My Mom's sister loves to make big scenes and have big blow ups with her siblings. Every time they get together there is a big scene. I am suffering from depression and all my Mom's family is coming together for Christmas this year because my grandfather died in October so they are getting together for my grandmother. Usually this aunt refuses to come saying her siblings don't welcome her there (even though they have not excluded her). There is more to the story but how do I handle it with my depression when the big blow up happens at dinner? There was a big scene at dinner after the funeral as well. This is the first Christmas this toxic aunt has come to since 2010.

He is a bad man.

In 2016, my only son graduated from high school. I gave him $600 for a laptop he wanted for youtube recordings. I never saw him again. He is now 20 years ago. Child support deductions of my biweekly check stops next year when he turns 21 according to NY STATE Child Support Laws. This is my third Christmas without my son. Apparently my ex-wife said something to him in hopes to separate us. This was her number one goal after we divorced in 2003. How many reading this post can relate? DO NOT ask if effort has been made on my part to contact him. I have done all I could to reach out to him to no avail. What do you say?

I asked if I could go somewhere else for Christmas and my Mom said no because we need to be together as a family. My two siblings don't mind as much as I do. We can't have friends over cause my Mom doesn't want people to know he is alcoholic (even though I think many know). I hate having a bad and depressed Christmas and I do every year now. I am 15 and female. Like I said my two brothers don't mind as much. When my Dad is drunk he insults all of us a lot and my Mom stays silent instead of arguing back or leaving the house. Her father was alcoholic to though my Mom denies that and says it was just something little (he died of cirrhosis I am told at age 53). Please help. I am dreading Christmas. Pauly W -- I have done that and even talked to the counselor last Friday. I go to Al-Anon for teenagers though I don't discuss it around my Mom. They have given me ideas also and how to "Detach with Compassion" though I am still working on that.

I'm 18, turning 19 on march 20th. I work at a cafe and I'm thinking of getting my own house as soon as possible.. not sure if my dad will like the idea of it though. My dad doesn't let me hang out with my friends unless he knows their parents, address, phone number, name, where they're from, how I met them, their age, why I want to hang out with them, where we're going and what we're gonna do. I should always get back home before 4PM. He hates every single guy friends I've ever had. Once I showed the picture of my boyfriend to my dad. Told him he's a good friend(because it was BEFORE my bf and I started dating) and that if I could invite him. Dad shouted "A GUY WILL NEVER BE INVITED TO OUR HOUSE AND YOU SHOULD NEVER SEE ANY GUYS BEFORE I GET BURIED." he got so angry and I got scared because he used to hurt our whole family, he isn't very physically abusive anymore but it remained trauma.. Even after that, I didn't want to lose the one I really like and started seeing my bf secretly. We got so close and it's been a year we started dating. But I can't let my dad know just yet.. I'm really, really scared. What can I do?

He's 28 years old. Has worked a very small portion of his life. Our dad allowed him to live in his pig sty of a room for years! It was so bad and gross, not healthy living conditions. .I know my dad neglected him the guidance and morals to become a man. Just as our mom neglected me and my sisters to become women. But we don't used it as an excuse to not try. His entire life he got off the hook when it came to cleaning and helping, literally every family dinner/gathering he got to sit his a$$ on the couch not help with anything. Parents didn't give him tasks, involve him and he never took initiative to help. Now he's older, just plays video games 24/7, he tries to emotionally and mentally abuse me because he's so embarrassed and in denial about his own life. Although he's been a huge j*erk I've always tried to be understanding, he just says "never feel sorry for me, never!" pretends he's tough towards me? I'm way smaller. He chased me with a kinife before, charged towards me as if he's going to hit me. Cops didn't do anything! Dad won't do or say anything! I love them, but it's hard NOT TO see them both in this ugly lighting and think they're both very weak little men who don't respect women. Since my dad is an enabler to his behaviour!

What's a good way to steer our conversation towards me saying don't even bother trying to tickle me, so she will?

A year and a half ago me and my mom and my best friend had a falling out. Me and my kids were living with my mom and my best friend helped her moce us out of the house while we were out of town. A couple weeks ago I reached out to my mom and was told she had adopted to young children under 2 yrs old. I was told if I want a relationship with her I must accept them as my brother and sister. Weeks later my ex best friend contacted me. She then told me the same thing. If I want a relationship w her I need to accept them..how do I handle this? My relationship w my mom has always been strained but I've never gone so long without her.

I'm in college, I don't live at home anymore but she will train up and visit for a weekend or whatever. She's 15 and it just seems like every time I see her she's heavier than the last time. She's always had a weight struggle but it seems like its getting worse. She's definitely 200 or over I'd guess. I also feel bad because when she visits, I don't help the situation. We go out for fast food p much every night she's here & we don't do any activities, we just watch TV & chill so I feel this guilt afterwards of, " Taking her out for fast food 3 nights in a row isn't helping" What's the nicest way to approach this & let her know I'm worried?

My younger brother is 12 and I'm 16, we do not get along at all. He has behaviour problems. All he does is harass me and when I ask him to leave me alone he doesn't. He constantly shouts abusesive things at me when I say nothing to him. Any chance he gets he will hit, kick, punch etc me for no reason and it's constant. I could just be minding my own business and he will come up and do it. He's always trying to take the things I own, even my clothes, then saying they're his. If I leave my room he will be straight in there even if I'm only gone for 2 minutes. I had a lock out in for both ways recently and he shattered it. He has no respect for anyone or anything. He's not just the average 'annoying little brother'. I hate having to live with him and he's giving me more and more stress everyday. I try to stay away as much as I can. What am I meant to do about it when he won't change his ways and my parents can't do anything about it?

I just came back home from Varsity after completing my honours degree.I am writing my professional exam in January but I can study at home. Often times we have nothing to eat and the house is very messy I can t concentrate.My mother and my brother are very messy people.

My great aunts birthday is coming up in 10 days and I want to get her something that says "great aunt" on it. As weird as it may sound I don't like calling her my "aunt" only "great aunt"!! I can't seem to find anywhere, I've check amazon as well. I'm going to need somewhere that will get here before 10 days❣️

I'm 20 and a legal adult, but I still fell like a child because my parents still tell me what I can and can't eat! They still make me eat vegetables with dinner, they'll only let me have 2 sodas per week, no more, they'll only let me have ice cream after dinner once a week, they won't let me have junk food whenever I want, they'll only let me get a SMALL drink during outings, never a medium or large drink, they still ration out my Halloween candy every year, and they still tell me that "I've had enough sweets!" when I want more than one or two desserts at a gathering or party. I would understand my parents doing this if I was little, like 4 or 6, but i'm 20! Everyone else my age eats whatever they want whenever they want now, and their parents don't care! Even people younger than me eat whatever they want whenever they want now! My friend, who's MY AGE, has 2-3 large java chip frappuccinos every single day, and her parents don't care. Even my SIBLINGS can eat whatever they want! The ONLY ones besides me who still get told what they can and can't eat are LITTLE KIDS! I am so sick and tired of my parents controlling my diet like i'm a little kid! I thought that getting to eat whatever you want whenever you want was a part of becoming a legal adult! If you're around my age reading this, how exactly did you convince your parents to start treating you like an adult and letting you eat whatever you want whenever you want? I just wish my parents would leave me alone and mind their own business when i'm helping myself to an unhealthy food! It's MY life, so I should get to eat whatever I want! Do NOT say that "I didn't prove to my parents that I could make good choices."! That's just going to teach my parents that i'm a little kid forever! What I want is for my parents to say absolutely NOTHING whenever they see me helping myself to an unhealthy food, no matter how many times they see me doing it! I don't drive, and as much as I try to get a job, NOBODY will hire me, so do NOT tell me to move out OR buy my own food! Besides, even if I buy my own food, i'll still get told when I can and can't eat it! :( Whenever I watch a teenager's or young adult's birthday or Christmas haul on YouTube, they say that "they can't show it because they have EATEN IT ALL ALREADY" EVERY SINGLE time they say that they got candy or something like that for their birthday or Christmas, even though they posted the video VERY SHORTLY after their birthday or Christmas! All I think to myself is "I wish I could do that!" at those parts! Some of these YouTubers are YOUNGER than me too, which makes it even more unfair! I would understand if I was overweight and needed to lose weight, but i'm SKINNY, not fat at all, so I shouldn't have to have a parent-controlled diet at my age! I wish I could just get a boyfriend so that my boyfriend would defend me whenever my parents bothered me about what I eat, or I could move in with my boyfriend so that I could eat whatever I want(even if he still lives with his parents, it's not like my boyfriend's parents can tell me what I can and can't eat)! How did everyone my age convince their parents to let them eat whatever they want whenever they want no matter what? Do I need to post this question on a different website where the users are nicer? I specifically said that I couldn't move out because i'm unable to, and I am not being immature!

He and his wife were still married though separated. Janet - But adultery is a sin and he is still married so it is adultery. He committed adultery.

Last year I decided to become an organ donor but I never tell my family about it because I know that they don't want to talk about it, I'm 21 now, and I asked my mom about donating organ when I was 17 and she kept silent and didnt want to talk about it.... But I think I want to tell my family now because I didn't want them to become the last ones to know about it....how should I tell them? Any ideas? If you're my family, how will you react?

i'm 17 and in college. they have been on my case for ages about getting a job no matter how many times i tell them that i'm trying my hardest but i never hear back, they just say "you need money" when i know that i do, i really want to work but they won't get it in their heads that it's not as easy as it was when they were younger. they also get on my case about being single and not having a boyfriend, they always ask me if i have a boyfriend or if i'm talking to a guy friend they automatically think that he is my boyfriend, i try telling them that he isn't but they don't get it in their heads, i always tell them that i'm only 17 and don't need one-but they don't listen.

I often help to supervise my brother when he is bathing to make sure he cleans properly and not play with water. He is able to shower independently and I usually just watch him and help him dry his hair after his bath. When I casually told my friend about it, she was horrified and said I shouldn t see my brother naked at this age. This makes me wonder if there is a certain age when I couldn t see my brother naked anymore. My brother so far shows no signs of awkwardness when I see him naked and is quite comfortable with it.

I'm 28 and I've decided not to have kids when I'm older. If your older than me and don't have kids what's it like?

So my niece is turning 6 in a month. Quick back story: I live in la and I quit my job to come babysit because my sister needed the help, she lives in Illinois. Every since I've been here, my niece has been asking to get on a plane to California My sister wants me to buy my niece a dreamhouse for her birthday but her and her baby sister DO NOT keep with small pieces well so I thought what better of a gift than an experience. how to present the tickets? & also how not to make her sister jealous (she's just too young to go with us at the moment) & what's some spectacular things we can do in LA? I was going to give her a small gift box with the physical tickets inside and a small model airplane with a new luggage full of clothes and books? She plays with my old plane tickets so she does recognize what they look like Here's some ideas of things we could do in la. I asked what she wants to do while we're there but she just tells me "I want to turn up and go to the beach" 😂 (I'm not from there so I didn't experience everything there's to experience): American girl store (she LOVES AG but hasn't been since she was 2) The beach (I know it'll be too cold for the water around her birthday but I won't be able to take her when it's warmer because I'll be traveling) A play or ballet (please comment if you know of any! Get dressed up n walk down rodeo dr (she loves to dress up) The observatory (loves space) Let her try Hawaiian shaved ice & anything else?! I'm stumped!

-Throughout my life I've always had anger at my dad and his wife. They're always opinionated and judgmental. -I support my mom, they told me it's not "normal" to support my mom and I need to throw her out to the street. -I work hard, I'm a volunteer in my community. My dad's wife says ignorant things about my volunteerism. -My dad/his wife 2 years ago basically told me I'll never amount to anything but they love me for who I am. -My dad's wife said I'm supposed to be married, own a home and have kids by my age (34). Thing is, she's on her 3rd marriage and her family avoids her. She barely ever has held a job and she's not someone I have a lot of respect for. They're wealthy, they're Catholics too but they always say hurtful things and are opinionated when it's none of their business. -My dad's brother was murdered 2 years ago and when I went to be consoling they said I need to go on medication and see a therapist because I'm not "right." I went, the therapist said I'm fine and I don't need help. He said I can schedule another appointment if I want but he evaluated me and said they're idiot. -I feel bad because I just told them off when they invited me over for the holidays. I told them they treat me bad, why would I want to see them? Was I wrong?

My siblings all have much more money and professional success. Most have children, nicer homes, more connection to each other and our living parent. This is sad for me especially because they don't treat me well--as if I'm annoying and unimportant.

Well maybe a little father I'm not gonna lie. Every time you hit me mother never really replies, Well your not an angel neither you can't even fly. You think that you're so smart you don't even know shitt,, all these punches coming at me your the one who throws it

Ok so in my family, dancing is a big deal. Im one of 5 boys in my family. We all range from 23-39 years old with me being 27. All of my siblings have danced for my father. He is getting old now and soon to pass away. I have never danced for my father. Is this something I should be concerned about?

Whenever my sister comes home from college, it feels like my parents just forget about me. I understand that they rarely see her but they make me feel bad. For instance, they either ignore me, every time I talk they change the subject, they always bring up my sister's accomplishments, or they get mad at me for whatever I say. I don't know what to do because it makes me feel awful.

Imagine this... A caregiver of yours suddenly becomes negligent in their responsibilities for your health. Then, you vent to a family member about the whole situation. That family member starts justifying your caregivers negligence with absurd excuses. You get so upset that you slap that person you're venting to, and don't feel bad about it since they belittled your grave situation-taking the abuser's and not yours.

Hi, I'm 19 years old and it's a long story short but my mom is always verbally abusing me . Sometimes it still turns physical . Of course I don't hit back i just take it . She also likes to drink alcohol a lot. I've dealt with it throughout my whole life. She does work full time and stuff but idk what I do wrong to make her treat me like that. She's told me before I should commit suicide . she has called me literally every name in the book, every single day. She says I'm worthless and nobody cares about me etc. My dad passed away in 2014 , even tho him and my mom weren't together . It's beeb a tough life . But I don't know what to text my mom back after all of the cussing words she's told me. I've been staying with my friend at his house because I'm tired of having to put up with it. Then she complains I'm never home but because when I am she gets drunk and verbally abuses me. It's come to the point where I've lost all motivation in myself. I've tried my hardest doing everything i can & it's never good enough. I'm at a list of words on what to tell her, so if anyone has any advice let me know please, Thank You

Ok, first of all, my parents expect A's outta me. I have mostly B's except in one class which is considered a fluff class to them, which is graphics and animation. I want to show them I'm responsible enough to get a job AND get good grades at the same time. I asked somebody at Serial Grillers(thats about a 10 minute drive from here, my mom already has established she would gladly take me, but she doesn't want me to get a job but shes not explaining why) if I could get a job, and they said I was old enough to get one. I'm 15, turning 16 this July. The whole reason I want a job this early in the first place is that I want to save up half my income for moving out, or emergencies and the other half for things, such as a computer to talk to my friends or Christmas(Or whatever occasion) presents for my parents in general. Besides, if I work hard enough, I could even get a car on my own in about 2-3 years. Its a lot of responsibility to take on, I know. But I want to prove to my parents I can handle it. Because seriously. I can. I know I can. I'm trying to get my grades up(I love StarWars, but 'Do or Do not' is another saying for 'if you aren't a celebrity you are already dead to me'(I like Yoda though ok)) , and I've succeeded thus far, I just don't know how to bump them up this coming week.... I want to get a job after Christmas, I'm that determined. I just don't know how to show it to my parents.... Please, if any of y'all would help me, that would be AMAZING. I like how I made this anonymous but I'm responding to questions so it doesn't really matter anymore- Eh, Imma just make it NOT anonymous

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So I'm from a small town near Houston and my parents decided to move to San Antonio. The thing is that I don't want to move. I already like the way we're living but my grandma recently got admitted into the hospital so my parents wanted to move there. I didn't want to move and told them that right now we're not financially stable, my dad haven't even thought about getting a job there, my mom have worked with her asian peer for the past 10 years and she doesn't know that much English, and we don't even know if my grandma will stay at the hospital long. I also told him how bigger schools over there have been getting threats and I don't want to start my high School all over again when I'm just starting to like mine right now. My dad got mad and then said that the retirement homes here sucks and that he doesn't want to spent his retirement home there. I told him to think logically right now. Right now we are not financially stable at all to move due to my grandma medical bills. We even have to sold my car to get some money. Moving will get us into more debt and I told him he won't be retiring early if he doesn't plan it right. I ask if we could at least wait until me and my sister graduate high school and then we could move, but my dad said that I'm gonna be gone off to college anyway so let's do it early and that if he's moving then I'm moving. I told him what about me starting high school all over again it's gonna be hard on me and my sister starting all over again. Help?

This is a complicated question but I'll try to explain as best I can. On Friday, my mom and I attended a gathering and my mom had been drinking a lot. We drove to the party together and upon leaving, I noticed that my mom was slurring her words a bit. She then attempted to back out of the driveway and hit another car. It was at this point that I told her I did not want her driving home and that she needed to let me drive. My mom is a stubborn person and she insisted that she was fine and that she did not want me driving as I have gotten speeding tickets before. She continued trying to drive and I again insisted that she needed to let me drive her car. Things continued to escalate and finally she told me I was "crazy" and that she wanted me out of her life. She kept driving and I told her to please stop the car that I didn't want her to drive. We stopped at a stop sign and I turned her car off and told her she could not drive home. Again, she refused and began shouting that I was "abusing her." An acquantaince was also leaving the party and was behind us when we stopped at the stop sign. They heard the entire thing. Mymom would not listen to me and made me feel like I was in the wrong for trying to do the right thing by not letting her drive. Did I do the right thing?

my mom is upset with my dad because she found messages on his phone b/t him & this other lady. the lady wanted my dad to come with her to a doctor appointment & for him to stay over at her house. i guess my dad said no & she sent him a text saying how "she wished that he could come with her, but understands that he can't, as he is married to the wrong person". Anyways my mom saw that text & is now all upset with my dad. She just wants him to apologize, but he thinks she's overreacting. BUT This is where it gets crazy. My mom is talking to this one other guy! I have seen text messages between her & this guy and she'll call him "baby" and I think she meets up with him. I've kept this to myself because a few years back she was texting with this OTHER guy and i confronted her about it and then she tried to turn it on me a send me to a mental hospital.. but that's another story. Anyways, so this time I haven't said anything to anybody about it because tbh i kind of maybe assumed that my parents had some sort of "dont ask, dont tell" agreement between the two of them and I didn't want to go through all the stress of it again. BUT now I found out that my mom is so mad about these messages between my dad and this woman?? but also like ?? i think shes being super hypocritical because shes got a little side thing of her own. But she doesn't know i know about that. It's all very complicated. and i dont know what to do. Oh people of yahoo answers, give me guidance! What should i do??????

So I'm a 22 year old guy, and my older brother's wife just gave birth to their baby daughter..her name is Dayla. Anyways I wanna be the best uncle I can be to my brother's daughter, I'm new to all of this lol. What are ways of being a good uncle to my baby niece?

My cousin had a baby boy who is about 3 mo. old. Is he old enough to be tickled and still laugh?

For the past Year my older sister (she's 24) has been inviting her boyfriend over. She isn't supposed to bring him over so she lies and says that's her "girl friend." she also smokes pot in the house, so the whole house smells. I have very bad asthma and allergies, so when I confront her, she swears that she doesn't even smoke. On Sunday I went to the store and I bought a bunch of food for the whole week and I make some food for dinner. She strolls in with a few friends and they eat the entire thing. I did tell my sister she could have some, but I wasn't planning on her and her friends eating all of it. since I ignored that I don't want to start a fight. With Christmas and her birthday on the way I need things to go smoothly....but today it happened again. I made shrimp scampi (my favorite food) for dinner tonight. I had some, she had some, and I was saving the rest for my dad. there was at least 4 servings left. I left to go to work and I come back and it's gone. I hear her and her boyfriend (who apparently doesn't exist) most likely high and full. I see the pot in the sink which I will wash since I'm the registered house dishwasher. Now my dad has nothing to eat and I have nothing to eat tonight. I'm going to have to confront her About all this bullshit but I'm super mad. She lives rent free and just moved back home this semester (I'm 19, Just started college last semester, and I'm also staying home.)

I planned on splitting the cost with my sister, but then she decided to do something else and she didn't pay for half because "she was broke" (while buying gifts for herself) She paid less than a fifth but now she expects me to put her name on the card and everything. What do I do? I'm really proud of my gift and I don't want her getting credit for my hard work.

Early this morning my mom had to go to work and her headphones.was Missing and she asked me can she borrow my headphones.but I won't let her and she got upset with me.and she told me to go out and look for my own apartment today.I am 29 Years old and I haven't found out own apartment.as of yet. Do you think that I was wrong for not letting her use my headphones or not.?