I am married but have no kids. I never wanted any kids but recently I feel an emptiness inside of me. I am wondering if that is because I don't have kids. Anyone felt this way before having kids? Anyone not have had kids and now regret it at an older age?

Why do people always think the mistress, "other woman" wants the guy to leave his wife? Or that she is unintelligent and just good in bed or physically appealing in ways the wife isn't ? Or she gives amazing head the wife doesn't? That's not at all true. I am considered the "other woman" and I want my lover to stay with his wife and if he told her I would be upset! I like him and we are great friends, we have long intellectual conversations, and get along beautifully, but I do not want to be in a committed relationship with him, the reason I am with him is becuase it is the purest form of non committal and if everyone is smart no one gets hurt. His wife actually has a rocking body, I maybe have bigger breast than her and I defiantly have a really pretty face where she doesn't. But I'm not more crazy hot than her, I do however have more kinks than her and I am make him feel sexy and wanted and boost his confidence. I also provide a stress free environment where he can relax and talk about books and movies and music and life and have his back and feet rubbed. I get awesome company and great sex and the feeling of being so very sexy! out of it, he gets to not feel Lonley and unwanted and stressed, and have great sex. I am a great person I volunteer, I am highly educated, I am loved and lovable, I have two rescue animals, I work hard, I keep to myself, I read, I write. He is also a great person he does all of the above he pays all the bills he cooks and cleans. So don't judge.

He says I know when we talk it's only for a few seconds, and it feels awkward. When we talk it's only good morning, hi, just casualties like that. That's why I don't get it. What that means.

If I was married to a member of Iron Maiden, I would be married to Bruce Dickinson, our children would be named Hailey and Blake.

Especially men because theirs nothing in it for them. I see my fellow diplomats get screwed by the court system everyday and they lose half of everything to some woman who be sneakin n geekin. Anyways for the women who earn their own stuff. Good. But some don't and they usually are the ones that cheat then divorce and take what you own. If they have kids with you then you are done. If you get a girl pregnant. Your life is hers. She has an 18 year pipeline to free money even if she doesn't need it and marries a man who makes $100,000 + a year. I seen it happen before. I habe no idea why a man would marry. Love isn't real. It's just a chemical for the time being and that can change quickly. I don't get it. I rather just go watch the next episode a dragon z.

My wife is kissing someone that she is related to. I fear that she may have an incest fetish. Should I go to the priest before he leaves the altar and ask for my marriage to be annulled? I don't want a cheater in my life. I just saw her kiss another person! what do I do?

Ok so like the title says my mom is getting married 5th time. One before I was born (Im 15), The second time was my father who died when I was 5, third was only for 6 months and he was kinda crazy, and the last one lasted 7 years and was physically and verbally abusive to her me and my half-brother. So this new guy is nice enough and they have agreed to not get married until I move out, so that's not an issue. The problem is that she wants to go to his house (2 hours away) every other weekend and I really don't want to. I know she deserves to be happy but I want to be able to stay in one place for awhile, since we have moved 4 times since I was born and I just came back this summer from a 1 1/2 year stint from a military school. So my question is what should I do? We just had an argument about it and will send me back to the military school if I don't come with her. Thanks for and help :)

I want opinions, he never told me about it until I coincidentally brought her up a week ago, then he said "oh she messaged me a nd said she's in town next week, she wants to see me." So I apparently she messaged him almost a week before telling me and he agreed to meeting up without telling me or asking me how it would make me feel. It's the only girlfriend he had before me and I asked him why she wants to meet up...so he said she wants to catch up.. so I asked if they were friends after they broke up, before moving from California to Washington and he said no... So to me it's odd that suddenly she wants to see him.. anyways, what's your opinion?

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My husband is the father to both of my children, we are not yet seperated nor divorced. I am asking because tonight was the second night this month that he got physically abusive, and in front of the kids! I need to leave him I know but he wanted me to be a stay at home mom since my youngest (3months old) was born. So no job, no where to go, no means of supporting my children. I need to know if I can get a child support order right away after leaving him otherwise if I can't I am honestly stuck with him.

I was in a relationship with a guy that taught me that god hated a certain race of people. OF course I remained with him because i loved him butI never really cared too much about what race of people god hated but ive realized how toxis he was and realized i couldnt continue my life with him.. I currently have our daughter with me in the state of Louisiana and he wants to send me to court for that because hes not in this state.. I do have videos and comments that he has made towards others via social media about hating a certain group of people. Can I used this in court when trying to get custody? I do not have residency of this state however i have my daughter's name on the lease altho mines isnt. can i still gain residency here even tho my name isnt on the lease. i mean everywhere my 3 year old daughter is iam there so do you think they will consider me as a residence to go ahead and file for divorce in the state of Louisiana?

I knew my wife for six years and we got married back in February of this year. I love her a lot but to be honest with you, there was a part of me that never wanted to get married to her in the first place. I feel like I married her because we knew each other for so long and I felt like I would have been wasting her time had I not went ahead and settled down with her. My best friend told me I got married for all the wrong reasons but when I make a commitment I truly commit and always stick with my word. However, I don't know if this is one commitment I want to follow through on. I almost feel kind of stuck. What should I do?

My fiance and I got into an argument while I was visiting my extended family. It was a misunderstanding but no matter how much I tried explaining my side he said "Stop getting emotional." So in the end, I gave in and let him rant and when he calmed down he called and said "You think I'm going to let you visit your family anymorw? Yeah right! You've forgotten who I am. You did this to yourself. You think I'm joking? It's like your family on steroids, and it is making you crazy. This is why you're acting this way."

I have suffered from depression for years. I had a messed up childhood and I went to therapy. I got better and then everything was great. My husband then got hooked on pills about 6 years ago because he got into a serious accident where he broke his back and legs. It s been in and out of rehabs and he was over two years clean until recently he broke his shoulder. Keep in mind we've also been dealing with non stop infections. I have been changing back braces, doing medications, cleaning wounds, debriding wounds, changing diapers etc for the last six years. Now I am changing arm bandages. Anyway, this has caused me to be depressed. Plus we've had sex maybe one every year except when he was sober then it was every other month. His testestoerone hasn't been the same. I'm 27! Anyway, about a month and a half ago I couldn't take it anymore and I tried to commit suicide. I just had enough of it between he broken bones, the infections, the drug abuse, the no intimacy I was mentally exhausted and done. I had no one to talk to because my parents live 1800 miles away as do my good friends. I'm not back to seeing a therapist and it's helped, but I can't talk to my husband about how I feel. He thinks I'm being a baby and he doesn't want to ever hear how I feel. I guess it's because he has his own problems being sick. I mean I love my husband, I know the man he was before the accidents. I just don't know how to get out of this depression! I feel selfish for having feelings. ugh help I don't want to leave my husband. I love him, and I know he's sick. I just don't know how to get us in a place where we both get our needs met and it's not always about him. I feel so sad and hurt and resentful that this ever happened! If he wouldn't have ever gotten into that accident. But I know that's the past. I just need advice on how to get out of this depression because I can't even get out of bed anymore, I barely eat. I did start working out which has helped to. Any tips? We also have nurses come almost every other day but to help but they only come for PT, and one bandage change. I know we are strong together but I just hate seeing his pain and I hate feeling it.

I feel it's not necessary for married people to get on friendly terms with people of the opposite gender.I feel it's wrong for married people to have friends of the opposite gender and I also feel it's inappropriate for married people to keep in contact with people of the opposite gender unless they are family members.I talked to my wife about this a couple weeks ago on the phone(since me and my wife have been separated for a few months now) and how I wouldn't like her having any male friends and I haven't heard from my wife since then.As for my son who is 18 year old.It's wrong for him to email with his former married female teacher who is 25 year old,even tho the conversations between my son and the teacher are completely innocent and appropriate and even if her husband is okay with it because it goes beyond being strictly civil/business like.I feel married people should be strictly civil and business like with people of the opposite gender and not get tempted with people of the opposite gender.Married woman shouldn't be using :) emoticon when replying to another man besides their husband is family members because it could lead to temptation otherwise.I even feel a married woman shouldn't be friendly with another man because being friendly is a sense of friendship which includes caring,affection,and joking around and it could lead to temptation.Married people do you get on friendly terms with people of the opposite gender or you are strictly civil and business like?

Two years ago I married a man with 3 children. 2 were grown and one in high school. The two older girls are fairly independent and appreciative of gifts. The youngest is going to attend college near us and is staying with us until school begins. Her mother and she have purchased literally nothing for her dorm yet, and while that is surprising, I had expected to enjoy helping her shop. As it turns out though, nothing is good enough for her. She apparently threw out all her socks before she came to us saying she wanted all new ones that match. We haven't been able to find socks that satisfy her in stores and she now wants to purchase 20 pairs on line...really...socks? She also wants several expensive cases for her phone, one is special for underwater pictures... (no way! ), a new laptop, eats only organic food, "needs" special cosmetics from health food stores, needs a car (but doesn't even have a learners permit). There is absolutely no way she's used to getting all this! With her mother she lived in a tiny, awful apartment above an actual prostitute and sometimes my husband and I had to send money (beyond child support) to pay their rent or help out with groceries. I am not sure if she's somehow messing with me, or if my husband has spoiled her this badly or if her mother had somehow given her the impression that we're made of money. Does anyone have any advice?

Several years ago my husband and I bought a 50" plasma TV for our living room. One thing the sales person told us was to not pause anything too long on the TV or it could possibly leave a ghost image on the screen. My husband has all the gaming systems on that TV and lately I've been watching a lot of Netflix on his PS3 or PS4. He'll walk in and I'll have a show paused and I'll be in another part of the house and he keeps fussing at me about it. One day he came home and I had left the house with the TV on and yes it was paused. He got on me about it and we had a big argument about it. Today I was watching Netflix on his system and I needed to go pick my son up from work. I stopped my show which went back to the main screen on Netflix and when I got back about 30 minutes later he was standing in the living room with his arms folded. The TV was off and the PS3 was also off and he was getting on me about leaving the TV on. I told him I didn't pause the show then he said that taking it back to the main screen was just like pausing cause the images on the TV do not change and over time they burn into the screen. He then tells me not to touch his PS or PS4 anymore since I just don't care about what he's been trying to say to me. I guess this means I can't watch Netlix on the big TV now. Does he have the right to ban me from using the TV or his gaming systems? Yes we went in on the TV but the gaming systems are all his. He paid for them. I wasn't gone long, only about 30 mins.

Can you give me tips.

I feel it's best for married people to be strictly business like and civil and not "friendly" with people of the opposite gender unless they are family member since being friendly is a sense of friendship and it includes affection,caring,joking around.I feel if I have let my wife be friends with another man,I am blindly trusting my wife.I have explain this to my wife on the phone a couple weeks ago(since me and my wife have been separated) and since then we haven't talked.It doesn't help I have a 18 year old son who emails his former teacher who is a married 25 year old woman .People say as long as my son and the teacher are not emailing each other inappropriately,it's okay but to me it's wrong for married people to email people of the opposite gender unless they are family and I feel it's wrong for a non married man to email a married woman unless it's for strictly business reasons because emailing about non academic/work related stuff could to temptation.It's not necessary for married person to be "friendly" with someone of the opposite gender.I feel being friends with people of the opposite gender is wrong because can lead to temptation.I also feel married woman shouldn't be putting :) emoticons when replying to other men that are not family members because it can lead to temptation.Married people are you strictly business like and polite/civil with people of the opposite gender,are you on friendly terms or friends with people of the opposite gender?

We have been separated for over a year and a half and we're married for two and a half years. We have no children together and no property, simply just need to sign the papers. I have sent him the papers already signed but he won't sign them and send them back. What can I do? Is there a way to get a divorce if he refuses to sign?

My bf insists they are just friends they are FB friends he sleeps over at her house , we have been dating online for 2 months and now she blocked me on FB ? What do I think if this . She doesn't have a patch on me she needs to go to the gym as she's overweight I'm fit and hot and just posted a bikini shot so he doesn't stray

Hi. Please help me. So me and my partner are getting married and the thing is its a secret and our families can t know. My family doesn t matter as they are fine but her family can t know. The thing is how will getting married affect her social security? Is there a way her family will find out? What if she changes her name? How can she hide it that she s married? Please help.

My wife and I met and married pretty quickly . I do love her , and I do help her with her kids even though I told her that in the very beginning I saw myself as a guardian not and step dad . She told me before I responded with that guardian stuff that she wants a partner to help her with her kids . Anyway fast forward almost a year later . I do care about her kids even though they annoy ( on different levels ) the crap out of me daily . ( mainly her two smallest ) She expected me from The very first day to love them , I shouldn't be forced to love them . Does love in this case have to be. Forced ? Does natural love not matter in this case ? Right now we are pending separation due to mainly issues regarding kids and a percentage of problems pertaining to us . ( as a couple ) I never told her I couldn't love them ever , I am sure that that would be a possibility in the future . But to be so pressing of the matter to the point of divorce does not make sense . Should this refusal to show forced love result in divorce ? Or should she be more understanding ?

Husband tells me he loved me when we married, but wasn't attracted because I was overweight. He was/is permanently disabled by nerve damage and chronic pain, sex wasn't great, but we were very affectionate, talked all the time, etc. I was OK with the sex because my needs for tenderness  and affection were being met. He also has the autistic children and a psycho ex-wife who will not talk to either of us unless in front of a judge. Court costs and kids treatment have cost me not one, but two houses, my credit score and I kept borrowing from my retirement fund to make ends meet.   I have a good job, my own health issues (PCOS) drive an hour one way to work for custody reasons and chronic pain from an auto accident. Stress is high. Because of the PCOS I am insulin resistant   and can't eat processed carbs/sugar without gaining weight. He knew that going in and stated that his diet should change his family has at least 3 generations of diabetics. He still buys and prepares processed carb meals, that's all they eat. Somewhere along the line affection and communication went out the window, now I am told it is because I've gained weight...65 lbs...we made a deal at valentine's that I would lose weight but needed communication and physical affection to increase and support with meals. His side of the bargain died after a few weeks. We are also back in court and his nerve damage seems to have spread. I kept losing weight. Even though hehad candy, cookies, ice cream, chips etc left open all over the house. Shopped for myself and occasionally he would throw an Atkins meal in the oven so it was ready when I got home.  Until they found a lump in my breast against my chest wall 3 weeks ago...because of the location, if it is malignant 5 year survival rate 50/50. My diet went out the window and my pain/anxiety are through the roof.  Most days I we eat pizza, McDonald's, Subway or PB&J. He has been living on cereal, chocolate  and double stuff oreos. I had lost 26 lbs, I gained 9 back and have lost 3 in the last week. Yesterday he asked what I weighed and went ballistic because I had gained weight.  I was told he wasn't shopping for my dietary needs and the rest of the family doesn't need a diet change. When I brought up diabetes it just made him more angry. Didn't sleep at all last night and have been sitting in my car at a rest area for the last 4 hours just to get away from him. What do I do?

I feel married people should be strictly polite with people of the opposite gender unless they are family members.I believe in trust but I don't believe in blinded trust.I feel if I have let my wife be friends with another man,I am blindly trusting my wife.I have explain this to my wife on the phone a couple weeks ago(since me and my wife have been separated) and since then we haven't talked.It doesn't help I have a 18 year old son who emails his former teacher who is a married 25 year old woman .People say as long as my son and the teacher are not emailing each other inappropriately,it's okay but to me it's not right for married people to email people of the opposite gender unless they are family and I feel it's wrong for a non married man to email a married woman unless it's for strictly business reasons.Being polite and being friendly with a person is different.It's not necessary for married person to be "friendly" with someone of the opposite gender since being friendly is a sense of friendship and it includes affection,caring,joking around, and being I feel being friends with people of the opposite gender is wrong because can lead to temptation and a married man or woman should not have to worry if their spouse will cheat and I feel the way to do that is be strictly business like and polite but not "friendly".Married people can you tell a difference between trust and blinded trust?

I'm 7 months pregnant. From my part I'm choosing my sister to be our daughter's godmother. My husband wants to ask his former brother-in-law (the younger brother of his late first wife, who's also his good friend from his university days). Actually I'd rather he chooses his own brother, to whom he's quite close too, although maybe not as close as to his former BIL. It'd be odd if someone asks about the baby's godfather and I must answer, "the brother of my husband's first wife". My husband is also the godfather of his first wife's another brother's kid. I'm friendly too with my husband's former in-laws and have nothing against them, but I'd like to keep certain things in the family. Am I wrong? I've discussed this with my husband (with tact), and he said, if I feel too strongly about this, then he'll ask his brother all right. However, I'm afraid I'll sound petty and he'll hold it against me.

Got married July 5th of this year (2015) in the state of Texas. He's in the army and is stationed in Fort Bliss, Texas. I live in Oklahoma. We never lived together. We never owned anything together. We don't have any kids together. We never filed for a marriage license to get married and we never got a marriage certificate after the ceremony. We got married at a church. So my question is, would this be a legal marriage? I never signed anything. The pastor who did the marriage didn't even know my name. This was a huge mistake. Jw if I would have to file for a divorce if this is a legal marriage. Any info would help..

He has text me daily for 3 months. He asks to see me all the time. I saw him, we kissed. He then asked to see me again. I asked what he wants from me, friendship / relationship / FWB? He said he would reply back to me when he has more time, but he is not looking for a FWB and not looking for a relationship with me. But he has been pursuing me daily, several texts a day, so I am now confused about what he wants. It has now been 2 days since we have had any contacts. He has gone silent.

I have primary custody. She has ADHD and isn't doing well in school. My ex doesn't like her diagnosis, and demands something must be wrong with her eyes/ears. I pay for her health insurance (he is supposed to but anyway) he took her to an eye specialist and never got a referral. Meaning, I will have to pay in full for the bill. He won't pay. Her vision was perfect as her PCP just checked it last month and she has it checked in school. Is there anything I can do?

I am 17 years old and my girlfriend is 20 years old. We have been going out for a year and a half. Her parents fully support us getting married however mine do not and in IL I need their permission to get married. I understand that normally getting married this young is a foolish idea and I would normally agree, but in my case I feel it may be necessary. My girlfriend and I can be fully financially independent I already am somewhat financially independent. We both have plans for our lives and my parents are getting in the way. I know I sound like an ungrateful spoiled brat, but I need to leave my household. Is there anyway I can get passed their objection to me getting married?

He's going away on Thursday with his single guy friends. He told me one of them is going to go with a prostitute. Everytime I ask him are u going to a strip club/red light he gets so angry and somethings he even tells me to leave his house of im there? Or won't speak to me for the day. I'm so upset about him going obviously it's not a place I want him to go . Also I will miss him . I love him so much buy I can't stand the way i can't talk about amsterdam. They all smoke weed so yes I no he's doing that. I do trust him it's just he's very sneaky sometimes ans hides his phone and lies about things. He's going for a week he'll be horny sex is everywhere. It's hard not to think :( also were fighting now..He told me it was over this morning because I was upset about it.. but he always dose this. He'll probably text me later or tomorrow but the day is almost here ans im terrified. I just don't no what to say or think. I don't even think he's tell me if he did sleep with one or go to a strip club. He gets defensive alot .He dosnt let me near is his phone and last night I seen he was texting his friend and said ' yeah man can't wait to go amsterdam. .going to forget everything back here' Why did he say that ?? He's not stressed and not fighting with family? ? Dose that mean also forget me ??? He went to Bulgaria Last year also and he said to his friend ' awh the place we're in has loads of beds+baths ;)* now I'm questioning everything :( please help

I'd say for the most part, I probably wouldn't really care. They were mean to me and they broke up with me so why should I care? They didn't care about me!

What I'm saying by secret is, they have codes on all their computer stuff. When you ask a question they act like they work for the CIA. When trying to talk to them you can tell it's bothering them and they don't want to talk about pretty much anything. You get the eye roll, or a grunting sound or the look like go away.

What if the person does not want couple time or make time to go to dinner or a movie. They'd rather go hang out with their friends all weekend.

hey! so i made a pof last night. it was going well, but apparently the next door neighbor has one too, and i made the mistake of clicking on his profile, which prompted him to check out mine. im not sure what to do. lol my husband knows about everything, and i said i should just delete it, but that makes me look guilty in my opinion. even if i kept it up, it says im single(they dont allow married people on it), and what if the neighbor tells someone, and it gets back to my husband. we dont want to have to explain why i have one lol my husband was going to say i like the attention, and it makes me feel better to be hit on lol and he was going to say i dont do anything bad. i guess i would rather look like an insecure pregnant woman rather than a cheater! whats your advice please!!!!!

- told me the time spends w/ me is a sacrifice. that he doesn't do what he really wants to do. "no man is happily married, that's why they call it being hitched to a ball & chain" - rejects me sexually consistently and stopped me from touching him months ago. touched him recently for the first time in months and he answers his exwifes drunken phone call interrupting us instead of ignoring it like hes always done. she says nothing and hangs up. he calls her x3 and texts her. he's never called her before. he made no attempt to start back the intimacy instead he says he'd have to force himself to have sex. - told me he'd leave me if I got pregnant and had mood swings. - use to say he regretted marrying me every cpl weeks. (1st time was 10 days in) - use to threaten to leave me at least once a month. - told me he "wasn't putting all his eggs in one basket" - will make up lame excuses to avoid calling/talking/being affectionate to me. - thought of his ex wife instead of me as "wife" in a discussion about us. (they've been split for 15yrs. hes had several relationships since then) - will not stop taking xanax even though he mistreats me on them. tells me he wont take them again but does. he is not dependant on nor prescribed them. he takes them to increase the affects of opiates. - caught him calling a girl multiple times and deleting it. gets mad at me for catching him , cusses me out and threatens to leave. - recently insulted my body. I'm 5'4 135. *** not big enough.

hey! so i made a pof last night. it was going well, but apparently the next door neighbor has one too, and i made the mistake of clicking on his profile, which prompted him to check out mine. im not sure what to do. lol my husband knows about everything, and i said i should just delete it, but that makes me look guilty in my opinion. even if i kept it up, it says im single(they dont allow married people on it), and what if the neighbor tells someone, and it gets back to my husband. we dont want to have to explain why i have one lol my husband was going to say i like the attention, and it makes me feel better to be hit on lol and he was going to say i dont do anything bad. i guess i would rather look like an insecure pregnant woman rather than a cheater! whats your advice please!!!!!

We were seperated for a year and a half and there was eveb restraining other agaisnt him There was no contact other than exchanging our child. One day, during court we decided to try and safe our marriage. We voluntarily decided to take marriage therapy and we started dating. We now live together. Recently I noticed a messages from a women who asked if he didnt want to know anything about her anymore. I believe he had something to do with her while we were seperated. Infact a co-worker told me she saw him with someobe else while me and him were dating. He denied that. I don't want to confront him because I dont want him to know I checked his phone. I know we were seperated and we weren't planning to go back together so Im not mad or hurt about him seeing someone else during our seperation. And from what I saw he did not answe her back. However I don't understand why he would deny having seen this girl and Im scared that he will eventually give in. What should I do? Help

It would maybe distract you away from the problems for a long time? note: it isnt a real life issue, its hypothetical.