We talk about everything, sometimes we talk in his room and until late night... we are flatmates (we are 5 in the same flat) and both single.

My boyfriend and I are on vacation in St Lucia. I'm having such a miserable time. I can't wait for this vacation to be over. My boyfriend literally complains about everything. We went out to dinner last night and he was literally chewing with his eyes close because he was drunk and wanted to sleep. I was so embarrassed. Today he said he's going to be in the room all day long and how I should go out and do stuff. I didn't pay 3000 dollar to sit in the room all day long. And certainly not to do things by myself. Everyday when I wake up my day is ruin because he complains how he don't like the clothes I pack him even though I showed him what I was packing. He didn't even help to pay at least half of the vacation. I paid for most of it. He's so disrespectful. Doesn't even said please or thank you to the waiters. I'm having such a bad time. This is also not the first time he acted like this. Its everywhere we go. I though it would have been different this time. Should I break up with him? I really don't want to be with someone with such a bad personality and attitude especially because I love to travel.

I am 29 years old. I have been in my current relationship for over two years now. I have been going through a standstill period. Literally, not doing anything, because I turned 29 and I realized that I have no idea who I am or what I want to become or what my passions are. I am depressed and unhappy with my current life. I have no sense of purpose and therefore..I am unsure of what direction to begin to move in. I have been afforded the opportunity, by my boyfriend, to stay home and work on myself, versus working (before you tear into me about being a "lazy dreamer", I have always been a very hard worker, sometimes holding up to three jobs and going to school full time). I know not everyone is given this gift, and I am very thankful for it. However, I've started to realize that I am unhappy with everything in my life, and I feel a sense of urgency for it to change. When my boyfriend and I began dating, we both agreed that we do not want to stay in the current state that we are in (Virginia). He is employed by the government in this area, and his job doesn't transfer to many locations. I would be happy with any place that is more sunny and progressive than where we live now. I want to move back to the west coast, but I have been compromising, because I also want to be with him. However, he refuses to move anywhere. He always has a reason for why it wouldn't work, or why we can't take the chance, or that he doesn't like a state's gun laws (continued below) which I totally understand. So much so that I didn't even research the states gun laws, and when I did last night, I found that he has been lying to me. He would face no difficulties. He often refuses to move to other areas because he doesn't want to be in urban areas. I try to compromise (i.e., move to the outskirts of the city, live close to an interstate exit to avoid horrible commutes, etc.) and he says, "I will just do whatever you want" which is obviously not what I want to hear. I can't just up and leave. I don't have enough money to move somewhere and afford an apartment by myself for any extended amount of time, and I have three cats that depend on me (I can't just abandon them and they are all very bonded). I fear that he is stuck and depressed and that he will never make his mind up for where he wants to move, and I will look back and realize that I have not lived the life that I dreamed of, but a life of "should've, could've, would've". I don't know what to do :( The strangest thing is, he also claims to be unhappy, and it is easily seen in his behavior. However, he fears taking any risks or chances or moving somewhere and trying all over again. I get that he's worked to have the career he has now, but if you aren't happy a year or two in, you should walk away. You should try something else. Life is too short. Thanks for reading my novel guys. And just for some idea of what I'm dealing with, after we got into a discussion last night about this, I stated that I think we should begin couple's therapy, if we want to stand any chance of working this out. He states, "Sure. I'd be okay with that. If we get a female doctor she will be biased." I say, "Fine. We will get a male doctor. I don't care." He responds, "No, I don't want a male doctor." You see the situation this leaves me in? Am I just crazy?!