I separated from my husband 3 years ago. I left the house because he was going through a midlife crisis and his behavior was very unlike him. He got involved with activities with coworkers at work and when we began to start focusing on our relationship...three coworkers began to harass me on my job. So after about 2 months the harassment stopped happening and we began to work things out. Just to be clear. I m still not sure what he got involved in but I have my suspicions. I could not get over my anger and my resentment and I moved 3 minutes away. He insisted on stopping by and checking on the kids everyday. He would ask my oldest son questions about how I m doing. As the separation progressed, he started asking if he could come in the mornings and help get the kids ready for school. I allowed him to stop by and help. This has continued for three years. When he comes over, his attention and conversations are directed toward me. It has been three times since separation that I ve talked to him about working things out. He drowns me in acts of service and I began to want to work things out, he gets angry, and then comes back the next day doing the acts of service all over again. He comes back every time stronger than ever. He now helps in the morning, has offered to wash my laundry, buys us self care products, buys dinner once a week, and drowns me in money by paying my bills or giving me money. He gets the kids ready for church every Sunday.

Background to the story - I work 7 days a week and I work 2 jobs, both physical and both with kids. Then we have 4 kids ages 12 & 13. I actually have a bit of a break this week with it being Christmas break. I cleaned up the Christmas mess on Wednesday and vacuumed then went to work for a few hours. Yesterday I took one kid to an appointment and then all 4 skiing. Today I took a nice break, something I never get. I chilled most of the day until I had to go to work for a few hours. I ran the dishwasher and had the kids clean their mess in the mud room. My usual work day is leave the house at 6:50am and return 12-13 hours later with weekends being 6-8 hours. My husband works a typical 5 day 40 hours week. He gets weekends, vacation time and personal/sick days (I get none of that). If he does the laundry on the weekends he just washes it then leaves it in a huge pile for me to fold. Why not get the kids to do it? His answer is "it's not worth the fighting." He never cleans, no vacuuming, sweeping, scrubbing, he just sits and plays games or goes to hang out with friends while I'm working. The house is a disaster because I'm never home. Follow up below...

I had just finished letting my 12 year old son glomp me and he let his glomp juice out inside. My husband comes in the house, so I quickly put my clothes on and then tell son to run out. Husband wants to eat me out. The glomp juice hasn't come out yet so he sees it. He turns me around and sees the glomp juice from our ten year old son. He says 'wtf is this?' I say it's heinz mayonaise. Hubby hates heinz. am I getting divorce? PS: I'm not going to get statutory whaater charges cuz im 17 and hubby raped me when I was 5.

She didn't care about how the money was saved or spent although i have been trying to convince as following formula. Gross Income - All Expenses = Net . Then Divide Net by 2 for both of us. She demands as ... Gross Income divided by 4. Not every month we saved 50% of income (if she wants 25%, i should have my 25% to be fair), she only works one year of four we were married.

I found a ton of dating/hook-apps from my husbands laptop. His Google account is linked to his phone and the play store on it, so not only is his history on there, but his app activity. I haven't been sneaking around since I was in high school, but I've been feeling like something hasn't been right in months and I couldn't help myself. We've only been married for 2 months and he's frequently visiting these apps according to the history. Tinder Meet Me, Local Hook-Up, etc. I told him when he got off of work that I need to talk to him, but when I tried to show him what I saw, all of the history was erased from his Google account!!! If I hadn't taken a few pictures I would feel like a crazy person. Which I think is what he's trying to do. He's suddenly accusing me of cheating and putting things on me. Most of the evidence is gone, I'm backed into a corner, and I don't know what to do. He won't admit to anything and he just keeps yelling at me. I asked to look at his phone, but he has an app that can disguise other apps, and he wouldn't let me look at his other phone. He's suddenly so angry he won't communicate with me. We dated for 5 years and we've known each other since childhood. I thought I knew so much about him. He uses those apps so frequently and I was shocked at what I saw. I know what I saw.

My wife is threatening me, swinging at me, putting her hands in my face, and even choked me. She's also threatening to throw my stuff out the apartment while I'm at work. My job is very strict so I can't call out last minute and I don't want to lose my stuff. What should I do? Her name is on the lease but we are are married. So what can I do? I need help really badly.

My husband and I have been married for 10yrs. He's a real mamas boy and pretty much every time we get in a fight he runs and tells her all the dirty details. Of course after 10yrs I've asked him over and over not to do it. Well, he still will and now he's even been calling my mother to "tattle" on me. So, at this point I'm pretty over it. My own family is slowly turning against me also because he lies in anger. Later on we make up but the entire family is feeding into him and saying we should just divorce. I would, however we have 2 young children under 4. Counselors tell him to stop this behavior also but he doesn't seem to care about what the therapist thinks. I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced this, or a similar situation and how did you handle?

Most things in life have a beginning, middle, and end, so what is this standard of you or your spouse having to die so that society can say that your marriage was a success? Can't a marriage be considered successful if the good outweighed the bad? Most people work hard at keeping a marriage going as long as possible but shouldn't there be an option for people who realize that there are no guarentees and that it's OK for even a marriage to have a beginning, middle, and end without anyone dying?

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So I recently acquired a girlfriend that I met through an inmate dating site. I started writing her letters and she responded and we hit it off. She's very attractive, an 8/10 I'd say. She would be a ten if she didn't have tattoos and if she didn't have a child (her child is being raised by her grandparents though), but I imagine that having a child did a number on her nether regions and her belly. But regardless of those flaws, she is young and gorgeous. She won't be out of prison until 2040 though, but she has the possibility of getting out on parole in 2025. I really like her but I crave intimacy. It stinks to only be able to see her through a piece of glass. I was thinking of proposing to her so we can get married and have conjugal visits. Is this a bad idea? What's the worst thing that could happen?

you told a girl that you have a feeling for her but she had a boyfriend or dating somebody. She got confused and she said "I'm sorry...."..... but later after a few days, she came back to you and showed up to see you..... Did this ever happened to you in real life?

Before I was married I always placed my daughters income tax credit into a savings account for her. My husband and his ex wife always blew theirs. When they got divorced they split the two kids, she claims the eldest and he claims the youngest. Well, he is telling me that he doesn't want to save the money for the kids, that he wants to pay off his debt from prior to our marriage. Well I disagree and refuse to spend my daughters money. So now he has said he will agree to place the money from his kid and my kid into accounts for all three kids. But I don't think it is fair my daughters money is being taken. I feel he should contact the mom and ask her to help save for the kids and if she disagrees then he needs to split his child tax credit between his two. I feel bad because they are now my kids too but he has had 11 and 9 years of spending the money taking his kids each year to Disney or on a cruise with the income tax when my daughter only has her three years saved. Am I wrong?

I was in a relationship for most of this year where this happened. I have celiac disease and so did one of my partner's parents. I suspect my ex-partner may have had it as well given some of their symptoms (being a bit slow and sad) but he/she came from a large family. The parent with celiac didn't want any sons or daughters tested for celiac disease (despite the fact that family screening is essential once one member has been diagnosed with it) because the GF diet is too expensive for more than one person in the family to be on. My partner has also told other people they could never say no to a cupcake (despite myself and one of said ex-partner's parents (and maybe my partner as well given some of the signs and symptoms) being celiac). Needless to say I held my tongue on this and other issues, to keep the peace and unity, which eventually became unbearable. My partner and I never had an argument. My partner would get me gifts regularly. The father (of my partner, who was also ironically slamming my parents and making derogatory remarks about them to friends of ours) wanted me to get married and that's where I drew the line and abruptly ended our relationship. The break up has apparently had a more negative impact on some of the younger siblings of my ex over the past couple of months. Do you think my handling of the break up was reasonable or unfair?

3men one her husband 2unknown men are all telling her I am ur husband she's not crazy and has a point someone's height height does not change 3-7 inches every other day and no ones scars move or disappear!! She's afraid to do anything over 4yrs she's tried to leave ends up beating threatened that shell be killed her children hurt and what's worse is she has recently learned that one of them is or was a law enforcement agent. She has no money no job vehicle her children live with her grandparents for their own safety people think she's a bad mom that she's nothing to be concerned with because her husbands made it appear this way when I personally know it is Not and she needs help now be for he finally kills her and gets away with it I don't know where she should go who to call or what to do but I do know that if somethings not done now it's going to be a tragedy ADVICE PLEASE SOMEONE HOW CAN HELP HER

My husband and I been married for just 1 1/2 years. We were on a relationship for 5 years before getting married. And we have a 6 months old baby. We're having communication troubles and getting into lots of arguments lately. Nothing terrible like violence, drugs, infidelity or anything like that, just lots of differences and practically we are not enjoying ourselves together on our day off because the constant arguments. Should we go to couples counseling? Are those things too expensive and our troubles are not that big? We have UHA insurance, is that type of services cover by insurance? We're not religious at all so I don't want to go to a church for help.

is this normal in marriage? My wife told me a man gave her her number and she just wanted "friendship" from this man and apparently he buys things for her the things I cant afford for her. The other day she asked me for a new bag and i told her I cant afford a $3000 purse and she said, "Well I guess I'll just ask Rodney" ugh Should I just get a better job? I don't like the fact she has to go to another man to get something she wants.

Me and my boyfriend are getting married on Sunday I'm super nervous I been with him 7 years I love him more than anything he's my best friend. I'm really stressed and freaking out over it. Is it ok to be scared and nervous ?

Basically he thinks I am using the child as an excuse not to go. While I can't lie that I'd prefer not to go, in this case our son got some nasty virus (hopefully just a virus). He's got this horrible cough, is up most of the night, cranky and miserable during the day and I am taking him to the doctor today. Husband thinks it's nothing but I haven't slept in a week dealing with this! I know he'll scream and curse over this issue but I feel like I have to be firm and just tell him "sorry". I would expect some more understanding from a husband though, but the relationship between me and his folks has been a tense one. I am fine with them coming over in a week or so, just not going there tomorrow. Do I have a point here? Also, for the record, I am not the super paranoid mom, my kid is almost never sick, and I hardly ever take him to the doctor. Also, the gathering is scheduled right during the nap and we have to drive an hour to get there (my son is 3 and naps still). Any input on how to handle the upset husband who can be verbally abusive?

I am quite frustrated with my husband. His first cousin lives with us and most of the time we have sex he wants to roleplay his favourite fantasy of him and his cousin gang banging me in my sleep or when I'm cleaning, or something. I hate this fantasy, because his cousin is not attractive to me as he needs my husband to find work for him, drive him to work, and pay his phone bill. He will bring up this fantasy during sex and I will have to tell him I don't like it and he will just not want to continue. I try to tell him to use a different guy to roleplay with, but this fantasy about his first cousin is the only thing that turns him on and the only thing he keeps reverting to. I'm frustrated because it's a huge turn off me, because I think it is kind of weird. Will some of you give me insight on how to deal with this? What can I do to make things sexier for my husband, so he doesn't revert to this same role play I personally hate?

We got married roughly 6 months ago, and during this time we've had many arguments. In these arguments roughly 5 times he's said that he wants a divorce, and then either a few minutes later or a day later he'll come to me full of apologies and saying he doesn't want to. Last night we had another argument, and he said that he want to break up. I was furious because we had agreed since the last time he broke up with me that he wasn't going to do it again unless he meant it, so he said he meant it. I was also really angry because I moved country to be with him, and he said "it was a mistake bringing you here". A couple of hours later I go to talk to him to ask him why, and he says that he's been unhappy for a while and that he stayed with me out of guilt because he brought me here, and that he doesn't see a future with me anymore (but also that he still loves me). We cry and talk for another hour, and then I tell him "unless your words to me are that you're sorry and you want to try again, just leave" and then suddenly he says that he's sorry and he doesn't actually want to break up. But now I'm losing feelings for him because it's completely destroyed my trust in him. He's saying he loves me and that he just doesn't want to fight anymore, but now I think he deep down really wants to leave but is just scared. Please help! To me, a marriage is a promise to stay by someone's side forever. It feels like he betrayed that. Now I feel like he's just full of sh*t whenever he says he's committed to me. After the last time he dumped me he said that he's never going to dump me and we'll be together forever, but clearly that was bullsh*t. He also had ADHD (not sure if that's relevant). has* not had

But he said I'd have to give him oral, no sex , just mouth job. My husband was upset at first, but we do need transportation. I kind of had an idea husbands friend liked me, just by the way he would stare at me during get togethers, so this would mean he would finish quick, and for a truck? And besides, makes me feel attractive in a way. would you so it?

some time ago,i have had a violent argument with one of my colleague ,he once spent several years studing abroad,so he seems to be a bit stuck-up,arrogant,what's more,he like to say bad things about other colleague, one day,he said that there is something strange about me,because i like to have lunch (bread,yogurt)in the company's sample room ,so i can watch my films over lunch ,of couse,if it's take away food,i will have lunch in the canteen, another reason.for that is i don't want to disturb other colleagues ,so he called my names,this time so i had a argument about him and wanted to hit him,when my supervisor seen this ,she said that don't stoop to his level,i thought that this thing will blow over like this, after 2days ,I seen one of my other colleague sleeping in the office,i smiled,he called my names,in the end, i've had it with him,and said that i will beat the living daylights out of him,

Yes i know it sounds a bit odd but its fun and funny and my husband has the legs for heels and stockings! LOL

I am a big user on AdultFunCams . com and I really like the site, the girls there are nice and I like commanding them and tell them what to do and they useally do it (unlike my wife).. however I also have a wife which dosen't know about this .. webcam sex thing .. is it considered cheating or not?

Brother had a bad divorce and paying ridiculous alimony that makes my bro still have to work-he shud be retired. His kids are 18 and 21 and don't show respect. He is good to them by they are spoiled. I invited the girls over so cousins can exchange gifts for xmas and the ex-wife asked if she was invited too. I said it was OK for her to come b/c I was thinking of how difficult it was for them last year when their mom was not invited. I feel like I made a mistake by allowing this. Everyone except my sister is SO mad at me and feel betrayed How do I fix this. I feel so sick that I let everyone down.

Now he has started to hit her. They no longer sleep together. She's afraid to. There are ongoing issues in the marriage. He is impotent, on BP meds and ther meds. Wife has accepted the impotence. But She is very unhappy and depressed. Should she leave or what could be causing The violence??

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If my girlfriend wanted to get married, would she have mentioned something by now? We've been together for two years this November and we've never really talked about getting engaged or married. We were friends before we got together so we already knew each other's friends and parents,family, etc. We graduating next semester and starting grad school right after and have full schedules as it is, so maybe we just haven't had time to really talk that far ahead. So would she have mentioned it if she wanted it? A close friend brought this up and I can't stop thinking about it so I may be overthinking it.