My boyfriend has 7 siblings and his mom is always calling his younger brother ugly. He walked into his mom's room and said something and his mom said "I love you son, but you are ugly. " I think he went to his room to go cry about it. I feel so bad for him.

I have been told it is unusual buy my ex wife and I are on friendly terms. She has remarried and I try to stay out of her life as much as possible. We did not have any children. However a very unusual problem came up. Her job where she works is being eliminated. This would be a financial disaster for her. The company told her it has openings in other parts of the company if she get some specialized training. The open job that pays the best is Web Page Designer. She priced that training locally and it is very expensive. She ask me if I would give her that training on credit. I told her I would give her that training and I don't charge friends for helping them. There is however another problem. She doesn't her husband to know that her ex husband (me) is giving her the training. She wants me to pretend to be someone else with a different name and give her the training. I am not sure I want to do that. I would like to help her in her time of need but I am afraid this will explode in my face. Any suggestions on how I can get her the help she need with out causing a problem for ANYONE. Perhaps I give her the training and insist her husband be in every training session to see nothing improper happens. THANKS

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So I basically am shunned by my whole family ... aunts uncles my grandpa and grandma . ( i live with my grandparents because alotttt of reason ... But im 14 years old and I'm moving back with my mother in like 2-3 months .. ( probably like a month though) we need documents so my mother can get custody again . What should I do too pass time .. Im currently on my school chrome book because she took everything away from me .. My mother lives in texas and i have to get on a plane to live with her this is not a easy process .. my Grandma also said if I don't leave fast enough she's sending me to a group home . HELP

Every time she shows off about her daughter being a smart student. My mother always gets angry at me for being failure. Should I keep deleting the phone message so my mother won't return her calls.

So I ve been having many fights with mom because of her laziness when it comes to keeping things clean, for example: when she leaves the bathroom she doesn t wash her hands and claims she didn t touch anything down there for her hands to be dirty "happened multiple times" she keeps the cover of the drainage in the bathroom exactly next to my toothpaste, she walks outside barefoot then walks around the house with her dirty feet and claims she didn t want her slippers to get dirty "which really confuses me!" she drinks from a glass of water and returns it back in place and claims that her mouth is not dirty, and all of this have caused me to clean around my room more and not allow anyone to come and it got to a point where i use rubbing alcohol all over my body because the whole house feels dirty to me and I hate it so much! and whenever i mention anything about it she starts yelling at me and tells me that i m acting too crazy about being "clean". i m losing my mind! I would move out of the house to cause less issues but in my country if you re a girl then you re not allowed to rent an apartment or own any property.

She already knows how much it makes me nervous. I see now one condom is missing after months. Not sure if used I'm 17 but feel 30. 12 years since my mom had my two younger sisters I been a nanny, maid, care taker, etc, because of this I have no life what so ever! My father works all the time,now has a new job that makes him work more hours he's only off on Sundays, we don't have enough money to have a study babysitter it's just me & my mom. When my mom had my last sister she wasn't plan, my mom kinda thought that was it until she had her, after that my mom got scared & didn't sleep with my dad for almost 5 years. After working on that she promised me she won't have any more kids she doesn't want anymore. My mom feels like her head is spinning sometimes she feels like running away, she has no life gets sad, we also have 3 dogs so it's alot for us, even with my help she gets overwhelmed. Now my parents are open with sex even do it with the door open, condoms are in the closet where all our towels stuff is, now I know it was being used but now for months it hasn't been use at all. My mom isnt on any form of birth control, no pill, no shot, no thing you put inside nothing. Theres also no other signs of protection. My mom is into natural ways of doing things I'm thinking maybe because she's 43 about to be 44 she's doing pullout method when she thinks she isnt ovulationing. She has a belly button hernia, she didn't have sex for almost 5yrs do you think she'll take that risk again?

Hi, im going abroad for college and moving out next month, my family has been quite emotional lately, they're always taking me shopping and giving me stuff that they think i will need, my mom keeps talking about how much she'll miss me but i dont feel anything at all....im neither excited nor sad about it, im aware that it's going to be a drastic change in my life, going from one country to another, living in the dorms but im still not excited like i hoped i would be and it kind of worries me...is this normal?

I was at a meeting of a women's club and one of the members told me she planned to extensively remodel her kitchen and ask me if I knew any contractors. I told her my ex husband was a contractor and she might call him to discuss her remodel project. She called him and liked him and hired him to do the remodel. She told me he did a great job and she was very happy with the results. Shortly after I got a $500 check from my ex husband. A note enclosed with the check said "I give anyone a gift that sends me a customer and I don't see why I should treat you any different". "Spend this on something you will enjoy". Then I had an unexpected problem. My current husband does not want me to take the money. He does not want me to have anything to do with my ex husband. I tried to explain that this is a business transaction and it has nothing to do with him. He is not buying it. Should I return the money to keep peace in the family or keep it? What would you do?

I know borrowing money from family is a bad idea, but it's not me we're talking about. This is a dispute between parents and inlaws. Isn't that considered a predatory loan? If a parent borrowed the money from his mother-in-law, are his kids responsible for the debt before or after he dies? She had a tendency to be an "Indian giver." It felt good giving money away but after a few years it stung. She thought she was helping but she just caused more fighting in the family. My uncle even told me he expects me to pay for it. If I buy a house from him, the price is going to be $20,000 higher than the asking price.

Ever since I was young my parents always made fun of me because I m short and kept comparing me to other kids my age and asking me why I m not as tall as them Even though both my parents are short they some how expected me to be magically tall and kept blaming me for being short. This isn t what totally destroyed my self esteem. What destroyed my self esteem is when my parents took my younger brother to the doctor and brought him growth hormone injections. From that day I felt broken and sick. Now I hate myself so much for being short. How can I deal with that?

So besides legally again, do you think that an 18 year old is an adult? I am 18 and I recently graduated high school earlier this year. I'm dealing with a lot of adult responsibilities at home and in life at the moment and some people tell me I'm old enough to do all of those things but others tell me that im too young to take on such responsibilities such as but not limited to: cooking dinner for my family , babysitting a 4 year old all day, yard work, grocery shopping for the household, doing everyones laundry, taking out the trash,the whole nine yards and sometimes I'm really stressed because I know things will only get harder once I start college in January and I know my duties at home won't be alleviated or lighten up and I have one other sibling the same age as I and he barely does anything. everyone in my house works full time but me because there is no one to take care of my little brother. I have tried to talk to the family about how sometimes it is too much for me but they just say that they work and I dont and that im an adult now that I should be able to handle these responsibilities but they won't let me make adult like decisions like get a tattoo. My relationship with my family is great and I love them very much but theres just certain weak points like trying to get them to understand how I feel. what is your take on being 18? do you think 18 is an adult? Thanks in advance Just do elaborate a bit, I can't work as badly as I want to because I have to watch a 4 year old all day until my parents get home and then I have to cook, clean etc. if I can't work then I have no money for anything. I want to buy myself a car. I can't. basically I am being treated like an adult but only under my parents circumstances.

As I've mentioned before my brother and I had a major falling out several months ago because of him cheating on his wife. He wouldn't stop and eventually lost the house that they built from ground up and is now going through his second divorce at the age of 49. He had to move back in with our parents and is now sleeping on their couch. The sale of their house put $26,000 in his pocket and instead of finding an apartment he went out and spent $17k on a new (used) Chevy Tahoe. He constantly likes to send group texts to the siblings stating "the good things that God has done for him" but I find it sickening. To keep down the confusion I choose not to say anything to him about it. He'll send out a text saying, "I got my title in the mail today." Oh, and the truck he gave to his son there was nothing wrong with it. He just wanted a newer ride because the people at his church were upgrading so he wanted to as well. This morning he sends out a text to say that he's getting a $900 bonus from his job. Am I wrong to think that no one really cares, especially me? The good things that are happening to you are a result of the bad things that you've done so don't thank God for any of it. Get your life together and your priorities in line then maybe someone will be happy for you. Should I say something to him or just keep my mouth shut? I'm tempted to tell my siblings to remove me from the group text because I don't want to keep hearing his updates.

I received an inheritance and I would like to save it and make it grow for my kids college if I ever have any kids or my retirement if I don't. It is not big enough to pay someone to manage it so I am trying to decide how to best invest it. My husband wants to invest it but he does not know ANYTHING about investing. He can not even balance our check book. I have a friend that is a financial wizard. He has a proven track record of great results from his investments. His honesty and integrity are well known to me. He will manage my inheritance and make it grow and not charge me anything. He is the person I would like to have help me with my investments but there is a problem. He is my ex husband that I am still on friendly terms with. It will be a blow to my current husbands ego if I have my ex husband help me with my investments. I would like to tell my current husband that this is strictly a business relation (as it is) and it has nothing to do with our relationship. I don't think he will buy that. I don't want to hurt my husband's feeling but I think this is too important to not maximize my investment returns. ANY ADVICE WILL BE GREATLY APPRECIATED.

Recently my own mother put me out on the streets while I'm pregnant and kept $600 of mine! Now I'm staying with my baby's father and she keeps on picking with me saying "that's why you're homeless and I can NEVER come back to her house" and she's NEVER giving me back any of the money she took! She's really pissing me the **** off! Should I be mad at her? Like I'm mad she's actually doing this to me. I've NEVER DONE anything to her except NOT walk to the store for her. also my other siblings are mad at me too for calling her an bad parent! Well, look what she's doing to me. ? I gave her $100 and she literally turned around and stole my brand new charger that goes to my phone. I don't know WHY they're treating me this way or what I did to even to be treated so badly. Smh! Also, I WAS paying her RENT! The money I supposedly tried to move with she took it. So stop assuming I was staying with her 'Rent free".

Last year we had 21 people out of 103 invitations. How do I make it a subpoena so all 103 come with the exception of a few extreme emergencies.

The narcissistic aunt verbally attacked his wife a little over a year ago and called her ugly and fat. He no longer wants to see her. He is therefor missing out on seeing the rest of our family including our grandmother who might not be here next year (grandfather died in 2016). So is this wrong of him even though the aunt indeed was abusive? He has two children as well. chris n -- It is the latter, we are all terrified of the narcissistic aunt.

My fiancée told me that there's a genetic illnes that runs in her family. It's a form of anemia and it's pretty nasty. I don't have it so any children we might have will not have it, but there's a possibility that they become carriers of the gene. So this disease might run in my family as well in the future. I am starting to think of breaking up this relationship. There's no reason why I should put a potential deadly gene in my bloodline.

We're advanced in years but he's never been friendly with me. I'm older and wasn't always kind when we were young, but the same can be said for him. We're close in age. When I was a younger man, I tried, but he never wanted to have a friendship. It is hard to just move on and I don't really want to be close, but why are some people in our families so difficult to get along with or so willing to let us go like we don't even exist?

My mom won't let me do my Peter Griffin impression around the house because she claims it is "inaccurate." I've told her she can't do any better but she has, she is spot on with the impression. I would say that I would wait for puberty for my voice to change, but I'm 27. What do i do to have a better Beter voice?

I m 21 and my brother is 16. I m studying abroad in Europe and I get back home this Friday. He s a sophomore in high school and I m a junior in college. I love my brother, but he s at the age where he s really moody all the time. He s super rude to me and never wants to hang out. He s his normal, bubbly self when he s with his friends, but he s super mean to my parents and me. I know it s because he s 16 and hormonal, but it still sucks. All he does is stay in his room and watch Netflix or study. I try to watch Netflix with him when I m home, but he always says no. We re pretty similar in that we have the same sense of humour, he s active in the same Jewish youth group that I was in when I was in high school, and we went to overnight camp together for 5 years. He just got his license and I have mine too, so we have a lot of options. He doesn t like museums or restaurants; he s hard to get out of the house. I d love to take him to a concert (I took him to his first/only concert, Chance the Rapper and it was super fun), but there aren t any good artists coming to our city. How do I bond with my moody 16 year old brother and how do I get him to hang out with me? By the way, I'm a girl. Not sure if that makes a difference. My mom has bought baking mixes for us so we can make brownies or something together. We usually do that while listening to stand-up comedy because we both really like Jim Gaffigan and John Mulaney. It's still hard to get him to agree though.

My parents are Asian, so they either want me to be a doctor or engineer. They are very strict with everything, from when I go to bed to who I can or cannot talk to to my personal data like GPA or BMI. I want to study archaeology. I have a true passion for history. I'm in 10th grade, and I know it. My friends all support my decision. But my parents want me to be a doc or engineer cuz they say "it makes more money" I know that more money leads to a better life, but shouldn't you do what you're enjoying. I don't want to be a prostitute in Paris making $100 an hour. My friends all get to choose their major and career, whether it's cashier or actor or lawyer or computer engineer. How do I convince my parents that archaeology is my true love and passion? A couple wks ago my dad bought me a book on Egypt, and my mom says she'll support me if I want to take AP Spanish or AP World, which are notoriously difficult for everyone. I meant you shouldn't do what you don't enjoy.

I'm in 10th grade, and she's in 8th grade. My parents always treat her better. She gets more privileges, she gets to hang out with friends more often. My parents always yell at me, ground me, guilt trip me, compare me, talk bad about me, and beat me, but they never do that to my sister. Both of us are homeschooled. I took AP Chinese and AP CSP in 9th grade, and AP Calc BC in 10th grade. However, she's taking them a year ahead of me. She's taking Chinese and CSP in 8th grade and calc bc in 9th grade. My parents allow so to make me feel stupid, worthless, and incompetent.

Also, what type of upbringing do you guess would lead a man down this path?

My boyfriend's 6 year old kid has major behavior problems. Recently his kid yelled loudly at me to turn down a video then told me he will be mean to me all day every day unless I do what he says. I told him no you don't talk to me that way. My boyfriend got stern with him and gave an empty threat by saying now you dont get to go swimming (then let him go anyway). Later I said there needs to be a real consequence if it happens again like a 10 minute time-out.my boyfriend said you have to realize my kid was in a bad mood when that happened, and then said he didnt want to talk about it further...??? Is this a really bad sign? How should i proceed?

I was sent to rehab and while I was there my mom got a boyfriend and got married pretty fast, now I am out and going to live with them I am 16, and I feel extremely strange. He is a very nice man, very well educated and since my father was never around he told me that if I wanted by the right time that he would like me to see him like a dad, he said that he will never replace my dad, but that he was there for me like one. But it all happened too soon, oh and now I have twin siblings. The girl is nice but my step brother says I'm a crack head and says a lot of mean stuff to me. My step father calls him out says that he haves to respect his older brother and I don't know how I should feel about that. I sincerely feel nothing but strange. How do I get use to this feeling, is this normal. Has anyone been through this?

She's so mad but doesn't believe me when I say I'm sick, my stomach hurts and I don't wanna go, Imagine yourself sick and going to the worst place ever when you can stop yourself from going at least for a day, how can I convince her to stop, she talks bad about me the whole day just cuz I didn't go, It's making me angry and depressed.

Im not looking for sympathy, just advice. I'm 14 so I can't move out. My mom is the most manipulative person I have ever met. She's bipolar, but doesn't take the correct dosage of medication because she doesn't want to put on weight. I probably weigh more than her, and she points it out. If you have the tiniest argument, suddenly she's gone of either swearing at you, or crying and talking about how better her life could be. She often calls me a rude *****. If I ever, ever stand up for myself, that's it. She goes mad and you have to leave the room before she does something. I have a brother, but he is favoured by a mile. She has a problem with the way I say things. If I ask 'why' we are going somewhere/etc, she gets mad and calls me rude and selfish. I've resorted to not speaking, but that makes me the same rude ***** as always. I really don't know what to do. I've recently decided not to take her crap and have actually stood up for myself, but it's making it so much worse. My dad is just as scared of her as I am.

Well my grandfather has been living at my house ever since my grandma died 2 months ago. At first I was okay with it because I felt bad for him, but lately he's been extremely annoying, nosey, and bossy. He sleeps in the den on the main floor of my house in his underwear, and it makes me so uncomfortable whenever I'm up there having a midnight snack and he gets up to use the bathroom in his underwear... it's to the point where I'm feeling like I need to move out. I help my mom with the bills but since he's living here it should become his job to do that. He has completely taken over the main floor of my house and I'm ******* sick of it. What are my options other than moving out?

I'm 17 & feel like I'm 30. For the pass 12 years ever since my mom had my two younger sisters I been a nanny, maid, care taker, etc, because of this I have no life what's so ever! My father works all the time & now has a new job that makes him work more hours he's only off on Sundays, we don't have enough money to have a study babysitter/nanny it's just me & my mom. When my mom had my last sister she wasn't plan, my mom kinda thought that was it until she had her, after that my mom got scared & didn't sleep with my dad for almost 5 years. After working on that she promised me she won't have any more kids she doesn't want anymore & she would say it here & there once & awhile. My mom feels like her head is spinning sometimes she feels like running away, she has no life gets sad, we also have 3 dogs so it's alot for us, even with my help she gets overwhelmed. Now my parents are open with sex even do it with the door open...condoms are in the closet where all our towels stuff is, now I know it was being used but now for the pass 4 months or more it hasn't been use at all and my mom isn't on any form of birth control, no pill, no shot, no thing you put inside nothing. Theres also no other signs of protection. My mom is into natural ways of doing things I'm thinking maybe because she's 43 about to be 44 she's doing the pullout method when she thinks she isnt ovulationing. She has a belly button hernia, she didn't have sex for almost 5 yrs do you think she'll take that risk again?

My husband and I each have 2 kids from previous relationships and one of the conditions of or relationship is that we agreed on how to discipline them and treat them fairly bc we didnt want them to build resentment for one another. I thought that was clear which is one of the reasons we finally tied the knot 6 months ago. However, since then both of my children (12&17) have mentioned occasions where they didnt know what to do when they witnessed my husband disciplining his son (16). They said that they saw him beating him over the head, slamming him against walls, shoving him to the floor. Everything that we agreed against. The kids said he never hits them or is "mean" to them and his daughter (14) said the same, so it seems like it's just his son getting this side of him but that doesnt even matter bc we agreed on treating them the same. I asked his son about what had been going on and he confirmed what the other kids were saying but made light of it and was putting "just" in front on every thing. "He JUST roughed me up a bit", "he was JUST angry". "It JUST looked worst than it was". Which worried me more. When I confronted my husband he got really aggressively defensive in a way I'd never seen before. Said the kids were being dramatic, he'd never do anything to hurt any of them and he might have gotten carried away. But from what the kids describe it's not the first time things escalated to physical (what I consider) abuse But I'm kinda lost here. Advice??? To be clear, I know some people dont consider those incidents to be abuse (I DO) but that doesnt change the fact that we agreed on a parenting plan, including discipline and he's been violating our agreement. I dont think he's a danger to the kids I'm just unsure how to tackle this issue.

I'm 34 yrs old and a single mom of an eight year old son. We were both kicked out of my fathers in October because he has mental issues. I lived with him for a year after my mother passed. He would mentally abuse us, cuss us, put us down in anyway and would never let me get him help. I called Social Services and they were no help. Other people that know him have seen a difference in him to so it is not just me. I finally have a place to live with my son and two weeks ago he sent a letter blaming me for everything and even saying how my mother would be rolling in her grave for what I did! I live in the state of Va and I tried everything I could to get him help but no one can help. My son is scared of him and I am too! If any of you were in this situation what would you do?

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We live in Arizona so we've kind of just gotten into the habit of it and no one really cares anymore, wondering if anyone else does this or if we're just weird lol

Ok heres the dealeo. I graduate in 2019 and im gonna be 19 this January. I talked about getting a job,moving out,going to college,and getting a car to my grandparents. They dont seem to be into it tho. Everytime i bring it up they brush it off or change the subject. Its upstting and stressful because they are trying to do everything to keep me here when i want so desperately to leave. I was raised strict so i was never able to do anything. Couldn't even leave the house. I get a monthly income but i dont see anything out of it. My grandma keeps it all and refuses to give me anything. I get criticized and verbally abused sometimes and I basically do nothing cause well im a good person. I could be doing everything to give them trouble but i dont. I want to make decisions for myself. They taught me the basics of life well and i keep the motto "needs come before wants and bills come before heels lol". But the point is they are controlling my life its like i have no say so over MY LIFE. Its really frustrating. They have drove me to depression so many times where its not funny. I want out but i need a job which they wont let me get in order to move out. My grandparents are the types of people that u just cant reason with and its stressing me out. I need help on what to do or any suggestions where i can make money without them knowing. Please!😭

So today i accidently looked at my sisters computer for like a second and she got extremely mad at me and i told her it was an accident and i didnt mean to and she told me that i always say that and so because i didnt want to listen to her telling me how i purposely looked at her computer i started looking at my phone and she got even angrier and then she started looking at what i was doing and telling me that i always do that. Was it wrong of me to look at my phone??

My family have been picking with me for years! Like when I'm sleeping they would throw trash by my door, steal my brand new phone and give it away and take my college money that I still have to pay back. Now my mom is doing it. she kicked me out recently and stole $800 from me and said she hopes my BABY die because I didn't get up and walk to the store for her. I'm so confused! I'm 6 month's pregnant and they literally picks with my baby's father too! My brother said he was going to get us both killed And f$$@ my baby too! WHILE I'M PREGNANT! WE HAVEN'T DONE ANYTHING TO ANY OF THEM! I'm super nice to their kids and this is how I'm being treated. I literally don't know if I should still let them see my baby or not because they did get mad at me for not doing what they said AND WE'RE ALL GROWN in our 20's! My mom is 50. I don't have to do anything. It's like I'm their doormat and I keep allowing them to treat me bad!