I have been married for 1 1/2 years but my wife and I have been together for 11 years. I guess we just got comfortable that we did not realized that time has passed. I did not want to get married but her father pressured us to do so because we have been together for so long. I told her to cancel the wedding but we went through with it anyway. She is extremely jealous and very insecure. She would get mad even with a woman just casually talks or even looks at me. Im so cautious of her jealousy that I dont even fave friends at work. I ignore people even if I want to talk and interact with just so she would not get jealous. When she's really mad she hits me. Once she threw a picture frame at my face that it broke into pieces. Also, she once scratched my face so hard I had to wear make for three weeks just to hide the marks. She does not care if we fight (she actually said that) she just wants to get mad and does care if the neighbors can hear her screaming at 5am in the morning. We dont have any kids because she does not want to have one yet. Im not happy with my marriage. I was not happy when I got married. I was not even happy at my wedding day. I feel like Im just surviving day by day waiting for which of us will die first so I can be free or if I die first and have a peaceful death. I want to leave her but I cant do it legally because we dont have divorce on our country. Unless we can be separated legally only then I can have the life I want and be happy

Ok so im 26 shes 22. We've been together 3 and a half years been living together 2 and half years. She basically givin me the ultimatum of either marry me or im leaving you. Her parents have been drilling me about marriage from the day we moved in together. I do love her and I do care about her but im not really sure I want to marry hee. I enjoy her company most of the time, but we fight ALOT about twice a week. I sometimes feel like im in a relationship with a teenager. Like when we met it was ok she was 19 and I thought she would grow out of it, but she hasnt. Im tired of always being the master planner and the master fixer and the master doer. She fights me in all the decision making and never makes plans herself. Her plans are vague and never thought out. It usually involves me taking over and using my truck my gas my money to make our evening worth a ****. Money is always an issue. I make more therfore I spend way more. She thinks its even both ways but it isnt. I blow though money to make us happy, but when I ask for 20 bucks to keep the lights on its like wwIII. Well I bought this and I bought this.... you need to pay me back blah blah blah. Im sick of "fixing" everything all the time. Anytime something need so be taken care of I have to do it. Shell spend 3 days bitching about something an ill take care of it in 30 mins. Shes immature and I dont wanna marry but I dont wanna be alone again.. what do I do I could give tons of examples but yahoo wont let me no characters

My parents never went to court to decide who I would live with, and they rely on a schedule they made up themselves. I no longer wish to live with my father because his wife and I get along quite terribly. I am 16 approaching 17. Also, both my parents' homes are very safe and friendly environments. They live a mere 5 minute apart.

Marriage doesnt guarantee a forever lasting relationship. So why get married? Is marrying just a show to let everyone know who you hope to be with forever? I just dont think ppl have to get married to be together forever. What you guys think?

The most common answer I hear from people is that while they love their kids, they wrecked their marriage.

I am a soldier currently deployed to Afghanistan. My wife and I have been married for 8 months and together for a little over 2 years. We have always gotten along and live in 2 separate states, Georgia and Texas. I am originally from Texas where we bot grew up and met prior to my 2nd deployment. Well during this last leave when I was home for 18 days we had a great time the first 10 days, then the last week was pretty bad. We had both been drinking and we were both mad but weren't yelling. She had gone to another room and I had fallowed her she wouldn't talk so I started poking her. She stood up and swung at me, I dodged it and she hit my should (almost my face) so I cupped my hand and reacted back. She wanted a divorce, then. The next morning we talked about it and she said she want going to divorce me. She ended going back to Georgia with me for a couple days and we had a good time up until I left the country. Well a couple days after I arrived here she was out doing her nightlife thing. She had told me about a group of army guys she and met downtown, but said they weren't **** . Well after I recognized a pattern of weird behavior from her (yah, from across the world) I did some investigation. She had been texting one number more and more each day the past few days, but never called. We have a rule and its call or email whenever you are home safe and she had broken it 2 times in a week. The feeling hit me she was having an affair. I called 50 times and she never answered. Finally she answers at 130pm her time. I confronted her about my feelings and she said yes. I broke, cried like a little *****. "How could you do this to me " I said. She said that she had had sex, a couple minutes later said she only said that to make me mad and want to leave her. She had only cuddled and made out; she said there was to many people in the room. a couple days later we went into full detail about everything she did. I asked what were you doing when you saw me calling like crazy. She said she knew she had been caught, and that the guy didn't want to have sex because she knew she was married. He is another soldier out of Fort Polk. She said she still wanted to see him to see where things went. A week later said he wasn't **** and that there wasn't a real future with him. Then when I got him in trouble with his command said she didn't want to get him in trouble. Before I left to Afghanistan I told her I felt like she was getting cold feet. She was to move to Georgia in September to live with me, we had picked out a place and everything. She said yes a little, I'm having to move away from all my family and friends. She feels like she would just revolve around my life and friends (like she wouldn't be able to make any of her own.) About a week since I found out, she has been pushing for a divorce. I begged, pleaded, have gone to personal counseling, the whole 9 yards. But she has really wanted this thing. She even went and talked to my mother and broke down in front of her. was even shocked when my mom asked how she was going to get the money back for the wedding. But after a month of begging and pleading I finally said " La****, you are right, we haven't been to great to each other the past couple months. And you're right, I do deserve someone that wont cheat on my when Im deployed. And there are a million other women out there that will treat me well. And if this is what is going to make you happy and be able to move on with your life then lets do this." She blew up when I said this. "Oh so now that YOU have said yes now I can do it!!!! Now that Mike says yes now im free to do it." I told her I think it was a good move and im on board with her and I just want her to be happy. She yelled at me "I hate you Mike, I ******* hate you" and then hung up. She has also said before that she feels like she is loosing her self and has had to make to many changes for me. My reply was "Like what?! Smoking and having to text me whenever you go home or have me complain when you stay out until 4am 4 night in a row. I have emotional boundaries La****." After I said that she was silent. Couldn't open her mouth. Also she has yet to file but has called around seeking information. But besides that hasn't done much else to progress forward the past 5 weeks

I need some advice.. My fiance and I have been together for 3 years. We have a 20 month old. For months I had activities with his brother when I would dream. First we would hold hands and flirt. Then time came and it went to have sex dreams about him. I'm sexually attracted to my fiance and his brother. I love my fiance with all my heart.. But hi brother is.. So sexy and I can't help it.. I'm not stupid to try anything and I'm 99 percent sure his brother doesn't like me like that. But, we all live together with their mom. And, Idk what to do.. It's like I have a huge *** crush on him. I end up imagining my life with him instead of my fiance. It's getting me depressed because I don't want to be thinking of him in that way.. He will be my brother in law... But I can't help but day dream around him... And it's not only looks. He is smart, funny and kind.. I'm not saying my fiance isn't. But yeah... Any advice what I should do?

Lately my wife stays up at all hours of the night. After doing a little snooping, I noticed that she's spending hours every night obsessively browsing for wedding gowns. She's not a communicator and always prefers to act/behave very secretively and almost like she never wants to be trusted (that's weird on it's own). Of course, like all couples, we have our problems (namely her lack of communication and untrustworthiness). When I hinted around these late online escapades, eg asking what she was doing up all night on the computer all the time, she always denies she was even up, which is ridiculous cuz I can clearly see her. She also hides 1 or 2 of her computers and it's hard to access those. I'm not really good with untrustworthy people, and I just always turn the other cheek. What are at least 5 reasons you can think of (maybe in your order of likelihood) why she would be constantly browsing these wedding gown sites, secretly in the middle of the night? The only ones I could think of is "she's secretly planning to marry some other guy" or she's obsessed with wedding gowns? or she's been secretly invited to attend a wdg of a guy or girl fnd she doesn't want me to know abt. She always acts "spooky" like this, like really weird, is never honest, nor communicative. What do you think she's doing? Am I an idiot? What could I ask her that would not be too confrontational or imply that I've been snooping, but still get me the answers "why wedding dresses"? It's really annoying.

Let me start by saying I've been friends with my husband since are early teens. He met and married his ex wife when she was 18 she is 5 years younger that me. My husband and I reconnected 2 years ago and have had an amazing relationship. His ex on the other hand is doing every thing she can to come between us. For instance I'm an ex print model I've done things with blue bouquet swim suits for sears and high end fashion spreads as well. She found out about my modeling and told me she wanted me to help her find an agent that would help her get in to acting so I made some calls and got her some head shots made it was over a year ago and she has told every one its my fault she hasn't been booked yet. She went online and found my pic. Sent them to my husband and asked him how he enjoys being with a takkie slut. She constantly belittles my role as a parent in the childrens presance by telling her daughter my shorts ate slutty and tackie that im a bad example because im to skinny im 5'2" and waigh 135 and am tone and has tried to dictate how I act and dress aground the kids which I would understand if I dressed lime a slut but shorts that are fingertip length are not slutty she is constantly telling the kids they don't have to listen to me because I am not there mom even though 2 months in to my and my husband's relationship she sent the kids to live with us and I have been the one raising them for two years then when I try and ask her to stop the million modulation especially with the children. She tells me "I know there not your kids and you can't possibly love them" . I do love them just as much as my own kids I am just not sure how to stand my group d and protect the kids with out causing issues

I have a issue I really need help on. In September of last year I asked my husband of 18 years to move out. We were having severe issues and no longer got along. Shortly after him leaving he started coming over to be with me and the kids, even staying over once a week. Yes, we are intimate, and this has been going on ever since. The problem is that now he says he wants to quit seeing each other as he feels that he can t "talk to other girls or go out " because I would get upset. Of course I would get upset, since we are still with each other even though we are separated. I m hurt and upset and honestly I just don t know what to do. I still love him, but I was the one who did ask him to leave, and I should have stayed strong when he first started coming around, but I guess I thought it would work out.

Me and my wife sometimes end up talking for hours about random things. This is generally nice, but I'm very busy this month and when I'm busy it becomes detrimental because both of us get side tracked and then poof, hours have gone by and I'm behind on work :-(

I'm getting tired of getting mad at him for little things, is there anything I can do instead of getting mad at him!? Please help!?

in a court divorce court someone was ordered to pay 25% of a 401k to the other party. But the other parties attorney did not have the QDRO ready or signed at the time of the divorce. Plus the one ordered to pay re married right after the divorce. So with them not having that the QDRO signed and the other party re marrying the prior spouse losses the benefits right? Just need a little info. Thank you

I just got married a few month ago, and I can't help but get irritated about this. I feel that every time something with a short skirt, or fake boobs/hair walks by my hubby always gawks! Its driving me crazy!! I feel soooo insecure like I'm not good enough. Should this be bothering me??! We just got into a fight over this… It just bothers me how all guys go after the "cliche"….

I've been legally marred for about 6 years now, there was physical, mental and emotional abuse in the marriage as well as infidelity on both ends. He started so I thought I get him back. Long story short I've been trying to get a divorce for almost three years and legal aid isn't helping at all speed up the process, my income is low and I really want to move on with my life. I've started dating but they never last and I feel like it's because God is against it.

This is a follow up question to my previos one. My husband told me I could burn the house down, that I don' t watch things and made a big issue and when I got defensive because he told me "he can't tell me anything." This has been going on for years over even more minor things things like leaving a door open too long and letting mosquitoes in, leaving crumbs on the couch, walking without shoes around the house etc. I can take so much but after a while I really get irritated and feel like I need a vacation away from him. We've been married 17 years, but lately, I feel like it's getting old. When I say lecture I mean he gets pissed off and tells me I do stupid things and I am childish etc. I must admit, I am not the most attentive person on earth, but I also work very hard and when I have to cook I am in a rush to go back to do what I have to do.

I recently discovered my husband has been sexting another girl/woman on the game Clash of Clans. I'm devastated as there are many children who play this game also and see their explicit conversations. I just don't know how to approach him. Please help! I really love my husband and don't want to upset him or make my snooping seem like the bigger sin.

My husband took a new job in 2012. It's great money but it's torture. We are constantly moving!!! August 2013 - Moved Tampa FL February 2014 - Moved Jacksonville FL July 2014 - Moved Atlanta GA August 2014 - moved Albany NY NOW, his boss told us we will be moving AGAIN to Knoxville TN in December 2015. It's too much for me. Constant moving. I want to own a house, have children, but every place we go we just move & he never knows how long he will be in 1 area. They suspect he will be in Knoxville for 2-3 years No he's not in the army or any type of military service. Any advice? I'm becoming very very depressed!

What would his reaction be?

I live in Ohio. I'm a 16 year old female, my fiancée is a 20 year old female so it would be same-sex marriage. We want to get married, how can we do this? Are there papers I have to bring to my guardians or something?

If so, how did it happen? And what did you end up doing about it? I am not here to judge just what to know of this has happened to people and how they delt with it. I have feelings for someone else but I don't think I could ever cheat on my wife. But on the other hand I don't know if I will ever stop have f feelings for the other person either.

I'm sure many of you have seen my wife's posts about her son, my step-son who failed out of college his first year and is now back home with us. He's 19. His girlfriend, whom I feel had a hand in him failing out because her mom would take him several hours to his college and drop her off for a week or two. What kind of mom allows her daughter to go stay in the dorm of a teenage boy is beyond me. Based on that and the fact that he admitted he just didn't study he failed out. Now that he's home his mom, my wife, thinks it's cool to allow him to go spend several days with the girl and her family and he's even going on vacation with them to the beach this weekend. I've told my wife she needs to stop that now or there's going to be some little feet running around the house calling her grandma in a little while. She doesn't believe me and keeps saying, "he's a good kid." This is a kid I've helped raise for the past 12 or 13 years but I have no say so in his life, decisions, or actions. However, my wife still expects me to do things for him. Pick him up from work, feed him when we all go out even though he works at Taco Bell making minimum wage and things like that. When it's time to cut the grass my wife expects me to do it while he lounges around the house all day playing video games or our in the street hanging out with his friends. How do I tell my wife (without it causing an argument) that either she puts her foot down to him or don't expect me to continue supporting him? Anytime I bring up the issue she shuts me down like "I've got this under control" or "I don't see a problem with it." It's hard to see him making mistake after mistake and when I say anything to him I get backlash from her. I'm almost 50 but I can't speak to a 19 year old without mom getting on me like I'm her child. She fusses at more more than him.

My wife and I have been together for nearly 20 years and already have four kids together. However, we've been separated since January due to our constant arguing. I'm not sure what has gotten into her, but this past year, she's been so vindictive and moody. I would call her out on it and she would yell at me and even hit me a few times. I never hit her back, but I would call her names or grab her to get her to stop hitting/trying to hit me. So we eventually separated and I moved out to live with a friend. This past month, I have been coming around to see the kids and have ended up spending the night with my wife a few times. She called me crying last night and told me that I needed to come home. I asked why and she told me that she's pregnant. In hindsight, it was dumb to not have used the proper form(s) of protection when I stayed the night with her, but I was thinking with my "other head" I guess. I just never thought we'd have any more children. I love her and want to come home, but at the same time I don't want her to hit me and be argumentative. It was like walking on eggshells with her somedays. I know it's not wise to stay with someone for the kids, but that's not the only reason why I want to stay with her. Do you think I should go home right away? Or wait it out until she can prove she's changed? Does anyone have any advice on how to get her to control her temper?

A few days ago this guy (let's call him Todd) started texting me after not texting me for a few months. We used to be good friends and I used to like him, but I haven't seen him since before I met my husband. Todd started sending me flirty texts; I told him I was married, but he didn't stop, so I blocked his number, but he found some way to bypass it. So, stupidly, instead of telling my husband about it, I put a password on my phone and kept deleting my texts from Todd so my husband wouldn't see them and get the wrong idea. Then, last night, my husband borrowed my phone, and there happened to be an unread text from Todd on the screen, so I snatched the phone away in case it was another flirty text. Understandably, this looked very suspicious to my husband, and now he wants a divorce. Last night he got incredibly pissed off, screamed in my face, threw my phone at me, accused me of slutting around, said he didn't even know if our child was his (I'm pregnant), and then said, "I hope you burn in hell, you stupid f***ing c*nt," and stormed out. Nothing I can say or do will convince him that I respect him and myself too much and am neither evil enough nor stupid enough to try to cheat on him. Everything I do now just convinces him more that I'm unfaithful. Does anyone else have any more ideas of what I can say or do, or is it impossible to convince him?

Hi. I ve been married for almost 2 years and we have a 3 year old son. We re trying to have another baby as well. My husband works a hard job from 7 am to 3pm which I appreciate. But when he comes home and on weekends it s like pulling teeth to get him to do ANYTHING. I work 30+ hrs a week as well but when I get off I pick up my son, take care of him, make dinner, try to clean the house, play with my kid, give him a bath. I ve also mowed our lawn quite a bit because the grass gets long and drives me crazy and I do yard work when I can as well. When he gets off work he stops at his friends to hang for half hour to hour, comes home, showers, sits on the couch... and that s it. On weekends I ask him to help me with yard work or go clean the garage and he gets mad because he s "sore and tired". Even if I ask him to bathe our son so I can wash dishes or cook he gives me attitude. Also at the end of the week he only gives me half his check to pay bills. The other half he keeps - always has an excuse of what he needs extra money for. Hard to save for taxes on our house when he keeps that amount! Anyways, I m sick of him being a half a** dad (he doesn t spend a whole lot of time with our son - not quality time at least) and not helping me with house projects. Anyone have issues with their husband s or any husbands that can give me advice on how to get help from him without him getting mad???

My name is rohit I'm from punjab india

To make a long story short, I'm on my 2nd marriage and every time I try to parent my step kids who Id like to think I'm helping at parenting my wife opposes to anything I tell her. I have a 19yr old who's too much to himself and never wants to leave his room so I'm trying to man him up but my wife thinks I'm being to hard on him by suggesting to her that he gets a job that he can commute all by himself and the possibility to earn some type of degree so that it can help him in the future. When I told her that I feel that she opposes to everything I say when I comes to parent her kids she replied with "you can't even parent your own son 9yr old". I told her that I do when he's with me but half the week he's with his mom also and your kids are here 24-7 so what's the problem here... I told her that she's just like my ex wife, not open to any of my suggestions and then I didn't hear nothing after that.

Me& My boyfriend at the time had been together for 2 years when, I found out that he had got someone else I broke up with him and, maybe a year and a half latter we got back together. Eventually we got married and, had a child of our own but, I really don't feel comfortable being around the child or even interacting with her I know it sounds selfish but, I don't know how to deal with it. I'm to the point it just makes me so mad everytime I think about interacting with the child or his family. I feel like it's a slap in the face and, reminder of all the pain the pain I went through when I found it was one of the worst times of my life.

We were only married for a year and then we separated. The divorce was file 2yrs after being married.

father is a professor, mother is a lawyer. She works as a university administrator. She met her husband when he was in jail, has 3 kids with him. they're separated several times and he hasn't been around for their kids because he's been in and out of jail for drugs and assault. Why woulda middle class girl actually marry a convict and have 3 kids with him. she isnt fat or ugly either.

Honestly, I would never have gotten married if I didn't want children. Marriage is hard work and there has to be something to make that work worth it! For me it is the opportunity to raise children in a secure family environment with the protections of marriage. My husband and I love each other but we are not silly-headed romantic lovebirds who got married so we could "hang out" together. We are doing an important job together and our love is the family kind of love. We are a team. Our children are our shared purpose in life. Once they move out and we retire, I expect I'll be out in the garden and he'll be in his workshop, and we'll smile at each other over the dinner table knowing that we accomplished our goal, but for "hanging out" I will have my female friends and he will have his male buddies. He's my husband not my bff.

I am 8 years younger than my husband. He is 33 now. We have been together for 6 year. He used to adore me and love me more than anything, slowly things have changed a little. He still loves me I'm sure but nothing exciting is going on. So I was thinking I should do something to show him what it's like not to have anymore... What should I do?

My husband only talks about what happened at work or sports. He never opens up about his thoughts, dreams, opinions. He never makes a decision he never makes plans. Everything we have done over the last 23 years together has been due to me. I initiated, planned and took care of every vacation, every day out, every home improvement project, etc.... He is just here. When my children were in high school and planning for college I did all the research with them, took them on the tours, etc... We would get home and he would say how did it go and that was the extent of his participation in the discussion. He does not have a great relationship with his children, I am the one they call and talk to, do things with, etc... Now that we have an empty nest I made suggestions on ways to re-connect, find new hobbies, etc... he was like okay that sounds good and then it stops there. I talked about making a goal of visiting every major league ball park over the next 10 years, we could make a scrapbook of our adventure, etc.. He said that's a great idea and then it stopped he never brought it up again. I have stopped bringing up anything waiting for him to show some interest in our lives together. I could go on but I think you get the picture. I do not know what to do, I am emotionally lonely.

Ideas please? No gifts but I want to show appreciation for all he does!

My husband and I are curious how child support will be calculated for his son when he and his mother currently live with the grandparents who are very wealthy? the mother does not work and is fully supported by the grandparents when she could work. the son is 3. yet, my husband are I are expected to work and pay for everythign while she lives for free in a huge house with a free car and free food, plus OUR money which is more than enough to cover for the son (since they do not have to pay for any living expenses). Some of the expenses are unnecessary such as private day care and a college trust fund that is almost $100/month. if she has no incmoe, will her parents be used to calculate? we dont have a suppor order yet. also, are these extra things our responsiblity, sucha s the private school

Me and my husband have been married for almost 9 years. Today I went through his phone to get our neighbor's number. I found a text he sent to, who i later found out, was his coworker where she admitted by texting him that she had a crush on him. He kept telling her he was flattered and called her beautiful in one of his texts. She told him she was serious about having a crush on him to which he said "I'm flattered because you're so young and beautiful, one of his later replies to her was "you should send me a sexy pic right now if you really have a crush on me" ..... My husband quit his job last week before she texted him her feelings for him so he doesn't actually work with her anymore. How would you react to this?

My husband and I are getting a divorce and I stupidly put most of the utilities in my name... How do I change the name on the accounts so that they are his responsibility? I mov d out of our house to go to work and do not live there any longer.

A bunch of our friends are going to the beach my husband & I seem to always be excluded and this group of "friends" lies a lot. We figured it out when they were ALL busy coincidently this weekend with stupid excuses. My husband is very unhappy in this town & wants to move. It's a small town, we are struggling real bad financially I've been unable to find work since May. I don't think we have the means to just pack up & move. We only have $3,500 in savings. I'm not sure what to do HELP!!

If your husband or wife does something very sweet for you out of the blue, do you A. Appreciate the gesture or B. Jump to conclusions of suspicion? I feel like all too often you hear about a person saying something to express their love, or a guy coming home with a gift for his wife, and the recipient of the kindness doesn't soak up that moment.. but instead suddenly starts racking their brain for "what could they have done? Did they break something? Get fired? Cheat?" And I just wonder why that is so please answer the A or B part and a little bit about why you chose what you did. Thanks

Ok so to sum all this up about 9/10 months back my husband and then split up we tryed to work things out but I just could not do it anymore so I threw in the towle and told him its time to just to get a divorce and move on. We have a daughter who he does not see(his choice) and he foes not call (his choice) . I have tried to contact him a few times about our daughter and he ignores me well June 26th he called me told me how he loved me and how I ripped his heart out etc during that phone call I was told by him if he ever saw my brother or good friend of mine again they would die. Now today I found out he called a old friend of mine yesterday hounding her for any information on my brother or I because he wants to make me suffer (his words)just as such as much as he had cus I ended things with him. He had already called CPS on me months back and I was cleared very fast of all alagations that were made to CPS. Is there anything I can do ? I can't take not filling safe in my home with my brother and 2 kids. He has thretend to kill my friends and brother before but cus when it happed he was not specific as to how he would kill them the cops said they can not do anything.I have recordings on my phone of how unstable he is . is there anything I can do please help. And I live in Texas by the way.

My wife and I have been together going on about 13 years now. My 18 year old daughter recently graduated high school and is scheduled to go off to college in a few months. As a surprise to her I've taken a lot of the photos I've taken of her over the years till now and compile them in a book. I work for Shutterfly and can get a great deal on a nice book. Well, I have photos from the day / second she was born until now. I was showing my wife the progress last night and when I got to the pages that showed the high school graduation there were probably 10 photos on the 2 pages from that day. Granted I probably too 100 shots but only included 10 in this section of the book. There was a pic of me and my daughter, her and her mom, her and her grandparents, then random shots of her and her best friend and other shots of her and friends. My wife noticed that I didn't include a pic of her and my daughter (she only took 2 pics with her that day) and she became upset saying, "I was at the graduation too." I reminded my wife that the book was not about her but my daughter and that she was in other shots on other pages. My wife started crying saying that shows how much I value her since I didn't include her on that page. There were a lot of family members there that day who's pics I didn't include either but my wife thinks that since we've been together this long she should have more pics in the book. Why does she have to make everything about her? She, she literally was tearing up saying this shows how much I value her given that she wasn't listed on that particular page. I have a number of shots of my wife in trips that me, her, and the kids have taken together but she was upset because she wasn't on the graduation page. Does this show I don't value her or is she just trying to make the book about her? Would she be happier if I removed her from all the other pages and just listed her on the one graduation page? Again, it's not like she's not in the book at all, she's just not on that one page.

I am young and been married to my husband for 5 years, we have 2 kids, both young boys. I have no one to talk to except my parents and I don't want to involve them anymore. Before I go into detail please know I do not want to take medication. my husband has hurt my feelings more times than I can remember. I love him so much, I'm very thin and pretty, but yet every chance he gets I catch him looking at porn or masturbating to women with fake boobs or making fake email accounts or fake Facebook accounts and I even caught him on a gay dating website and with gay porn. He told me he was only on the gay website because he was confused because his dad molested him when he was young. There has not been a single year since we've been married where I felt safe or could calm down or where he hasn't hurt me. I have never hurt him I have never cheated never been unfaithful and always loved him, but I get so hurt, upset and disappointed when I find him doing these things and I say mean things which then in turn makes him do it again. He says I don't love him so he does it again. I'm not allowed to be upset, show emotion or be hurt without him saying I don't love him and hurting me again. Its been 5 months since my husband has hurt me. The last time was while I was balancing two jobs and couldn't make love to him like I should have, so he was making love to himself in the bathroom with porn. It is hard feeling this way and being depressed while raising kids - can someone please help me?

We're expecting our first son in the fall and in discussing names I said I wanted to name the baby after him. He refuses, saying that if we did that, when I "say his name" in a sexual context, he would feel wrong since that's the baby's name too. What the fudge? I would think a 26 year old man about to be a father would think more maturely than that. Question: What do you do when your spouse gives a flawed and immature response like that?

Let me give you some background first. I'm 16 and male. My dad had an affair when I was 6. It split the family apart. We moved to the US from India to get away from it. My mom, sister and I have become our own unit within the family and take care of each other. Dad is like a tangent, and causes problems every once in a while. He recently told my mom that he actually didn't want to marry her (even though he proposed) and that he only went through with it because his relatives said it was too late to back off. My sister and I have had to fill his role. If my mom's crying about something, it's us that has to go and cry with her and comfort her. And I'm like a father figure for my sister. As a result of what's happened, I don't believe in marriage or kids. The men in my family are not reliable, and I don't want to continue the cycle. And besides, my future wife will cheat on me even if I'm a great, loving person like my mom. Boredom sets in. Despite this, the idea of marriage has fascinated me. It says a lot about human psychology and I started paying attention to my parents' marriage (which seems peaceful on a superficial level). And what I realized after observing them and also reading about psychology and seduction is that marriage is like an antidote to people. People are riddled with their own vanities and insecurities. With my mom, it's spirituality, and with my dad, it's his past and his father. And if you play to these vanities, you can get on their good side. The person you marry is supposed to put all of this to rest, taking you to another world where you feel fine and everything's okay. I'm obsessed with the idea of cheating women. And I constantly seek out stories of them (like http://goo.gl/yCz2uq ). I can't help it. It struck me how selfish people are. The idea of love as this romantic, passionate experience doesn't seem real. When you're young, the world is at your feet, and people get married so they can stay secure in old age. They want the same passion and liveliness, and when when they aren't "fulfilled", they cheat. What strikes me is that some people actually have the audacity to believe that they even deserve to be fulfilled. There's no selflessness. I don't believe in the death penalty, but I think it's okay with adulterers. People seem to care more about having their needs fulfilled than anything else. It seems like many grown ups aren't being grown ups. Aren't grown ups those who try to FIX the problem? Keeping all this in mind, do you think I have the correct view of marriage, on a psychological level? I know I'm being cynical. It annoys me. I'm NEVER getting married and I'm NEVER having kids. My wife's going to cheat on me no matter what and my kids are growing to be upset. I don't want that. I'll just go from girl to girl. Plus, I don't want to pass on my dad's genes. Do you think people marry the person they love the most, or the person who loves them the most? Is it a balance? IF YOU ARE A LEVEL 7 USER, PLEASE DO NOT MOVE MY QUESTION'S CATEGORY. PLEASE.

Why does he want to leave what s so wrong with me my husband and I been together 6 years now we are married with a 2 year old little girl and I have a 7 year old boy from previous marriage my husband has always played head games with me leaving for a few days and coming back this time it's different he just did 11 months in doc promised the whole time he was there he was done with the leaving her was gonna get a job and be a real husband and father he has been home now 5 months and I keep finding myself asking him not to leave me I love him do much he said he needed space so I told him to move into one of our rental properties till he figured it out and i would be right here always well he won't do that I work around 70 hours a week cook clean take care of our children he won't work he plays games on his phone all day and watches netflix i've tried giving him everything he asks for I'm nice pretty smart I like to do things on weekends exciting I'm not perfect but I walk on broken glass everyday trying to be I love him with all my heart what's so wrong with me that he doesn't want to be with me and why does he oplay head games with me any advice as to what I can do different to save my marriage if need any more info on my situation I will be happy to share I just need advice

My wife and I have been together going on about 13 years now. My 18 year old daughter recently graduated high school and is scheduled to go off to college in a few months. As a surprise to her I've taken a lot of the photos I've taken of her over the years till now and compile them in a book. I work for Shutterfly and can get a great deal on a nice book. Well, I have photos from the day / second she was born until now. I was showing my wife the progress last night and when I got to the pages that showed the high school graduation there were probably 10 photos on the 2 pages from that day. Granted I probably too 100 shots but only included 10 in this section of the book. There was a pic of me and my daughter, her and her mom, her and her grandparents, then random shots of her and her best friend and other shots of her and friends. My wife noticed that I didn't include a pic of her and my daughter (she only took 2 pics with her that day) and she became upset saying, "I was at the graduation too." I reminded my wife that the book was not about her but my daughter and that she was in other shots on other pages. My wife started crying saying that shows how much I value her since I didn't include her on that page. There were a lot of family members there that day who's pics I didn't include either but my wife thinks that since we've been together this long she should have more pics in the book. Why does she have to make everything about her? She, she literally was tearing up saying this shows how much I value her given that she wasn't listed on that particular page. I have a number of shots of my wife in trips that me, her, and the kids have taken together but she was upset because she wasn't on the graduation page. Does this show I don't value her or is she just trying to make the book about her?

Hi, my name is miguel i am 29, i have a question, i been married for 12 years with my wife we have 3 children togather 2 little ones and 1 preteen.My question is it normal for a moms to feel weird to have sex with her husband having all the kids home.I dont know what to think or due my wife tells me that sex is not inportant she tells me that i dont love her because all i whant is to have sex , I love her so much but i am loosen it

My husband (49) never lets me near his phone and generally I don't care. One night of him heavily drinking he left it upstairs and I got ccurious! So I found a text (that was locked/saved). From an out of state number that said "did you decide not to do *****" We have a healthy sex life, but we would rather me perform oral on him or let him have anal than any other way. I don't like anal, and feel that oral has become such a one way street that I would rather not (I told him that and it changes nothing). There was a conversation years ago with his ex and she was pissed at him for leaving and said well I am not gonna call Bob to come over and F*** you anymore. I really thought she was saying that to make me leave him and he never even spoke of it with me. So maybe that make me stupid for not asking if it was true.

He easily get upset to me,he scolded me like a little girl. He never care how I feel,even he saw tears in my eyes.He just think I am emotional. He keep his money for himself.If I would not have a job in my profession, I would be broke..In short I take care myself financially. I always think of leaving him since we do not have kids of our own.

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