mon-sat and will be needing one when hes not with her.

okay so i'm not judging my mom at all because i'm no one to judge another person i suspect my mom is having an affair with a guy she calls her friend ts not her friend at all my mom is like my diary and we tell each other a lot she told me she had kissed the guy and that she felt butterflies, i asked her if he was married she said yeah but he claims hes separated from his wife they live together they have 2 kids but he supposedly sleeps in another bed anyway this guy really likes my mom and he likes him too but he wont make her his gf or public , ive meet the guy before but my mom has never met his kids or been to his house , she says he makes her happy , happier than my stepdad make ( they still marry but theyre complicated ) he loves us a lot and help us a lot , i'm my mom would loose my stepdad for this guy who wont take her or us seriously i need advice on this i'm thinking of sending the guy a message and ask wassup with him if hes willing to take my mom seriously ask him if he's marry & if he denies ima tell him i;m going to message his wife ( i wont , just to scare him ) if he doesn't leave my mom alone what should i do ?

Ok, maybe this sounds odd to you but oh well. I really want to find a good guy who is ok with becoming a house husband, but I have no clue how to go about finding one. I am in my late thirties with a good stable job and own my own house. I would love to have one or two kids but don't have the time to raise them or look after them. and to tell you the truth, I don't want the burden of raising them full time:/ Any advice???

I know people have sob stories about how they're never going to marry/be loved by anyone, and some people honestly feel like that. I'm one of those people. I know I'm young, but I don't see marriage or children in my future. Are there people out there who are just not supposed to be in love?

My husband & I got married without a car. My parents give us rides to work we pay them gas money. We've talking about buying a car from his brother, but the amount he wanted was too high & payments. We are behind bills that I paid all of along with his check. He doesn't look at the bills. So I talked with someone else about a cheaper car to buy & payments. I told my husband this he agreed. My husband told his brother I didn't want the car it made it seem like it was all my fought. The problem is his family I don't want them thinking bad about me. We argued about this. He didn't want to argue I could tell he was upset. He felt that we could made payments for his brother. I'm the 1 who handles the bills. My husband kept telling me to just drop it. His family is manipulative I just want my husband to have my back & say the truth the payments where to high. His brother was pressing us for money. The car was really old he not a mechanic seen the car nor has checked the mileage. I kept having dreams & getting a feeling we buy the car & it stopped working. My husband didn't want to argue so he stopped talking. I'm in the wrong. We're a low income family. So the place helps with low income bad credit, has mechanic everything. I felt so bad I just want my husband to stand up for me if his family badmouths me for something that isn't my fault. We stopped talking about it. We're going in to look in the car dealership. Please help. I'm so frustrated.

My mom has been very secretive of her whatsapp messages ever since my parents were almost having a divorce twice. My parents are still married but they have been having trouble. So yesterday I found out her passcode and registered my finger print, and I snooped and checked her whatsapp messages and found from a guy this message "I can't wait to make love to you:)" and today I checked and her reply was a smiley face. Also all through the messages were "I love you"s. What the hell should I do! I'm only a kid but I have no ******* clue what I should do! Please answer!

I don't like feminists, i don't hate feminists, i don't care at all. But i nust have that one question that i asked.

my wife and I are separating after 30 years of marriage. She has some issues and has been in and out of mental institutions, rehab, and hospitals. We have 4 beautiful children that are all in there 20s. The divorce is her idea, hopefully maybe this will help her straighten up. She drinks more alcohol, smokes more cigerettes and takes more drugs than anyone ive seen in real life or the movies, its a blessing shes still kicking. not only kicking but destroying my life, the small business we built, all woman that come into the store or talk to me she herasses, calls up my family members saying terrible nasty things n then some. Ive been sending her around $100-$300 a week cash threw a bank I opened up for her. She is also receiving food stamps. I currently have one of my daughters who just moved in after really nasty relationship living with me with her 1 year old. I cant even afford food for us anymore, the bills are piling up and the stress, herasment, 100+ calls and texts a day from my ex are unbearable. Should I be giving her this much money? What do I do? its a sensitive question and I hope I don t offend anyone thank you

I mean, it's either marriage or divorce, right? When it's both it sort of connotes that divorce is inevitable. What bastard from a divorced family thought this crap up?

My mother lives in Los Angeles and she wants to have a "white christmas" and wants to speak with my ex-husband (whom I haven't spoken to in 7 years) about advice to spend Christmas in Vail, CO.. It was a terrible divorce, I really don't want her to speak with him. How can I change her mind tactfully about talking with him? HELP

One of my co-workers is bemoaning that with marriage costs today, it will cost him about two years of salary to buy the ring and have a good wedding. I told him that maybe he can find a woman that will be understanding of the financial burden and be more reasonable about wedding expenses. My co-worker proceeded to tell me that I might as well start looking for a unicorn in the wild. Is he right?

I am getting married and I want to ask my wife to do something for me. I want her to wear this dress for our wedding reception and the dress is a chinese cheongsam dress. People tell me that this dress isn't modest and classy and said it will make her look bad. I really like this and I want her to wear it. Would she look bad by wearing the dress in this picture ?

My son ran into trouble with the law. He was charged with assault and uttering threats after he attacked his wife. I'm paying for the lawyer which is costing me thousands. His wife has made it clear that she wants to reconcile and make the marriage work but my son is refusing and wants a divorce. He doesn't have money to cover these things. They just purchased a house and to sell it my son will take a $15,000 hit which I'll have to pay. I'll also have to pay thousands for the divorce. Should I put my foot down and demand he tries and make his marriage work instead of running from his problems? Or would I be a better parent to pay everything up so he's free and clear?

We have been married for 6 1/2 years. Things have changed a lot between us and I no longer love him. In fact I hate when he kisses me and touches me. I dont like being near him at all. He messed up our relationship years ago when he got a vasectomy done without telling me and knowing I wanted to have another baby. After that happened things have went downhill for us. I tried to stay with him for the sake of our 5 year old son. That is the only reason why I stayed in the marriage. However the longer I stay with him the more depressed I become. I really want a divorce and we can share custody of my son. Should I get the divorce or stay in a loveless marriage? I noticed I get angry when im around him too. I hold on to alot of resentment towards him.

How long were you contemplating a divorce? Was there a part of you that still was hoping things may change while you were about to get a divorce? Trying to justify your partner's actions so you could make things work out?

I've been with my fiance for 4 years now, living together for 3 and a half. About a year ago, his mother got a divorce and since then she's been spiraling out of control with several health issues. For a year, she's been working my fiance like a god. Making him do anything she needs: pay her bills (She hasn't worked for 15 years), Walk her dog everyday (So she doesn't have to), Take her trash out, drive her literally anywhere she needs to go (Because she'd rather ride in the passenger seat). I've gotten tired of it, and neither my fiance nor myself can tell her that she needs to stop acting this way because she's mentally unstable and will hurt herself. Last week, my fiance was working back to back shifts, so he was sleeping every chance he got and also turned his phone off. After 3 days, she had slipped notes under our door and sending me messages about how we are disrespecting her and she's tired of Ricky not talking to her everyday. NOW, she's making us call her to tell her whenever we are leaving the house, in case she needs something. We're literally asking permission. She lives a block away. She's a scam artist, and makes up ailments so she doesn't have to do anything herself. I don't plan on living in this town forever, and I'm afraid that my fiance won't leave when I'm ready to, and if he does, she'll make him stay by hurting herself. Should I leave him, or stay? I'm so conflicted. Sorry I meant *dog instead of god.

I have been married for 17 years now. It has been hard dealing with her mood swings and negative attitude for so long. Very harmful (words) when she is feeling it. My Mother in law is exactly the same. My parents died when I was 18 years old and throughout our marriage my wife has thrown out or burned every picture I ever had of them. She hates when I talk about my childhood or passed. I haven't talked to my siblings in over 7 years because she hates all of them and it would be a fight if I tried. They have never done anything to her. I used to be a pretty popular guy and really motivated, now I have no friends that I hangout with, only talk to them on social media in private. We have children and I love them more then anything, just thinking it's not healthy for them to see how weak I have become. I have tried to talk with her many many times but nothing positive ever comes from it, it just gets worse. Mental illness runs in her family, and if I ask her to please talk with someone then it's all out war! "Says I am the crazy one"! Stuff like that. as for our sex life, never thought I would be the guy in a marriage that says, only have sex several times a year! Sounds crazy just typing it. But it's true. It's like Control+Bi-Polar= My Wife! She loves to cut people down, to make herself feel better or just entertainment. Has anyone ever had a spouse like this, if so how did you deal with it?

My husband refuses to go anywhere or do anything with me and the kids. We have two boys 10 and 6 and we haven't been anywhere together in 3 years. Says they are too much of a hassle and get on his nerves. He says he would rather use his time to work and make money. I want to take the kids to the zoo this weekend and he refuses. Should I just take them on my own? 2 hours away? I am just sick of feeling like being with us is a hassle and he is doing us a big favor by being with us? Any advice how to deal or handle a selfish husband??

I need to do this divorce. I am so scared. It would be financially hard for me and emotionally. Please give me some advice how I can overcome this fear? So stressful when I think about where to start, I can't fall asleep at night. Thanks a lot.

So me and my husband are both 29 and are newly weds. We would like to start trying for a baby. I have heard that eating a lot of cheese can affect fertility, and my husband LOVES cheese!! He can eat a whole block by itself!

We are already legally married, hence husband, however our wedding is in a month. His brother has known about it for a year and is just now looking to buy plane tickets. We were originally told that only his brother was going to attend, not his entire family (2 daughters and girlfriend), but now his brother wants to bring the family but cannot afford to pay for all of them. We received a call from his crying mother about not being able to have the whole family at the wedding. My husband is a caretaker and offered to pay $500 and I am furious for various reasons. 1. His family has not contributed to the wedding what so ever whereas my family has paid for the entire wedding - His mother asked if she could wear white to the wedding... no? (and in case your wondering, I get along great with his family and they love me, so its not because they disapprove of our marriage - They have no idea how I feel because I stay out of these situations and only vent to my husband, which he usually has the same frustrations!) 2. They do not seem to have the same respect for my husband as he does for them 3. His brother is a grown man with 2 kids by 2 different mothers and seems to have no responsibility and only contacts my husband when something is needed or if my husband bugs him to reply (He is no longer the best man because we could not rely on him and wouldn't return phone calls or emails) 4. This is not the first time something like this has happened Good Lord Mrr/Mrs. Anonymous - Your jumpign to conclusions is beyond offensive so let me tackle this for you. 1. I asked again and deleted my previous ? because I didnt add details. Relax. 2. No part of my question was asking your opinion on our marriage vs. our wedding. We got married how we wanted too where we wanted too and now our families would like to be apart of that - its really none of your business. 3. I am not furious with my husband (NOT MY WORDS) I am furious with his family... who takes advantage of his stability when his parents make enough money to take care of his brother, but instead put the burden on my husband (and I) when he isn't bothered if his brother is there or not. 4. My husband and I are not arguing, He feels bad his mother cried to him and I think his brother should be responsible - if he wanted to come to the wedding with his family and knew about it for a year in advance, then he should have manned up and saved some money And my husband actually agrees that his family is irresponsible, so lets not judge others on a simple question. We have our own family and financial responsibilities to take care of - just as you do Oh goodness Lol - Our family and friends know we are already married. Ever heard of renewing your vows? Yeah its basically like that so chill - again this wasn't part of the question. Judgmental people these days... Must I really explain? smdh We went on Vacation to Hawaii where we got engaged and legally got married just the two of us. We decided to have our "wedding" or "Reception" - whatever you want to call it, back home to celebrate with our family and friends.

My husband's ex-girlfriend/baby momma had court because she's being jealous and won't let my husband see their daughter. We went to court last Thursday and I wore a red dress. She wore khaki pants and a teal shirt. Yesterday, we had our second hearing, and his ex came wearing a red dress, clearly after seeing me wear one last week. Is it normal for her to be copying me? The reason she's being so diffucult is because she's jealous. She has harassed us, threatened us, even broke in and trashed our house in a fit of anger because she saw from a friend's social media page that we were engaged and saw the ring and flowers he'd gotten me. My first update was in response to what Starfish said about why she's being so difficult.

We have 3 kids, the youngest of whom is a toddler. I wouldn't call myself vain, but I enjoy looking good and always wanted to keep up appearances even post-children. So I just told my husband I am looking to get a breast life and implants. Nothing major by any means, I am a small B and want to go to a C. I thought his reaction would be excitement but the first thing out of his mouth was "why? So guys will look at you?" I immediately denied that and explained the that I am happily married, have never given him ANY reason to doubt me, and am surprised by his reaction. I want to look good for myself, and thought he would get the added enjoyment as well (more confidence = more fun for us). He just said he thinks I wouldn't be doing this if it weren't for other guys. So what would you do if you were me? Do you think he just needs to warm up to the idea? Or am I in the wrong? *Lift, not life. Sorry for the typo!

We've been together for six years now. In the beginning she was very mean and disrespectful. she would give her number out to a lot of men, allowed another man to sleep over her house, tell people I was her soon to be ex-boyfriend, whenever she walked in a room i would smile but she would roll her eyes, and told me nothing was going on with another man that she had a crush on, but let it slip that when they were together he would try to sleep with her. I didn't buy they didn't do anything because if she didn't want that then she wouldn't have been going back over there. Well, I finally snapped at her and told her how I really feel and if she didn't want me to leave me and I'll find someone who treats me better. We decided to work on it, but recently she said "I really don't need you in my life." and sounded pretty happy saying it. So I hung up and refused to talk to her. I've been receiving calls from her and her family apologizing for what she said. That she doesn't know why she said it and she's been crying ever since I hung up. We are suppose to be getting married in December but I can't take this anymore. She does have a lot of issues and I've been trying to help her since day one, but she keeps hurting me every time it gets good. I honestly don't trust her and think I'm making a big mistake. All my friends and family wants me to get rid of her and find someone without these issues and that will treat me a lot better.

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My husband has told me he doesn't love me and doesn'ttrust nme because I've gained weight since we got married this past August. He calls me obese and I swear to you I'm not. If I could show you my profile pics you'd see I'm not fat. He told me he wanted me to stay, but he's been on me since June when I went to the beach with my family instead of staying with him. I dont work during the summer b/c I'm a teacher assistant in the school system so we had like a 3 wjen long conversation about going to the beach, he was supposed to go as well, but @ the last minute he got a new job and couldn't go and told me to go ahead w/ my family and relax and enjoy the beach so I did. When I got back it was back to him ignoring me until he was talking down to me. I do all the work around the house and have his dinner ready by the time he gets off work. I go to the gym or do shaun t 25 everyday to get in shape. He never appreciates me. So I left him tonight. I'm not staying with a man who doesn't wanna love me. I wanted kids before I was 30, but thats not gonna happen because I'll be 30 next April. He wanted to have sex w/ me tonight and said "u don't even love me" then that's when our argument started.

She told me "(1/3) I dont want to be house wife. Like im not ready....ive never had to take care of myself let alone another person...i mean i prepared myself for a kid just not for marriage. Idk, im not used to listening to what im told or being told what to do actually....i dont think i am mentally prepared to do this right now." Among other things. She's been staying at her ex boyfriends house.. We have to children.. I dont know where this came from..

The reason I'm posting this, is because I don't wish for my friends to find out, not just yet. I'm incredibly ashamed that this happened to me, and don't want them seeing me as a victim. Anyway, I found out that my wife has been sleeping with her boss. I confronted her about it, and she basically laughed in my face, and said she wants someone who's not the biggest loser she ever met. Incidentally, we've been married for 12 years. I'm going to divorce her. At 35 years old, I still got a lot of life left to live, and don't need to be with her. But I have to wonder, is my wife right about me? I work 40 hrs a week. I'm in the service industry, so I'm dealing with the public all day. In fact, my employer has been so impressed with me, not only my work ethic, but also my ability in dealing with customers, that he promoted me to team manager 3 months ago. On Saturday's, I go out with some friends of mine. We go and shoot pool, bowl, and even go hiking on occasion. I work out. And I've even enrolled in a a couple of dance classes, as a way to better myself as a person.

It's just very sad that the bulk of what men value in women is fleeting and superficial. And don't tell me that personality plays a big role in it, because even when men stick it out with their wives and "grow old together" they are still lusting and yearning for someone else. But beyond having children, I have no idea why I would want to have a man now knowing what really goes on in their heads. :( Dating/marriage seems pointless now.

So, my husband, for as long as I can remember has always had a problem with going out to much, partying it up at clubs and drinking with his guy friends. Usually in the mix of this he would end up meeting up with girls and getting phone numbers and then carrying on text message conversations. Some mundane, others very flirty. He would swear up and down that nothing ever physical happened and to be honest, I mostly believed him. At this point, we owned a business, had two children, a home, bills, etc. I'm a stay at home mom, but I also worked at the business we owned together until 2011. In 2011, he moved to a bigger building, and started a poker game out of it. So, I kept away from the business. I looked for avenues to be able to leave him, but the area where we are.., theres really not much in the way of jobs other than Walmart, Target, Home Depot, certainly not enough for a single mom with two kids and a husband who had cash income (where he could show he didn't make much in order to pay child support, I found out he was doing a bunch of other hinky things with our money that basically made it impossible monetary wise for me to be able to just up and leave) so, instead, I focused on me, my kids, taking care of the house and them. I mean, basically he was gone all the time anyway and he was paying the bills. I was able to buy what I needed, when I needed to, didn't and still don't..have to worry about food, lights, roof, etc. I'll have to add additional info So, basically, it was kind of like having this guy who was a roommate and I could go on with life as I pleased. Then all of a sudden he had a turning point. He started staying home more, was more attentive, seemed to have stopped all the partying, was showing up for me and the girls, became romantic, everything seemed great. I really thought, wow, no more drinking, no more text messages, etc. We seemed to be on the right tract. June 25th, he happened to go out, get really drunk. For some reason it was a running mantra in my head, check his phone, check his phone, check his phone. He had fallen asleep (passed out) without clicking it off, and I was able to catch it before it went to the lock screen. On it through google voice and gmail, were hundreds of text messages, between him and this girl for 2 years! and escorts/hookers... He at first tried to deny it, but then I showed him how I took pics of all the messages. And he was at first in shock that I found everything but then, he was begging. He'll stop drinking, he'll make his phone accessible anytime I want it. He'll be transparent, blah blah blah. The problem is... .neither of us have the money for a divorce. Neither of us can afford to pay for a place on our own. So I have to remain living with him, the problem with that is, he thinks he can fix this and keep us together. Now its been almost a month and when I act distant or want him to just be away from me he acts all offended and as if I'm the bad person. I'm panicking because, I don't know how to get it across to him, that I want nothing to do with him in a marital way. At all. That if I had my choice, I'd be somewhere else and so would he. That I'm only here and staying here, because I have to be. He "surprised" me with a new dishwasher today... and I was supposed to act excited about it.... But the truth is, I don't want anything from him at all, I just want to be here, raise my daughters and do what I have to do, without him acting like we're okay. Its only been less than a month..and he thinks things are supposed to be back on track already... to the hookers, which were like 30 different numbers.. he was asking if they were in the area, some of them he knew by name and they knew him by name. His friends made comments about how one wasn't the same girl from the night before while they were in Vegas for one of the guys 40th birthday. With the girl he had been messaging with (she lived where we are but then moved recently to Florida) he told her that if it wasn't for how he grew up in a divorced family, he'd had left a while ago.