Naturally I don't mind spending time alone, and because of how holidays have been these last few years for me, they're more of another day. My mom has been dealing with a mental illness, and because of that there's a lot of tension. Because of my mom's mental illness she has isolated herself, although she's naturally a private person. I was planning on coming home for the holidays to at least spend time with her, because usually I don't care to go to my distant family's get together because in those moments I especially feel like a wallflower because of how distant I feel. My mom unexpectedly won't be spending the holidays with my older brothers and I because of her illness, and i'm pretty sure everyone (my brothers) are going to go to the family get together because the idea of just spending Christmas with just the tree of us sounds sad, even though it isn't. I'd rather not go, because it isn't that personable to me, and plus there's very sensitive emotions I have regarding my mom. Do you think that I should go, despite me not wanting to go? Or I should honor how I feel? I also feel as if my family just judges through an outside perspective, and they're not as understanding. Thank you in advance, and happy holidays.

last tuesday (12/18), my basketball team celebrated the end of the semester by going to a mexican grill. i had lots of chips and salsa, steak fajitas, and several glasses of soda. i still had to study for my ap biology midterm, so right after i came home, i went to my room to study. since i ate a lot, iwas farting. my mom suddenly walked into my room and asked, "what the heck are you doing? it smells terrible in here." i told her i was studying for my ap bio midterm, but she said, "i know, but why does it smell bad in here? were you farting?" i'm SO embarrassed! please help!

I'm a tween and my mom and sister are asleep. My dad gets home around 5. I don't know what to do for 2 hours and 30 minutes. I can't go outside, because my parents haven't bought me snow pants yet. What to do?

she doesnt help me much either but sends my druggie older brother money every other month and bought him a trailer. he kisses up and I dont. He never helped either, and my mom tries to control and change me too much so Im not like my dad. I blocked my moms number because she was verbally abusive to me, but I kind of needed the christmas money. I was able to borrow money last summer, which I regret because it came with a lecture, despite me having no life slaving off in her restaurant and house.

My husband and I have been married for two years. We have been going to my parents for the holidays for 6 years. Next year we want to have our own family traditions, we don't have kids it's just us. I hate spending the holidays with my parents. They are rude, never come on time they come when they feel like it (3 hrs after the time) , and they complain and nag us. We really just want it to be us and not feel stress over the holidays. Whenever I try to suggest my mom asks me what's wrong with me. She thinks I'm abandoning them and it makes me feel so guilty. It especially sucks since my brother just enlisted in the military and we won't see him. We live an hour away from my parents and I just want them to leave us along...how do I establish boundaries with clingy parents? Anyone else in this kind of situation? I just want to enjoy my husband and our home without them.

i'm 15 yrs old and i live with my mum. atm, she's going through some financial struggles and i feel like i'm making it worse since living as a student is so expensive. i have so many needs like lunch money, revision guides, stationary, uniform, and more. honestly, i feel like i'm not enjoying my short term years as well. i don't have any money to spend on anything i want. it might seem selfish but i can't go out with friends because i have no money and all my clothes don't fit me anymore. i don't get to buy things like makeup or skincare, video games, drawing stuff, or anything. same goes for my mum. if i left, i feel like we'd both be happier. my dad wants me to live with him and he's a lot more financially well-off but at the same time i really don't want to leave my friends behind. i've never been so happy with my school life honestly, for the past couple of years i've been in and out of counselling and psychology but i'm finally starting to enjoy myself more with my friends. another thing is that my mum is bipolar and she gets really angry and stressed out easily, so we're both fighting all the time. i love my mum but idk if staying here is the best choice for both of us. what should i do?

i haven't visited family due to feelings about seeing narcissistic that is strong enough to keep me from going. I feel sad about this conflict.

She discussed how her father, my grandfather, has the sin of pride. She talked about the pride and arrogance of another sister of hers who she considers a narcissist and says the family is too nice to her. She talks about the lack of forgiveness in the family and how it is a sin the devil puts there (yet she won't get over stuff herself). Then she talked about the hypocrisy of my grandfather (her Dad). She does this every single time I see her. She is sick in the head. How do I get her off this topic?

I hate my mom's brother a lot. He is 56 yrs old. He is just a piece of sh*t.

I am a guy in high school. My step mom Lisa is just 5 years older than I am. Dad married a much younger woman. She is also VERY beautiful and has a great figure. I guess dad just likes beautiful women. Lisa is a great step mom and I really like her. She will sometimes tell me "I am going skinny dipping in the pool". "Don't watch me out the window". Every guy reading this knows what I did when she does this. Something will come up and I have to take care of it. Does this make me a terrible son?

hey, um so i'm 18 years old i'm a dude and my father passed away when i was young and my mom has been taking care of me fully, giving me pretty much everything i need and want, she's just a very good person and mother and never lacked to do anything when it came to me and i love her so much, i'm wondering what do you guys think about when i grow older and get married if i want my mom to still live with me, like i wouldn't be living at my moms house i would be buying a big house and having my mom live there as well with my future wife and future kids, i don't know i just think it's very fair that after all she did for me, that i'd do the same for her and take care of her as she gets older. what do you guys think?

Damn child keeps lecturing me on things she clearly doesn't fully understand. I try to be supportive but geez she's annoying

Cause I think she just assumed based off a few things I told her months ago that things weren't all that to bad & were basically fine. I asked for advice about a few issues to like 3 months ago and she never once texted me back or called me since. She's like almost the only family I really have. & then she posted me a xmas card with nothing but merry christams having a gathering at my apartment your more than welcome to come. Not one symptatic or supportive thing in their or nothing. How should I feel about this?? Feel kinda let down & upset about it.

He has been my stepdad for around 7-8 years now. And I love him. We have had LOTS of ups and downs in our akward almost brotherly like relationship (he is also only twice my age "18") but I want to call him dad. Because I know it means alot to him.. but... Its hard. My blood father as I like to call him abused me very badly..and when I think of dad in general I see his face. I know my stepdad deserves it though.. hes tried and succeeded and being more of a father mine ever was. But after calling him by his first name for 7 years.. its just.. weird to say it and fake feeling. Idk what to do..

Friends always ask me why I fly to see my parents and family for Christmas if I hate it so much. You need to be a Latino to understand why you have to as much as you hate it. Oh Christmas! The time of the year when your parents, brothers and sisters all get together to criticize every single thing about you. Don't you just hate getting together with your family for Christmas?

So my family is going on a trip up north. Trip is coming up soon and my Dad wants everybody together in one van. There is a problem.. It's not him, my mom, and my 4 siblings anymore. We are all grown, some of us have kids, we have our own families as well. I'm 30 and my girlfriend and I don't want to be crammed in one vehicle. We brought up the idea to drive separate, but my Dad said "No! Everybody together". I understand he's a father and he wants to be making all of the decisions, but we don't feel comfortable with it. Should I back out of this trip? Also, it's his birthday ... so I'm not sure of what to do.

I am 40 years old and had to move home because where I lived was affected by a hurricane. I decided to get a new house built in another area, which is taking much longer than expected. So that has left me living back with my mom, which I hate. Now that I've explained that, my problem is that she told me.......not asked.......but told me I'm going with her to church for Christmas Eve. She goes every weekend and tries to make me go, but I don't. So I guess she thinks that it's expected of me bc this is a holiday. I don't go for my own reasons but she doesn't care. She acts like this us something we're required to do in life. I told her many times that if going makes her happy then why does me going/not going have any effect on her. She usually gets an attitude, we argue and she still brings it up every couple of weeks. So I'm 40 and supposed to be obligated to go, physically sit there, waiting for it to be over.........and for what? I think that she thinks a spirit will jump inside of me and change my mind. Lol. She doesn't go places or do things that she doesn't. So why can't she respect that I'm just not interested. But I'm living with her, so does that obligate me to go for this holiday, at least or should I stick to my guns?

Hello guys, first off i am 18 and what i did was 2 years ago and i use to do it often back then and i knew i wasnt suppose to be doing it but its been bothering me since last summer. Well, here it is. I use to masturbate thinking of my older sibling and peek at them changing clothes when i was 16. I couldnt tell you how bad i feel and id dk anything in the world to take it back. I would never do anything sexually related to them but i was such a horny teen back then. I really feel horrible and i apolgize if I offended anybody on here. I feel just awful about it. It was the worst decisions ive ever done in my life. Please help me

I have Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and my parents believe anything I do with people they hate is an obsession. They hate this aunt I refer to as the narcissistic aunt. So when I see her or her son or daughter they are mad. I saw narcissistic aunt and her son today. My parents will find out tomorrow from my grandmother who is a widow. What do I do when my parents confront me? Anonymous: Not trolling, this really happened and please reply with what to do.

She's ten years older than me and I'm old

My parents always make me feel like a bad person, but I can t tell if they are just being hard on me or not. They get mad because they say I am selfish, spoiled, and don t communicate. The most recent thing that they yelled at me for was using wrapping paper for presents without asking. They said I am invasive and that I think I own the house. I wasn t trying to upset anyone. I didn t think it was a problem because I was trying to wrap their stuff without them knowing. Are they over reacting or would you be really mad at your kids for doing this too?

She keeps saying she wishes she never had kids and she doesn't even answer me back when I talk and it makes me feel sad but she doesn't understand me

Christmas is coming up. My niece, who is 12, has been wanting a phone FOREVER. My mom got her a phone and gave it to her already, and I saw a toy smartphone at the dollar tree and thought it would be funny to get it, wrap it and gift it to her. Mind you I got her a real gift too. I gave her the joke gift yesterday, and she flipped out, threw it, screamed at me, jumped up and down on the hood of my car (that I just bought last month) and the whole family is saying it was horrible for me to do this and they're taking her side. I feel like everyone is spoiling her. Am I seriously in the wrong??

My sister is afraid of Main Coon cats our grandmas attacked her now she's afraid. This cat is old and mean it's been known to attack he likes being petted but don't like to be held. This is also the first time she was also attacked by an animal normally she's good with cats. Some reason cats seem to like her. Our other grandma also has an old main coon but she can't hurt you she don't have no claws or teeth so she can't do nothing. It's only those type other cats she likes. Luckily it didn't do much damage to her just bit and scratched her arm a little. She's held him many times she don't know why he decided to act that way. This other cat she was afraid of handling because it reminded her of him. How can I help her get over this fear ?

after all, that is how you got here

I am sixteen and I live in Tampa. I hate hot weather and I like cold weather, and I don't get cold as easily as my parents. In Tampa it's getting somewhat colder, and were going out so I wanted to wear shorts because I like the breeze on my legs, but they said no because it might be cold if I am walking around. They are demanding I wear pants. I am a girl, btw. I think they're treating me like a child, and I should be able to wear my shorts because they're not even skimpy. Why are my parents treating me like a child?

my parents are always fighting every day over the same bullshit and i am just sick and tired of it. what do i do?

My Sister have been living with my and wife and 2 children, but primarily to take care of my ailing mother who has Dementia. She's lived with us for 2 years now and tries her best daily to clean up our house while we are at work. Sure, she has no 'work' and lives rent free BUT she cleans, cooks, takes care of the Children. We have not paid for babysitting since she started living with us and she cleans to the best of her ability. My wife on the other hand is a messy pig who leaves things everywhere, does not know what it means to clean dishes, let's the kids mess everything up and not encourage them to clean up after themselves. Whenever I talk to her, she says her maid (my sister) will do it ... Yet she complains that my sister doesn't do anything. Today when I woke up, she hands me a copy of tasks she has typed up and given to my sister while I was sleeping. Daily tasks and monthly tasks ... I was so pissed off about it and will be talking with her about it. She literally takes my sister as her maid and that doesn't bode well with me. She throws dirty dishes in the sink and waits for my sister to wash them up for her. I am getting tired of this and I have told my sister to ignore that list of daily tasks she's given to her. She has never bought anything for my sister, never said thank you for once for taking care of her Children, but she is quick to buying outsiders expensive gifts. I am tired of this crap.

My dearest sister awoke this morning to prepare for an upcoming date with someone she met through mutual friends. SHE HAS NEVER MET WITH HIM IN PERSON... at first we were excited for her assuming it would be nothing but a harmless little date. She left at 7:45am arriving at the location (a resort where they were having brunch and hiking) around 9am. They had planned to eat some brunch and then go for a hike of which the length was not decided yet. She had texted our mother at 10:00 o'clock saying that he was great and they had a good discussion. they had yet to go hiking. WE HAVE NOT HEARD FROM HER SINCE 10AM. We have not tried to contact her as not to intervene on her date. It has been over 6 hours now and I am concerned for her safety. My father and I have repeatedly checked find my iPhone but her iPhone stays in the same location. We are fearful of what has happened to our darling sister. I am unsure if I should wait a little while longer or try to contact her. What do you think?

My mother will be in a good mood and will talk to me for one second, to the next second yelling at me to go away. She never spends time with me and I never go out unless its with my dad. She rather sit in the house all day, doing nothing just watching tv and movies and if I come up to her while she's watching them, she will yell at me to be quiet and to go away. My dad pays for everything (she quit her job she worked in the medical field and made good money), and she still isn't happy but refuses to work but demands money. She also has no friends and blames everyone else (including me and my dad) instead of herself for being emotionally unstable. She took in 10 cats that destroyed our house and demands my dad to pay for their care. If I move anything in the house she goes into a rage (like not putting a fork back just the way it was.) She has no remorse for any of her actions like yelling at me, asking my dad for money when she's got it stashed somewhere when she used to work, for never being there for me, because when I tell her how she treats me, she laughs right in my face and says I need a therapist. How do I deal with her, and also, what mental disorder do you think she has? I've tried to figure it out for years but she doesn't fit one criteria more like three (bipolar, borderline, antisocial)?