I travel lots and I called my babies after where they were conceived- Jordan, Latvia and Dominica. But my new baby is conconcieved in Turkey. Stupid baby name. What do I do? Divorce him? Abortion? Please help.

My dad and I had a good relationship up until my senior year of hs when he started trying to take control of every aspect of my life. He's constantly hounding me about school, work, and friends. I work my *** off at everything and do what I can to be successful but it's never enough for him. I already work 2 jobs but according to him I don't make enough money so he wants me to get another and I'm very dedicated to my major but apparently my gpa isn't to his liking so he wants me to switch even though I only have a year left. I feel like my stepmother (who I don't get along with) is part of why he's like this because her parents didn't help her through college so she thinks I should have to do everything on my own but she was also on.a scholarship so she didn't have to pay for anything. I'm literally balancing school, 2 jobs, a club, and a sorority but apparently I'm still not good enough. My dad is always so busy telling me to do something else with my life that he looks over my numerous accomplishments. How do I handle this?

Hey guys, hope your holidays are going well. Just looking for advice about what I should do about my family situation. We are immigrants who came here about 15 years ago. I love my father but he is is a depressed chronic alcoholic user who curses and yells at the family all the time. My brother (30 years old) was also diagnosed with mental retardation and schizophrenia. He also yells and curses and gets paranoid. Now with this mix, as you can imagine there are always fights. We tried to put my brother in home but my mother and father felt too guilty and brought him back. It's a love hate relationship my father has with my brother and when he is drunk, it gets really loud. I am 24 years old, my whole life my mother and I have been trying to maintain a balance between these two. With this, I don't know where to move towards my life. I just graduated, should (hopefully) have a good job soon. I have read in blogs to get out of toxic environments but the problem is that my family are immigrants so I can't really just get up and leave since they'll need my help and presence. I don't think I can continue to live with him for my own sanity but they won't be able to sustain as well without me either. How do you guys think I can have the ideal life with a wife and kids while also taking care of my family? P.S. I know this is long, and if you don't have an answer, I totally understand, I've been trying to figure out an answer for the past 5 years.

I was at a pool party of one of my relatives and my aunt is there. My aunt isn't blood-related to me (married into the family), and I must say she is insanely hot. She wore a 2-piece swimsuit and has big breasts/a big butt, and at one point even hugged me while she was in her swimsuit. Now I can't stop fantasizing about her...is it wrong if I masturbate while thinking about her?? I really want to and can't help it. I'm 21.

My father has verbally and physically abused me for as long as I can remember, including trying to choke me, and screaming at me multiple times, "it is all your fault!"He has also forced me to stand outside at 1 am in the middle of winter to teach me "lessons" about money. My mother continuously ignores these things, including shutting herself in her room. She says she doesn't want to deal with him, but instead forces me to deal with him. She says that I can't call any kind of police or officials, in the fear that she will lose her "financial support" and her "reputation." She also claims that she needs help to raise me and my brother, although that "help" for her to get "rest" is at the expense of my happiness and safety, along with my little brother's. I just can't deal with it anymore. My father works in another country, but every time he comes back, I feel like I can hear him shouting "it's all your fault" at me and his hands around my neck, trying to choke me, if he isn't physically doing that already. I don't have any close friends that would want to help me deal with this. Is there any way that I can carry on my "normal life" with him around?

is it a suicidal cry for help or is it just your typical hormonal, I hate evrything teen attitude?

I want to spend newyears eve on the coast and my family only has one well running vehicle at this time. I've got the money for the drive but not sure that's enough to convince my family to let me borrow their car overnight. I want to be honest but don't think that'll be enough. Any tips on convincing them?

Okay.. this is definitely something I am not proud of so... please be kind So my mother used to be very pushy. We rarely see my dad so it's just the two of us. But since i was younger I remember her not letting me do things she though risky and so, I was not allowed to play with the kids that lived in the neighbourhood if they played outside. I was only allowed to invite them home. Also, she wanted to sleep together and made me feel guilty when I said I wanted to sleep in my bedroom. Now that I've grown and she can't tell me what to do ALL the time I have started not loving her. She has stopped being so pushy at some things but now we tend to fight a lot and I have so much anger in me and I tend to yell a lot. I used to be quite and never dared to raise my voice but now i just can't stop. I just can't control it. I don't want to spend time with her. Occasionaly we talk to each other but that is on the best of days. I feel guilty for not feeling that I love her and I feel sad after I yell... I don't understand though why I feel this way and how can I control my anger towards her? thank you for your time.. *Side note: I act this way only to her... I rarely -if ever- get angry in my personal life ...I am a very calm person to the point where should someone see me when I fight with my mother they'd think I am a different person.

I m tired of being a mom and only caretaker to my 10 month old baby and my 14 year old daughter. I don t know what to do because I;ce rasied him up to now but I really fell like I m going to burst in the inside and I m becoming more angrier and frustrated by the day? Help please I m geetting the point whre im tired of looking at his face and hearing him cry.

First off, I do like kids and I'm majoring in elementary education, but I'm shy and it takes me a while to open up, so I don't think I have a "welcoming" personality. Adults are always telling me "smile more", "you look so mad all the time" "you always look sad". So I'm assuming that I must have a "resting ***** face". However, kids and babies are always looking and smiling at me, and one time I substituted for a kindergarten class, and one of the kids went up to me and said, "I like you". So I don't know what it is that makes adults see my "***** face" and not kids? I'm 20.

So, my parents have a long list of rules for me to follow, and I absolutely resent them for creating them. I am not allowed to go out, and I never have been. Because of this, I have terrible social skills. Even if I want to do an extracurricular activity, I either have to do it at home or it has to be something set up by the school. Then there are their extremely high expectations, which are impossible to meet. I got straight A's in my last report card, but I was grounded for two months because I did not have enough A+'s. Recently, I got a B on a rather difficult test that no-one did particularly well on, and they sold my computer claiming I waste too much time on it instead of studying. As far as Internet and television goes, I am only allowed a combined total of 30 minutes a day between 8 and 8:30 PM and that too has to be supervised. I am not allowed to watch anything rated PG, regardless of the fact that I am 17. They have these restrictions set up on the WiFi where entire categories are blocked, including all lifestyle and news websites. I can't even read the BBC. I have figured out how to bypass these controls, but I'm terrified of what they'll do if they find out. I have a bedtime of 8:30 PM, even during holidays and weekends. I also have to burn 800 calories daily on a treadmill and show them, otherwise they don't let me have dinner, which is usually just a bowl of grass, only for me. Anyways, I apologise for the long post. Any help will be appreciated. Thank you. Unfortunately, it's not as simple as just moving out at 18. I'm living in this country as an expat listed as a dependant on my parents' visa, so I am not allowed to get a job without their permission, even when I'm 18. Emancipation would mean that I will be deported to my home country immediately, which I don't want to return to.

I am not sure how I should feel about what my 16 year old sister Ann is doing. I am her 20 year old brother. I really like her and I am VERY protective of her. She has developed into a very beautiful woman. She is mature far beyond her age. She knows how guys think probably from being around me and my brothers. When my buddies come over to my house to hang out, they just love it when she talks and jokes around with them. I also know how guys think and I have told them repeatedly she is not flirting with them. She is just an outgoing and fun loving person that is totally at ease with guys. She wants to be their buddy, not their girlfriend. Can guys my age accept her as a friend and buddy and not as a potential girlfriend. Please tell me what you think.

When it comes to POA, who controls the finance, and healthcare decisions, is it best to start with an attorney? That's what I think, I believe the parents have some kind of will.

I just got back from college for break, and I got a pretty bad cold recently, and usually whenever I get sick the first thing my mom does is blame me for whatever reason she can conjure up, so I don't like telling her I'm sick too often, but this cold got pretty bad so it was obvious. Now, several days have passed, the cold is dying down, but I've had an ongoing migraine that my parents are aware of, and I told my mom that I still have said migraine after she asked how I was feeling, and she seemed incredibly annoyed, as if she is the one who has to deal with it. She tends to get annoyed with me whenever I'm nearing the end of any illness. Is that normal? I don't think so because my dad doesn't react that way when I tell him I have various health issues.

I have this annoying negative father that comes home, and just starts talking down to me, he disowns me, and starts picking at me and starts spewing negative energy and comments towards me. Tonight he came in my room and started throwing my belongings of the table and started kicking my bed. Not to mention my dad is a money hungry person, and I found out he has had encounters with prostitutes, and it's gross even though it's not my business. He's so cringe and just annoying. He co owns a restaurant with his friend and always complains how he's barely making money. Don't get me wrong I have to pay rent monthly. Recently I lost my job due to petty management and he's been so mean to me since I haven't had a job since it's been hard during the holidays. I would want a job If I can get hired ASAP but I'm done at this childish behavior of his. It's nasty and embarrassing. He's always like when are you getting money from FAFSA. Are that desperate for rent money? He's not supportive whatsoever.

Both my parents are sadly divorce, my dad and stepmom have been together for a while now and they love each other very much. Let me say that my stepmom is a very nice person and treats me like own son everyday, but my Mom never really liked her at all. I think my Moms Hate againsts my Stepmom is out of Jealousy and she is always talking bad about her behind her back by using bad swear words. Not too long ago that my Mom's second boyfriend dumped her which made her feel very bitter and causeing Mom to emotionally eat to make herself feel better about herself which is making her gain weight. My Stepmom is very aware that my Mom doesn't like her and one day my Stepmom opened up and told me this, No matter what bad thing she saids about me I would never ever talk bad about your Mom all I care about everyday is making you happy because your my Stepson, and i care for you with all my heart. When she told me that I felt very good and was surprised how My Stepmom handle the situation and her feelings maturity by not stooping to her level by saying anything bad about My Moms behavior. What's your opinions and is there anything I can do to help?

Apparently i heard they stole her $30 rumchata (idk if i spelt that right i do not drink) drink and drank most of it including some of her fireball. They drank some of the coquito my fiancé made with his dad for my mom without my moms permission. They know right from wrong they are 22 and 19 years old. My sister also didnt get mom a christmas gift and she told my mom it didnt arrive in the mail yet. My mom claims she never got one because she heard that excuse before.( My sister complains to me she has $0 and no job the 22 yr old) When that happened to me last year 2017 I made sure I had other gifts to give her and gave her the other gift when it arrived. I do not understand. My mom had to take things to her bedroom and LOCK her bedroom because my aistets cannot be trusted. My moms so mad shes thinking of not giving birthday gifts for being ungrateful. My sister also got mad i was at my dads house yesterday because she probably came over to smoke her weed but she spoke to me for 5 minutes then took off and left. She said she had laundry to do but brought nothing over so I know it was to smoke weed and my dad doesnt approve of that. I know they are adults but its not your house so respect it. How do i get them to stop being a$$holes to my mom and dad and respect them more?

Grandma asked me what should she buy my daughter I told her school related stuff since shes 4 and getting ready for kindergarten. We already have tablets at home (I had to hid) and communication line with grandma have never been restricted. She came home with tablet and downloaded apps that allowed them to communicate without me knowing or going via me. Now today I got a message from grandma saying she has been trying to reach my daughter but no answer. It finally hit me that my permission was never ask prior to getting her tablet. I'm not comfortable with my child with tablet simply because of course she will be on the tablet when shes not supposed to. I'm not always near to watch what they are watching online. I'm not trying to be mean or keep them apart I just felt disrespected that grandma took it upon herself to give my child technology without my consent. My ex husband wanted to give my daughter a phone and he asked me first and understands that an 8 year old that's not doing too well in school have no business with a cellphone. Am I overeacting?!!

Im 24 and live on my own. My mother keeps showing up at my house banging on my door telling me to open the door and remove my gf and break up with her. I have told to leave many times which she ends up doing. However this time it got really stupid. My mother called and said if I was busy and I said yes, she asked me are you having sex with her and I said im not answering that for you. Next thing I know she showed up at my house banging on my door. I opened the window and told her what does she want and she screams like a little child "I told you, you were not allowed to have sex, why are you not following my rules" I told her that this was my home. My gf and I eventually got her to leave.

So im 23 female and my wife is 25. Back in April she went away for bootcamp and AIT. She just got her duty station in ky and im going tomorrow to be with her. I live in nyc and my mom gave me her apartment in spanish harlem which im keeping. I have a job working for a game company as a 3d artist intern which they have allowed me to be remote but they asked if i could show up for a week every 2 months or so and i said yes. My wife keeps saying how i wont let ny go and id rather leave her for a job or my friends or my mom which isnt true. my job is there and id love to visit my mom every so often cause shes up there in age and see my friends during that week. She says that im selfish and a terrible wife and i only think about my fam and my job and never of her. My moms 60th bday is coning up in march and i said i wanted to visit. She got mad at me because her grandmas bday is on the 30th and i said i can go to both of those. She said for me to stay in nyc cause thats the only thing i care about and said im a selfish *****. My wife deployes in april and said i cant wait to visit my mom until after she leaves for kuwait is selfish of me. I also started an etsy 3d printing jewelry business and i got an offer to get a free table with a brooklyn based company for their pop up shop cause they really like my jewelry. The company is very popular and known and i turned it down cause my wife got upset cause id have to go to ny for a few days in February. What am i doing wrong?

My name is Charly Dat Duc Lai and my dad yells at me a lot, especially if I didn't do anything wrong. What the point that when I have to use the bathroom at a different schedule, I still get yelled at, even he knows that I really have to use the bathroom at nighttime. I just got yelled at again for walking out of my room and rushing to the bathroom, I told him that I got to use the toilet, he still continued to shout at me like that. There were times that we nearly got into fights and he was yelling really loud. Doesn't he know that everyone needs to go to the bathroom at a very different schedule? But he still does that! This is why I thought about moving out of his home and find myself a new home and yes he does get really abusive. Even my dad also has to use the bathroom at a different schedule too, not just only me, everyone does! He even threatened to kick me out of his home or even abandon me. Even if he kicks me out, that's it, I am moving to a new home! He thinks that abuse is discipline, but it is not! He claimed that he yells loudly at me because he loves me! But how is that love?! How is it discipline? How is abuse discipline? There were times that he would even hit me with a broom too. But right now I am a 24 year old male, still living with a narcissist who only cares about watching videos on TV and doesn't even care about supporting me. Even at nighttime when I need to use the bathroom, he shouts at me really loudly.

I'm 22 I live in Chicago. I absolutely hate my life and nearly everything in it. I feel like I am trapped in a box that prevents me from ever being happy. The reason is because of many reasons. Firstly, I have no parents to support me. Many times I wish I had a mom and dad who were wealthy and instilled great values into me. Were there to guide me and be my support system to lean on. But unfortunately I don't have wealthy parents. In fact we were always poor. My father is dead and my mother is almost like a vegetable because she can't walk on her own at all and doesn't understand what is going on most of the time. I have no sisters or brothers so I have always taken care of my mother by myself without any help. For a few years I let my family take care of my mother but she would call me crying saying they were abusing her so after I finished high school I took over. Living with her has been hell. She is very rude and acts like a bad child that doesn't listen. She is very selfish in the way she acts entitled to my presence and attention at all times. We are still poor and I been forced to work to take care of our apartment and manage the little income she gets. Because of my mother I am hardly able to work or leave the house or go here fun with friends. My dating life has been affected by this too. Men notice I am vulnerable and as a result, this guy I have been dating on and off again lives with us now.

I don't really know if it's a mental disorder but all my life, I've always thought my mom has some issues. The first thing I remember was my parents' extremely unstable marriage. Every single year with no doubt, my parents will have a huge, and I mean HUGE argument and it alwaysd seems to happen around their anniversary. I remember me and my older brother would be terrifed and always stayed in our rooms as the argument usually goes on for days. But what made me think with absolute certainty that my mom is the problem is that everytime she screams like crazy, broke things and threatened to commit suicide and ran to the balcony. When my dad goes to work during this annual argument, she always Tells me and my brother with teary crazy eyes that she has done her best to raise us and my dad is a no good man and keeps on insulting him, then she would start to rant about how his family is **** and warned us to never see them and stuff. One time it was so bad my mom just disappoints for days without a word and came back like nothing happened, my brother, dad and I still have no idea where she went. Honestly as an 8-10 year old, it was traumatic, especially during night (like 1-2 am), she would suddenly appear in my room and start ranting about how bad my dad and his family is and stuff. She also had really bad mood swings all the time. The arguments have stopped for now but I'm still not sure if my mom has an actual mental illness or not.

serious answers only, i don't have the time for trolls. i have been having problems with my bladder for years, peeing every 5 minutes, i'm not even joking. it's so frustrating, numerous doctors, tests run on me, everything under the sun and still no one can figure out WHAT IS WRONG. my back always hurts, and my pelvic area kills me during sex. i have worked outside of the home before and got fired TWICE because of going to the bathroom every 5 minutes, sometimes it will be little droplets when i go, sometimes it'll be a LOT. my pee is always inconsistent. This problem started when i was a freshman in college and extended all the way until my senior year, i just graduated a few months ago with a bachelors in communications and this is STILL an ongoing problem. I'm making an appointment for a urologist soon, i've been to the hospitals and doctors and they act like they cant figure out the problem. i'm tired of being in pain. I can't even enjoy my life because of this bladder problem. I can't ride in the car for long periods of time, i have to be around or near a bathroom all of the time. it's like, as soon as i leave the bathroom i have to pee again. anyways, i figured out a solution to this problem would be to work at home so i can go to the bathroom as much as i need to and also would be fulfilling my passions at the same time. My ultimate dream is to work at a fashion magazine like cosmo or glamour in NYC. We don't have any magazines in my small town so i planned to move, so since i've got fired from my outside of the home job i've been jotting ideas down in a notebook that i could use for starting an online magazine, my boyfriend said he would help me fund my buisness as well and he would be there every step of the way, he said he believed in me. i know it's going to be hard and it's pretty risky but this is my passion, it's what i love to do. My mom is mad and wants me to get an outside of the home job, and i would but this bladder problem is interfering have clients whose makeup i do at my house, i get a couple of hundreds dollars a week depending on how many clients. my mom doesn't see fashion/makeup as a real job but this is my passion. I've worked lots of jobs she wanted me to work and was miserable. Now i really don't have a choice but to work at home since i have bladder problem

So on Christmas, we had a family party. It was the first year that we had one at our house, but we always attend them at my sisters place or my dads, and there is always alcohol, and my daughter does not drink. She is 15, and a very good kid. She stays home and watches movies with her dad and I, has amazing marks and is at the gym every day. On Christmas, I had a few drinks ( I rarely do and was not drunk) ariund 9:30pm my nephew came to me telling me nobody could find my daughter and nobody had seen her for around an hour. I looked in every room, and she was nowhere to be found. Then I discovered the bathroom door was locked. I pounded and pounded but there was no response. My husband picked the lock and we got in, to find my daughter lying on the floor unconscious covered in vomit. We called the an ambulance, I was a complete wreck, my mom had to drive down from 2 hours away, it was awful. My daughter had hypothermia, low blood pressure, a low heart rate... she nearly died. She woke up at 6:30 the next morning with no memory of the night before after she took the first shots of STRAIGHT RUM. I don't even drink straight rum!!! She is 110lbs at 5'2! Anyway, my husband and I have not punished her, we don't agree on how to go about it. My husband doesn't think we should do anything since she has been so apologetic and is such a good kid, as well as the scare she must've gotten... but I think something needs to be done! What are your opinions?

I've been asking my parents to get me a nutritionist since I was literally 13! I'm 16 now, 5'9 and I weigh 102 pounds (currently but it drops). I'm SO ******* THIN AND UNHEALTHY I HATE IT! My parents are pretty toxic, especially my dad and he NEVER listens to me! My parents don't buy food AT ALL and my Dad is a SLOB AND it makes me want to throw up.My past doctors urged my parents to see a therapist and nutritionist but my ill dad denied them all. My dad for some reason thinks doctors are evil and that we shouldn't go to them. It's funny because they always negatively comment on my weight and say I look abnormal but when I try to ask them to simply BUY FOOD OR TAKE ME TO A DOCTOR they DON'T! My crazy dad canceled my doctor so now I need to look for both a doctor and a nutritionist but I HAVE NO CLUE HOW TO DO THAT! I'm literally dying and I have so much problems both physically and mentally. My parents make me feel like i'm not capable of anything. Everything in life gets worse and worse it feels like someone cursed me. I have like the worse social anxiety so is there other ways of contacting a nutritionist too? I wish I could send myself to a hospital, they would treat me better than my family im sure...but i don't have a eating disorder!!!!

There is a man I'm seeing. He is 34. He has never left home except to live with his baby mama when she gave birth to their 2 kids. He is broke because his wages were garnished by IRS for back taxes due to tax fraud. He has a decent paying city job but is living with his dad. He was living with his mom but moved to his father's house. His father just retired as well a few months back. His mother was doing his laundry, feeds him whenever and whatever he likes, makes his bed for him and would call his phone constantly. He would also spend a lot of unnecessary time with family. He has a codependent relationship with his family. He depends on them to take care of his kids, buy them what they need and feed them, house them. He has no home of his own to put his kids and his baby mama receives welfare like wic and food stamps to take care of their kids. Would you consider dating him? His bedroom in his mom's house was his childhood bedroom and he slept on a bunk bed with his younger brother who is 29. He has an older 36 year old brother who has his own place and thinks he needs to get it together. His father and mother (divorced) do everything for him. Is he a good prospect?

My sister is carrying a baby for me and my boyfriend since we're both guys neither one of us can't get pregnant. Is that wrong ?

I just recently found out that my father had cheated on my mom on several occasion, and has led a double life for 8 years. My mom is absolutely devestated, and I on the other hand, have no idea how to react. I am obviously sad, disappointed, and feeling as if I'm worthless. How should I react? How do I handle the situation? I am 15 yrs old, have a younger sibling who is 14 yrs old. Please help...

How?

My car was in my moms name. I was buying it from her and have paid her over $2000 since I've had it. We got into it and she came to my house and asked for the key. I'm not a child I'm in my late twenties. What do I do? Do I ask her for part of the money back or what? I've had the car for over 2 years.

She has already broken 2 kitchen chairs and a recliner over the last year. She is 5'9 220 so not fat or anything. She is horrible on the chairs when she sits on them. Both kitchen chairs were broken from her leaning and rocking back on the legs till the chair collapsed. She literally snapped 3 springs in a recliner we already had over time from sitting down to hard till the cushion finally caved in. My dad took the recliner out of my room a couple weeks ago so she could sit in it which was my moms chair. What makes me mad is she makes comments like "This chair is gonna wind up in the dumpster to". Earlier I saw her from my room plop down in it and heard a super loud crack and saw the chair collapse a little to one side. I was so mad I didn't even want to go look. She walked out of the room and I took pic of the chair. I could hear her telling my dad that its still ok for her to sit on, its not broke. I think it could be fixed, but shes sitting in it now with her feet up. I can hear the chair cracking and poping with my door shut while she laughs every time it does it .... Not sure it can be fixed if she breaks it anymore.....

It seems like every time someone in his family calls him or any time his family are here, he tries to make me look bad, like I'm doing something bad to him. I walked in the kitchen and asked him something a couple weeks ago, and he starts yelling, and tells his mom, he has to hang up because I am supposedly doing something. I wasn't doing anything. What is he up to?

My parents were strict when I was a kid. No boys, no hanging out with anyone, no talking with anyone to avoid influences, no watching tv with offensive or influential hints. Nothing. I'm 34 now, I've been separated from a 15 year marriage for 4 months now, and yet she is still making me feel like I am not cable of making wise and effective decisions on my own. I asked her to watch my two kids from 6pm-10 pm to attend my work Christmas party. She said I could stay out until 9. Or not go. Her reason for me not going is that I'm Hispanic, that I don't need time for myself, the event is not a big deal, and my kids ALWAYS come first. (My kids DO come first, which is why I asked my most reliable source to watch them!!!!) I know, she's from a different generation. I feel my age should be a given factor of how cautious she needs to be with things she throws in my face and be respectful. If she can't watch them then just say no, instead of making me feel like I'm a sh*tty parent for even THINKING of myself for once!!!! PS: My kids' dad is rarely in the picture so I'm with them basically 24/7. Just saying.

My brother was sick very recently and now my mom is getting it and I think I am too. It's just a cold. The mom is a first time mom and very particular about everything and I don't think she would want me to babysit. The baby is 5 weeks old. It's not a big deal if I'm unable to go since we weren't completely sure if I could come anyway and she just needs someone every now and then to watch him at night so that she can sleep. She should I let her know that I might be getting sick? The way I feel right now, I would go, but it's from 11pm-6am so it might get worse while I'm there.

my youngest son seems to have no social life. Never makes or recives calls. No freinds over here and never goes anywhere. I try to encourage him to go to school dances or ask a friend to the movies NO LUCK all he wants to do is sit in his room alone and play ps4. I dont know what to do does he not need to be social. He never even talks about friends at school and i dont even know if he even has any. he has a 15yo brother who is always doing something with friends, concerts, parties and movies etc. he wont take him along as they are complete opposites.