She started going out more and coming home late, so I already knew she was seeing someone. Her and my dad divorced 3 yrs ago, but she's still 37 and looks very good for her age. My friends say she's a smoking hot mom which gets annoying. But I looked through her phone and found pictures of her and the guy, and when I saw that he's black I freaked. I am no racist but I'm going to keep it real, in middle eastern culture it's normally not accepted by families for their daughters to date black men, sometimes even white. But always black. Don't get me wrong he looks good but now that our family knows its getting bad. We're Christian so its not a religious issue, it's all about the culture. My grandpa made a scene and the whole block could hear him yelling from his house. My aunts and uncles won't speak to my mom lately and my cousins are calling her a whore. I'm scared of what'll happen because she's holding her ground and insisting that she will keep seeing this man. This will only lead to her being disowned from the family. I don't want to be outcasted b/c of her, I've always been close to my family because I don't have any brothers or sisters. I can't wrap my head around it, why is she doing this? She's beautiful and a good woman who cooks and cleans, she can have any man. Why is she putting us through this stress by going out of her race and embarrassing us?? I have nothing against interracial couples but this is my mom and she is being selfish because she knows the situation.

She lives with me no income nor anything going for herself, I allowed her to move in with me until she got up on on her feet. She sold her house back in October when my sister and i moved out. Since being here she takes everything I say as a personal attack like I'm aiming it towards her when it's about someone else. I want her out my house because it's drama, drama, drama with her. I can't say anything about my house unless it's feed back .. I told her to slack up on the washer and dryer a bit with the holiday cooking we did. She jumped guns about that. My sister and I went through this at the hold house. I thought things would change until she moved in here. She's dragging outsiders in my house ... I have banned everyone from coming to my house because it's drama with family. I don't want my girls exposed to this dysfunction here with my mother and her drama issues. I am by kicking her out at the end of the month.

My cousin and I are best friends. Now that I m about to graduate she is upset because she thinks I m going to leave her in the past. I try to tell her that I m still going to be in her life, but she can t let go of her that fear. Even after I graduate I m going to stay in state for two more years to earn my bachelor s degree. After that I am planning to leave Virginia to go live near my biological family and continue college in Florida, but I am going to be visiting my adoptive family whenever I can. I understand that from her point of view it seems like I ll be leaving her behind, but that isn t the case. Yes, I ll be moving out of Virginia, but I would never forget the people who adopted me and welcomed me into their family.

-raised by alcoholic, domestically violent father -asked mum to run away when I was 7 -lived in a hostel with drug addicts for 1 year in a hostel while my mum divorced dad -mum and I returned home, divorced dad, kicked him out and he terrorised us for a couple of years -Dad and I reconciled, used to have weekly visits. then he stopped coming for no reason. I waited every Saturday, never showed up. -mum remarried to a lovely man who took me on as his own -in general the house was very non~communicative -didnt really have friends in teenage/university years, spent time in home or alone -got BF at 18, turned out depressive/suicidal. Left him after 9 years ~ went to live in China. Established a good life, but still very few friends ~ made long term boyfriend in China, also turning out to be a depressive (how do I always make this mistake!?)

They tick off most of the "toxic parent" list quite easily, but because they themselves are the product of childhood traumas, of course.

I hate my sister and my mom so much and my dad doesn't take care of me I'm honestly so tired none of them believe in me they act like they do but they don't my mom always say I can come talk to her if something is wrong but she just ends up getting frustrated so that's why I don't talk to her and I can't go to my sisters cause they tell every gd thing I'm a junior in high school I just can't wait to go to New York to go to college how do I cope in the mean time?

I have one family member, every time she comes to my house, she brings a very small dish and a lot of Tupperware with her. Right after we finish eating she go gather about 3/4 of the food, and go put in her car. I want people to take leftovers, so I don't want to sound rude, but example yesterday she took all the meat, rolls and potatoes. Left everyone else with just the veggies. I don't know how next holiday ( New Years) to left her know it okay to take some leftovers but leave enough that everybody can have some leftovers as well, without sounding rude. Her and her husband both have good jobs and have more then enough money so them having food is not the issue.

So i have this job that i've had for 10 months, but i really hate it and it pays really bad. I want to quit it because it takes alot of time of my day, and i also have school! When i say to my dad, that my job is bad i wanna quit. He starts getting really mad and starts takling about how he waked up early in the morning to get it done and bla bla bla. He just won't let me quit. im 14, and he says that im lazy and i just wanna play video games, but he dosen't understand ****. i get a **** ton of homework everyday and i come home 4 PM. I dont even have time to hang out with my friends because of that shitty job.

I recently graduated from university & I am looking for a job. I went out with my mom last week to a gathering with her friends. I met an older lady there whose son works in the same domain as me and has many connections. It turns out that he is really willing to help me which is great!! The thing is he has a middle aged brother who is single and the mother mentioned this to us. I am trying not to interact to much with this brother bc I come from a culture where it's okay for an older man to marry a younger girl (I am in my 20s). Yesterday I was hoping to meet the person who wants to help me in my job search at Christmas mass but he wasn't there. Instead he, his brother, and sister in law were there. I wanted to avoid but ended up meeting them and it wasn't that great of a meeting. Since I didn't really talk much to them or shake their hands. I felt like I wasn't nice to them so I feel bad for reaching out to that guy again. Please what should I do?!

at 37 and soon to be a 40 year old virgin and I think nothing wrong of it, I understand now that I don't need a girl to be happy. I see them in pornos and once I'm finished, they are irrelevant. I raise dogs. Love animals. We watch Star Trek. Video games are great. Since my lease on my apartment is over and I have no intention of renewing it, I moved back with my mom as our family is small and Christmas is a reminder of that. I pay her rent. Buy my own food and wash my own azz. The world had us all caught up in a rat race and I'm tired of it. People disgust me. Women these days are gross too. Bloody panties, wearing same clothes, some of them are junkies, many of them are whores, and only a few can you actually introduce to you're family. So in the end, all that matters is college education pretty good - good job Living space(mom's house for now) and I'm in no rush. Video games Sci- Fi shows Dogs dogs and dogs. Women are only "it" for like 10 minutes, then I want them to go away.

I have a nephew who has grown up with myself and his grandma for his entire life, he s now 10. His father has been absent for months to years at a time, he never offered to help pay for anything and even claimed my nephew on taxes even when he did not have permission and definitely didn t have him for 6 or more months. Recently my sister had her children taken by CPS and placed with us as kinship foster (very easy since they were already basically living with us). Skip 6 months into the proceedings, CPS has been unable to get in contact with the father but just yesterday he messaged my mom (the grandmother) saying very passively aggressively that he doesn t want to force him but he wants his son now that he knows the child s mom is not in the picture. We know that it s very likely he s just doing this for his own mom, the other grandma, and my nephew has said he wants to stay with us permanently because they live in another state and he doesn t really know them. We re kinda scared and freaking out so my question is, How much of a claim does the father have at this point when he s chosen to be absent this whole time?

Advice on post holiday fun sadness? I'm 13, and I just met my baby cousin who lives far away. They stayed until today (dec 25) and are now flying home. They don't usually visit, and I'm really sad and miss them so much. I've spent Christmas Day crying, and can't get my mind off of it. Any advice is appriciated. Thanks

He is not bad, just not in the family as an active member. Last saw him two years ago. He might come in July for a family reunion I heard. I'd be surprised. He is 11 years younger so I never hung out with him. He was HORRIBLE as a teenager but got his life together and of course I forgive him as he was simply a teen. However, he is not in the family as a participant, only related by DNA. He is aged 28

My in-laws were making statements like "why is she going back, she never does anything for him" and "she is just being the Grinch, he has other family". Then I heard a 6 year old nephew say "is that why no one likes her". They thought I was out of the room but I heard everything. My husband is scared of his mother and says "I am not getting involved". I heard his mother say when I went back in to say by to everyone politely "This is why we didn't pick Linda for him 22 years ago". I am outraged, horribly disappointed for a ruined Christmas, infuriated at my in-laws, very hurt, and feel bad my kids had to leave their cousins and see me have two panic attacks and ruin their holiday. We stayed through Christmas afternoon but missed dinner. I am writing to each of the in-laws when I calm down. Write now it would be too profanity laced. What do I say in my letter so not to further cause divide but not to apologize for loving my father like they probably expect. I am not writing to the nephews or niece of course, just the siblings-in-law and mother-in-law as well as husband's aunt who is like a second mother to him but called me "the *****".

He does lie a lot.

My uncle (24 years old) stay with me and my parents for a couple of weeks. I love him a lot, and the fact that he is so young makes it easier to have a healthy relationship. Yesterday, while my parents was at work, I thought I was alone in the house so I put porn, and started jacking off. Allthough my uncle was there and he caught me doing it while he bumped into my room to see if I want anything to eat, he just said sorry and closed back the door, but I heard him laugh after. He came to me later, and told me that he want us to go for a walk this weekend and have a chat with each other. I am really anxious, and I dont know how to react. Plus I am really scared of him telling about this to my dad. My dad is too much religious and I would be in big trouble if he finds out. What the hell should I do? Apologise for any grammar and vocabulary mistskes

One of my Mom's sisters LOVES to stir up drama and say negative things about others. I am still nice to this person and it bothers everyone else who hates her and CONSTANTLY talks about it. Why would they do this? I am 28 and female.

When I was a kid 11 I was in the pool with my sister who 17 and we were playing or doing some moves where you move someone in the pool up and under the water and when I was doing it to her I touched her butt like a lot while doing it to her and she didn't say or do anything

https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20110620172437AAIDVGh&page=1 I once thought is only American or some Saudi Arabia problem, i wonder what kind of parent denny their kids this basic human needs like sexual release ? But recently it happened in my country i did not give you link because it's in Polish? But i read about some devoted Catholic parents to try to put that **** on their son! But those boy called our police, and the cops go right away They so so much beaten that religious loons that they spend two weeks on ICU Your Polish Police is most brutal police force in EU, it's nothing to be proud on, but sometime it's come handy :-) Polish Police in action interrogating and beating recidivist burglar :-) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QERdpXUpmvg So they beat that parents badly as that guy in that case justifiably And that boy said that if they known how much their beat his parents for putting him in chastity he would never call for cops. I can not understand why so many victims defend their ******* torturers In Poland we call cops " "beating" heart of Polish nation" it comes still from communist time when they ware called " "beating" heart if the party" :;-)

So my grandma got home from the hospital for the holidays before her surgery. My parents are the only two people who knows how to look after her. For the past weeks, my mom and I have been cooped up in the house taking care of my grandma while my dad was off partying. When my mom get tired from cleaning trash my dad party and looking after 5 kids, she would ask my dad to help get my grandma to bed and help clean her urinary drainbag. My dad would get mad and whine about it saying he want to get back at his party. When my mom ask my dad if he could take care of my grandma for one day while she go shopping for herself he wouldn't let her and go off partying. This one time my mom went grocery shopping for 10 min and left my grandma at home alone. She strap a belt to my grandma so she wouldn't fall if the wheelchair and triple checked and ask my grandma if her seating position was comfortable and ok so she wouldn't fall off. She left the phone on the table I'm case of an emergency and notified my dad who's partying at our next door neighbor. While my mom was grocery shopping, she checked the house camera and found my grandma had fallen off the chair. She called my dad so he could help my grandma. When my mom got back, my dad yells at her saying she should've stayed at home and that she was stupid for leaving my grandma alone. Since my grandma was scared of my dad, she also blamed my mom for not strapping and checking the seat positions right. I feel bad for my mom. Any advice?

Hey, i'm 17 and I do part time baby sitter. A family with just one 12 year old girl lives about 10 mins away from me. They trust her enough to be alone for a couple hours, but last Thursday, they had to go out of state all day for an emergency trip and asked if I could watch her for the day until 7 or so, prior to leaving. I love her like my little sister; so I was happy to. Day of, I felt like going to gym afterwards, so I put on a sports/leggings gear and slipped on a T-shirt on top. I got there at 10:30 am, and we spent the day hanging out; music, tv, board games, cards, pizzas and movies etc. Last 2 hours, we were playing just dance in the living room. I got really hot and sweaty from moving around, so without thinking, I took my shirt off. I was doing pre-game stretches and she was on the sofa looking for a song. As I was stretching, she saw my belly button ring and said it looked pretty. I blushed a little and laughed it off, saying I got it when I turned 16. She said she wants to get one and I replied "maybe in a few years". She said she could convince her mom to get one now, and she also asked if she could touch mine. I was getting uncomfortable, so I asked her to put on another song. While she did so, I quickly put my shirt on top of my sports bra. Before her parents came, I told her to let me talk to her mother about what we just discussed. I have full intent on doing so; i'll explain everything to her mother and hopefully she understands. Should I be worried?

I have this sister-in-law who sometimes literally goes crazy any time my mother and I come over and pay my brother's household a visit. My sister-in-law yells at her husband, her eldest daughter, and sometimes my mother. I try to keep quiet, but she can make things unpleasant and doesn't seem to care how other people feel.

Advice on post holiday fun sadness? I'm 13, and I just met my baby cousin who lives far away. They stayed until today (dec 25) and are now flying home. They don't usually visit, and I'm really sad and miss them so much. I've spent Christmas Day crying, and can't get my mind off of it. Any advice is appriciated. Thanks

I've been wanting to spend the night out of town. She'll have an excuse. Yet, like tomorrow, she goes off on Vacations!! I WANT to care for Mom, but L needs to give me breaks! What can I do?

I'm 20 years old and have been in a long distance relationship for four years. This year, I wanted to make things special and spend New Years with my significant other, I've always spent every single holiday with my mom. I also rarely go out and socialize. All of my time is spent with my mom. I'm tired of staying at home so I made plans to spend New Year's with my significant other and my mom is freaking out about it. She's guilting me by saying that families have to spend New Years together and by saying things like "what if this is my last New Year" to be honest I'm sick of this. I ask my friends what they did for New Year's and all of them told me they spent time with their friends, like most normal 20-year-old to do. What do I tell my mom? Should I cancel my trip?

My mom and sister put up money together to get me a new tv and I appreciate it more than they know but I asked them to cancel the order and told my mom to give back my sister the money she put up and to give her the rest of the money instead of getting me a gift. I'm not trying to be rude, I just don't want my little sister spending big amounts like that on me. I would rather her go and spend it on herself. And then she started balling her eyes out becuase I wouldn't accept her gift. I tried to comfort her and tell her that I know she did it because the loves me and wants to see me happy and told her that I appreciate the thought, and that the thought is all that counts. She's 15 and Put up like $400 on the tv. She was working part time for the past 6 months just saving up for that and I just can't accept that much from her. I feel horrible about not accepting it, but I would feel horrible accepting it too. It's literally all her money. I did still give her presents and stuff but I just could take her gift because I want her to have more. Am I a bad person for this?

Everyone is losing their $hit because my brother brought his girlfriend home for Christmas to introduce to the family and she's only 19 there is over a 20 year age gap , and everyone expects him to settle down marry have kids with a woman his own age. At his age a man as great as my brother deserves to have some fun and enjoy life and deserves only the best in life for all he's gone through. He deserves to have a nice fine young beautiful sexy woman by his side not some woman his own age in their 30-40s who are used old dried up leftover hand me down old women with lots of baggage who gave the best years of their life and youth to many other men before him usually divorcee or single moms or both or women who spent their entire life riding the cock carousel sleeping around jumping around from guy to guy My Brother is 42. He is a successful M.D Family Dr who owns his own private clinic and his own house has no debt. I'm very proud of him. He's been through a lot in life and worked hard to get to where he is today. He's had a hard and rough life. He spent his entire life to chase his dream of being a Dr. He went to university straight out of high school did a bachelor in science majoring in biochem but then switched to psychology midway took him 6 years to graduate at 23, but his grades were not high enough to apply into med school or grad school so he gave up worked dead end jobs for low pay for 2 years. hen he served in the Canadian army for 3 years starting at age 25 as an officer got out at 28 then went back to school for a nursing degree for 4 years to fix his GPA graduated at 32 then worked as a registered nurse for 2 years and then went back to pursuing med school which he eventually got in at 34. dad gave him money to open his own private clinic ,a new house in Vancouver valued at over 5 million CDN paid for all his schooling and bought him a new sports car so he has no debt He finally finished med school and his residency last year at 41

My fiancé passed away in 2013. Our daughter was only two months old when he passed. I've tried to have a good relationship with my in laws so they can be close with my daughter. In the passed we did have a good relationship. Until when we went to court and won the case of my fiancé passing. My father in law was angry that my daughter ( his granddaughter) won more of the money in her trust fund. Since, my daughter won more of the money my in laws have been. Extremely distant. My daughter was diagnosed with kidney disease and I let them know all they said was that I was making a big deal out of it. Till this day they don't ask about my daughter but, when I see them in public they act like if they are grandparents of the year and kiss a@@. They don't invite my daughter over for thanksgiving nor Christmas. I saw them at the store yesterday and told them that my daughter is very curious about her father and about his family I told them that they should come over today so they can spend time with their granddaughter. They obviously never showed up. Would it be to stupid or rude of me to ask them "why wasn't my daughter invited over for Christmas ?"

I don't know why but when I hear his voice if just enrages me. He has this really bad southern accent and he only uses the present form of verbs. Instead of saying "I ate an apple" he says "I eat an apple" or instead of saying "I have already eaten" he says "I have already eat." It's super annoying but I don't want to be that guy that corrects everyone's speach. What should I do?

Whenever I try to help my mom out I don't expect any accolades. But it hurts when I do/buy things for her and she either treats it like it's nothing to she gives the credit to other people and will pretend that she 'forgot'. Yet they can do things for her and she brags about it. I'm an adult, so is it weird for me to feel hurt about it?

Okay, so one night my sister was eating some ice cream out of the tube She said she was only having "A few spoons full" The thing is she is on a low sugar diet so after 10 scoops I told her, "haha looks like more than a few" in a joking manner. I wasn't serious and I didn't mean it and right after I told her, This is a joke, and I don't mean what I said. She went ballistic, she said, "I can insult things you do too!" Keep in mind she is the thinnest and healthiest in the family so I thought she wouldn't care. I then apologized and told her it came out wrong. She didn't listen. A few minutes later I grab the ice cream to get half a cup full. I put a spoon in to get some out. She then said in a mocking tone, "That's more than a couple spoons full." I got really mad at her, I didn't mean to hurt her but she tried to hurt me. She said it's only fair you said it to me. At that point, I threw out the ice cream that I managed to get out. I have struggled with eating/weight for a while now and she knows that. That's why it hurt so much, I think I am fat and I don't like my body. So her saying that to me, hurt. My father stepped in and said for my sister to stop. She said I started this and I shouldn't have said that. I agreed with her, it was my fault. I apologized again. She said "That's right! It is your fault!" Then she and my father kept arguing. They know about how I feel about my weight that's why he was so upset. I think it just hurt because she meant to hurt me I didn't. You all make excellent points, it wasn't wise of me to make a food joke while I have food problems. I was worried about her because she takes her low sugar diet seriously and I didn't want her to waste all her hard work.

My grandmother passed away a couple of years ago, and left me, my brother, and sister all a large some of money. My dad suggested it would be a good idea for my brother, and I to buy a house, and live together. So we did. It was a terrible decision. It's been a little over a year since we moved in. My brother has terrible anger problems. When my dog gets into a little bit of trouble he freaks out and hits my dog. I get really mad when he does that, and I try to talk to him calmly about it, but he just gets mad and tells me she needs to be hit. Also, he just freaks out about little things, and I'm so sick of it. I spent a good some of my trust fund on the house, and dont have much left. I suggested we sell the house, but my brother doesnt want to do that. I was gonna move back to my moms with my sister, and fix my moms house up, and live there. Well, my mom, and sister talked, and my mom is gonna give my sister her house, and than my sister us going to sell it, so that's out of the question. I live in a very small town, and there are no pet friendly apartments. I cant stand living with my brother anymore. Its gotten so bad that I've been considering suicide to escape all of this. I tried asking him to talk to a therapist, and he refused, and said I'm just gonna have to deal with his anger. He gives off such a negative vibe, which makes me feel negative, and than he asks me why I seem so sad all the time. What should I do?

I was always shunned by them for being a foster child. I was never included as part of the family. I wanted to make a better life for myself so I went to college and now have a six figure salary. My family is jealous of my nice car, condo, Bd my money. Why are they jealous?

Promised to pay if I did jobs for him but nada. It's been 3 years... would you sue him?

Can you believe this, I told my parents I wanted a TV that was no less than 60 inches across for Christmas. INSTEAD I get this TV That was made in 1970 an I was told that TV Costed more in 1970 than a 60 inch tv would cost today. The TV doesn't even work. What would you do if you were me?