I'm currently saving for an iPad for my daughter, and if I save expenses like getting him cheaper items from menus and such I can then put that money towards the iPad. And since she's my actual daughter, I don't see anything unreasonable with prioritizing her first. How can I make him understand this? Because he always seems to feel that he deserves as much as she does.

I have been a working mom and a stay at home mom. I was with my kids, for the most part, 24/7. No babysitters, no family to unload them on. I took them everywhere. Today, I notice couples don't even ask the grandparents if they can keep the kids, they just drop them off as if it's their duty. Couple require more "me" time and that was something us older folks never heard of. How do you feel?

So i work with my dad, and recently they found out that I and a couple of others didnt take the test, and my dad said no problem but the problem is ive been hitting carts for i wanna say a year. And i wish i knew when the day is but they wouldnt tell me, if my dad finds out i smoke the easiest thing he might do is kick me out, no lie. and i just personally dont want him to feel like ****. PLZ HELP ME OUT

When I was 22-23 I travelled to Europe, I went to Ukraine, Russia, France, England and Ireland. I speak Russian fluently, and Ukrainian well as well as French fairly well so I would flirt with the local babes. Me and this one girl lets call her Dasha, dated while doing the study abroad and I got a Facebook message from her. She's living in Brighton Beach NY, and she has a son and she knows that Im the father. She sent me a picture and the kid at three looks just like me minus my eye color, he has his mother's green eyes. She said that she thought I should now about my son, she is a single mother who works as a waitress. She told me that she would've told me sooner but she couldn't find a way to contact me. Heres the catch, she said that the her son has amblyopia and needs surgery on the eyes and that she needs my help for paying for it. Im 25 she's 21. What do I do? Im so overwhelmed.

My husband and I share an upstairs studio apartment, so we can hear everything the other person is doing. With most of his free time he plays games online. And by free time, I mean every second he's not eating or at work. When something bad happens and another player does something that makes him angry, he'll say something like "I hope your family dies in a fire" or "I hope your first born child dies of AIDs". Anything horrible a person can possibly wish on another person, he'll say it. He breaks at least one controller every six months on average. And when his team mates tell him to calm down its only a game, he starts to curse them out. Anyone that knows anything about playing online will know that a wide range of ages play online, from young children to people fairly up in age. He's told little children to go and kill themselves... A while ago when he kept yelling at someone online he kept telling them of all the ways he hopes they die, I finally lost it and said "SHUT UP! JUST SHUP UP!" He turned around slowly to look at me, purple faced and told me to never speak to him like that again. He bolted twords me pretending like he was going to punch me and stopped about an inch from my face. I screamed and one of his friends online told him to calm down as they all heard me scream near the mic. He later apologized when he stopped playing and acted like it never happened... Also he's 26, if age means anything. I didn't know he was like this. Sorry, I didn't have enough space to write everything. We dated for several years and we've known each other since childhood and never have I seen him such displays of anger and aggression. That's why I ask if this his normal for gamers. Thanks.

I got a call from my sister Joy that she had been laid off from her job and was really going to have money problems if she did not find another job. She had heard there were job opening at my ex husband's company and she wanted me to call him and put in good word for her. I was torn as I wanted to help my sister but I also wanted to put my ex husband behind me and move on with my life. I called my ex husband Bob and explained the situation. He was VERY nice and said "Can Joy come to work tomorrow and work for me?" Joy was very thankful for my help. When I saw her a week later I asked her how was the new job. She said she had a great job and my ex husband was a great boss and also a great guy. Each time I saw her in the weeks that followed, she would thank me again for getting her the best job in the world with the best boss in the world. She had already received a pay raise. She told me my ex husband was really hot and sexy and she wanted to know if I cared if she asked him for a date. I really don't know how I should feel. I know I should not be telling my sister who she should date but would it be too kinky if she should marry him? Please help me sort this out in my mind.

I'm an adult and happily married, but sometimes I feel so angry when I remember the way my mother treated me when I was still living at home. Now that I think of it, I realized she was more like a bitchy sister than a mother. She only loved my brother, and not me. For example, I remember how she hid my Greek myths books because I loved reading them (I was 8). She didn't even give reasons why she hid them (I did my home works etc.). I had to beg her for months until she returned them to me. Now I know she just hated seeing me enjoying myself. She almost never cooked for me, and often I had to make myself instant noodles when I was in elementary school. If I prefer certain color or things, she'd call them ugly. She also told me every day that I'm ugly and no one would marry me. She always compared me with my cousins, and praised whatever they were doing to belittle me. Every time I was preparing to go out she always said that if I don't be careful I'd get raped and it would be extremely painful. She started saying this when I was in elementary school, even gave graphic description that people could insert things into my v-----. I had troubles in my early days of my marriage because I was so afraid of the idea of sex. Every time I got something from my dad, she wanted it. Now I see her less and less because she always wants everything I have. Sometimes, seeing young women being loved by their mother in public could just trigger a flood of tears. Do you think I'm vindictive? I don't even want to go to counselling because I don't think they will be able to make me feel better about my past. I've talked to a psychiatrist before, but still I feel so much anger looking at other people being loved by their affectionate mother. I suppose the majority of people have nice mother, and I'm one of the unlucky ones who got the short end of the stick.

My egg donor was an evil, horrid woman. She made sure I knew she hated me. I was beaten into submission and called names since my earliest memories. My siblings were allowed to treat me badly, and they knew it was permitted. I left as soon as I turned 18. I was still in the same city, but she would get drunk and come looking for me. She insulted me and threatened physical violence. She broke into my home and destroyed my things. I left and moved far enough away that it finally ended. I went back once every few years to see my dad. He finally divorced her due to alcoholism, violence, and staying gone on benders. She continued drinking for many years. A few years ago I was very sick and admitted to the hospital. The doctor told me I wouldn t make it. She didn t come to see me, nor did she call. Some in the relatives think I hate her. I don t. I just don t feel anything. Once I got away, I learned how to block her out. If a thought of the past crossed my mind, I could get it out quickly until it rarely happened anymore. When she died I didn t feel anything. I can t pretend well enough to act like I did so I don t want to go. I don t feel it will affect me at all if I don t go. What would you do?

My dad and I are close. I am closer to him than to my mom. My parents are in 80s. My mom has Alzheimer's since 2016. My dad who has been financially successful has cared for her in their home with round the clock care givers and all the necessary supplies, therapy and medications. All of these expenses have amounted to thousands of dollars each month. Recently, he ask me to purchase multi vitamins for him and my mom. We talked on the phone and I mentioned that I already purchased the multi vitamins. I also added that "they're expensive". His response was, oh he spends so much for my mom, etc. I sensed he was slighted when I made that comment. The truth is, I was mimicking his tendency to make a comment like that too whenever he purchased something that would benefit me. Its like he wants to me to appreciate him and feel indebted to him. Anyways, as I said, I think he got sensitive after I made that comment. I called a couple times after that but he was either out or not answering the call.My dad is generous towards us. A few years ago, he gave me and my siblings a portion of our inheritance. Was it wrong of me to comment on how expensive the vitamins were after all that he has done for us? As a mature adult, do I still have to tip toe or watch what I say to a traditional and controlling man of a father?

He is losing out on the whole family cause one person, this narcissistic aunt, can be a bully. Why is he letting her win? ♠ Merlin ♠ ---- Probably my father who lacks any intelligence and flunked out of UCLA. Maybe whatever seen the narcissistic aunt makes. SCATTY c --- Aunt is coming because she is family and this year, though not years past, she is the mature one not boycotting Christmas. Other years she has been as bad as my brother.

My mom and stepdad fight a lot. Sometimes it gets physical I have a 5 year old sister and a 2 year old step sister. He calls me a stupid ***** alot. And he always let s the 2 year old get away with everything but if I make even the smallest mistake he jumps down my throat. This has been going on for over 2 years. I don t know how much longer I can deal with him. I want to tell him how sorry I am that I m a "stupid *****" and a "brat" and a "**** up" and I what to make it right but I m scared to talk to him. I ll be 18 in 2 years and I can move out and leave him behind me for good. But until then I m stick with him. He also loves to smoke weed and when he can t get any weed he takes it out on everyone at home. He is slowly killing me he just doesn t know it.

I recently found out that my dad has been cheating on my mom for 11 years. This has made me hate him more than I ever thought I could. But, at times I feel guilty, like I should not hate him because he is my dad. Is my hate towards him justified?

Coming from an Islamic background, my parents aren't too strict...depending on the situation. I'm a 24 year old women who graduated with a Bachelors degree and works for a great company. I don't drink, don't smoke, and don't have sex before marriage, but I love to travel and have a good time. You would think this would be enough for them to be happy with. I have a dream of moving out to Arizona, which I've visited 3 times, but my parents are against it. My parents said I cannot travel anymore and if I decide to, I'm disowned and banned from the house. "They are stuck in their old ways", they need to be in control. I started packing up to move out because I plan on leaving to live my dreams and do what makes me happy. My mom watches me and starts getting upset, calling me names, throwing a temper tantrum... it hurts me because I love my family and I want to stay, but the negativity and toxicity is not healthy for my mental mindset. She keeps trying to flip this on me saying it's my choice and decision to leave, but I have no other option. I've tried to explain myself over and over again, it's never enough. Please leave some advice

It's like their sonar, senors and bondage to be knows that I am doing something I shouldnt without me telling them.. and that makes me feel ashamed. How do they know this?

i decided to do not talk with them is this right ?

My parents seem to hate spending time. Every time I try to be close or affectionate to my dad he usually just push me away, yell at me, or tell me he's busy or doesn't want to be bothered. Since I'm really sensitive i usually just leave and tear up in my bedroom. Also my mom is all of a sudden distant to me and doesn't really talk to me (maybe it's mood swings) which also makes me sad. By the way I'm 14 years old. Is this normal or am I being to sensitive? What do u guys think?

Might it be true? Is driving past an old house of ours frequently and other old houses stalking (my mother has a sick and deeply disturbed compulsion to move constantly)? Am I just ashamed of my mother's lie because I secretly feel it is true? I hate my mother with such a burning passion right now. She is an evil soul.

I was recently accused by my grandmother and aunt for something I didn't do. I apologized several times. This has created ALOT of tension in the family to the point where my aunt and grandma want to move out of state. They really never talk to us anymore and we are going over to their house for Christmas eve. I really don't want to go and am scared something else will happen. What can I do to maybe resolve the situation or at least make it less awkward?

I'm 19 my girlfriend is 27. She lives an hour and a half away from so besides going on dates we don't spend much time together. Nobody knows she exists in my family except my cousins who seen her on Snapchat. I want to sleep over at her house sometimes cause it'd let us bond. I don't wanna breakup. Unless I can make up a story about why I'm not coming home that won't get me in trouble. My dad thinks i take roids cause I hang with body builders at the gym. They're probably gonna think I'm up to no good staying at her house

I am a step parent, married to the mother of a 6 year old. The mother and baby daddy don't get along. The dad has been texting me. Should I reply or ignore him? He treats my wife like **** and is very disrespectful.

Two out of three of my Mom's siblings will let me come by Christmas Eve or weekend since I have a gift but I am not welcome at the family celebration Christmas afternoon cause of who my Mom is. This rejection sting hurts so much that I keep trying with them so I can have happiness even though they don't appreciate me. I hate this time of year especially cause of this pain of rejection. They are not saints but I feel so hurt when I don't see them. Seeing them a few days before Christmas is like the 2nd rate visit and it hurts also. Plus most my cousins won't be there and so they will not think of me as family. I know in my Dad's family we don't think of his alcoholic brother's kids as family since we only see them every four or five years. This sting of rejection hurts so terribly. How do I put a good spin on Christmas so I don't just see it as a dark and sorrowful day like I do most years? I want to break out of this.

I am banging my head against the wall trying to get him to see my pain is real and not the imaginary pain his ignorant eyes see through his wicked soul.

Im old enough to leave anyway, I'm 19. I don't want to see anybody or hear from these horrible, horrible people ever again. I do have a diagnosed illness as well, maybe that will get in the way of running away and having a job? I don't know. I really can't stand this abuse either, I really just want to get my life started. I want to leave to another country/city too.