When I was married to Joe he always gave me and my mother a VERY nice gift on our birthdays and at Christmas. We both greatly enjoyed these gifts. I thought that gift giving would stop after our friendly divorce. I was wrong. Joe continued to give us nice gifts on our birthdays and at Christmas. Giving nice gifts is just in Joe's DNA. I am now remarried. I still got a nice gift on my birthday from Joe. My current husband Bill was very upset that I got a gift from my former husband. He told me he didn't want me getting any more gifts from Joe. I told Joe to not send me any more gifts and he said he understood and he did not want to cause ANY PROBLEMS with my marriage. He did however continue to send gifts to my mother. When we were at my mothers house my current husband say a new wide screen TV and he ask mom where it came from. She did not want to tell him but she finally told him Joe had given it to her. When we got home Bill told me to tell Joe not to send my mother any more gifts as it made him look bad because we did not give mom any expensive gifts like the TV. I told my husband I can not control who Joe gives gifts to and I will not tell him to stop giving mom gifts. He is mad at me for not contacting Joe and tell him to stop giving mom gifts. Does my husband have a reason to be mad at me?

My dad married a much younger woman. I am 18 and my step mom Liz is just 5 years older than I am. She is a great mom and I just adore her. Dad loves to dance but Lis did not know how to dance. She ask me to teach her so she could surprise dad by asking him to go dancing with her. I would practice dancing with her when I got home from school until dad got home from work. It took a while but she became a good dancer. She surprised dad by taking him to a dance and her really enjoyed it. When the got home from the dance, dad told me how pleased he was I taught Liz to dance. He said they had a great time dancing that evening. Liz said I owe you big time for teaching me to dance. It gave your dad so much pleasure. She said "What can I teach you to do that you will really enjoy"? Any suggestions on what I can tell her she can teach me to do?

Can someone explain sibling rivalry to me? I am an only child so that concept is totally foreign to me. My husband has 2 brothers and they always try to out do the other. If one get something, the other 2 try to get a bigger and/or a better or more expensive one. No matter what it is they will waste a lot of money trying to out do the other. This makes no sense to me. Why do they do that?

My 17y/o son has been having difficulty with getting a good/normal nights sleep for a couple months now and has been getting worst. It started this summer with simple nightmares. then it escalated to sleep-walking every now an again. Now he scream inconsolably and wont wake up. he tends to wake the whole house up. This happens most nights now, sometimes twice a night. His sleep walking has gotten much worst and worries me more than anything because he's been doing more dangerous stuff. We have to be extra careful about leaving the keys in the doors because he's left before. He ODed and had to be taken to the ER because he was just taking stuff in the medicine cabinet. Most recently he somehow managed to fracture his arm (we still dont know how). He has a history of sleep walking that Dr.s claimed he would just grow out of and it eased up for a while but the past couple months have been really bad. Was even scarier is that after it all he doesnt seem to remember hardly any of it even when he gets really agitated and sometimes violent. His dad and I have had to physically restrain him at times because he just wouldnt wake up and was getting really antsy. His teachers have notice a decline in his performance as well and him being banged up and bruised has them worried too (which I appreciate) even though it sometimes looks like we're doing it. lol Really out of ideas on what to do. Any advice?????

I'm 22, when I left school I didn't qualify for any grants as I have 2 working parents, they refused to pay for my college so I considered a loan, it was approved but they needed collateral, my parents refused to put anything up as a guarantee, so I worked. During that time I paid for driving lessons, a provisional licence, my actual licence, my insurance on my dad's car so I could get to and from work and then they started charging me rent, it's Lower than normal rent so I stayed. I was working 6 days a week and saved enough for uni which was roughly £11,000 the problem is when I started uni I kept weekend work and I just had enough to pay rent and get a bus to and from uni and taxi's to and from work. So I'd have £30 left over each week and I saved around £500, then something happened in work, I fainted and they had to call an ambulance, luckily I had health insurance but they wouldn't let me go to work for 2 weeks as I needed rest, so now my bank account reads £20 and I'm back to work tomorrow. My dad came in and asked how I was feeling and I said fine now, I've missed a bit in college though, he then said "you know if you mess up you're out, rent or not" and walked off, the stress got to me and I started crying for some reason and just stayed in my room, my mom came up and said she thinks the problem is I have too much time on my hands the last 2 weeks, I could feel myself getting really angry and we're clearly on different pages, I know I need to move out but how?

So I m a high school graduate taking a year off college because I was anorexic last year. Now I ve moved to a new state and my grandmother is living with us. I knew from the start that she was going to be a nightmare to live with. before graduation, she was with my aunt. That s fine and all but she believes my dad should take care of her bc it s a tradition in my culture that men look after parents at an old age. I hate this bc I took a year off of school to be happy. Now I m worse than before. My grandmother gives junk food to the dog, which is making me anxious and sad, she always nags about me not going to school when little does she know what I ve been through, I have developed OCD thanks to her bc I lock my bedroom door 25 times at night to make sure she doesn t touch my things, and I don t feel like I can sit on the couch in the living room and read a book with her calling me "lazy." I m never in the same room with her and I don t feel comfortable in my own house! ID RATHER GO BACK TO THE TIME I WAS ANOREXIC! I FELT SAFE BEFORE! She can go to my aunts house and nothing is wrong with that. My parents said they might send her back for me but SHES STILL HERE. I feel so depressed and I feel like my mental health gap year is getting no where. Im forcing myself go back to school in aug 2019 no matter what, even if my health is bad. But I want my grandma to go back to my aunts so I can be free. Please give happy advice. my grandmother is making my mental health worse

The other night I was falling asleep and my mom came into the room after watching with my dad the cell phone and how they make you infertility and told my little sister (10 and 8) to not keep the phone by their stomach cause it can cause you to not have kids later. Now later on when we were all getting ready to fall asleep (we sleep in the living room right now cause the upstairs is being done), my mom was covering my sister when my mom moved the cell phone away from her and my sister said "I can't believe the phone do that to you" my mom keep agreeing but didn't know what to say and didn't let my sister complete her sentence... especially when I asked what do they do. She stuttered and said "when you hold the phone (she showed me by the knee) it can make us infertile (pointing to herself) does stuff later on". Then when I ask her again she stuttered again and choked on her words and said "they want um they want to depopulate to make less umm to make us have problems women can't get pregnant it affects from young age and older". Now I don't understand if my moms worry about us or herself or both? She doesn't want anymore kids she's going to be 44 and is always afraid of me having kids soon. Also I never see her stutter. And she always said "us" instead of "you" I belive,

I'm 24 years old and struggling in college. If things had gone well for me, I would have already graduated and moved out. My parents decided to sell our old home and build a new contemporary home, so now I'm being forced to move out. I've had no luck with finding a job. What do I do?

yeah, sisters fight sometimes. but it gets to a point where i have mental breakdowns almost daily because of her. she never respects my feelings, and she is so selfish and doesnt care about anyone in our family but herself and her friends that she'll never see again. im 11 years old and im pretty mature for my age, im not some stupid middle schooler that tattles on mommy, but my sister doesn't trust me even though ive supported her and ive cleaned up spilt beer, tried to hide alchohol bottles, had to take care of my sister while she was drunk, covering up for the stupid things her friends broke, and never telling my mom a thing. me and my mom have a very strong trust with each other and i basically tell her everything, but my sister pressures me into lying to her and i hate it. and after everything i do for her she treats me horribly and lowers my self esteem and ive seen some things an 11 year old shouldnt see. i have to act like everythings fine and i have nobody to support me except for one really good friend who is there for me all the time. my sister directly tells me that she'd rather hang out with her friends than me, and that talking/hanging out with me is a waste of time. idk what to do because shes ruining my life when im walking home from school i hope a car hits me

Tired of calling me names . She works hard and is saving up for her own home . However , sometimes she stays with me here and there . A week ago , she called me a name . It's not the first time she's called me mean things in front of my children. We got into a small argument and bam she calls me a name . So today we got into it again . I told her that I didn't like when she called me names . Her response was ," well you shouldn't talk to me crazy and maybe I won't. I'm the mother . Btw I'm 31 and my mom is 58. She thinks it gives her permission to call me names . I said I won't put up with it . She continued to argue this morning and left saying , " you will see." Then she said to me . , " wow I'd never argue with my mother ". I told her I wasn't arguing I'm asking her not to call me names ever again because I can't be around it . I told her she doesn't have to ever have to worry about me keeping in touch with her again sense she found her behavior normal and ok when really it's unhealthy . She then said GOOD I don't want to see you ever again either . I then called her immature and that this whole thing is ignorant . Was I in the wrong to tell her that her name calling was ignorant ?

My sister lets my 3 year old niece stay on her phone literally the entire time that she's home. My niece is already addicted to them and ipads and everything else. In my opinion this is not healthy. She won't even answer anyone's texts or phone calls because my niece will throw fits the second the phone is taken away. It's mostly the phone that she's addicted to though for some reason. anon she uses my sisters phone.

Everything started two months ago when my dad tried to kill me my mom and my 2 sisters with a gunshot , fortunately the bullets got blocked and none of them cameout . Sowe screamed out loud while wewas fighting forour lifeand finally a neighbour come to our house and saveus and then other neighbours startedto come and inthe end police cometo, then wewere sent to police station,we gave our declaration what happend that nightso they took my father in the prison but after 2 months he is in freedom. (Hewas very kind with otherpeople but whenit comes tohis family he was aterrible father & brother tomy aunt&uncle and husband, is clearly that heis psycho and will do anything to makehis plans work ) Before that we had alot of problems but none of them was asbig as last one.We are 4 child,i have a big brother and two sisters all of them is bigger thanme. Asa kid we were so successful at school, we did a hard work to learn tobe a great person in the future and to satisfy the wishesof our parents,all of us has bachelor degree and my 2 sisters have master degree to .Now weare lost,we lost hopes to live to be possitive, to go to work, and everything else.We are so scared the last one will repeat again,will happen a tragedy and thenwe will not be as lucky as we was.Once again i live in a country that is full o corruption, we dont have visa to go outside the country.All ineed now is people with great mind and brain that works great to find asolution for ths situation.

So my husband and I just got married this year. We have a 10 year old daughter and we wanted to plan our own first Christmas. First I would like to say that my husband and I moved to the bay area where all his friends and family are. His mom let us move into her home and we pay rent and utilities. She always wants to come over every friday because her boyfriend has plans with his buddies. I dont mind her coming, but I wish she came over biweekly because I hate having to give up my Friday s. I know that sounds harsh, but its frustrating when you have plans and deciding to cancel with her only to make you feel guilty or thinking you dont like her. Anyways, besides that my husband and I decided to not spend Christmas with my family nor his this year. My family was saddened by this, but they respected our decision. His family meaning his mom and brother do not understand this. We keep telling them we arent celebrating with anyone and we just want only one year to celebrate with our little family. This means no Christmas at all or changing the date to suit them. I m sorry but we dont feel obligated that we have to do anything with anyone because they are family. We love them, but want them to stop harassing us about it. We find it frustrating because my family said fine and his wont budge. I know its Christmas, but our decision should be respected.

Long story short my mom is dating this deadbeat dude. He only comes over after 11:00PM never during the day. (Bootycall hours if you ask me) but she says they have been together for a long time (5 years) I'm 23 in college so I'm not that financially stable yet so I can't move out. I have 2 younger twins sisters (15) and every weekend I have my nieces and nephews over. It's like it never fails...I have a rather small house so whenever I go use the restroom I ALWAYS hear them having sex. I've confronted her when I was 19 asking her to chill we have kids in the house she told me "Just get a life, this is my house" it's to the point that my little sisters come in my room crying sometimes because they keep hearing her. As of right now it's 7:00AM and I just heard them...we have 5 kids in the house as I speak. Now I understand get it in when you can, but there's a time and place for EVERYTHING!! What if one of the kids would of heard her? My question is what should I do? My mom is selfish asf and she's not going to care but I'm definitely going to say something because she's impacting everyone in the house... Am I overreacting?? PS my mom is 55 years old guys...and I've been having this issue for almost 5 years..

The other night I was falling asleep and my mom came into the room after watching with my dad the cell phone and how they make you infertility and told my little sister (10 and 8) to not keep the phone by their stomach cause it can cause you to not have kids later. Now later on when we were all getting ready to fall asleep (we sleep in the living room right now cause the upstairs is being done), my mom was covering my sister when my mom moved the cell phone away from her and my sister said "I can't believe the phone do that to you" my mom keep agreeing but didn't know what to say and didn't let my sister complete her sentence... especially when I asked what do they do. She stuttered and said "when you hold the phone (she showed me by the knee) it can make us infertile (pointing to herself) does stuff later on". Then when I ask her again she stuttered again and choked on her words and said "they want um they want to depopulate to make less umm to make us have problems women can't get pregnant it affects from young age and older". Now I don't understand if my moms worry about us or herself or both? She doesn't want anymore kids she's going to be 44 and is always afraid of me having kids soon. Also I never see her stutter. And she always said "us" instead of "you" I belive,

Long story short August 2015 my step sons biological mother dropped him off with me and his dad when he was 1yrs old.. fast foward time to 2018 and this little boy now thinks im his mama! His mother never came back or tried to contact us again beside somthing about his state insurance. She a deadbeat mom!! But lets get to my situation! Im really attached to this little boy who is 5 yrs old now. I claim him as my own! I do everything for him he is my baby! His dad doesnt do alot for him! Me and his dad decided we want to go seperate ways. Ive wanted to for awhile but stayed because of his son. I dont want to leave him because i do everything for him and hes gonna be lost witout me! It hurts so bad!! I love him so much!! I am pregnant (29 weeks) with his little sister! So i know he will still be around but how do i cope wih being away from him and stop worrying about him so much? Should i explain to him im leaving? I tried allready and we both cried really bad! I hate that his dads hurting him so much! FML

We would like to give one gift each but want to make sure it goes to a needing family. How would you phrase this? It would be nice to hear their stories, or maybe completely at random. What would YOU do. Some children have 20 gifts while another may have none.

I am 15. I have been living with my dad and stepmom since I was 5. My mom has been in and out of my life. My mom bought me a new iPhone and she put it on her plan. My Mom told me I can have it but my stepmom is not allowed to touch it and she is not allowed to through my call logs or text messages. My mom said I Am you mother not her, your my my daughter not hers and she doesn't have a right to tell you what you can and can't do. This is annoying me because my mom has always these kind of conditions. I don't want the stupid iPhone because it's going cause problems. It's like she always trying to get me to upset my stepmom.

My mom has 3 kids, me 17 & my sisters 10 & 8. she has to take care of the house, my sisters, 3 dogs she also used to take care of my grandfather that was badly sick but is no longer here. She had to deal with me with my heath issues when I was little then 9 years later she had to deal with my sister that has a rare case of cystic fibrosis she has a very light case but she has episodes of severe nausea then my last sister has no health issues even though she is healthy my mom worries for her. My mom never really goes out just to go out it's always hard, she homeschools, sometimes she feels like running away because everything becomes to much for her. I have no life what at all I'm always by her side helping her I feel older then what I am I feel like I been a mother & so much already. My dad works all the time & only off on Sundays. My last sister wasn't planned my mom thought she was pretty much done with having kids. After my last sister my mom was scared about getting pregnant again my parents didn't have sex for 5 yrs. after workingout their problems my mom promise she'll won't have anymore. I see the condoms were being use now after yrs I see months went by that it wasn't touched I Believe for the first time they were just used recently now. My mom was pregnant at 15 didn't go through with the pregnancy then after my last sister it made things crazy. Does it seem she is using the pullout method because she's almost 44 & thinks there's little risk? Shes on no birth control

I want to get more responsibility and be able to do things that a normal teenager would do, but my parents are extremely strict and won't let me do anything. In a couple years I have to leave for college and I'm afraid that I'm not going to know what to do and what not to do. So what should I tell my parents so I can get a little more of a life?

My mom does not let me do stuff on my own as in going out or going to school on my own and I'm 17 years old who is currently attending 6th form.She is afraid that I will be stabbed due to the knife crime that does not even happen where I live in London! It's becoming to the point where I feel depressed sometimes and I'm sometimes teased for it.My mum does not let me take the bus alone to school just because I might get stabbed and it's annoying because I need to face my fears and take risks and not hide from reallity but my mum makes it harder.Im not a bad kid and I earn good grades at school.Could someone help ?

My mom and dad had a fight. My dad was provoking her by insulting her and her absent father, saying her dying mother would be ashamed of her, and saying that she was not worthy to be a wife. My mom got really mad and was in his face scremaing at him telling him to stop . She pushed him and said act like aman but he didn't stop. She grabbed a put from the dishes and told him to stop saying those things. She was saying "Hit me ! Hit me ! Be a man ! Hit me!" Then my dad some more horrible stuff that I can't really get into right now. She drove away in her car and he's still talking about her right now Me and my sisters tried to tallk to him like we usually do after he and my mom had a fihgt, as its pretty usual. Today's fight was different and it was the first time my mom drove away. Ususally she goes upstairs. My dad feels smug right now and actually says SHE was provoking HIm by saying hit me and is proud of himself for not. It's sickening the way he feels and I am feeling really upset. I don't know what to do, so i'm looking for some suggestions

My biological mother gave all 7 of her kids away (including me is 7) she never calls, speaks or anything and when she does it's nothing but about drama going on in her life because that's the type of person she is. Only way you'd hear from her is if you called first. She takes updated pictures from our facebooks and will post them capitioning them "My beautiful daughters" or "My intelligent daughters" just to get brownie points from her Fb friends. Little do they know it's all a front and she gave us up years ago.

My mom has a friend that lives a block away from us. She s an old drunk with nothing to do but come to our house in the morning and sit there and eat our food until midnight......EVERYDAY. Uusually I don t say anything and just stay in my room while she s here since I m usually out working anyway. But lately I ve been having a hard time ignoring her. I want to curse her out and get her to never come back. My cousin lost her son last week and she has been staying with us ever since. Our family is grieving and family members come to our house to give support. They bring food and drinks and whatnot. But my mom s alcoholic friend still hasn t missed a day. She sits in our house and eats the food my family bought for our grieving family. She gets drunk and loud while we are trying to sleep and doesn t leave until 12am. My cousin can t get any type of piece. And when I talk to my mom about she says I m disrespectful. But she doesn t know how disrespectful I m really about to get towards this lady if she doesn t stop coming over our house and eating our food. She just sits there and eats and looks at us. Even if my mom steps out she just sits there...i don t really hate anyone except this lady. I really think I absolutely despise her. Any suggestions?

My cousin, "A.J.", was recently caught with ecstasy by police. Not only on him, but also in his system. And his dad is PISSED. He's only 17yo. Class president too. But I'm worried about him, since him and I are really close. My mom says I shouldn't worry too much about it. But any ideas?

My biological sister "Eve" is pregnant. She admittedly is using drugs. "THINKS" the baby is due in March. She has posted borderline suicidal posts on Facebook. I reached out to her. She has not had any sort of medical attention for her or the baby. She is grieving the loss of her son who tragically passed when he was almost 3 back in 2015. Her 3 year old daughter is in our biological mother s care in FL for the past year. I offered her a bus ticket to GA where I would take her to the hospital, a crisis center, and then placed in a halfway home for expectant mom s. Refused with a big "F" you. Not going to force her. I called the coroner s office in her Parisht to 10-13 her today. I have to physically be there to sign. My last resort is to call the law which I am scared to do since she has a warrant for missing drug court. Anyone have any thoughts or ideas? Tough Love?

Men seem more ashamed and angry when their mother or daughter is a skank. Women seem a bit more okay with it when their mother or daughter is a hoe. I have noticed that men cannot accept it and seem to even hate on their promiscious mothers, often bashing them. Women seem often forgiving and dont betray their promiscious mothers or daughters like most men do. Why is this actually? Whats the reason behind this? Why is it worse and harder for men to have a promiscious mother, daughter, sister or even a grandmother? One time a guyfriend of mine complained how his grandma was such a wh0re in her younger years. I thought to myself wtf? How can you call your own grandmother who's dead a wh0re??