I never knew he was married until tonight. I assumed he was a single, gay man. We had been seeing each other for the better part of a year. He always came here, but tonight, after not hearing from him for a couple of weeks, he asked me to come to his place. I thought nothing of it. When I got there, he told me via text to wait outside. I was starting to feel anxious. Then, I get a text saying "This is his wife. Leave:. I m calling a cab at this point to leave and he comes outside telling me to pretend I don t know him and that he was talking with his wife. When I get home, I start getting a series of texts from his number and what I assume to be his wife s number. "Do I know you?", who is this etc. I initially ignore it but then say that they have the wrong number. I then get a screenshot and a message asking If I hooked up with someone last monday and was texting her husband about it. I ve ignored everything. I m still getting texts from the guys number every 20 min or so saying block (wife s number) and to act like we never met. I m completely freaked out because my address is definitely in those texts and I m afraid one or both of them will snap and show up here to hurt me. I never would have slept with him had I known he was married. What can I do if the texts keep coming or one or both of them seeks me out? I don t even know if I can sleep tonight. I m sorry if I sound dramatic. I m just scared. How do I deal with this?

I am a young INFJ, and im trying to reach out to other INFJ's, but since its the rarest personality on earth, i'd also appreciate the advise of anyone with a 'similar' disposition or understanding. The reason I'm desperate on other's similar opinion is because my personality is sooo strange and different. Sometimes I wonder if I feel /too/ deeply. Something thats been on my mind lately, is marriage. The way I was raised, my childhood was surrounded by unhappy and unhealthy relationships. Even the love that was displayed by my parents was cold, distant, and delicate-- always wondering if or when they would divorce, for a solid 20 years (my whole life), yet i never questioned their deep love for me. But Im sure we've all seen, had, or been in such a type of relationship. I have a negative view of marriage now for some reason. I keep thinking that maybe it wont work out, or when will the love stop? Its like paranoia. All the guys that I have liked or been on dates with were sweet, but we drifted apart (Due to the busy nature of my life, not like some dramatic break up). I always felt though deep down they werent really 'the ones'. The guys that I have really really really really liked, (not in a creepy way, I just mean their personality and the way they looked at life) have been older then me, just in another place in life, or in a relationship. Does anyone have any advice or wisdom to share? I have a fragile outlook and depression runs in my family so im weary of this; i want to surround myself with positive people. So far, ive been focused on school, work, friends and myself, and life has been good on this end. Yet I am really freaking out about relation/marriage. I read INFJ's are the most dissatisfied with their marriage

There's a man am interested in at the place I volunteer at on weekends. He seems nice but on occasion he makes remarks on how "Hot" other women are. Example, I was talking about how creepy some of the employees at our local restaurant are and he tells me, I usually don't encounter too many of those, the women there are really hot. I normally tell him how nice he looks that day so he knows I like him, but he never really compliments me. However, he does come to help me often at the homeless shelter, he likes talking to me and he hugs me on occasion before he leaves, carries all the heavy dog food bags for me, has called me adorable before. The times I do more than compliment his looks, sometimes he flirts back but other times he shuts down my forward flirting. This is all leaving me confused. I'm moving to another city at the end of next month so I can be closer to my sister. He has asked me for my number and then given me his but he rarely texts me.. When I text he responds back quick, but I have to make that initial interaction... Is he interested or not ?

I want to be a bunny for my husband

On May 21, 2017, I went on a trip with some of my friends. We went to a fancy restaurant as a "celebration" for getting on the dean's list for the second time. I saw my dad eating with another woman. I took pictures of them so I could confront him. When I did confront him, he started crying saying he was sorry and to not tell mom. He promised me that he would cut ties with that woman. Fast forward to last week and I saw him once again in traffic with the same woman in his car. I confronted him again through the phone. I asked him why he is ruining his marriage by cheating on mom. To make the story short, he said that he was dating that woman before he even met mom for 6 YEARS. Basically, my mom and dad had an affair and got pregnant with my eldest sibling. So, they decided to get married and he dumped his girlfriend "the woman". Now he is having an affair with his ex. I had no idea about this and I'm actually mad at both of my parents. (I thought my parents were actually in love) I haven't told my siblings only my friends about this situation. Some friends are telling me to tell my mom and others said I shouldn't. I have two young siblings still living with my parents. One is 13 years old and the other is 15 years old. I feel bad that they will have to go through a divorce if my mom does find out. I don't think I would be affected by it since I moved out last year. I'm confused at this point and don't know what I should do.

Been married 9 years. I live in her friend's house (she was leaving there first) and have been paying all the bills. When she worked I would expect her to be home at a certain time or would accuse her of cheating if she came late. She now doesn't want to get a job because of my accusations. She's in school now. She took our child to Europe for the summer claiming she wants him to have a bond with his cousins, grandma and aunts. Our child only knows her family as I don't get a long with mine. I think she's selfish for leaving me alone for the summer. What do you think?

She is not good to him but the rest of us have liked her. She is a bad wife but a good person otherwise. She and my mother are very similar. We have gotten to know her family (parents, siblings, and nephews-nieces) in the 22 years they have been married. I imagine they will not be in our lives any longer other then rare events for our cousins and Facebook connections. The soon to be ex-aunt does not have me on Facebook since she blocked me years back cause she hated my Mom for a short time (Linda is weird that way). Patricia: Believe me Uncle Dave was not either. I was scared of him when little and am shocked my mother let me around him as much as she did. However, he has worked on his part and she has not. He is 11 years sober (used to be alcoholic big time).

My husband and I have been together for 5 years. We just got married this year. We have 4 children between the both of us. We ve had problems in our relationship, no infidelity, but we went to counseling and resolved everything. It took some time but we got there. We still have our arguments and I find myself doing most of the making up. Just recently we got into an argument before he left out of town for work. He didn t kiss me before he left or anything. We re talking but I can tell our conversation is off. I work full time, go to school full time and when he s on the road, I m by myself trying to get my girls ready for school, drop them off and make it to work on time. Thanks to my mother and his mother. They help but it s hard when he s not here. He came home after 4 days, did not show any appreciation for holding the fort down while he was away. Didn t get a thank you, hug, kiss or anything. He hasn t touched me or did anything but buy me some taco bell -_- I haven t touched him either. I m so drained from my kids and homework and work already. You would think he would at least try to show something. I should ve realized this in the beginning that he s passive but I always thought that I could change things by showing him what affection is so I always made the first move. I m to the point where I m tired. I feel so alone and I want a divorce foreal. You know how some people wake up and realize they don t love the person anymore? That s how I feel.

My friend and I were discussing our future and I mentioned that I want to have my first kid when I'm 25. She said, "25? That's old. I'm shooting for 22. Anything over 24 is old for a first kid." I also said I want to make sure I'm married first before I have any kids, and she said, "True, but you don't want to be married to someone toxic." Do you agree or disagree?

My boyfriend and I are living with my mom while looking for a house. We're living together with the assumption of getting married eventually and having kids. So we were talking about what that would look like. He's very health conscious and works out five days a week so he said our kids can't ever have McDonald's which I can understand and honestly agree with him on that but he brought it a step further by saying we shouldn't eat out in general and the kids should only eat meals made by the one of us or one of their grandmas. I think that's a bit too much 18 yrs without going to a restaurant. He also doesn't drink caffeine or alcohol and he doesn't smoke, I like coffee but he's always telling me how it's bad for your health and it's not controlling but it's kind of controlling. It's not like he's telling me what I can and can't wear but idk if this is gonna become a problem down the line. I also think it's hypocritical that he doesn't want our kids to wear any name brands since most of his clothes come from designer outlets. I know his family came from nothing and he wants to protect our future kids from excess but dude we're not Bill Gates