Should i write a note or text him? I can't do it in person because he'll go crazy.

I'm going to try to explain without sounding messy. A little preview of my life. At 2 me and my sister got separated from my mom. She then one day showed up and got us back. She lost us because of drug abuse and she went through treatment. Everything was fine for a year then she started doing drugs again and her husband started doing drugs and drinking alcohol. When he drank he got abusive. That went on for many years. Which in result gave me anxiety depression, and later on I was diagnosed with bipolar. We were homeless last year. And while we were driving my mom was freaking out and ended up kicking me and my sister out of the car (she had 2 more babies around the time she got us back, when she was high I took care of the babies I had a paper route that paid 200 a week, it was barely enough to get what they needed, I was only 9-10 years old) we went with our aunt, and a week later she got us back and acted like nothing happened(when she kicked us out she called us all sorts of names including sluts) it was the worst feeling ever. I'm now 14 and my mom treats me and my sister like ****. I'm tired of it. She gives the little ones whatever they want tho. She recently a accused me of sleeping with her husband and is kicking me out. She gots papers and everything. Idk what to do. I don't got not 1 dollar. And I would tell someone but I know how the foster care system and its no better then where I'm at. I have no other family or friends. I need someone to believe me.

I m VERY easily swayed. I bought my nephew a 49 inch TV for his 16th birthday present (he lives with me his parents dont have custody) and it costed $780 with the warranty. My boyfriend said 49 is a bit big for a bedroom and to get a 40 inch version of it. I was going to because I kind of agree. But then my dad helped me put the tv in the car to return it and he said "just give it to him he will love it" and now I m conflicted. I feel guilty for returning it (he hasn t seen it) because the 43 inch version is about half the price. I dont want to be cheap but I cant decide!!!!!! I m always like this. I cant make decisions at all!

She's my younger sister, she's 14, always been chubby, but lately, " chubby" has escalated to heavy/fat. I live at home and I try constantly to get her to diet, exercise, offer to do it with her, she refuses, is easily 200+ lb. What can I do to get through to her?

Hi guys, Im currently trying to find my half sister. My dad left when i was younger, and i have no contact with him or any of that side of the family. I really want to get in contact with my half sister, however the only information i have is our dads name. ive been searching google however have found nothing helpful. If anyone has any suggestions, would be greatly appreciated. Thankyou!!

Sorry, this is going to be long.. Basically she used me as an emotional tag growing up. Even though I have a sister, she only came unload all her bs on me. About the emotional incest. She had a terrible marriage with my deadbeat of a father. After they divorced when I was 8, she refused to ever date again which is just plain weird to me. So, instead she treated me as a surrogate husband and basically unloaded things on me that were too emotionally advanced for me to handle at that age. I m in my 20 s now and I eventually figured this out for a few years now but I m already very emotionally damaged. Well, I didn t want to deal with her bs anymore so overtime I just shut her down when she tries to open up to me, and eventually she got the point. Now that she knows she can t use me anymore as her emotional rag, she pretty much just tossed me to the side. She treats me with extreme hostility now because she knows she can t get to me anymore. We were very close, and I was once proud to say I was a mama s boy, now I absolutely despise her for the damage she s done to me. I m incredibly moody, neurotic and pessimistic now all thanks to her. I just don t understand why she chose not to date again. Having a father figure is so crucial to children s development, and she screwed it all up for me. Well I feel that it s not too late for me and I can still change into the person I want to be. I guess what I m asking is, should I just leave her for good because she won t change?

her bad attitude is getting worse, depression, misery, and put downs, and negativity. she thinks if she gets really fat it will too. Shes pulled the suicide card already and yells at me a lot. Im not sure what to do.

My daughter is too irresponsible for social media use. I have experienced it firsthand. She created a profile using a friend's phone. I found out because that girl's mother called me regarding it (thankfully, another involved parent here!). I can only set parental controls and ban smartphones at home. Outside, there are public library computers and other kids' phones. The school district doesn't block social media apps either. I told my daughter that if I would not allow a person inside the house (especially not alone with her), then I wouldn't let her talk to that same stranger online. That's like inviting them into personal space, letting them get a glimpse of her personal life. She has proven to be less mature than I expected based on a past incident and doesn't seem to be improving soon.

My father passed away just over a week ago. He had been having heart trouble for years and had been in and out of the hospital for 8 months. Two days before he passed my mom called and said the doctors gave him 48 hours. so over the days I booked a flight with the help of family and told my mom when I would arrive. she told me I might be too late, so I asked her not to do anything extra but not to pull the plug till I got there if possible. I was in the airport (4-hour flight and 1-hour drive from the hospital) to look on Facebook and see my father had died. No call from my mom. 5 hours ish later I get to the hospital and talk with my mom to find out about 3ish hours before he passed the doctors suggested she pull the plug, she agreed and then waited for the doctors. The doctor went home and she had him called back. I am just so mad and sad that I didn't get to say goodbye event though God tried to get her to wait. and to top it off I had to keep my calm and not get angry for 5 days well I helped her. I will also not be able to go to the funeral as she set it for next weekend and I can't afford to go back. I am hurting and don't want to be mad at mom but I am..... He wasn't dieing he had a machanical heart put in and was suppose t. I o be recovering (2 weeks prior to passing) and as for me leaving my mother to care for my father, we moved from NY (where my mom is) to FL around 6 months before he got bad. I have 2 young boys and a husband here so i can't just drop everything and go but I did try to get there in time. I know i made choices that affected me not getting there in time I was just getting it all out.

So, a family member passed, how do you comfort the sibling, I feel bad because I wanted to comfort and not cry in front of her....well, she saw me crying today and is trying to comfort me instead. She can t grieve if I don t get it together, I m feeling more like a burden than support to my parent rn :(

13 and depressed.. I feel like such a burden to my family. My sister likes to bully me, everyone says this is normal but she body shames me, calls me worthless, and likes to brag how she is the favorite, and always thinks she is smarter because she is older.. I don't know if siblings do this, if they do, then, sorry... I always make mistakes. My mom yells at me for everything, calls me stupid or tells me to act more like my age. She pressures me to be lady-like, have manners, act 'rich' though we aren't.. My dad loves me.. He does everything he can to help me and I love him. But I just feel so guilty. My teeth need crowns and a canal filling and my mother is expecting him t pay it (they are divorced, and divorced when my mother was pregnant with me). It costs too much for my father to afford and he is doing all he can to help me.... I feel like I should kill myself and he wouldn't have to pay a dime, my mother wouldn't have to deal with me, ad my sister will get the attention she wants.. should I kill myself?

Hypothetical. Is it normal of parents to beat you from age 3 to 16 everytime you showed an emotion(cry or laugh or talk). No one knew because you been homeschooled since age 5(getting beat in the head did not get hard or worse until age 7). Parents refuse to teach you to drive refuse to drive you places yet put you down for not knowing how and for not having friends from being homeschooled. Parents get mad whenever you are around them And they yell cuss and threaten to punch you in the face. How normal is this from someone born between the years 1998-2002?(just general) and if your parents were born between the years (1961-1965) how common is this?

Ok I'm sorry if this is long but my brother is moving tomorrow the last few nights he made things a bit rough for me all I want to is sleep normally one night he was super loud with my nephew kept me and my mom awake when I asked him to keep it down 3 times because my ear phones and fan together can't block the noise like usual my mom told him not to do that again next day but 2 nights later he was loud in his room by making my nephew laugh his laugh is really loud I told my mom the next day she obviously didn't care so I am not mad at both of them the walk we took the dog on today like normal routine I was pretty much quiet the whole time before this we were fine I'd love to say close but not that great but now I just have nothing to say to her since she hurt me basically proved she doesn't care about me and please no negative answers you don't know the rest of my background what I go through with them you'll be ignored anyway I just need advice on how to fix this situation I'm actually depressed I haven't slept in a few days at all my mom won't even talk about that night when all I wanted was peace and quiet yes my brother will be gone tomorrow but I want me and my moms relationship like it was before.

I m16. It makes me uncomfortable when they do. Should parents be doing this? I m not being dangerous...

Last week I went to the gym and told my bf. Usually I'd say I'm done with the gym but I didn't this ime and he was the one who texted me 3 hours later saying he was going to the library(where I got everyday) he was pretty cold then I discovered he got jealous and was wondering why I didn't ask him to come to the gym. So on friday I was going to the gym and told him he said ok baby I'm working have a good workout and kiss. I got upset and said alright thanks. Then unlike him he said alright? Thanks?. I said yeah when I don't ask you you get upset when I do you don't come. He said you know I have a job and if I can't come there's a reason. I said ok which is why I didn't ask you last time. He was like ok you won. I said what's with the attitude s d he said it was coming from my lack of effort to his kids and response. He's usually not aggressive or looking for a fight. Anyway I was like I'm done with this attitude of yours, I don't know where all this is coming from. He said there's no attitude. If you're done ok. I wish you the best. I said okay likewise and he sent a thumbs up. He usually doesn't fight with me or anything but the pay week I was sensing aggression. He even had bought me a 1000 dollar purse that week too. This was on a Friday. Is it strange how easily it ended and I haven't heard from him? He Was supposed to drive me to the airport, I left MondayHe got weird the first time I didn't invite him because he got suspicious that I was with the trainer like last time.