We have to do a role play as an advice giver and we have to give the person 5 helpful hints to make their life better and give support for their idea. Mine is a seventy year old widow. Here's her problem: Dear advice giver, I am a seventy year old woman. I feel that life has passed me by and that there is nothing left for me. My husband of 48 years died last year and my three children are all grown and live away. I have friends but many of them have spouses and I do not want to be a fifth wheel. I have never worked outside of my house since my family was my occupation. My health is declining and from long hours of watching television, my eyes are tired and I am rather stiff most days. I would like to take piano lessons but I feel that I am too old. There is not much that I feel that I can do and I am so lonely. Can you offer me any advice? Sincerely, Desperate Can you help me please???

By vicious, i mean painfull and traumatic; literaly. Things could have been organized in such a way that the process is less time consuming and painful. Alot of hurtful stuff was said and yelled. All of our memories destroyed. What makes a woman want to make divorce so painful ? I didnt want to divorce and pleaded her not to divorce cause i wanted her by my side. I went through a painful 6 months without her, pleading and trying to save our marriage. But she wouldnt take a word or let go or look back. Why ? Was it all my fault ? She simply walked out on me without saying a word and asked for divorce. Im sure she discussed matters with her parents and they gave her their approval and support. 2 months before she walked out, we got into incredible fights and arguments. I had a gut feeling she would walk out on me any minute. She didnt sleep all night, she always looked distant.

I'm the younger woman in this situation, just to clarify. I have a guy friend who is married with a family. We're 11 years apart, he's older. We've been friends for a year and a half, but have known each other for 2 years. We USED to work together, but we both left the job at separate times and for separate reasons. We go to the same church (which he invited me to). That's where I mostly see him. My license is suspended and he occasionally gives me rides home from work and we're alone. He used to give me rides to and from church, but his son was always in the car (at his wife's insistence). It's getting dark earlier now so the rides home from work are in the dark. We usually sit in my driveway for 10-20 minutes just talking about work or the place we used to work or random stuff, never anything personal. He's flirty at times, but nothing too crazy. I'll admit I do feel bad at times when he gets home late due to dropping me off at my house and sitting with me for a little while and chatting, but I also enjoy my time with him because he is a very positive influence in my life and I look up to him. Those rides are the only time we can be ourselves with each other and really talk. At church, he'll barely talk to me..he'll only say hello and ask how I'm doing. My mom went to church with me for a while and once asked why my friend never talks to me at church lol. I kind of wonder too, but I don't want to ask. If you were the wife in this situation, would this bother you? I am on great terms with his wife. She hugs me all the time, I've given her a birthday card and gift card, she's given me birthday presents. Their kids love me and their oldest son even hugged me recently. His wife has never shown any sign of being bothered by me or disliking me and I've never had any reason to believe she's fake towards me. Sometimes I do wonder if my friendship with her husband bothers her. I feel the need to mention that we're kind of in sync. I'll be starting to say something irrelevant to the current conversation and he'll ask me a question about the exact thing I was going to bring up. This has happened twice now lol. He speaks to me, he just doesn't have a conversation. He'll say hi and shake my hand usually and ask how I am, but that's really about it.

My husband became very close with a married woman in his field. They were communicating all the time, and he was keeping it secret from me. He lied about her being at a conference that hole was attending, went out for beers with her, and even pretended to be married as part of a joke in someone else. I found out about all this, and then he got Snapchat to hide messages. I was able to put a stop to the snapchat but he wanted a friendship with her and her husband. We went out a few times and I tried to be friends, but I am too uncomfortable around her. She said some very mean things one night about my marriage, and my husband took her side. That was the final straw and I told my husband I no longer would be around her. He says he hopes she never finds out how uncomfortable I was. He says the other couple just wanted to be friends and that she would find my feelings laughable, and my husband says I was the one creating an issue where there was none. I feel like I'm going crazy and feel very depressed all the time. I'm hoping to start counseling soon, and my husband is okay with it as long as he doesn't have to go too. I am a mess.

I have tried leaving several times before we got married but I was always either sucked back to him or forced back to him. My parents aren't very supportive and an has drove away all of my friends and most of my family over the years. We have a 5 year old son together. I've tried making it work between us but is getting worse. After we got married he has gotten narcotics really bad as well He has now turned my son against me as well. I have told him I wanted a divorce he threatens me that I moved on with another man he kill me and who ever I decide to be with and he will not allow my son to be around any other man. I have fallen into a deep depression because of all of this. I really need some good advice P.S. I'm sorry my description is all over the place.

Two weeks ago, while at a family holiday party, my mother-in-law gave my husband a check to buy gifts for our children. It wasn't until today, supposedly that he found the check in his wallet. He said he had forgotten about it, which is hard to believe, since we were putting together a budget for Christmas a week ago. Don't you think he would have remembered it then? This isn't the first time he has lied about money. Our marriage sucks as it is and we are only together for the children, but if we are trying to co-parent effectively, I feel it's important for him to be honest. Can he be trusted? @history, I do all of the Christmas shopping/handle all of our finances, so I think he does have an obligation to tell me.

Shouldn't they get a job and support themselves ?

I see my friends of my age married and seeing their lovey dovey married life, I also wish to have one. I have been single most of my life and i think i will be single for the rest of my life as well :"(

My friend and I both are planning on ditching our husbands and want to have it finished at the same time so we can both go out to the bar and try to get mad dudes together that night. Is the process variable, or pretty set in stone? I've already broken the news to my husband but she was wondering when the best time would be. Thanks!

I guess she just needs me to fulfill some physical needs, and I enjoy her luscious body. Pure physical and some emotional support. I will not be asking her to leave her husband and she knows perfectly well.