His sons tell no one and his daughters talk about it nonstop.

I am 19. My parents have adoption records I have seen and only first names were given on the records. Recently however I saw my last name on the birth records (last name at birth). My mother said that was likely a mistake by the agency. We looked up the mother on-line as it was her last name we knew cause the birthfather was listed as last name unknown (he was an Ethiopian Immigrant). So we looked her up and up came her Facebook page. My mother said "that is definitely her" as my parents met her in the agency. I am not about to friend her on their or write to her yet. I am happy with who I grew up with and don't feel abandoned or anything. At the same time at a later time I might reach out. Is there anything wrong with researching her on-line first and do I tell her I did this if I reach out in a year or so? I never like looking up people on line normally, even ancestry, as I feel like I am stalking. My brother has Asperger's and spends a lot of his day doing it (like friends' families) and our mother has had to stop him at times. Also if I do meet her at some point is Facebook where to reach out or is it better to do under a 3rd party?

It's been 2 weeks since our ceremony and she has not reached out to him. I get limited response when I reached out to check in like "I'm fine and you?" clearly you are not fine, you have not spoken to your son in 2 weeks! He is clearly bothered by her lack on interest, how can I help??

My parents are getting divorced and I just feel anger and resentment because my mom left my dad for a man she's only known for a month. The worst part is it's effected and hurt not only my dad but my brother, sister and I. 😢 I'm 21 by the way and my brother and sister are young.

I'm 18 and it's like " well mom and dad its what people have always thought. Now people can actually say it without consequences it's sad"

My wife has her mom watch her autistic 20 year old son during the day while we work. When we get home, he constantly parrots all the negative things my mother-in-law says about my wife and I. She complains that we aren't social enough and that we just sit around after work, and then he parrots what she says after she goes home. She complains that we never have guests and that we have too many books around the house. (BTW, all the old lady does at our house is sit and watch novelas on TV and brainwash the kid) He gets in a very stressed mood and is very anxious for hours after she leaves because she has convinced him that we are doing everything wrong. When we go out on the weekend, he complains constantly about the places we want to take him. When he was in school and his grandmother had less contact with him, he was fine, but now he has the personality of a bitter, angry 70 year old woman. I want to hire a professional caregiver to look after him, but my wife says she wants her mother to do it as long as she is physically able. My wife is upset by the situation as well, but she is intimidated by her mother. When I confront her, the old lady just screeches and yells and gets irrationally angry. What would you do? We also have a 12 year old boy who is the son of my wife and I. He is also inconvenienced by his brother's behavior.

My family in general is not very close knit. Geography is one reason. But I also feel like people are people first and family second. If a person has a personality that doesn't click with my personality then we won't click, be it someone in the family or not. Or am I wrong in that assessment? For instance me and my brother. At the end of the day we are completely different people. Trust me when I say that I have tried to get close to him. But the more I tried, the more we hung out the worse our relationship got. So today, we talk on the phone once a month, we see each other 2-3 times/year and have a beer and that's it. But my parents thinks that we should be thick as thieves, because we are family. Well, I don't think that will ever happen. What do you think? Should people be close just because they are family?

I hate her

My brother is 20 years old and he's severely autistic. He has the mental age of a 4 year old child. He still plays with his dolls and toys. I'm 28 years old and I live faraway from my parents. My brother lives with our parents. My parents told me that they need to go on a trip, because they feel really tired and they need me to take care of my brother during the few days they're gone. So, I love my brother, but I have a 3 month old daughter. I'm a widow, so I'm the only one who can take care of her. I can't take care of two children at the same time. My brother makes a lot of trouble in the house, such as playing with the stove, painting the wall, breaking dishes and so on.

Every date I have that comes to my house to pick me us and sees my mother says "Your mother is beautiful". It is true she won some beauty contest when she was young and still has a 34G figure but that was a long time ago. My boyfriends saying that she is beautiful is starting to bother me. Are they saying she is beautiful and I am not? Am I being paranoid about this or do I have something to worry about? Advice please on how I should feel about this?

We are scared she might come bother us.

Hey, so we are in 2018 FOR CRYING OUT LOUD, and guess what.....I DON T HAVE A PHONE! no laptop, ipod, ipad or any electronics :( what can i do to persuade my parents, PLEASE, at school i feel POOR! I have to listen to my friends complain how they want a Iphone 11 to come out cos the ten is boring? I mean HELLO i would be okay with the the Iphone 4 as long as I have a phone! How to persuade a stubborn parent tell me and thx...FYI: I am NOT spoiled cos i dont even own a Xbox or play station or TV. If u think I m lying then i get you, I would think I m lying to. ESPECIALY IN 2018, but like yh thx for reading and hope u can help. THANKS :)

My parents are forcing me to attend the college graduation of a cousin I didn't know existed until we received the invitation. My parents knew about him, but have never even met him, yet are insisting that we go to the graduation and subsequent party. It's going to be a 14-hour drive each way, and the ceremony is outdoors. At noon sharp. It's going to be hotter than Satan's armpit (the graduation is in southern Florida). I'm not trying to be whiny, but I really don't understand why I have to spend a total of 28 hours in the car over the course of 2.5 days (leave Friday night, start the return trip Saturday night) for a cousin my parents never met and I never knew existed.

Usually people say they want their children to become doctors/ lawyers/ architects . But I beg to differ. I want my daughters to marry rich and be trophy wives. P.S. I am a female and have a master degree and am a professional myself. That's why I want my daughters to marry rich. Well if the trophy wives marry the right husbands, they won't necessarily be divorced when they reach 30.

Every Friday and Saturday my 58 yr old neighbor gets loud. She's always listening to scream music. Yelling saying yeah party. Saying a lot of bad words. A lot of times she yells saying yeah I'm bad. Bad to the bone

When I was younger, my biological father left, so my mom remarried. The guy she remarried came into my life at 4, and when my mom and the guy married, he asked to adopt me. Long story short, throughout the years he would ask to watch movies (porn) with me when I was 8. When I was in the living room, he would masturbate. Sometimes he would touch me, inappropriately, and when I wanted something, he would have to touch me first. As I grew (8-16), when I would ask for something (mom would say go to ask) I would ask and he would end up having to touch me. My mom never knew. Eventually when I started to say no and stuff we would get into arguing and stuff, blow up in front of each other. sometimes he would smack my ***. he used to smack my older sister's ***. I'm not sure if it is. When I was sexually assaulted by my ex, he said "so he just stuck his fingers in your p***?" and used disgusting terms. i've never been able to say no to anyone, and i've never told anyone this. i haven't lived with my parents in 3 years. i'm sorry. i used to have panic attacks getting naked in front of doctors, mental breakdowns

So recently, I've been thinking a lot about my best friend that I've known for well over ten years or so. The last time we've talked and held a conversation that wasn't a couple sentences long was months ago. Every time I go to throw her a text I end up backing out fearing what her reaction would be for texting her so out of the blue. Even then if I'd get her to reply back I don't know how long our conversation would last. Any advice would be appreciated...

Ever since my dad broke up with my mom she has acted weird toward me. I got mad mad at my mom once and she put her hands up to block a hit. I'd never hit my mom but my dad would how can I talk to her about this?

I heard my mother cry, I heard her pray the night Chicago died.

On May 21, 2017, I went on a trip with some of my friends. We went to a fancy restaurant as a "celebration" for getting on the dean's list for the second time. I saw my dad eating with another woman. I took pictures of them so I could confront him. When I did confront him, he started crying saying he was sorry and to not tell mom. He promised me that he would cut ties with that woman. Fast forward to last week and I saw him once again in traffic with the same woman in his car. I confronted him again through the phone. I asked him why he is ruining his marriage by cheating on mom. To make the story short, he said that he was dating that woman before he even met mom for 6 YEARS. Basically, my mom and dad had an affair and got pregnant with my eldest sibling. So, they decided to get married and he dumped his girlfriend "the woman". Now he is having an affair with his ex. I had no idea about this and I'm actually mad at both of my parents. (I thought my parents were actually in love) I haven't told my siblings only my friends about this situation. Some friends are telling me to tell my mom and others said I shouldn't. I have two young siblings still living with my parents. One is 13 years old and the other is 15 years old. I feel bad that they will have to go through a divorce if my mom does find out. I don't think I would be affected by it since I moved out last year. I'm confused at this point and don't know what I should do.

I am afraid to contact him as Mom said he left us and did not respond to her offer to stay in my life. She said he didn't love me for some reason or her. I look him up on Facebook but can't see much but one or two photos. However, his wife has a page set to public so I follow on that without her knowing (I don't friend her or anything as both are strangers). He seems so loving on Facebook and I know it might just be an act but it makes me wonder. I am 20 and could contact him but am scared I will be rejected and even scared more so of Mom's anger if I find him. She says to consider my grandfather, my Dad. However, that is not the same thing as great as my grandfather is. I feel sad but the need to follow on the Facebook even though it is stalkish. I have seen pictures of my father's mother on there and she looks very involved (his father died when I was 12 I learned per Internet search). His father looked very similar to me in the face.