My good friend got engaged and is looking to plan her wedding within the next year. She is considering a month where I have a major commitment, something that was in my plans before she even got engaged. She is aware of my conflict, she even checked in and confirmed what date is not good for me. I didn t want to be that annoying opinionated friend so I assured her she should plan as she needs and not to worry about me. The more I think about it though, I will be really disappointed and, quite frankly a little heartbroken, if i have to change my plans for her wedding (not to mention I already have a non-refundable payment down for this event). Is it rude to go back and ask her to not book the wedding that one weekend of the month she wants? *I should note that I would not just be a guest at her wedding but will be in the bridal party (most likely her maid of honor). The commitment I was referring to is running a world major marathon, which I already paid my entry fee to and booked my travel arrangements for. The race fee and airline are non-refundable and there is no guarantee I would have this opportunity to run it again.

She began by asking for the receipt, and saying no one bought the game console unless we meant to send it. I told her sorry, let me know how I can make it up to you since she seemed displeased. She clarified asking whether I meant to JUST get her USED games from my husband AND I. FYI my husband after years just started getting full time work hours. He's always struggled, I'm a teacher and the earner. We have two kids under 4. As a busy mama I honestly tried to give her the best I could. I got her an engagement, wedding shower, and a wedding gift: wine, customized beach towels, monogrammed makeup bag, wedding plates with marriage year, and Pokémon games (two bc her husband's a huge fan). Her bridesmaid, a good friend of ours, mentioned she wanted something personal for her, like Pokémon games. I told my friend I'd gladly supply a check with an amount that would suffice and that reflects what I originally hoped to give. Meanwhile I had under $2,000 in my bank acct. I admit by the end I shouldn't have answered her at all, and I got pretty pissed and was rude to her which I regret. I just feel like she's coming from a place in her life of dual incomes, no kids to spend on, vacations and drinking, while I'm just going through the many busy days of #momlife and just tried to be there for her wedding in the first place. So, was she being tacky and rude? Am I a bad friend?? She says I had bad friend etiquette.