before a meal she still tells me to wash my hands. when i get mad or starts cursing to other people, she tells its not good to get mad or to be cursing, she still reminds about rules about life like i was 8 years old again, she wants to message every time i get home late when i go out with friends. worst part of all this is that she treats my wife like an adult but not me. why is mom like this? she also keeps telling me what to wear on daily basis.

So my mother-in-law was sexual abused by her mother, and hasn't spoken to her since she turned 18. Well her mother was somehow able to find my mother-in-law on Facebook and ask why she hasn't spoken to her in so many years. The moment my mother-in-law read the comment, she started crying so hard. She says she scared that since she saw her Facebook, she now that knows where she lives, and that she will come to her house and hurt her again.

Hi, I was looking for some guidance. So basically, today at the dinner table me and my mom (I'm a teenager) were eating dinner, when she brought it to my attention the she was showing a video of me to her coworkers. After which I got very angry without listening to the rest of her story- she continued to say how she was completely right in doing so- I said she wasn't. I wanted to know your opinion on whether she was right or not, but if I'm wrong, please tell me why and what you would have done. *Showing a video of me through a Ring camera in our living room while I ate, I insisted that they are random strangers (she barely knows them), and that they could have been pedophiles etc. Anyways it really blew up and out of proportion.

Before he got sober, he was drunk driving with friends, and it a dog. He didnt want to get in trouble with the police, so he just drove back home. He just told me this even though it happened 6 years ago. I was a little shocked when he told me, but he seemed to genuinely regret it, and he says the thought of it has torn him up ever since. He use to do a lot of bad thinks when he drank like drive with me, and my brother in the car when he was close to black out drunk, which hes apologized for. He goes to AA meetings now, and tries to help people who have drinking problems.

How can I deal with that?

Ive gone throught the pdf specific to my county regarding signs of child abuse and such and made a list of what applies to me. My father is sexually, verbally, emotionally, etc. absuive. My mother ignores that he has raped me multiple times before and she herself is emotionally and verbally abusive i believe. My friends really want me to report them because it is getting worse and they are making me want to give up as in run away or commit suicide. I have attempted a few times because I was done with everything. But I am worried about how this will affect me and my brother- and if we ll be separated if we are removed from the household. I wont let him lose everything he knows and our pets because of me- Id rather just deal with the abuse and try ro manage a few more years. My girlfriend, one of the main reasons I even began to see how im treated is wrong, lives states away (yes we are a long-distance-relationship) and im worried about losing contact with her. Also, my gf accidentally let slip that my dad wasnt the best to her mom and her mom has said thatd she d be happy to take me even though shes poor- but im worried about my brother still.

When your cousins, uncles and aunts turn the rest of the family against you because you realized they were taking advantage of your mother financially? I cannot talk to anyone without the relationship getting worse later on

My oldest stepson had a baby by a girl back on July. I've only seen the baby twice. The day after she was born at the hospital and once a few weeks ago when the mom finally brought the baby to our house. She told us back in July that she's not comfortable letting us, my wife and I, see the baby because she doesn't know us. We have a total of 5 grandbabies and the other 4 visit us often and we have a great relationship with them and their moms. I finally reached out to the new baby's mom and she finally brought the baby to our house about 2 weeks ago for about an hour. Well, months ago i told my wife that she was going to regret that once Christmas come. I'm responsible for buying gifts for the grandbabies while my wife focuses on our kids. She asked me if I was going to buy the baby anything and I told her no. I'm not buying a gift for a baby I've only seen twice in the past 5 months. The daughter's mom told me that she has family members on her side that she hardly lets see her kids. She is just protective that way. Am I wrong to not buy a gift for the new grandbaby? My wife feels we need to. I told her that if her son, the baby daddy, wants to buy her something he can but I wasn't. Am I wrong?

My step-sister has being mentally torturing me for quite a bit of time now , I entered in a room that wasn't hers, and she insulted me,this then Scalated , SHE WAS CONSTLY YELLING IT US , in order to provoke she then spat on my face so instead of hitting her I did likewise and spat on her out of rage, THE POLICE arrived and I was out of my mind and I called my sister a ***** because she called me a drunkard, What do you think?

Me and my boyfriend are wanting to have a kid but we're both guys we can't have our own kids so we asked his sister if she could have our baby for us of course she said she yes. Is that wrong ?

So she is a twenty year old woman with no career whatsoever. She's a lazy bum who skips out on work and has no care about her grades either. We also provide her everything while she just sits around at home all day watching films and crying about how depressed she is while her boyfriend is gone for Christmas break. We do everything for her (her lousy boyfriend does nothing-she drives him around, he doesn't help her out with a goddarn thing except for sweet talk), but to her we're never enough and she verbally harrasses us when she feels like it. In other words, she's ungrateful. Not sure how to get this lazy bum a place in life. Honestly she should be looking for one herself, but she's being so vain and ungrateful that it's frustrating to listen to. The only time she asks us to meet her and her boyfriend is when they need someone to pay for their food

So to start there are a lot of stray dogs in my country the local animal aid treats the hurt stray animals and leaves them back. There was an extremely pale stray female I saw, and started feeding her. I would feed her some food, and continued it for some days. I didn't see much development and she could walk with difficulty. I knew I had to call the local animal aid, but initially I thought she wasn't a case for the animal aid. When I called the animal aid for a different dog, I consulted the doctor about her, and he gave me a de-worming pill and told me to give half if she was under 10kgs. She looked under 10, so I gave her half pill with her food. Then I started visiting less I guess, sometimes twice sometimes once. I kind of took her existence for granted. The last time I probably saw her was when it looked like she was sleeping. I really don't know if she was sleeping or.... . She hasn't really appeared back. My negligence might have led her to death. I don't think she got up for food or water so when I would give her food and water she would gulp it all (sometimes she would refuse water) and assuming the worst she didn't have food or water when I didn't visit her? It has been many days since she disappeared? What makes it's WORSE is I cannot understand if I even feel regret about it? I've tried to help stray dogs a very few times but many times neglected stray animals in need. My mind is blowing up.. I will never be able to move on. I have f*cked my entire life up.

My 9 year old daughter told me my brothers wife s father hurt my 10 year old daughter and herself back in November but just told me Monday it s been reported to the right person and my 10 year old is currently living with my mother where it happened she know what happened and yet allowed him to leave not even concerned about having his *** locked the hell up my 10 year old confirm that it did happen in front of the right ppl and cops are involved as well now I was molested as a young child in her care for 2 years. she didn t even noticed it I was 5 when it started 7 when it stopped she allowed him to get away with it as well she supposed to be having visitation with my girls but I don t think they are safe in her care and the person responsible for this doesn't have a ride doesn't work and has been sleeping on my mom sofa for years. so someone in her household let him get away with it and it ******* make s me sick

They say since he served his 12 years in jail for it that it is time to move on and not be bitter. He recently moved back to the East Coast. It brings up all my shame that I opened my legs for him and stuff. I can't help but to blame myself for some reason. My parents put it on me now and say "it is time to let it go, he served his time for it". My grandmother is still alive and that is part of why my parents are having him over cause she has moved in. I could refuse to go but then I am all alone for Christmas. No friends have asked me over. I am so hurt, what do I do? I hate the shame based flashbacks where I feel it was my fault and I am a dirty person. I get these when I see him and it was all I could think about during my grandfather's funeral four years ago since that was the other time I saw him. How do I handle this?

He is like a stranger so I don't know why I should acknowledge him. He was a big bat teen and a drug addict but got it together and is doing good I hear. However, for two years he has been a stranger. I left spoke to him June of last year so a year and a half ago though I send an email at his birthday and Christmas. So since he is a stranger why should I get a gift for him? He is not family anymore as family gets together. He;s still related and might return sometime but in the meantime do I really need to acknowledge him anymore then I would a 4th cousin once removed who I met once at a reunion?

My mom asks me to do things for her (and I get it I'm supposed to help out my mother I know) but she's so controlling and she controls every move I do so much to the point I don't understand why she just doesn't do it herself. If I do something that isn't necessarily wrong but just isn't the way she does things she starts yelling at me. This happens to the point where I just don't want to do things for her and she gets mad when I refuse. No matter what I do I get yelled at and I have no idea what to do

My dad is ****** up. He only ever tells me to study study study, if I don't get 1st position in school he gets angry, I usually become 3rd, 4th and when scolds me and beats me for it, Whenever he sees me or I see him, only talk we have is about ******* studying. My academic year 2018 ended few days ago and its winter vacation and all my friends are chilling and visiting places and my dad put me up to study 24/7, I can't even argue with him as he gets **** TON MAD AND STARTS BEATING ME so I try to enjoy my time while my dad is away at work BUT **** THIS HE CALLS MY MOM FROM WORK TO ASK I AM ******* STUDYING OR NOT. HE DOESN"T EVEN LET ME WATCH TV OR USE COMPUTER. ****! WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO? I've even thought about suicide quite a few times, HELP PLEASE! GET ME OUTTA THIS SITUATION HE EVEN SAYS HE WILL KILL ME (SLIT MY THROAT) WITH A KNIFE IF I DON'T STUDY Don't get e wrong, I study for most of the day, throughout the whole year, but what can I do if he tells me to study when I've just passed an academic year and have a month of vacation? He didn't even give me any break after my exams ended, put me to study books for the next year's classes right the day my exams finished, how rude is that?

I just graduated from college a couple of months ago I have been saving to move out and should be able to move in 6 months but currently I'm very stressed out dealing with her attitude. I try not to stress myself out too bad but I feel like my whole mood just goes from peaceful to depression the minute she walks in the door. She complains about EVERYTHING. She is never happy with me despite me being the only one to graduate college, she's still not satisfied. She seems to respect my younger brothers more even though they dropped out of college, one of them never even studied and flunked all his classes. But I'm always the one that she goes in on in a major way. She goes off on my brothers every now and then but I get the worst of her rage. I notice that she will especially get mad at me when I'm cooking she always seems to pitch a fit. She'll be like " I can't wait for you to move out" you always dirty up the house". But my brothers leave crumbs all over the counters and she says nothing. I spend hours cooking and cleaning and she will be like " oh you're cleaning it the wrong way" or " oh I don't like the stuff you're using for the counters". She's OCD with cleaning but never cooks which I find ironic. I don't mind that she doesn't cook cause I love to cook but my dad was mentioning how he is embarrassed to tell people his wife never cooks for him. I cook for the family a lot.

Usually it's irrational but sometimes I wonder if he might snap and it sorta scares me.. Been living with my mom all my life and just saw him on weekends. Then mom wanted me out and I didn't have money to be on my own so moved in with dad. Before he was all "happy go lucky" and at least half of my life he's been living w his parents and not supporting himself. Now he's super bitchy anytime I forget to do dishes or leave a mess or other random things. My sister's a bitchy teenager and she riles him up more, and before it wouldn't phase him but I guess him living on his own now he's aggravated easier and then bitches at me when him and my sister were the ones arguing... I guess bc it's "new territory" for us all, he's been a cop since I was a kid and carries a gun, and I just wonder since he "snaps" so much easier now, what are the odds he'll snap and use the gun...? He hasn't responded violently to anything yet, I mean he'll smash stuff but won't touch people, but it's still in the back of my mind if he goes to sleep mad and I dont necessarily have peace of mind knowing he could kill me if he wants when Im asleep... Few weeks ago something fell over when I fell asleep on couch and I wake up to him coming out holding a gun, and earlier tonight I freaked out hearing bubble wrap pop in the other room thinking it might be a gun... Im prob being overdramatic, but how do I get over this..? Still won't have money for my own place for at least another year or so...

This situation started when a family member showed me a pic of the singer I liked and I Explained the pic and said I have the audio from the singer. It got blown over into how much the singer makes because I buy a few things from singer website. Also in the end they have 0 songs from this singer who I'm a fan and claim that the family stays away from the singer. It makes no sense cause they have 0 songs from every singer. They also won't let me like a sports team because of politics. Everything in this situation is getting tired.

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When I was very young my parents gave me everything and I rebelled and smoked lsd and dropped out of the college they paid for and went to go stay at a mental hospital. Now before you say omg what's wrong with u how can u do that ur parents? I think I was involved with the wrong crowd and no I don't talk to them anymore. My parents no longer lend me money. I'd like to ask for a loan to pay for my credit cards and for them to trust me again. How can I show them that I was young dumb and rebellious and ima trustworthy family member

We lost a close family member this year, and I was thinking about getting my parents a memorium gift, such as an ornament with a poem and picture of the person or something like that. However, I don't know if this would be a good gift or if it would only make them sad. Thoughts?

I'll kiss my mother on the forehead, usually i'll just give my father a hug or pat

I'm having an extremely rough time dealing with my moms addiction. My mom lost custody of my siblings last month after dyfs took us to court because my mom wasn't responding to their calls. My mom has failed all 10 drug test dyfs has given. A month ago dyfs came to our house with the police. We tried to get my mom to come home to speak with dyfs but she didn't respond to any of us. After almost 2 hours of dyfs and the police sitting in our house my mom finally gets in touch with dyfs and tells the social worker to meet her at her job. The social worker goes to my moms office and my mom never showed up. My mom knew that she would lose custody that night if she didn't meet with them and she still didn't show. So we went to my dads apartment for a few days until the next court date. The next court date the judge ordered my dad to move back to the house and my mom to move in with my grandma. He also said there is to be no contact with Mom at all. The only way we could see her is with a supervisor that dyfs approves of. My mom tested positive for morphine, cocaine, Xanax and methadone btw. So basically she's been gone for about two months now. She never contacted dyfs to set up visitation with us. This is the longest in my life I've ever been away from my mom. I've actually never been away from her in my life until now. She continues to tell my siblings Shes been set up and the judge is lying. She's currently in the hospital. I called the hospital and they Are giving her morphine

I have a steady job as a teaching assistant making over $1000 a month. Ik the cliche but my parents are horrible. My father abused opioids my entire life verbally and emotionally abusing me. He and my mother are manipulative constantly making their poor decisions my fault somehow. They are also so afraid of losing control of me they refused to let me get my license and car I am trying to save up to do it myself (this spring) so they have no control over the car. I have a strict curfew of 11pm on the dot or I'm not allowed out. They used to take my phone go through my pictures, all my social media, my call logs, even my emails. Whenever I talked back or forgot to do my chores after a long day they would take my phone for days even weeks. For my 19th birthday in October my boyfriend got me a phone and pays the bill for me so they can't take it over petty reasons anymore. This isn't a pity me party I just want to lay out the situation so you can see the gravity of it all. Everyone says "never move in with your boyfriend" but he and I have been together since freshman year of high school and are very open and honest with each other and rarely ever fight. He is responsible, has a good job, his own car, and makes even more than I do. I would like to move out in June. I'm coming here for advice I don't know much about taxes insurance for my health or vehicle because my parents refuse to enable me to move out. I'm a very good saver but without a steady plan that doesn't help much.

I'm going to spend xmas with my dad and his family for the first time in the united states, but i feel really bad on my mam and her family in the uk because although she's saying how much i'm going to enjoy it, i feel really bad on leaving her at such a family time of the year, any advice?

Every time that I turn around my step mom is talking **** about me, however, I can't say anything to her because it's always my siblings or father that talks to me about it. I'm just sick of her saying things behind my back instead of talking to me like a human being. What should I do?

One day my mom told me and my brothers that when we come home from school we're going to clean her house now mind you I have 2 brothers 1 is 12 yrs old and the other one is 9 and they don't clean at all they don't clean there rooms, nor the kitchen, living room, dining room, bathroom, none of that I do all the cleaning its like I'm a freaking maid or something but anyway when I get home from school. My mom called me and said clean her house and I asked her where are the boys and she said they are with her and at this moment I'm pissed off that I have to clean this house by myself once again which makes me very pissed off because they come in the house and start playing around making the house all dirty and I have to clean the house again. So let me know if my brothers need to start doing all the cleaning chores in the house instead of me because at this moment I might run away ......Jk I wish I could but I can't my mom would send a big a** search party for me.

The friend helped my uncle and aunt's daughter and my aunt resents that for reasons she will not share. She and her two daughters refuse to associate with my mother and have blocked me from their Facebooks.

My sister lost her cat 4 years ago she's not sure what happened to her. We went on a trip for the weekend when we came back she was gone. My sister has been very upset about it since then it was the first cat she had since we moved here. She was only 5 maybe 6. She has 4 new kittens now she wishes she was here to see them she would have liked them our oldest cat died this past spring. My sister believesthat her cat didn't die so she's probably still out there somewhere. We live out in the country so there's not many places she can go she's walked all over the woods she never found a cat's body anywhere. She could have gone to a neighbors or our uncle who lives across the street. I bet someone has found her has given her a good home maybe one day she might come home again. Our mom had a cat who disappeared for 2 or 3 years then came home I read somewhere about a cat or a dog who ran away for 9 years then came back. Some animals are very smart they seem to remember where there home is no matter how far they travel. My sister waits on the pourch or in the yard everyday for her to come home. The cat did get hit by a car a few months before she ran off but she survived with a broken tail she seemed ok I believe she's still out there I don't know howto tell her shemight not come back. How can I help her feel better ?